First Time Mom Answers Same Questions Before And After Birth

Expectations vs. Reality: Pregnant producer Sarah (right before birth) answers the same questions alongside her future, postpartum parent self (9 months after).
Watch as she talks through her birth story, c-section experience, getting induced, and how much sleep she really gets now that there's a baby.
Chapters:
0:00 - Intro
0:36 - How much do you sleep?
1:16 - What's the hardest thing about pregnancy/parenthood?
1:57 - What's the best thing about parenthood?
2:25 - What's birth like?
3:56 - What's the best advice you've received?
4:23 - What's the worst advice you've received?
5:06 - What's your relationship with food?
5:46 - What's the most surprising thing about pregnancy/parenthood?
6:43 - What would you say to future/past Sarah?
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[@MikkiMagic]

I was so scared when I went into labor. Not because I didn't think I could do it, but I was terrified of things going wrong. My labor went fairly smoothly and I did it without meds! I loved being pregnant, but I love holding my baby so much more! He just turned 4 months yesterday! Motherhood is amazing and I also found a whole new level of respect for my parents, and especially my mom who had to have a c section because of me flipping over last minute, sorry mom

[@brendabeans4986]

Just had my first baby two weeks ago and all I can say is same same same. It's a lot of work, but I had no idea how wonderful it is to have a new baby! Before he got here, I just hoped that we'd all survive, but now that he's here, it's like I'm on top of the world. We are absolutely in love with this little baby!!

[@angelabrown4478]

I had 2 back to back c sections 17 months apart 5 and 6 years ago. I’m still getting twinges of pain of the scar tissue forming.

[@sighhAYSzG5AG]

Thank you for calling a c section traumatic. I think people fail to comprehend what it's like to know you are being cut open and to feel all the tugging (like your stomach is a suit case that someone is rummaging through). It took me quite some time to be able to talk about my induction and c section experiences. Foley bulb inductions are not for the faint of heart.

[@bokboman]

I'm male and will never know what a c section feels like BUT I do know what it feels like to be awake while surgeons rummage through your insides. People ask me about it and the memories are very traumatic. Its more than a tough memory. Your body being shoved and manipulated by someone youve just met is really, really upsetting. My heart goes out to C section mothers.

[@cjk3567]

This! I am a NICU nurse and have been in the or for hundreds of c sections. It wasn’t until I had my own that I realized just how terrifying it is. Even knowing exactly what was going on I was so so scared. Having my own c section has definitely made me more conscious of how my patients are feeling.

[@jenniferreynolds1537]

The Foley bulb! Ugh, I absolutely hated that thing and I hated that it made it difficult to move around so I spent most of my labor in bed. I am really hoping if I choose to have another baby that I won't have to be induced.

[@adeebaafzalkhan9323]

I just had my c section last week. It went perfectly and yet it was so traumatic. I am still in recovery and unable to walk for long periods or stand.

[@gailschultz878]

This hits hard! I just had an emergency csection 4 weeks ago and I was not at all prepared for it (mentally, emotionally, physically). What got me most was how AGGRESSIVE it felt. There was an intense feeling of urgency, especially once they started cutting. This is not to say I was unhappy with the experience- my surgeons, everyone in the OR, and post op care were wonderful and I am extremely grateful to them. But I definitely grieved missing out on the birth I wanted, although talking about it has helped and I can already kind of laugh about the first night we were home and I had washed my hair (which is down to my waist) and I accidentally laid on it in bed and started crying because I couldn't sit up enough to untrap myself.

[@eatapeeta6968]

The part that I 💯 got was when she talks about the respect she has for her own parents. How u realize, wow all the things I do for this little person, all the live I feel for them. That’s what my parents felt and still fell. It’s flooring.

[@ValentinaWithFeathers]

Unfortunately, there's so much more to being a good parent than merely keeping your baby alive. Let's not forget the people who have been abused by their parents.

[@neshacruz6574]

I can never understand why some parents emotionally damage their kids. Then we gotta live with it the rest of our lives. It’s really hard to forgive someone who messed you up in the head.

[@cristinagarza1068]

The part about realizing your parent loved you the same way you love your baby…😭😭😭

[@dakotadoyle8865]

6 weeks pregnant with my first and I am bawling watching this! Some days I want to speed up time, but good reminder that I should reflect on where I'm at throughout this pregnancy. ❤

[@misstwistedstitch]

Thank you for posting this, pregnancy is so strange and different for everyone (i’m 5 months now) and just hearing stories from Mom’s who are pregnant or have just had kids is just such a fantastic outlet for comfort knowing we’re all going through it one way or another.

