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[@TheCottageFairy]

Sending a big hug to all of you this week 🤗 chasing dreams has taught me a lot ❤️ perhaps the most important is that nothing will resolve my relationship with myself but patience and commitment to developing that inner foundation of self-worth that is stable and strong. So achieving something is never really a failure, though I thought it worthwhile to look into how I didn’t get what I thought I would out of my dreams. An interesting topic to discuss, I think! At least to me, I appreciate your insights as well! Much love ❤️ now I pursue much more reasonable ‘gentle’ dreams, which is to just do my best today. Btw, I hope to have Luke in a video soon so you can officially meet him! Soon, I hope!

[@deeb8733]

Yet another beautiful video!! Can you share the link for your bird decals shown?

[@brittanyogle471]

I wish I could have the simple life you have I just don't know where to start. My husband about achieving as much as possible make as much as possible. I just want a simple and happy life.

[@a.wilcox5690]

I do appreciate your sharing your journey towards greater self-worth and self-love. So important. Wish I knew what you know now when I got married in 1985. My marriage failed 32 years later, partly, not wholly, due to my lack of self-love. Now, in my 60’s, I, like you, have been cultivating self-value. My connection to nature, as you have found, is part of my journey. So I do like watching your videos.

[@keiraLeeYuna]

❤ Meu sonho é ter simplicidade de vida. Admiro você Paola 🇧🇷

[@unaisaumar1764]

I wold dearly love that

[@keepitonthesunnyside]

She is living a life, or portraying a life, from a kinder, gentler time, which is why we are all so transfixed with this channel. She seems as if she, herself, is from another era. I love watching her videos. This is FREE mental health therapy! My mind relaxes and my heart slows down as I take in all the beauty she offers!

[@sandrakagwiria2231]

Totally agree, she's from another era. I love it

[@carolynrae1845]

My sentiments exactly ABC123 ...watching Paola is my 'me' time & time out. It is indeed a very grounding experience to share some almost private time with such a gentle & like minded soul. Thank you Paola, thank you to the Cottage Fairy also.

[@melaniethigpen6534]

Yes! I’ve been watching her for a long time and I’ve seen her channel grow to almost 1,000,000. Her channel brought a peace that I’ve been needing to know in my own little corner. It was a gentle, truthful, beautiful, organic lifestyle of creativity and everything else that made me subscribe. She is living life and not allowing life to live her. That’s how I’ve been feeling for years. I’m not really living in my life while LIFE continues to live me day by day. This channel is free therapy and reminds me that there’s still this type of experience in the world. 🙏🏽💜⚡️🔥🌺🥰😭😌😌😌

[@donnadixie5746]

Could not agree with you more. It's so heart warming. Would really like to experience life like that to hope one day get inner peace with myself.

[@carolmorris5753]

@@seldakaya0414 dang - you sure are a “Debbie Downer” and need to find something to be grateful for! The “era” I believe others are relating to is one of simple pleasures, wonders at nature in all it’s beauty, the enjoyment of a good book, baking beautiful cookies with great care to give as gifts to others. Paola has made her life peaceful and doesn’t subscribe to today’s notion of more, more, more is better, better, better. Living a sustainable, low-cost life which is spent making herbs and teas from what she gathers outside. Paola looks at the GOOD in this world, which is not perfect, never has been and never will be. “Times, They Are A-Changin”, written and sung by Bob Dylan in 1964 are as relevant today, and will continue to be years from now.

[@princessanthony7538]

I’m only 17 years old but you convince me everyday to pursue a quiet, magical life ♡

[@harmony3395]

Brilliant. Very wise words for a 17 year old. Live - every day of your life. 💫🕊🧚🏽‍♀️

[@lisalynch629]

You’ll need a lot of money

[@lesleyhogg2495]

For a 17 year old you clearly are self aware. You go forward. xx

[@lesleyhogg2495]

@@lisalynch629 That is true

[@acustomer7216]

Don't get anxious about $$ now. You do need quite a bit to reserve space at today's consumer 'look at me' table. Research -- theres lots of ways to live this way

[@DanielCPhillips]

There is something really comforting and escapist, for a traditional guy living in a fast paced 21st century city, to know that there is still a little part of the world that is feminine, gentle, humble, and is often wise, born of reflection on experience. That sees the beauty in the smallest of details - that actually mean a lot. That is living in a way that is in alignment with, and appreciative of nature, plants and animals, and values the arts, crafts and skills of yesteryear. You have no idea how valuable and rare all of these qualities, skills, beliefs and ways of life are. Or how much you brighten the days of others, by just sharing your daily life! Thank you for being a virtual oasis, that allows others to experience things just for a few minutes, that you don't realise how much you value, until they are not there! Greetings and best wishes from Sydney, Australia! :-D

[@sannelelie4206]

You sir have worded this so eloquently, wisely and wonderfully.

[@janefaceinthewind6260]

This was beautiful and touched me deeply.

[@cherylmcmillan984]

Daniel, you are a poet!

[@s.a3099]

Couldn’t agree more! Beautiful words ❤️

[@yogawithleeatwell3609]

Thank you for your thoughtful sharing.

[@blackthornsloe8049]

🦋🌱 It's taken me fifty two years to fully release the gnawing fear that I will never be enough . I have looked that monster in the eye , surrendered to the biggest fear , pulled into myself and begun to live a small life full of plants , walks , books ,paints and canvases . I've put a serious moratorium on ambition and self criticism . After two years something good has begun to happen . I'm truly happy to wake up in the morning . 🦋🌱

[@carolmorris5753]

Paola, as a fellow introvert, I can only say that you’re living the dream right now. Yes, sometimes I hate that I’m not bold and sociable, but, then a good book, cup of tea and my own company reminds me how much I LOVE my introversion. You’ve created such a wonderful life, full of creativity, art, solitude, and to share it with us is both an honor and joy. Thank you so much for sharing yourself with us 🥰

[@aseretanya]

ahhhh yes. I love my introversion!!!!

