Shrill made me confront my fear of fat (review)

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[@YoshiKatherine]

Oh I used to be so fat. My ex-boyfriend treated me like that. As did my dad, when I had a breakdown over being fat because it wasn't my diet or my exercise (my parents monitored them). They took me to a doctor, it was hormone imbalances and a blood clotting issue. Within a month of treatment I lost 4 sizes. Now my sister moans at me for being too pale and having saggy breasts, you'll never win against nasty people. They will want to feel important by being nasty to you and make you feel shit.

[@madelyn7723]

I'm so sorry that that people close to you treat you like that. You deserve better.

[@Aurischoice]

You need to get the fuck away from your family if you can. Those ppl sound insanely toxic.

[@mimio008]

I get you. Sometimes the people who love us are also the people who hurt us. I hope you can parse through the crap they give you and not let it influence you.

[@abbyb2752]

I’m glad youre getting healthy. I’m sorry you have to deal with your family, soon this will be an unpleasant memory and you’ll be full and living your best life, with or without them.

[@Bebe-wm1ot]

You said it best! Can't win over ppl committed to being nasty. I was never fat, but carry weight differently bc I'm quite short and bottom heavy. My dad made me feel like shit about it from age 8, is the earliest memory of it.

[@Itsunclegabby]

That scene was rough. Brings back memories of "You've got a pretty face" and "you're pretty for a black girl."

[@cyan7181]

They seriously told you you are pretty for a black girl? I'm feeling so angry right now. So insulting and racist.

[@Tinymoezzy]

"you're so... unique...so... different... exotic...if you did (fill in blank) you'd be so pretty"

[@Itsunclegabby]

@@cyan7181 Oh, yes. I've heard these comments and variations many, many times. What's sad is when I was a little girl, I did think those were compliments. I didn't understand microaggressions. Another fav: "You're pretty. You're probably mixed, right?" Which insinuates that my blackness cannot be beautiful all on its own. I MUST be mixed with something. I am, but that's besides the point.

[@Itsunclegabby]

@@Tinymoezzy Mhmm. There's another one! "You're really....interesting looking..." I actually didn't take as much offense to that one. Today, I probably wouldn't at all. I make some weird fashion choices lol.

[@Tinymoezzy]

@@Itsunclegabby I take less offense to "you're interesting looking" than the suggestion that I need to change to be pretty lol. I feel I dress like a cross between a mom from the 50's and someone that got really into 80's hair metal

[@RosalindGash]

I was thin until I developed lupus and started taking corticosteroids and immunosuppressants, so I've lived on both sides of the weight line, as it were. I can attest to the fact that many people don't think big women are supposed to have high self-esteem and confidence. I've told more than one person that it's easier to lose weight than to get a personality transplant. ;)

[@plantbased9502]

This is so true. I think people often feel uncomfortable or confused around an overweight woman who is confident

[@HappinessTheBrand]

Also "Soul transplant" if you ever wanna shorten it 😘 more power to you

[@jess9722]

how is lupus not real?

[@lr8719]

He had ONE pillow!!! Those are the details that REALLY make me relate to the lives of these characters!!

[@AnabethalightASMR]

l r yeah THAT is fucked. And he said “no”! when Annie asked him to get another one.

[@eartianwerewolf]

I have an overweight friend who has had trouble with medical professionals taking her seriously. We already know from studies that women are not taken as seriously but it is worse with fatphobia.

[@juliapav5472]

and then even WORSE with black women who are plus size. we need to fix this...

[@LauraSomeNumber]

Annie's relationship to her mom was my favourite thing about the show. I have a great relationship with my mom but she has a real problem with her children being overweight and no matter how many times I say she needs to stop commenting on my weight she still brings it up, and when she doesn't she talks to me about my brothers weight. News flash fat people know we are fat. We also know how to loose the weight in theory but knowing that calories in being lower than calories out will make you loose weight doesn't make it easier to do. Something being simply doesn't make it easy. Someone pointing out that I am fat doesn't help me not be fat.