[@lyssaearland618]

Such an interesting concept! Very insightful and educational.

[@nafisachowdhury26]

Your labour was very similar to mine in that I had to have a c section because my son's heart rate kept dipping with every contraction. I remember really struggling with the disappointment of not being able to have a vaginal birth. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@angelalott2383]

Wow your actual birth story (not pregnancy fantasy one) is almost exactly the same as mine! I was 2 weeks late and they induced me with an epidural. 3 inductions later I was finally in labour enough to be admitted to the hospital. Later that day, my son's heart rate dropped for a bit then everything was fine for a bit expect that no matter how much oxytocin they pumped into me I refused to dilate. After over 40hours of labour I was at 6cm so they recommended an c-section because baby's head was swelling. I was not prepared for the long painful recovering from both the labour and the surgery. My son was 3 months old last week and I am now finally feeling totally like myself again. I started feeling significantly better around the 2-4 week mark but it wasn't until recently that I realized how not totally back to normal I was even back then.

[@cathrinaandrus1777]

That little baby is so darn cute, I had to watch the video twice! He just reminds me so much of my little one...well, back when he WAS little! ♡ A good and interesting video too. :)

[@jacknuts431]

Love you Sarah! You’re a rockstar and stellar mom. Thank you for making this and being so honest about your motherhood journey.

[@lamacchiasulmuso]

This resonated with my pregnancy/birth/motherhood experience on so many levels, thank you so much for sharing.

[@maryanneevans8812]

This is so wholesome. Thank you, Sarah

[@helpmereach45ksubswithoutvideo]

These videos is the thing we need

[@vividesiles3763]

This is so reassuring, I like her!

[@Lilaliba88]

Such a great video! The best advice I got was also not to take any advice. Especially unsolicited ones. The worst was not to listen to my guts and go for a natural birth no matter what. Well, I dare to say I was so sure for years already about wanting an elective C section that even my baby knew that and remained breech until her last day in my womb, so although I wanted the C section, it was also necessary. It went really well, I was operated on exactly at week 40 without any labor. The day after was quite painful, but the baby was out and safe. Either of us suffering a birth trauma and me not having the anxiety of an uncertain labor made both of us calm and happy, my daughter slept through every single night since she was old/big enough that I didn't have to wake her for feeds. She is now a 7 month old little healthy and super friendly army crawler and I could have not imagine loving someone the way I love her❤️❤️❤️❤️.

[@cassandrabuitron427]

Great video. No BS. I'm 22 weeks with my first.

[@helianthus420]

I love these videos !!!

[@tarapizzimenti946]

The same thing happened to me where I didn’t do into labor so I got induced and my daughter’s heart rate kept dropping so I had to have a c section. It took a while to process all the emotions around everything that happened that wasn’t part of my “plan”. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@JudyCZ]

Wow, Sarah is awesome!

[@emberedits1342]

the "you may have less time for yourself, but what we're you really doing with that time before, you were just online shopping" got me 😆

[@sarat.1744]

The heart rate dropping is scary as hell...I've always been scared of labor up until I had labor preparation with my midwife. Then I felt sort of in control...until nothing happened as it should have. Ended up having a 33h labor, a huge episiotomy to help baby get out faster while him being sucked out with a ventouse as well because his heart rate was dangerously low...I remember being terrified while also trying to focus to push as hard as I could to get him out faster. And the sleep deprivation is real. He's almost 8 months old now and if I get 5 hours of split sleep it's a VERY good night. Most nights I don't sleep after 2 or 3am (half past midnight last night, yay...NOT). Fun times. But then again I got a reflux baby so not all babies are this bad.

[@SweetHeart-life]

I m lucky to have a wonderful pregnancy/labours both times. I also very lucky to have two wonderful girls. Motherhood is hard but worth it. No one knows how to really raise a lil person, but some how our civilization keeps going.

[@mkeri5121]

Super virgin! 🤣 The same thing happened to me after my traumatic emergency c-section and my physio said it was actually from the trauma. Love this video!

[@Innessofficial]

Girl, same here, I m trying to figure this out,how did you recover? Did you do some kind of exercises?/went to some kind of specialist?

[@mkeri5121]

@@Innessofficial pelvic floor physiotherapy saved me! Specifically the windshield wiper exercise with loose knees. Doing them throughout the day and also right before doing the deed helped!

[@isyabbelqueen5483]

¡EXCELENTE Pelicula! Muchas gracias, es la segunda sweetheart.mom vez que veo este gran obra del cine Western Clásico y me encanta muy buena película. Saludos desde Arenillas, República del Ecuador, Sudamérica. Gracias y bendiciones *soludos,.❤️.

