Financial Narcissist Stages Diving Accident in the Caribbean | David Swain Case Analysis

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[@annazaman9657]

Any relationship with a narcissist is a love triangle. Well said Dr Grande

[@aarondavis8943]

When someone requires CPR, you don't ask their partner for permission. If they won't try, just start engaging in CPR whether they want you to or not. If they physically stop you, that adds even more suspicion.

[@Dhruv_Dogra]

Absolutely correct

[@RinpochesRose]

I feel sorry for that poor woman, Shelley. Seems she had a good job and a regular routine with no debts before she met him. Oh, she was also alive with a good chance of a normal lifespan.

[@willelliott5052]

I learned a long time ago to never trust anyone who grossly mismanages their own finances. Generally they would love to get their hands on your money to squander it also. I believe that he did it. Ladies, don't tie yourself to a parasite. You will be lucky if that is all he is.

[@covercalls88]

It also applied to the men, don't let the women get ahold of your money, people are so much more attractive when they money.

[@dqreps]

​​@@covercalls88 yes typically happens to men. Not women. Thats much more unusual. Pretty much what you get in marriage. A lifelong parasite who's needs must be met lol

[@aarondavis8943]

For every murderer there's thousands of parasites. You're overplaying the danger just a tad. I would advise people to stay away from them anyway but we don't have to get that dramatic about it.

[@h0rriphic]

@@aarondavis8943 actually op makes an extremely valid point- there’s a direct correlation between people who are in heavy debt and the propensity for criminality…doesn’t need to be dramatic. It’s just good advice, especially for women

[@lm3024]

My mother was a narcissist and I can say this is solid advice.

[@Mia-tn5th]

"A narcissist can make any desire dangerous" So true. Thanks dr. Grande

[@bunberrier]

Every time I think my normal, ordinary, life could be more, Dr. Grande reminds me it could also be less.

[@christinebeames712]

Hi , once you get diagnosed with what may well be terminal , an ordinary life seems the best thing in the world ,

[@zxyatiywariii8]

@@christinebeames712 Oh yes, an ordinary life would be my dream come true

[@haleytruslow7200]

“She was counting fish- presumably to make sure all of the fish were there, it’s not clear.” 😂😂😂 god I love these videos

[@MellowBellow1]

Yes!! A narc will triangulate you with whatever they want. Money, sex, power, status. Thank you for making this so beautifully clear Dr G. As always.

[@Anonymous01101-i]

Dr. Grande, thank you for sharing this story. I think I learned something VERY important about my ex fiancé. His behavior was strikingly similar to this man. Gave me some closure, glad to be free!

[@sngray11]

You are lucky to be free from your ex fiancé! 💗

[@clarencegboddicker8144]

Elle will NEVER be free of me. I’m everywhere…Boo!!!

[@wokeness420]

​@Clarence G Boddicker I will happily stand in your way!

[@strangemanmtd8350]

Remember Dr G is only speculating on what could be happening in a case like this!

[@RinpochesRose]

👍🏻🙂

[@jtfike]

He didn’t speculate on her being abandoned when basic scuba diving 101 is to always have a buddy

[@dissidentfairy4264]

The worst day of Shelley's life was the day she met David. He ripped her off in every possible way. When you truly love someone you'd do everything you can to try and save them. You'd want as much help as you could get from those who offered to try and resuscitate her. His refusal to allow friends and responders the chance to revive her tells me he wanted her dead. He didn't want her revived to tell people what he had done.

[@judithgannon5642]

He wasn't observed with her underwater, but he was observed blocking and delaying life saving efforts.

[@dissidentfairy4264]

@@judithgannon5642 Yes, I know.

[@sarahg1583]

I knew David prior to him meeting Shelly. His dive shop may not have been financially successful due his stupidity, but it was certainly very popular. He was quiet & unassuming. I specifically remember his sailboat (because it had a fireplace in the cabin). He was living on it at the time. A few of us went out for a late afternoon sail & we anchored near some lobster pots. He & a friend dove off the boat & retrieved the lobsters which we cooked on the boat & ate for dinner. I didn't think anything of it at the time, but later wondered if they were his pots or they had stolen them.

