Too Many Interests & Not Enough Follow Through? Try This

Struggling with "too many things" on your mind and not sure how to juggle all your interests? Especially for those with ADHD, managing multiple interests can be a challenge. In this video, we dive into a step-by-step guide on how to handle having too many interests, and how to design your life to focus on what truly matters. Learn how to recognize the problem, understand your patterns, and build a fortress around your focus. Don't let the feeling of "too many things" overwhelm you, let's find balance together.
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Introduction
01:13 why ADHD brains have too many interests
03:35 Why ADHD'er seek an ADHD coach to help with too many interests
04:12 why we constantly have too many interests
07:38 What to do about too many interests

[@one234569and10]

I keep restarting this video because I CANT FOCUS on listening the entire time, UHG!!!

[@QueenDTheTruthseeker]

Lol I thought it was just me 🤣 I'm having a very ADHD day today!

[@QueenDTheTruthseeker]

​@adhd_lifetips great idea, thanks

[@KadiiRawr]

Try reading & watching with subtitles on, or changing the playback speed to 1.25 or 1.5. It creates a bit more stimulation and can help make focusing a little bit easier

[@rachvdlin]

What helps me is adding subtitles, so I focus on the text

[@johnvliet523]

Plus, it doesn’t really start until 8:30. There are so many people who make videos for those of us with ADHD and they don’t seem to get that they should start with what the title promises or we will get lost waiting for them to get around to it.

[@brucemcclelland904]

Alas, KZbin is the perfect drug for multipotentials. Amazing how many courses and job and hobby and life skills I can get just by changing channels

[@user-vm7ii5do3e]

72 yo male with super divergent ADHD. I LOVE MY ADHD. I feel like I hit the jackpot with all of the fun life experiences and skills that I've developed because of ever-changing interests. Traveled all over the world, started and sold two companies, taught myself to engineer, program, create graphics, have an advanced private pilot license, play guitar, banjo, dobro, piano, motorcycled through the Alps, loved many women (but found a keeper). The list goes on... If I could start life over again, I'd pick ADHD in a heartbeat. I can't imagine how boring normal life must be. My only complaint is that I can never just relax. I've got to be working on something.

[@nwakanmachika9522]

Nothing like ADHD. You are an achiever. The society wants us to be average that's why they are labelling creativity as a disease

[@lkd06]

you're not ADHD...you have NO idea!

[@laulaja-7186]

Not to pop anyone‘a bubble but frantic busyness that is enjoyable, is a form of relaxation.

[@savnasei]

This is exactly the life I want to live!

[@CarenMagill]

Omg, thank you so much for sharing that! I think we all need to hear an encouraging perspective like this. 🥰

[@Dobbyisfree000]

This month alone I went from wanting to open a home cafe to becoming a life coach to trading the cat for the cat show. Ps. I don’t even have a cat.

[@ryanzez]

😂

[@CaraHillVoiceoverArtist]

Now that's is funny. I have had similar thoughts. I now have 100 carved wooden whales made from palm tree husks because of one of these tangents ! 😂

[@joulsw3739]

I can so relate. I was watching dog training videos much to the amusement of my dog owning friend. I do not have a dog nor any intention of owning one 😂

[@MatthewGillespiedj]

Even the things that I feel like I want to do end up feeling like "shoulds."

[@madisonhealey]

saaaaame. SOS

[@kalidoscope3270]

Maybe you are a PDA profile?

[@natgrant1364]

That sounds like me as well.

[@hazelsalminen1448]

I very rarely drop anything - I keep ALL the interests! And so I never feel like an expert in anything, because I haven't spent enough time on it. I think it's some sort of career FOMO. Plus I'm interested in so many things, and choosing just one feels wrong and boring and not an expression of me. Because I'm all of those things 🙄

[@CaraHillVoiceoverArtist]

I totally get this. 😃

[@aja1108]

Are you also a gemini

[@anver6594]

same

[@richardmonson8657]

Too

[@iCandiMandy]

I have 20 small business....ideas ....if I can only push through just one of them till the finish line .....id be golden

[@amandacloke9692]

Same!

