Feeling Old In Your Thirties - SimplyPodLogical

On this episode of SimplyPodLogical, Cristine and Ben react to audience-submitted comments on what feeling "old" is like if you're over 30, and what you wish you knew when you were in your twenties.
0:00 - Hey what’s up holo everyone
0:24 - How you feel old in your 30’s
4:51 - Making old people noises
7:20 - MTV Cribs
14:17 - Are the 2000s already vintage?
17:02 - Getting excited about vacuums
18:00 - Teen slang and TikTok
24:54 - It’s okay to make mistakes in your 20’s
27:37 - Sunscreen and being the youngest person in your office
32:21 - It’s okay to not know what you’re doing
34:17 - You are probably your harshest critic
42:13 - Real life problems
44:26 - There are adults born after the year 2000
47:21 - Do young co-workers ignore older co-workers?
50:35 - Adult responsibilities
52:10 - Do you ever “find" yourself?
53:59 - Is 30 old anyway?
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[@madisongirolamo6064]

I'm 22, hearing that people poked fun at Christine for using the word "bestie" really pissed me off. I don't think at this point that it's so much of an age or generational thing to use certain slang, I think "bestie" is more of an internet thing so it makes total sense that it would become part of her vocabulary. People are just being rude and they're trying to hide it by sounding cutesy. I'm over it

[@thenopedetective]

@@h0rr0rvacu1 yeah it's very we only wear pink on Wednesdays kind of thinking...

[@moby325]

im also 22; and i (along w many others) see her more as a corporate head on ig and tiktok rather than the relatable /endearing influencer on pod or stream, she ages her self a bit when she acts like that and cares to much when ppl poke fun , its like if susan wojicicki did a tiktok saying bestie🤣 it’s different, there r ppl older than she is who get away w saying it bc they understand nuance

[@Flumity]

@@moby325 I'm 23 (just turned 23) and I agree. I think that if she were to care less abt how others respond to her using bestie then she could get away with using it.

[@DashFourteen]

I 100%. agree. internet slang is internet slang and cristine should be allowed to use it because it makes sense for her since she lives on the internet with the rest of us.

[@hotsexyangel]

I think y’all are reading too much into this lmao I don’t think anyone targeted Cris with malice, I think most ppl were just surprised to hear her use slang since we don’t usually hear that from her.

[@KittenKat1313]

Uhh… “bestie” was a word we used in the early 2000s!! Especially in the MySpace days. So early 30yos used to say that word all the time and now the younger generations are acting like they invented that word? I don’t think so, bestie! Use that word if you want, Cristine. It’s your right.

[@anon3263]

Gen Z think they invented flared jeans and butterfly clips 😂

[@sydneylittle9822]

This is what I was thinking!!! I was like wtf since when was this a new word?

[@hollyj4529]

I’m 50 and called my friends my besties when I was 12 and still do today. Bestie is NOT new, it’s just being recycled by a younger audience that doesn’t realize it’s been around forever.

[@thenopedetective]

Ok I just posted a similar comment! I could have sworn it was popular before, glad I'm not nuts.

[@lekessler68]

Was about to comment the same thing! I grew up saying bestie!

[@miniciominiciominicio]

The long conversation regarding “bestie” confused the heck out of me… I’m 36 and I was using bestie with my bffs as a teenager and in my 20s.

[@polargirl1973]

Right I’m 48 and my bestie and I have been using that word since we were teens.

[@hotsexyangel]

The term has slightly evolved tho. It use to be more genuine (towards your friends only) now it’s kinda more general; used towards strangers online or used sarcastically. I don’t think anyone actually made fun of Cris, it’s just weird hearing her use newer, evolved slang since she doesn’t use it often.

[@TeresaMarie_]

I literally have a 20-something year old necklace (half of a heart) with the word bestie on it...definitely not new slang.

[@TissueCat_]

my generation (im 19) love trying to claim things as "ours" despite almost every trend being influenced by previous generations. people should be able to do what they want, as long as it isnt harmful, without being criticized.

[@pokelover02]

@@hotsexyangel Thank you! You’re the only one making sense in these comment threads. “Bestie” is not used the same way as it was back in the day. Cristine can say whatever she wants of course. She prob just doesn’t seem authentic because that’s not typically how she talks.

[@elysecatelyn6431]

I'm 32 and yea there's changes in my body and I go to bed at 9pm and wake up at 5:30, but I enjoy life more the older I get. Aging is a privilege some don't get to experience and I'm happy to have every day I get.

[@mrspokitstheriot477]

As I get older I seem to have a later bedtime. I'm 31, if I'm asleep before 2am it's a win. I have 4 kids.

[@elysecatelyn6431]

@@mrspokitstheriot477 interesting. My bed time gets earlier lol. I also don't have kids just 2 dogs and 2 cats.

[@mrspokitstheriot477]

@@valap_ that's a beautiful way to think/go about it.

[@kristinrobertson2076]

Cristine getting so worked up about slang is too relatable 😅 you can use the word correctly, but to teens it still doesn’t “work” because we aren’t the right age. Sincerely, a fellow 33 year old who tried - and failed - to use the word “drip”

[@Haylla2008]

What's actually funny is that "besties" isn't even new slang. It's been around since at least the 90s and I know it's still commonly used. I guess I must be old since I don't know what was funny about her using it.

[@qest6889]

now what's weird is do you reach a certain age where you forget it wasn't "cool" when you were a teen ?

[@EmmanuelleBeaudoinRoy]

@@Haylla2008 I think the way they are using it has a layer of irony that wasn't there previously

[@Haylla2008]

@@EmmanuelleBeaudoinRoy But that doesn't really change the fact that they are laughing at someone who is technically using the term correctly. It's just kind of dumb. Aside from this, ironic use happened before Gen Z was old enough to know the term (early 2000s), although maybe not as prevalent (such as saying, "Okay, bestie." when mad/annoyed at a friend. Honestly, Gen Z and Boomers seem to have a lot in common. They both act superior to other generations and care way more about generational differences (particularly those of millennials) than anyone should.

[@hotsexyangel]

@@Haylla2008 you’re getting too worked up over this, it’s just slang 💀 it doesn’t matter what the background info is, if it comes off as “try hard” then teens see right through it. Not that Cris herself was trying hard to seem relatable but most corporations or celebs often do so we can see right thru it. And don’t compare us to boomers just cause you’re bitter over not fitting in anymore.