[@tamarabintener7635]

I barely got any sleep when I was pregnant but once our son was here and 6 months old, I got great sleep again! He is a great sleeper but every baby is different.

[@amarahsrabbitry1073]

Love this! Now I have to make one of these for my main channel. 36W3D today!

[@ChiefAnonymoose]

Sitting here with an 8-week old, the worst piece of advice I got was to keep baby awake more during the day so they would be extra tired and sleep longer at night. Cue maniacal, sleep-deprived cackling...

[@Nisha868]

Multiple people told me this.. calming an overtired baby is extremely difficult..

[@tamarabintener7635]

Hang in there. It gets better around month 6! Watch wake windows and nap lenghts.

[@mcheddadi]

i wanna see the jeans saga resumed! :D

[@leticiarodriguez3334]

I'll be having my second son in 26 more days

[@PolkaDotSpot]

congrats! hope it goes super smoothly

[@Chfhfh]

Sounds like my story ✨

[@user-gz6ke7yy7m]

I love sarah

[@AprilT72]

Aww I wish I did this.

[@weetduck]

He's started teething too, that's a tough time.

[@kenyapeary340]

I love these videos, I am 2 months pregnant, and I have no idea 🤷‍♀️ what idea what I am doing. I’m told that this is a critical time in child development. But omg what does that really mean. Like if I canon ball into a pool will I lose it.

[@possomt6211]

Wish I'd done this when I had my baby. It was a crazy traumatic hard ride

[@katshort5048]

crying

[@isabelyaport198]

Literally my same birth story !!! That’s crazy

[@dianecastillo4863]

Things nobody told me about pregnancy: heat flashes, sensitive itchy skin, feeling like I'm suffocating when I go for a swim, braxton hicks contractions 😖🤢😭

[@hattyburrow716]

It’s so striking how much more beautiful this lady is after having her child. She’s lovely before hand, but stunning afterwards.

[@jj-if6it]

Well she obviously lost a lot of weight she mentioned she'd gained. That's a bit of an awkward comment

[@marianatinajero9785]

How far along were you when you got induced?

[@jessicapadron7886]

My baby girl is 9 months too. When was your baby born? Mine was born 9/18/21 :)

[@Abcdefghijajajaja]

Lol! You do not go to the hospital when your water breaks hahahahha only if contractions

[@DarkLady0801]

I did.

[@margaritakmp]

But when are you going to make the baby try horrifying denim trends in babywear

[@SarahdayZ]

Do peoples baby’s really still wake up every few hours at 9 months old?! My 7month old sleeps through the night. Maximum of 1 feeding at night. My daughter was the same. Slept 6 hour stretches before 2 months old

[@kelleym7623]

Yes they do. Every baby is different.

[@beatrizyumi2681]

the babys name is baby?

[@Abcdefghijajajaja]

If she didn’t disclose that information its clearly non of our business

[@klaraleblochova]

It's so sad, how drugs and doctors influence our lives. The c-section probably would not happen, if the baby just got more time and the induction never happened. He clearly wasn't ready to be born and it was worth nothing, because it went wrong so bad, so it's crazy how we find it fine, bacuse "the doctors said so". And Now there's a unnecessary trauma to process instead of focusing on your child. I'm getting sick from that. Childbirths don't need to be controlled and medicated, our bodies are smarter then we think, it's so upseting what we're letting others do to them just because we're told from our births we have to be controlled, because we can't do it by ourselves.

[@sydneyharbour-bridges8090]

After a few weeks past the due date, it becomes dangerous to the baby and the mother for the baby to remain in the uterus, so they have to induce

[@klaraleblochova]

@@sydneyharbour-bridges8090 but it's mostly even before the due date, or the it's just unnecessary. That's the main problem. 90% pregnancies don't need induction, eventhough the term passed by, because the term Is HIGHLY speculative, it's just a roulette with numbers, it literally doesn't say anything valid.

[@sydneyharbour-bridges8090]

Inductions are only recommended if the health of the mother or baby is at risk, or if its 2 weeks past the due date. Going over 42 weeks carries quite a risks. Childbirth may be natural but it was and still is dangerous. Maternal mortality has declined over the last century (from 6-9 deaths per 1000 live births to 0.1 per 1000, source: MMWR 1 Oct 1999) largely due to improved obstetric care.

[@klaraleblochova]

@@sydneyharbour-bridges8090 the numbers don't lie, 26% pregnancies are inducted, but only few babies are born truly past term, (past term Is over 42, not 40) So that means majority of births Are inducted for no reason And those babies Are just not ready. It's a standart procedure to induce at 39 weeks And that Is just WRONG.