Five A Day | Being Positive All The Time Ends Up Hurting Everyone Including You And Me

[@allonesame6467]

Dear Goobie, Sometimes when we don't have balance, or a good understanding of our selves with regard to negative & positive it is easy to get lost and carried away in a flood of emotion. Being positive all the time is also a way of not having to face all facets of an issue and we can bypass the tough work of confrontation with self and others trying to avoid pain. In this case we are so positive pushing negativity down and away, it gets pressurized. Then something happens, or someone says something, and BAM! we lose control of the regulator that keeps all those negative things pushed down and hidden. All the issues we did not confront with equanimity and compassion come bobbing up to the surface for us to deal with all at once which can be very confusing. We are learning. If we can make some space for our selves to process issues as they come up in a forthright way, then perhaps they will not pile up. Making space for self, developing some discernment/dispassion (which takes practice) and cleaning the mirror of perception with yoga & meditation might help. Your sensitivity is a good and honorable guide. Thank you for sharing. Respectfully Shared.

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Thank you ❤️

[@Amy.J.Newton]

I'm retired at 27, went from Grass to Grace. This video here reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, honest wife and 35k biweekly and a good daughter full of love ❤

[@Mary_P.Belt1]

I'm highly inspired. Please spill some sugar about the bi-weekly stuff you mentioned

[@Amy.J.Newton]

I raised 75k and Claudia Ann Brandon is to be thanked. I got my self my dream car 🚗 just last weekend, My journey with her started after my best friend came back from New York and saw me suffering in dept then told me about her and how to change my life through her. Claudia A Brandon is the kind of person one needs in his or her life! I got a home, a good wife, and a beautiful daughter. Note!:: this is not a promotion but me trying to make a point that no matter what happens, always have faith and keep living!!

[@Jaysinkovitz]

Wow 😱 I know her too Miss Claudia Ann Brandon is a remarkable individual whom has brought immense positivity and inspiration into my life.

[@DonnaC.Minnick]

Can't imagine earning $85,000 biweekly, God bless Ms Claudia Ann Brandon , God bless America 🇺🇸♥️

[@Elsie_Martinez]

I started my trade with $5000, and in the space of one month I got credited with $22,000. It remains my biggest win for the year 2024

[@myrnaedmisten599]

Telling true stories are amazingly freeing. The sadness may still be there, and often the hurt. But the freedom to move on grows. Love you Goobie. ❤. I’m an 85 year old great grandma and have lived a lot of life. Truth…

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Hello friend who is an 85 year old grandma 👋❤️ I hope you have a lovely day 😊

[@victoryang3220]

Well said grandma 👵

[@syedshahwaizbukhari4720]

"This video is such a refreshing take on positivity culture! It’s so true that forcing ourselves to be happy all the time can actually suppress real emotions and prevent genuine growth. Life is about balance-acknowledging the highs and the lows. Thanks for shedding light on this important conversation! 🌟🙌"

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

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[@debbiebolek2117]

Exactly😊

[@ramongarrison6935]

Why did you put quotation marks

[@mimiv8766]

Ditto!!!! ✅

[@ranjinimohan8738]

🙏🙏🙏

[@kathypeaceful]

I love how you say “I like being alive”. It’s such a good reminder of being thankful for our most basic gift. ❤

[@DailyDictation_com]

said a person who's never been dead. jk :)

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

😂 that’s so true @dailydictation_com!

[@Prayz4u]

When you love someone remember you are not responsible for their lives. ( unless they are your own young children) The more you exhaust your energy on others that don’t reciprocate the same energy back to you will end up with that hole in your heart. Say no…. Set rules this is your journey in life. Don’t let others take away your sunshine. I know this being an empath.

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Thank you sooooooo much friend who is an empath ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@RicardoSifuentes22]

0 editing, 0 bs or clickbait! Just a good human sharing his quality thoughts to help the world ! Good shit brother! 🙏🏽

[@diegom7229]

From Italy here. While you eat I'm drinking my 5 o'clock tea, it's always very pleasant to listen to you, thank you for your presence

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Hello friend from Italy 🇮🇹 👋❤️ Buonasera

[@hourias.manouzi1631]

I was having breakfast. I slowed down to taste my toast, following Dr. Goobie’s advice. He is a wise human being.

[@amantinak]

Having my dinner with you. I love today's topic too. Life is learning from ALL. Love your Presence. Thanks ❤❤

[@williamduval9856]

Goobie, it takes a real man to admit your mistakes and said I’m sorry and I admire you for that.

[@MichaelObrien-n5m]

Thank you, Goobie. Seeing you cry is very relatable. I lost my brother to suicide years ago. Near the end of his life, I screamed at him and that was my last conversation with him. He was suffering from depression and mental illness. I should have called. I should have said sorry. Always speak openly and honestly. Never leave things unsaid. If you have someone you love, make the call.