[@nancydroge7682]

“… and to share it with us is both an honor and joy. Thank you so much for sharing yourself with us… “ Carol, thank YOU for taking time to share this genuinely important sentiment! I too, consider it great honor & joy that Paola shares what she shares with us! And, I cannot help but imagine everything (all of the inner workings) that it takes for her to do this! Thank YOU for thanking Paola! My response to your message is, ‘Ditto!’ 💞

[@vintagebeliever5023]

💞

[@vivsalittlebitcrafty4854]

Carol, I couldn't have put it better myself!! I am all for peace and quiet, and all that comes with living a much slower pace of life.

[@Sinderelleelostmyglasslipper66]

Ditto Carol 💖

[@jazfarm5726]

“I am not here to achieve great things.” Words more should give themselves permission to live buy.

[@lolgriffin3243]

Maybe we can determine for ourselves what great things are.

[@erikagoetzinger8169]

Or perhaps the truly great things are sweetly in the present. Not the past. Not the future. Thank you for the beautiful Great Thing you are giving us through your life’s narrative.

[@pelicant6497]

As much as I love to look at the great things that are happening and will happen (such as in space travel), I think it's such a shame that so many of us grow up with this notion that you absolutely have to set a goal the size of a mountain, only for most to be disappointed. You hear doctor, engineer, lawyer, astronaut, but how many of the kids that day these things become these things? Sure, for some people it comes down to issues with themselves, while for so many others it's the realisation of toiling and toiling and not getting there. And if you don't get there, you're not happy? We have cultivated this exorbitant need for a big purpose, when happiness is, in my opinion, obtained from the gratitude you have for life, and appreciation for the 'little things'.

[@simpleextrovert]

I’m just repeating for the new comers. Paola has decided to give us a very good experience with her videos by not adding ads to the middle of her videos. Just at the beginning and ending. I’m so moved by this act of selflessness. As such, I’ve decided to ensure that I watch the ads so she gains the revenue. After that long epistle 😂 I’m just saying, you can do the same too. All the best!

[@nancydroge7682]

Simple Extrovert, Thank you for sharing this! I too, will watch the ads at beginning & ending!

[@poorthing]

Ok....I will too.

[@ericachacon8337]

Having grown up with messaging that went something like 'unless you leave a lasting legacy on the world, your life will have been wasted,' your message in this video really resonates w/ how I'm feeling lately. I too, have been blessed with the ability to move to a rural area, & enjoy quiet, introverted pursuits such as making art, learning about regenerative agriculture, etc. It has taken over 40yrs for me to learn that a life spent in quiet reflection isn't a waste at all, if it makes me happy. 😊

[@insomniaccinderella9416]

I pray that i can move to a countryside soon

[@hanaeyoshida5163]

your story is beautiful❤

[@NormieNeko]

The main lasting legacy is expanding the family line. 99% of people will not have any other kind of lasting legacy. Few make popular history through their art, music, philosophy, beauty, innovation, heroism, selflessness, vices, and evil. But if procreation isn't an option, then it's okay. Life can be peaceful alone, sometimes. Most people waste away hustling and burning their hopes and passions to the ground for wealth and attention. That's more of a prison than living a simple, natural life.

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

A friend also asked me this; "Do you regret buying your property in the country and living there, now that you have had to leave?" I found myself saying this. No, I do not regret having made the big change, having homesteaded, renovated a house and built a business etc. It was my dream, and I made my dream come true. How many people can say that?

[@KatinkaPonders]

That is so true! I am also at that point where I am reassessing the path that I chose .

[@janet-Spirit_of_the_Living_God]

We just moved from our 5 acres to 1/2 acre in a totally different climate after 21 years of living our dream. Now we're living a new dream. It's all good, and yes, it challenges us to make these changes, but change brings growth and faith and hope.

[@sylviayvette]

The cat is doing a fantastic job at trying to help great video

[@SKA-vi4oz]

Hi Sylvia, bet you don’t know tabby cats have an {m} on their foreheads…

[@juliamahjoub8797]

What a wonderful cat trying to touch everything around . It's really curious😊😊

[@christinaslocum8761]

I’m in tears, as you have spoke to what’s happening in life right now. I’m 65 and gray, and an apartment neighbor has attacked me verbally several times and threatened my dog and myself. Her words and assumptions were beyond cruel. I had the office intervene, but she held back for a few days. Now she’s yelling out to me from across the property, spying on me, and has several children kicking the doors of my 71 year old neighbor who lives downstairs. The police took a report, but that’s it. It’s very uncomfortable and disheartening to not want to go out your front door. Your vlog helped with my situation. Thanks.

[@lorraine8306]

I am sorry you are dealing with such a happiness vampire. Please remember your joy if you can not move away from the place and see the bully for the sad, unhappy person that they are. Keep your joy and treat yourself to a beautiful tea or meal setting with candles or other little inspirations. Your time is as valuable as your soul. Much love to you 💛 💙 💕

[@ginger1549]

A bully can only bully you if you let them. Believe me I grew up the youngest in a family of boys. I'd cry to my Mom and she'd always say why don't you just tell them to buzz off? Don't play with them when they are acting like that. Come & be inside with me. So I pretty soon figured out that when you stand up to bullies or just ignore them - they become powerless.Let her yell out the window all day- words can't hurt you.

[@jjennings6161]

Send little notes of love and friendship to your sad, hateful neighbor wishing them peace and contentment. See if there might be a change in them. ❤️

[@suziecreamcheese211]

Make sure you get her on film. Hopefully you have a cell phone.

[@acerrubrum5749]

A restaining order... document behavior, gather police reports, witnesses, then you and your neighbor take action.

[@her.wanderings]

"I am here to simply be" - What a wonderful line. Thank you.

[@angelesmilan8203]

🙏💜🤗

[@Dana-mb1hd]

It’s a beautiful morning when the cottage fairy uploads!💜🙏

[@sandyvanderlinde237]

Dana, do you also get that pleasant feeling, watching each episode places one in your own fantasy world. That lovely world in which Poala lives. When it ends....aaawh. Back to reality. So what do I do, watch another one. Hee Hee.

