Father Has Strong Motivation After Losing Son In War | SAS: Who Dares Wins

Number 11, Efrem, tells how he lost his son to the Afghanistan war, and proves that he has strong motivation to persevere the challenging days ahead.
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[@karl1091]

The moment he spoke about his son you see their guards drop. They're suddenly "normal" people again

[@mcj2967]

Was!?

[@John-X]

1:41 fuckenhell

[@davemufcwhitehead2863]

The brotherhood. That's why. He's the dad of a brother who made the ultimate sacrifice

[@karl1091]

@William Mills i know mate. I meant in that they have the facade for the cameras. But it was one of the rare "Fook the cameras" moments

[@karl1091]

@William Mills It does pal. You can just tell not staged and to be fair would take a very brave, or very stupid, director to say "Right lads...we want you to fake the response to be told about a fallen brother". But like the one with the Walt...where the cameras probably saved his life. As reckon Billy would have ripped him in half if not for them. If watch close, you see him get bounced off the wall on way out

[@rubenrodriguez6989]

I love that he ask his permission to ask how exactly his son died that's respect

[@John-X]

1:41 focken heol.

[@WolfbloodJakeWilliams]

It was more like giving permission to not answer. If a question is asked, you're expected to answer it; if the question is 'can I ask for this info' you're allowed to answer 'no, you cant'.

[@marcowatson848]

@Lord of Thunder Calm down mate, bit sad

[@carlhicksjr8401]

In any military training scenario, the instructor has every right to ask any candidate /trainee /recruit /whatever any germane question about their performance. Up to and including 'What the Hell is wrong with you?' It all depends on how the instructor phrases it. 'WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?!' doesn't need an answer. Trying harder and succeeding at the training task is enough. 'Trainee, what the Hell is wrong with you?' given in an authoritative tone requires an answer. 'May I ask what the Hell your problem is?' is tricky. If the tone is sarcastic, a respectful 'Yes, sir!' is sufficient. If the instructor actually means it, you can respectfully refuse to answer. HOWEVER, there are some lines that most veterans just won't cross. Digging into a wartime death is one of them.

[@TheZanony]

It's just part of it. If you're in the military, you won't push anyone to tell you about the death of their loved ones in service no matter how subordinate they are to you. They gave the ultimate sacrifice, it is not to be used as a training or selection tool.

[@michelle88960]

That man's son would be so proud of his dad. Respect.

[@Dragon-Slay3r]

We're on the airwolf helicopter 😂

[@Xtreme15O]

This man lives local to me, very nice guy.

[@Kobesquest]

Hans Gruber RIP to his son. Did you have the honour of knowing him?

[@letters_from_paradise]

I doubt he does.

[@mathildewesendonck7225]

Oliver Watts why shouldn‘t anyone live near him and watch him on YT? 🤔

[@IrubyyI]

bug in his hair lmaoo

[@twothreebravo2374]

Get the man a pint from me.

[@Redwarrior96]

"Was.." And with that they both knew what that meant without saying another word

[@TheZanony]

You can see it in their eyes

[@praetorxian]

Yup

[@nathangallegos9304]

Everyone knows when they have been in the service what “Was…”

[@p4cks]

he shook his hand at the end but they cut it from the show. the level of respect was unmeasurebale there

[@thejanusproject32]

How do you know that? was it revealed somewhere?

[@attackpatterndelta8949]

They didn’t cut it from the show. It just wasn’t in this clip. The guy VWed during an exercise called the sickener, and the instructors shook his hand when he left and said they were proud to have met him. They have a lot of class.

[@adriancarabajal]

I'm from Argentina, but I have to tell you guys, I respect the british soldiers, it's been a long time since 1982, my respect to you!!!

[@bayernandedlsupporter5480]

adriancarabajal fuck Argentina from Germany

[@davidmarchant9386]

adriancarabajal it was a long time ago n i hope the Argentine government will leave the falklands business behind. it causes bitterness with the citizens of nations involved, was u in that conflict?

[@domzbu]

David Marchant I doubt he is in the government mate lol, it was a nice gesture comment

[@isilencer8877]

The Falklands was a pile of shit mate should of never happened but respect to our troops who did the impossible to win. I can't remember the tactic but they speed marched across the plains an almost impeccable land and flanked the Argentines from the side they would of never guessed. Fucking inhuman

[@dazaessox]

lovely comment respect to you and your fellow comrades

[@nitroustitanuk3652]

you can see the pain in both their eyes when they realise what the he said

[@jesperberggren3765]

Love the language. No games, pure power

[@bw_l560]

October 2013 Lance Corporal James Brynin, aged 22, an intelligence Corps soldier attached to 14th Signal Regiment (Electronic warfare), was killed after coming under fire in Nahr-e Saraj. At an inquest into his death being conducted in January 2017, it was formally stated that LCpl Brynin was fatally wounded by a fellow British Army soldier in a 'Blue on Blue' incident. However, the soldier that shot Brynin would not face criminal prosecutions over the incident

[@parky5329]

Understandably

[@John-X]

I wonder how that soldier feels. I could only imagine the pain of finding out you killed a brother and not the enemy. The guilt is probably debilitating.

