Can menopause cause emotional detachment?

[@PinkLotus119]

Thank you!! You’ve described everything I’ve been feeling. Daily I would think and feel like….This is not my body and I am not this woman. What happened to the other woman? I want her back. Emotional detachment /disassociation 100% with some degree of depression. Weight gain is the additional slap in the face. Menopause is often laughed at and joked about but it’s not a laughing matter. It’s life changing and life altering. Education is a must.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Absolutely LaDonna, knowledge is power! Best Wishes Eileen

[@barbaraondich7374]

I love to be by myself now. I do not need any company. Actually, people get on my nerves. I feel like I can't tolerate stupidity any longer. I'm on HRT but still feel that I want to be left alone.

[@Patricia-bz1ju]

Exactly I just can't tolerate people anymore 😢

[@yvettebennett6170]

I feel all of these things. Mostly just want to stay home and do my own thing. So stressful to go out and deal with people. So much stressful events going on in the world. My anxiety has been through the roof for the past week.

[@barbaraondich7374]

I feel exactly the same way. I no longer want to deal with people. Love the dogs though :) Literally, everybody gets on my nerves!

[@aminalokhat9401]

Me too

[@MyDaisy66]

This is exactly what has happened to me. I find it difficult being around my friends. My relationship with my husband has changed….we’re the best of friends, but we don’t have an intimate relationship anymore. I’ve often thought it could be hormones. Very interesting. Thank you x

[@lindatohara6438]

Same I have zero libido

[@FriyayFits]

Same here...you are not alone!!! ❤️Hubby and I have zero intimacy but he's my best friend. I'm so blessed that he's been so patient during this journey.

[@jessie9653]

Same 😩

[@cyndieK1]

I can not thank you enough for this video. I’m completely numb. It’s affecting my relationships with everyone in my life. I feel like the walking dead, it’s absolutely horrible! I’m a grandma to 4 little ones under the age of 4 and I feel like I’m letting them down. I’ve pretty much checked out and cant get out of bed most days.

[@lindatohara6438]

@@cyndieK1 I am so sorry I pray right now you can at least get up and get going. I have a very bad case and got my period until 57. I been on here complaining for years. Seriously you have to get up and take care of you. The grandkids are gonna understand someday. Don’t feel obligated is our problem also. I just had to tell these people I call my family I am SICK. If you don’t get it that is their problem now. I do what I want for myself. I love to exercise so that wasn’t my issue . I am now thinking clearer when the fog lifted. My daughter had a kid unmarried not my choice. My husband best figure his life out because I just run off with my friends. If he wants to rot that is also his choice. Marriage after my 3 kids raised, and I was super mom is jail. I want a get out free pass is my problem. Haha 😂 wanna meet me in Montana ? I am a great guide let’s go.

[@TAZSWIGSNACKS]

This was just what I needed to hear today, Eileen! I am in the worst throes of the perimenopause mood, cognition and emotional lability symptoms right now. Just hearing that this a "phase" that WILL PASS is a soothing balm! It's been going on for a couple of years for me, surely there must be some light at the end of this dark, seemingly endless tunnel! Great thanks.

[@AvogelCoUk]

You're welcome, hope the end is in sight! Best Wishes Eileen

[@jessie9653]

I found I have zero patience with anyone. I hate this, I'm constantly apologizing to people for being mean

[@katjalexandra]

I know that too.

[@Godisfirst21]

I'm going to send this to my 20 year daughter. I can't say I'm sorry enough. As a single Mom, she has seen what I've been going through. I became emotionally detached and it was painful for us both. I truly couldn't help it Mikayla. It's not an excuse and I hope you never go though it and if you do, you will understand me even more. Thank you for your support Mikayla.

[@AvogelCoUk]

That's lovely Sherri!

[@mikaylakruger1064]

I understand and I love you so much. You are an amazing Mama.

[@Godisfirst21]

@@mikaylakruger1064 Thank you my beautiful daughter.

[@mikaylakruger1064]

@@Godisfirst21 you're welcome my beautiful mother. I will always love you.