[@Dana-mb1hd]

@@sandyvanderlinde237 yes!!!! I hope you have a beautiful day and enjoy the little moments today!💜🙏💜🙏💜🙏💜🙏

[@sandyvanderlinde237]

@@Dana-mb1hd Thank you and may you also enjoy the little moments forever.

[@KatinkaPonders]

Yes!😊

[@KatinkaPonders]

@@sandyvanderlinde237 I know! But sometimes I do not watch it, until I have time to sit down and savoir it! Almost like good Chocolate.

[@tylerdelgregg7879]

I am an old man of 66; you inspire me and my wife. Perhaps, I should have done as you have, all those years ago. You are wonderful.

[@bonesonstones1]

I'm usually not a sappy person, but I think you changed my life today. I've been struggling so hard with doubts about the choices I've made, and being worthy just by BEING. Yours words hit me like a ton of bricks. They make a difference, I wanted you to know that.

[@tr9066]

The scenes with the kitten are incredibly charming. I can’t get enough of her!! 💕💕

[@angelesmilan8203]

🙏😻💜

[@nancydroge7682]

DITTO!!!

[@shirleycirio6897]

She is a most adorable and curious kitten. :)

[@lisadiconti]

I can't find the kitten. ???

[@Raelunil]

All the clips of baby kitten bring me immense joy ❤️😻

[@angelesmilan8203]

Y a mi😻😻😻

[@nancydroge7682]

DITTO!!! 💞

[@jeromeburdine966]

Awww, the little baby sticking his paw in the water, sooo cute!!!

[@WomanTakenBytheWind]

I’m pretty sure I just failed a class for the first time in my life. I am going through my third round with a deadly disease that ruined my short term memory and body and mind, and I was sitting here beating myself up over failing while battling this ugly disease. Sitting here on my bed crying because I feel worthless even though I know it isn’t my fault. I needed this today, truly.

[@rosenjoroge9373]

What's the name of that disease ? So sorry. I hope you heal soonest.

[@jjennings6161]

I would encourage you to write a list of all your wonderful traits. You will probably find more than you think and you can read over and over what a special person you are. Dig deep and you will find more than the basic kind, caring, etc. and when negative thoughts interfere, use your list… you will find all your good overshadows that negatively from the bullying. Next? Feel sad for the bullies. They are the losers. It’s their loss. You are rising above their cruelty, even now. Bless you. ❤️❤️❤️

[@rdb4996]

You are brave in battling this disease. You are strong in not having failed a class so far while battling this disease. Be kind to yourself and take a moment of rest ❤️

[@WomanTakenBytheWind]

@@rosenjoroge9373 i have Cushing’s syndrome, a disease that destroys your entire body and affects every system the pituitary gland regulates (all of them basically). Many doctors don’t know that it also causes severe memory loss. There are days I can’t remember if I took my meds 2 min before, it’s terrifying. Thank you for your kind words, everyone.

[@rosenjoroge9373]

@@WomanTakenBytheWind So sorry. Hope the meds helps improve the condition. I also have had poor memory over the years but have not consulted a doctor. Maybe i should. I know how devastating it is to keep forgetting things. We pray for God's healing. Thanks for sharing.

[@desertrose128]

Dear Paola, your dreams certainly did not fail you,rather they were the compass that directed you to arrive at such a profound realization, that you are worthy because you are a creation of the divine as we all are. I so needed this reminder today,as someone who is bullied myself. Never change, you are so deeply treasured.

[@TheMagickalMedium]

Beautifully put and well said 🙏🏻💕✌❣❣

[@angelesmilan8203]

🙏💜

[@lindafrazier8799]

What a lovely sentiment! Thank you for putting that out there for many of us to read!

[@nancydroge7682]

“… profound realization that you are worthy because you are a creation of the divine as we all are… you are so deeply treasured.” After reading this, I literally said, “Amen” out loud! (Not my norm to do this!) Denyse, my grateful heart is thanking your wise & beautiful soul for sharing this amazing truth!

[@desertrose128]

@@nancydroge7682 I am so humbled by our connectedness as loving beings of light.

[@kaitlinmeadows6273]

After years of exhaustively caring for others as a mother, friend, hospice nurse, etc. a wise friend said to me “what your are doing to yourself is self abuse and only you can heal that.” Turned me toward a new path that you are helping me embrace with joy!

[@ritar9526]

Thank you! That quote speaks to me, and I have already shared with friends.

[@janetlarue1231]

#word and powerful!

[@charlottebelieves285]

That is a wise friend indeed. And friends are so precious. Lucky you.

[@churchofpos2279]

Ask as a fellow RN, now retired, take care of yourself. I quit my job, moved 2500 miles to a low cost state, and refused to listen to the naysayers. I now own a cute little cottage in the country I don't know a soul here, financially it requires a significant lifestyle change, and I couldn't be happier

[@infiniteinfinity9802]

I left my hospice nursing job, moved out of the city to a quiet state and ten years later, I read the Bible which totally transformed my life with the realization that we are love and are to love ourselves and all others as ourselves. I could have read it in the city but was so busy and so much mental noise. Nature provides incredible healing. It doesn’t have to be the Bible that teaches you love, it could be a garden, but the mind needs to slow down in order for the heart to grow.

[@ritaking8827]

I’m my husband’s caregiver, and your videos are always a gentle tap on the shoulder for me to take that time I need for self care. Without those lovely time outs I feel like I disappear as a person. So thank you so much.

[@nancydroge7682]

Rita, ~Cheering for you here in Michigan! Enjoy a cup of tea! 🫖☕️ So much respect & appreciation for what you are doing! You are in my prayers! 💞

[@chaznonya4]

For over 40 years I wanted to live this life. I finally got my cabin. Your videos give me such a sense of path. I finally feel home.

[@dakotaovdan]

Its NEVER too late to rewrite your story 💕

[@courtneyawalsh]

Perfect comment.

