Self-Love: Partially Right, Dangerously Wrong.

[@FarAwayDistance]

"Have you not known? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:28-31 ESV

[@thomaspayne7617]

Have you ever had your views challenged? It may be healthy to go on Pinecreek, Holy Koolaid (Thomas Westbrook), Cosmic Skeptic (Alex O'Connor), MythVision (Derek Lambert and Dr. Robert M Price), Dogma Debate (David Smalley), etc to see if your views make sense? Have you ever read a book that challenges the validity of the Bible? If you have not then how do you know if it's really true? Do you find it strange that the same rationale you use to claim the bible is true is also used by all other religions (personal experience, faith, my holy book tells me so)?

[@AdrianDanielGuard]

@@thomaspayne7617 “Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them." - Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor

[@fosgnosis6336]

@@AdrianDanielGuard Romans 3:10-12 :)

[@AdrianDanielGuard]

@@fosgnosis6336 This Bible verse has nothing to do with the quote from above, as the quote above does not mean turning away from God. „Good life” means a virtuous life, not a life full of pleasures.

[@fosgnosis6336]

@@AdrianDanielGuard okay, Romans 3:23 and Mark 10:18 then

[@LaCréé.e]

Correct. It's not "we're broken because we don't love ourselves". It's "we don't love ourselves because we're broken". The only way to restore our brokenness and in the process our godly relationship with ourselves is Jesus Christ.

[@calah5017]

That’s a great way of looking at it

[@emilygrace5579]

I love that you stand firm in Scripture without sugar coating the gospel: it’s so easy to give in to what culture says is good and true and beautiful, but we need to be confident in what is true based on the Lord

[@abby31415]

Hi friend

[@emilygrace5579]

@@abby31415 lolllll heyyyy

[@sally-kella]

Not I but Christ. For me to live is Christ and to die is gain. Lord remind me to die to self each and everyday. I totally 💯 concur to this message!

[@nothandotshuma]

Oh my days! I was just talking about this with someone on my IG. I’m looking forward to hearing your views😊🙏🏾 addition: I completely agree with your views! Self love in this modern world is all about pleasing ourselves and that’s in great conflict with being a true Christian. Biblical self love is about caring for ourselves, caring about the bodies that’s the Holy Spirit dwells in. What we drink, eat, what we feed ourselves spiritually and etc. Those things are the result of good and Biblically inspired self love..

[@SimplyLivingInFaith]

YESS

[@robh509]

Awwh.. congratulations! What a lucky and blessed guy!

[@lelonene95]

Congratulations on your engagement!!!! 😍❤️ It's amazing to see how much you've grown over the years. You're wise and that's because you are connected to the true Vine who is Christ. Love you sister in Christ.

[@Animebrity.]

It was so different turn around with me. I was very selfless to the extreme, bur God told me, "i know you love others, but you need to love yourself too."

[@EmilyClaireDaly]

100% agree Becca!!! The minute I chose to deny myself is when I found true love in every form.

[@jesussavedme6260]

Jesus loves y’all so much, turn to Him, He hears you and loves you so much you are not a mistake! Jesus is coming back soon💕

[@yakovmatityahu]

Jesus is lord.... greetings from India 🇮🇳✝️

[@EricSmyth4Christ]

Self-love is terrible, and I have had this on my mind for a very long time and often tell my Dad about how much I hate the self-love movement of this fallen world. Self-love is almost always demonic, especially in the areas of self-confidence and self-empowerment. Sister in Christ, I mean this with all my heart, I thought this was one of the best videos I have seen this year

[@sofiabravo1994]

Ugly people can be beautiful too it’s from our heart!