[@marknorville4192]

It was friendly fire in my days, however because of the yanks, we then started calling it blue on blue. However, the yanks killed a lot of our troops during the first gulf.

[@coreywilliams1454]

@@marknorville4192 Yanks still conduct BOB at unprecedented rates, A10s strafing recon patrols and convoys constantly in Afghan, yet their pilots were never investigated.

[@Connor-tz3rp]

@@John-X blue on blue is the sort of event which gives soldiers PTSD... I hope to god that the soldier that shot the Lance corporal by mistake hasn’t committed suicide. The armed forces are truly amazing

[@alvindurochermtl]

You can see the mad respect they had towards him in their eyes the last shot. RIP soldier from an ex Canadian Intelligence Branch soldier.

[@josephpeacock7974]

I was in Afghan at the time, for us it was almost the end of our tour, I remember hearing about this and remember the tannoy announcement “op minimise” when we was briefed about it nearly everyone in the regiments heart sank, it was never easy to hear someone has lost their life but as a result of blue on blue is a bitter thing to hear. RIP soldier, duty is done

[@KingKhan-dn5dl]

Joseph Peacock sorry to be a uneducated twat but is blue on blue an accidental friendly fire?

[@RealisticZeus]

yeah unfortunately

[@josephpeacock7974]

King khan yes it is mate

[@Kobesquest]

Herrick 18/19 wasn't it?

[@josephpeacock7974]

WADS yes it was mate. I was herrick 18 the the transition was herrick 19

[@Josh23761]

Both those special forces men have had mates who they lost to war no doubt, hence the pain in theur reaction is no suprise to me, news like this hits home for servicemen.

[@glennhosick1514]

@josh23761. Just giving you a heads up on your comment my friend. When a soldier's life is taken. A brother is lost to all who serve & Have served. Special forces included. As these highly respected soldiers! Are drawn from the main battalion's. Which make up the British Army. All brothers in arms! .....

[@thesouthfacee]

Ant had to pick up a blown up torso of an officer from a roof once. Foxy had to drag his dead mate to the extraction point for a kilometer or something.

[@newt7705]

a very brave man, all the best to you the SAS and your son.

[@designportal674]

No parent should have to bury their child.

[@jonleonard4031]

He wasn’t a “was”. He’s still grinning and marching with the lads....

[@zepro7058]

jon leonard -Great comment.

[@charliereader3462]

mk1990 k because there’s loads of evidence for that you waste of fucking oxygen

[@-KingDadBod-]

@1990m t I don't know what you are, but not an intellectual proud human being by least. I suggest doing some self learning, maybe you'd learn couple new things about life and other peole. So toxic.. So damn toxic.

[@pokeybloke7237]

1990m t You fukin prick!

[@thomasjones6216]

@@-KingDadBod- what did he say?

[@martingraham7782]

Massive respect to the father who lost his son in Afghanistan especially at his age to go on this course

[@dirkdiggler4667]

Hats off to this guy

[@iseenogoduphere8788]

The guy’s a true a warrior ❤️. His son died a hero & he’s got my respect. I love & respect the two instructors response to this gentleman heartbreaking story. You can feel the brotherhood or comradely in the room towards each other ❤️.

[@francessweeney2308]

He has got some balls, the instructors were right about that. However, the reason they pulled him to question him was because they were having a hard time figuring him out. Here was a man in his 40s taking part in SAS selection, he was holding his own and SAS selection takes it out of men in their 20 - 30s, leaving some laid up with serious injuries for months. However, if you listen to any of the commentary during the series, the presenter will tell you that passing "selection"; a lot mental strength is required as well being extremely fit. So this contestant who had lost his son in Afghanistan to friendly fire showed the instructors that he had resilience to keep going when things got tough. Unfortunately he didn't make it to the end, he made it about 60% through before being medically discharged from the series because of an injury.

[@3allz]

Its not just a "taster". Yes its a watered down version as they dont do multiple enviroments or techincal training with equipment but the phsyical and mental testing is tough enough for the guys to often say to the winner that they would happily fight along side them in the special forces. Do you even watch the show? They literally said it to the two winners of this years series.