[@angelesmilan8203]

🙏💜

[@nancydroge7682]

Dakota, Thank you for your comment! My soul longs for God to author my story! ❤️

[@lindafisher8441]

I always wanted to fly just under the radar...helps me not seek outside approval and gives me inner peace, which is priceless.

[@courtneyawalsh]

Very wise.

[@gail7998]

So true

[@innerpeaceimaginations6942]

Inner Peace is quite helpful for any journey in life. 🏞 Greatful to read how it has helped you. 🌱🌿🌲

[@esterhudson5104]

I hear ya.👍

[@angelesmilan8203]

Totalmente de acuerdo la paz interna es lo más importante 🙏💜

[@saraofisla]

"a person doesn’t need to achieve anything to be extraordinary" your videos are unbelievably aesthetic, thoughtful and calming. exactly what i needed today. thank you for sharing💛

[@OnlyOneName]

"my dreams failed me..." That's what I felt, but could not put it in words 💐

[@jessicayerden9043]

I was just reflecting this morning on how being bullied as a child is still affecting my feelings of self worth- in my mid 30s! I think in my life, in order to feel safe and accepted, I’ve taken on the personalities and loudness of others. When I’m alone, I’m a very different person. I want to be fully myself, yet feel that everyone around me won’t get it bc I’ve been “this way” for so long. Thank you for this beautiful video and reason to reflect inwards. 💜

[@nancydroge7682]

Jessica, What an incredibly moving & powerful message you share! You inspire me to take inventory, turn myself ‘inside out’ & live 100% authentically! Agreed! It will take adjusting (maybe even some awkward & pain to be felt) on everyone’s part! At the same time, it is my experience that we will all be better off for it as the truth always sets us free! Be well, Jessica! Be free! If nothing else, I hope this message with be a tiny nudge for you to BE YOU; who you are meant to be… ‘allways!’ ~Gratitude from deep inside my heart to yours! 💞

[@jessicayerden9043]

Thank you Nancy! 💜💜💜

[@Jwaydanofficial]

Honestly there are so many people just like you sweet one, myself being one of them💕and we think we're very alone but the truth is, all of us tend to make the error of hiding ourselves away. Which makes it impossible to find like minded people. Sometimes you've just got to take the leap and show up entirely as yourself, knowing that even if it takes time, eventually you'll find your tribe 😘😘x

[@TreeofLife_111]

I too have been bullied, and have been trying to work through all the self doubt. I finally realized in my 30s that no one else matters and being calm and at peace is the greatest reward

[@moony77]

I love your courage😌

[@lindafisher8441]

The kitty wants to help with everything!

[@CMri]

"Too quiet and not enough social gatherings" 😂. Glad they move away and not destroy this peacefulness. Your town seems perfect for me. I can't afford anything financially right now but living like this is my dream and goal. I love your videos and see I'm not alone in this need of quiet and nature.

[@skyycollector]

Exactly! The only "good" side of the pandemic was the time when no one could go outside so there was no pressure to be social and to go out every weekend. Living in a place that just operates like that on a daily basis would be heaven for me!

[@crazychicken4063]

Where is this place? Can I move there?🙂

[@Bhanoo4UTube]

Ditto I don’t have the finances to do this either yet...oh to dream 💭

[@user-xd8vh]

the cinematography of this is incredible. i love the cat’s curiosity

[@karmakauffman7445]

Also, I just noticed that your book is listed as a best seller on Amazon! Congratulations!!!🎉

[@TheCottageFairy]

Ahhh!!! Thank you!!!! 😱😱😱 it is so exciting!

[@lanecrescent4161]

What is the name of the book?

[@poorthing]

@@lanecrescent4161 ' The Cottage Fairy Companion' author Paola Merrill. Remember...google knows all

[@lanecrescent4161]

@@poorthing Hahaha - thanks! I know, I was being lazy 😁

[@poorthing]

@@lanecrescent4161 🙂👍

[@andreas.6303]

I'm starting to feel like these videos are a way to refocus for me. Through work and life in general I start to lose focus during the week of what is important to me and this just reminds me. Nature, peace, love and acceptance of self are so important and I think it is vital to be reminded of that, a lot. Thank you for doing this for the world.

[@theodora6843]

I agree and relate a lot. Beautiful comment. 🌼

[@angelesmilan8203]

🙏💜

[@lindaring7939]

Yes, I agree. The videos help me refocus, too! There's so much to take from them, to borrow, even if it's just one small thing at a time. Recently, I was inspired to take a walk in the woods behind my parents' house. I used to go there all the time as a child, but rarely do so anymore. Paola inspired me to try again. I enjoyed it very much and came back when I had kicked up too many mosquitoes on the now overgrown path. My favorite thing was I found the broken remains of a nutshell lying on a fallen tree and wondered about the squirrel who probably left it there.

[@intrepidtraveller6002]

I've just recently quit a comfortable part time job, that gave me time and rest and taken on a killer full time job, for 3 weeks I was nearly in tears at the loss, and in despair at what a fool I've been to give up the comfort. Now finally I've realized that the time was becoming counter productive, I wasn't using the time wisely, becoming a little lazy truth be told, now the time I do have is so precious. I don't have to do the job forever but I've learned that it's brave to take a leap into the unknown, even if it's not exactly what you thought it would be. So I'm using the experience to see what I'm made of, test my limits, learn new skills and take that forward. 🙏

[@nancydroge7682]

Intrepid Traveller, Cheering for you!

[@freefoodchef7939]

Been there in the same, exact way. I so feel your pain! Some opportunities come to us seemingly gold-plated and then turn out to be covered in poison instead. Hang on as long as you can and downsize your economic circumstances as much as you can to get free. It's easier than you might think and will bring you neverending peace of mind. Basically, responsibly unhitch from every entity you are currently financially commited to. In my case it took several layers of letting go because I thought each would make me "less than" if I didn't have those trappings of success. Finally, I realized that no one I was trying to impress was worth it and I began to live according to my own core values, not anyone else's. I've never felt such peace!

