Father's Attempt to Distract Mother at Marathon Finish Line

[@OGfromQueens]

Someone said this was a physical representation of how men use kids to try and slow women down... And I agree

[@lovelydeath04]

Oh, completely!!!

[@catcoffee7958]

True look at smart young ladies they always fall pregnant just before uni or a good job

[@afgyhujkj4765]

THIS!!!

[@fortyshorty2459]

Perfect great analogy!!💯🎯

[@elainethompson6514]

🎯 🎯 🎯

[@msj793]

Weaponize incompetence: my exhusband use to let our baby cry historically when I was studying for a test when working on my masters. He would pretend he didn’t know what the baby needed. Y’all🤦🏽‍♀️ that divorce was the best decision ever.

[@moniquej369]

Good for you!👍🏾

[@healgoth]

🤩child neglect🤩

[@Genesisorgin]

Men are the biggest haters I can't what level of pettiness is this? Yet we call women petty next level manipulation

[@moonshineaudios5740]

@@ManiyaVinaspeople lie sneak and cheat to get what they want. Don’t play dumb now.

[@jenster29]

​​@@ManiyaVinas yeah she was probably told to lower her standards and stop holding out for a high value man. Bet she learned not to listen to the manosphere dudes and pick me's anymore

[@Ms_Introvert_4_Life]

Even the man running behind her looked back at the husband a couple of times... That spouse is wrong. Another man said that she could have stopped to pick up her child and cross the line with her. I don't think so!!!

[@talkingtochapri]

Because males know other males really well. He understood his intentions, that's why he hugged her.

[@leeroyjenkins05]

Men will literally protect other men regardless of their actions. That man is going to do the same thing to his partner.

[@Flamingmarshes]

They wanted her to lose the race so they could get ahead.

[@AutumnAprodithe]

She should marry the dude who was happy for her.

[@eveelee4152]

If she did the they will disqualify her right then and there and he know that smh

[@beepbopboop7727]

Don’t you think its crazy that women help men get promotions but men stop women from achieving their accomplishments.

[@justme2272]

They're diabolical.

[@faith6575]

And the funny thing is that they greatly benefit from the women’s accomplishments, and the women do not benefit from theirs, unless he’s generous and a good partner, which is rare.

[@venamoore98]

Not exactly. It's their nature.

[@jayogee913]

They treat us like this because too many of us tolerate or even reward such behavior. Normalize leaving at the FIRST red flag or incident of sabotage. No time for that.

[@Prismatic9008]

This is why I don't trust ANY of them. And they're even worse when you work with them. Don't let one be jealous or gunning for your position 😬

[@blyndeaf8503]

The fact her put his kids in possible danger just for the CHANCE of sabotaging her success. Truly disgusting…

[@anebiz]

There was a motorbike on the road.

[@EnhancedSimplicity]

That Part! 👌🏾

[@B.Harper7]

@blyndeaf8503 Effing this!!!! I would be SCREAMING moveeeeee!!!!! Why the fck ate you going to let your children into a marathon lane? Sir, not one person will slow down to allow them to ruin their race time, when they can have attention mere fking MOMENTS later. Ugghhhhh, that asshole dared to have his hands up in a "what the heck" with a screwed up face. How fcking dare you sabotage your wife's LITERAL win that she trained and worked for!!!!

[@B.Harper7]

And if you seriously think any other runner would think twice about shoving them off the road where they won't get trampled OR run over, think again LMFAO When people are running marathons, they literally shit and piss themselves; you think they're stopping for someone else's random ass kids, with a moron acting as their guardian????? Not a chance in hell. He's lucky that it was only his wife and another runner, they could have put her at risk of DQ if the kids fcked up other people's times.

[@KelceyGovan]

Men do this every day when they refuse to financially support their children in efforts to stagnate the mother. They are diabolical beasts

[@ButterflyBree]

I'm not a runner but I know several women who are. They take their races and training seriously. He's a POS. He absolutely tried to sabotage her race. He also put the children in unnecessary danger. 😮😮🤯🤯

[@faith6575]

Facts! And he sure did!

[@B.Harper7]

@ButterflyBree Yup, I'm sitting here thinking about the fact that a TON of marathoners will go to the bathroom as they run, no stopping 😅😬🤮 They ARE NOT stopping for the safety of some randos kids! They've been training for months- a year, this was deliberate sabotage on fcking camera. I hope he feels the shame of his actions, and she gets a sitter for her next race 🙄 She can't trust him and she will be thinking about it the whole time if he and the kids are there. Those kids could cause her a DQ at worst, and end up as collateral damage and really hurt at "best case of the bad" scenarios.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

l believe so too

[@xletragedyx]

​@@B.Harper7 I bet he's so mad it's on camera

[@Darkstalker1012]

@@xletragedyxHe can be as mad as he want to. He’s the one who looks like the imbecile here. If I were him, I wouldn’t DARE show my face ever again after that little fiasco. Props to the mom for doing her thing, and for winning that marathon 🥇🏃🏾‍♀️💨💨💨

[@mekialovedat]

I asked my ex to watch our daughter every day after he got off work for a couple of hours so I could go to the gym and he refused. Mind you I was 230+ pounds. He left me and now I’m less than 170. They really do love to sabotage us.

[@ClaireGreen-wd2gm]

Congrats on your accomplishment queen. I can't even get motivated to try losing 20 lbs.

[@mamat1213]

WOW! His daughter!!!

[@emmadilemma7800]

Girl, this dont get talked about enough. You always hear these guys saying they dont want a big girl, no man wants a big wife. But these men be out here sabotaging women from going to the gym. Like my own ex would catch an attitude every time i would go to the gym and he would give me flack for eating healthy. Use to tell me "i dont want a girl who's afraid of eating a burger."

