I grew up with a mom who is very in her masculine, and I was taught that this is the only way to live as a strong independent woman. I have learned so much from you, and through critically thinking about other female/feminist/femininity content creators and deciding what feels true to me. So many "feminine" traits that I have learned from this hobby have led me to be a happier person (and improved my relationship).
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
This is so sweet and I relate with the idea of becoming happier!!! I used to struggle with a lot of super Eeyore emo energy and emotions, like I was just upset all the time. But pressing into my femininity has really freed me up to enjoy life more and just be happier. What a blessing it is to be a woman! 😊❤ thank you for being here my dear. It’s so fun to have people who enjoy these topics to chat about them with. 😅
@Phiebe-xe4ov Жыл бұрын
I'm currently working in the superyacht industry as a 23 yo woman. As a student i was afraid my 'feminine side' was a negative thing; especially in a male dominated industry. I was afraid nobody would take me seriously as a young woman. But soon i discovered once your confident in yourself and in your work, people will be too! Now i even think that being a woman in a male dominated industry can be beneficial. Women have more soft skills and they are very well needed in the workfield. Never question your soft and feminine side, it has more power than you think! (Excuse my grammar as English is not my first language)
@extrastout1741 Жыл бұрын
Exactly, cause no one picks on u for being a woman like she says femininity is under attack.
@jesslivinlife Жыл бұрын
I agree with this. Women have better soft skills as well as empathy. This helps with negotiations and can help sway people to your advantage.
@ellabasu5027 Жыл бұрын
Ur English is perfect
@oceancitynutrition2125 Жыл бұрын
Your grammar is perfect ❤
@Phiebe-xe4ov Жыл бұрын
@@oceancitynutrition2125 thank you ❤️
@bluaurora8635 Жыл бұрын
Sounds like you are also describing attachment styles: anxious (people pleasing), avoidant (aloof), and secure (welcoming and accepting pain, able to be vulnerable)
@noelly2398 Жыл бұрын
I don’t know if anyone remembers the queen from the Tinkerbell movie, but she’s the first person/character that comes to mind when I think of feminine elegance and confidence lol! It taught me that femininity is about incorporating elegance, grace, respect and compassion for others, knowledge and wisdom, beauty, authority, and social connections so well that your image speaks for itself ❤
@bootscatsbootscatsboots Жыл бұрын
Yeah! She was voiced by Anjelica Houston, if I’m not mistaken. Talk about feminine elegance!
@marinavasquez8813 Жыл бұрын
Agree
@xxpadmoondaze1282 Жыл бұрын
QUEEN CLARION! Her and Mother Dove (from the same franchise)
@Maria-dp7ox Жыл бұрын
„cold-hearted“ woman here. the root of the display of this sort of character is the sin of mistrust. the woman I seek council from told me that the belief „I can trust nobody and no one is going to help me“ developed during my childhood to help me survive, yet it is of no more use as an adult - quite the contrary, it‘s really harmful to other people. my pastor recently told me I should greet people more warmly for example, haha. it’s a process. blessed be God that He renews my heart by His Truth through His Spirit and I trust Him, that He will break down my hard shell day by day so the love of Christ in me shines through, blessing others! thank you for this video 🙂
@katemiller5990 Жыл бұрын
Warm, inviting and feminine with firm boundaries 💜
@kaidawisteria Жыл бұрын
I remember the time when I was travelling solo in Japan alone. I went to three places - Tokyo, Osaka and Kyoto. I had a slightly bad experience when I was in Tokyo - the people I encountered were rude, which was really unexpected. I got quite sad as a result, so I was expecting the same thing to happen throughout my 2 week trip. But then I went to Osaka, and I remember walking around just wringing my headscarf at the same time feeling nervous. And what do you know, this Japanese grandma suddenly greeted me with the warmest "Good morning"! And despite the language barrier, I just felt so much better. Interactions, even with strangers, can really help 🤭 although, of course, sometimes discretion is needed. But overall, that was the highlight of my Japan trip... not the sights that I saw, but that grandma that was so kind and sweet to me when I needed it.
