Flylady Back to Basics - Mojo gone? Stop trying to do it all. Make time for yourself, every day!

[@DianeinDenmark]

You can find all my Flylady Refresher Course/Back to Basics videos here kzbin.info/aero/PLxIYCyTLBED-1vdMwaAhm7Z_3Br__gals

[@daltonnacraig-crawford7018]

Such an important point of not worrying about being perfect. Thanks.

[@cathylange7245]

I'm a single payroll Flybaby. I swish and swipe Tuesday, Thursday and Sundays. I so my Weekly Home Blessing hour (which takes about 45 minutes) and errands on Saturdays. I try to do my car/purse day on Fridays, however my daughter is a cheerleader so we are at football games most Fridays in the Fall so this gets moved to Sundays sometimes. I keep all the other days the same as the FlyLady system. Your channel inspired me to make these changes. When I first went back to work as a teacher, I always felt anxiety about my home life. Now I wake up, enjoy my morning routines, can relax and have fun with my students at school, come home and jump right into my evening routines. Also, If I skip a day to enjoy a visit to Disneyland or SeaWorld with the kids, the house isn't a disaster. Thank you Diane. On a side note, your videos make me want to move to Denmark!

[@DianeinDenmark]

Oh, that is so lovely to hear, Cathy - you have made some brilliant changes! 🎉

[@nancygiorlando4059]

I recently went on a Cruise and enjoyed having a personal pot of tea each morning along with a lovely cup. When I came home I bought a porcelain tea pot for one, to go along with my fine china cups which were previously stowed away. I have been enjoying having tea this way at least once a day preferably two. What a difference this little ritual has made in my attitude! I think this is an example of self-care.

[@DianeinDenmark]

Cheers, Nancy!

[@pattyomalley833]

Having had surgery last week, I've been taking things a little slower; but because I keep up with my routines, I don't feel stressed to get things done. 😊 Have a wonderful time visiting your Mum. 👋❤

[@mixedmedialife7916]

I also don't like "pampering" (sounds spoiled) or even "self-care" (me, me, me!) but I do like "self-preservation." Makes it sound important, not frivolous. Must be the Celt in us 😉🍀👯‍♀️

[@KathelleStrandom]

😂 love it! X x x

[@nicolehage918]

I loved your remark in your previous video about how you use the shining of your sink as a milestone to end work and start relax-time. And not to fret about life happening: a new dirty plates a few minutes later. Things like that tend to annoy me a bit, just like crumbs, sand, cat hairs on a clean floor. But I am learning to let go! It also helps to vacuum / clean not perfectly, but aim for 90% and learn to be proud of that 😃 I really LOVE 😍 how you and Steph communicate through your videos, responding on each others wise words. I follow you both and it feels I am part of your youtube clan 😊 Although I am Dutch, I tell myself in English to get of my bahooki and get going 😂 Thanks for your inspiration

[@DianeinDenmark]

Hi Nicole! Yes, it's time to let that perfectionism go...believe me, I wasted an awful lot of my time worrying about things that really don't matter. Welcome here!

[@jennylhenry78]

I follow both Steph and Diane. They're the sweetest. And I smiled too when they both mentioned each other in their videos recently. 😊

[@mlelmendorf]

We love you, Diane. Thank you for reminding us that we needn't do it all every single day. Our feminine perfectionism kicks in and we want to do all or nothing. I am getting better, with your help, of course.

[@juliar8078]

Diane, if I could I would give you 2! Thumbs up for this video. Selfcare is so important. Thanks for reminding us to take care for ourselfs 👍😊

[@donnaisshername]

"He's alive another day." Omgggg, you make me laugh so hard, Diane!!!! :-D TOTALLY something I would say! In our neck of the woods it's all about the mule deer; last summer a doe birthed twins right behind our shed! You fret over your red squirrel while I worry about our fawns. (mountain lions here) Thank you, also, for the self-care reminder! SO important!! We are having a lovely couple-- artist friends of ours-- over for dessert and coffee this evening, and I already took my brownies out of the oven, but I will not beat myself up over a less-than-perfect house. Perfectionism is a kill-joy, for sure, and I'm off to my "spa" in my own bathroom-- you inspired me to use our soaking tub with whirlpool jets, which I haven't enjoyed in forever!! :-)))

[@DianeinDenmark]

Woo hoo, Donna - hope you had fun with your friends!