[@TheDealMaster]

That's very interesting about his shop. Popular, yet horridly ran. And also interesting you had spent some time with David. Thanks for sharing.

[@gamingbutter5768]

Why would you think they stole them?

[@sarahg1583]

@@gamingbutter5768 When out sailing it's common to come across lobster pots, but we leave them alone because it's someone's livelihood. In this case, there was never a mention of them being "his pots". When we came upon them, he just threw out anchor & he another guy dove off to retrieve them. Once they got the lobsters out, we sailed a distance away before tossing the anchor again to prepare them. If they were his pots, one can assume he would've mentioned it + why sail such a distance away to cook them?

[@spikenomoon]

@@sarahg1583Hmmm. I Think he did murder her but the evidence has lots of doubt for me.

[@bunnymad5049]

To make sure all the fish were there. 😂 I'm dead, even though this really isn't funny. I feel so badly for Shelley. Thanks, Dr G. x

[@UNAB00mer]

"Life's a Beach, then you dive." - scuba gear and instructor joint in my town 😅

[@tracyking5945]

I’m not swayed by David Swain’s story of how his wife died. Strongest piece of evidence? He was there and couldn’t save his wife because he didn’t want to. Thank you Dr. Grande for being a better judge of character than the real mis-judge in this case.

[@eadweard.]

That's not evidence. That's just an assertion.

[@vicvega3614]

So u were inside of his head and know he didn't want to?

[@bwj1158]

@@eadweard. There have been many people that have been found guilty without any evidence. Just an assertion.

[@eadweard.]

@@bwj1158 Two wrongs don't make a right.

[@bwj1158]

@@eadweard. I don't think people should imprisoned based on what someone thinks happened. Nor should we put people in jail because we don't like them. No one can say with 100% certainty that this woman was murdered.

[@rullvox5912]

I know this case and have always believed David to be guilty of murder.

[@yazansakran3326]

If there's a narcissist involved, destruction is always present

[@morticiaheisenberg9679]

Any relationship with a narcissist is a love triangle. Wow. Absolutely correct and perfectly stated.

[@manewland1]

Thanks, as always, Dr. Grande. If anything, David was irresponsibly negligent (the fact that he prevented Shelly from getting CPR only worsens his case).

[@irene_f.]

David did not seem to have a problem expressing his feelings when writing letters about his feelings to the chiropractor while he was married and with his wife. So I do not believe that he had a problem expressing his feelings.

[@sergeipohkerova7211]

Scuba crime: a highly overlooked and serious niche of chicanery, both maritime and landbound. ❤

[@Kknightstar]

ROFL😂

[@erockfreedom6399]

Sounds like the last episode of the show White Lotus

[@nonofyabidnez5737]

U think this is bad? This Chicanery? He's done worse!!! [Better Call Saul xD]

[@rsgabrys----]

-------------------------- foreign waters.....domestic sea hunt....greetings DrG

[@renataOliveira-iz3iw]

How do u know???? Hummm 🤔

[@ceilconstante640]

People should take their time getting to know everything they can about a potential partner...... everyone is nice in the beginning. Passive, kind, easy going agreeable types need to learn about the traits of Narscissim and work on strong boundaries.

[@nhmooytis7058]

Costs 25 bucks to do an online background check. Doesn’t necessarily rule out bad actors if they’ve never been arrested but still a good start. Also trust your gut!

[@ceilconstante640]

@@nhmooytis7058 absolutely trust your gut but vulnerable people can get bowled over by the love bombing. Many are to smart and don't have any arrests. The best thing is to take your time and not get rushed into anything.

[@nhmooytis7058]

@@ceilconstante640 and be alert for negative signs. I have a former friend whose stories never added up. I felt bad being suspicious with no proof, but in time it turned out he WAS lying.

[@ceilconstante640]

@@nhmooytis7058 exactly what I'm talking about! Stories don't add up, claims of working late etc turn out to be lies. To protect themselves, they gaslight. Need to borrow money, can't find their wallet, CC's were stolen etc.

[@nhmooytis7058]

@@ceilconstante640 yep, if you point out their tall tales don’t add up they attack you.