[@intrepidtraveller6002]

@@freefoodchef7939 thank you so much for that 🙏 I'm beginning to feel very desperate and the every day anxiety of knowing I have to leave this job is crippling me, all the joy has fallen out of me and it's seeping into the household, my wife is worried and I can hardly manage a smile, I hate the thought of quitting, anything, but where does one draw the line? I have no trappings or children to worry about, just a car. I know I must leave before I break.

[@freefoodchef7939]

Thanks so much for your note back to me. I also can relate to your concern about not wanting to quit anything. I used to feel that way as well, thinking I'd look weak if I quit anything, so I didn't and spent too long being miserable in too many situations. Then I began to realize how much I respected others who backed out of roles they'd taken on when those roles didn't turn out to be a good fit. None of us can predict how things are going to turn out when we say yes to something. In fact, the worst job experiences I've ever had have been the ones where I knew the most about the job going into it and had the best credentials, so I believed there was no way it wasn't going to turn out great. The ensuing problems always came down to it turning out to be a toxic work environment, so my knowledge of the job and company and my great credentials made no difference. I discovered if I reframed the situation from my need to quit to my need to have healthy boundaries, that gave me the strength to leave. In fact, those other people I'd respected for quitting whatever roles they'd had that didn't fit them were doing that very thing: respecting their healthy boundaries.

[@intrepidtraveller6002]

@@freefoodchef7939 this chat with you has really, really helped me, I thank you so, so much for your kindness and supportive word's. I confided in a friend today at work that I think I've got a couple of weeks left in me, before I hit the deck, literally. I said (being an empathic Cancerian) I feel bad for letting everyone down, but it's just too much . He told me i should not feel bad about anything, ever! I've exceeded everyone's expectations and then some. - (from the gossip grapevine) ... I was very touched, I know that I've gone way above and beyond what was expected of me, because I can see it in the eye's of the other guys, who aren't quite as "in touch" shall we say, with their inner machinatious demons, I've given 100% every day, and that's how I operate, in every endeavour, wether it be work or home life or friendships but it's just unsustainable. Physically and mentally. The ying and the yang is spinning at 78rpm atm. I don't know what to do 🤔🙏❤️x

[@amymatos8281]

Amazing someone so young isn't into excess and can actually see value in being. In nature, being aware..good for you, you are Worthy, as we all are. .

[@calustiansimona]

Oh, I need so much to re-write my story, too. So, you got me on this! In fact, you really got me on almost all of your insights. Let me tell you, it's like having a nice walk together, shoulder to shoulder, each time you post here. Like a good friend that I never met. Thanks! For "walking with me". 🙃

[@theodora6843]

You describe it perfectly. Paola makes me feel so connected. 🥰

[@sundance1372]

Sweet words that made my heart melt a little ❤ It really would be nice to share such insights and views on life with a friend who listens and understands...

[@aseretanya]

Simona, you painted a nice picture of how it feels to watch and listen to Paola. Like we're visiting with a best friend. Ive never had one, so I can only imagine walking and talking with her.

[@nancydroge7682]

Simona, You write to Paola, “Thanks! For walking with me.” I share this sentiment of thankfulness in that Paola allows us to walk with her! 💞

[@elevationview673]

Perfectly said.

[@WildOrchardOasisFarm]

Beautiful video as always! I dreamt of living in a log cabin in the woods when I was your age and lived there and raised my babies. 30 years later, I suddenly had a new dream to live and garden in the sunshine. At 58, I left the familiar comfort of my old life and began again with my husband in the high desert of NW Arizona. Organic gardening on 8 acres and being closer to aging parents. Never saw that coming in my 30s but here we are. Follow that dream! No regrets! Do what feeds your soul. I love your approach to life, my dear. 🤠🙏😘🌵🌻

[@katem3961]

I am an introvert that lives in the city but my home backs onto a lovely park giving me the illusion of a much bigger space. I don't think I could cope if it were any other way. I encourage all of the birds to my cottage garden I'm creating. It brings me such calm and peace. Sometimes we have to make dreams from where we are at in our life. Fulfilment comes from within. Much 💗 Paola from Australia.

[@patriciaholloway]

I have a small pond off my balcony that is filled with ducks daily and occasionally an adorable muskrat. I honestly don't know how I would be mentally if not for this respite from all the bull. Three quarters of my small income going for rent but this bit of nature makes everything bearable!! Happy gardening...🐌🦋🐛🌻

[@katem3961]

@@patriciaholloway That's wonderful Patricia, I have put in a small pond to now and have ducks in it frequently. I am amazed at the variety of birds that visit my garden everyday. I also have my beautiful little chihauhau girl, she never chases the birds and they do not fear her at all now. Animals are such a gift. You take care and enjoy your wildlife family 😊💖

[@wandai.7038]

I really enjoyed watching how the cookies were decorated with the flowers. At first I would think I would never wat them because they were too pretty. However when I saw how simply they were made, it was a perfect metaphor for life. Don't save the beautiful. Savor and enjoy! Thank you 💞

[@nancydroge7682]

Yes, Wanda!!! My friends birthday is approaching & I pre ordered her a copy of Paola’s book! Until seeing this most recent video & reading your comment, I didn’t know what else to give my friend to complete the gift. Now, I am searching for a similar rolling pin as viewed on the video today! Simply beautiful! 💞

[@KGJT8]

Paola, you have such a beautiful style on your clothes and home decor! I recently discovered you in KZbin, I’m enjoying watching your beautiful videos! ❤️

[@courtneyawalsh]

She’s so classically elegant & timeless.

[@jeancat9454]

Thank you for existing and being who you are! You help so many of us. I have a habit of taking off work on my birthday, in April, and spending the day alone planting flowers and seeds, doing yard work, etc. I get to see the insects, worms, sometimes salamanders, new growing plants, accompanied by my cat and the songs of wild birds. Also to smell the soil and get my hands dirty in it. Thanks to you, I don't have to feel that that is weird, sad or pathetic anymore, when people ask me what I did "special" for my birthday! I KNEW I was on to something.

