Fashion Is A Cope

[@BigVirgin]

This guy knows how to cope with fashion

[@v2vvs]

In order to not get "addicted" to fashion, you have to fix the core problems rather than run from it. It's you and only you that can find and fix them.

[@alaskansuns]

same with kratom

[@squash6497]

True. But why not do that, and also be the most stylish person in the therapist's waiting room?

[@47fortyseven47]

@@squash6497 lmfao

[@helge7392]

Really interesting topic. For me, I think clothes is a form of self-expression but also escapism from the mundane everyday life. It also serves as something I can control, opposite to other problems in my life. Clothes is a material thing that is easier to deal with than feelings of being alone, sad or frustrated with life.

[@EannaWithAFada]

I wear nice clothes so art hoes will think I'm cute

[@frickndog1047]

Well said

[@bigstunna2049]

I agree completely with that I've had a similar experience with how I use fashion

[@skellexis404]

real

[@alterior8869]

What an amazing way of explaining it.

[@j0ratti928]

I think it becomes your whole personality because it becomes an act of defiance that alienates you from most people because you’re not fitting the norm of how people around you see clothes. Then it becomes an endless pursuit because there’s always more to know, buy and improve. It’s just part of the human condition to seek change and to want more

[@tom_thefirst2063]

I feel like I got into fashion to feel like I’m better than other people; to fight the sense of inferiority. Dressing better than everyone else just made me feel like maybe I’m special among everyone else.

[@maxfortefan2947]

same, but it evolved into finding my style, so it aint all so bad

[@ryne1625]

While a lot of points here are true, isn't all of life just one big cope? We buy bigger houses and expensive houses to fill a status cope, we work jobs to fill a sense of importance cope, we win competitions to fill a self gratifying cope. I think hyper fixating on eliminating coping mechanisms isn't necessarily the main issue, rather that a maintaining a healthy coping mechanism/practice is important: it allows one to maintain a sense of self and peace; a cope is not necessarily a distraction or escape, rather it can be a release. The unhealthy part is where coping mechanisms become a substitute/replacement for self improvement.

[@xathomir]

i have never read a realer youtube comment. i think about this all the time

[@ethanmiller631]

the fact that people turn into consumerism to cope with stress really states something about our society

[@fashionelitist]

Retail therapy

[@willimeier8903]

It breaks my heart to think that you (or anyone reading this) hate your body. No matter what your body looks like, you deserve to be loved. And you deserve to give yourself that love. Unconditionally. I hope you find the strength to be kind to yourself today.

[@deathinhollywood]

❤❤❤

[@mfsweatshirt6237]

Thanks

[@AndreiGeorgescu-j9p]

Nobody deserves love or anything else, everything is earned. Also he's a man so that's doubly true

[@babykiller122]

hit me with the "you're a loser for watching me" watching you while eating, after work..... i cant take this anymore.... Good vid though, the part about internalizing self-hate hit me hard

[@fashionelitist]

If you watch me you’re going to be more successful than me

[@noopnoop5723]

This is peak entertainment! Entertainment is not always something that is meant to distract you, sometimes its meant to make you think. That's why i enjoy your videos. It makes me think about my own fashion choices and how i consume fashion.

[@wzrdlight5900]

Im autistic and I came to love fashion from a VERY young age. I’d say around 3 years old. It was a way to even the social playing ground for me. People are more tolerant when I’m very well dressed. So fashion is what helps me get out of the door most days.

[@Speku165]

used to be a fashion coper - but im wearing the same issey miyake homme plisse pants and shorts for 3 years now lol and i love it - i love fashion but i hate buying fashion

[@fashionelitist]

Real

[@rileyelliott8063]

Man I respect you for going deep like this. I have definitely been doing this to some degree since highschool. It's good for everyone in my opinion to be aware of these things.

[@egyasokkbol]

Just gotta say, yeah, some people probably watch you as a form of escapism, but there is a reason they watch YOU and not someone else. You can still be entertaining, even if some people watch you partially as escapism. So please drop the self deprecation, you make good content.