[@ellieivan]

Good to know there’s such a vast variety of narcissists to watch out for 😅

[@DrDuckMD]

I’m starting to believe everyone is a narcissist

[@Dhruv_Dogra]

You must be a narcissist yourself to find that statement funny

[@lm3024]

And it's not just men! Yes the majority are men but my mother was one also. When it comes to women, you will likely find a victim narcissist. These women are cold and calculated but habitually play the victim card. They have no real connection to anyone and are envious of everyone and everything, even their own children.

[@DottieMinerva]

@@Dhruv_Dogra shut up

[@alex.tagspot]

Shelley was doomed the moment David pulled her kayak to shore and from that point, she was tangled in his web 🕸️ Shelley had hearts in her eyes, and David..well he only had dollar signs in his eyes 😢 Shelley must haves been horrified to know DAVID was taking her life in such a violent way and prevented anyone from assisting her 💔 Justice was served quite cold in this case 😔 Thanks for another great one, Doc 🏥 As always, much gratitude and love from WV 🤙 🏔️ 💙💛

[@lewisner]

This reminds me of the Columbo case where the son in law had killed his wife at sea. When the son in law is killed, Columbo goes round to their apartment and finds no photos of late wife ie he didnt love or miss her.

[@G274Me]

She was really drowning in that toxic relationship

[@GheyR]

Hello..happy memorial weekend Dr Grande...thank you for your hard work 🌒🌘🙌🏼

[@emmaturnerturner625]

I too loved the fish counting😂😂. I find dr Todd refreshingly real. Dry humour delivered so...dryly😅. The husband on the other hand...what a vile monster! Use his wife for her money, then murder her for her money. Disgusting. I would think 300 plus dives and then dying in perfect conditions would automaticalky create a flag for investigation? Its like everyone around him was corrupt? Another sad, frustrating and unfair tale . He was a failure with finances and business, but seemed to be able to add up insurance payouts and his wifes salary with clear claculation!!

[@emmaturnerturner625]

I just checked and to be a dive Master...you need 60 dives? So she was like off the charts qualified?

[@purpleslurple5149]

Yes, 300 dives is a ton. Much more than someone who dives as a casual hobby.

[@emmagatewood3898]

I feel so bad for her parents. At least through their actions the world knew he was guilty, and his name and legacy are forever tarnished.

[@Swansong321]

Doubt he cared once he got his appeal and enjoyed splashing out with all the money!😜

[@mrkonvertierung]

If you’re someone’s dive buddy, there’s ZERO reason you’d ever surface without them unless you’re getting them life saving help. I feel like there wasn’t enough physical evidence, but circumstantially, he sure sounds guilty as eff.

[@blackopal3138]

PADI rules do not allow for you to separate from your dive 'buddy', it is strictly prohibited. You must stay in visual contact with your buddy at all times, no exceptions. So, when he returned to the boat asking where she was, he is immediately guilty of at least negligence causing death. Unless they were previously known to break that rule. Actually, I believe it is the #1 rule. Because everyone carries an extra breather, so if you have an air problem, there is air available. Basically, both apparatus would have to fail at the same time for both divers to get into trouble. If he comes flying out of the water, 'Help! Help! She's stuck and panicking' that is what should be happening. To come up casually and ask if they have seen her, is like, wtf? You! are the only one that should know that. Like a teen walking to the store with their 3 yr old sister, and returning alone, 'Um anyone see her?'... It's like , 'no, and you're a terrible fkn person and liability, wtf?!', right. No way. You need to have that answer, or you're not to be trusted. With that being the case, Idk how his wishes were being observed during the emergency. The boat captain, and their friends. They should have detained him, and separated him from the decision making, and turned him over to the police ion shore. They should make that decision, the second he returns without her. That's why they have these certifications, and laws saying tour operators cannot let people dive without being certified, etc. He looks so harmless, but think about what it would take to kill someone like this. He has to attack her, rip equipment from her face, and hold her down there, for 2 or 3 mins while she held her breath, looking at him, begging, and he planned it, no doubt. That is a fkng monster. Peace

[@MattCurrieImprov]

Your descriptions of people are so on point, it’s been really helping me, and the fact you end it with some poetic lines is just superb.