[@EricSmyth4Christ]

@@sofiabravo1994 hahaha okay true

[@ShepherdMinistry]

Self love is not biblical yes, however we already love ourselves that is the problem

[@EricLovesCHRIST]

@@sofiabravo1994people are all hot 🥵 now

[@jupiter8037]

Thank you so much for this video! I'm so thankful God teached me this because for a while I believed that all self love was sinful and neglected rest and my relationship with God took a big toll. I agree on all the points you made about self love, and how we all naturally love ourselves because of our flesh, and while it isn't inherently wrong, it can cause us to become selfish and sinful which contradicts what God wants of us. I also struggled with legalism and still do a bit and I'd be so happy if you could maybe do a short video on that because it would help so many Christians and clear up so much confusion.

[@lesedigololo7485]

I agree with you. Also realized I that when you let God's love into your heart you end up loving yourself because you finally see yourself the way God sees you.

[@lesedigololo7485]

When I mean loving yourself I don't mean like self love but rather that I stop criticizing myself and start believing that I'm fearfully and wonderfully made

[@edselyong7609]

Having an almost empty bottle beside myself while I watch this, God gave me an illustration differentiating between self-love and self-denial: Self-love = Everyone is trying to keep their own bottles full, but no one is going to the faucet. Everyone is therefore competing with each other, and even if they come to a compromise and try to distribute the water evenly, nobody is full. Self-denial = Where one bottle, the Christian, keeps pouring out for the others. Of course the bottle will soon run empty, but God obviously won't leave it like that. In fact, God's pouring grace is so infinitely abundant, that it's like a faucet with unlimited supply of water gushing and overfilling said bottle, that the person holding it is shouting for someone to bring the other bottles because water is just spilling everywhere! In other words, God is no mere curious spectator, calling over the angels and pointing, "Hey, look at that guy! See how long will he last as he denies himself!" That would have been a salvation based on our works. No, for what He commanded us to do, He will provide abundantly. I think Malachi 3:10 shares a similar idea to this, in the context of tithing. Also, Matthew 6:33. Let me know your thoughts.

[@kiannabrunette2580]

Becca!! This is absolutely amazing. Thank you so so much for spreading the word! A year ago I found your channel through your lukewarm Christianity video. This really opened my eyes and allowed me to let the Holy Spirit in. Thank you so much for being such an amazing vessel for the Holy Spirit!!

[@jordanvogt1213]

Becca, I honour the gift of teaching that you have. You explain things so clearly and so well. Your points are awesome and fascinating!! Thank you for being so true to the scriptures!

[@yahuahismybanner6877]

Awesome! Congrats! Quickly! Jesus is at the door! The Kingdom is at hand! We are in the days of Noah and it’s starting to rain! The ark doors are CLOSING! Sharing the GOSPEL TRUTH 💕

[@ShepherdMinistry]

It’s important you learn biblical love then. Self love is not biblical, now one verse commands to love ourselves. We already love ourselves which leads to our sinful ways.

[@yahuahismybanner6877]

@@ShepherdMinistry You interpreted my warning of the times we are in as self-love?

[@ShepherdMinistry]

@@yahuahismybanner6877 The video was based on self love

[@melissacalderon1515]

Congrats girl!!! I’m so happy for you! Have a blessed marriage!! 💞☺️

[@valerielinares2068]

Your perspective here is interesting. From this perspective, it sort of can be taken to mean that while self-care is a good thing, it only goes so far. Since our brokenness is a deep-seeded soul-issue - at best, self-care can only address the symptoms of our brokenness, but not actually fix it. For instance, if our home is dirty and stinky, we can buy all the Febreze we want to make it smell good, but that only addresses a symptom. The issue won't go away unless we actually take the time to clean our house. Until then, if we only spray Febreze everyday, we'll just have a dirty house that smells good.

[@saraa4156]

I'm so, so thankful for this video!! the lord is so good 💞💞

[@CateOtanes]

Oh..... Oh.... Congratulations

[@humanhearrt]

Omg I love the ways you explain things in your videos!! You are so gentle yet so firm with your point, I always appreciate that (:

[@moeshataylor3387]

You are an awesome teacher who I always see The Holy Spirit flows through.Tgays why I live to watch your videos.