[@mystic5008]

This fr, I literally clicked on the vid for him lmao

[@fashionelitist]

@@mystic5008 People like you make me feel real

[@yush2989]

@@fashionelitist neither of us are real still, but your content is uniquley great. stay unruly babes

[@benjaminenriquez4525]

Just so you know, i am watching you for entertainment. I really like your videos, makes me reflect a lot

[@fashionelitist]

I appreciate that

[@ayokevin287]

​@@fashionelitistI don't appreciate that

[@highish]

This guy needs a mythical staff he will be a grand wizard 😍

[@JoseMaria-ej9nd]

No matter how much a hermit changes their shell, they'll always still be a hermit. Great video on coping, it's always good to tackle problems head on, but nevertheless we're all human, so go buy that clothing you really want to wear, you deserve it! ❤

[@fashionelitist]

Well said!

[@scattered-idea]

I got into fashion partly to escape my issues with body image and eating disorder. It was very beneficial for me as it gave me a less damaging goal to work towards. Learning how to sew was a game changer; I try to focus more on my skills rather than on my looks. Sure, it’s really fun to create looks and style myself but-for me-it’s not all there is to focus on

[@frickndog1047]

Honestly watching because I am intrigued by the industry of clothing/fashion personally. With that I don’t know to much, you’re channel has definitely given me insight. I consider myself fortunate enough to afford clothing and have my life together but not everyone can definitely say that. Just my personal perception as an outsider/ onlooker if you will. Keep you’re head up y’all, things will get better!

[@Theresnoreason]

I be lowballing mfers on grailed whenever I'm going through it 😔

[@so_bouda]

I’m at the moment in the video where you say “I highly doubt you’re watching because I’m actually entertaining “ You are, and I really appreciate your content I use KZbin as like a reward when I did everything I needed to do, so to be the guy I choose to watch at the end of the day you gotta be kinda good at being a KZbinr ;)

[@Jesseli1]

If watching you coping, then I never want to stop coping. Thank you

[@inlieuofsense9521]

watching u while cuddling this stray cat that adopted me. coping with th heartbreak of realising that i cant keep him cuz im poor and my flat is tiny

[@isgrin8823]

Thank you for this video, its a very honest video and I think a lot of us can relate :( Im gonna start therapy this september, I hope it helps me get better and I wish you the best too

[@fashionelitist]

we all fr need therapy

[@kevinacevedo6289]

Thank you for this fashion papa

[@leviv9537]

Hey JQ, please know that there are people (including me) who genuinely value your content, are intrigued by your thoughts and appreciative of you - you are not, and should not reduce yourself to simply being a 'cope'. Sending love :)

[@cruisindownthestreetinmy6490]

I am majorly insecure - socially, mainly. I find it hard developing real connections with people because I feel insecure all the time. One of the things that helped me growing up, was to not only dress in a way I liked and thought was cool, but - this is a bit vein - to dress up just like myself, and to then comfort myself that I look better than everyone around me. I want to be that girl who despite her inner insecurity, can dress up completely like herself - not whatever trends are popular, but just purely what I like - and turn heads for it. Because what better way to "fake it till you make it", than by looking absolutely confident and simultaneously better than everyone else? It's my guilty pleasure. I see people who used to isolate and even bully me in the streets, and I walk past them, in their Zara and Shien and Nike and Lulu Lemon and I wonder what it must be like to be spending hundreds of dollars just to look like everyone else. Whatever suits them, I hope they enjoy it, but me? I can feel pride in my thrifted, retro or vintage, 90s, 50s, 80s, 30s, my well fitted, well made, high quality clothes, with leather shoes and thick canvas bag, metal buttons and short french bob and silver jewellery. I can feel confident walking around comfy and effortless, in pieces that will not phase out in a year or two. In well loved items that have been passed through the hands of so many people. And I hope that other people do the same, because I want everyone to be themselves, to not follow the mass market or advertisements and influencers. But for now, while I'm still finding a way to be comfortable in myself on the inside, I can look it on the outside.

