Feeling fearful during menopause & how to overcome it

[@anitabentumwilliams8039]

I am in this chapter of menopause and the fear especially with the kids very true and all sorts of death ideas is just so real and it’s even worse in this pandemic. But what is helping is playing gospel music and reading the Bible, it really calms me down

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Anita Great to hear that you have found something to help you through the menopause :) Best Wishes Eileen

[@cyndieK1]

Oh my gosh I'm dealing with this now. I'm 51 and I'm absolutely convinced something's going to happen to my husband and I'm going to be a widow the rest of my life. I constantly feel like I'm in a flight or fight mode. Panic attacks haven't left the house in months can't drive I had no idea menopause was going to be this bad. I was just expecting hot flushes and night sweats.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hope this resolves quickly for you, but it might be a good idea to speak to your doctor, who may be able to give you something to help you through this phase. Best Wishes Eileen

[@mayrasierra1880]

This video brought tears to my eyes. Im living that misery and I get so disappointed at life 😔 - It is not fair for us, women, having to experience all these weird feelings at this age. Thank you for your video, Vogel, you couldn't describe it better. A lot of people I know think Im a hypochondriac and no one really understands what Im going through. I have not been myself or happy for the past 4 years. Thank you again for your videos.

[@itsmebethd2653]

Mayra Sierra hun I am going threw this right now, I truly understand all of what you wrote here.

[@theresaz8026]

Same here 😢

[@lateshawilson203]

Yes..i just started getting symptoms a couple mths before my 46 bday..panic attacks..sleepless nights..sitting on Top of the air conditioner vents..foggy brain..reflux from hell...this is really the pits

[@SweetGirl-ym1sv]

Mayra Sierra , same here my dear. Is so wired

[@mariafe6771]

I thought i'm the only one who's feeling this way!😓😓😓

[@marvanewborn2287]

I KNEW SOMETHING WAS WRONG! IVE BEGAN TO HAVE ANXIETY WHILE DRIVING, CONSTANTLY LOOKING AND FEELING PANIKY WHEN I SEE CARS BEHIND, BESIDE OR COMING UP IN MY REAR VIEW/SIDE MIRRORS! IVE "NEVER" FELT THIS WAY BEFORE AND THOUGHT SOMETHING WAS GOING WRONG WITH MY MIND!😰 I COULDN'T UNDERSTAND OR ARTICULATE WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME!😳 NOW I UNDERSTAND!😌 Thank You.😅

[@beatricequist6978]

Same here. Did you find a solution to it?

[@marvanewborn2287]

@@beatricequist6978 , YEAH, I "STAY IN MY LANE", FOCUS MORE ON ONLY WHATS AHEAD OF ME AND PRACTICE DEEP BREATHING TECHNIQUES WHILE DRIVING! ITS HELPED.

[@beatricequist6978]

@@marvanewborn2287 thanks for replying. I am having same issue. i hope it gets better. I can share my personal contact so we can connect. i need to get over this

[@eax7eax732]

I’ve been suffering with this one for the past 4 years now...it’s just terrible and people just don’t understand how draining and worrying it is . Thank you for all that you do Eileen ❤️🙏

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi You're welcome! Yes, this is a really horrible one in the menopause and can really affect daily life :( Best Wishes Eileen

[@NJItalianGal747]

No ppl dont get it

[@lilpickie1420]

Yep, I don't even want to leave the house, or only want to go certain places. Also, lack of patience makes me like that, too. I just want to be in my own environment where everything is my way and just right. Thanks for clearing that up, lol

[@NJItalianGal747]

Omg m2

[@jessie9653]

@@NJItalianGal747 me too🙋

[@georgiethepittie775]

This video came out 6yrs ago?! Where was I??? I needed to see this so bad. ❤

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hope everything has resolved now for you Georgie! Best Wishes Eileen

[@marinaribeiro5781]

I'm very overwhelmed today it's like my body changed gears into another mode low confidence and self esteem extremely tired all the time and anxiety. Thanks for the tips💙

[@loriejoy6832]

thank You for making me aware of this !!! I am 49 and first began menopause when I was 31, ( copious amounts of hormones were administered to yank me out of it). I've found the past two years if my life have been gravely affected, "the mere ability to do ANYTHING"!!! this IS 100% contrary to my natural personality !!! I feel like I'm sinking and NOBODY understands. so nice to hear I'm not alone and loosing my mind !!! menopause IS and HAS stolen years from me...

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Lorie, good to hear that the video has been of benefit for you.

[@peggysullivan5396]

Lorie Joy 31?!!!!!

[@jessie9653]

Are you feeling better

[@meganl.5650]

I am so glad I found your channel! This is all such useful information. Fear and anxiety, belly fat and insomnia have been awful! And I just hurt all over and always feel exhausted.