[@lanapoulliot7682]

I hope feeling this way means I'm nearing the last period! I'm 55 and still having a monthly period. Every month I pray that was the last one. They're coming every 24 days or so now. Cramps and moods for a week leading up to it. Every month when the symptoms return I get so despondent. When will it be over for good, I'm completely fed up with all of it.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Lana Unfortunately, a small umber of women do have a late menopause. Usually, changing periods are often one of the first signs of the approach of the menopause so, hopefully, it won't be too long now. Best Wishes Eileen

[@TAZSWIGSNACKS]

I am just like this! The mood and absolutely debilitating PMS symptoms make me think something is seriously wrong with me. Surely I must be dying! I will be 55 and still have periods with no sign of slowing down. I'm not sure how much more I can take! I had to leave my job because of it. My relationships suffer. It's just so miserable. God bless you and all the other ladies out there suffering! This video gives me hope that it will be over soon! XOXO

[@lisamariecorob]

I'm really feeling the detachment!

[@pattycake8272]

My child said I had a disassociation disorder. I can do that very well. I thought it was because I was just fed up with everyone's drama. But there are times or it seems that I'm just unfazed by anything and everything.

[@creativequeenconsulting3811]

Yes, I can detach and dissociate quickly as well especially when provoked by foolish drama

[@DeeVarietyLyfe11]

Same

[@princessdiana115]

Thank u for this. This is so me right now. Glad to hear this is normal for menopause ❤️🙏

[@AvogelCoUk]

You're welcome Diana

[@mimita1970]

You are basically the only person who talks about the many symptoms of menopause. I have all this and nobody seems to link it with this phase of women’s lives. Thank you! I am under hormonal replacemnet therapy and still feel emotionally dettached 😢

[@AvogelCoUk]

Glad to be of help! If you feel that your HRT isn't helping then please do let your doctor know. There are many different forms of HRT and they may be able to offer you a more effective one. Best Wishes Eileen

[@gregsgirl23au]

Thank you for this video. I'm almost 45 and I am in early perimenopause. I've felt myself feeling like this lately. My husband is wonderful but I feel guilty if I snap at him or don't feel like intimacy and I work hard not to do that. Then there are everyday stressful situations and I have PTSD and anxiety. Top that off with covid and Ukraine and I've felt awful. So I realised I don't want to keep feeling like this so I take the vitamins Eileen suggested and some hormone balance supplements as well as exercise daily with my husband and a walk in nature with our dog.i eat very healthy and practice mindfulness and just taking day by day or even hour by hour some days. If I feel like taking me time to craft or have a nice bath I do because it helps and it helps my relationships too. I'm having some better days now. I still need to work on my sleep but I'm getting there. If I need to cry I do.I hope all the ladies that are seeing this feel better xo

[@AvogelCoUk]

Thank you so for your encouraging words, Lindsay. Self care is so important and sometimes, as you have found, doing simple things you enjoy can make a big difference. Hope you continue onwards and upwards! Best Wishes Eileen

[@fattybalyly2044]

Not want to sociolaze ! Yessss !!!

[@gwendolynreed9477]

I am so glad that I found your channel. I have just started taking calcium, magnesium, and zinc supplement. I'm looking forward to feeling better. Thank you for your much needed videos.

[@lindatohara6438]

I take them all don’t expect miracles , but I hope they help. I don’t know if it would be worse without them? I been on it since I was 40 prescribed for PMS. I got a bad case but I have 100% bone density. I also exercise since I was 16. It is worth taking for that reason alone.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Do let me know how you get on Gwendolyn; they can take a month or so to start showing benefit so be patient! Best Wishes Eileen

[@sarahclayton7751]

Thank you so much! I had seven years of hell after an early menapause at 42 and refusal by three doctors to help. I was suicidal, depressed, had chronic anxiety, debilitating muscle pain and was mentally blank. I began menopace botanicals five weeks ago after visiting a health food store for some valerian. They were recomended by the store assistant. I have recovered 90% which is good enough! I love life now when I thought it was over before. Thsnk you so much! I also bought calcium vit D and magnesium.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Wow, that's fantastic Sarah, sometimes, something quite simple can make a huge difference! Best Wishes Eileen

[@maggiea6766]

Glad you are feeling better. I went through it at 30 with zero help....