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Hello friend 👋❤️ I’m sorry about what happened with you and your brother. I hope you can find it in you to forgive yourself. 🫂

[@deborahcaldwell9775]

This equates to the fact that for a while I was allergic to preservatives because I threw away every can in my house. I was so sick of reading labels so I started eating only local and farm fresh foods only only and then I became allergic to preservatives. Now I have at least one Coke a month, and I really enjoy hotdogs two or three days in a row every four or five weeks. When I told my son that earlier this week, he was astonished and appalled and surprised at his aging mother who isn’t perfect with diet ha ha ha ha but it’s the same kind of good and bad isn’t it? Yay for you. I am 84 and he is 56 and it took me a long time to see that kind of balance so I’m glad you caught on sooner than I did.

[@allisona337]

Love this topic, I stopped setting myself on fire to keep others warm. And now trying to be kind not nice. I’m learning to be kind to myself and reading my emotions when around others.

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

That is so wise. Thank you for sharing what you learned and how you choose to live. I want to do that too ❤️

[@andreavanda5402]

Great analogy!

[@akkyban60]

@@andreavanda5402 Great analogy. Spent most my life setting myself on fire to keep my relatives warm. Not anymore. I am no 1 now.

[@andreavanda5402]

@@akkyban60 good for you👏👏👏

[@mjosheehy]

I love your honesty and vulnerability. You are awesome and you are helping me and many people. I hope your brother in law saw this. He will come back to you, I believe.

[@Wandeezimo]

Thank you for ending the video with “I love you.” It pierced me. Not many people say that facing my direction and I felt like I needed it. Love you too man

[@yippieyee291]

Gd evening Dr Goobie. German time 21pm. Now I am watching your video before bedtime. I have no Facebook, no Instagram, WhatsApp just bare minimum of usage, but your videos I want to encourage everyone to watch, because you are sooo down to earth, authentic, you are a real hero, hero means a really strong person in fact. To end a life is easier than to try to manage it even with pain or suffering... Sensitive humans are super intelligent but also lonely cuz ppl don't understand them, worst case is those sensitive kind humans are surrounded with toxic family members, then their lives are going to be bumpy. Jobs, you can quit, friends you can change but parents siblings we can not choose. :-/. I have got lots of inspiration from your videos. Huge thanks Goobie! First help yourself and then others.

[@aaronvu6292]

Initially, I was watching his first videos, just for curiosity and recommendation from a colleague. But now, I am watching the videos for trying to be a better human, physically and mentally. I am envisioned Dr. Goobie as a good friend that trying to advise me to be a better person.

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

I’m trying to be a better person too. We can do it together ❤️

[@wlwang164]

When I was younger, I always wanted to eat meals with someone. Now that I'm older, I found it's more relaxing to eat alone, just enjoy the food without thinking of something to talk about. Its very pleasant to listen to your talk. Thank you for being kind and real!

[@stinkytoilet5492]

This is very true

[@DERISNER]

We're all human. We all make mistakes. We all have our moments. You're a good man because you recognized the turmoil that your actions may or may not have caused and you sincerely apologized. From the heart. Dr. Goobie, that's all you can do. Please just keep being yourself. We love you for you

[@jillbeans1573]

You are welcome to have lunch with me any time. I feel that your heart is both open and willing. And that your desire and intent is to be helpful. To you and anyone reading, I wish you healing and health. May Peace be with you. ❤

[@sergiolewes]

I’m glad I find your videos, is shocking to me that something apparently cold like internet can yet connects ppl so wonderfully and creates beautiful and helpful human relationships. I remember what you always say about how everything’s connected. Love your content, appreciate very much what you’re doing for you and for us. Stay well.

[@chelsearose588]

Yeah, I'm blown away by this too

[@1961Lara]

OMG. I can’t believe your dog came to check on you. So cool.

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Haha and she went away when I said she can be stubborn and reactive 🤣 she can understand what I’m saying even though she doesn’t speak English. I’m slowly learning to understand what she is saying to me. I think all animal and plants can communicate to some extent. Way more than what we think is possible

[@1961Lara]

@@GoobieAndDoobie I agree totally. My cats seem to understand a lot as well

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

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[@herewegoagain7403]

I learn something new with every upload! thank you!

[@lichensong191]

What a beautiful day to be alive!

[@roguescoop]

Wonderful comment!

[@sarli8]

Love you too Goobie. With everything that’s going on in the world, it’s time for all of us to keep it real. Thanks for your wisdom and inspiration. You take precious care. xx

[@orana23]

Goobie, I haven't even finished listening... I've paused you on "rainbows&butterflies" because I want to say your 😢, ❤ &😔 to your brother in law, is going out into the world to help all of us who thought being nice would "fix" it.... here you have thousands of people who are learning from your pain and honesty... thankyou... and love returned across the continent to you and your family🙏🏼

[@teescoffee5689]

In my world sharing a meal with someone is a gift. Thank you for sharing.