[@rosalindhampton24]

Yes Megan! I call on the Lord a lot now! Neva been so prayful SMH... I never been married But!, I think it's time! Lol😵😵😵

[@kimhall5357]

@@rosalindhampton24 Hello, Why do you need to get married now? I am not understanding.☺️

[@josie_mary]

this reminds me of my best friend a few yrs back, she suddenly had panic attacks and couldn't drive alone anymore, she was so independent and adventurous before.

[@KMichel]

Aha and hoorah! for some clear answers...no one talks about this..I mean, no one. I'm feeling so inspired and simply 'okay' to have found you. Thank you for sharing your expertise in such easy terms to understand!

[@AvogelCoUk]

Great to hear that you found this helpful K! Best Wishes Eileen

[@theresaz8026]

Me too I can't drive alone, and I m feeling sad and fearful.. it's hard thanks Vogel I've always watch this to relax my mind and think in that one day its all gone

[@AvogelCoUk]

You’re welcome!

[@jessie9653]

Yes me too🙋

[@alpana1950]

Excellent explanation of the horrific situation a menopausal woman undergoes ! Thanks a lot. Love and respect from India.

[@cw1265]

Thank you so much for your informative videos. I started getting frequent heart palpitations that were different from the usual anxiety triggered ones (racing, irregular and skipped beats) and feeling fearful about everything about a month ago. I thought I was losing my mind but now I know. Thank you!

[@AvogelCoUk]

I’m glad you’ve has some reassurance from my blog. As always, if your symptoms persist or get any worse, you should consider going for a check up with your doctor.

[@cw1265]

@@AvogelCoUk Many thanks Eileen. Yes, I plan to see the doctor later just to be sure but the palpitations have lessened greatly after following your advice to cut out caffeine. I guess all the stress, caffeine and flu medication I was taking at that time didn't help with the already crazy hormones. Take care and thanks again.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Great to hear that your papitations have lessened, but please do see your doctor if this continues. Please feel free to email [e-mail] if you have any further questions.

[@nataliekelly8890]

Totally feel this one! I'm menopause doubled with bipolar and depression and turning 50! Thankyou x

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Natalie, if you have any specific questions/symptoms that I may be able to help with, please email [e-mail]

[@tillysanders2593]

Thank you for this crucial information.. I have suffered with terrible panic attacks and anxiety since going through menopause and although it improved with time and CBT -- I still constantly worry and am fearful about everything daily and have been like this for 5 years. It is no way to live life, it has been hell. .. I have suffered with terrible panic attacks and anxiety since going through menopause and although it improved with time and CBT -- I still suffer constantly with worry and am fearful about everything -- and i have been like this for 5 years. It is no way to live , it has been hell. I was once fearless and now fear everything and drive my family nuts! With breast cancer in my family my Dr. Was reluctant to offer me HRT and of course, I have been too afraid to try ?!

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Tilly, unfortunately fluctuating hormones can exacerbate some of the symptoms you describe, but with time, we would hope that they should start to calm. Our product Menopause Support may be an option for you, but considering your family history you should check with your doctor first if it might be suitable. www.avogel.co.uk/herbal-remedies/soy-isoflavones/ Other calming herbs such as our AvenaCalm may also be helpful for you during this time, www.avogel.co.uk/herbal-remedies/avena-sativa-avenacalm/ as would be contacting your doctor regarding some more CBT if you feel you need some further support.

[@localwalker5696]

Suffered terrible with this felt that everytime I got in the car to drive I was going to have an accident ,it lasted about 6 months then gradually went

[@abubillalabdella878]

Social anxiety phobia talking to friends

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hope my tips are helpful for you

[@charmainwhyte9848]

yes i have it most time just thinkin like somethin bad gonna happen to and thinkin about dead and i keep havin these blood rush in my head

[@maryawino5322]

I feel the same too, afraid of EVERYTHING and nothing, afraid of news of death 😭 and I have blood rushing in my head and heart palpitations

[@jenniferwilson9579]

This really is the worst symptom, ugh!

[@iman_lazim]

Omg!! I'm exactly in this position now for 2 yrs😔 Cant drive dont leave house and fear of dieing😭😭

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Justice Hopefully some of the tips above will help but if you find it very difficult to leave home then maybe look at therapies such as EFT or NLP. These can teach you how to deal with your fears and give you some control of your life back.

[@iman_lazim]

@@AvogelCoUk Thankyou I will definitely look into it. Ive seriously lost all hope of living. Sooo many symptoms 😭

[@AvogelCoUk]

Please let us know how you get on.

[@ivymae65]

i get the fear of dying omg it's a terrible feeling

[@carolwright9336]

Im having these feelings too😢

[@hydrangea8696]

I agree this is really difficult for every day life disruptive and so scary!