[@cindyspiess9963]

Glad it worked , I don't know why this can't be common knowledge somehow instead of swept under the rug so grateful for this lady and her knowledge and sharing it

[@scottpatricknow]

It’s very helpful to see and understand this. I feel like my wife has been gone for decades. I would think since her 40s. It’s a struggle. She is struggling. Its erased me and our marriage nearly entirely. I pray she recovers as soon as possible. It has broken me. I am trying to be as mature as I can, but it really makes her entirely emotionally unavailable. My kids see it. I have been working on myself. In fact, I’m ready to start therapy. I am trying to keep perspective. It’s really tough. She used to treat people so well. A monster has taken her. I keep telling myself she’s doing her best. I’m not going anywhere. I’m riding it out.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Sorry to hear that this is really tough for you Scott, hope all geos well for you both! Best Wishes Eileen

[@aracelimiramontes3419]

Thank you, I Love this ❤️ I feel like this with my friends and family.

[@AvogelCoUk]

You're welcome Araceli

[@WisdomAgreements]

Thank you for validating this. It's so foreign, because I used to be so emotional, attached, etc.

[@AvogelCoUk]

You're welcome! Best Wishes Eileen

[@katjalexandra]

Romantic emotions I seem not b able to produce anymore. But ... if I see romantic and moving stuff on TV I easily burst into tears. What the heck? I can not have my husband cuddle into me or approaching me in a tender way, but I need to cuddle into him like a little kid. This so all so irritating and disturbing, where is my old me??? I am emotional detached most of the day, in the night when I dream it is about being completely disoriented. I used to be on top of my match, now I seem to lose it ... Im 55 and I feel as if Im 80. But now and then I feel like 17. Which is AS ridiculous ...

[@eunicefoentjies9412]

You are describing me😣56 going on 57 years in July. We gonna get through this....

[@LishaBurwell]

You are describing me going on 54 in July . We will get through this

[@LifeLessonsFromBooks]

Me. Exactly!

[@kjwibblywobbly7579]

I am 50, and saw my doctor last year to see if I am in perimenopause. He did all of the blood work which showed that while I'm not in it yet, my testosterone levels were low, so I'm now on testosterone cream for it. It has helped with a lot of the symptoms including more of a normal sex drive, but I still feel really detatched emotionally. But I don't believe it's entirely hormonal. I grew up in a very violent home. My dad was an angry drunk, while my mom was an emotionally messed up woman. Neither parent received help for their issues, so my brother and I grew up with our own sets of emotional baggage. Throw in being sexually molested at age 8, and sexually assaulted at ages 13 and 16, and you have a truly emotionally damaged woman. I have seen several counselors and therapists over the years who have diagnosed me as having depression, anxiety, panic disorder, ptsd, even borderline bipolar with some borderline personality disorder traits. I have worked hard over many years to overcome layers of issues, but there are some scars that just can't heal completely. It may not be a problem for many women but I know it plays a huge part in my situation. I have always had problems connecting with people and it has caused problems in my marriage. As I get older I have found that I love being on my own and don't care for the company of others much at all. It takes a lot of intentional work to stay connected to my husband and kids. I have been very open and honest with them about my past and where I'm at today so they know that the issues don't lie with them but me. They know I love them dearly. All of this to say that I believe that emotional trauma and pain can play a big part in hormonal problems as well. It takes a lot of work with counselors and therapists to get through the mess, but healing can come. Just thought I would share this as some food for thought.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Thank you so much for your comments Kim, I am sure this will help other women in the same situation and well done for all the hard work you have done, it couldn't have been an easy road. Yes, we are finding that the emotional place women are in when approaching the menopause can have a huge impact on symptoms and how difficult or easy it may be going forward. Best Wishes Eileen

[@jayasahoo4613]

Hi I rarely miss your videos they are very much helpful.You spoke my heart out,my internal fellings that nobody could understand.love from India

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Jaya You're very welcome, glad to be of help! Best Wishes Eileen

[@gwendolynreed9477]

I don't know if you will see this comment, but I am a 60 year old melanated woman. I am menopausal. There are many times when I feel the things that you have mentioned. It doesn't help that I work 7 days a week. I know that it is a job and I am needed, but I could really use a bleep, bleep break!!!! I have cried and tried everything to stay positive. I I want to be a help to all the hats that I wear, (wife, Grandmother etc.) I just have been sucking it up and keeping it going. Again, thank you for your incite and your channel.