[@TillyTme]

I love you too! Talking about your 'mistakes' and showing your vulnerability in an arena where everyone you have ever known can see it is a rare and really courageous thing to do. We know that, globally, men are often suffering in silence and they desperarely need a role model like you. Thank you!

[@judithwebb2348]

What a beautiful human you are Dr Gooby. (And I always thought fear was the opposite of love)

[@Forsythia2010]

As this 67 year old women was listening to your heart, I remember your lesson that I need to be truth to myself. This is a time to ask myself for forgiveness for not being truth to myself and say I'm sorry, I will try not to betray you again because I love you the most. After all, ultimately you are all I got till the end of my life. It takes strongest courage, wisdom, and patient when loved ones are involved. I'm 100% positive that the event will bring positivity to all parties involved later in life. Sorrowfully, growing up in any relationship first takes going separate ways mentally. However, I'm not sure which is real you: keep going with ideal relationship you have kept with your bro-in-law in your own terms, or just be generous for an unspoken limited time you set for him in your heart. Let's dig the truth.

[@lindsaymarks3481]

Thank you for your heartfelt honesty. I understand what you said about the whole in your heart. After a very ugly situation I lost my best friend of 40 yrs. It’s been such a painful loss. I hope I can reach out and maybe one day heal and talk to my friend. This was a very powerful podcast you made. Thank you Goobie

[@andreavanda5402]

I too have lost several friends these past couple of years and it is truly heartbreaking. I was honest and they did not want to hear it. But that's the only way I can live. Maybe one day they will see that we meant no harm and that we were only trying to express our truth. I hope so.❤

[@dmccarthy6]

This video speaks to me because I find myself being positive to a fault. I often do so to “keep the peace” and not be perceived as an asshole. I’ve held back honesty because my true thoughts are actually negative and I don’t want to upset people. Ultimately it has done more harm than good on my end. Embracing the negative and understanding that I’ve done nothing wrong doing so, is something I need to work on. Great video and introspection.

[@v4nt4music]

I’m not here for positive or negative but just here to listen to you and relate where I can. I like your videos because they’re real, raw, uncut, and I can feel what you’re saying. I get knowledge + get to relate to your life experiences. I guess what I’m trying to say is just keep doing what you’re doing brother, you probably don’t need to worry about if it’s positive or negative. It can be mixed, like our lives.

[@someawsomeguy100]

Many, many marriages end because people don’t have the courage to face sharing their negative feelings with their partner, setting boundaries and upholding them. It causes untold pain and suffering. Thank you for this encouragement to love ourselves and each other enough to do so.

[@bebe8842]

isn't he married?

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

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[@someawsomeguy100]

@@bebe8842 yes, Dr. Goobie speaks very highly of his wife. In my comment, I just made an observation that the situation he describes with his brother-in-law also happens frequently between married couples when they don’t share their negative feelings in order to keep the peace. Over time, resentment builds and eventually there’s an explosion that devastates the relationship. By then it’s often too late to repair the damage.

[@MattAngiono]

I appreciate you distinguishing between kind and nice. Never thought about it that way. I think kindness is one of the most important virtues, but I can see why being nice is different and can lead to toxic outcomes. I agree that positivity can also become toxic, as I've lived within this in my own family for so long. The aversion to negativity, when it's truly justified, is horrible. It can really separate you from your own emotions

[@thegoosetribe]

This highlights why I have never and will never let my family members move in as an adult. Thanks for sharing. Boundaries are healthy and help family members more than they may even know.

[@Libertybell777]

Thanks for sharing your views and personal stories and situations Goobie. I love your dry sense of humour and your vulnerability and honesty. You're a blessing to all. Always be yourself.😁❤️

[@chiquitasakura]

I can’t like this enough times. I am going through something that I imagine is very similar with my adult (23yr old) son. It’s been ongoing for about 5 years now, and I am truly exhausted. Thank you for this.

[@erikohattori5296]

Thank you, Goobie for being so courageous. I love you!

[@marylee2809]

I love all your stories that you share! You’re speaking the truth and your experiences.

[@looneyyang1326]

This dude is the new Mr Rogers of this generation. I only wish he could walk into his house from outside and put on house slippers and a house jacket. 😅

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

🤣 lol

[@kathypeaceful]

Omg!! That’s so true!! I didn’t make that connection. I love Mr.Rogers!! “It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood” “I’m happy to be alive” Their voices are the same vibration ❤❤❤

[@maryjaniejohnson7459]

Funny, I had the same thought ! Mr.Rogers in healthy ways to live 🌄

[@lorenpowell1606]

I too was thinking this. A vulnerable down to earth person. A reminder we need, to be open to growth with gentleness.