[@hydrangea8696]

My panic and fear today is wondering how I can attend my daughter's dance performance as I will have to drive and be amongst a lot of people in a theatre.. I can't let her down.

[@hydrangea8696]

Mollie Burd Yes I did thank you !

[@studiolisa2524]

Just can’t deal with anything nowadays or if i worry about something i’ll get an ocular migraine . I missed 6 months of period and then got one last month. The thoughts of doom are horrible

[@AvogelCoUk]

I do hope thIs eases soon for you and that my tips are helpful for you Best Wishes Eileen

[@ezmealstravels9221]

Wow! This happened to me when my teenage kids started jobs, I was afraid I'd never see them again if they left 😔. They're now adults and I'm finally finding out what happened... thanks for this informative video. God bless 🙌 🙏 ❤

[@AvogelCoUk]

You're welcome, glad to be of help! Best Wishes Eileen

[@leslynharris7628]

Thanks. after listening to you. I'm overcoming this fear

[@AvogelCoUk]

Great news Leslyn. Please let me know if I canbe of any help in the future - [e-mail]

[@pennyc7064]

Yes so true! I feel even worse when having migraine episodes.

[@dotlynjones8355]

It put fear in me.how long it last menpause i hate it

[@Jo-hf2rj]

My health anxiety is through the roof!

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hope these tips help Jo. Best Wishes Eileen

[@peggysullivan5396]

At 45 I was a size 4 looked young felt hot then bam at 47 went to shit I was youngest of all my friends in menopause! Always had good blood pressure now on pills out of nowhere gained weight from it , bags under eyes, hair brittle I look like I aged 10 years it sucks . Causes depression I miss being in my early 40s! I can’t believe it makes me depressed and due to bad hereditary cancer and heart diseases I can’t take HRT

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Peggy I am sorry to hear that you are struggling through the menopause. Have you had an extensive check up with your doctor about your symptoms? Other health issues such as low iron, poor thyroid function, low vitamin D and Vit B12 can often appear in the menopause and all can cause symptoms similar to the one’s you are experiencing. It may be an idea to ask your doctor to test for these just to rule them out.

[@jennifercampbell6468]

May god contnuie to bless you with encourage ment word of hope to go on thank thank long life god with give you for women in menupause

[@zoemilinkovic]

I have a fear of feeling fatigued, low moods and feeling low energy...

[@cathyabrahamse1929]

Hi, No one understands its dibilatating and all this fear im experiencing started for me when my daughter of 18 went on a waiting list for open heart surgery. Terrible anxiety, panick attacks, But one the phobias are taking over can anyone please tell me if they have phobias taking medication, Its medication as simple as a head ace tab or antibiotics,my mind is telling me im going to get terrible side effects,i was never like this before my kids think im mad,and i look at myself and i say are you going mad. Another one is food phobias too. Please is there anyone that suffers with this. Ive had menopause since the age of 39 im 55.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Cathy I am so sorry to hear that your struggling with this, it's such a difficult situation. Have you looked in to CBT, EFT or NLP? These are all therapies where you're taught specific techniques to help yourself when things are difficult - they can be very effective. Just Google for more info on these and how you can find local teachers. Wishing you well Eileen

[@itsmebethd2653]

I have this as well what in the world I never knew this was all menopause related

[@annieenriquez9353]

I get mostly my fear driving and walking,and thinking I’m going crazy

[@justinepage1773]

Yes menopause has change me from how I use to be..a happy laughable person .now i constantly tired ,can't focus as I should , palpitations mainly upon awaking, feeling fearful , wanting to cry,feeling to be alone, difficulties to sleep ,wake up at night & c'ant go back to sleep , tremendous amount of pain & stiffness in my legs ,lost of muscles in my tights etc ...this is the worst I feel at this time .pls can you give me some advice on herbs that I can use to help balance back my hormones .thx you

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Justine Please email me directly with details such as your age, when your periods stopped and if you are on any prescribed medication for anything, where you live and I will be happy to help Best Wishes Eileen [e-mail]

[@amandaroper1297]

Can you help me also ?

[@katjalexandra]

great info, thanks !

[@nicolabrowning7700]

Exercise helps by boosting other chemicals......

[@drusillacole3270]

I go to work come home and can't leave the house the days I don't work I don't go anywhere.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Drusilla It is really important that you speak to your doctor about this; for some women the hormonal fall can be quite severe leading to fear or even agoraphobia. Your doctor may be able to offer you a course in CBT which can help you to get your control back. In the meantime hopefully the tips I have given can be of some support for you.