[@stewarln52284]

Another good one by my fave KZbinr!!

[@davidroux7987]

Dr Grande's presentations are iconic. From the insights to the word play.

[@doneestoner9945]

Love it !

[@jhavajoe3792]

If I made those closing puns, people would scowl. Somehow,, your dead pan delivery, along with the justified disgust with Swain, makes those closing comments appropriate.Swain was such a small man and a blackened soul. Not enough justice was served for him.

[@ImGoingSupersonic]

Ohhhh, a Dive Shop. Though the place was just a dive at first.

[@alexandervosteen5986]

Already started to get worried - all the best to you and your family doc.

[@helpyourcattodrive]

It’s Grande time! Let’s do this. Thanks, Grande.❤🎇

[@rejaneoliveira5019]

This a very good exemplo of financial narcissism! Thank you for the excellent analysis, Dr. Grande.❤

[@Juke582]

“Devil in the deep blue sea” brilliant analogy Dr Grande!! 👏 👏

[@azulgaia7782]

So hard to imagine someone without empathy if you have it. The current attention to the existence of narcissism is a painful reality check. I guess we need to go down the list of narc traits to confirm our gut suspicions. Especially with those closest to us. And appreciate those who have nothing to gain as the gems they are.

[@sjjordan7229]

Nice to know someone is counting the fish

[@SentMyOwnWay]

“I guess to make sure all the fish were there. It’s not clear” LOL

[@Dhruv_Dogra]

A particularly chilling case. Poor Shelly. She obviously failed to understand who she was married to. In this era of massive life insurance policy payouts to financially unstable people, it is a dangerous mistake to make

[@bobnandez]

I learn so much about human behaviors watching Dr Grande. Sometimes we imagine that all humans think similar… and that ls so far from the truth

[@jezabelyeb]

DOCTOR, please do an in-depth cover on the young girl, who, unfortunately murdered her brother in Oklahoma. I’m extremely intrigued on what you have to say about the crime.

[@megatherion2695]

Thanks, Doc! Always appreciate it!

[@MDWD]

Nice job.!! Loved it. Txs

[@KatSpade1018]

Man, what a douchebag!!! That is cold hearted. He literally saw her face, frantic, watched her flailing around desperately trying to get to air and just held her down. That's horrifying. I HATE that the judge was responsible for screwing this up because that just hightened his narcissism thinking he got away with it. Actually he was dumb as hell. Literally everything he did from the moment he "supposedly" swam away from Shelley wreaked of guilt. He couldnt have been more obvious. Interesting both he and his brother both were killers. I wanted to say I would love to do a deep dive into that subject BUT...under the circumstances. I'm sorry Shelley didnt get proper justice back then but I believe his final judgement didnt turn out as well for David. Thx Dr. G always enjoy your analysis and your sense of humor! Please tell me that I'm not the only one that thinks Dennis Rader ( BTK ) could be a long lost brother. Hahaha especially at 00:50 and 05:46 (B)rothers (T)hree (K)ill 😬

[@kellykane7586]

Don't worry, Karma is real 😉

[@micnorton9487]

​@@kellykane7586 ..I hope so...

[@newtonmoon]

She was too good for him. Never one should associate with a man who lacks money as no man would ever be comfortable being in such position. Normal people would try to advance their skills set, job, etc. and not depend on a woman. If further down the marriage something happens, that's the a different story as marriage is also to support one another. It does not mean to marry a brokee which is a clear sign they don't have their life together. At least get a job if you realize your business fails...

[@bthomson]

More than even usual this was a beautifully executed video. Well- planned and worded. Funny but not uncaring to the victim. I think your mo is perfected to a tee. ⛳🎯💎

[@LaniLanilei]

Hi Dr Grande. I'm here for your latest content video. Nothing to do with my love for your dry humor though it sweetens the experience.❤

[@bobbritches846]

Poor lady. Sad there's probably a lot of similar relationships not unlike theirs all the time.

[@sophiaisabelle0227]

We appreciate your dedication and consistency. God bless you.