[@laurenasuzano1977]

i’m in my early 20s and the only thing getting me through it is a comment i read once that said “your 30s are your 20s with money” and i love that

[@katewhite8138]

I’m so sorry break it to ya but Someone lied to you 😂😂

[@InsaneCake]

True for me! But I don’t have kids (by choice) and that helps… 😁

[@annaly2318]

@@katewhite8138 just because it's not the same for you doesn't mean it's a lie! I've heard someone say this to me and they said it was because of their choice of not having children. I remember hearing stuff like "your highschool years are your best years" as a 18 year old and it made me panic... thankfully that's not the case- I am much happier as a 21 year old than I was as a teen. yikes!

[@crystalfumes4915]

Yeah my mother always told me that your 20s are actually so stressful because at that point you have NOTHING figured out, but in your 30s you feel more stable and so it's much easier to actually have fun

[@Venya9]

Definitely has been true for me. I can finally buy the nice things I wanted but I still have the same energy and capabilities I had in my 20s. Well, maybe I can't drink and party until the morning and not have a terrible hangover but I'm actually glad I can't. Also I've never been as confident as I am now.

[@JayceeElle]

I was a highschool dropout who was adapted to a life of poverty and escapism (alcohol, drugs, gaming). I'm 32 now and I just graduated university with a degree in microbiology (honours, distinction). It took me 2 years of academic upgrading just to qualify to apply for university and I was a decade older than most of my peers. I didn't have many friends and couldn't relate to my fellow students much, but I absolutely loved my education and I'm so proud of myself for doing it, even when I found it very difficult. People in my life constantly pressured me to figure out a path and what I'm going to do next in life; in fact, they still do. I tell myself the same thing now that I wish I told my younger self: It's okay to take one step at a time and see where you end up. If you don't like where you find yourself, redirect and keep going. Life is and will always be an ongoing journey, but you don't need a destination to be within sight to keep going.

[@WYIN98]

Congratulations on your degree!! 🎉🎉🎉👏🏻

[@nodistanceleft]

I'm starting uni next September at 28 and that's one thing that scared the shit out of me. Going to class with people who are 17/18 makes me feel old... But I hope it'll be alright

[@nikakozar832]

That's really impressive, well done! You should absolutely be very proud of yourself!

[@TissueCat_]

thats really awesome. im glad you found your way, and didnt let your upbringing define you and your future. you seem like a very mature and intelligent person, and you definitely earned what you have.

[@JessNV]

I think getting an education is one of the most rewarding things you can do for yourself. No, it’s not necessary for every job or path, and you can teach yourself but there is something profoundly validating about taking the classes, doing the work and obtaining your degree. It’s always yours, no one can take it away from you and it shows initiative. I made so many personal and professional connections that have been incredibly valuable. At one point I got burned out, so I went back to school and got another degree in something I fell in love with after working several years, loved the experience. I hated high school, did the bare minimum, had crippling ADHD but college was something that interested me, it was my choice, and flew through with straight A’s and nearly perfect attendance because I liked what I was learning.

[@gain3820]

When I turned 30, I remembered that I felt so old. I hated it. But then, last year, I turned 40. It felt so different. Seriously. I felt my life just begin, I felt so fresh, new spirited. I told my older sister that omg the phrase is true. Life begins at 40. I have no idea why I feel this way, but I just felt it. You truly felt it. So.. Young 30 plus years old fellas, hang in there! You got this!

[@katc2040]

Life begins at 40? Jesus that Is hard to hear as a 20 year old

[@TheCoolCookieKitchen]

36 and my friend and I were saying we feel like we’re “playing adult” lol then there’s the stuff that hits you and it’s puts your age in perspective

[@kayenjee]

37, and same.

[@mrspokitstheriot477]

Only 31 but same. Felt like a 15yr old telling my parents I was pregnant even though I was 24 and had been married for several years

[@ATrace-pn6wx]

As a 33 yr old I'm still always looking for the "adultier" adult 😆

[@ceciliatapioca]

@@ATrace-pn6wx Same 🤣 it didn’t hit it for me that I’m the ‘adult’ until a couple years ago. And this is coming from a 31yo with a child!

[@Venya9]

@@ATrace-pn6wx Same! I just landed a really nice, actual full-time job, permanent position and told my friends "how do I, a child, have a *real* job?" 😂

[@ShutUpStefana]

I dont know why, as a kid and maybe even teen I thought that adults were these serious people, who always knew what to do. However, now at 28 I realize that I still have the same tastes and interests I did as a teenager, same sense of humour, you dont completely transform into someone else. Also there will be days when you still literally feel lost, and adults dont hold all the answers. I think what really made me feel older was realizing that Im starting to navigate the world better than my parents and them having to depend on me for answers, or realizing that you have a more mature mindset than them. Its honestly a sad feeling to realize how these ppl that you saw as all knowing are actually not like that.

[@thenopedetective]

The other side too, I find sometimes there are adult situations I cope well with, and it's quite surprising and feels weird that I'm the adult. For example, I'm a healthcare worker in mental health and it's like "who knows how to deal with this complicated issue" and then it's like "oh yeah, it's me, I'm the professional and actually know what to do". But largely still feel like playing house day to day ha

[@HannahCrier]

27-year-old here and you said a lot of what I was thinking!

[@aliciarose4552]

I’m feeling old in my 20s… what’s that mean 😭

[@kaceeharrison3715]

It means you're average.

[@belindarocky961]

I thought I felt old in my 20's too. Until I got to my 30's. And now I wake up & start my day already exhausted 😆😆

[@safaa9654]

For real im (only?) 23 and i feel like im old and that i havent done anything

[@googliebear]

Millennial/gen z existential dread 😂😂😂

[@Monicalala]

Self fulfilling prophecy

[@dorkigoddess5228]

I feel old when, as an almost 41 year old, I listen to a podcast of early 30 year olds talk about how old they feel. 🥴

[@ryosena007]

Haha same, I'm a 42 old lady haha and I feel this deeply 😅. But more so with my disabilities too. Geez way to make ne feel ancient lol 😆 😅 😂 🤣

[@BlkBeltMama]

50 here and agree with you! I just loved Ben talking how he felt! He sounded like my age! 😂 I'm here nodding my head agreeing with him! 🤣

[@ATrace-pn6wx]

As a 33 yr old there are times where I'm always looking for the "adultier" adult in a situation until I realize I AM that adult! 😅

[@mygirl737g2]

yup, 33 is about when I had that "I need an adult" situation and realized i was it

[@jennpeters8]

I'm almost 48 and I'm still surprised I'm supposed to be the adult 😧

[@jesslikescoffee24]

I’m in my late 20s and I’ve felt old since my teens. Don’t wanna get too dark, but others who have felt old since their teens will understand the shared hardships. But also being disabled has an inherent old feeling to it.