[@camilebennett8315]

God bless you and keep you safe

[@AvogelCoUk]

Thank you Camile! Best Wishes Eileen

[@amandaroper1297]

eileen.durward...how did you manage your menopause? Hrt? Phytoestrogen?Diet?

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Amanda It was lifestyle and stress management for me! I realised early on the being stressed/tired/run down, not looking after myself or not resting enough triggered symptoms so I just tried to look after myself as best I could. I took, and still take, supplements and herbs such as our Menopause Support (which contains phytoestrogens) to help out when needed. Best Wishes Eileen

[@amandaroper1297]

@@AvogelCoUk I have a phytoestrogen cream that contains red clover black cohosh and ginseng. How often should I use it every month? My periods aren't regular. They can come as early as 18 days and they've been as late as 45 days. I have regular menopausal symptoms on a daily basis

[@annamarysylviaafrancis6036]

Very informative

[@patriciapyper4617]

I get that it is really scary l am in post menopause on evorol Conti patches I do suffer from bad anxiety sore muscle joints and neausa

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Patricia If you're still feeling all these symptoms whilst on HRT, it may be an idea to speak to your doctor. They may be able to adjust the dose or change you over to a more effective one. Best Wishes Eileen

[@puffymuffin9064]

Thanks Eileen light end of the tunnel

[@AvogelCoUk]

You're welcome! :)

[@ethelbentancourt2233]

Blessings

[@jennifercampbell6468]

Thank you very much god bless you for your video it really help me to lean more the menupause. You may feel more better in myself about life i put god in front of my life with prayer. Am take the Estroven and the evening primrose oil that help me some time with that thing and may myself be happy a frist i was feeling. On happy. But the god for your video have a bless night

[@jennifercampbell6468]

I mostly feel the hot flast in my back and pain in my chest some time not all the wild and my heart beat fast what can i do to stop the pules beat fast am waiting for your comment on the three massage send you please and thank god bless

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Jennifer, glad to have been of help!

[@jessie9653]

Can you take ashwagandha for a long period of time? Or is this for short term relief?

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Jessica Some sources say that it can be taken for up to six months but this may depend on the brand and how strong the daily dose is. Best thing to do is contact the manufacturer and see what their advice is on their own product. Best Wishes Eileen

[@jessie9653]

@@AvogelCoUk ok I will

[@dotlynjones8355]

Am Dotlyn I want to know if menopause cause chest pain.and upper back pain

[@hydrangea8696]

Dotlyn Jones Yes definitely there are over 66 symptoms plus more

[@Crizteas]

What’s confidence essence?

[@shellysealy3170]

Can u feel suicidal in menopause?

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Shelley Unfortunately, although rare, for some women the hormonal changes can be so severe as to cause symptoms such as depression, manic depression, paranoia or suicidal thoughts. In this situation it is vital to seek medical advice as over teh counter remedies are not going to be of much benefit.

[@shellysealy3170]

Feeling anxious and tired with panic attack

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Shelley I do hope the tips and advice will be of help for you. Best Wishes Eileen

[@patriciapyper4617]

Accupuncer is good

[@amandaroper1297]

Do these fears go away? I struggle everyday.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Amanda Yes, for most women they do ease off after time but it is one of these symptoms that is best treated to stop the nervous system from weakening further. Best Wishes Eileen

[@amandaroper1297]

@@AvogelCoUk my anxiety has calmed tremendously. I take CBD, ashwaganda and l theanine. I tried prescription antidepressants and had a horrible reaction.

[@AvogelCoUk]

great to hear that these have helped Amanda!

[@patriciapyper4617]

I feel fear it is scary l do suffer with anxiety and agrophbbia

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hope these tips are helpful for you Patricia.

[@patriciapyper4817]

I am using Gingko bilobo is this ok thanks

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Patricia Ginkgo biloba is usually recommended for memory or circulation so if you are finding it helpful, it is fine to take. Best Wishes Eileen

[@Sharon-q7f]

❤

[@patriciapyper4617]

I find gingo biloba tablets are good for you

[@AvogelCoUk]

Good idea Patricia!

[@sarahbrennan1342]

💖

[@mayrasierra1880]

This video brought tears to my eyes. Im living that misery and I get so disappointed at life 😔 - It is not fair for us, women, having to experience all these weird feelings at this age. Thank you for your video, Vogel, you couldn't describe it better. A lot of people I know think Im a hypochondriac and no one really understands what Im going through. I have not been myself or happy for the past 4 years. Thank you again for your videos.

[@hydrangea8696]

Mayra Sierra Your not alone please do join the menopause Facebook group where there are so many supportive women who like us are going through this journey and give excellent tips and advice X

[@merckfamily1509]

Hey ladies, A fantastic book to read while going through the change is Jump off the hormone swing. This book has helped me and encouraged me.