[@larryzuiker5721]

I enjoy escaping to another world void of noise, media and violence. This is a gentle world with a sweet narrator guiding me along allowing me time to immerse into a peaceful place.

[@jobes4525]

Everything this Girl does is done with style, delicacy and panache. A work of Art. . . Oh, I did I mention those beautiful Animals ❤️❤️❤️

[@sliverofamoment]

I really resonated with the section of your video about achieving your dreams versus just being who you are. 💚 I lived in a zen monastery for a year and a half and during that time I worked so hard to be someone special and good and perfect and it wasn’t until I left and navigated all the pain around my sense of failure that I recognized that being simply who I am with all my shortcomings and humanness was actually the greatest source of kindness for me. After coming back to earth and facing my fear of being ordinary I came across an internal wellspring of compassion because I wasn’t offering it downwards from my perceived mightiness but horizontally with people because I needed it just as much as anyone. It was very humbling. I am very grateful to be this simple version of myself. Thank you for inspiring me to reflect. 🌷

[@devonseamoor]

Hello Camille, thank you for your honesty in your clear comment! Also in my life, at the age of 59, I've experienced a move (or shift) from a vertical "mother superior" stance, to a horizontal sense of connection with humanity as a whole, down to earth, in an acceptance of being human, vulnerable, and an acknowledgement of a poor sense of self-worth. Welcoming healing. It's truly a wondrous experience that my being happy with myself opens a door to people around me, reflecting this sense of ease and okayness, void of pomp and circumstance. 👵

[@sliverofamoment]

@@devonseamoor I wholeheartedly agree Devon! My whole value system seems to have changed and I feel like I can really be a good friend now. Sometimes I fall back into old competitive habits of course but I at least have more awareness now and I can return to being alongside the people I love. Sometimes I feel like the world isn’t set up to have people feel truly equal to each other but I think it’s important to strive for that.

[@gayanisugathadasa5388]

I'm so down as my husband is a cancer patient and he got covid too. While in the hospital I watched your video. That healed my mind to an certain extent. I felt like heavenly atmosphere in your beautiful area and the countryside. I admire your courage and bravery. I wish if I can have the same strength and courage as you. God Bless you

[@Tygeress20]

What an amazing insight. My dreams “failed me,” too - it took the onset of chronic illness and disability for me to realize how much of my self-worth was wrapped up in a specific idea of “success.” Only when everything was stripped away did I realize I intrinsically had worth, regardless of that success or not. It’s still very tough sometimes, so thank you for this reminder. ❤️

[@umckmxk855]

Failed dreams... I've learned it's so important to mourn them and (!) stay open for new ones and new opportunities. Not turn bitter, but still see the options... I love how the dishes match the flowers on the shortbread... 🌼🌸🏵

[@swatisharma9006]

I agree, every person has a different choice of lifestyle that makes them feel at home. I love quite places and slow lifestyle where moments and days don’t just slip by in “routine work”. I also believe that sometimes people who come from cities are used to “entertainment” that’s quick to access because they have lost the ability to be patient and slow, even when it comes to their own life and process of building memories that last.

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

I've seen many say rural folks are slow..backward. Ain't exactly so. City people appear pretty miserable..

[@francesfurry2669]

The kitten is so cute! Kitten makes me chuckle so much! The curious looks and tiny paw investigations. And, the darling little pats on your dog’s head! Lol! It feels good to laugh! Thank you for filming those moments!

[@nancydroge7682]

💞

[@LaureninGermany]

You are very brave to do so much on KZbin after being bullied. Good for you and also I couldn’t help thinking that you already are achieving greatness by bringing so much comfort to so many people. It’s not to be underestimated, truly.

[@parkerposey788]

I, like you Paola, live a simple peaceful life. Peace and tranquillity are best for my soul. 🦋💫🍃🧡

[@debrakeathley1019]

At 70+ I am still on my journey. You are an inspiration. Thank you

[@leanneeggenberger9127]

I love the bird paintings on the window! That is such a good idea, and your home is looking beautiful! :)

[@TheCottageFairy]

Oh!! Thank you!! ❤️🙏

[@rahelabarboianu]

@@TheCottageFairy can you give us a link from where you purchased them?

[@angelahagood7143]

In the short time that I’ve subscribed to your channel, I have observed your quiet transformation into this stronger young woman. I don’t know all about your painful past but I do see the healing that is taking place. I wish that when we met others that we could somehow see into their hearts and understand their fears, strengths and challenges. So many spend years trying to fit into a social mold that they weren’t created to fit into. That’s the charm of your channel. Through your hurt you have given others hope. My hope is that no one waits too long to pull away from the “norm” and maybe will find a stronger, content person that’s been there all along! Paola, you demonstrate that with each episode. Thank you for all the work you put into this lovely island of calm. That little kitten steals my heart! 🙌🏻🫶🏻💗🥰

[@bhaskaransyibumoin4135]

This is actual FREEDOM, LIBERATION , GOODNESS. A TRUE MEANING FULL LIFE . Excellent...

[@francarroll310]

Paola, as a mom of 20 something year olds& a therapist, I can share that in my 30’s, I thought I had experienced everything. Little did I know as I am nearing 60. If I may share with you that happiness& contentment is never something outside of ourselves. Peace& contentment are from God. Our creator. Your dreams if strong desire and meant for you in your life will happen in God’s timing. Not ours. We never have full control of our circumstances, but what is 100% in our control is the way we think and our thoughts. I follow your channel because of your simplicity and living in the moment. You are lovely! Don’t try too hard in the wrong ways. By listening within from the Lord, you’ll be confident in your path.❤️🙏🏼😘💜

[@micheledau1294]

What a blessing to read your post. We "bigger sisters" need to encourage the younger. Life is beautiful and an adventure-and yet, big "sisters" are such a blessing to help us see our way:) Lord bless you!

[@pativi6643]

Has Paola ever really talked about God? I'm pretty sure not. At least not in an invasive way. And here I come into comments and so many of them are all about trusting Lord and God's timing. So tiring. And quite sad really. It's not a Christian channel.

[@korralesley8159]

@@pativi6643 what’s it to you if she’s never complained?