[@p1va9]

I initially watched you because of some video on a topic in fashion I was looking into, then I realized I really liked your style so I began following, and then I stayed because your videos almost always have a deeper message that goes beyond just fashion, and this video is a perfect example. I like how you explore your themes and ultimately I do find you, JQ, to be entertaining.

[@jutsu_art]

internet-> time spent -> less time with friends -> no friends -> more internet -> internet culture -> cringe -> less social interaction -> more time for internet -> seeing internet people -> brainwash -> more internet people -> npc -> npc clothing advertisement -> clothes acquired -> everything fixed -> cycle repeats -> need better clothes -> cycle of doom

[@DandyAnnieTime]

Indulging in the long-term cope of putting on a front to prevent anyone from rejecting my true self was the most brutally self-destructive thing I've ever put myself through. Not only did I get rejected anyway, that mask can't stay on all the time, but by the time I realized how far I'd let it go, everyone around me had no clue who I was. And how could I blame them? It was devastating waking up one day realizing I had no one. It does get better, I'm making a recovery, working on myself, all that jazz. But this was five years ago and I'm just now getting to some solid ground. Better by far to have lived to my authentic self (easier said than done, no doubt) and learned the lessons inherent in that. How to deal with rejection, how to work around your idiosyncrasies or play into them for a laugh, not at yourself but WITH yourself, inviting those around you to make light fun on your terms. All I did by putting on the mask was delay the pain, and in doing so I also delayed my joy. The pain came anyway, worse and more concentrated than it ever would have been otherwise. But at least it was a wake-up call. Thanks a lot for this video. It's a good reminder. We must do the hard work of loving ourselves and finding true fulfillment. It's a tough job, but everybody's gotta do it.

[@mpmetalica]

idk I like watching these vids for fun, the perfect mixture of armchair philosophy and melancholy just reminds me of good high school days

[@Rryowa]

bro this part about friends hurts so much, but thank you, it brings me back to life

[@fashionelitist]

we all need to touch grass

[@alterior8869]

I agree with this topic very much. Another thing I thought of was gym cope. The whole "Why Sad, We Go Gym." Going to the gym is okay but does not fix the problems. If you don't feel okay mentally, talk to someone or see a therapist.

[@fashionelitist]

I agree the gym is such a cope especially in that community

[@Mumshaggeroner]

@@fashionelitist😂😂😂😂😂

[@scrums4748]

you’re focusing on fashion but this can apply to anything

[@sentsuvi3]

I feel like this video was made after i got all these stressors since everything in the video is applicable to me. it really hits home for someone hyper fixated on making my wardrobe look less dull n invest more in fashion & especially when regarding the body dysmorphia. i’ve always had a hard time with my weight not really being committed since i thought i could never be enough to reach the body i want but i’ve been going at it for almost 2 months and a half and recently due to some issues i’ve been falling back to my old self and with saying this i think this video has made me snap out of it and i’m going to get back on track later today. also you’re very entertaining, at least to me🌚

[@hongwei4809]

fking great videos dude, just for the record I am genuinely entertained by your insights because you make me question my own beliefs and self-image alot, especially when it comes to fashion. Cheers

[@paulholt_]

Every time I plan to clean the house: "Maybe I should check out whats new in the Sale section before" 😂

[@creamdaddy117]

Take a shot every time he says cope. You'll die.

[@TAFROB29]

I'm coping watching this rn

[@TopPleb]

Good video! I def relate to a bit of the coping around "wearing armor." I'm trans and there are certain things about my body I don't like that I'm working on changing. I didn't really care about fashion until a couple years ago when I realized it was a way I could alleviate some dysphoria but I really try not to fall into the classic fashion "traps" if that makes sense. I wear what make me feel comfy and me. Most of it is thrifted, my style is a little all over the place, but that's a positive IMO. My bf has described it as punk pokemon-trainer hippie cowboy and I enjoy having the freedom to not be tied down to one vibe. I do find that just putting on something fun instead of whatever crusty gaming shirt I wore to bed can def improve my mood and motivate me to go out or do chores I've been putting off. It's a careful balance and def don't let it affect you finances or rely on it as a personality (or lack thereof!) crutch. Hope all that read this have a good day and be YOURSELF BABY!