@whitneybeau7646 Жыл бұрын
I would love a video on how to be feminine with a baby or toddlers running around. I didnt know I could shout so much🙃 Funny because I don't remmember my mom ever yelling when I was young.She was very soft spoken🤭
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
Hahaha this made me chuckle. Chaos of toddlers and babies is such a test of the femininity IMO ! I really encourage self care as a way to make sure your needs are met and you are getting a chance to unwind so you’re not always running on cortisol. That is how I stay centered!!
@whitneybeau7646 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Alot for that is gonna be a journey 🤗 I miss having a clean house! With a Vase of flowerss or fruit bowl. Too dangerous now. Minimalism is my new goal now No funiture= no mess😀
@Discordia5 Жыл бұрын
@@whitneybeau7646 Minimalism, rounded corners, and everything low to the ground is my only inspiration for decor anymore! 😫
@christinascalling244 Жыл бұрын
I second this! Or just learning how to dress feminine again and do my hair and makeup!
@luckyandblessed Жыл бұрын
If you shout, it freightens the kids, it becomes normal to them, they will learn to shout back. It is difficult to undo. Count to 5 or 10 in your head before you respond. Learn to respond, not react. Anger fixes nothing. Get a babysitter and join a gym, work out, it helps.
@iamfionawood Жыл бұрын
The best role model for young women ❤️
@daintyholistics Жыл бұрын
Jesus is her role model💜
@annaspeaksout Жыл бұрын
Totally
@madisonminm5450 Жыл бұрын
She really is! Her videos have helped me so much ❤
@extrastout1741 Жыл бұрын
Totally, a person following white suprem@cy and openly agreeing with sexism. I thought my mom a surgeon who loves me a lot was a great role model, but maybe this girl is
@extrastout1741 Жыл бұрын
@@thecommentmonster she specifically said she has extreme views but tries to introduce people to them very easily so they don't get scared
@Jaleesa.Simone Жыл бұрын
The woman who played Claire Huckstable on the Cosby show reminds me of the perfect balance of warm feminine, powerful, strong standards, confident and centered.
@mangisty1007 Жыл бұрын
I know I have struggled with feminity all my life…I have finally started to embrace it in my 40’s when I found you, you had mentioned so much of what I had been feeling. And now at 50 I can say I found that balance….! Love your messages!
@annaspeaksout Жыл бұрын
That's so great!
@laurasexton8932 Жыл бұрын
Thanks. I am hoping to do the same!
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
Beautiful!!! It’s never too late to set your heart free. I’m really happy you feel that your life has improved through these concepts because I feel the same way 🎉🎉🎉 I’m so much happier and probably nicer to be around too 😅
@daintyholistics Жыл бұрын
I love you Caitlyn you are a great teacher for us women💜thank you for not being afraid to share your faith. As a Christian im not afraid to admit that Jesus is my role model and i love learning more about femininity & being prudent from beautiful soul’s like yours, i love this sisterhood & motherhood community💕
@eilhacharbonnier7572 Жыл бұрын
I love the way you talk about femininity. So many other channels talk about the presentation of femininity at a superficial level but you speak about it in terms of maturity, virtue, and character. The way you describe it sounds empowering, alluring, and accurate. As a young woman living in her masculine, femininity can feel intimidating because our culture frames it as weakness and I am afraid to give up the qualities that have made me successful and strong. But the way you discuss femininity hits my spirit and is exactly how I want to be as an adult and as a woman.
@tjohannam Жыл бұрын
I seem to flip flop a lot between both extremes because I tend to care a lot about what other people think. It's exhausting actually. Building that feminine focus and having the heart to be vulnerable is really something I need to learn again. Thank you for bringing clarity into an often confused culture.
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
It really is so exhausting. Take heart. I used to flip flop between both too! I had to figure out myself and feel better about who I was before I was able to get rid of the people pleasing. Growth is possible. Take heart!