[@AvogelCoUk]

You're welcome Gwendolyn! I do hope you get the rest and relaxation you so obviously deserve!! PS, maybe try the herb Maca, this is great for fatigue and low mood, 500mg daily :) Best Wishes Eileen

[@onewiththeunknown8434]

I was beginning to think I was going crazy. My relationship with my husband has been strained bcuz I can't answer to the reason I am not interested in sex anymore and why I cringe when he touches me. We talk and I hv nothing to say when he sits in front of me w/tears in his eyes and says that he thinks I don't love him anymore and I just feel empty and numb inside that I can't even respond to him. I literally feel void of all feelings, its so strange. I reached menopause this past July but hv realized that I had bn detaching from my husband for the last year. He doesn't believe that menopause is to blame. We will start couples and individual therapy soon. Hopefully a psychologist can help him understand what I am going through bcuz I can't.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hoe all goes well with your both. Best Wishes Eileen

[@joiab11]

Thank you for this information, it’s exactly what I’m going through.

[@AvogelCoUk]

You are welcome Best Wishes Eileen

[@sarahhall738]

As a child I could cry at a moment's notice tears were always just under my eyes I now find it has to be something to do with family or close friends that set me off otherwise yes I feel sad but no tears. Mum and dad are used to my tears and simply ignore me which is usually just what I need.

[@annieenriquez9353]

Thank you! I feel all of these,.

[@AvogelCoUk]

You're welcome Annie! Best Wishes Eileen

[@islandgirl7281]

Well of all the symptoms i have experience thus far on my menopause journey ...this is one i thankful have not experience its quite the opposite for me....as always grateful and appreciate these informative vlogs...Thanks Eileen🌹

[@AvogelCoUk]

You're welcome :)

[@tayyabarashid6427]

Thank you ma'am 😊

[@AvogelCoUk]

You're welcome Tayyaba

[@HollyTjahyadi]

What does the husband have to do when the wife has emotional detachment ?

[@Linda-jj1sj]

Thank you ❤ I have been having crying episodes that won’t stop all day then cramps then a small period. The Rage and not wanting to do anything. This information helps ❤

[@AvogelCoUk]

Glad to be of help Linda! Best Wishes Eileen

[@lindatohara6438]

Absolutely I wanna run every day!!!!!! It’s horrible?

[@eunicefoentjies9412]

Thank you Eileen....just listening to you is therapy for me. You are always so spot on....it seems like you know exactly what I am going through. When is the best time of day to take magnesium?

[@AvogelCoUk]

Glad to be of help Eunice! It depends on what you are taking it for as it can be taken anytime but if it's specifically for sleep, then after your evening meal is best. Best Wishes Eileen

[@eunicefoentjies9412]

Thank you Eileen.

[@sandratjauw8709]

So true. Thank you Aileen! 😊

[@AvogelCoUk]

You're welcome Sandra!

[@crystalgrose]

Thank You from the USA 🇺🇸♥️ This is how I’ve been feeling for quite a while. I’m in my mid 40’s.

[@AvogelCoUk]

You're welcome Crystal. This is usually one of the phases and can ease off over time, although mine lasted about 3 years where I just wanted to be alone! Best Wishes Eileen

[@haideeann4537]

I need help 😫. My emotions are all over the place. I don't know what to do. I can't go to the doctor because I don't have insurance.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Haidee Why not ask at your local health store, they will have a number of remedies for stress and anxiety and mood swings and will be happy to help you. Best Wishes Eileen

[@edwardp8590]

Trust me, as husbands or partners of our women, we are quite aware of what the problems are and what our ladies are going through which also affects us. We are searching for solutions and it seems like every female whether a doctor or an expert just talks about the problems and offers no solutions

[@christineford2815]

Thank you so much am going through this right now am just feeling detached from everyone but I try my best to deal with it thank again l will get those vitamins.