[@WildatHeart123]

Hi Dr Goobie, I have spent the last 20 years living my truth in all of my relationships and I can say for sure that you cannot always avoid conflict. Some relationships are not meant to be forever but all relationships are here to teach us something about ourselves. I love your channel you are a very genuine person.

[@jpizzi9520]

I can relate so much to this. Some years ago a friend asked if she could stay with me for a couple of weeks until she found a place. Naturally I said of course. But two weeks in she quit her job and wasn't looking for work. I felt used, and resentment compounded because I was trying to be positive while never fully addressing it with her. Eventually it came to a head, not dramatic outbursts or anything, but our relationship was never the same after confronting her about this that and the other, we barely talked to each other. Now, she is no longer with us, and I will never have that moment of reconciliation. So yes, especially with the people you love and cherish in your life, you can't always be positive. There will eventually come a time when that love and friendship will be challenged. We should always be honest with them and with ourselves, even though that honesty might hurt sometimes. Thank you for sharing this video!

[@Joyous765]

Thank you for sharing this story. It touches me deeply, reminding of a similar experience as guest in my sister & brother-in-law’s home. Always good to connect more dots and illumine deeper consciousness. ❤

[@jpizzi9520]

​@@Joyous765❤🙏

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Thanks for sharing your story. There are similarities in our stories. I appreciate hearing what you learned from your experience ❤️

[@jpizzi9520]

​@@GoobieAndDoobieAppreciate you! ❤

[@jinnyeng6544]

It's very hard topic. It's always very difficult for me to say no to other people but I'm slowly learning how to to be honest in a way that is not hurtful to others. It takes practice.

[@Tunlence]

I became teary eyed too. I have shallow tears. I feel for you & your brother-in-law. I understand where you're coming from. And, I can see he's side too. Like the positive & negative you mentioned, there's two sides of a story. Which is hard to take sides. Like a scale, there has to be balance or equilubrium. Like any other things, events, situation, this too shall pass like the "Will of the Wind." It takes time to heal just like any. I'm kinda sad for what had happened because at this time & age, there's a lot of lonely people out there. I hope you two patch things up & find both your and his happiness. Coz life is short. Before you know it, you're gray & old.

[@Wandeezimo]

What a lovely day to be alive and see another hard hitting pontification from Dr. goobs.

[@grifmom01]

You are a genuinely good soul and human being❤

[@StarlightForce]

next video; mukbang

[@Doctorithm]

Thank you for another video Goobie. I will be doing more research on the spinach oxalate content, how over consumption could be hurtful, and how it compares to other greens like kale. I may also be making a video about it, so thanks again for the knowledge, and inspiration.

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

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[@YanaSibinska]

You are a highly advanced soul. Star 🌟 🤩 seed? With a very unique mission, I even saw you as an E.T. pilot from other galaxies. You are an extremely wise, sensitive, and beautiful soul. Yes. You are very authentic. Much appreciated 👏 Namaste ♾️ 👏 🙏

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Cooooll. I’m an E.T. Pilot from another galaxy. And intergalactic space cowboy. Yeehaw! Giddyup partner ❤️

[@fish-rm6xl]

@@GoobieAndDoobie lmfao.

[@kblaine123]

Bravo....excellent video ! Well...let me do some simple math for you. You were a machine for 95% of your life ! MIT graduate, Duke medical schooling, residency then Neurosurgeon. There was probably very little time if any to actually have a lot of human experiences other than those that you had as a student and a doctor. Now you have a real human experience of having a bro-in-law possibly overstaying his time with you and your wife and the inevitable atomic bomb went off. The Golden Rule......never enter into anything without knowing how you will get out of it if need be. Keep the videos coming......and congrats on producing some of the best content on the tube !

[@acb3246]

true enough, hope is not always a positive thing. as some would say (me), hope is the cruelest punishment given to us to keep on living. i like this topic! thank you goobie!

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Haha I like your assessment of hope 😆

[@sookiescott]

Now, I am getting emotional watching you cry. Family is so important part of our lives and it shows how much you care for him. Time does heal and he’ll come around sooner or later. You’re such an inspiration and helping so many of us get in touch with topics we’d rather not deal with. Thank you for sharing your healing journey with us. ❤

[@nancybu4895]

Dobby, don't cry. Sometimes, a relationship is just a lesson to be learned. Sometimes, I don't hate that someone but I never comfortable to see that someone. It's not because he or she did anything wrong but because the old self they knew is not congruent to the person I am now anymore. We don't owe anyone apologies or explanation. But we all have obligations to learn and better ourselves. People are never meant forever neither are we.