@tjohannam Жыл бұрын
@@MrsMidwest ❤
@hotchocolateloveeeee Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for making this video! There’s an excellent career book called “The Myth of The Nice Girl” that hits on the same points - that you can still get ahead and thrive in your career by harnessing “niceness,” generosity and warmth.
@zeenkosis Жыл бұрын
Thanks I’ll check it out! When I started working I bought the book “nice girls don’t get the corner office”. It was discouraging to read that all the things I was would maybe not make me a success. But I ended up meeting my husband at work and that’s been a great gift😅 However you’re right I’ve made more real connections at work which some have become friends as well.
@melody6725 Жыл бұрын
I didn't realize my feminine confidence until I became a mother. I am learning how to lean into rest, be vulnerable and humble through motherhood, and frankly I enjoy my marriage way more because I see how amazing my husband is in a much different light! While I am working and I am a 'career woman' whatever that means, I'm still a woman of faith and I fully believe being a feminine woman makes me a better employee because I'm able to attract positive aligned energy! I love your videos! God bless!
@nicoobrowner Жыл бұрын
You have shared a really beautiful experience. Thank you!
@nataliasanz4450 Жыл бұрын
You're such a well rounded adult. Bless you.
@inspiredbychristlj3877 Жыл бұрын
I love everything you're saying. I go back-and-forth between being soft feminine and being a strong woman and I like that you can be both.
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
Yes! I relate with this very much. It hasn’t always been natural to me to be “soft.”
@veeehwk Жыл бұрын
I am 26 years old and met my husband at 19. It is definitely challenging to date in these times! Even though I'm married I still feel like I learn SO much from you on how to just better myself and be more feminine overall. I get so happy every time you post💛💛💛💛
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
Yes! The journey continues even after marriage IMO 😅
@5674Kc Жыл бұрын
agreed!! I met my husband at 14 , but didn't get married till 23. It was a long road of growing up, working through my emotions and learning to open up and trust him. Cait's videos were a huge inspiration for even wanting to try. ❤ God bless oh, and still learning how to implement all those things 😅
@frixz5489 Жыл бұрын
It's so amazing that you teach this non-toxic, positive and mature femininity to young women!
@ladyofgrace6712 Жыл бұрын
Love this video; childlike femininity resonates with me so much! I love how you mentioned both sides of the spectrum
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
Yessss. It’s so fun to give into having a more whimsical approach to life!
@5674Kc Жыл бұрын
Yes! 🎉 I was that girl who dressed up in histoical/fantasy clothing well into my teens... and still do occasionally. It adds a bit of wimsy to my day to wear something that a working girl from the 16th century might have worn. Hard-working and feminine go hand in hand
@Candy1622-j5r Жыл бұрын
Tengo 32 y me encanta ser femenina, gracias por guiarnos desde la palabra de Dios🌸
@poisedwithpurposeco Жыл бұрын
Dios te bendiga 🥺💗
@Marie-Christine- Жыл бұрын
I love "Think Before You Sleep's" content! And yours! So it was fascinating to see those two worlds collide. I agree, channeling this "IDC about you" energy does more harm than good. It is so rude to tell that to a date or anybody that is trying to get to know you, to imply that they're replaceable. The "boss" energy that's plaguing our society undermining femininity, calling it "weak" and telling newer generations of women they must channel masculine energy to be taken seriously. There is power within femininity and masculinity, they should not be treated as liabilities. Great video yet again, Caitlin!
@Patience2dream Жыл бұрын
When you said eye catching beautiful people I thought you were referring to yourself (nothing wrong with that!) But just what happened next caught me off guard when you said about your armpit stain hahaha, you are literally precious and so genuine and beautiful on the inside and outside. Truly a woman to look up to, thank you for this video! I have been feeling a bit unconfident these past few months. I don't feel masculine but I also don't feel feminine in my actions and behaviors and whenever I see a woman who is confident and in harmony with her femininity, it makes my heart melt with joy and peace and I wish I could be able to give that energy to my loved ones. I appreciate so much that you also make this as a religious woman because I'm trying to be more in tune with my religion and my relationship with God and going from worldly perspectives to spiritual ones has left me a bit lost in how my energy should be. This is wonderful advice, thank you once again Mrs. Midwest!!