[@AvogelCoUk]

You are welcome Christine! Hope the tablets help. Best Wishes Eileen

[@hkiran3022]

Hi can the menopause cause numbness in hands and feet & sometimes pins and needles and increased ❤️ heart rate . Pl cover this topic as well . At 51 with 1 year of no periods I am facing this issue . The GP has diagnosed it as Anxiety …am on Etizolla and Proponal

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi H Yes, this is actually quite a common symptom but can be caused by a number of different factors. Low vitamin D and B12 can be triggers so make sure that your doctor as test for these just to rule them out. I have posted a video blog on this and what you can do to help yourself so please do take a look. www.avogel.co.uk/health/menopause/videos/3-surprising-symptoms-of-menopause-explained/ www.avogel.co.uk/health/menopause/videos/5-ways-to-stop-heart-palpitations-during-menopause/ Best Wishes Eileen

[@sofiamiliaressis5403]

I thought menopause caused those symptoms in me but my doctor tested my thyroid & l found out it’s because its under active. Did your doctor suggest a thyroid blood test before suggesting those meds he put you on? I’m on a thyroid tablet for the rest of my life now.

[@tishamaecabangon809]

It is normal for periminaupose.somtimes i wake up in the mid.of the night couz its very hot and i can sleep in the night

[@tiffanyv7174]

Yes :)

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Tishamae Yes, this is quite a common symptom in the peri-menopause. You may find the herb Valerian can help with sleep. Best Wishes Eileen

[@tishamaecabangon809]

Thank u so much maam.A vogel.uk.. .i always watch ur vlog every monday..its help me a lot.💕❣

[@melao9242]

I am nearly 37 and i am emotionless the last 2 weeks. I have all the symptoms of menopause for 2 years. Will the emotionless ever go away? 😢 Can high estrogen cause it? It began with feelings of high estrogen.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Yes, emotions can be affected by hormones changing. Unfortunately, it's very difficult to tell how long any symptoms may last as it is different for everyone, sorry. Have you had the perimenopause diagnosed by your doctor, 35 is still quite early to start? Although it can happen for some women, symptoms could also be caused by other health issues. Best Wishes Eileen

[@deebee533]

The last year I had my period and for about a year, I could not stand to be around people, especially at home. I was so exhausted from work. I would get home. I moved into the spare bedroom (husband had no clue what was going on with me, I didn't talk about it.) just wanted to be alone. I even thought about moving out. I still loved my husband, but felt like he didn't want me anymore. Stuff my head came up with. Not anything he did. Well one day about a year or so later, something clicked and the nightmare was over. I came clean with husband, he set me straight. And we went back to be happily married. Sex stopped due to me having to many physical issues caused by menopause. I still do not like being around people, (Introvert my whole life) but I have never been a people person. They stress me out to much.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Dee Bee Good to hear that this phase has resolved and your relationship has improved and, sometimes, just accepting who you are can take the stress and anxiety away. Wishing you well Best Wishes Eileen

[@TAZSWIGSNACKS]

How are you getting on now? Hopefully your symptoms have subsided as you are in post menopause:-) XOXO

[@lindalilly1544]

My life's been full of trauma so I've never recognised the symptoms but I'm 60 now and still got trauma with my family. How much magnesium and b vits do I need to take daily? Thanks lucinda my periods stopped at 45 and never came back.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Sorry to hear about your trauma Linda. You may find 200mg of magnesium twice a day and 1 x 50mg vitamin B Complex tablet helpful Best Wishes Eileen

[@gwendolynreed9477]

I forgot to mention that I am a caregiver. My last day off was in June, of last year.

[@AvogelCoUk]

wow! that's a long time without a break!

[@tacocat2580]

I think my wife is going through perimenopause. Seems to have gradually detaching for couple years. First noticed pms was getting really bad 2 yrs ago. Then 10 mths ago said she wasn't in love anymore. Since then I've suggested she go if she has no feelings for me as I want her to be happy. Then she says she wants to see if feelings come back. I love her so much and our marriage was good before. Her parents went through identical scenario 20 years ago and her dad left. Does anyone relate? Are there any success stories after something like this? What is timeline I can expect? Am I deluding myself and has she simply fallen out of love?