[@Nomakeupmama]

@@pativi6643 I’m sorry you think God is a sad thing. I don’t think Paola appears to believe in God of the Bible but we all have these internal struggles. And when you open up about them publicly others who have found their peace in the struggle share it. It’s like if someone told you they had a headache and you offered them an aspirin or told them that something you did took away your headaches. If you didn’t tell them it would be like you didn’t care to offer them the solution. I’m not trying to stir a pot. Really. I’m just offering a perspective that you might understand. People should not be afraid of sharing God. How strange. To be afraid of sharing something bigger than yourself that you have discovered. Something magnificent and beautiful. Healing and stabilizing. I understand you may not believe it to be true. But sharing God is not a sad thing. Unless it wasn’t true of course. That would be sad.

[@pativi6643]

@@Nomakeupmama Never did I say that God is a sad thing or believing in God is a sad thing. What is sad and tiring for me is a preaching in the comments, and a sense of 'I know something you don't' that many Christians express, even if they sometimes don't see it. I absolutely don't have a problem with people sharing their stories or talking about their faith. I'm agnostic myself, but I find people talking about their faith beautiful. What I do find tiring is when people like the author of the comment say absolute things like ' Peace& contentment are from God. Our creator. Your dreams if strong desire and meant for you in your life will happen in God’s timing. Not ours'. What many Christians also don't realize, that when you are saying that you want to 'share a God' it comes off as really patronizing. It's not about being scared. It's about respect. I don't believe in God, why would I want to share it? I can listen to your journey happily. But please don't preach to me. There's a difference with saying 'I found happiness and peace in God.' and 'The only happiness and peace is found in God.' Can you see it? One is sharing your journey. One is preachy and is pushing your own beliefs onto other person. Also, aspirin has been scientificaly proven to be effective in combating headaches. While believing in God is a faith. It's not really comparable.

[@savahbejin7511]

Your voice always makes me feel as though you’ve written me a letter detailing your thoughts, feelings, and daily life. You send me words of encouragement and it makes me appreciate the life I have. I share your “letters” with friends and family like they did back in the “old days.” I’ve ordered from you and you know me by another name as we’ve sent messages back and forth. I will continue to await your letters and although quite brief, this is my letter back to you letting you know I’m doing well this week. 💖

[@courtneyawalsh]

Her voice is SO soothing and from the heart. When people live in the head or in fear…they sound nasal & high pitched. A very famous voice coach taught me that. Stewart Pearce. He calls it: “being in your note”…he says that that kind of voice resonates differently. Told me I’m in my note. Lovely man with a rich, deep resonant voice himself.

[@savahbejin7511]

@@courtneyawalsh: That is so interesting! I didn’t know that. Perhaps I’m “in my note” because people tell me they love to hear me read my stories. (I write a lot of short stories). I’ve always had an alto voice which drove my choral music teacher crazy in high school. I wanted to sing the melody but in my alto voice. Fortunately, I’m not very loud and I’m an average singer. Since a major tragedy befell our family ten years ago, my voice has dropped even more…it has slowed down…and it’s become more quiet as I listen to others now. Thank you for that tidbit of information. 💖 It seems like we have joined Paola as an extended family from all over the world. There is no other person I’ve found on KZbin who I feel is talking directly to me as we sit together in her kitchen drinking tea. And, the kitten is purring in my lap. 🌸 By the way…I’m from North Carolina in the US.

[@KatinkaPonders]

@@savahbejin7511 I love how you said that you listen to others now. I find that as I am getting older, I do the same. Love from your extended family all the way from South💐 Africa

[@margaretmcdougall2986]

I love your kitten and your videos. Thank you.

[@nysari_]

This was such a beautiful message, and I think one I've been needing to hear lately. Thank you.💜

[@GrowingonVancouverIsland]

Self care is so important. I'm a nurse and while I take excellent care of my patients I often struggle to take good care of myself. Your video is such a good reminder to take the time for self care. Your kitten is so adorable. Such a curious little creature 🐱 I planted Yarrow in my garden for the first time this year. I didn't realize you could make Edible things with it. My plants are way to small to harvest from this season, but maybe in the future I can try making your Yarrow syrup recipe.

[@asmaa_vlog_85]

I feel happy when I get a notification that you have uploaded a new video 🥰😘😍. Thank you very much for uploading the video. Your videos fill me with so much positive energy 🍓♥️🥰😍

[@femmelicious21]

The addition of the kitten is really everything 🥰

[@aurora6920]

You have achieved a lot, you live in a beautiful home in the woods, making comforting videos with actual meaning that can cause a positive effect to others. You look perfect too :) don't ever doubt yourself I wish I had the life you live.

[@nicolaj3294]

Nature never lies, nature never judges. Beautiful video, they are always a work of art. Love your tea set, just gorgeous. Have a good week xx

[@nancydroge7682]

Nicola, Totally AGREE! My humble addition regarding the tea set is that I absolutely love how Paola uses the tea set; what she does with it & how she goes about doing it! 💞🫖💞

[@slane_design]

TNH: Nothing outside of yourself can bring you happiness . Me: My dog makes me happy.

[@TheCottageFairy]

Hehe no doubt ❤️ those relationships are life giving!

[@cecilyerker]

A healthier approach is: nothing outside of yourself bears the sole responsibility for making you happy.

[@tfiandaca]

So lovely and simple. Thank you for sharing these moments.

[@El-jf8fz]

One important note is that the yarrow plant looks very similar to Queen Ann’s Lace which is deadly to humans and animals alike, so just be careful when you’re harvesting! They often live close to one another so always make sure you properly identify your plants. This was a beautiful video as always.❤️

[@staceyfranks01]

I was going to mention this too!

[@lasl5413]

what a wise and inspiring woman you are!

[@joyanne440]

You are in your 20's, you have a whole life ahead of you to complete your dreams. Your life has really just begun. Trust me when you turn 30 you will realize that.