@tulips91 Жыл бұрын
Well said Caitlin. :) Embracing femininity is hard but it's rewarding in the end. It's been a trial and error for me. It took me a couple of years of practice before it's starting to pay off. Still practicing and going femininely strong. We got this, ladies!
@pamdawson8598 Жыл бұрын
Being yourself and not manipulative is central.
@Bree3355 Жыл бұрын
Yay! So amped for a new video from you! I recently discovered your channel and you have been such an inspiration to me. Thank you so much for encouraging myself (and other women) to be confident in our femininity. I cannot express how much your content has nurtured my homemaking pursuits and positively affected my self esteem and family. ❤
@flightforlight157 Жыл бұрын
I agree completely! I love that color, lilac, is soooo feminine and would make any woman more feminine just wearing it🥰
@Joyfulminimalist Жыл бұрын
You just totally dispelled all the myths your naysayers have said about you- That you are this desperate pick-me girl. Far from it! This is such sage advice and you had too much class to really address their criticism. You are a woman rooting for other women and that’s all you’ve always been! ❤
@Daisie411 Жыл бұрын
Yeah I wont even click on those other videos that bash her because ive seen all her videos and she really is the best online example of someone that I want to be more like. She seems to care about truly empowering women, but not in the way that we were always taught by the media, and that freaks some people out and threatens their worldview.
@5674Kc Жыл бұрын
Yes! Its hard to imagine someone watching her videos and so completely misunderstanding her. A genuine gem.
@TranscendEvil Жыл бұрын
I’ve been missing this content from you, Caitlyn!! Happy to see you back to your roots (not that I don’t also love your new mommy content too of course). Much love from a long time subscriber ❤️❤️❤️
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
Yes I’m happy to be back too!! I think something about Troy turning one year old has really brought a shift in my brain. It’s like I got through the really hard part and now I have mental space to devote to these things again. 😅
@aurorap.7578 Жыл бұрын
I love this. I hadn't really put a pin on what was different between the coldness of the arrogant modern woman vs. warmth of feminine womanhood, loved the elaboration and the ironing out of the lines.
@rachelrusso3123 Жыл бұрын
'Those people don't inform who you are,' and the idea that you are simply you, and what are focused on, are really profound ideas and you hit the nail on the head. Mrs Midwest you are always delivering timeless nuggets of wisdom as well as beauty and humour. Thank you.
@gracemalowa1196 Жыл бұрын
Always so glad to see your videos! You look very lovely, love from Kenya 💕
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
Thank you Grace!! I appreciate you being here 🥰
@gracefulhumble7248 Жыл бұрын
This pink really brings out the blue in your eyes. I would love a room tour xx Thank you for the video
@realmama8683 Жыл бұрын
Such a great and insightful video Caitlin. I am fortunate that a grew up in a very traditional Christian family, where traditional gender roles were just the norm. However throughout high school, college and when I was first married, I was often felt isolated for being feminine and traditional. Now I’m a 37 wife of nearly thirteen years and a mother of four, and I definitely feel like I’ve grown into my feminine self.
@Alisha0413 Жыл бұрын
Although I am not big on the whole femininity thing, I really love this video. I feel it can be changed to attachment styles: avoidant (pushing people away so they can't hurt you), anxious (being clingy) and secure (not fearing being hurt). I don't think these are masculine vs feminine concepts as men should also strive to be securely attached but I do think your way of making sense of the world is interesting and I 100% agree with being warm on a date or when trying to make friendships. Great video and congratulations on 200k subs, all the best for you and your family ❤
@AM-fh7ek Жыл бұрын
Spot on, its a huge misconception. Everything nowdays is so polarised, specialy men vs women. Even when a topic has nothing to do with biological sex at all. Like in this case..