[@kstevens0915]

Wow you did an amazing job making such a complicated topic so simple, yet powerful! You are definitely an anointed speaker!

[@julianaalvarenga3057]

Congratulations on your engagement!!!!

[@michellec3871]

Thank you so much for this video--it's really great! I love that you distinguished simply getting rest/self care from self love. When I tell people self love is dangerous, they get upset because they think I believe you shouldn't take care of yourself. This is a great point that I can bring up now!

[@nessabane268]

Late congrats!! May God bless you and strengthen your relationship with Brady and most importantly with god:)

[@bethanydusciuc2148]

Congrats!! Yes please share your story 🥰

[@faithcouper]

Great video! I’m new to ur channel & I really like ur content. Very biblically sound and makes sense. I battled with the “just love yourself” idea & I can say it never worked or lasted. I’ve always had the notion that I don’t have to love myself in order to love others even though I don’t recall anyone ever saying that to me. It’s just something built-in. I was always a little sceptical of the world telling me that I have to love myself or I couldn’t truest love others. Now I know that I can love others because He first loved me. His love gives me the power and strength to pay His love forward. I am free from the notion of self-love, self-worth, self-anything because He is greater. 🙌🏼😇 For that I am blessed, as are you. 💞 ✝️Christ is our identity not ‘the Self’

[@rockyc7987]

2 Corinthians 3:5 was in a devo I was reading today. And I found it very comforting.

[@saramartinez1112]

Congrats on your engagement Becca!

[@manuela2618]

It's incredible that I was discussing this subject yesterday and today this video was out

[@kackareznickova5431]

Because I am so early, I just wanted to say that you are such an inspiration to me! You helped me with your video abnout break ups :D I started my to preach on tiktok (my country is very atheist so its fun) and I really aspire to be lik you (ofc like jesus but also like you i hope you get it lol) Because you explain everything so well and I agree with every word...So thank you, be blessed

[@gerarddlima]

Which country are you from?

[@denisesuarez7241]

Congratulations I'm truly happy for you.

[@Nicolejduval]

You look beautiful Becca❤️ congrats on your engagement

[@xsamix]

omgomg congratulations on your engagement!!! i'm so excited for this part of your life!!

[@aishakimnakawoya8447]

Woow congratulations dia .I bless the Lord for your joy

[@dulcejocelyn7102]

SOME TRUTHH✨✨I’m thankful for God for your humble heart

[@emilylarimore127]

ahhh congratssss!!! 🥺 I've been watching you for a long time and this makes me sooo happy

[@nicksterlouw8647]

This is an extremely powerful message. I've been a fan of your ministry for 5 years and has helped me grow a lot in my walk with God. Many blessing Becca and congratulations on your engagement 😊😊

[@user-yj5wj1uw6u]

yes, God really opened up my eyes through this! thank u :))

[@hannahg4929]

This video got me fired up saying Amen and Hallelujah sooooo much! Yes Becca yes! You always put out what I needed to hear and didn't even know that I needed it until I click on your videos!

[@kennethcava4488]

I wish you all the success and happiness in the world, Becca! You deserve it!

[@alwaysyoutome19]

Thank you for this video, Becca! It’s about time to stop justifying self love that’s been replayed over and over in pop culture.

[@deb5787]

I love your videos! You give huge encouragement

[@Alexandra-bl3db]

Congratulations on your engagement! How exciting 💕

[@wingslikeeagles9851]

Amen! 🙌 Jesus loves us more than we could ever love ourselves, so we should deny ourselves and take up our cross and follow Him. Also, congrats on getting engaged!!

[@real_emeldah]

Congratulations my dear. Alilililililili (that's how we ululate in my country). I'm happy for you darling.

[@rosiesanchez8048]

Your hair🥺😍 so beautiful!!

[@SavedSkeptic]

I am really happy for you! He's a lucky guy!