[@justathought7221]

Same as well 😕

[@kirbyaugustine761]

Co-sign. A big part of my problem is knowing that I could do well at any one I choose which adds to the confusion.

[@pinkscampi]

I started a fair few, got bored and closed them 😅😂

[@paulaatkinson9869]

Same here.

[@faithgathigia6341]

I call myself a multipassionaire😂

[@Mushroom321-]

😊😅😮😮epic!!!

[@kirafranklyn2923]

That's a good one. Ima coin that

[@walkingnoah7237]

100% Me

[@Von_Patrick_Arts]

Hard

[@christophergreen3809]

My life is a history of unfinished projects!

[@mmortensen5598]

I decided my hobby was organizing projects - now I just need to find somewhere to sell all the projects I bought everything for and never started (aka organized). 😂

[@terratrodder]

When I get slightly bored, and it's going to happen even with something I'm very interested in, I lose focus and just can't concentrate anymore. No matter what method I try, I continue to drift off and think about something else. It truly sucks as I have SO many interests and can't complete any of them. Books take forever to get through. 😄

[@Heyu7her3]

I truly, truly thought I wasn't holding onto others' expectations, but I was. Took an extensive burnout & shutdown period _(which put me in an in-patient therapy program)_ to realize this & grieve those things. 😮‍💨 The true work is in allowing that grief to happen & in radically accepting your reality. Otherwise, you'll end up in the same burnout cycle like I did.

[@CarenMagill]

100% agree with this.

[@sayusayme7729]

Thank you 🦉

[@user-yt5ol9se1f]

I have so many of these ADHD videos saved for when I think I have more ability to focus, since it does seem vary. Then I forget I have them. Then I save another one. Rinse, repeat.

[@tuesdayswithed]

Knowing what I really want eludes me. All I ever knew was what I don't want, and that's what I always got. There's no hope for me and I'm too old now anyway.

[@d.rabbitwhite]

Recognize this. Most of the passion for doing ideas, even starting, has diminished to nearly nothing. This is directly due to the age issue. Starting over in the past was no problem, but now, it is a such a challenge, and the words in my head repeat: what even is the point? ...there is more nuance to it, but this is a comment section, not a book or magazine.

[@freshpootube]

I’m there. I’ve reduced my multiple project habit. Sold all equipment for passing hobbies and sports (except power tools of course!). Forced myself to finish one or two things a year. Still think & plan other things but banned myself from starting anything new. Hard because I’m a creative by profession. So constantly having new ideas is my job. Much harder in periods where I have no work.

[@davidrice1803]

It's annoying to me how algorithms know what interests me but I was glad I saw this channel. I'm a 67 year old man who has struggled with almost all the characteristics of ADHD. I have self depracted since I was very young. Wondering what exactly was wrong with me. Why can't I do the basic tasks? Feeling of fear, anxiety, depression. Forgetting things. Losing things. Unable to focus and retain information. Unless it was something I loved. Sports, music, movie lines. Sounds familiar right? But my current spouse is a mental health professional and she has told me for a long time I was classic ADHD. My fight or flight mechanism refused to cave. Long story short. I was diagnosed and began a medication regimen. So glad I did because it has completely changed my life.

[@brodriguez11000]

Sounds any solution requires medication so without that it will be an uphill battle.

[@jessepaynter3752]

What was the medication 😮‍💨

[@geemail369]

For me, having stopped comparing myself to others a long time ago, it's not about feeling behind but an ominous sense of not growing and progressing towards something meaningful. 😐

[@beesworld04]

This!! i feel it.

[@brodriguez11000]

Right, and as one progresses towards the other end of life that feeling grows stronger. Sort of a clock ticking.

[@brigittedionne9640]

Ya same. The main message of this video doesn’t resonate with me. My struggle isn’t to tune out the external expectations, as a creative multipotentialite (non adhd), I’m an independant weirdo and fine with that. It’s that I have too many genuine ideas and interests and can’t get any of them out into the world.