[@isabellaiuzzolino9344]

I completely understand, I've had a debilitating chronic illness since I was a child and it makes you feel old because you will never be able to 'keep up' with your peers or do things a 'normal' person your age would. It's awful and very few people understand unless you've been in the same position.

[@maddieschulz3537]

Thisss. I'm 23 but have felt jaded for a long time, especially with covid consuming all of my early 20s at this point. I had a nice chat with my therapist about how I felt like I was mourning the vibrant, youthful person I was before covid lol.

[@jesslikescoffee24]

@@valap_ You’re very kind. Yes, I’m fine. It’s just humorous to see the different lives people have had compared to me.

[@arelyamaya3822]

Some people are sadly forced to grow up at young ages. It sucks that you’re one of them! I do not know what this is like but I can tell you that adulting has been hard when you’re use to your childhood going so smoothly. Something I like doing that I would suggest if it interests you is to do small things, that are doable, that you correlate with childhood and let your inner child have a little piece of that. 😌♥️

[@mmalove98]

I was contemplating writing a comment trying to describe this feeling -a 23 year old using a cane

[@RebdullRinn]

Ben is being an old man. Keeping up with changing language and trends is perfectly normal. I think resisting those things just makes us as bad as older generations who refuse to acknowledge the torch has been passed.

[@edaj1990]

Bestie is not a new slang tho.

[@its_clean]

There's a difference between being tongue-in-cheek cranky about the new slang that cool kids are using, vs rejecting or resisting progress of social norms and political ideologies. Ben is self-aware about doing the former, but both he and Cristine are great examples of avoiding the latter. They constantly acknowledge their own biases and point out their support of positive cultural progress, even when they may not agree or fully understand from their own perspective. Totally not boomer or stereotypical old person behavior.

[@Tea4tea]

Idk why people think “bestie” is a new word. We were using it in the mid 20teens to describe our best friends 😂

[@johndododoe1411]

Yeh, variations have been common at least as far back as the 1970s, I'm too young to know what they called it before that, but I've seen the concept presented in entertainment from centuries before.

[@AElspeth10]

I think it used to be used as a sacred status thing when I was younger. Like “she’s my only bestie”. Now any stranger on the internet can be a bestie. Kinda like we would say lady, girl, or chica back in the day. Also people use it in a non condescending concerned way. Like “oh no bestie are you okay?” Or “who hurt you bestie?”.

[@dansbury]

Yeah, it's def been around longer than Cristine's been alive. Def used it in the 2000s...

[@skakitty6458]

I have a feeling that it might be used like "bless your heart" now...?

[@Syd448]

I was thinking the same, in what world do people think besties is new 😭 I called my friends that in the 2000s when I was in middle/high school

[@SavantAudiosurf]

I just asked my 10 year old daughter "are butterfly clips cool?" and she said "yeah, I think they are cute"

[@netralexy]

I loved butterfly clips in my youth (i'm 35 now)

[@pamela_chau]

I used to love wearing the butterfly clips that changed colors in the sun (I'm 34 now) :D

[@claudianoramas6656]

I’m dying with Menchie just sitting there starring at Bens lap top

[@juali222]

21:25 Ben is totally correct with this statement. Generally we notice if slang is used only for marketing purposes und brands are just hopping on trends when the trend totally off brand for them (which they might not even realize)

[@LindseyLoodles]

As hard as it must be to grow up with smartphones- I definitely remember being 12 and going to a movie alone because my mom dropped me off and my friend couldn’t go anymore but she had no way to tell me. I’d go to a movie alone today but as a 12 year old it was mortifying 😂

[@emmyjulianne6850]

And bring someone with severe anxiety, I always thought the most tragic accident happened and that’s why she wasn’t there

[@ievakalniskane1992]

as a 26 year old I recently went to movies alone because I was genuinely interested in one movie (and it was the last session). I absolutely loved the experience :) will do it again!

[@another421]

Back when there were payphones you knew someone somewhere was getting a collect call from "CanYouPickUsUpFromTheMoviesThanks"

[@thevirtualtraveler]

I saw Rainman when it premiered alone b/c A. my 'bestie's' mom wouldn't let her come out that late (and I only convinced my mom b/c Amber was gonna be there. I remember using a payphone to call her to find out when she would get there only to be told she wouldn't). And B. I looked a lot older than 12 and they didn't card you back then for R ratings. I will always remember it b/c when the movie ended, the packed movie theater applauded. It's the only movie I've ever been to where the audience clapped at the end. (Also, being there alone, and that late, made me feel super 'grown').

[@its_clean]

I miss that brief sweet spot when everyone had a cell phone but smartphones weren't prevalent yet. Like the Motorola Razr era, call it 2005-2010. Everyone was easily reachable, you could even text/email if you really needed to, but without all the apps and social media we still hung out in person and went out and did stuff.

[@gissarteaga7232]

Just 24 and overall I feel young, but one day when I went out partying and the group besides me (they looked about 18 to 21) was so energetic and doing TikTok dances for songs that I didn't even recognize, and when some 2010 songs came out I was so excited and singing and dancing and they didn't know the lyrics and looked soooo bored, lol.