[@homesteadgmad8223]

Lots of truth and wisdom in your observation! I'm 61 now...Much more confident than EVER! 🥰

[@sitimasarkar]

Whenever she speaks it feels so calming so peaceful ❤️

[@bigheartedgal833]

Just lovely. Thank you for this soothing and beautiful video.

[@janicew6222]

I love the decals to protect birds, I have birds fly into my windows often and a couple have died. I will look for these!

[@twinkleblink3073]

I thought it was ironic to have branch and bird decals on the window to discourage birds. Then I thought, "This seat already taken!".

[@brendawhite9756]

Where did you find the decals?

[@BirdhouseCottage]

@@brendawhite9756 they're on Amazon I just ordered mine😃🐦

[@kailahalling576]

You are a symphony. Artist, writer, appreciater. Grateful when your new videos appear

[@christmascrusader5436]

Blessings to you, and I'm glad you took some time for quiet and yourself.

[@elevationview673]

Paola’s videos are a therapy in themselves, so calming and soothing. Thank you so much ❤

[@minagherman2635]

O zi liniștită cu mută pace în suflet să aveți cu toții!!

[@getaresios303]

ma bucur sa vad a fellow Romanian aici :)

[@sandypascual505]

Love Sunday mornings with the cottage fairy videos! I usually sit outside with my cafe con leche and birds in the backgrounds. Thank you Paola!!! Love it! Can’t wait to receive your book!

[@TheCottageFairy]

Aww sounds wonderful! ❤️ thank you so much

[@lisalott7646]

Paola your videos are so inspiring, love seeing nature through your eyes, and your kitty is so cute! She watches everything you do!

[@maggiea6766]

Love how you are doing up the new place.... those decals are beautiful. Have a beautiful week

[@johndej]

Thank you for another inspiring video! As an old guy, I've seen many dreams and plans come and go. A few worked out the way I wanted, but many did not. I think that's the nature of life. The key is learning to let them go when you realize that whatever future they held is no longer the right path for you. Rather than seeing these as failures, they are simply traffic signs directing us to a new path. There are regrets for sure, but I think the effort in trying to achieve them is worth savoring. I'm at an age where I've seem many dreams pass by. An example, I was walking around an REI store recently. As I looked at the various displays I kept thinking "I used to be able to do that." Depressing at first I've come to realize that knowing I was able to do these things once has to be worthy of checking things off my accomplishment list.

[@lorettabray1483]

Self-care for me is definitely a cup of tea (one of my favorites is turmeric & ginger) and watching your ethereal videos. I’m really looking forward to receiving your book I’ve preordered!

[@margaretfinney6546]

Your home looks so beautiful already.🌸💕 so cozy. Love your sweet touches.💕

[@janet-Spirit_of_the_Living_God]

I've recently moved from rural to suburban life and still find many answers in nature, just on a smaller scale. I check my window flower box daily to say good morning to the baby praying mantis (who reminds me to pray) and I enjoy watching it grow bigger day by day along with the flowers who are able to endure harsh heat and wind in that particular part of the garden. I thought your kitten was stealing the show until I saw your gorgeous pansy cookies. Well done, enjoying the simple and beautiful things we've been blessed with by our Creator, and yes, I've figured out that part of maturing is realizing that this life is too short to do everything one wants to do, so we need to enjoy what we can do.

[@anitatucker8812]

Kitten is so adorable. At amazes me how you know so much about flowers and plants, what to eat and its beneficial properties. Thank you for sharing with us and taking us along your journey. Have a good week.

[@cindymarie2475]

Your home is filled with love, imagination and joy❣️🌸🌌

[@nancydroge7682]

Agree with you!!! ❤️🏡❤️

[@nancydroge7682]

It is no wonder to me why (& how) Paola’s home is filled with love, imagination, & joy!

[@mariapinto2498]

Thank you for being here for us, I’ve been inspired to decorate more and live within my means. Your flowers are so beautiful!

[@tammyroyal7547]

I love the window decals!! So pretty!! Your kitten is so adorable!! Funny how our dreams change as we go along. Also, how we view our success. Something to ponder on. ❤️

[@SMichelle626]

Oh my gosh your kitten!!! How sweet!!! I love how curious they are! I’m so glad you two have each other! All of your flowers are beautiful 😍

[@vanshikakar1501]

Paola I just want to tell you how much I've learned from you. You are one of those lovely people who taught me to love the process, be grateful for the surroundings and so much more... Thank you for everything :) Much love to you

[@nancydroge7682]

Vanshika, “… love the process, be grateful… “ These are two powerful life changers! Joy will follow! 💞

[@amrita-z6s]

Every frame you capture is a beautiful wallpaper. Your words play like a soothing music in the background. How lovely you are!

[@jan.shifferd4181]

Today I needed this peaceful video so much. It has been a very rough week and watching and enjoying this and your sweet little kitty....it took me to a place of peace and relaxation. Thank you so much for all that you give to us,Paola.

[@lynnrieker6477]

So wonderful to see you again! Love every minute!! Your hat is just lovely !!! ❤️🙏🏻❤️

[@Airbear211]

I’m going through a lot of the same feelings that you are, at the same time. Your videos have always felt like a visualization of a comforting novel, brought to life on camera. ♥️

[@MariaJMcMahon]

Your life is beauty and poetry in and of itself, and is a healing balm to all you share it with. Thank you 🙏

[@AmbieJoi]

This one gave me chills 😭😭😭 I love this! Thank you for all you do, and just being you ❤️🙏

[@dianebaker5243]

The biscuits look beautiful and your table setting. 👍🥰

[@rohinipalaraju4628]

The idea of window transparent decals is so good 😊

[@sweetjane71]

Simply magical, just blissful, you sitting in a field of flowers and the trees....sigh. Goals, in the moment. I just left bed this video and those cookies the table, your hair...ALL OF IT! Looks like calm contentment. Much love to you sis, ohhh how did I miss a book? Yay. Wishing you the best summer season.

[@dickybirdsnest]

Oh I just loved this one! I’m actually crying - crying is cleansing on any self journey. Your kitten - I forget the name - so cute!!!