[@mikehillproject]

THIS IS ME... In the last 2 years I've started an eBay Business, a copywriting business, a fitness coaching business, taking classes at night to get nutrition coach certified, started a newsletter, started a sports youtube channel, started a fitness youtube channel, bought more books to read about business, social media and copywriting, I workout 7 days per week and do all of these things I listed while still having a full time career completely unrelated. Im still juggling all of these things and now I will watch your video.

[@jeffwhite2511]

I don't have any 'should dos' and NEVER do anything that isn't authentic. I only do ''Hell Yes'' activities but yet still feel overwhelmed by all the cool things that resonate with my values. I have left many good jobs, relationships, places I live, friends, etc... because they didn't align with who i am. FREEDOM and authenticity are the most essential things in life yet most people actually fear both,

[@jcnlaw]

Great video! Never let someone else’s expectations or opinion of you drag you down. I was an awful high school student. Fast forward many years, I graduated at the top of my law school / MBA class. Consistently rated one of the top family law attorneys in my jurisdiction. Focus on the things that bring you joy and get you excited. Surround yourself with and learn from the right people. It’s never too late. As a creative hobby, I started uploading to my KZbin channel a couple of years ago. (Just hit 9k subscribers). Strip away all of the negative people and negative influences in your life. ADD can literally be a gift if channeled the right way.

[@KoKo-gu3dh]

Thank God I am not the only one like this!

[@sathurxy49]

I have seen and abandoned so many "self help" videos. You nailed it, my love. Stunning presentation, BS-free Zone. Thank you.

[@marksadler4104]

I was diagnosed at 50 with ADHD. Hobbies included electronics, photography, pistol and rifle(national level), play jazz(self taught), glider pilot (solo),ultralight pilot (when my wife lets me). Currently it's fencing working towards veteran national level. Learning now ai and robotics. I was a lab tech at a leading UK university, lots of skills I picked up. Downside, not good at socialising, always think I'm inferior. Though now I'm on medication, I'm still have this attitude of being inferior....

[@christinawilson7229]

Self compassion is your friend. You have so much great and interesting stuff to talk about with other people. You are so not boring! Go for it -socially!

[@DTPIIXART]

I can't tell you how many websites I own right now lol.... and hardly any of them have been updated in months. I'm trying to slim the number down and start focusing on just my favorite projects. I'm even trying to figure out if I can possibly combine some projects into something bigger on just one website. That would be the ultimate fix for me.

[@ebeb516]

What feels natural to me is to keep bee bopping around back and forth to whatever I’m able to focus on in the moment because anything else is not just torture but nearly impossible and extremely exhausting. The things I push through come at a great cost to my effectiveness in other aspects of my life.

[@amandarada3242]

I had a ballet teacher that told me I was a "late bloomer" ... i was a young aldult at this point... i was like, omg, she's right! And now, 20 years later I feel like that statement has followed me/haunted me and I continue to validate it by my actions, or shoukd I say lack of actions!! Fear of failure, making the wrong decision, any decision, even while in the process, 2nd guessing, allowing distraction, procrastination... I digress. RESULT: NO PROGRESS!! 🤨😤😩

[@StarlasAiko]

I went to school because of social and legal obligation. I want to become a novelist, a digital 3D graphic designer, a leather worker, a parkour athlete, a coder, a game developer, a midwife, a.... And, yes, I want them for myself. If I went for what my social environment wants for me, I'd be a carpenter. I want all of those skills and vocationsfor myself, and I want them all too much to be willing to give up on any of them and non of them stands out so much above the rest that I would consider giving up any for the sake of that one. I am torn between choices not because of some externally inflicted score card or social pressure (in fact social pressure wants me to make a choice and stick with it) but because I have too many interests that are competing with each other, to the point of complete paralysis, stopping me from doing any of it.

[@timhahn7542]

Same 😔

[@donkeyjoe4782]

This is my life, excited focus for 3 seconds then depressed about a lack of motivation

[@sharissahs]

Not me engaging actively with your videos because I heard you state that youtube's score influences your motivation and self worth. Honestly, you are a life saver for me. Your way of thinking, speaking and just the cadence of your voice helps me throughout the day. I listen to you whenever I have to do something that feels impossible to me. So thank you! I hope you will feel intrinsically motivated again soon!