[@tanairigonzalez9793]

I am very bad at communicating as I am always afraid to hurt people’s feelings. I feel like I was born to make people happy while feeling miserable myself. Greetings from Salem, MA! Love your videos since day 1! ❤

[@jeanh1517]

I wish I could pet your Doobie's little face and give her a warm hug. She is so very sweet...

[@Whiteplumee]

You’re making me think very deep. Years ago, I would walk every evening with my mother. I had mentioned to her what I wrote in my journal; The only way to fix this planet is to work in communities (this is a sketch/draft idea). Live off of each other, working together to provide what everyone needs and trading. Currently, I’m living way up north in the country and there’s a lot of Amish or other branched-off communities like that. Did you know, if an Amish family buys a house with electricity in it they rip out all the wires out? I thought that was interesting.

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Fascinating!!!! I will read up on Amish life this morning because of you. Thank you 😊

[@donnac5857]

Some people don't like rocking the boat, it can cause a fall for one to sink or swim. Honesty is love & forgiveness is a lesson for all, to understand unconditional love. ✌️

[@WolfWhite-kj1nr]

So true bc being just positive isn't real life, real life is both positive and negative and messy... hopefully you both learn from this and grow as people 🙏💜❤️

[@kathypeaceful]

Thank you for your honesty. Families will have difficulties and argue that is life. It’s all a journey. If our family relationships become damaged, they can heal and grow. Just as our relationship to ourselves can heal and grow. It took courage to share these feelings with the community and possibly your brother in law. Sharing our honest feelings, being true to ourselves, and offering apologies when we have hurt another is all a part of healing our relationships. ❤❤❤ Time can help heal also.

[@canijustgetanamealre]

your style of video is so different than what is in style today, with quick cuts, led lights , yelling into some fancy condenser mic, saying like and subscribe at the end of the video... yet here I am watching this refreshing video

[@chelsearose588]

Me too

[@hannah5245]

I have been on accurate thinking for more than 20 yrs. I’m becoming good at identifying what’s coming up in my feelings. Whether I share them or not depends on appropriateness. Using a scale of 1-10 helps especially with anger. Happiness is betw 1-5, joy is 6-10. But I also get it when others don’t get it. I check myself. Care-front not con-front. Set a few guidelines like no raising of voice, listen when someone is speaking, no interruptions, check for appropriateness etc. Using “check-in” is a way of finding out what each person’s emotional temperature is on when everyone has gone their own way and coming together for a time.

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Those are great guidelines thank you

[@AS-yh6xu]

It’s like sitting down with a friend to have lunch and hearty conversation. We learn only through trials. And it will eventually work out. You learned smtg, he learned smtg. Honesty with myself is the best policy. And it’s going to be the best thing for all of you, whatever it is going to be!

[@m.jordan6980]

What I learned from this video message is: Another part of being able to be healthy and heal with the positivity journey in life is learning to forgive oneself after evaluating yourself, the strengths and weaknesses we have. After owning them, is forgiving ourselves for our own mistakes. The last challenges of positivity is that forgiveness looks different for most and in our own way, we do it differently. We feel better after learning what is out of our control, accept the outcomes whatever our role was as an effect from this and forgive others best we can. Loved your delivery of this message. Thank you.❤️‍🩹

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

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[@m.jordan6980]

Final thoughts: Your intentions are good and constant. Believe that your brother knows this and that he can be assured of your love for him. This is part of “effective communication”- not always easy to do. We learn with different personalities how to effectively communicate our feelings and thoughts, whether, nice, friendly, with boundaries to be learned and hope for good results and outcomes. Your brother, hopefully accepts what you want to convey here, will have this chance done in private and with time, will know he is loved despite what happened. I just had this experience just today!! As long as you start with intentions to communicate effectively, find courage to show or say whatever necessary often will result in things working out better than we thought. It’s uncomfortable but we get better at this with time and maturity. I believe things will improve. Your energy and heart is good. Here’s another You tuber, (Charlotte Morabito), who talks about “People pleasing “ and the kindness factor- in effect, I liked her perspective and delivery. You might like this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fnK0lIaCmLF-bJYsi=6jmImDFQp2XvqKLU

[@caroldiedricks]

Hi Goobie, thank you for sharing your experience. I’ve experienced quite a few explosions that almost destroyed me completely. After each incident I was forced to reflect and analyse why. However, I realised that each incident taught me a valuable lesson and strengthened me. Without realising at the time it was forcing me to become a deeper thinker putting me in an awakened state. This I realised was my path to becoming awakened and leading me to shift from my programmed existence. I’m currently waiting another huge explosion to take place but somehow it’s not daunting and I’m expectantly awaiting what the lesson will unfold. The confidence comes from walking the path before. You’re enabling your audience to experience this process by sharing. You’re actually instrumental in helping people to move from 3D to 5D. You have been placed where you are and doing what you’re doing for a special reason. Bless you.❤

[@ac4896]

Very relatable Goobie & thank you. Hugs from everyone & time will heal.