[@cindychristian1700]

I once saw an Oprah show where this wife and mother of two was trying to lose weight. Her husband was on the show, he was also overweight, would bring home cakes and pies to temp her! Oprah asked him why since he wanted her to lose weight too! He said so he could see if she really was serious about losing weight and to build up her willpower! 😳

[@gabriellehanks6850]

​@ClaireGreen-wd2gm Keep trying sis!! Losing weight is like leaving an abusive relationship.. It takes most people several attempts before they see success!!💛💛

[@turnthepage867]

Only a narcissist pushes his kids onto an athletic field during the competition.

[@B.Harper7]

Yup, a lot of these people have pee and excrement running down their legs, they aren't ruining **months-years** of hard work for kids on the race way! Not to mention the motorcycles and scooters of support staff and camera crews!!! What a freaking IDIOT of a father, that's not a man; that's an overgrown middle school bully who hasn't lost the audacity, just his hairline.

[@NikkiSummerAesthetics]

Exactly narcissists MUST HAVE the spotlight

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

And if those kids had got run over it would be his fault. He's a terrible father🤬🤬

[@legslikewhoa]

He wouldn’t do that at one of his stupid football games or golf.

[@Darkstalker1012]

Fr, with his grimy ahh..😒

[@MackerelCat]

This is why we must resist any legal and political attempts to complicate divorce.

[@crestfire8008]

If divorce is made illegal just don't get married

[@EnhancedSimplicity]

@@crestfire8008 YIKES trapped forever

[@crestfire8008]

@@catxtrallways no problem. Males can mandatorily marry each other. Problem solved

[@dianaprince3176]

@@catxtrallwaysTHIS

[@UseYourVoices]

Resist? Fight like HELL, you mean. Don't get married and you'll never have to get divorced.

[@stephe1506]

The fact he doesnt even follow over with the kids immediately AFTER she wins to celebrate speaks volumes too

[@AK47_Aki]

THAT PART!!!

[@a_noelle8595]

Absolutely!

[@rosethorne9155]

He absolutely did NOT want to celebrate her!!! And I promise you he was back there muttering to the daughters that their mom was too busy for them and that it was okay, he'd talk to her. AFTER he had encouraged them to meet her IN FRONT OF the line.

[@Stormcrow-dc3ez]

Yup, too busy getting a cob on and planning some nice venomous statements along the lines of her being a shit mother, he being some kind of modern day hero for even deigning to watch his kids, and won’t she just get back in her box already…

[@DimaRakesah]

He should have had his kids "run with her" off to the side or something so the kids could feel involved or whatever but not let them loose to get in her way!

[@juanita_rocksteady2761]

He absolutely did that crap on purpose.😡 You can see him pushing the kids out there, then looking confused when she runs past them. He would be served with divorce papers. A true partner celebrates with you.

[@ThandoNdlovu-zr3ld]

Agreed Melanie Hamlett did an excellent video about how some men propose to their female partners while they are completing a marathon or at the end of it because they want to take attention away from their partners success.

[@joylastname3035]

Yeah! It's not like he was holding them and one got away. That's very irresponsible behaviour on his part.

[@justme2272]

​@@ThandoNdlovu-zr3ldso demonic.

[@juanita_rocksteady2761]

@ThandoNdlovu-zr3ld I never thought about it that way! 🤔 But you're correct. Why would you propose at a time when it's supposed to be her moment to shine?

[@atomic66]

What. The. Duce.

[@rgirl1243]

Did you see that he look annoyed that she didn't stop for the children, he didn't look happy for her?

[@pigeoness22]

I guess he wanted for her to stop BEFORE the finish line, hug the kids, maybe even spend some time with them and then finish the race. What a moron.

[@queenreg7]

Oh yeah. Ex husband called himself “helping” me study for the bar exam and was more hindrance than help. I passed anyway.

[@comkver]

Yes, exactly! The way he lifts his hands all exasperated wth look is what does it for me.

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

​@@comkver he looks like a evil villain saying grr my plans are ruined

[@leeroyjenkins05]

​@@queenreg7Good on you, sister! Men will literally sabotage you in every way they can

[@Tanaka1168]

As someone who's dated a narcissist, I can tell the man thought of exactly 3 things: 1. If my wife stops for the kids, we won't have to celebrate her victory tonight, and I get to play good husband by comforting her through a loss. 2. If she doesn't stop for the kids, I get to pick a fight on the ride home, so we won't have to talk about her victory. 3. If I get chastised or the kids get injured, I get to blame my wife for not stopping, and the limelight will shine on me instead of her victory.

[@aleksandrac9335]

This 💯

[@rosethorne9155]

Also think of the triangulation too...now he gets to tell the kids, "Well, mommy was too busy to stop for you. But that's okay. Daddy loves you. Let's go get ice cream and meet mommy later, okay? When she's not with her other friends." AKA, him setting them up to see her as the unloving parent, and himself as the good parent...so he can both seem like a good husband outwardly AND he gets to turn his kids against his wife, so he can use them against her...

[@bellavega8048]

BINGO

[@pokemont9989]

@@rosethorne9155yep triangulation

[@Lifeishard237]

Literally. As long as he doesn’t have to praise her he’ll be happy because that’s too hard for a narcissist and he wouldn’t want her to try to run another one.

[@missyjay3878]

She dodged tf outta them kids like 🏃🏽‍♀️. I love that for her.