@TreeofLife_111 Жыл бұрын
I feel like we are so lucky to live in a time where there are online videos like this! I know you are across the glove from me, but I just love your message, I love the way you speak and your warmth. I love being feminine but I'm always in my masculine trying to survive. And I'm trying to not let my survival turn me into a masculine person. I want to feel free and warm and kind all the time.
@raquelmaria3777 Жыл бұрын
I wish more women could watch this video, because your words are so wise and gentle while you are covering a topic that is so complex and necessary in today's world 💗May God bless you, Caitlyn. Kisses from Brazil.
@user-ew9cy1ot9k Жыл бұрын
So happy to see a new video! I’ve been reading your blog and have related to a lot of the changes you’ve written about and would love to hear about it in video format! I’ve recently changed my opinion on some things in the ‘crunchy/traditional’ space and have related to what you’ve written! Also, I saw you were into Korean skin care! I would love to see your fav products! I’ve been slugging like crazy this winter!
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
Oh absolutely! I actually included 3 of my favorite k-beauty products in my recent post about “favorite things.” ! Also I think I’m finally confident and ready to share that topic as well. It’s so personal and intense, but I think a lot of others will be able to relate! Thank you for enjoying my written blog my friend. That is my number one passion :)
@hannahmyers7926 Жыл бұрын
I also have grown and have differing opinions than those of the traditional community. Would love a video on this topic too!
@user-ew9cy1ot9k Жыл бұрын
@@hannahmyers7926 there needs to be a traditional but not extreme group!! I enjoy traditional roles and living a peaceful life, but don’t value extreme “men-can-cheat-but-women-can’t” ideas and drinking raw milk!
@hannahmyers7926 Жыл бұрын
@@user-ew9cy1ot9k I agree! 💯
@dearlyemily7042 Жыл бұрын
I live a feminine life and I love it! Of course my faith has alot to do with it. God bless you all!
@jenniferm675 Жыл бұрын
Hi, I loved this video. ❤️ The one thing I would add is the importance of smiling. Sometimes as women, I think we can be so focused on our daily tasks that we can forget to smile. I really think it showcases our feminine warmth.
@fancyflamingo Жыл бұрын
thank you for this beautiful reminder 💕
@karolina3920 Жыл бұрын
Again! A very intelligent, honest and eyeopening video i think we all needed! Thank you :)
@youcansoften Жыл бұрын
I love it. I strongly believe that we women are the innerworld, the emotional side, and men are the outworld. Ying and Yang ❤️ Do things from your heart always. Stay true to you 💫💗
@chanellover2143 Жыл бұрын
My fave KZbinr posted! Yayyyy welcome back beautiful! 🥰🌸
@selahrhoades9376 Жыл бұрын
Knowing that you are a Christian made this video 10 times better and made my day a lot more sunny.
@whitediamondcube Жыл бұрын
I never would have thought that people pleasers are also trying to protect themselves. That was so eye-opening. Thank you so much 🤍
@hl2921 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. Christ love shines through you . These videos are helping many women of all ages and races❤️ God has given you much wisdom to share. God bless...
@Annasrandons Жыл бұрын
Perfect timing girl! I was just about to paint my nails before my husband comes home and I needed your words of wisdom. Thank you
@annaspeaksout Жыл бұрын
I've been watching Think Before You Sleep also, and I would basically describe it the same way.
@chill1118 Жыл бұрын
I also watch think before you sleep video. They are quite insightful.
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
It’s interesting to see the male perspective on some of these issues! 😅
@faizakashif794 Жыл бұрын
Lots of love from london you are freshening up all ladies out there❤
@emsizzle234 Жыл бұрын
This video is gold! Really went into a complex topic in a sophisticated way!