[@annisijanovski5468]

So funny, the coincidence of your subject matter for today. I sat down to watch on Saturday with a bottle of nail polish I found in my wardrobe and was painting my nails while watching. I havent put nail polish on for years! I got encouraged watching you go through yours a few days ago, knowing I have a bottle or two somehwere. Thank you Diane for reminding us that we need time too. Im a busy homeschooling mum (my ds18 is in his final year of school) and have just in the last few months started working part time outside the home in my daughter's new little gift and homewares shop. I love it but life is now even busier. Have a wonderful time visigting your mum and family.

[@jennylhenry78]

Love the takeaway: you don't have to be doing all the parts of the FLYlady system and checking off all the boxes every day. All we are looking for is progress. 🙌

[@DianeinDenmark]

Glad to be of help, Jenny - yes, just keep moving forward! 🖐😃

[@joannahedleyblaylock8148]

Thanks for all your videos Diane! I’m a fly baby just up to day 26, although it’s taken me 3 months to get here! (I got off track in the summer holidays)! I thought I was going to have to start again from the beginning, glad I can just carry on, and I’m not late!

[@leannebarber7082]

Oh. My. Danish crafts! You made my ears perk up! I will sooo look forward to that. And. "I'm gonna love you and leave you." Your sayings always crack me up/make me say to myself, oh, I say that, too! I love making links to you and others in this big, wide world. Thank you for this week. It was just perfect. Good for new people and good for those of us who think we know our way around but who always learn something new, listening to/working with you. I know it takes time to download, attach all those links you do. You are a treasure and such a generous person. Enjoy your weekend! Love across the miles

[@ellenh278]

Kind of ironic that we have to unplug to recharge. Because of you, Diane, I have hygge on my list of evening routines. Make my evening a little cozy somehow. And I've made a note to myself to open a window or light a candle in the room I'm working in. It's reminding me to put moments of joy in while you work and to enjoy what I've done in the evening. Doesn't take much to upgrade a moment with a little hygge but boy, does it make a difference!

[@Magicme79]

Guilt is such a major thing for me. This week I haven’t been feeling fantastic, so I haven’t exercised and I haven’t done much work. Even though I know fully well that one week away from the gym won’t make a big difference and I work for myself, so a week off won’t make much difference there, either...I still feel guilty about not doing The Things. But making progress with the flylady system makes me feel better.

[@mixedmedialife7916]

Magicme79 omg did I write the above? 😂 Exactly me this week. Except that my going-to-the-gym is just unrolling my yoga mat in the living room 🙄. But today's a new day 😊🙏💐

[@erikabossie]

Watching this in 2024 as i got fed up, got the blahs. Daughter and husband left mess everywhere. I tidied our communal areas and put two piles with their stuff. Now I need self care! ❤🎉❤🎉

[@sandradee11482]

I love the term "self-preservation" vs. pampering. Perfect! Also, I am sprucing up our family room with a new rug, drapes, and accessories. Before I would even allow myself to dive into that, I spent 15 minutes each day this week decluttering in that room and from around the house. I am trying very hard to live by the "one item coming in means one item coming out" -- or even to best it with a 1 to 3 ratio. Now the Jeep is full and ready for an errand run to the donation center today, and I can enjoy some sprucing-up time with the new decor goodies this weekend. Cheers, and enjoy your visit with your mum!