[@rinamorte]

I feel like there's such a cultural gap between us who were born in the late 90s and kids who were born after 2000. We are all considered gen z, but we are so different. Maybe that's because we're just getting old and in a couple of years we'll be kinda on the same level again but right now I too have trouble relating to younger people, even though I'm only 24

[@gissarteaga7232]

@@rinamorte right? I mean I also feel like is such a drastic difference because of the things that we are doing. I'm from Ecuador and here you graduate from college around 24 to 26, so life is a little bit different from the 18 to 21 years old that are just getting into college and partying and drinking. We've already done that, plus we have jobs and all of that, so yeah, I feel ya. For me a 20 year old now it's someone that I can't relate that much to, because the experiences that we are having are different. But maybe that's just me 😅

[@lizthecowboy]

@@rinamorte I think it has a lot to do with how much is thrown at us these days. Sooooo much content and everything moves so fast. so those big cultural moments so to speak are shorter and happen more often making more of a gap between close age groups

[@stardustfactory8311]

@@lizthecowboy I think you’re onto something there. SO much happens year to year that I feel like there’s a “new generation” every 3-6yrs instead of every decade or 15yrs

[@troll5725]

@@rinamorte I think its because of the fast passed change in technology . Like there is people who grew up with a household shared computer verses like an iPad kid haha. I am 21 and I relate to quite literally only people older than me ( my friends, boyfriend are all 23+) and that's probably because I didn't have my own access to the internet until later than normal and also had life experiecnes that made me have to adult properly younger than normal. So making tiktoks and being obnoxious doesnt really appeal to me lmao.

[@emilyvera8891]

one of my co-workers came up to me last week and started her sentence with "back in your day..." Yep, that one stung lmao

[@chloehunter3428]

As always, your podcast comes at the right time - I'm in my late 20's and have made some new friends with a lot of people in their early 20's, and all I hear is "Wow, you're OLD!", "Oh my god you don't look that old!", and "You were around before computers, right?" ALL the TIME! *cries in a 1995 fashion* I never reacted that way to people I met who were 3 to 10 years older than me, I don't get it. I can't wait to listen and see what you both have to say

[@xBwahx]

When my coworkers who were just a few years younger than me found out I was 27 they gasped in awe like I revealed to them that I'm from another Galaxy. Something I feel is definitely wrong with how we have started to view age amongst each other. And I think part of it has to do with the grouping of generations. (Millenials, gen z, etc.)

[@allib8126]

I'm 22 and my high school-aged co-workers would call me ancient!

[@karinka5658]

Does not sound like friends to me

[@katelyndiaz2940]

They act like you decay as soon as you turn 30

[@jinxie8]

I can’t wait for all these kids to get old & realize how rude it is to treat anyone over 25 as if they’re 80+.

[@sluggmom]

I think 30 feels old because we're seeing we aren't the 'young ones' anymore. But I've gotten so much more confident and self-reliant as I get older. It's freeing mentally, debilitating physically 😭

[@__mika84]

Totally. Boomers shit talked us so much for being spoiled kids I think we internalized it and now we have brain rot.

[@juali222]

Butterfly clips are totally worn. I didn't even think about how they might be sold to evoke nostalgia in older people. Teens definitely wear them

[@annab8801]

To possibly explain the “bestie” thing (I’m in my early 20’s for context) a lot of younger people I know are using that world sarcastically. So regardless if someone is my best friend or not I might call them “bestie” if I think they’re doing something silly, stupid, or harmful(to themselves more I guess)

[@cousinscantu]

I’m 23 and the reason why I enjoy watching and listening to you it’s because you guys carry the channel with respect! You both respect each other opinions but still try to prove your point right without having to force your idea towards other

[@CheckOutTheEmo]

My mother is a full on DOCTOR and “can’t” figure out how to use the TV. Cristine is so right it’s about curiosity!

[@muggle394]

The whole bestie convo had me rolling, Cristine sounds like my mom 😂

[@kewpiebby3202]

i feel bad lol 😭 she just wants to say bestie and ben didnt understand that she just thought it was cute to say.

[@leahbelieva]

Since when did gen Z coin the word “bestie”?! As if my millennial ass wasn’t saying “besties for the resties” in junior high😅

[@rjlee-cc4xy]

yeah but thats not how ppl use the word nowadays. its has kind of a patronizing, passive-aggressive beat you’d use to (mostly) internet strangers. it doesnt *actually* mean bestfriend or anything of the sort, it’s sort of the equivalent of saying ‘honey’ or ‘sweetie’ in a rly condescending manner

[@divinewrath3142]

Oh all you youngins! I will be 45 at the end of July.. I remember life before reality tv.. When the phone rang we had no idea who it was- and we answered it anyway! Now a days I have to make sure I have my neck pillow or I won't be able to turn my head for a week...

[@myahbrimmer4616]

The bit where they mentioned documenting your progress really resonated with me. I keep all of my old art and digital art pieces to look back and see what I improved on and how long it took me to obtain my goal, I keep track of my wok on an instagram account.

[@aprilharwig]

Getting diagnosed with epilepsy at 43 really sucked the energy out of me. I'm almost 45 now and its completely changed me as a person and I have zero tolerance for any bull$hit.

[@mygirl737g2]

i thumbs up for the zero tolerance for any bull not for the epilepsy part - glad you have had a growth experience in the past few years :)

[@MeganHT]

I think there's a big difference in using slang to pretend you're younger and using it to find a way to connect with younger people. If you're trying to embrace trends to be "cool", that's a losing endeavor. But I think it's wonderful to try and stay up to date with things so you can understand the younger generation. When we were young, we had value. And it was a little insulting to be swept aside by the older generation. So as an older person now, I think it's nothing but respectful to pay attention and try and understand their trends. They're just finding ways to express themselves and we can learn a lot from them.

[@marmotarchivist]

I can relate to the pre-printed checks with a 19__ becoming obsolete in the beginning of 2000. As an archivist I also saw this on documents of the late 19th century. But because paper was costly, the just crossed out the 18__ on each one and replaced it with a 19__. And personally I liked my 20th, had a lot of fun experiences, but I equally like my 30th, being more relaxed and experienced.

[@FlyToTheRain]

being an elementary teacher makes me feel so old. and i'm still in my 20s, i'm considered the young person among my coworkers! but just working with kids who can read and make independent decisions and all that, who were born in the 2010's... like you didnt exist when i graduated high school but you're a functioning human?? and seeing how rapidly kids grow makes me feel so stagnant in my own personal growth. three years for an elementary kid is not the same as three years for an adult, at least it doesn't feel that way to me.

[@maremole2482]

I finished my physics bachelors with a teaching minor, and I was working as a teacher for 6 years. Three years ago I completely change into a different field and today I am working in a lab while working in my masters in biotechnology. ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for making me feel not crazy for the complete change I made.