[@l0111]

That was the best part. She saw the trap and said FTK and that jelly a*s husband 😂

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Right! I love she let nothing Stop her shine😹😹😹🥰

[@UseYourVoices]

F them kids! 🤣

[@theroguey1]

And she didnt look back after crossing the finish line either! 😂

[@SuckerPunch92]

She did 😂😂😂

[@cpproduction325]

A girl I met in nursing school had this loser boyfriend. She was Armenian…he was Black. He barely worked and drove her car & lived in her apartment. He was always dropping her off at clinical right at the wire. Three (3) tardies, you’re out of program. Repeat more than two (2) classes, you’re out. Students could NOT be late for clinicals. The evening before finals, he left HIS sick 1yr old child with her. Mind you, he was not an active parent to begin with. He went out with his friends to do poetry. Yes, he was an aspiring poet. That was his half azz job. She came to exam late and frazzled. Those exams are obviously timed. She came out in tears because she did not complete it. She failed and had to repeat the class. She had to graduate two semesters later due to rotation classes are offered. She left her mother’s home on bad terms because her mother did not approve of the guy, baby, underemployment, living together…the entire mess. I’m older…I told her that her mother loved her. In spite of their differences. I advised her to go to her mother and humble herself. Apologize…tell her you need to come home to get yourself together and to finish school. Your mom wants the absolute best for you. She return to the safety and solace of her mother, completed her program, and is a SINGLE rockstar labor and delivery nurse.😊 I was married at the time. My husband was quite needy. I would stay at a hotel two days prior to my exam to study and calm my nerves. I knew not to leave it to chance. It is okay to have something for yourself!

[@genevieve7676]

You are wonderful for helping that women fix her life.

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

Ty for guiding her

[@StrawberryCakeStudiosYT]

You’re a smart cookie for doing that 🎉💖

[@RRonco]

Yes! It is ESSENTIAL to have something for yourself!

[@Genesisorgin]

This is how we look out for each other I'm going to university soon and if I see this pattern of behaviour in any of my friends boyfriends I'm calling them out on it this is ridiculous men are the ultimate haters and manipulators

[@bbills4186]

He was trying to Harrison Butker her by showing her what her "true calling" was. 🙄🙄 She dogged him and those kids, lol.

[@AutumnAprodithe]

I'll never understand why Men behave this way. Shouldn't you be seeing her accomplishments as your accomplishments as well?

[@AutumnAprodithe]

And all the men will whine that she cares more about winning than her kids

[@crestfire8008]

@@AutumnAprodithe males care more about winning than their kids. I don't see a problem

[@beepbopboop7727]

Like a true mother

[@RhaegarTargaryen1st]

And didn't look back! 😁😂

[@numbness97]

That woman is a great example of not letting men and children stop you from reaching your goals.

[@BurbNBougie]

So true!

[@manifest2203]

Yes but it’s hard for most women. The life set up is not the same for most women. But I agree with you that she is awesome though.

[@mpazinambao2938]

Good for her.

[@gabrielblacklock3921]

If you aren’t willing to sacrifice some of your personal goals for your children, you shouldn’t have any.

[@blossom1290]

​@@gabrielblacklock3921take your advice to men, and you'll don't need women right?so why are you here commenting to women

[@lily942]

She won first place and he was the first one to be unhappy with her. Isn't that crazy? SMH

[@GearsWeNeverUse36]

I don't think she won, to be fair. They were putting the tape back in place for the next runner too. I don't know what the event is, but 1:40 isn't usually good enough. A fast local half marathon to me (run in far cooler conditions, and likely flatter, this could be mountainous) had a winning lady at 1:20. Not that any of those makes his behaviour any better.

[@manifest2203]

Look at him just opening his hands as if he is surprised. He isn’t happy she succeeded.

[@Greatyoutubehandle]

@@GearsWeNeverUse36 She did! At least the text in the video says she is the champion, and then says the next lady is 2nd place.

[@peanutboxes4076]

@@Greatyoutubehandlethe man she hugged was second place.

[@Greatyoutubehandle]

@@peanutboxes4076 You're right! I completely forgot about him. I skipped around looking for the title cards and skipped right over him lol. But there was that one guy right behind her.

[@Hopdog230]

The finish line is right there. Why not walk past the finish line. Literally a couple of feet away.. and you push them in front of the finish line. I’m sure there are other instances of him being a hater in the marriage. He doesn’t support her really. He’s resentful and trying to dull her shine.

[@mamat1213]

This this this!!!! They could have celebrated on the other end!!!

[@Tee-Star]

That moment of victory is hers, not even the kids'. Damn!!!😢😢

[@ChantaBrite]

He didn't even have flowers or anything for her. That's another clue he's just a hater.

[@loosilu]

Can you even imagine how much he must have tried to sabotage her training?

[@loosilu]

@@ChantaBrite Flowers, a blanket, gatorade, anything? Nope, HERE'SD YOUR KIDS, I'M TIRED OF BABYSITTING THEM

[@marissa1616]

My ex randomly started fights when I was working on my final exams for university, and when I was preparing to interview for an amazing job. When I earned my degree and later when I got the job, he minimized my accomplishments. Several months later, he started another random argument when I was negotiating a promotion and great salary increase, which I also accomplished and he belittled....hence why he is my ex. Men trying to sabotage the success of women is a real thing. I think many men are parasitic by nature. They need a host. So, they don't like independent, financially-stable, accomplished women. They want women to be weak and needy, so we have to depend on them. My ex also lacked a degree and he was earning minimum wage. So, I think he felt threatened because he did not have the accomplishments that I managed to achieve.

[@disabledbabe]

On the day of my driving test, my boyfriend at the time started stressing me out, telling me I will never be a good driver and telling me what I was doing wrong as I drove his car to the SAAQ. Everytime he said something, I would press the horn and he eventually shut up. To his utter disbelief, I passed my test, needless to say, when I got the chance to run away from him, I drove away like a madman.

[@moniquej369]

Bingo! Most men are selfish, needy creatures. Everything must revolve around their wants and needs. It’s very annoying.🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

He did. Manbabies don’t like successful women because successful women remind them of their mediocrity and laziness. They like to take the path of least resistance because they’re lazy. They’d rather try to drag you down to their level than put in the effort to rise to your level.

[@vector3d654]

No they want an independent and smart woman only to leech off her energy and break her down

[@loosilu]

Congratulations for getting right of that dead weight!

[@queenlovek]

Oh he tried to sabotage her accomplishment. He's her biggest damn hater. He intentionally used the kids to stop her shine. I'm glad she ran past and completed the race. He would have been on the other side of the finish line if he truly supported her. He's big mad that she took her well deserved moment. Good for her 😊

[@AutumnAprodithe]

He did because he didn't scold the kids he kept watching her puzzled wondering why she didn't stop.