[@mystic5008]

it's so refreshing to hear this perspective cuz for so long it bothered me I didn't have a "style" LMAO

[@JulianSteve]

I really liked this video. I resonated with some of the things you said. Thank you for always being transparent with us🙌🏾🙂!

[@TheGuaranas]

best jq vid yet for sure. hit home. love the self reflection

[@SUB-IN-SUPER]

Fashion cope example: Buying fast fashion and thinking it will be a new "statement piece". Aka: Zara, H&M and Shein.

[@synxiec]

Whew. This was a moment, especially everything in the dysmorphia section. I was properly dragged, but in a gentle way and I have some things to think about.

[@Orionleo]

I used working out to improve my body impage (lost weight, gained muscle) and surprisingly, I'm happy with how I look. Maybe a little too happy? I flex in the mirror a lot, I like admiring myself I guess. Fashion-wise, it has become part of my personality. Maybe not to the point oif it being only part of my personality, but when I look good I also feel even better. I wonder though if I'm coping with something as you've said in this video. Working out and dieting was a symptom of my self-esteem and insecurity, and I dont believe I've completely conquered it. I suppose I will have to work on trhat..

[@hanse_plays]

I think one important thing is, not to rely completely on inspirations. Surely you gotta have some ideas, but at the end you are yourself and so is your outfit. Its not healthy to always look at other stuff. Me personally am very happy to find some clothes here and there, but the pressure to get certain stuff is what derstroys the whole experience. In that way it also dont gets on your personality to much, which leads to the real function of fashion, which is still a form of art and selfexpression. It definitely helps you cope with temporary stuff but in the end its just an materialistic thing.

[@itachigrimm2637]

I'm watching you because you are really entertaining.

[@cozymode70]

8:35 that's a sick door

[@dite9163]

I'm watching this while I fold clothes bc ur nice to look at and I value ur thoughts

[@gam5946]

Just bought clothing then I got a notification for this video. Thanks for reminding me of my coping

[@sxmvp]

I do at this point wonder why I bothered buying so many clothes to look good when I 1.) never go out, especially now that my ... "friends" (?) aquaintances (?) never have time anymore, 2.) I still despise the way I look and 3.) it's doing more harm to me (my wallet, thanks retail therapy) than good Also agree with the "my personality sucks" cope lol I always feel like I have to make sure to look as good as possible on the rare occassion I hang out with people so they'll hopefully be able to overlook everything else about me, like my akwardness, the fact I'm heavily insecure, actually ugly and most likely don't enjoy being there in the first place. Looking at the clothes I've purchased and piled up for exactly these occassions when it was looking like maybe I might be able to have a friend group after all (spoiler, didn't really work out) just depresses me at this point.

[@gemsoundscool]

good lord he's handsome

[@acharmlessman]

KEEP SAYING THIS GUYS!!!! HE THINK HES UGLY 😭😭😭

[@nobbytho]

im watching this as i miss a day of my university because i have been feeling miserable since last week and didn't do my homework, spent all the time just looking at various fast fashion websites thinking how should i make my purchase the best way so i can use the coupons i'll get from those next purchases, while i hate how skinny i am, and use the money on fashion instead of getting a better diet. so yeah

[@iseeten]

Love how especially raw you are in this video. I related a lot to what you were saying, both in and out of fashion, and have been taking some steps back and trying to see more clearly what all these forms of escapism even mean to me.

[@Mumshaggeroner]

This vids sarcastic lol

[@RLSteffler]

"I'm mentally eeeel" is a great slogan

[@littlesometin]

I'm a mental eel.

[@musclemus3um]

Yooo but those Eytys grey michigan boots look so therapeutic to wear

[@samsontheladle]

I'm watching cause you're calming, and also you're convicting me with the Cope as Avoiding Real Life Responsibilities thing. Fuck. Lol. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this :)

[@rainefisxher]

i just love aesthetics and all forms of art. i dont feel like its a cope and more of an act of self love, like showering or eating. on a deeper note, im trans and was forced to wear what my mother chose for me. now that im free, im just trying to enjoy my freedoms.