[@loopingnoed612]

Shahed Miah I’m pretty sure after they completed it they then say you can potentially go on to proper selection and train on from there if they were accepted it’s a small part of what they do because they can’t actually show proper sas selection because of the brutality and security reasons SAS (the show) is a mix between army and marine with bits and pieces from sas but the proper course is months or hard training and your still not guaranteed to pass

[@adamc1arkk81]

@Shahed Miah to a certain extent

[@adamc1arkk81]

@@3allz YES

[@shadowxxe]

@@mathematics5573 I heard it also includes training to resist torture and the like

[@giga9955]

Son would be incredibly proud of him. Those small things of seeing where his so went and the things he did would be massive for him, stay strong mate

[@chris-cole]

Watched this whole series back to back. Certain individual stories just had me aghast at their courage and bravery. So sad that any Father should be there for those reasons. A brilliant, brilliant series!

[@chris2156741988]

Spot on Chris. In a time of rubbish TV (in my opinion) this series was a fantastic and compelling watch

[@fourlamb1]

Thank you for your sons life and him giving it. I'm sorry it went like that. Thanks to you too number 11.

[@LondonPride25]

I got some dust in my eye while watching this.

[@deadlykam]

Don't worry mate the dust is caused by those damn onion ninjas running around so fast.

[@Mtb-cp6gz]

I got sperm in mine

[@justjames1111]

What a Bloke, I relate to some of his story, and the thought of what he must have and still is going through and how he's dealing with it just fills me with so much respect for this man.

[@andiburns1213]

I loved this guy from the first minute. He is a real hero, no doubt. Was really sad to hear that story. I hope he is ok now.

[@acxezknightnite1377]

True bravery and honour. What a wonderful tribute.

[@musashi-san____1409]

The first episode of season 2 alone is better than the entire first season. Can't wait for the next episodes.

[@lordbelvoir2543]

Hats off to that bloke ....brought a tear to me eye

[@PacMann303]

It was good to see them not disrespect him for it

[@borismuller86]

Sir Banastre Tarleton why would they?

[@buchan448]

@James Roper 100% agree pal

[@finnley905]

Why would they?

[@augustalexander2647]

I second Boris... why would they lmao

[@shaundstone]

How could they? Are you mental?

[@blondeandchatty7842]

What an amazing father. Much respect to him x

[@paulburkhardt1469]

That broke my heart. I could not comprehend losing my son.

[@benmacklin3884]

This man is a legend. Well done

[@clair233]

Bless this man and his family ❤

[@davemacdonald3889]

Incredible.All of them.🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧

[@cousinbillybob3224]

Every time I watch this clip, it makes me realise sometimes you just have to do what you feel is right....

[@Leo-xh5sj]

Me and my brother were fighting in a small village in Croatia (1991). Our convoy split i was going with part of my troops to the capital of Zagreb but my brother had to stsy in the vilage and protect it untill the 126th division (which had morr and fresh troops) came in the village. at 26 of July my brothers convoy was under attack by the chetniks and the yugoslavian national army. That fight was 3 weeks long, my brother, after the village had fallen, he was captured and tortured in a abandoned school and later he got killed, before he died he even wrote me and my parents a strong letter which made me feel terrible, he wrote that we should not worry and that he will be back home soon but unfortunately that never happend, we have been waiting him for 4 years and at the end of the war we got informed that he has been lost in war 4 years ago and that news shocked us and changed our lives forever. Now we are back happy again and trying not to think about the past but looking Tomrrow..... Dear Dario you will never be forgotten i hope you atleast live a good life in up there, god bless you...

[@Itzsniper21]

your brothers very brave

[@Leo-xh5sj]

Charles Reeds Hairline thank you

[@lion1368]

Za dom

[@jackfahy2283]

RIP

[@hashtag_thisguy]

So much respect for this guy.

[@RINGO-KID]

Total respect to that man for doing attempting the course , same age as me , but twice the man .

[@FWM4Ever]

Bless his heart. His son would’ve been proud.

[@Alexander-cw7hf]

Big respect for father.

[@greatwhite775]

Brave man. Respect to him. Son is a hero along with his dad❤

[@lyfewithpiglet582]

The fact that when they looked at him they saw a "weak old man" but once they heard his motivation they realized this dad has a drive Noone will be able to stop. Rest Easy young man we have the line

[@al1356]

I don’t even know the guy and never will, but he is an inspiration my upmost respect for him.

[@ninjasrose1653]

What a remarkable man.

[@mondachewon2873]

Touching. God bless you dad

[@pure_awareness]

Hard times make seriously hard people to bring down, motivation like that is impossible to beat. I know when I had a hard time, it's like I was utterly fearless, hard to explain.