@jaci4164 Жыл бұрын
Yay another Mrs. Midwest video! This made my morning having my coffee and tuning in from Canada 🍁🇨🇦☕❤️
@evelynaaspidov123 Жыл бұрын
Same!! I’m in the rainy Pacific North West and enjoying a matcha latte 💚
@jaci4164 Жыл бұрын
@@evelynaaspidov123 Right ... Vancouver -ish area here, it's very grey and rainy today ☔ stay warm ☕
@katiemcdonald449 Жыл бұрын
I wanted to thank you so very much for making this video. It was a lightbulb moment for me. I finally realized why the last four years I have been really unhappy with myself and everything in my life, because I had a combination of the Bad B negative masculine energy and also like the people pleasing traits. So in the end I was super negative focused on having material success while at the same time doing whatever people wanted just to have them in my life. I actually found these three books very helpful in breaking away from those mindsets: A Woman's Walk with God Growing in the Fruits of The Spirit by Elizabeth George and Beautiful in God's Eyes The Treasures of the Proverbs 31 Woman by Elizabeth George and also The Approval Fix by Joyce Meyer. I hope any one that these books will help others just like they have helped me. Cheers to a more whimsical vibrant feminine future for us all 😀
@TheNinjaInConverse Жыл бұрын
I'm enjoying listening you talk while at work.
@Kirzikka. Жыл бұрын
Dear Mrs Midwest ♥️ I have been following you years and now when I need guidance as a Christian divorcing woman,you have showed me the way. I needed this message and needed this journey to become what God already decided me to be. Love you lots ❤️🙏🔥 You have no idea how important this video is for me 😭♥️ I truly think that you are messenger from God,to gently push us to blossom. To be beautiful and feel beautiful no matter what comes. Thank God for people like you ♥️🙏
@Amy-uu Жыл бұрын
You always make me smile and grow💕I am grateful that God speaks through you💖 thank you so much! Wishing you and your family the best
@siennazylis1980 Жыл бұрын
Lovely video! Would you make a video specifically about dressing curvy figures? You are able to dress your curves so elegantly and modestly without being the slightest bit frumpy. Advice appreciated!
@elizabethg363 Жыл бұрын
I needed this video right now, thank you! Also, I ADORE your eye makeup! Definitely need to try and replicate it ❤
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
Thank you!! I feel like every time I do a GRWM, I think I’ve perfected my look only to change it again a month later 😂
@sabrinaj826 Жыл бұрын
I can not agree more! Contentment is the most attractive thing to my now husband 😉
@hidansektas Жыл бұрын
id like to thank you for not making me feel... hmmm how should i say.... "crazy"? i guess with how i like to live my life. im an atheist but just by what i want in life it somewhat aligns with christian and feminine values a lot. like im not into hookup culture, i dont wanna just have sex with anyone if we arent married and stuff like that. i like having a career but also dressing up and being feminine and cultured. im still almost 100% i wont have a family but i still appreciate your content so so much
@Isabella-ic4io Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Caitlin for sharing with us your wonderful take on feminity, relationships and friendships! Whenever you put out a new video it brightens up my day and I always take my time to watch and listen to what you have to say. Keep on spreading positivity and the importance of being kind, grateful and true to your feminine self 💕💕 PS: I don't usually comment on videos but I just saw you reply to a comment saying you think your channel is dying. I am certain that there's many women out there that (like me) enjoy your videos and value the effort you put into them 🥰
@Canny-i2h Жыл бұрын
OMG mrs Midwest is best ❤️
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
😭😊🥺
@CoilyCode Жыл бұрын
It’s the discerning/wise thing I need to nail down 😅
@Diana72910 Жыл бұрын
You’ve always been incredibly beautiful but lately you’ve been out of this world. Truly. So elegant, so beautiful. You are like wine.
@gloriaa321 Жыл бұрын
Femininity is an essence not solely a dating tool to make a guy like you 👏💐
@bubblysprinkles Жыл бұрын
I am so so impressed with your recent videos ❤️It's very very helpful.
@humblejoy3564 Жыл бұрын
I'm 34 in October and you are wise beyond your years 🌟😍
@JJ-hu4cm Жыл бұрын
I've really missed your videos!