[@CitySlickerButtKicker]

At the risk of his children getting hurt just to sabotage her accomplishments, so he could feel more manly, so yeah... boil it down. He put his kids at risk so his masculinity isn't compromised, but he did just that... effeminated himself far worse

[@jessicascoullar3737]

Did you see him holding his arm up in a ‘wtf’ angry motion that she ignored him? How hard would it have been for him to stand on the other side of the finish line, but no, this is a definite attack.

[@loosilu]

I bet one dollar when they got home, he expected her to make dinner.

[@AutumnAprodithe]

@@loosilu Yet I'm told having a man is better than a cat.

[@dharma6481]

He had to push those kids out there because the literal toddlers knew better than to run out into the race. He was trying to ruin her achievement. Since she dodged his sabotage you know he’s going to berate her all week for “hurting” her kids by ignoring them.

[@joylastname3035]

Yep! He'll make it all about the kids.

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

She should turn it on him & say well what idiot pushes/uses his kids towards a busy road & threaten their safety??? He'll make all types of excuses.

[@louhortonsculpture]

Yes!! Beyond horrible thing to do to your children! Making them choose between which parent is right.

[@rosethorne9155]

⬆️⬆️⬆️

[@FantasticBooo]

Exactly "hurting the kids"

[@sonja4164]

On top of the attempted sabotage and/or lack of awareness/incompetence, he literally put those children in harms way. They could have been run over by a marathoner or that bike easily.

[@pigeoness22]

Yes, he is also bothering everyone else.

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

He doesn't care

[@jessitabonita]

Not to mention that this may become a core memory for them, villianizing mom. ALL HE HAD TO DO WAS MEET HER AFTER THE FINISH LINE! 😤😩

[@sonja4164]

@@jessitabonita yup smh

[@ruthmchuwen]

@@jessitabonitaabsolutely, men do this a lot. Cowards

[@justacutie5201]

He wanted to remind her that she's a mother and wife before anything else.

[@AutumnAprodithe]

She's a human being before anything else.

[@AnneSaluppo-t2p]

That is precisely what the message was.....he got checked. I'm so proud of her! Now, her next big celebration should be divorcing that Loser🤡

[@jayogee913]

Women have been fed the diabolical lie that engaging in sports and athletic challenges will bring them enjoyment and happiness! 👿🤣🤣🤣

[@val6189]

🤢 🤮

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

He wanted to interfere with her self achievements and the attention She was getting for winning and on top of all that put their kids in danger to do it all🤬🤬

[@Prismatic9008]

Omg YES. It's like he said "forget about your accomplishment. Your REAL accomplishment is watching these kids." It's giving me the same ick I got from seeing that idiot give that cringe graduation speech. I wouldn't talk to him for a week after this smh and those kids could've gotten INJURED!

[@pigeoness22]

So true !

[@EnhancedSimplicity]

She needs to divorce THAT

[@Prismatic9008]

​​@EnhancedSimplicity Sure does! There's no telling how many "subtle" ways he's communicated that he hates her. Omg and I just rewatched it and saw how he reacted when she ran past them & he stuck his arm out like "what was that?" Yep he's a pos

[@briana14333]

I just don’t understand why he couldn’t be on the other side where she actually finished?! 🤬

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

Divorce, babes, divorce. 😌💅🏼

[@Breevis29]

He said yea, the marathon is all cool and all, but don't forget your only worth is being a mother. That man is stupid. He put their kids in harms way. What if she and the others couldn't stop in time and topple over them?

[@IndomitableAde]

The man she hugged at the end will be the first guy she dates after she leaves her husband 😂😂😂

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

Yeah, she needs a teammate not that flabby deadweight that she is married to.

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

Girl I was thinkin the same thing 😂

[@Shaytan.666]

Even he was happier than that stinky used sock

[@FantasticBooo]

😂😂😂😂😂 hell yes

[@sunmoonrising81]

Me too ..he lost to herbut was genuinely hugging abd congratulating her...

[@amberinthemist7912]

This has been my dad my entire life. And he would have pulled me aside for a hug, stopping me from finishing, letting people pass me and then when I'd complain he was holding me back he'd shame me for needing accolades or achievements or records instead of him being proud being enough. He did the same to my mother and older sister until they were completely dependent on him for life. He's like a blackhole for women. He wants to be surrounded by accomplished women so he gets admired by other men but doesn't want to treat women well so he has to hobble them so they don't outshine him. I have always been more comfortable making him unhappy and at nearly 50 have almost completely cut ties. Thankfully I did not get tricked by one of these types in marriage and my husband is an actual teammate to me.

[@pigeoness22]

It is all about them.

[@talkingtochapri]

Same with my father, but he is not that extreme of a loser.

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

Im so happy you peeped game, escaped & your living your life to the fullest ❣️

[@leeroyjenkins05]

Same with my father. He is my mom's and I's first hater. He's the blueprint of men I avoid in life. Piece of shit, I swear. He's a deadbeat loser and he wants us to be the same.

[@AutumnAprodithe]

Why didn't you just disowned him? You keep him in your life, you involve him in your life. My own father was the same way. That's why I never involved him with anything.

[@talkingtochapri]

This is a visual example of "behind every unsuccessful women, there's a man behind it" 🤭💀 i am glad she continued. Kids will get love and attention at home, everything has a time and place. She didn't even look back, i guess she is very used to husband doing this shady stuff 🧐 and she knows what she has married.

[@AeriaGl0ris]

As someone who runs half-marathons, what the actual F? I swear, too many men are so insecure they'd throw a tantrum if a bird looked at them sideways.

[@juanita_rocksteady2761]

I burst out laughing at this! But you're right. They're so d@mn sensitive!