[@LibraInSeattle]

You will never get me to dive. Nope never. I’ve snorkeled and that was enough for me. Just hearing myself breathe panicked me at the start. I can imagine panicking and pulling off my gear or ending up with the bends because I rushed to the surface. This isn’t the first case where a spouse (a husband specifically) has allegedly killed his wife while on a scuba diving trip. There was another case where I recall where this newlywed couple were on a scuba diving cruise and the new husband claimed to be an “certified expert rescue diver “ and his wife was a beginner level diver. Guess who didn’t make it back up after the first dive and guess who didn’t help rescue her? Pretty suspicious that guy. I believe Dr. Grande covered that case too. I will snorkel and I enjoyed going out on our sailboat before we sold it a few years ago, l otherwise I am happy to remain on land.

[@suzukibn1131]

I’m waiting with bated breath to hear your take on the Burn After Reading letter.

[@lnc-to4ku]

I thought your theory/opinion was so spot on and so well explained! Also, loved your final thoughts!

[@BigZebraCom]

Just a reminder, I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating about what could be happening in a case involving Self-Contained Underwater Breathing Apparatus like this.

[@bettybanaszak5748]

I will never understand how a woman who is bright enough to earn that kind of money and good looking can get entangled with bad blood and then continue in the relationship. Love is blind?? If it's that blind, it can't be love!!! And then David the Murderer gets another prey before the body has been buried. It's good he died, otherwise the next partner would be on quicksand, just a matter of time.

[@willnill7946]

After 30 your Dave’s are all that’s left

[@sariedixon8965]

Love dr g thanks for the sarcasm I love it ❤

[@pageribe2399]

You have to look out for yourself. Never expect the system to give you justice. Never trust anyone.

[@rustyshackleford2605]

I think Shelly was counting the fish because she saw a school of fish and her habits as a principal got the better of her.

[@Flamsterette]

Thanks for the upload, Dr. Grande!

[@DroneStrike1776]

Rhode Island made the Doc's channel again. My little state.

[@marysummer08]

Me too! ⚓️

[@MypronounIsKing]

Another banger !!!!

[@nhmooytis7058]

They always blame their parents whether they deserve it or not.

[@robinwolf4270]

Life is bittersweet,,,a fine example of this is the way that you sooth and startle me....

[@claudinejames7731]

Sometimes it seems dificult to discern what it is the narcissist wants. Or to understand what lengths, as in this case, the N. will go to obtain their goal. Rest in peace Mrs. Swain 🙏🏻. 💐💐

[@es9947]

Brilliant analysis, as always, Dr. Grande.

[@CountessKitten]

I'm from Louisville, still live here in fact and hadn't heard of this story. Very interesting, and very odd. As always, Dr. Grande, your professional perspective mixed with your iconic sense of humor is a pure delight. Thanks, for this and for all you do for us.

[@tessygeimer-biver3423]

What a remarkable finale ! Greatly appreciate Dr Grande’s rhetorical talent!

[@BeverlyM52]

Driest sense of humor...and "humors." Love it as much as your special insight.

[@aarond3657]

Scarborough captain! You took scuba classes with this guy!

[@user-du5xc6zj6b]

I agree w/u Dr. Grande! 😢

[@Ebenezer456]

Excellent analysis as usual. Fascinating and informative. Thanks Dr Grande.

[@kimberlysmith7311]

❤ your analysis Dr. Grande. Lol, ," The Devil n the deep blue sea" This case always gave me the creeps. 😮😢

[@AedanGUnit]

Good life lesson Doc-never get between any narcissist and what they desire.

[@benhartart9487]

Trust no one even someone in your inner circle or your partner 😢

[@pageribe2399]

Not with your money!

[@m.f.richardson1602]

I lived in Louisville, Kentucky. Always interesting Thank you Peace 💕🇺🇲

[@toolegittoquit_001]

I was born in Louisville And in 1956. 🥺

[@nhmooytis7058]

I’m not commenting only speculating on what I might comment if I was 😂

[@irene_f.]

Is this that Newlywed couple where he held her underwater and someone had a pic of her lying on the bottom dead? In debt yet they splurged on a vacation - how is that even possible? Crazy she put money into that money pit of a dive shop. 😬 Wow! In my opinion he is guilty - he abandoned her.