@md-xu2cq Жыл бұрын
you are so wise! :) thank you Mrs Midwest!
@sarahR666 Жыл бұрын
Please make a video for us girls who are VERY in their masculine energy 😅 I work in a male dominated trade, usually take care of everything myself because my man works away. So when he’s home I have a VERY hard time not taking control of absolutely everything and bossing him around lol. I do not know how to be a soft feminine woman if my life depended on it 😂
@tanyadsouza1100 Жыл бұрын
Please upload videos more often. Love you Caitlin 🔥💓
@KelanJ29534 Жыл бұрын
Welcome back Mrs Caitlyn! I was so happy when I got a notification that you uploaded 😍 please try to upload at least once a week. Who agrees with me?
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
I agree with you!! LOL! I’m shooting for once every other week right now because currently it’s less than once a month 😅
@KelanJ29534 Жыл бұрын
@@MrsMidwest Yay!! Thank you gorgeous 😘💐
@tarynthompson4141 Жыл бұрын
I'd love it too, but just remember her family and her mental health come before youtube even though I really love her channel too!
@sunnyday_lemonbars Жыл бұрын
I'm not going to put pressure on her. she puts out content when she can alright?
@elizabethanne8729 Жыл бұрын
No!!! It’s a good rhyme!! An attitude of gratitude!!🥳
@desantisjen Жыл бұрын
Thank you! It's easy to go between the two extremes of people-pleasing and coldness - especially after being hurt. I wonder what suggestions there are for people who are scared to open their hearts to others (& the world).
@sarahthatcher123 Жыл бұрын
My suggestion would be to learn healthy relational boundaries. Many people think they know what this means and just say oh ya, ya just say ‘no’. There is so much more to it. I learned through the book called ‘Boundaries’ by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. It is ‘Christian’ based. When I practiced and learned how to have healthy boundaries it gave the ‘room/ space’ for me to mature and really figure out who I am and my necessary roles and ways of being in the world and all my various relationships. It just gave me the foundation I needed to develop a genuine confidence in who I am and yet the wisdom and knowledge to know how to protect myself ( my heart). To me, it literally teaches how to be exactly what she describes. For me it took many years and so much ‘work’ and practice and I’m always growing more. But it was just such a solid foundation and still is. That’s just my suggestion.
@maigonoreilly Жыл бұрын
So happy to see a new video! I recently came across your channel and really enjoy your content. I want to incorporate more femininity into my life. I also really believe in traditional dating/gender roles at home. Its hard to find content creators along those lines. Love your channel!!
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
Wow thank you!! Part of me had begun believing my channel was dying, so it’s nice to see we have new sisters still joining the community. These topics are so special to many of us and I’m happy you feel at home here!! 😊
@planckismus Жыл бұрын
How to be warm to someone who has hurt your feelings in the past? I love being warm with everyone except one sibling who used to bully me (many years ago) and sometimes still mocks me or snaps at me... I feel like I'm contributing to their negative attitude towards me by being completely un-vulnerable because I am scared of letting my guard down. Sometimes I'll ask "how is xyz going" because I care about them and want to know and they interpret it as me being smug, sadistic and wanting to poke at their problems... But I don't want to be sweet and warm and then be scoffed at, mocked or threatened again :(
@marijanina Жыл бұрын
I feel this so much. Some of my family are just unusually cruel and mean-spirited in a way I didn't realise wasn't normal growing up lol. A lot of them I had to cut off completely and the two I still talk to I just have minimal contact with (blocked on most social media, I only talk to them at family events like Christmas and we get along fine then! In small doses they can be ok but any extended length of time around them can be unbearable) I hope things get better for you ❤️
@TamyTee Жыл бұрын
It would be beneficial to have healthy boundaries
@MoMo-ee9zs Жыл бұрын
Loved this! Thank you and God bless 🙏💜✝️
@katiemylady76 Жыл бұрын
Love listening to you while working from home!