[@Ella-g2m]

That's why road rage is such a thing. Men get their ego hurt by normal traffic interactions and throw a violent mantrum in the middle of a roadway while operating a lethal weapon.

[@Caseinpoint1777]

What a hater 🙄

[@l0111]

Yup! I know a hater when I see one!!

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Yup!💯

[@alariel85]

The way she didn't look back after crossing the finish line... yeah she's fully aware what he tried to pull

[@manifest2203]

I thought so too. She is used to this. And look at him just opening his hands as if he is surprised. He isn’t happy she succeeded.

[@booth4one611]

I looked up the rules of a race. Husband was out of pocket. He was definitely trying to sabotage her. No pacing or bandits. Non-registered individuals may not accompany racers either on-foot or otherwise along the course.

[@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol]

I’ve actually run a full marathon and can say with my full chest, at the end, you don’t want all-a-dat! Like why? I trained 16 weeks straight to run 26.2 miles. It’s no punk. Why would he do that!? To be SEEN! The babies run the risk of being fallen on by anyone running. See me after the line. ✌🏾

[@TippyComeHome]

This isn't "weaponized incompetence," this is "Passive Aggressive' anger.

[@404Miiks]

This infuriates me. She worked so hard and he couldn’t handle the kids for a few more minutes. Come on, man. Then, when it’s brought to his attention, he’ll be like, “what?!” 🙄

[@EnhancedSimplicity]

Or say she's making something out of nothing...

[@user-br3ty9rt1m]

Yep. They always gaslight…they know what they’re doing.

[@joylastname3035]

I recall a comment that said this is a physical representation of men using children to hold women back. In 1 min tops, they could have been hugging on the other side of the tape but no, he just had to do that.

[@notoriousMAG]

This. It's your turn, Sir, to parent Our kids.

[@louhortonsculpture]

Yes he’s doing more than that, the kids feelings are hurt that she ran past them, and even if they aren’t, man will react in a way that indicates they should feel hurt by her running past them. He can use this incident to “prove” to his kids that mom doesn’t love them.

[@D.I.V.A.Journey3758]

Like whether they were her kids or not, the absolutely STUPID fact that he put small children in front of runners has me at a loss for words!!!!! Like WTF???!!!!!🤬🤬🤬🤬☹️☹️☹️☹️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Bri-q2k]

He definitely wasn't happy for her. The effort she put into getting in shape after having her babies and still going after her goals. The jealousy is sickening! She didn't even have a chance to celebrate her win before hugging her babies!

[@sherienichol1580]

I now understand what my grandmother said over 30 years ago. “ Men will be with you and be jealous of you at the same time.”So be careful!

[@ras-nts]

He’ll be shocked and offended! Now she’s got to go home and deal with his bruised ego.

[@moniquej369]

Exactly! And he’ll try to downplay her accomplishment by making her feel bad about not stopping to hug the kids.🙄

[@louhortonsculpture]

Yes, his ego and manage the children’s feelings so he doesn’t succeed in turning them against her because that’s something narcissists definitely do.

[@UseYourVoices]

I bet she won't. I bet she'll tell him to go spit after that win.

[@JosephineArmstrong-l1u]

💯🎯🎯🎯

[@vangu2918]

He'd get the finger.

[@briolivia]

What scares me most is how many of them hide their insidious intentions behind pretending to be oblivious. I'm glad we've started to blow their weaponized incompetency covers. They love doing hateful things disguised as "loving gestures" and getting upset when you don't take the gaslighting. He knew EXACTLY what he was doing. If he didn't ruin her chance at winning, she'd have to potentially repair the relationship with her children, because he knew her ignoring them might hurt their feelings. He's playing dumb so the children can side with him, bit the adults nearby know better.

[@imacoolmom4893]

R

[@danabryant6138]

The weaponized incompetence is astounding

[@nothereyetlost]

Is this not more like weaponized intention?

[@ellegmye]

This isn't an example of weaponized incompetence, this is a clear and deliberate attempt to sabotage. Either that or EXTREME thoughtlessness.

[@atomic66]

MALICIOUS

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Exactly💯

[@dianaprince3176]

I know what the OP means. If she verbally checks him for doing this shyte, he’ll get all dramatic and say she complains about how everything he does is wrong in her eyes, etc etc

[@InHisService772]

And he will literally play dumb when he is confronted about his behavior. Disgusting 🤢

[@OrontesRM]

nah worse: he'll make he feel guilty

[@tashibalampkin8555]

I remember my mother was doing school work and she made it very clear unless I was dying or the house was on fire, don't bother her. Which makes sense. Kids need to learn the ability to give parents space.

[@Allmindsonme]

And don't forget, this isn't his first f*ckup on her day. He probably overslept, having her getting the kids ready in stead of relaxing and mentaly preparing herself. I'm sure he was last in the car. I'm sure he wanted to stop at the drive trough for breakfast because he couldn't do that at home since he overslept. I'm sure she instructed him what not to do and he did it anyway. Ask me how i know 😒

[@DianaPrinceitiswhatitis]

She needs to file for divorce immediately after crossing the finish line. He did this on purpose! She is in first place too! Sabotage is abuse and hate. This why there’s a 4B movement!

[@loosilu]

First place!!!! he tried to sabotage her time. What a freaking anus.

[@madalice5134]

This reminds me of Melanie's videos about men who sabotage their partner's marathon finishes by taking attention away by proposing at the finish line and other stuff to steal the spotlight from her achievement.

[@justme2272]

Narcs want to get praised and they're very demonic in nature.