[@cheryll8396]

You are awesome Dr Goobie! Thank you for addressing oxalate. I realize the smoothies and food you suggest, and are eating in your video (you are so funny btw) do not have much oxalate at all. I was only wanting to put the info out there for people like me who eat, or have eaten a lot of spinach and other high oxalate foods. I really had no idea that spinach could be bad for you in large quantities, so I was putting it in my smoothies everyday. I have since stopped and switched to other veggies. You provide such wonderful information in such a calm and honest manner. I am so glad that you are taking the time to put out your wonderful videos. Blessings to you and your family:)

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

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[@Katxseven]

You got that right! Life's not all rainbows and butterflies. 🌈🦋🌈🦋🌈🦋 Thanks so much for being real Goobie. This helps me to be able to receive from you even more. ❤

[@suf3481]

Perhaps you opened Pandora's box and found hope at the bottom of it. Always a joy to listening to your experiences. Peace and love!

[@junaidsajid8867]

Thank you for your honesty and realness, it is greatly appreciated :)

[@lucasreiYT]

Californian here. Appreciate a fireside chat that has troubles talk and everything encompassing life. Your series has been productive over the months.

[@marciarigel2896]

Oh, Goobie, I just wanted to hug you in that your emotional moment... Yes, the true, being honest is the best choice. You helped me a lot with that video super honest 'I betrayd myself...' because the same thing happened to me. Thank you for your honesty! Your video give me insights and I talked to my therapist “ I m Judas of myself”.. but I dont have religion (I had religion trauma too and paranoia) I just believe in Jesus without religions and that give me peace ❤

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

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[@victoryang3220]

Dr. Goobie, you're a sincere and respectful person. Since I watched your channel, I did learn a lot about life and happiness. Thank you, doc, and God ❤️ you.

[@nizaniza171]

I can agree with your thoughts. In my family nobody was talking about the problems. I was the only one trying to adress my feelings. But nobody was willing to hear me. So I didnt have the strength to live in that positive Illusion anymore. It blew up as you said. And it hurts me and them. But as you say life is both and beeing mentally healthy means including both sides in your life. Greetings from germany. I love your Videos and thank you!

[@Reign14]

A bit off topic but there was so much beauty in hearing Doobie's little claws clacking on the floor in a little jog over to you. Just the fact that she recognized that you were in distress is so simple but it's one of those beautiful things and its so easy to forget how aware dogs are

[@georgios4891]

I was literally making spinach smoothies so okay I will probably stop it. "Hope is the will to keep living". I like that.

[@slbean9283]

It was absolutely normal to feel bad, went through a similar experience, and after I confronted the person, I felt like I was the bad guy. I wish that adult people in general can take ownership of self-awareness and etiquette. It sounds like your brother inlaw over extended his stay and should not have burdened you and his sister for a longer period of time , plus sharing information with you knowing that your partner is his sister. Time will heal, and he will come around. In my personal experience, it was a learning and increased my own awareness for when I over extend myself the next time. I have gained strength and a voice, and you will to.

[@ChaiTogether]

I love the home and this video title! Here for it 😊🎉 My mom’s currently in the hospital and I’m feeling emotional.

[@orangejuicefan22]

Goodie, yes, thanks for sharing real scary events. You make me think more deeply about healthy boundaries to establish with myself and others. This earth journey sure is challenging if you live it trying to be aware of the impact our lives make on the planet and others. Being real is hard work ! I will try to work harder! Thanks for the encouragement.

[@christinesulkowski3602]

You do you….talk on what ever is on your heart. 🥰

[@jogakdle]

솔직한 이야기들을 남겨주셔서 고맙습니다.

[@sofiadebus697]

''Toxic positivity'. Thanks Goobie. I hope you can repair your relationship with your brother-in-law in time.

[@bobebel6339]

I like being positive, and I like your positive attitude. Of course, being human means we're not always able to be or feel positive. We should always try to confront our problems and challenges. I see no reason why we can't try to face problems and challenges with a positive attitude. However, pain and fear sometimes drives us to express negative emotions. Being human is to make mistakes and then hopefully recover, forgive, and learn from our mistakes.

[@navenchang]

Yes, it's good. To treat our food like the medicines to heal our body. 👍👍👍

[@Whiteplumee]

I made a white bean and kale soup yesterday. Highly recommend!! Very versatile, and super delicious!

[@heyparty8282]

You have started hearing your inner voice more clearly I think. You are becoming wiser and heal everyday. Keep going. Good luck!

[@heyparty8282]

Acknowledging and staying with both the good and the bad is a key aspect of radical acceptance.