[@sarahsmith8543]

Coping with gender dysphoria! Fashion is one of the first steps when you’re transitioning for many I think, including me. I’m buying a shit ton of new clothes and styling them so that my feminine features aren’t accentuated anymore

[@Neonant-]

idk if your gonna see this but, ive been watching you for the past few days and your form of fashion content has really inspired me to actually take fashion content seriously. like the way you talk and share your ideas are done in a satisfying way-and it makes me want to share my ideas out there myself. i already made a fashion video a couple days ago that got a little bit of fashion beacuse of the low iq adhd editing style but looking back on it im starting to think on how dumb it was. im script writing for this next video but im still gonna keep my creativity and comedic content in there but this time i think ill voice my ideas a bit more.

[@NuurKal]

I watch you because you’re entertaining and provide useful informations :)

[@bigstunna2049]

The goodwill bins help me cope 😢. But seriously thanks fro making a video on this topic a lot of people need to hear this

[@skellexis404]

fashion is my adhd and anxiety treatment

[@moog5260]

good video, I thank you for it, I am sure it will help some people, or at least make them think. It's possible to come to an acceptance with one's issues though at some point and then fashion can have a healthier and lighter place in one's life

[@MoshHewson]

The fashion book by Matthäus Schwartz who lived in the first half of the 1500's, literally had self portraits of himself naked and how he used fashion to cover what he saw as his unsightly and ugly body, and you talking about your own journey resonated with reading that in his book, I have no idea if you have seen or heard of such, but you have a brother of fashion from 500 years ago and that's kind of beautiful to me

[@fashionelitist]

never read it but thats really interesting to here

[@lucaslimma6707]

Do you mind saucing me up on the black asics in the thumb???

[@pingeee]

buying clothes and shoes is probably the only thing that makes me feel happy, being able to dress in all black techwear shit makes me feel like less of a loser when i go out so i can spare being constantly judged by everyone, ironically it probably does the opposite lol but it makes me feel better about myself

[@snoppy17]

I got into fashion when I was 16 and I liked Rick, I got myself a pair, and then another, and then another. Then I had to take it up a notch, I bought tabis, and that's when I got worse. I got into ccp, and bikkemberg. And I now I browse grailed everyday hoping I can low-ball a pair of kiss heels, or maybe a CDG derby. I bought my first pair of geobaskets last week.

[@triptip00]

i'm expecting a fashion advice instead i got a life advice. 7/10. Just kidding really appreciate your videos! keep it up and looking forward for the next one

[@trymek9391]

11:40 hey may u please tell me what book is it

[@sonsauvage]

that first second will become a very useful clip

[@pepperey1986]

Hey what shirt is that at 4:18 ? Been trying to find something similar for months. Also you definitely are entertaining and its highlighted through your streams. People will watch you just to see you yap about anything

[@Bahaa_Edd]

Bro I'm not really into fashion but your videos make me question myself about other aspects of my life

[@cashmsc]

I think fashion is okay to use as a tool to distract from problems and give you something else that's fun and enjoyable to focus on, but to an extent before it's all encompassing and completely removes yourself from your feelings and such

[@Gladioul]

fashion coping is so 2022, i am now a certified tattoo coper 😎

[@perrikolmonen]

0:34 me with skincare products (i love cancer and chemicals)

[@Great_PatBingsoo]

You are entertaining bro. I like that you try to push the button on these topics without being just another fashion channel. I don’t always agree with your takes, but you do strike me as sincere and thoughtful in your approach to fashion and content. I disagree, also, that you’re coping. I just think you’re still trying to figure it out. And fashion or style is one vehicle for that self-discovery if done sincerely, which I think you hit on in a different video.