[@coast2coast8306]

Divorce him - her biggest hater

[@litachi7224]

Asè

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

(I also said this in another channel, but Imma say it here too): Let's review the possible outcomes of this scene: 1. There could have been many runners coming in rushing to the finish line and the kids could get trampled. 2. There is a motorized vehicle behind them and the kids could get run over. 3. It was a downhill stretch of run so she also has downward momentum, that if she had stopped abruptly, she would risk injury to herself. 4. The mom picked the kids up, thereby injuring herself and losing the race AND be precluded from other races until she recovers. 5. She would run past them (like she did in this video), being mom-shamed by the internetz, her kids feel rejected, and they now hate her. THERE IS NO GOOD OUTCOME to what he does, then why did he do it? Because he hates her. He hates her accomplishments, he hates that she is fit and cool and has cool friends, he hates that she has a hobby that keeps her away from being his beholden maid, he hates that she is good at it. HE HATES HER. Verdict: divorce, babes, divorce.

[@Nat-mw3bz]

10000% CORRECT!!!

[@CharlieApples]

If the wife of a male runner pushed his kids onto the track and “accidentally” cost him seconds on his finishing time or even cost him the race? There’d be no sympathy for her, none of this “Oh I’m sure she meant well” or “What kind of father doesn’t stop to hug his children?” Or “Women are dumb, they can’t help it, don’t blame her”. There would be ZERO defense for her. Nobody would be giving her the benefit of the doubt. Nobody.

[@trustmaker1014]

That's what I've been saying! The double standard is REAL

[@tori.doe.]

Yeah…moms usually don’t have as much as we should have outside of our kids as is. This was her moment and it would’ve been sweet to see those babies greet her on the OPPOSITE side of that finish line. She would need to keep moving her body after that run so picking up kids should not be her first thought. This was so thoughtless on his part. Congrats to her!!

[@BurbNBougie]

So true!

[@Queenofthatank]

This is what I've been waiting for someone to mention hopefully a professional trainer, coach, athlete, ECT will bring it up soon heck I just might do it myself

[@martibee8984]

I heard they jog across the finish line to a slow stop so they don't jar their body. Their legs can give out, and muscles will cramp up. She actually could have been injured had she stopped suddenly because her children were on the track.

[@Breevis29]

My ex would keep me from studying with my shipmates for our rate. He said it was keeping us from spending quality time and working on our relationship. An hour a day, five days a week was hurting our relationship. No, not the arguments, or the belittling and name calling, definitely not the cheating. No, it was me studying with my shipmates.

[@Biiku_]

Old sailor here, same. Especially since all of my coworkers except maybe two were men. And after the test, they all went out to drink and I had to go home because: fragile male ego.

[@missinterpretation4984]

He’ll start a fight w her about it and all their surrounding support system will side w him. We have to not accommodate this behavior in real life too.

[@sORrYiMLaTe_wHAtdiDiMisS]

Later on it's an argument for her reaction because he's used to being the centre of attention in his domestic life.

[@Demthorshie]

Good on mom for not falling in to the trap. She skirted dem churin' 🤣🤣🤣

[@juanita_rocksteady2761]

🤣🤣🤣

[@AnneSaluppo-t2p]

🧡😭😭😭

[@TheCakeIsALie-1]

She couldn't stop abruptly even if she wanted to. That was dangerous AF for dad to do

[@sORrYiMLaTe_wHAtdiDiMisS]

​@@TheCakeIsALie-1 He should have been reprimanded by one of the organisers on site, that could have been dangerous for others still running to the finish line.

[@fosta4243]

That’s a man that doesn’t support his wife’s accomplishment. Who wants to bet he’ll complain she didn’t put the kids first, when this was for her? Also, adding as a past long distance runner, you get tunnel vision and jelly legs when that last clear stretch comes into view. You’re not looking at the side trying to figure out who’s where and those kids could have tripped her up or the other runner and also could have been hurt. Bud could’ve done his parenting part and moved 20 something feet so the kids would see their mom cross the tape and her big win and celebrate with her. Much better memory. Guess dad didn’t want them to have front row seat for that 🙄

[@AutumnAprodithe]

A woman is a human first, a wife and mother second. I'm happy to see the woman celebrating and whooping after the race instead of running to her kids.

[@martibee8984]

I was curious if he really didn't realize the danger he put his kids in, or if he didn't care if they got hurt.

[@louhortonsculpture]

Good point about the tunnel vision!!! I think she just registered them as obstacles and not as her kids. If a safety issue all around, she can’t stop abruptly either.

[@beansandrunning]

​@@C12341it was not a marathon, look at the time😅

[@kikidevine694]

She could have fallen and injured herself

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

He knows wtf he's doing 🤬🤬🤬🤬

[@sORrYiMLaTe_wHAtdiDiMisS]

Of course he did. It was actually about him, she was stealing his thunder. He's probably used to her undivided attention. SMH.

[@annemarz]

l am so glad she didn't stop or slow down for them. In order to run a 1:40 half marathon pace, let me tell you, she was not training for weeks or months, but has likely been training for YEARS. The way she skirted those kids you can tell she knew he was going to try to pull something. Also, some races have strict rules that prohibit crossing the finish line with non-competitors!! Not only could this have slowed her down to the point of giving up her lead, but she could have been entirely disqualified! People train for YEARS to shave off seconds from their times and this could have completely ruined in an instant. And let me tell you, if you've ever done an endurance event, you know by the time you see the finish line you are so tired and pushing through so much physical pain that you want nothing more than to cross that line and enjoy that moment. I cannot imagine someone I love trying to put literal obstacles in my way to get across that finish line.

[@1_ATA]

Exactly all this! I’m mad she had to process the scene to then skirt around the kids because I know that added time to her could’ve been clean finish

[@MMM-z2d]

He also probably was just done "babysitting" his own kids for almost two hours. She probably did not even get the chance to rest after the marathon.

[@nopenallnull]

Divorce him. I'm sick of these males.

[@sORrYiMLaTe_wHAtdiDiMisS]

You sound so done with them 😂

[@BurbNBougie]

​@@sORrYiMLaTe_wHAtdiDiMisSShe really does😂😂

[@unknownunknown5822]

Yeah same

[@leluseven]

I don't mind my male cat!

[@Ella-g2m]

Right? Dump the bitter guy's ass and marry that guy who hugged her, he's a keeper.