[@InsaneCake]

I am LOVING being in my 30s. Ageing is a privilege! If I had the choice I wouldn’t go back to being a teen / in my early 20s.

[@Darbster]

My husband and I say the same thing! We didn't enjoy it back then, we're good with things the way they are in our 30's.

[@annaly2318]

gosh I am PRAYING this is me... 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@Ambivlaent]

This gives me hope for the future and going into the 30s and more ❤️

[@emmi3785]

purple.shmurple, same. I have loved every age better than previous ones. Going back in time would be a nightmare. Even during depression and anxiety disorder years, I never wanted to go back. Love being 33. Though, I have always been grandma like. Taking porslin painting classes as hobby from the age of 11 to 19. "I and the other grandmas..." I think the average age in our class was probably over 50. Also, I got my first smartphone after finallizing my PhD thesis...2 years ago. :,D My favourite "I am old" moment was when I was been gringed by teenagers, because I played (still play) Pokemon Go last year...and my first thought was "Awww. How cute. They think I am _so old_.

[@marilyndemontreal4904]

I'm going to turn 34 this summer and the young adults I teach to (who are usually between 17 and 20 years old) still see me as a young teacher. It's just mind blowing to me that for the next school year, I'm going to be twice as old as some of them! I still feel young, but when I compare myself to my students, I feel like they are a different kind of young. On another topic: I love the fact that at my job, the teachers all talk to each other and hang out no matter the age. We become friends with who we get along, no matter the age! Some of the best friends I had in my department are in their sixties and already retired! Even though I knew we weren't the same age, they still felt quite young to me because of their energy, their curiosity and their overall personnality!

[@hpdftba]

I found that at my school too! Some of my best friends at work were my age (mid to late 20s) and some were in their 50s. I think that people who work with children are always young at heart

[@SparkyPeaches]

I’m 38….my advanced scuba instructor (20s), said I remind her of her Mother. Lol. Doesn’t everyone carry around electrolytes, and a small battery powered frother? 🤷‍♀️ 👵🏻

[@carissa4081]

Great podcast. As a 32 year old a lot of it resonated with me but ultimately I agree I am not old. What I don’t understand, however, is the common conflation between being good at technology and social media use. When I was 15 KZbin came out, Facebook a couple of years later. I was using MSN Messenger with my friends. People my age are generally fine with technology as we saw it evolve in front of us. When I started work it was commented on by older people that people my age were just “better” at technology. We knew how to use everything; the difference between us and the next generation is that we didn’t have it 24/7 if we wanted to. As smartphones weren’t really a thing until I was in my 20s. In fact, when I taught some teens abroad in my 20s one said “where is Google?”(meaning they couldn’t find it on the laptop). They didn’t know the basics. Also, new kids in the workforce can’t type as quickly as me as they’re used to using keypads on touch screens whereas I grew up with messenger. I say all this to show technology and social media usage are two different things. The later being about marketing really and so one not being interested in it (as I’m not) is because I find it tedious. I understand its use but don’t want to use it. That doesn’t mean I “don’t get technology” though!

[@xandralopez7476]

I’m 25 but this episode feels extremely relatable to me. Especially the part about not seeing a cousin for a long time, still thinking about them as a “kid” & then realizing that they’re literally an adult now😅 AND the coworkers thing. When I got my current job around 4 years ago, I was the youngest person there. And that feeling kind of stuck with me. But now I literally have coworkers who were born in 2000??? That feels VERY… weird 😹

[@caitlan]

even at 22 years old its good to know that people 'older' than me still feel/think similar ways to me, makes me feel better tbh.

[@slayingmorin3171]

I’m 17 and i’m not sure if it’s the result of successful marketing or tiktok or both but 2000s fashion is definitely back in style! I see my friends wear butterfly clips and low rise jeans all the time but now they refer to is as “Y2K” aesthetic.

[@miniciominiciominicio]

4:27 Yaaaaaassssssss, Ben! I am very happy to hear you say that cisgender men are getting gender-confirming surgeries [breast tissue reduction for gynecomastia, hair implants, plastic surgery] and treatments too [testosterone, steroid use], not just trans people. It’s important to acknowledge this because just as trans men or trans women have gender dysphoria that causes psychological and social distress and mental trauma to not see on the outside how they feel on the inside, so too do cis men have some gender dysphoria that they are not presenting in their ideal masculine way and take steps, someof which might be considered “drastic” to match what’s inside on the outside. Some transphobic people harp on what they call “mutilation”, e.g. a trans man getting gender confirmation top surgery. But how is that truly different to a cisgender man getting gender confirmation top surgery (surgical removal and liposuction of glandular and fatty tissue)? Or a cisgender or trans woman getting breast enhancement surgery? Sorry for the essay but I was just so excited to hear this come up in casual conversation!

[@hotsexyangel]

I think ppl were just surprised that Cris said “bestie” because we don’t usually hear her say slang often lol. & I agree with Ben, we can definitely sniff out when corporations try to use teen-culture for marketing. I don’t think Cris said it like that tho and I don’t think others thought that as well. I think people were just surprised cuz Cris doesn’t usually speak in slang. Don’t worry Cris, you can say whatever you want. If you’re genuine, most kids/teens will see that, just like how we see through in-genuine corporations. Someone else pointed this out, but “bestie” was originally from the early 2000s anyways so it’s not like it’s new gen-z slang or anything lol. It’s just used slightly different now. Also just wanna say this comment section is so sad lol. I get you guys are upset you feel old now but please stop taking out your anger on gen-z, you just look bitter. Hating new generations won’t bring back your youth, stop being mean to literal children you wackos 💀

[@annemartins2135]

Cool as slang has been in popular use since the 1930’s. However words like ‘aesthetic’ and ‘immaculate’ and my favourite ‘literally’ which now seems to mean ‘figuratively’ seem more current (to my ancient 64yr old ears)

[@Teresa_Jo]

I have always found myself gravitating toward people older than me even when i was in my early teens to present (28) my best friend is 3 years older than me and if im invited to events i find myself talking to people in their 30s or 40s if not even older. Older people are so much better to hang out with and they never make me feel out of place or like i don’t fit in. Edit to add: My in laws have no interest in learning how to set up their new devices and make me or my husband set them up for them and that is very frustrating because they want these things but dont want to learn how to even set them up and they don’t even know their own email addresses and passwords 😫 Rant done that is all lol

[@619jasso]

As a 21 year old, I completely agree. I’ve always found it much more natural to talk to older people, as opposed to feeling the need to tip toe around people my age. Making sure I said the right thing or knew this and that.