[@DianeinDenmark]

Yay, go you, Gidget! Have a great weekend! 🎉🎉🎉

[@monikamarsollek3493]

❣️Hi, Diane, thank you so much for this 'volunteer' reminder...🙄. I always not only volunteer, but even overdo what I’m asked to do🤷‍♀️. Unfortunately I missed the whole week, because I was so sick...and there was an event I had to do crisis cleaning for🤦‍♀️, almost all fine again, so I can go to the big family party today. I promised a cake and wanted to make something (fancy and extra) special (as usual). But I remembered your old videos about crisis cleaning and Swedish fish wife's cake and did this. Nothing fancy, but sooo tasty. And time to rest and decorate nicely before I start. And time for hygge to see this video😉... I don’t use the word pamper very much either, here in Germany the most popular baby diapers are named PAMPERS and it’s a funny feeling for me to use this word for me👶🏻... Have a good weekend and as promised I will put away the 'mixed baskets' after crisis cleaning😉, love, Monika❣️

[@lauradorcy6103]

Your refresher courses are brilliant!! Thank you Diane for all your encouragement!! RAH! RAH! RAH! ❤

[@simplifyingfamilylife1680]

Alternating toilets for the swish and swipe is a revelation! As was your tip about putting away the washing from the day before. Thank you!

[@marylynch951]

Diane have a lovely weekend in Scotland with your lovely Mum

[@lisadixon5886]

Such a lovely message Diane, making everyday moments special! Since retiring I am lucky to have soo much time, but get overwhelmed with all the choices I have, then feel guilty if I havent had a productive day, cause I have no excuses 😄

[@heatherstephsmum1399]

Great video Diane!😃. Something I’ve learned from you is that things don’t have to be perfect, they just have to get done when they can get done. You are so lucky to still have your mum with you! Im sure every minute with her is very precious. Have fun!!😊💖🌷🤗

[@dawndawn6946]

TRUTH spoken here.😁 ✨I need to get my sparkle back.✨ ☺️ LOVE your outfit!

[@Patricia-lg8vg]

this video was perfect for me today. thank you. I listened Friday but I really heard it today. Just what I needed.

[@MotherMuse]

Diane you must be psychic! Somehow your timing is impeccable with so many of your videos. Thanks you for this. 🥰 This one came just as my morning had started off on the wrong foot and I got very little sleep due to a family matter. I am cherishing my morning routine and going to walk with my daughter this morning right after. A break from my usual pattern but necessary before I launch into my daily work. It’s a lovely Fall morning the sun us shining here for once and that’s it. 💕 Have a wonderful visit with your mum in Scotland. xo

[@allisonk8316]

Diane you always look fabulous! Love your style. This was helpful, thanks! "No bad weather, only bad clothing" - reminds me of Canada! Lots of Love from Toronto

[@liztrout6879]

Happy Friday! Enjoy the weekend. One thing I enjoy with the flylady system is not working on the cleaning over the weekend. We spend time gardening or something light. But no heavy tasks which is really a way to enjoy the weekend. When we set up our routines this is easier when we plan ahead.

[@irmaramirez4555]

Hi Diane, I retired 2 yrs ago, so I had a huge shift in my life, and now I am going through a 2nd huge change. I found your videos about 4 months ago. I love your positive energy, and reminders to root for each other and for self care. Can't thank you enough for these videos! A new fan from California!

[@DianeinDenmark]

Welcome here, Irma!

[@stephaniek5433]

You make me excited to pull my life back together- thank you!

[@DianeinDenmark]

Yay, shaking my pom poms for you, Stephanie!

[@evamauer1577]

Setting out five Outfits for the week...Another Game changer! Thanks, diane😙

[@DianeinDenmark]

Yay, Eva! I love having outfits ready to "grab and go"!

[@ambermcclellan6920]

I needed to hear this, with two young children & working full-time, self-care is always low on the totem pole. ❤️ You’re awesome!

[@jeannebowes2898]

This is so well timed for me! Up in the middle of the night here in Montana. I am faithful in exercise and diet.