[@AvogelCoUk]

I am sorry to hear that you are struggling with this, it's such a difficult situation. Unfortunatley, this is different for every woman so it's impossible to say how long it may last or whether things will resolve at some point, sorry. All we can suggest is to keep communications open and maybe ask a female friend or relative to have a chat with her to see if there is anything you can do to help. Wishing you well Best Wishes Eileen

[@reneeschroeder5583]

This is me described to a T unfortunateky the DRs in my area dont believe in menopause.

[@AvogelCoUk]

How strange Renee!

[@PjTexas]

Can I purchase your products here in the United States?

[@AvogelCoUk]

So sorry but A Vogel USA only stock a very few products and we can't send abroad. What are you looking for and I can suggest something similar that you should be able to obtain where you are? Best Wishes Eileen

[@PjTexas]

@@AvogelCoUk The product for menopause.

[@AvogelCoUk]

@@PjTexas I would suggest magnesium, 200mg twice a day, and add in a fermented soya supplement. If anxiety/stress is also an issue then include the herb Ashwagandha. You should be able to get all these from your local health store or online Best Wishes Eileen

[@PjTexas]

@@AvogelCoUk Perfect! Thank you so much! 🌹

[@missgeorgia2996]

Your videos are very helpful thank you….I’m in the peri menopause and I have lost a lot of weight over a stone I can’t seem to find any information as everyone talks about weight gain. Is weight loss normal?

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Miss Georgia Although not as common as weight gain, this can happen to some women; falling hormones can affect your thyroid function, increasing metabolism. However, if the weight loss is sudden without any change in diet, it may be an idea to ask your doctor to test for an overactive thyroid. Best Wishes Eileen

[@missgeorgia2996]

@@AvogelCoUk thank you I’m actually hypothyroid as I have no thyroid gland due to having Graves’ disease in the past. My thyroxine has been adjusted but hasn’t really made much difference. Thank you for your reply. And I’m really grateful for these videos I’m learning so much 🙏🏽

[@AvogelCoUk]

@@missgeorgia2996 you're welcome!

[@teresasugden466]

Ive always liked being home. So that's not new. Im post menopausal and still have no desire to be intimate with my husband. We had wonderful loving years prior to menopause. Hes changed alot as well. Gets down right ornery, snaps at me, for no reason...im not irritable anymore. Im pretty easy going and considerate. But he is grumpy all day, then wants sex at bedtime. Sorry...i need to feel loved all day to get my brain thinking intamacy. Im fine with never having sex again! Nothing turns me on...not other men, not seeing any nude man. I do like hugs and kisses. But not like i used too!

[@tishamaecabangon809]

Im going to 43 yrs.old lah

[@MyDaisy66]

You’re still young 😃

[@monis2769]

Same here and some of this has started for me

[@larenjames]

Can menopause make you feel stomach pain

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Laren Yes, cramps are quite common but if this happens every day or you need painkillers then it's really important to see your doctor just to rule out other factors such as fibroids or polyps or cysts or a prolapse Best Wishes Eileen

[@larenjames]

@@AvogelCoUk I already see my doctor.and I did over five test.on feeling on my side

[@sunithadeoraj6455]

Hi dear I don't want to be close to ppl. Its like they can smell me .....please help .

[@AvogelCoUk]

H Sunitha Lots of water every day can help, flushes will dehydrate you causing a sweaty smell.

[@melkerner]

I would say yes - going on almost 7 years of no physical intimacy, she won't even kiss me. Simply doesn't know why, she just won't. Trying my best to be supportive, but the medical community is SH*T for not providing the proper support for Women during this phase of their life. Too busy making money off the effects rather than help manage the transition that every Woman experiences.

[@springteen3743]

I know a girl going through pre menopause and she laugh too much and eat too much , why is she the opposite ? Thanks

[@AvogelCoUk]

The menopause is different for everyone, some women do find it a good experience! Best Wishes Eileen

[@edwardp8590]

Halfway through, and all you're talking about are the problems. Not once have you offered a solution. As a man, this is a waste of time I was expecting some solutions to help my wife.

[@AvogelCoUk]

Hi Edward From our experience, and feedback from our female followers, we find that it's always helpful to explain why and how these symptoms can occur in the first place (knowledge is power as they say) before going through the possible solutions Best Wishes