[@Twilightwitchery]

Fun episode! The whole idea of being an adult is odd to me. I’ve always felt like I’m supposed to me more “adult” than I feel. I’m 33.. I think lol I wish I’d known it’s ok to change your mind. And make mistakes and try things, and that I don’t have to be good at them all. I’m going back to school actually and I have to keep reminding myself, because I still don’t know what I “want to do for the rest of my life” that that’s ok. I can go do this degree for now and if in the future I want to change and do something else that’s ok. That doesn’t mean I shouldn’t try now just because it might change later.

[@inesfilipa8158]

The thing about mtv is so interesting because I'm a 96 baby and maybe it's because we're from different countries but I remember mtv being mostly music videos until I was in my teenage years

[@marielou_pixel]

About the slang thing, I think it’s amazing Cristine keeps up with it just so she can better understand “the teens”. Like if you’re talking to someone younger, they’re probably gonna use slang while they talk and if you have no idea what any of it means you can’t connect as well. I also agree with Ben’s point of corporate accounts just trying to sound cool without being genuine, but I don’t think HT does that

[@meeples7599]

I’ll never forget the first time I heard a fresh college grad coworker use Gucci as an adjective. I was able to figure out the meaning from context, but otherwise I would have had to look it up. It made me wonder if someday I’ll be speaking a completely different language from the new employees.

[@1971GeeGee]

I am 51 and have followed you just before the pandemic, I love change, I thrive in that environment. I wish I could have been less harsh on my younger self. I came from a. challenging situation. I moved out at 16, became an emancipated adult. Still went to school and worked full-time. I didn't actually graduate until years later. I felt so disappointed in myself. Now, a college graduate and an accounting manager. If you preserver, you can do great things!

[@jessicascott6715]

I’m 26 (although most people think I’m young 30s) and when I was 19-20 I didn’t understand why people in their early 30s-ish called me a kid… I get it now, because I look at young adults (under 23) as little babies, it’s crazy what a few years can do lol

[@inspectorbubbles]

I totally agree with Cristine about the besties thing (also side note - it’s not a new word by any means. Just a resurgence like the butterfly clips). Why must pop culture be considered youth culture? Are we all supposed to keep our language, hobbies and behaviours stagnant as we age? I don’t use most of the slang I used in high school anymore because I’m growing and changing over time, and so is my vocabulary. I don’t see how that’s a problem, especially when that language is coming from an individual as opposed to a big corporation. The ‘fellow kids’ thing isn’t totally off base, I just don’t think it’s relevant to Cristine (or anyone else) using current slang terms unless it’s really obviously disingenuous.

[@rjlee-cc4xy]

yeah but thats not how ppl use the word nowadays. its has kind of a patronizing, passive-aggressive beat you’d use to (mostly) internet strangers. it doesnt *actually* mean bestfriend or anything of the sort, it’s sort of the equivalent of saying ‘honey’ or ‘sweetie’ in a rly condescending manner

[@abbythecat01]

Haha- I’m 21. I was born on January 3rd, 2001, and I can legally drink alcohol 😂 I know this is about 30s year olds feeling old, but occasionally I start to feel the creepy crawly sensation of getting older. One of the things that makes me feel old is playing my Wii. Just recently Nintendo discontinued the original wii I think, and I specifically remember when that came out. My brother and I were around 8-9-10(?), and we were so excited because we’d never seen something like that before. Now it’s literally discontinued as a game system 😂 We also used to have these giant chunky desktop computer monitors. These things were enormous- and so impractical as a device. We had cds that we could put into the computer to play computer games, but we also played computer games off of these old websites like Cartoon Network or something- now there are laptops that you can play with, and people rarely need to purchase CDs to play video games anymore. Additionally, people can play computer games through STEAM or Origin or the apple app sites and whatnot. Another thing that makes me feel old is I remember having cassette tapes in my family’s car, and sitting around the radio with my brother listening to little kids’ stories on cds that we put into the radio. We also had an enormous wall phone and a house phone, and if we wanted to call anyone we had to remember their number (I still remember my mom’s phone number perfectly). Additionally, I remember everyone RAVING about the blackberry phone when I was a kid- and now I don’t hear anyone talking about it. All anyone talks about is apple. Lastly, I remember my parents owning flip phones- and my brother and I thought they were so awesome. Then when my parents bought iPhone, my brother and I were ECSTATIC about them!!! We LOVED playing angry birds on our mom’s phone- it was the best thing we’d ever experienced up until that point. Anyway, I don’t know if my getting older is what’s making me feel old, or if it’s that I’ve lived through a shift/change in generations within my lifetime. In the first generation I lived in, technology was MUCH more primitive or nonexistent in comparison to today’s generation’s technology. I think that shift/change in and of itself can make someone feel old due to the extreme culture shock you experience as new technology and innovation begin to be created and whatnot- regardless of whether you’re actually old or not (I’m clearly not as a 21 year old).

[@susanac.1299]

I found this episode so comforting, thank you so much.

[@shachiwithahalo]

This is legit the highlight of my week💕

[@angel_vii]

The younger people in my life tend to be receptive to my presence and advice and I think it's because I'm equally receptive to their experience and newer perspective on things. Everyone can learn from everyone. I think it's just about mutual respect.

[@Hanna-xd5hn]

i love how cristine is always articulate about everything

[@dollhouse1298]

I wish I could have watched this four years ago. I was TERRIFIED of turning thirty because I hadn't "found myself". It doesn't matter. As long as you're making ends meet and more or less happy, you're golden.

[@Eva.Toronto.6]

One of my favourite podcasts ever!

[@Zivqyduyutru]

A lot of what you said on here is something i actually needed to hear for myself, especially from an adult’s “perspective” something i don’t get to have many thoughts or advice from. Thank you internet mom and dad

[@aquamari6770]

The moment between Ben & Menchie in the beginning is so precious! ❤

[@mrs.wonder1481]

i feel like an outlier in that i'm 34 and feel exactly the same as in my 20s.. no nasty hangovers yet either

[@kathrinradovel6578]

I'm 22 and the hangover is so much worse than it was when I was 18😂

[@tabbyvincent991]

34 here and I feel old sometimes but then sometimes still feel like a teenager.