[@zubinator1]

I definitely suffer from this but mainly because I genuinely have an interest in many things that give me energy! I also have a pretty clear vision of what I want my life to look like, I just don't know what the exact path to get there is! I've never felt 100% sure about a singular way forward and I really wish I would.

[@kineto7]

I think this saved me.. Ive been really struggling with unfulfilling work environment and low pay that suicide and just leaving this place had come to mind

[@sarahsmithwiberg2797]

You have good things inside of you to bring to the world. And I hope you can ask for better things that you deserve at work whether it is a pay raise, promotion, new position. Work can be tough and unfulfilling, but you have value to bring to your workplace . If they don’t recognize it, try to find a place that does. If it feels too overwhelming, make one tiny change and start there. Wishing you positive changes in your future.

[@eyeriiis]

We would all love to have our passion become our career. But it's just not that simple.

[@highpriestessmoon]

I have adhd, and have always had a passion for many hobbies. But the main reason why I dont think the follow through is high is the lack of dopamine. I notice when I play video games, at some point the dopamine stops hitting, and I'll get bored. I then have to switch to a new game. This can take weeks or months for me. I think its the same with starting creative projects. I've learned when the feeling is happening, and how to hack my brain for it. I just try to go slowly with things. I've been working on making my own video game which takes a lot of different skills. I make sure I work on it even for 10 min a day. If I keep momentum in a task I want to complete. I notice Im far more likely to see it through! Idk if any of this makes sense. Just rambling my thoughts!

[@jorgleiger]

Caren: "So I'm gonna cut to the chase right now and start off with the real reason I think all of us deal with this problem: (We think that) who we are (right now) is not good enough." Me: 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@iveyd8327]

The imposter syndrome is ridiculously hard to overcome. I felt this!

[@TheArtisticBiker]

I am halfway through the video trying to listen to you explain the problem I already know I have and you STILL haven't begun offering your big solution!

[@hopeinparis]

Plus, the sound is not in sync with the video and her hand gestures are overly active - it's an ironically distracting presentation, and yes, way too slow to get to the point.

[@josephmello4517]

Around 7:40 she moves into an exercise to help.

[@pawelkapica5363]

Yeah 😂 you would think that someone ficused pn add brains would realize they wobt have the patience to warch all the way if the solution isnt at the start

[@kirafranklyn2923]

@@josephmello4517thank you very much

[@theco-conspiriters]

Actually….it behooves us all to practice patience and listen.. every word she spoke supported the whole.. listen again.. don’t watch it.. just listen… the tools are not all in the “ fixing “ the tools are also in the understanding of how we get there.. just relax.. sit back and listen ..

[@alexandrac591]

What if I am really sure that I want to do certain things but then feel like I don't deserve it because of all the necessary things I haven't done? Days are so short. I feel like there are so many things I need to do every day that take a lot of time, or add up to a lot of time. And I often cut corners on the daily necessities out of rebellion or tiredness. I'm bad at exercising and practicing my music and stuff. I used to think I was good at making decisions but I am actually not that great at it. I feel like I don't have the right info, which is understanding how to fit it all in and have enough time to focus.

[@elizabethlorick6092]

I don’t even know the difference between the shoulda, woulda, coulda and my true self. The two have been intertwined/interchangeable for decades.

[@beesworld04]

Ahhh yes, this is me I just turned 39 and recently feel very unaccomplished. I keep saying I need help, but I do.

[@sheenaontheinternet]

Same! I just turned 39 too. The mental games are exhausting !

[@user-nb7jm9if3q]

@10:30... Your words about having my own scorecard... definitely made my whole body and mind release and relax... WOW.. years of own mental torture, and You have made me cry in the best possible way ... THANK YOU!!!

[@farginargle]

Yes this has been my issue most of my life. Why KZbin is where I spend so much time, so many interests!