[@j.flaner8506]

lose not "loose"

[@bboo8436]

My mother gets really into losing weight and talking about how filling lettuce is when her daughters are in a place in their lives where weight loss is not healthy or possible (ie pregnancy). Since I told her I'm pregnant again EVERY conversation is steered towards weightloss on her end.

[@Iamjustherek]

Omg having a conversation with my mother when it inevitably turns to “you know you should cut out carbs and starch...” 🙄🙄

[@love60073]

GOD that “you’d be so pretty if you were thinner” is such a thing? I got flashbacks

[@YouTuberOnlineNow]

Fat black women have a totally different experience. The intersectionality for a fat black woman is soooo different.

[@christyfielding7498]

How? I'm really curious about a different perspective.

[@annoyedbyyourface]

@@christyfielding7498 The time it took you to type that you could've taken it to google. Do the work for yourself.

[@mirandahurt678]

@@annoyedbyyourface ....but if she would have went and did that she wouldn't have gotten a FIRST hand account of what this woman's experience was.... talking about her TOTALLY DIFFERENT EXPERIENCE. Maybe google how to be less of a bully.

[@lilithhedwig5408]

@Kai. She asked HOW was it different for this woman and her perspective Not what intersectionality is

[@PinkBful]

aimee glatt her answer was not rude it was straight forward. This is white privilege at his finest.. did the answer need to be wrapped in flowers and truvia to be good enough? I don’t think you need to even know what intersectionality means to understand her point, it’s not that abstract.

[@randiwatches]

As a woman who grew up with weight issues, currently on the larger side ofmy fluctuation lately, I appreciated the catharsis of the show. They did a really good job and I felt represented as an overweight person.

[@TheDawnofVanlife]

I concur

[@dodogmahomeboy2009]

we need more level headed influencers like yourself

[@nian6794]

Im a black woman and I don't feel "black" enough because I don't have a curvy body and a big butt.

[@FoAdunni]

That scene with the Dad lowkey just traumatized me 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I haven't watched the show but I think it's such an odd space when many mother's should be given credit but at the same time they've done some really really hurtful stuff because of their own trauma.

[@alicesfckrlnd]

Fo Adunni OH MY GOD THAT TRIGGERED ME TOO!! I especially feel that in the Black community where, because I’m in my early 20s now, I notice a lot of people (especially women!) my age having to reconcile the fact that their mothers did the grunt work in raising them but also sometimes used parental methods that were deeply hurtful to their long term psyche.

[@mollygrace3068]

In my 30’s I’m finally able to really empathize with and forgive my mom. She passed 10 years ago. What’s helped me? Having a 12 year old who is exactly like me, and also having trauma that affects my ability to be a great parent. Now I know why my mom was so crazy!!

[@thinkingoutloud3358]

Molly Grace Molly OMG!!!!!! Same! So sorry you lost your mom. I have my mom and am JUST NOW learning to forgive her. Mostly because I am learning more about my grandmother, her mom’s parenting. My mom tries to be close and it’s really hard because of everything still in me from our past experiences. Fast forward to now, and my 13 year old is JUST like me with an extra dash of attitude 😩😩😩😩 good luck being the best mom you can be with what you have and all that you will work to acquire. 💚 all we can do is try to be better everyday, forgive ourselves and the kids (lol) and remember they will be okay

[@iguessitsokyungrichbaby2813]

Yikesss those ig fit type girls can be very rude and some make it a point to never give pulse size people compliments that aren’t rooted in helping them transform. Not everyone is trying to be in your trainer pro folio.

[@oof-rr5nf]

Damn straight!

[@2120musiclover]

I also love how Shrill approaches abortion

[@Maya.0114]

True. I'm pro-life but there are instances that abortion is necessary.

[@Maya.0114]

@J purple ramen oh, I didn't know. For me it's purely circumstantial

[@keythirteen]

As a fat person, that pool scene alone was an eye opener on multiple levels. Thank you for sharing and discussing this show with us.

[@RachelReviewsEverything]

I've only just found your channel a couple of days ago but I'm hooked. I just adore your content. Love your personality and your honesty!