[@fashionelitist]

I appreciate that, I mean its a cope for me since im very insecure, and I use clothing to hide my physically form. Lifting was another way I sublimated my insecurities to hopefully form some confidence, yet that journey isn't always downhill. We ball tho

[@u142]

most normal and well adjusted fashion enthusiast:

[@plunderman9001]

So for me I got into fashion because today’s dating culture in the US is so bad and it’s hard to stand out. For the coping part I do use it because I am pretty hairy and I like to cover it up, but otherwise I think I am a pretty confident dude. I also like fashion because it shows people a part of who you are without having to talk them. It shows people what your interested in, so it can help find people that are interested in the same things.

[@attilaboda9881]

True, still, its cheaper to travel abroad to date women than buying high fashion items nowadays

[@ayokevin287]

​@@attilaboda9881😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@plunderman9001]

Fr passport bros.

[@SUB-IN-SUPER]

0:00 Not even one second into the video and he's me fr

[@cloudwav_9793]

i get everything this guy says i just was blessed with being broke back then so i never dived to deep into it i only use my old fashion ego for music videos, pictures or promoting, treating it like a character i sometimes play in private i only have a few basics that fit all together and i gotta say it was the best decision ever my mental health went up crazy after i flipped off fashion because in the real world, it really doesn't matter and that's everything the real „you“ wants to tell you fashion is not even a first world problem that shit is a 0.5th world problem looking good is simple if you take care of your body and mental health, because the people yall admire often don't have the cool clothes you want but actually the status that gives these clothes the meaning which you can't seem to find or create in your own life

[@Szamuraj_]

Next amaizing video, I love how you always give me space for my own thought. I only have one problem and it is ma bad english and always when i end watching i feel like i miss something important. Have nice day everyone

[@marynas8365]

Idk, I don’t agree, there are some good points, but overall everyone has different experience with fashion. Your style looks great. I think you got something positive from your coping.

[@koichinishida9901]

my fashion youtuber goat

[@p4n4143]

Really nice video, thanks I needed that

[@dwargonedragon794]

I don't know if it is cope but the main reason I started getting into fashion is to stop people seeing me as a kid lol. You see, I'm a bebe fezed turbomanlette and I realized how annoying being treated as a kid while doing adulty things was. I'm already out of college at that time, working as an engineer, so i have plenty of money to burn. Of course i got addicted and wasted a lot of time browsing, and a lot of money buying. But eh, there's nothing much to do anyway and I personally enjoy it so that's that

[@TheTurtlesrockz]

Outside looking in. Not a fashion person but can respect the people who do. I see a lot of young kids/adults using fashion to cope with. Consumerism has a tight grip on individuals.

[@gorex_xfiend420]

I FEEL SO CALLED OUT. I'm meant to be doing homework rn I've been read like a book ☠

[@Elian03999]

we watch you cause you’re real bro 🫡

[@vincentwachowiak4310]

bro I got into fashion/limited sneakers because I like to grind/have something that is difficult to get, its like a trophy for me, I never pay resell because that kills all the meaning for me. I have an awesome personality and are loved by my friends and wife, I sometimes watch you and simular youtubers just to know how is it going with people that share the same interest, thats it. Most of the times after watching you guys I leave wondering that how is everything become so depressive and doomed, but I myself dont feel that way at all, you guys forgot the essense of why you got into fashion, TO HAVE FUN! your room doesnt look fun at all bro, please dont use hobbys as escapism use it as fun and joy in your free time off dutys.

[@JeuneF]

11:30 what’s the book called ? 👀

[@gqk979]

Based Diablo IV Enjoyer.

[@jcheungtv]

Prepetually chasing the fashion dragon

[@fashionelitist]

chasing a chimerical dream

[@robertoreis1425]

This video is just awesome

[@cmp333]

Based. If you are looking for becoming better here's the priority you should follow 1. Mental health 2. Physical health 3. Finances 4. Bying that $5000 piece of clothing because you find it fun and enjoying and can afford it, not because you're empty inside.

[@HythamSaid]

I’m not even interested in fashion, I’m subscribed for the philosophy

[@renz2k]

this entire video just exposed my entire mask of fashion

[@MrPuff1026]

My issue is not hating my body as much but hating my face. Fashion can’t really do much with that tho.

[@namejheff5430]

Info on attack shirt ?

[@nobushitomoko8120]

1:44: I am avoiding taxes