[@miggseye]

I’m so glad I found your channel today. To be understood like this is so validating. Thank you. (I will now spend the rest of the day watching every pertinent video on your channel, LOL) I'd like to distinguish another thing that happens 25% down the road that gets in the way of completing things (especially creative things and endeavors like brainstorming). 25% down the road of an idea I’ll see an entirely new possibility, a new creative idea available now by being 25% down the road of the 1st idea with the new combination of ideas I’ve gathered along the way-and that’s only and uniquely available at that point. So now I’ll have 2 bright shiny ideas instead of just one. And the 2nd one is a bit brighter and shinier at that moment (shining with possibilities). So I'll drop the first one and pick up the second one. I am turned on by possibility (probably getting a shot of dopamine whenever a new possibility arises) and I’ll diverge from that 1st path (that’s cycled 25% down the path of potentiality) and reach for the possibility instead and mainline that dopamine-following that new path to possibility. And so on, and so on, and so on.... I have a humongous landscape of possibilities.

[@traestorm]

All this exercise did was reinforce the fact that I can't complete things I want to do. And that made me feel AWERSOME!

[@guitarbuddha74]

I'm sure this applies to people but I don't find that I pursue things based on social pressure other than the required things you mentioned. I more have sort of a dopamine tank that causes me to start things I find interesting then after a while it hits that part of a skill where it gets harder and I want to switch again to refill the dopamine. I have found that if I switch then come back eventually to the thing I started on before I can sort of eventually get good at some things. It is an incredible slog though and takes me several times longer than most people mostly because I have to relearn things I've forgotten or I'm not constantly working on. In my mind though these are all things that I really want to learn and get really good at. I have managed over time to break things down into broad categories I wanted to learn like music, art, coding then break that down more into specifics versus just randomly looking around and letting things snag my interest. That has helped a bit but it's still hard to stick with things for very long stretches.

[@timhahn7542]

Yeah I felt the same way watching the video. I feel like I more relate to what you're saying then what she said about doing stuff based on pressure from others. I just do stuff because I find it interesting and my brain won't let me stop LOL

[@fromjaxflorida]

I took the test to become a licensed mortgage agent and passed it with no problem because I thought I wanted to be one. Then I was interested to become a licensed health insurance agent and passed that too. I still hold a real estate license and keep paying the renewal because maybe one day I will become one. I passed the real estate license in 2005. Now, I want to become a tax expert, learn to code, even enroll in nursing school, make YT videos, become a long-haul truck driver, electrician, etc. My mind will not settle to one thing once once I learn it, instead of sticking to one and becoming an expert. I'm 50 and empty nester, and my children don't need me, so it's also depressing. I thought making more money will make me happy but it's not. One day I'm high with the many ideas I want to achieve and the next day I'm defeated. I'm not sure what I have and how do I achieve part of the goals.

[@stephboilard]

I completely agree.. I'm a visual artist and have SO many little projects and ideas that never reach completion because I switch partway through. Then after a break, my interest reignites and I have to re-learn what I'd forgotten and make a bit more progress. Then, I need another break and pick something else. It takes so long to master the skills I actually WANT to learn because I keep jumping ships.

[@lorafrost9628]

I think the self beliefs are embedded through commercials from very early childhood. We see things that make other kids extremely happy that we don't have or are told no we can't get that. And it's on a massive scale. All kid focused ads show us our happiness is external. And honestly, parents cannot outpace this barrage of images when both work and kids are basically raising each other in school and continuing the comparisons of who has what and what things you need to be happy. The cruelty is that things ultimately (typically) don't lead to happiness.

[@marcusvaldes]

I also feel the procrastination effect in this process of finding new interests. Lots of research but not enough DOING!!

[@amandarada3242]

Ahhh.... sooooo meee!!! Yes! God help me!

[@andrewdiamond2697]

I use procrastination as a tool. I always have the interest I'm working on in the moment, and the next one in line that I can research to death, but not do anything about until it's time. That way, I'm not trying to actively work on too much, and I'll be ready to jump in on the next one with what I consider to be the requisite expertise to start.

[@katsal4757]

It's crazy how perfectly timed your videos are to my life! I was thinking about this topic a lot in the last few weeks and had this exact realisation. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge!