[@DianeinDenmark]

Get back to bed and sweet dreams, Jeanne!

[@MA-tv1gm]

Thanks so much for this video! I have been putting myself last on the list during a super stressful time lately, and I’ve been cranky with the kids (to be fair, they’re teenagers, so they’ve been cranky, too) and I got a cold sore yesterday. I’ve got a million things to get done, but FIRST I’m going to take a nice long shower and make sure to find time to read the second of that Elly Griffiths series you recommended. I’m really enjoying it! I appreciate how encouraging and spot on you are with your videos. Have a wonderful weekend!

[@DianeinDenmark]

Ooooo, hope you enjoy the next Elly Griffiths, Melissa!

[@lynneyb2469]

Hi Diane, love your polka dot jumper. I have a box full of tea pots and tea cups that I recently brought out to enjoy. So important to enjoy all year round. Thanks for the reminder. Love your channel as always! Have a wonderful time with your mum!

[@DianeinDenmark]

Cheers with a nice cuppa in a lovely cup, Lynn!

[@dehaan714]

Have a nice time in scotland with your mum! Today i worked, did my routines and some zone cleaning...now my husband and i gonna enjoy a nice glass of scottish whisky, wich he bought today, with some smoked salmon...let the week end begin!

[@DianeinDenmark]

That sounds lovely - have a nice weekend!

[@marylynch951]

Omg Diane I used to get so stressed out trying to do all weekly jobs in 1 or 2 days It was terrible I was so tired all the day I had no time for myself Once again thank you

[@KathelleStrandom]

Loving the polka dots 😍 I need this reminder every day 🙄😉 still something I need to work on! Enjoy your weekend 😊❤ x x x

[@saraindublin]

Love this video. Great message.

[@jeannebowes2898]

I went through a perfectionism patch this weekend but recovered my sanity! I just want my garden perfect and that never happens!

[@arleneadkins528]

Thank you so much, Diane. This video came at just the right time for me.. I was getting overwhelmed and my chronic neck pain is flared up. Enjoy your visit with your Mum and family! 😊❤️

[@sharonayers3804]

Thank you, Diane for sharing your knowledge in such a warm, intelligent way. (BTW I never just sit and watch your videos. I’m always cleaning or getting ready for the day) PEACE.

[@dorieeades8724]

Thanks for your sunny encouragement! Have a wonderful week away 💃

[@amkvisser]

Have a wonderful time with your Mum and family, make memories 💓

[@mi2401]

Currently washing up and watching your video 👍 no skiving off please Diane 😂

[@vickiemendoza9252]

I love this back to basics series. thank you!

[@Karenkmc1]

Hurricane Dorian here today in Virginia Beach, VIrginia🎶Rain 🎶rain 🎶Go Away 🎶 I’m so excited for the Christmas crafting to come 🥰❤️👍

[@Amanda-cq3xz]

Oh my goodness a fellow Virginia Beacher and Diane in Denmark fan? Small world! 🤗

[@Karenkmc1]

Amanda Hello👋🏻I live across from The Hunt Club Farm Where ru? Yes small world is Right ‼️‼️‼️

[@Amanda-cq3xz]

@@Karenkmc1 too cool! My husband and I have driven by the Hunt Club Farm a few times since we have moved to the area. Im about 5 minutes from Ikea on the border of Norfolk & VB. 😊

[@Karenkmc1]

Amanda ahhh we should meet @Ikea for coffee 😂

[@Amanda-cq3xz]

@@Karenkmc1 yes!! I am totally down! I have a pretty flexible schedule as I stay home, so if you are in the area let me know! 🤗

[@courtneygarza1149]

You are just so cute! I'm new and have really enjoyed watching your videos. Thank you so much for all the wonderful advice!

[@DianeinDenmark]

Welcome here, Courtney! 🎉

[@joanrevell5767]

Have a good trip. X

[@n86784]

Wishing you a wonderful trip to Scotland, enjoy every moment!