[@localtrailtrampjacklumber1889]

Tina Watson Google for photo

[@judithgannon5642]

I think that's another case

[@Mechaneer]

What happened to his brother who killed his mother? Did he serve his life in prison, or did he get out before David passed?

[@icturner23]

I’m watching this having just arrived today for a seaside break. I think I might not try diving as an activity!

[@ragle8684]

Fascinating analysis! Thank you, Dr. Grande!

[@jamesmcquinn9534]

@Dr. Grande If you read this hello good sir 🙂 The main reason i wrote you sir, is about navigating your videos. The videos page needs a search for your specific features which can be added to the videos tab. You are so prolific it's great , but it feels like I'm looking for a subsection in a hard copy of an encyclopedia without a list of contents 😅✌️😇. These videos are great. I'll only preface my past by saying it was bad enough that i was emancipated at 16 and handed a check at 18 and thrown into the world (we should raise the age people receive large sums to 21 since the prefrontal cortex is still developing). I feel behind about 15 years but in 14 months i start my doctorate into biomedical research, i have minors in sociology emphasis on deviant behavior, psychology in behavioral development, and counseling. It started as coping to understand what happened, but it changed into going into medicine/med research but h finished a bachelor's in clinical Dietetics and the the social science minors to better understand when to refer a patient to the appropriate specialist. Apologies for writing so much. Your videos help my panic attacks. When looking at a case, i start with you before going to a video summaries to follow the progression. Your channel is great, I'm considering Patreon, i hope you have a good day. 🙂

[@LoyalRooster]

Can you analyze the case of the 12 year old girl who stabbed her brother to death in Oklahoma? Best regards.

[@shroomyk]

While it's possible she did panic and rip off her own mask, I think diving equipment usually allows you to share air with someone who has run out or lost their mouth piece. They were together, so he could have easily shared his air with her long enough to bring her to the surface. I do believe he did rip her mask off though, but even if he hadn't, he neglected to save her which is still a crime.

[@susan4114]

Wow the little cactus table is petfect

[@anjachan2]

Of course money is dangerous. Greed is destroying the world ...

[@beachboy0505]

Excellent video 📹 I AM ALL OUT OF LOVE 💘

[@nessuno9945]

Many of the cases on this channel involve a spouse/partner who either renders minimal assistance to their partner in distress, then denies them further help when emergency medical care arrives. My question is why do the emergency medic team allow the partner to block them from delivering life-saving care? They don't know that the partner/friend has POA or not. They should just administer the care for the injured person's survival.

[@TomikaKelly]

Ladies: never play Barbara the Builder to a man. 😒

[@JohnGlen502]

It would be interesting to know what the first wife had to say about him. Of course people often keep quiet out of fear.

[@rossydv]

“Devil and the deep blue sea behind me Vanish in the air you'll never find me I will turn your face to alabaster When you'll find your servant is your master….l

[@pamelamorgan7354]

This reminds me of the case of the honeymooning couple in Australia. The groom killed the bride while on a dive trip. What he didn’t know is that she hadn’t changed her insurance policy to make him beneficiary. He was deported to Alabama after serving a year in Australia. The case was dismissed by a judge in Alabama for “lack of evidence.” Perhaps, Dr. Grande, you can look into this case. I’d like to know your opinion. The victim was Tina Watson and she died on October 22, 2003.

[@pamelamorgan7354]

@@wsidechris Yesterday’s video was about a different scuba diving death.

[@Meela234]

People who are terrible with finances will never come out on the winning end of receiving a huge amount of money. They will mess it up quickly, as always. I'm glad his business went belly up again.

[@christophergarza9118]

So deep! Dr. Grande, you are a true poet.

[@Traderjoe]

Why did that initial trial judge give those instructions? Was there other cases she presided over which her instructions were questionable and is she still a practicing judge today?

[@frankyt101]

I've heard that some people can get narked at 80 feet, but that's extremely rare. Also, even with an 80 ft^3 tank, she would have had at least an hour of air. This makes no sense.

[@dianemorton2222]

This is a sad story.