[@kiera9320]

"Observing the progress is part of the payoff" was a really nice reminder I needed :)

[@CapMIam]

The example of Gen Y (and X, for that matter) trying to use younger slang and being called out for it is not unlike attempting to fit in with cliques in high-school. More often than not, there is a sliding scale btwn using slang in a cool or ironic fashion, and navigating in the moment as to when to use it appropriately. At this point, best not to even decipher it 🤯 😆 Advice to my younger self ? Be kinder to myself mentally, emotionally and physically. I spent the better part of my late teens and early 20s in pursuit of 'the win' or being 1st or right. It really doesn't matter to anyone but you, living in your memory and rarely others. Currently reading Chip Conley, Wisdom @ Work: The Making of a Modern Elder, and how workplaces can benefit from older mentors.

[@hjtrek]

I'm 42 and in a lot of ways, I was a late bloomer and it's like I'm in my 20s. But then my knees are falling apart and need replaced. Also, in my Senior year of HS, the internet was considered untrustworthy and we had NO WAY to cite anything online for research papers. The teacher had to make up a way, and limited us to 2 online sources. Lol

[@baileypolsin9862]

ayo this comment is because i was listening to your podcast today but don't remember which episode it was but at the end y'all were talking about who tf just listens to your podcast instead of watching it and i can gladly say i am one of those people. but i only listen while i work, because i have a adult job in an office now, but i sneak an airpod in and listen to y'all's podcast for almost the whole 8 hours i am there. it's just nice being able to listen to y'all talk because music gets boring and catching up on y'all's podcasts i have been missing is much more enjoyable. so ya y'all are what get me through my long boring hours of work-can't wait to be done and move to college-thanks for being amazing role models and giving great advice to someone who is just entering college this fall

[@kuttebulle]

Haha, dude, I really needed this episode! Im turning 31 this month and deal with everything in those comments. Thanks for another great conversation from my favorite podcast!

[@ihugcats4624]

I relate to Cristine so much with wanting to still be connected to the culture of what's new and happening now. I'm a piano teacher, and wanting to stay on top of what music is happening now (movies, video games, artists etc), so my students can connect with music they know and not only decades old is very important to me. My teacher growing up did a fantastic job of introducing me to older music and also keeping up with what was current, and it's something I want to pass on to my kiddos. I'm right there with you bestie! We got this🥰

[@evelyneca7454]

This podcast comes just at the right time for me. I feel like I'm really going through it rn with all the thoughts and feelings about 30 being 'old'. What makes me feel like an adult now comparred to when I was younger, is that life doesn't feel endless anymore. Recently I feel so restless and pressured. I feel confronted by all the fantasies I had as a kid about what I wanted life to be like or what I thought it would be like. I feel like I'm going through a quarter life crises or something. I feel like I'm grieving every day for what life used to be like and what I thought life would be when I was younger. I have to remind myself that you are never 'too old' for anything and to stay positive. I am still so blessed in so many ways. I can understand Christine with the whole 'bestie' thing. It does feel like you aren't allowed to do certain things anymore or people don't think it's appropriate anymore because of your age. It makes me feel excluded and rejected at times. Like I should be ashamed?? I find myself constantly questioning wether it's alright for me to do something or wear something because of my age. It makes me feel so insecure. It's kind of hilarious that I don't want to wear a mini skirt because I'm 30 now and I don't want people to think I'm still trying to be 16 or 21 yet my mom is 60 and wears short skirts all the time and I've never question it or think it inappropriate. She looks nice! And I got to stop putting myself through this.

[@Mewshiix]

I actually just turned 30 in May and this has literally been on my mind a lot lately! I have the feeling that I’m running out of time to do what I wanna do.. but after this I have come to the realization that I have a lot years ahead of me and I needed that! Thanks!

[@thegoogs]

So bestie is also used super sarcastically too, not just to mean best friend. Sometimes when people are giving you shady or cutting advice, they say “bestie” facetiously when they don’t really mean “bestie” - it’s meant to sound very direct or a little passive aggressive. Millennials only seem to only understand how to use it literally without picking up on the subtext at all. In reality, the meaning depends on the context!

[@hf3023]

You do realize that term was around for millennials and Gen z in the 1990s and 2000s. You act like context and sarcasm was only recently invented lol. People used bestie negatively and positively depending on the context, tone and person you were talking to.

[@thegoogs]

@@hf3023 Yes, of course I realize that. I’m just adding to the context Simply was missing when she talked about being criticized over how she uses the word.

[@hf3023]

@@thegoogs I agree that added context is good, I just didn't agree with your blanket statement that millennials can't pick up the subtext of the term, it doesn't track considering I know a few millennials who use it in the trendy way. Either way it's in the dictionary and in the context critstine was using, she was utilizing the dictionary definition, she unfortunately got criticism because her fans didn't take in the context and the fact that there are more meanings. Technically she was speaking English, not even the current slang

[@rjlee-cc4xy]

@@hf3023 yh but no one uses ‘bestie’ w a positive connotation anymore. so hearing it to mean smthn like ‘bestfriend’ sounds off to non-millennials

[@wingedambition]

I can definitely relate to adjusting from being the young one in the workplace, when I started at my job and was doing really well it I was treated like a child prodigy, I'm only 25 now but already I've had to make the transition from being ✨️young and special✨️ to being someone who is just doing their job

[@TieDyeKiss]

I’m really glad you included those comments about people with chronic disease/disability experiencing weird body things at a young age. I’ve been disabled since I was 14, and I get kind of frustrated when people talk about feeling old in their 30s when I’ve never NOT felt old in my body; I never had an actual childhood because there were so many things my body could never do. This isn’t a perspective I’ve ever heard expressed before by an abled person, and this is exactly why I love this podcast so much. You guys are so insightful and incredibly thoughtful.

[@IsiiFlores]

I completely agree with Cristine, keep everything you own it will come back in style. I still use the tartan coat I bought when I was 14, and I regularly use my greatgrandmother's cardigan and get compliments on it

[@DjTrackcube]

There's a song by Lorde called "Secrets from a girl" and she sums it up pretty good. Although the melody is very happy, it's one of the saddest songs by her. "Couldn't wait to turn 15, then you blink it's been ten years."