[@petez4608]

Creativity and voracious curiosity are kinda wrecking me right now. I spend my life managing these things. Doesn’t allow room or energy for much else. But I love life and it’s fun being in my head at least. 😊

[@esteebukay9096]

This is not helpful at all. The 20 business ideas I have are all authentically aligned with me, and my indecision on which one to follow through on has nothing to do with all the social norms etc you mentioned. The indecision comes from not knowing which one is best for me and not a waste of time, which one will actually succeed, which one is actually manageable for my adhd, etc etc. My lack of follow through is the fear of making the wrong decision, and has nothing to do with societal expectations and scorecards 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@bel6225]

@esteebukay9096 That’s so great you have 20 business ideas that are all aligned with your authentic self. Go through your list of ideas & see if one idea really excites you, makes you smile, gives you energy. If they are all good ideas, pick any one of them & just make a start. The idea that will succeed is the one that you focus on, put the time into & master 💖

[@pamelaranney6631]

I completely agree with you. It is ADHD related BUT there's the more to it that you point out. Thank you. The ten great ideas I checked into I found wouldn't be right for me. Most grab an idea rush in throw money at it but don't really figure out if it will be sustainable for them. I say keep search the right one will resonate with you on all levels.

[@itsthehumidityyall8303]

I feel the exact same way.

[@therabidpancake1]

Some of us have more choices than others .

[@Satsui_No_Hado]

This is arguably, my favorite video of 2024 and the most useful one. It's starting to make more sense why it's so hard for me to focus and concentrate on something that I don't like versus why it's so easy to concentrate on things I do like or I'm interested in. And you're right, you always have a choice. Excellent content 🙏

[@tourguidechuck]

I've watched two of you videos and they've blown me away! You have given me so much insight into the problems I'm dealing with! I have found your videos so helpful I am sharing them with my Betterhelp therapist. I don't want to knock my therapist but I've attained more insight from two videos than several sessions. Thanks so much!

[@thegreybox6886]

Thank you so much for that video. You describe me and my struggles so perfectly. I never thought I could have ADHD. I subscribe and I will, for sure, watch more of your videos. I need changes in my life. Thank you again for the help.

[@greenrabbit2446]

I am so glad I have found your channel. You clarified a lot of things for me and now I feel like can manage my life somewhat. Love from Ukraine ❤

[@vidaconexcelencias5146]

KZbin algorithm is magic. Ive just came from my therapist we talked about adhd an here i am with the explanation of my life.

[@MrBrianDuga]

2nd video that I didn’t even search for - so good! I look at a lot of things I started out of intrinsic motivation that somehow transformed to become extrinsic. Worrying about expectations, judgement, disappointing others, perfection caused them to get into the weeds and halt. Started a siding job on my house over 10 years ago and it’s still not finished. And my brain is obsessed over tearing it down to do it again!

[@mariac2472]

I’m so glad that everything she talked about is some thing I’ve already done either on paper or in my mind. Thank you for this video because you’ve confirmed my process for making decisions on what to do!

[@Watchyamacallit]

You’re a beautiful soul, thank you for explaining it well.

[@RVDRRVDR]

Omg Magill, I could spend my whole life watching your videos. You're so inspiring and sometimes it feels like you are talking straight to me, like you knew me better than I do. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@phil2768]

Thank you. It resonated when you said about aligning with natural tendencies. I've been hopelessly struggling for years to find purpose, direction and to avoid distractions and procrastination. I know what I really want to achieve (many things) but usually get wrapped up in something else or by obligation that takes me away. I have ADHD and Autism so they seem to fight against each other, I strive for routine, perfection (used to) and don't like unplanned change but on the other hand find myself never finishing something. I've procrastinated heavily with KZbin and social media for years so I cut those out only to then gravitate to something different to replace it, that just ends up being another vice (like, out of the frying pan, into the fire). If only I could be routined and the self discipline to work on the things I really want to achieve when I need to and then spend a different time doing the other 'dopamine hitting' but enjoyable distractions then I'd be sorted but I always end up drifting into doing those other things at the wrong times, usually sabotaging my efforts on the goals I really want. In the end, I have achieved basically nothing for many years ☹️

[@theco-conspiriters]

I downloaded this information about 3 weeks ago.. watching now is a beautiful affirmation.. I’m in week two of accepting my dopamine needs.. figuring out flow in a way that supports that part of me instead of fighting it .. a peace is building!!