[@nathansugden9332]

What an absolute gem that man is 👍

[@danielmcleanfisher]

This is incredible, a really man and father

[@pickleslilly4916]

God bless these guys and girls and may your son rest in peace

[@PaulMiller-ix1ni]

Hero,brave beyond belief

[@paulgray7014]

Respect! Brave poor bloke

[@DianaKazimiera-]

Respect SAS 🕊️ Absolutely fantastic motivation... Who Dares Wins Good luck for all 🕊️🤝

[@skindan1055]

Honouring his son, amazing 👏

[@pickleslilly4916]

God bless all of them

[@jayprivate825]

What a man. ❤

[@ApexTraceur]

Just spent a weekend camping with Efrem - absolute diamond of a man.

[@cprrful]

I met a family member of the man next to Pat Tillman when killed. It was very heartfelt, and I can't blame troops of the ground whatsoevr.

[@timp1390]

I love the grin at the end. Respect

[@organicmechanic5150]

Although old mate will never read this comment. Thank you for your son's service. My uncle was severely paralyzed after being thrown 35 metres from a black hawk helicopter when it crashed. He was SASR and 2CDO, Platoon Sgt and lead the exercise, he lost his entire squad in one crash.

[@TheChefShipwreckinAlaska]

They went from looking like interrogators... to concerned fathers when they heard this man speak of his son dying in a war.

[@pythagoreios07]

My deep respect.. (From Greece)

[@clintenpritchard8073]

Great fella, hope he has some peace now

[@JennyfaninSweden]

His son is proud of him!

[@Wadaryu1000]

Respect. Lest we forget. RIP.

[@TherymasterWidnes]

Utter respect.

[@Axel1051]

That is mental strength.

[@Loukious]

You can see their guard drop. This was no longer some guy on this show. This is a father of a fallen brother in arms. They were probably quietly cheering him on through the whole show while putting him through the wringer

[@zeb3144]

You could see they both had real respect for him.

[@Labgorilla]

I so wanted him to complete the course.

[@Theemptythroneistaken]

Man that was very deep!

[@scandiifps5230]

The command of him not letting him have the band in his possession is almost so respectful in a complex way

[@tonye7509]

Ant, you're a fuckin gentleman my friend. Respect to you and your comrades for everything you have given to our country. To the gent in front of you, I'm sorry for your loss. Your a proud father that is obvious although I'm sure my word won't make your loss any easier. Be strong my friend.

[@jackflanagan1985]

the way they ask permission how he passed is beautiful ...

[@RoadRunnerMeep]

Blue on blue must be the worst kind of death to hear for any soldier. I imagine the mental trauma of a solider killing their ally has caused a lot of guilt and PTSD

[@jimbobhk2009]

Even though it was deemed an accident the dad still told the soldier he had blood on his hands. He probably feels bad enough.

[@eugenesagan212]

That dude looks like Leonidas.

[@OverTheTopDM]

As someone going into the Int Corps, this opens my eyes to the fact that there is a potential danger in every role, there's not a lot of info on that regiment to be honest (with good reason) but this helps

[@Dutchificationable]

Alfie Lawrence In any role there are risks.

[@til_valhalla16]

so many cases of supply and logistics folks being KIA whilst on a supply ops and stuff... literally any role in the military there is not a guaranteed "safe" role

[@OJoRob]

How you get on?

[@mokkefuhua9928]

As soon as they heard the word ''was", that when they knew his son is killed in war. It pretty heartbreaking

[@neil5006]

Great man 👍

[@allardbiggenvanger3480]

I would love to see the full episodes and this entire season.

[@Frank75288]

piratebay

[@NoBody-ht1oh]

An amazing man

[@endofdays5945]

I would so love to have a go at this.

[@nigelmorgan3449]

They respect each other

[@kristy-lou8762]

I wish they showed his son and had a tribute dedication somewhere even a picture for him.

[@cybermemes9057]

Efrom is my best friends uncle :)

[@Modders1866]

Beautiful

[@chelamcguire]

Respect.

[@lawrenceagnew3972]

Wow hope he made it

[@jamiew1664]

wow. respect.

[@stihlextreme9357]

Exactly that! People greave for years and years and never manage to move on… This guy has titanium balls! Respect!

[@MSDS777]

"Same socks..same mapbook"...bloody hell...just...bloody hell

[@wecamefrommarsirl9654]

Love you all

[@sebvds8366]

James Brynin went to my school in steyning and a new building was built which was named after him

[@adamc1arkk81]

mad lad

[@ekulda]

Very sad the suffering. Why participate in wars which is really stealing others resources.

[@chrisjeans7950]

They knew the story already.

[@thejanusproject32]

Anyone know what happened after this to Efrem? did he pass the course?

[@broken98100]

I do wonder when jason says "ive been involved in blue on blue" if he was on the op where Tyler grey was blown up?

[@Hortu]

There voices and eyes softened after hearing his story . Imagine how strong god is knowing every single one of ours

[@jhm9898]

Does anyone know the name of the piano music at the end of this?