[@ΔΕΣΠΟΙΝΑΠΑΠΑΪΩΑΝΝΟΥ-β5μ]

Have a very nice trip!!

[@1970Marijke]

What a releave what you say especially in 7:52-9:00! Thanks a lot! Hopefully it will help me to be more content with what I do (I have very loud critical and punishing voices ..., or as we say in the Dutch group: the P-monster (P from perfection)) And have a great time with your family!

[@DianeinDenmark]

I'm so glad it was helpful, Marijke! Send me regards to the Dutch ladies!

[@1970Marijke]

@@DianeinDenmark Ofcourse, done! :) They will like it again ;)

[@Lori..]

Loving your back to the basics to jump start our back to school season, and also your cozy/ hyggely ideas!! Also watch Steph, your comment about after you shine your sink was an "ah ha" moment for me, thank you! I have heard of "dinner and done" for eating, I guess that works for cleaning as well! 😊 Have a great weekend!

[@susanpeterson9947]

Great reminder, thank you!

[@Patricia-lg8vg]

have a brilliant day

[@penelopesheehan5927]

Having a self-care regimen is like following the flight attendant’s instruction to put your own oxygen mask on first, so that you can then care for others. Or as my favorite aunt used to say, “you can’t dip out of an empty bucket.’

[@fleurmp3820]

I recently heard of the Swedish term Lagom meaning “not too little, and not too much, but just right." I feel this fits nicely with your channel's ethos. I was wondering if you have any thoughts on this? x

[@DianeinDenmark]

Yes, the Swedes use "lagom" a lot. Just like the Danes love their "hygge"!

[@lindyhoversland5906]

Thanks!

[@marydrummond5451]

Good Morning Diane in Denmark my Sunshine Lady

[@DianeinDenmark]

Good evening, Mary!

[@ashleyhogg924]

Hi, I'm due to have my first baby in 4 weeks. I have been doing flylady for years. My lovely mum would like to come and help. How do I explain how I organise my house? Mum isn't very tidy, and can go overboard on shopping with a lot of waste. Or will put things away in my house where she thinks they should be rather than where I've had them. Is it rude to explain how my house runs? I feel like it might seem ungrateful. Essentially, can you do a video on how to accept help? Thanks from Australia.

[@DianeinDenmark]

Hi Ashley! I talk about family a lot in my Q & A videos (I'll link to the playlist). You may find it helpful to "direct" your Mum to what you would like her to help with. Point out a couple of zone chores/Weekly Home Blessing Hour list from your Control Journal, or ask her to do some ironing, make a meal, for example. kzbin.info/aero/PLxIYCyTLBED9fh1uPZwhq68Lx3pEXuPRm

[@ashleyhogg924]

@@DianeinDenmark Thank you. They are sensible tips. I'll put them to good use.

[@alexbaer4572]

I had to laugh about the snotty hankie. My bag is the same size as yours. And you can bet, that when opening my bag at the cash till at the shop the first thing to pop out is the snotty hankie :). There must be a portal in that bag. They keep popping up :). Have a good time in Scotland.

[@DianeinDenmark]

Yes, snottie hankies multiply when we aren't looking, Alex! 😄

[@brendac5170]

I am trying to do the "habit" for this month. I have a problem with coordinating my clothes since I have no sense of fashion. I get what I think will go together but when I put it on it doesn't look good. How do you get clothes from clothes swap & then find something that you have already to go with them? I love to listen to your videos because you are such an encourager! I hope that you can give me advice on how to get a sense of fashion so that I can put clothes together for my outfits.

[@DianeinDenmark]

Hi Brenda! I've got lots of tips for you 😊 Here's my "wardrobe" playlist where you can see how I put outfits together kzbin.info/www/bejne/rqC8oayhlricrNU

[@brendac5170]

Thanks, Diane but the video says it is private.