[@SirianXM]

This is life changing, thank you for being you 🙏💙

[@MaprilZyrup]

This hit home for sure, I typically burn out and don't do anything and feel depressed from that. I've definitely been figuring out the "discerning" part of what interests are important. Difficult with honest self talk to let go of ideas and hobbies you've wasted money on.

[@LilCraftyNook]

This hit the nail on the head for me! Once you’re an adult, yes, but kids need structure. My youngest grandchildren are being slowly destroyed. They are being taught (passively) that they can do whatever they want and it is causing major psychological problems. They are physically unkempt also.

[@54V4]

Loved this. Thank you Caren.

[@ThePissedConsumer]

Very enlightening. Thank you very much!❤

[@walkingnoah7237]

I think I'll be listening to this video several times! Even someone interested in it's hard to focus.

[@martinboyd447]

What I have heard rings true to the myriad of broken connections in my flow. Love it. Just need to focus on it!

[@thebarbmiller]

I've spent years thinking I just never finished anything because I was lazy. It wasn't until lately that I started thinking I might have ADHD! I'm 50-years-old and you just explained my entire adult life in one video!

[@idontcare-ry9wo]

This video has been so helpful thankyouuu!!

[@meli1368]

This video really hit home. Thank you

[@desereetouchet9294]

I’m a stay at home mom with late diagnosed ADHD, and the only executive function I’ve been able to work really well around is big picture thinking. I have always journaled, and getting it in front of me instead of in my brain works well. I however am not vaguely feeling as if I’m falling behind, because I can big picture, I am agonizingly aware of where I’m falling short. I do agree with your point about the multiple, conflicting (especially for women) lists of what we are getting shoulded to death with.

[@bngordon]

Thank you so much for this beautiful reminder. Your message resonated with me. I will dive into what is true.

[@huntsail3727]

Excellent video. Great job!

[@sergiogonzalesYT]

Thank you for this video!

[@chrissawyer2248]

This was very helpful. Thank you.

[@marinat187]

I watch this to help myself to understand my adult daughter. Thank you. It is a very needed topic.🐞

[@anthis4297]

Thank you for this video ❤

[@16thJune2006]

Great video, this really helps, thank you.

[@dalenjurgens6751]

Maybe I got this from one of your videos! :) I have been trying to understand why I'm all over the place. I haven't been diagnosed ADHD, but I sure see it. This is very helpful

[@shubhandthewitches]

Thank you so much. Finally a video on this topic that really makes sense.

[@candacekay97128]

GAHHHH! You just described my whole life! Thank you so much for this, super helpful, I'll be doing a lot of journaling from this video!! I feel better already 😊

[@andrewdiamond2697]

I've found that by keeping a list of ideas and dates, I can give each idea time to develop. About every 5 years, I pick something from my "bucket list of ideas" to start on. Twenty years ago, it was buying an airplane and getting my fixed wing commercial/instrument ratings - and completed that. A little over fifteen years ago, I bought a couple of motorcycles. Ten years ago it was learning to ski and learning to not hate winter. Five years ago, I did yoga teacher training and became a certified yoga instructor. This summer, I'm going to start learning to play piano, and plan to stick with that until maybe 2029 until I do something else. I've mostly maintained my hobbies, though I don't have enough time or patience to get really good at any of them. A bonus is that I should have a lot of fun in retirement, as long as my health holds up.

[@donmcatee45]

Damnit, it is me. I have ideas and loose focus or generate more ideas within the steps before any recognizable outcome… Glad to have found this video!

[@gailkeyesallen]

Around minute 4 I started loosing focus ..........OMG

[@amycagle2293]

I honestly have no idea what she has said for the last 10 minutes because I have been distracted by the comments and the videos listed down the side lol. Now I have to rewind and listen to it all again.

[@miketemple7686]

Caren should have known that was going to happen with her viewers. You’re the victim of a cruel joke. 😂😂😂 That’s funny and you know it.🤣

[@CBrantleylmft]

You got a new subscriber in me! I needed this.