[@pinchofpsy]

Much love to you Goobie and thank you always for sharing and being so honest. Here's to being open and having a bit more courage every passing day!

[@myggggeneration]

OMG, I have so much to say about this.... You put your finger on a hot button here, one that those who grew up in this country - and never left it - are rarely aware of: the toxic side of American "positivity" culture. There are toxic elements in every culture, obviously, but I never experienced the effects of *unquestioned (fake) positivity* until I moved to this country over 40 years ago. It has actually become more damaging over time, and social media, where real emotions are even more masked or even faked in a masterful manner, have let this phenomenon grow exponentially. I have a feeling that you and your brother-in-law can work through this. It takes time and the insight that BOTH of you brought this on - with the mindset that was available to you at the time. You have learnt valuable lessons, you have forgiven him (and yourself), maybe he has too..... I wish you both ALL THE BEST. My heart hurts for you both a little 🙂❤💕

[@myggggeneration]

PS. This just arrived in my subscriptions: "Three Directions of Forgiveness | Guided Meditation with Jack Kornfield" -- 9 minutes well spent, and a reflection on an age-old problem!! :-) - link below unless deleted by YT.

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Awesome! Thanks for the recommendation

[@nicolenixx__]

I’ve really been having a rough time lately and Watching this as I go to bed somehow really makes me feel less alone. Like we are sitting at a table having a conversation. I’m going through something similar and was able to share a tearful moment with you. I love your videos thank you for sharing yourself and your energy

[@DalmherCraft]

I absolutely love this upload ☯ Sharing your truth and authenticity is the best thing you can possibly do for yourself and for us all. My favorite parts were when you were eating with your hands and the five second rule moment, I do that all the time 😆 you really put a great big smile on my face 💜

[@1961Lara]

I am drinking coffee….. but I will have my 5 portions of veggies later! Good morning! I spent many many years being”happy” for those around me…. When I got some counseling and started taking care of myself, life got better….

[@konaroxy1852]

You are helping people by speaking the truth about the realities in life ❤ Thank you for sharing from your heart 🥹

[@elianacapiotto_ingles]

Hi Goobie! I understand what you've been going through. That's really hard. But if you and your brother-in-law genuinely love each other, things will work out. Maybe reaching out to him and saying those things you said in the video directly will make it easier for you guys to get past this situation. I think you touched a point that is crucial: we need honesty in our relationships. For our relationships to be healthy, we need to say what's bothering us. Of course, in the best way possible. We need to learn how to be honest without hurting the people we love. My husband and I have been on a bumpy journey trying to learn how to do that. We've advanced a lot, and I'm grateful for that. Of course that life is not all rainbows and unicorns. There's a lot of evil and suffering in the world. And we need to learn how to navigate this world the best way possible for our mental health. Let me share with you one of the situations I've gone through recently. I love animals and I wanted to help the animals in need somehow. So, I started following accounts of animal shelters on social media to learn more about the situation of animals in my country, Brazil, and see what I can do to help. I've learned that there are hundreds of animal shelters and many of the animals that are there waiting for a family have suffered unbelievable pain in the hands of cruel humans. I started advocating for pet adoption and against breeders and urging people around me to stop buying animals and consider adopting. I also started donating money to some shelters to help them continue open, since our government doesn't do anything for them. I felt good about helping, but every time I saw a video of a dog or cat that had been beaten by a human, run over by a car, or attacked by another dog, my heart would sink. I cried a lot seeing those videos. The same thing happened when I saw the videos of the people in Gaza and the wildlife that was dying in the criminal fires that were consuming the forests of Brazil last month. After some time, I started feeling depressed and weak. I would feel like crying even when I was not seeing those videos. That was messing up with my mental health. When I realized that, I decided to make changes. I still help the way I can, but I've unfollowed all those accounts that would feed me with those heartbreaking images. I've put in my mind that I don't need to know the details of the suffering of others in order to help them. That will only consume me and make no difference in the lives of those suffering. Of course that I still see sadness in the world around me. I still learn about the news. But I try to protect myself from things that I feel I can't handle right now and instead I try to put my energy into seeing what's positive in the world and in my life. I don't need to include horror movies or books or crime documentaries in my life to understand that there's negativity around. In fact, I hate those things because I feel very affected by them too. I feel the environment change in my home when I consume that kind of content and that doesn't serve me at all. I believe that differently from the negative news, horror stories are a disservice to the world. At least the news raise awareness to problems in our society and help us to get together to try to change things the best way we can. So, my point is: we need to be honest with ourselves and with others. If we're sad, angry, frustrated, we need to allow ourselves to feel those feelings and try to work on what's causing them. Trying to be positive when we need time to deal with those negative feelings is harmful to us. But consuming negative things to remind ourselves that there's more negativity in the world outside our own lives doesn't do us any good either. I'm not sure if I managed to put across what I wanted to say in an understandable way. I hope I did. I wish that you and your brother-in-law can learn to forgive each other and understand that both of you made mistakes because you are humans and humans make mistakes. That's mostly how we learn. 💙 PS.: Only now did I see your "scary story at bedtime" video, because I wanted to know what kind of story your mom and some other people disapproved of. To my surprise, it's completely different from what I was expecting. The title you chose made me skip that video because I really thought it was a horror story. If that's the kind of "scary stories" you plan on keep telling, I must say: please continue. The more people talk about how we are destroying the world the better chances we have of making people understand that something needs to be done and that it's in our hands to pressure our governments to change things and also to make changes in our own lives. If everyone cares about reducing their own carbon footprint and engaging politically with this topic the more chances we have of saving our planet and the plant and animal species that live here now, including ourselves.