[@randomguda]

Seeing kids that I used to babysit graduate highschool made me feel real old at the ripe age of 25, so do the kids that I work with at Starbucks. I also like that you guys talked about the older students that were in your grad program and their attitude towards school. I didn't go to college until covid hit, but I find i have more drive and motivation than some of my classmates who recently graduated highschool. I'm also going at a slower pace because I want to do well and I want to enjoy it! And I am! Majoring in Chemistry is hard, but its not so bad when I only take 2-3 classes a semester so I do well and don't burnout.

[@raw.potato]

Posted on my 30th, impeccable timing 👌🏼😂😂

[@misterhayleyface]

What hits me the most is the cousins I babysat in my teens are now older than I was when I looked after them.. blows my mind and makes me feel soo oooooooolddd!

[@babygemmer]

I just really need to +1 on the section "It's okay to make mistakes in your 20's" It rings so true cause I have recently started chasing my dreams that I've put off for fear of shame and of what others thought of me. I'm now 32 and I really couldn't care-less about how good or bad I am and what others think of what I'm doing. Instead, I'm proud of myself for doing it in the first place and continue pursuing that which makes me happy.

[@morganederonne2032]

being in my 20s, I’m so happy after watching this podcast because i feel like i’m already following those advices (not caring about other ppl opinions too much, wearing what i want, being myself, listen to my coworkers even if they are 50+ wtf ??)

[@kittykat10]

I love how this is about feeling old and the first ad was playing a backstreet boy song. And yes i started dancing and singing along😅

[@catslippers5910]

I’m not even in my 30’s (25) but being a middle school teacher really taught me a lot about the youths. It is because you are like a person, Duolingo and Wendy’s are faceless corporations so it’s kind of funny and fun when they use slang. But any time I tried to use slang, because my students knew me, they just felt weird that an older person was using their slang-regardless if I used it correctly or not. They were like “that’s for us not our 25 year old teacher.” So I just embraced the cringe and would dab and say “catch the drip.” Kids are weird but they honestly thought it was endearing that an adult actually tried to relate to them.

[@hapsate]

Love this episode. Being in your age range, I can totally relate

[@heiose]

Around 30:00 I completely understand not being the youngest person at work anymore… and I’m 21 lol I used to always be the youngest manager at 18, then I left for 6 months to take care of my sick family member and when I came back, I was the oldest manager! The new management crew called me grandma and everything lmao and I’m only 21

[@Lina-zj3kk]

As a young/almost mid 20 something year old, I can completely relate to the external pressure of figuring out all the details of my life now. Even if we’ve graduated, there’s always pressure of “is this what you want to do for the rest of your life?” “Think of your career goals”. “You need to work somewhere where you can grow and not get stuck”. There’s no perceived room to explore and live and find out what you want because you need to settle for something now, or you’ll be ruined for life. It’s incredibly exhausting, traumatizing, and overall anxiety inducing. I appreciate all the “older” people who say to take our time and not worry about finding everything now. It’s such a hard ask to figure everything out now to someone who just recently stopped being a student and is completely newly out in the “real world”

[@emilyfoster2426]

Thanks for acknowledging us chronically ill folks! I’ve been feeling old for a looooong time as my body has been malfunctioning since I was 10!

[@lisaleone2296]

I just turned 51. Aside from generally being achier and creakier, I definitely feel like I'm becoming less tolerant with age, which is very strange. I find myself saying things that made me mad when my parents said them 30 years ago. I also get excited about new appliances, and the feeling when you've cleaned or redecorated a room and everything is new and fresh.....

[@hideakisorachi3953]

34:19 ik im fairly young but this comment in particular gave me whiplash bc i realized that i started watching you when i was 10 (5th grade) and now im 18 and have graduated high-school. not to be all parasocial relationship, but in a way your channel raised me and i feel like it made me a better person when i didnt have other, more reliable adult figures in my life.

[@monicadomingues326]

@10:00 ... Ben and Cristine talking about Much Music. Wow... Flash backs. It was so funny I was like Yup channel 29 and then Ben said it. So good !! Love the pod

[@weirdet275]

As I get older the song "Sunscreen" was my graduation song. It hits right on the nose!!!

[@PixxiBug]

I turned 30 this year and I work in a IT Service Desk.. I'm the oldest in my team and even a year older than my boss.. I feel old sometimes but the fact we're so close in age also makes the dynamic a lot better than previous places where I was the youngest and everyone else was heading towards their 40s at the time.

[@paulyallsbrook1496]

Started watching you when I was 18, I’m 26 now. Love all your content.

[@nat2057]

Gen z person here, about the conversation happening at 22:20 I don't think they were saying it as in "oh cringe Cristine just said bestie". I can't quite explain it but everytime I've used it or my friends have, we don't mean that the thing we're referring to shouldn't be doing what they're doing, we saying it to point out the fact that someone did something and it's amusing. I'm really struggling to explain it. I can see how it's seen as a negative thing but I'm almost 100% sure that they meant it in a "Cristine just did something and I noticed" kind of way. It sounds like it makes absolutely no sense but if you look at the comments of memes on instagram too, we just comment that about funny things I should also say not all of us really use it seriously, at least me and my friends don't. We generally use it ironically and sometimes we're weirded out by people saying bestie irl too. It's not really an age thing, but you can use it Cristine, I don't think the person who posted it meant it the way you read it

[@autumnavalanche1097]

ben's tshirt is so cute i love the print and the colour

[@Porscha314]

I had a really bad sunburn in my teens. I was in Arkansas with family and we went tubing/canoeing down a river. I refused any sunscreen offered to me and we ended up on the river for about 6 hours. I didn't go to the doctor or feel ill, but I had blisters and now I'm covered in freckles. I slather on sunscreen now and even wear a swimming shirt to avoid sunburns. In the past few years, I've started going to the dermatologist to get checked out for suspicious spots. My sister and one of my cousins both have said they use my story as a warning. I wish I had been better about wearing sunscreen when I was younger.

[@jade_anna_]

Regarding the whole youth slang thing I have a feeling that the comments that said "not Cristine using the word bestie" was more so the younger audience being shocked that #1 you knew the term and the use and #2 that you would want to use it. As a member of the gen z population I love that you use the term bestie and you can continue to use it!