[@fayepatrice1672]

The way he released those kids directly into her path 😢 I can understand if they broke free but he is the one who aimed them right at her. Diabolical

[@lindadewese6754]

YAYYY!!!! A woman put herself and her needs ahead of EVERYBODY ELSE, and the world keeps turning.

[@Biiku_]

No plagues or fires either. Huh. 😅

[@MarsMellow84]

Did u see the look the husband gave when his wife ran past the kids!? He just threw his hands up in the air like he's the disappointed one.

[@Opinionatedboo]

That dad will immediately tell the kids - look mommy doesn’t love you. Here on after, when she needs to run to practice, the kids will throw a fit. They will make it very difficult to go do her own thing. This is him ‘punishing’ her because he had to he a dad while she ran! Seen this all too much!

[@FireSilver25]

I’m so proud of her for staying focused! That trash husband was probably sabotaging her the entire time she was training, too. This was really triggering for me because soooo many people tried to do this when I became successful in any way. I’m so glad social media is holding him accountable. Especially for endangering those kids.

[@pigeoness22]

How dare you run, woman ! You should watch the kids ! I am speechless. The fact that he choose to stand with the kids before the finish line tells it all.

[@I8Spiderella]

Even her competitor was like wtf , and then he gave her a supportive hug. He was probably like bro your husbands a jerk

[@martibee8984]

How much do you want to bet that the husband complained about their hug the moment they were alone?

[@RAJOHN-ke7mc]

She's a woman and he respects her so I doubt he calling her a bro

[@martibee8984]

@@RAJOHN-ke7mc calling a woman bro isn't necessarily disrespectful. There are women who call each other bro. He probably shouldn't call her bro if he doesn't know her like that, and definitely not if she doesn't approve though.

[@OO9O9]

​@@martibee8984would you call a male friend sis?

[@martibee8984]

@@OO9O9 I didn't call one sis, but I did tell him he was like a sister to me. He is a feminine gay man though, does that count?

[@mine332way069]

Comment section you never fail me. I'm so.glad she dodged the kids and made her time! Love that for her

[@kiernan415]

He did NOT like her being the center of attention at all. I feel like part of him sabotaging her marathon was to re-center himself in that situation. Like she was supposed to stop for the kids, but he looked like he was ready to swoop in with a hug or some sh*t like that to look like the hero. If he "allowed" her to cross the finish line, the attention would remain on her no matter what and he couldn't have that. infuriating!

[@emmadilemma7800]

Honestly says a lot that her competitor was the first to hug her and celebrate her accomplishment. 😮 Smh. 😒

[@TamaraAWhite]

He just couldn't wait with those kids behind the finish line. She needs to give his ass the side eye. He IS the red flag.

[@beepbopboop7727]

She would have not come first if she had picked up those kids.

[@juanita_rocksteady2761]

She may have been disqualified, too. He wanted her not to win or be disqualified. He knew exactly what he was doing the a-hole.

[@beepbopboop7727]

@@juanita_rocksteady2761 I didn’t think of that but yes, you are correct

[@racqueldillon3560]

During my bachelors capstone, the last assignment was to be completed in a simulation. We had log in on a specific day at a specific time to do the work. I logged in and the late ex narc watched me log in and started an argument. I failed the capstone. I had to pay $2000 and redo the whole course. I drove to the school lab every week and finished the final project in the lab as well. I was able to graduate with my cohort. Left him a few months later and got my masters too.

[@briana14333]

Yayyyyyy! Good for you and congratulations 👏🏾🥳✨

[@praisehircine6125]

If a woman did this to a man who was in first place and about to pass the finish line, guys in the comments would show her no mercy.

[@trustmaker1014]

That's exactly what I was thinking.

[@GAshoneybear]

And it wouldn't be any "He's a bad father for not picking up and carrying the kids to the finish line" foolishness.

[@Phayrone]

I am just now realizing that men purposely try to trap women. I was so confused when my sister's boyfriend was apologizing to me for ruining her life (she got pregnant). I was looking at him like he was crazy because why would you think that her life would be ruined? I don't know about you but we might cry for a bit but then we move on. I looked at him funny from that day on, especially since he attached himself to her (and me since she lives with me), for 5 YEARS, he didn't pay a bill, buy a grocery, a soap, toothpaste, NADA. I paid for everything. My sister was trying to get her life together, we started a business together, she's going to school, tried to get him to go to school so they can build together, he went one day and that was it. He thought he could bring her down, but I wouldn't let her fail. We FINALLY got rid of him, she finally saw her worth.

[@Eris00i]

Thank you for not giving up on her and sticking with her through all that

[@Rice10120]

He was ready to send those kids back to their momma. He looked after them for a whole 2hrs.

[@Kwahzutah]

What a trooper he is lmao

[@recklessmermaid]

My ex boyfriend would ghost me, literally disappearing for several days, or randomly go silent and stonewall me EVERY SINGLE TIME I had a win with my music. The relationship ended after ten months when he skipped an important band practice and ghosted me a week before my first paid gig in my home city 😒 I was starting to get wise to the pattern, the way he always dimmed my bright moments with his “random” moodiness. When he ghosted me and bailed on our band when I needed him, I just let him go. 👋

[@AndyyWithAY]

This was in my feed, but I haven't seen it yet. Mel talks about this all the time. Men trying to hijack women's accomplishments. A marathon is an enormous achievement. I think this was all his doing and it was from a bad place. Even when you're a marathoner, you're just a mom 🙄

[@Egress00]

The way the other runner who saw that looked back at them twice in disbelief?😭 The sheer audacity of her husband

[@MarsMellow84]

3 kids too!??? Yeah, he definitely baby trapped her.

[@Traytriunetheomnist]

that was so dangerous for the kids

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

That demon endangered everyone there

[@louhortonsculpture]

Wow. This is exactly how narcissists turn their kids against the other parent. I hope the mom is able to explain to her kids that she would have been seriously injured if she had stopped to hug them because of momentum and not being able to stop abruptly. And I hope the kids understand. What a horrible thing to do to your kids. They have to choose between believing one of their parents is the bad guy at those ages, they are so little.