[@nicoleyoshihara4011]

Awww Congratulations on your engagement!!!🥳❤🙏 May God bless your marriage 🤗❤❤❤

[@daniellekramer93]

Already knew she was engaged because I follow her on Instagram!!! Congrats Becca!!!

[@katlynnmansfield1464]

Thank you Becca for speaking the truth on your platforms! Your videos have always encouraged me and challenged me especially as a teenage girl with raging hormones lol. Some days feel so miserable and I can only distract myself from the negative feelings for so long, but when I watch your videos I hear the word of God being taught plainly how it is intended, and that brings healing. Thank you for the time you’ve spent diligently studying the word. I’m hopefully nearing engagement with my serious boyfriend and am so excited for you! I’m trying to enjoy this special time and not be so anxious about how I can move faster towards the future. It’s really hard to just be content and to trust God when you’re trying to pursue a godly relationship. It’s a lot harder than people make it seem. Prayers for you and Brady! Love you Becca! 💕

[@jonesasher9240]

This 20min god thought me some priorities that I should keep.. l acknowledge myself to God!! It's kind remains a verse JOHN 3:29-31 ..Thanks for sharing Becca!!

[@rubiellaolivas3749]

Congrats on your engagement. Your videos always convict my heart😂 I always watch till the end forcing myself to hear the truth that we desperately need to hear.

[@robinwessel7599]

THANK YOU for speaking the truth through the foundational source of Scripture with love and not legalism!

[@mercysobkoviak1073]

Congratulations Becca!! I'm so happy for you. 😊 God bless you and Brady. ❤

[@becks7794]

Aw congrats girl! Yesss a video on your and Brady's story :) Also this hair...and look....so pretty!

[@gracehannah7859]

I’ve never clicked a video so fast! thank you for this ❤️ also, congrats on your engagement! praise Jesus 🥰

[@Lynnsiemaiah]

This is SO GOOD! Love it! Love you! ❤️❤️ thank you for making this! Amazing what God can do!

[@iStevenMelgar]

Congrats and thanks for the post!

[@Meredithgraces]

Congratulations on your engagement!! Excited for you in this next chapter :)

[@abbygigi8345]

This is really late but congrats on your engagement!!! I love your channel so much, you always give me so much wisdom! 💗✝️🤗🌅🌙

[@faveychi]

Yipppeeee Am so happy for you ❤️ Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@Derriann9705]

Congrats on your engagement! Thank you for this beautiful and edifying message. Your videos are always a blessing. God bless! ❤️

[@kurtbradwill]

"But God..." are the two most important words in thr history of the universe.

[@shannonwilliams148]

Such a powerful and needed message! Thank you, B!!!!

[@kaylan2083]

In addition to Allie Stuckey's book, I recommend Sick of Me by Whitney Capps. It is all about sancitification. 🙌 The market is saturated with feel-good, self-love, lukewarm Christian books for women. I'm so glad there's a few solid ones out there for women to read in addition to their Bibles.

[@Ultron2k15]

I feel like the thesis here would be something along the lines of: Self love only used as the daily justification and intrinsic self value/motivation is toxic because it perpetuates the idea that your worth is purely based on humanistic elements solely alone as opposed to faith and your relationship with God, yourself, and others. Self love in moderation not used as a justification for holistic care should be complimentary in the sense you might be using tangible goods/services/experiences to enrich yourself but never define yourself let alone the inherent worth/purity of one's self.

[@esperanzagant4979]

You summed that up really nicely thank you

[@ShepherdMinistry]

This is not biblical. No where in the Bible does it command to love yourself.

[@xxTheSkilletFreakxx]

This might be my favorite video that you have made. I struggle with some of these things. Thank you so much💙

[@EricLovesCHRIST]

It’s the best

[@katelewis536]

I actually find it more freeing to practise self denial rather than self love.

[@carychiasson9834]

Congratulations on your engagement

[@shannonbusenitz]

Congrats on your engagement!!🎉 also, your hairstyle is beautiful!