[@gogotrololo]

What about those of us who have chaos on things that are authentic, where I can't finish finite projects like building a banjo, or building my drone, or other things I like to start? I have a hundred half finished interests, most of which just need to be completed once and that's done forever hah

[@djn48]

If they really are authentic, then all you need is to *remember why you wanted to do them in the first place*. Then just keep going! I find that doing little bits at a time is the way to finish things. Whenever you have a spare hour or two, tinker with whatever you feel like working on. As soon as you stress about not finishing something, that's what robs you of motivation to do it. But if you just keep doing little bits of work on them, eventually every project that you truly want to do gets finished, and every project that you just started on a whim can fall by the wayside without you caring too much. As a side benefit, everything that you finish gives you motivation to keep working on things in general, so maybe try not to start too many new things until you get a few things completed. Best of luck!

[@asta9386]

Thank you so much i feel seen and this content has explained so much what im going through ❤

[@aja1108]

Landed like a ufo. I came to this understanding on my own recently and talked with my therapist about it a few weeks ago. I live the validation.

[@SkaterNate1]

I’ve got an over anxious brain which has a lot of similar effects on life as adhd. I’m learning to accept that my interests are on a rotation. With that is the understanding that succeeding at 5 things is much harder than succeeding at 1. But once I make it, that’s gonna be a hell of an accomplishment.

[@gigir4087]

I literally just had this conversation yesterday with a client but I used a little bit different language. The "Shoulds"come from a space of the expectations all the way that stem from childhood and the voices of the parents reaching to the child feeling obligated to please also perpetuating thoughts of not being good enough.

[@ReneeReneeReneeRose]

Listening at work but I'm going replay later tonight because this is GOOD❤❤❤❤❤ whew this really helps me with my thinking

[@WendyWisemanFisher]

Wow. I never linked the multiple passions to proving myself before. Thanks for the mental ahah moment!

[@darklittlepeople]

i feel like you just gave me external permission to finally do life my way - thank you, it was the missing little piece. ❤

[@bperez8656]

Lol how’s that going?

[@Lightandangles]

I do wonder how much overwhelm and procrastination is caused by social media consumption. Our brains constantly hopping from one idea to another. Diagnosis of ADHD/ anxiety/ depression etc seem to be on the rise along with all the our time spent online

[@annnielsen5070]

Na. I’ve been the same way long before there was internet.

[@batlin]

Bringing it back to the idea of the one scorecard that truly matters was mindblowingly meta!

[@dare2win215]

OMG! I keep saying I don't have ADHD, but I'm currently practicing/learning 5 musical instruments, have 8TB of unfinished music, am taking a course in meditation & orchestration, was studying to become an electrician, spanish, German, & created my own language, & script.... HELP ME! 😲 I want to do EVERYTHING... Thanks for this video!

[@anfa75]

Thank you for introducing the term mulitpotentialite, that is exactly what I am. Love that term.

[@MintyCow101]

Omg my heart, this was so great and exactly what i needed to hear!! Now i just need to make that list without getting distracted XD

[@user-bp6pd2is7i]

Thank you,thank you,thank you

[@johnguillen68]

I feel I've failed in life and I'm trying to better myself but I keep on searching for ways to do it. Through the years I've gone to school part-time and worked. I've built a great deal of debt due to money struggles. While trying to fix it my grades were affected. I would pass my classes but with great scores. As time went by, I managed to creep out of the financial hole but only to fall right back into it. I finally finished school with my bachelors after 10 years. I'm still working in the same field and trying to seek something better. I'm stuck searching for a new career not knowing which one to go to I'm looking into 6 different paths. I have an idea but then something else pops up. My credit score is below 500, I'm broke, and I'm barely surviving. I can't seem to focus on what to do on my days off from work. I'm tired of living this way. I failed at life. I don't have kids, a girlfriend, or a wife, and I'm 56 years old.

[@kathleenmartin7498]

I stumbled across your video and WOW, you nailed me!!! I never knew multi potentially was a term. All I know us my obituary is going to be quite long!!!