[@Ogletort]

Funny how the competition celebrated her accomplishment more than her own husband

[@ReinaAfricana]

I hope she divorces that man because that was dangerous. I'm a formal runner and there was quite a few times kids got ran over and suffered concussions or fractured bones. Even though I never won first place. Anytime a kid was trampled I would run up to the kid take the kid off the track place the kid with the nearest adult supervisor of the race and continue. This happened way too many times many years ago. I'm starting to think that this happened because their daddies wanted to sabotage mommy. So far I've seen several children get trampled so I'm blaming the fathers on this. Just to see this again is wild.

[@manifest2203]

Look at him just opening his hands as if he is surprised. He isn’t happy she succeeded.

[@cpproduction325]

Your children are not your ENTIRE life😢 You’re surly not theirs😢

[@widget0028]

Theyre so insecure that your success feels like their failure

[@ohbooyourselves]

There was a dude saying the wife was 100% in the wrong and "If a race is more important than your kids..." I HOPE he was being sarcastic

[@b.w.6535]

I'd turn it around on them "If stopping your wife from achieving anything that doesn't revolve around you is more important than your kids...."

[@BurbNBougie]

I’m sure he was being serious

[@briana14333]

Wow. Like the kids were dangling from a cliff or on fire and she ignored him. Zero logic with this lot

[@siennavine81]

That person is dumb. It would be fine if the husband was the one doing the marathon and put the race above his kids. She’s not allowed to do that. 🙄

[@user-kpkxgtj]

*A lot* of them are going to say that, and they will be dead serious too.

[@LJinx3]

That runner is me dodging society’s expectations of marriage and kids 😂

[@minniecash4500]

I feel sorry for the kids that they were put in the middle of this madness.

[@devnessa4764]

It’s bad enough that he did this and I agree with everyone else’s sentiments, but what agitates me the most is how his actions will reflect on her with her kids. “Mommy you didn’t stop to give me a hug” Now her kids feel slighted when they should have been at the other side waiting and would have received all the love. Instead of teaching them boundaries and how to support their mom when she’s got something important going on, he’s teaching them that they’re entitled to interrupt her and that she has to make them the center of attention whenever they so choose to demand it. I’d bet the millions I don’t have that the kids were likely upset and he probably said ill things about her to them. These men really need to get a grip.

[@b.w.6535]

So many men are literally unable to fathom that women are people and not walking sidekicks. I played an online game with a dude and chatted with him a few times. He wanted me to move (kids included) from one of the lowest cost of living cities in Canada to the highest (you literally need a 250k down payment to get a mortgage kind of high cost of living). It's 7100 kms (about 4400 miles) away. I don't know anyone in that city. Why? So that he could take me out on one date to see if we clicked.

[@OGfromQueens]

😐 They are so dumb and illogical.

[@OGfromQueens]

How the fu@k can you ask someone that with a straight face!!

[@martibee8984]

He had alll the audacity, and none of the sense.

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

They are made of entitlement and audacity.

[@AyAReI00]

Did You SEE the underlayers of his nastiness... HE KNOWS VERY WELL You are living in a low cost city but want You to move to a high cost like telling You with the same vibes soulless people tell homeless "why don't You Buy a house then You Will be homeless" ... And Even if You have the money to do it, less Say You have that possibility, he is implying You doing all that work is ok, but not thw other way around ... He can not fanthom getting inconvenience by the idea of stopping his life to move to give a try. You Will think he is joking but no, i meet a dude like that, i think he was evil and no dumb, i don't go thought life infantilizing men .... I know very well men are not as dumb as they want to pretend they are with women

[@Franciscaharrison1978]

Shame on this man for trying to sabotage her victory and putting his kids in danger. Shame , shame on this horrid man!!

[@nnn9854]

The other man that was running behind her even looked at him weirdly.

[@Ayami861]

Mama said, skee skurrt!!! And I love that for her❤

[@wellknown1204]

Nah, for real tho, she is like "I dont know them kids"😂😂😂

[@l0111]

For real though. I’m so proud of her 👏🏾

[@briana14333]

Yes lol!!!! She was focused👏🏾🏆

[@Amethyst454]

The dude doesn't even care about the safety of his kids. I'm way too paranoid about kids' safety to have allowed this. And I'm not a parent. I just have this crazy belief that kids should be protected from possible bodily harm.

[@ellaarkin70]

It looks like the on lookers on the side line near the father was looking at him and probably asking why did he do that… because he looked embarrassed…

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

These demons don't ever think about the repercussions of their action

[@venamoore98]

I didn't recognize this as a red flag at the time, only afterward. But two months into my last relationship, my ex and I jogged around the running track in a park by my house one day. He got upset when I ran faster than him and didn't struggle as much. It didn't matter that I was in better shape than him at the time. All he cared about was that I as a woman, who's supposedly inferior to him, was better than him at something. I dismissed the incident at the time but when I broke up with him nearly two years later, it haunted me. It took awhile for me to realize that I had been conditioned to accept mistreatment due to the abuse and neglect I experienced during childhood. If I'd recognized that red flag now, I'd walk away. A lot of men who intentionally sabotage women like this are total narcissists. They absolutely can't stand not to be the center of attention. Other men like this are haters because they've been told from the cradle that they are better than women. When women outdo men at something, they can't deal with the cognitive dissonance. It's like, how dare this woman be better than me?

[@haileys5371]

We've been running races since pre-school... Everyone knows to wait after the finish line.

[@emms6724]

We need to thank who ever filmed this because they really exposed him.

[@Alwaysontime11]

Right and evidence for the girls when they are older to see their Dad is cray, can just imagine the gaslighting he does smh.

[@LUX_8]

Most likely a half-marathon. With that said, I would have ran past my children, afterward explaining how selfish their father is.😊