[@onepeachsoda]

Hi Goobie, living with someone new is one of the hardest things to do, that's why so many reality tv shows are based on putting strangers under one roof 24-7. From my perspective (and I can be totally off base), there are many factors that caused the relationship to be hurt. You, your wife, your bro-IL are all going through some major changes in your lives, you're trying to heal yourself, getting used to all the attention you're receiving, and starting a new self-employment. There will be a good outcome from your honesty only if your bro is ready to listen, accept and work with you. Your positivity also comes from a place of love. You were practicing loving your bro and accepting him as he is, and sometimes at your own expense because we all make sacrifices for love. There's no easy answer. It seems you're ready to reconcile and I hope your bro-IL will be ready soon too. May love and compassion continue to guide your choices. ❤🍑

[@andreavanda5402]

You're growing at lightening speed Goobie. It is great to watch a person who is ferociously seeking the truth. Yes, life is good and bad and we have to look at and acknowledge both in order to grow. Carl Jung, the famous Swiss psychologist, called it examining the "shadow". He stated when you do that, you will find the truth and become your full potential. You will be your real self. Thank you for this message Goobie.❤

[@Coops5361]

We are all each others angels & demons. Your help is gratefully but not uncritically (as you know from all the comments) received. I dont think you are overly positive. I think you commented in a video you posted in July that you are trying to accept your fear, anxiety etc. You are trying to accept all aspects of you as you are becoming aware of them. Goobie, keep on keepin' on. Wishing you well.

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Thanks for your feedback friend. I wish you well too ❤️

[@bug781741]

I agree with your learning your mistakes. I have too learned that all my life I have been a people pleaser which in the long term does not survive as it builds personal resentment which one feels at fault feeling but eventually blows up when one has nothing left to give and one keeps making excuses for the behaviour of others which hurts you. I think it is best to be honest all along and not sacrifice oneself to protect others. It is bad for all.

[@PreciousPomegranate]

In this life there will always be bad things, we can use the bad things to sharpen ourselves. The good things are what we should dwell on though. (grow those beautiful trees.. dendrites.. ) Recognize the bad in life for what it is, we can't ignore that part of life. We must learn the best ways to process and deal with it all, while not forgetting to hold up even higher all that is good. As for your brother, forgiveness is the key between you, it doesn't necessarily mean you forget, or it doesn't hurt (for either person), it's a decision of will. Now you've made that decision but you remember the pain, just remind yourselves, forgiveness has taken place, you set each other free of what happened, the rest will follow. Your brother might take time to come to this, but since you've set him free, that beautiful process of healing and restoration has started. All these things continue throughout our lives.

[@DrainCleaningAUSTRALIA]

Watching from Australia! Love your content brother!

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

Hello friend from Australia 🇦🇺 👋❤️

[@dianepark2645]

U have a very good heart and You are a good man. It can be hard to say I'm sorry. But you said I'm sorry in your words.

[@CHIOXOXO]

The dog came over when he was crying 😭

[@sharinaross1865]

Such a cute thing.

[@mimiv8766]

Very touching moment when she came over😢!

[@pekaspi1]

LOL, I love you and oxalates, and you're reminding me of happy childhood memories. ❤❤❤ Familial relationships can get messy, but hopefully, your bro-in-law will want to have a healthy discussion and a willingness to come to a fair solution for everyone. I read through all the comments, and there are so many insightful ones. Many of them reminded me of my mother, who was an amazing psych counselor. I have confidence that the issue can be resolved, and he can love you - and his sister - enough to respect boundaries. Bless you and your precious family.

[@AddictionRecoveryScience]

I agree w ur take on positivity. I have been in substance abuse treatment for years and have always felt uncomfortable when ppl tell each other “u got this!”.

[@GoobieAndDoobie]

I say that sometimes. Thanks for pointing that out. And thanks for sharing your experience and perspective ❤️