[@marylynch951]

Good morning Diane You look beautiful in your polka dot all in one And you shoulders and are arms so toned look beautiful Yes the I guess it's from swimming Once again thank you I feel like you're my mentor I love everything about you Your honest so so caring God bless you and your family always

[@DianeinDenmark]

Thank you, Mary!

[@liddfamily10]

Hey Diane. I’ve been enjoying your back to basics series. Even though we are similar age, I’m still struggling with my routines etc. I flip flop from one system to another and beat myself up if things are not done perfectly. I think I maybe a Type 4/2 in the DYT system but am not 100% sure - which I’ve been looking into lately after watching your videos. My question is - I have a big family still at home and find I need to do more each day to keep my space tidy - like vacuuming the floors nearly every day and picking up more. There seems to be a lot more dishes than others have and I get overwhelmed. Do you have any suggestions where to start. Fun fact - I’ve met a couple of ladies through the DYT Facebook in my area I was so excited we got together for lunch the other day and one of the ladies Robyn is a cousin of your friend Kathryn I think. Love from Sandy in NZ.

[@DianeinDenmark]

Sounds like you need to get the family on board? Yes, that is Kathryn's auntie - it's a small world!

[@liddfamily10]

Thanks Diane - yes it is 💕

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

Hello lovely lady! I don't suppose you will be in Glasgow the weekend of the 14th? At some point, i duo wasn't too visit Copenhagen, purely because it looks so beautiful in your videos!! Xx

[@rachellopez8357]

Diane, it seems like you’re always reading, and since incorporating FlyLady routines, my house and life is so much better, but I don’t have reading time anymore. How much time do you set aside a day to read?

[@DianeinDenmark]

Hello Rachel! 🖐😃 I often squeeze a chapter or two in when I'm eating my lunch,. And always at least one chapter in bed at night, before I switch off the light 📚

[@rachellopez8357]

Diane in Denmark thanks, Diane!!!! You’ve given me inspiration to find time for it again 💗

[@ac-fh5fx]

Hi Diane! Enjoyed your video! I had a request. I was looking for a KZbin channel for my Mom to cheer her up. A channel like yours but with a lady in 70s , 80s, 90s...Do u have any suggestions? Maybe if your Mom would have channel like yours it would be perfect 🤗🤗🤗

[@noconnell874]

I watch a wonderful lady called Gina, shes an Italian grandma who cooks, she is probably in her 80s Will check out her channel name now for you.

[@noconnell874]

Buon-A-Petitti your mom might love this channel. An Italian grandma cooking her traditional recipes.

[@ac-fh5fx]

Thank you so much 😇! I am watching her channel right now & then sending her videos to my mom. Have a wonderful day 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@ac-fh5fx]

@@noconnell874 Just watched her making pesto. She is very interesting lady with her stories & singing. Reminds me of another channel called Pasta Grannies.... Thanks again!

[@cherylb8233]

Diane I have a question. With everyone riding their bikes to work, how far of a drive on the bike is it? What if you work far away from your home?

[@DianeinDenmark]

We have excellent public transport in Denmark! 🖐😃

[@kronstuff]

Have fun visiting your mum.

[@beverleyforde6505]

😊💕

[@jeanninemorgan3526]

@dianeindenmark I know you like mysteries. Have you ever read Louise Penny? I love her cozy mysteries!

[@DianeinDenmark]

Yes, I have, thanks, Jeannine! But I prefer a bit more humour in my cozy crime stories 😊

[@ellenh278]

"You may enjoy watching Game of Thrones or The Hallmark Channel." Well that represents the opposite ends of the spectrum lol.

[@danzelvanderpaelt5057]

Can you do a video of zero waste, you know try to save the planet? Mvg cindy de neve from belgium

[@edennis8578]

There are plenty of people doing zero waste videos.

[@lisadixon5886]

​@@edennis8578can you recommend some please?

[@susanpeterson9947]

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[@cherylb8233]

Thanks for the reminder !