[@danidillaha1535]

Congratulations on your engagement!

[@lisabrew2856]

You are amazing. Truly christfilled through and through, thank you so much!!! You reminded me what I forgot for a sec

[@kaitlyn6141]

Amen girl! Every time I watch one of your videos you remind me of what I need to work on. I love seeing these because watching you be bold in your faith makes me want to be bold in mine!!! Keep up the good work and congratulations on getting engaged 😆

[@TJsGarage14]

We should love who God has made us to be. Perfectly and in his image. While we were made perfectly, (Physically and personality wise) we were born into a world of sin, and born sinful. So we must deny our flesh inside and embrace our self outside wise.

[@brusantiagob]

Congratulations! God bless you guys

[@kodiskodis706]

Congratulations!! God is good.

[@Rose-cx9iz]

Great Video and congratulations on your engagement

[@yxjayra_8699]

Wooow this is so eye-opening thank you so much for the truth!

[@shawngallagher8764]

I haven’t watched you vids in a long time and it is so amazing how the one I come back to has one of my favorite versus, about Gods thoughts outnumbering the sand.

[@EleniWiebeMentalWellness]

It's so true. We need to love the Lord with all our heart and mind. Not if I love myself ill feel better about myself. Look to Jesus sisters. He is our worth identity he died on the cross for us. We are so loved by him➕😭❤️❤️❤️❤️ hallelujah!!

[@jgil1966]

I am SO happy for you!

[@soulstylista]

Very interesting topic! The first time I heard about this as a new Christian I experienced aversion to the idea, but some time has passed and I do actually understand what this is about now. Was a bit hard to make the switch from this basic psychology motto to Bible-based belief.

[@KarenEstfny]

Congratulations!!! 🎊🎉

[@kenadeeedelman4639]

yesss! Allie’s book is soo good!

[@avahiggins3635]

I'm so happy that you got engaged!!! Congratulations!!!! This is a great video

[@lifelover03]

Congrats Becca!!!

[@abbiemarie9544]

Much needed video thank you so much

[@effie358]

Congratulations!!

[@wisegirledits9121]

Congrats on your engagement!!!!

[@jennihernandez7121]

Congratulations on your engagement🤗🙋

[@ryliee.7275]

Congratulations!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@stargirl3459]

My biggest desire in this life is to be God's image bearer , it makes me feel special 🙃🙂

[@May52525]

I am extremely depressed. My looks and personality are constantly causing me sadness. I detest myself. I go to church, do extra group Bible studies, teach Bible class, serve, and do all the Christian things. I pray, fast, repeat, and spend as much time as possible with God in the scripture (outside of church services) as I possibly can but I just... I'm conflicted. You, my parents, friends, and spiritual leaders have literally NO idea how conflicting and contradicting this makes someone with a depressed mind feel. No idea. All I can ask for is prayers.

[@hollymatthews9310]

So I know this is random, but I absolutely LOVE your hair! Also, the stuff you said was good too, lol. :)

[@pianoplayer88key]

WOW, this thought that came to my mind, while I'm only 3 and a half minutes into the video! ... You were mentioning 4 relationships that God created, and the order you said them: Between me and God, Between me and others, Between me and myself, and Between me and creation. I think that's literally SO BACKWARDS from what the unsaved world wants to promote: Me and creation (reminds me of the verse about worshiping the creature more than the Creator, I think it's in Romans 1 - I think that chapter (starting with vs 18) speaks SO MUCH about this world in our day!), me and myself maybe me and others (but selfishly), And oh no, that leaves no room for God. Oh well .... (But they're going to be really sorry.) Also a song my church used to sing when I was a child (1980s) comes to mind... The first line is: Jesus and others and you, what a wonderful way to spell JOY! 💗 Love your videos as always, and congratulations on the engagement!!

[@brandonarce67]

I couldn't agree more! God bless!