@annarosemoldenhauer Жыл бұрын
such a sweet and eloquent video! very inspiring to hear you expand on morality and Christian purpose in regards to femininity
@lauraelainedesilets1189 Жыл бұрын
I'm so thankful I'm not single. I feel bad for my neices dating. Also I'm a Christian and God led me. I did have a real narsisstic relationship prior. I am grateful. I learned. Meet someone through someone so you know their character. I still would play no games. If I dated again I'd still be frank and upfront. I know it's hard. God bless you. Thank you for your wisdom. 🕊️🕊️🕊️
@graftedin1921 Жыл бұрын
You really are the real life Rapunzel! ❤❤❤
@peanutbrittle99 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video! I needed to hear this as I’ve been struggling with imposter syndrome when it comes to my femininity. This really helped ❤
@lynn.s.e Жыл бұрын
You should do a video ranking your favorite rom com or literary couples!!!
@doha44466 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this precious reminder 💕
@Rachel3815 Жыл бұрын
This is a really great video. I appreciate your insight and wisdom.
@Airbear211 Жыл бұрын
Yessss, love when you do these types of videos 🫶
@florafae Жыл бұрын
You absolutely nailed this topic 💗 thank you!
@MrsMidwest Жыл бұрын
Thank you!! I’ve wanted chat about this topic for 3 years now! LOL
@siobhanuy9305 Жыл бұрын
Can you also discuss warm feminine way of texting with diff types of people without being taken advantaged of? Like Texting Men in the workplace/professional vs non workplace 🙏🏼
@TeaLaRee Жыл бұрын
As a woman who was sexual abused as a child I began heavily leaning into being a tom boy. I was pigeonholed and found it hard to ever get out of that because it did feel protective. As a married woman and mother it has been a struggle to feel comfortable being vulnerable so publicly. Thank you, I do desire to be soft, it's lol scary. 😊
@sidneymcadorey1412 Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry that that happened. I have some trauma in relation to men as well, and I also found that I dressed masculine to feel safer.
@humblejoy3564 Жыл бұрын
maybe just be soft for yourself! then take steps towards public presentation. it's hard to start on public fronts. be your best friend 😌❤️
@humblejoy3564 Жыл бұрын
ps I have similar history. I'm sorry that happened to you!
@anobonano7 Жыл бұрын
TBYS!! Yes he’s awesome
@maylinrivera6482 Жыл бұрын
I also listen to think before you sleep, definitely agree I don't necessarily agree with everything he says lol
@jessicaraines7617 Жыл бұрын
Glad to see another video from my favorite channel! 😊💗
@samanthacampbell2703 Жыл бұрын
I love love love your videos ❤️. So nice to see you again! I love when you talk about femanine hobbies and taking joy in life....maybe you can introduce us to some of yours some time.
@wynne3535 Жыл бұрын
You're so great!
@StrawberryAppleCream Жыл бұрын
Great video! I sometimes worry that I may come across as cold whilst really Im just shy and dont know what to say. I do smile a lot. I work in an envirinment with lots of guys and I do notice that they like helping me and are just sweethearts generally. I am very conscious, at work especially, to look the customer in the eye whilst greeting them and really make a few seconds of real contact. But I also notice that I have not made new friends in years wich means I am alone in the city I live in now and I have been single for quite a while. I guess I do have a fear of confidence = arrogance and I really do not want to be arrogant. I know that is not true but even writing about being confident makes me awkward. I feel SO awkward talking about myself. I say a couple of sentences at most and then; and what about you?
@munaghebredingle9393 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for posting!
@SummerD0712 Жыл бұрын
Can I just say every video you make is just as beautiful as you!💕💜
@marwoj22 Жыл бұрын
I enjoy your content so much! And it’s also very much needed for todays women 🙌🏻☺️
@michellesu2222 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the helpful video. Exactly what I need right now. May I ask how to react if your partner makes you upset and feel disrespected? What do women with high feminine energy do? Thank you so much for your time.