[@sinlobo84]

Same here!

[@IMVUDressUp]

Rachel Reviews Everything sameee

[@Solmom03]

Rachel Reviews Everything Three days ago and I’ve watched and commented on like 10 videos‼️

[@prettyawesomejm]

I’m well over 175 pounds and the morning after pill threw my hormones through a loop 🎢. It depends on the person, regardless of weight. Also, people project their low self-esteem onto fat people. They try to place us under them in the “social hierarchy.” Fat is a physical descriptor and not a part of my personality so they can’t figure out how to classify me. I have the confidence of a much younger and thinner woman. A lot of men are confused as to why they are attracted to me. It bothered me at first until I came out of my own heard and thought about how fat women are generally perceived.

[@unjadedrealist4416]

Love your comment thanks for sharing that!

[@zima04]

They do make a Plan B for women that weigh more than 175lbs, it’s called Ella. The catch is it’s prescription only and cost more than the regular Plan B.

[@AnnieDHarpie]

Tymika Prince 😑 typical

[@nicolerenee9312]

wow, what garbage ):

[@ThePhillyfashionista]

Plan b always worked for me and I weigh 190. But I no stomach at all

[@ms.sharon.262]

Tymika Prince Ella doesn’t treat fat ppl about healthy eating, healthy mindset, establishing lifestyle. It’s crap.

[@TheDawnofVanlife]

@B. KCee actually the food that leads to the most weight gain is the cheapest food out there. It's no accident a lot of poor people are overweight and still malnourished. Because crap food is cheap. There are also thin people who are just genetically lucky. My skinny friend eats way worse than I do.

[@mimio008]

Fat is THE thing that really can happen to all of us. If only for self interest, let's make this world an acceptable place for fat people before the hormonal imbalance/depression/laziness or whatever makes us gain weight. Nice by the way that Amy Schumer is not the star of this show...

[@Kknderbueno]

mimi008 disability, too.

[@evapeace2385]

Like people really think they will never experience fatness! People need to wake up and treat people with kindness because they don’t know when they will be the one on the other side.

[@zan752000]

The reason why a warning for the morning after pill does not exist is because the makers of that pill assume that women over 175 pounds are not having sex. Which is utterly ridiculous, all women with varying weights do have sex unless they decide not to. Kim, I have to thank you for your content. I trully enjoy all the topics you discuss here the tube. I look forward to more.

[@jediyarahim-danford7592]

Well that's just silly

[@Reikimakesmehappy]

Lol

[@PrivateDncr86]

It worked for me...maybe in concert with my body not being on board with getting pregnant?

[@Jackie-md8zs]

Lmaooooo this is how I had my daughter

[@venuzbabi08]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@reallyitsjackiev.meadows7578]

That fat interaction was so crazy....but I know folks say stuff like that all the time.

[@AMYP6]

The scene with the trainner grabbing her wrist...almost made me cry. Because things like that happened to me and it made me feel so self concious and I'm not even seen as over weight.

[@everydaykidinus]

I loveeeeeeeeeee that the show features a trans actor where their one definable character trait isn't related to her tran-ness. Ruth gets to be an interesting side character with her own quirky mannerisms, her own jokes, her own life that doesnt revolve around being trans. It is so exceptionally rare that I see that in any medium, and as a transperson, really fucking appreciated

[@writerspen010]

I get the feeling you'd like "My Mad Fat Diary." I haven't seen "Shrill" yet, and my impression is that the tones of these two shows are very different, but they deal with a lot of similar themes

[@theglowup9623]

I found that show so relatable in so many ways! I do think she became very self sabotaging however I do feel like thats sooo representative of teenagers who are overweight. I know I for sure just never had the confidence other bigger girls found. Like I really just couldn't at all see why anyone I like would like me back, in the same way she doesnt accept it. I also really enjoy that she was with a guy who also sort of hated himself for a while because she somehow thought that was the best she could do because of her weight and she felt more comfortable not constantly thinking people were watching them wondering how he could like her. I related to that also I think. I also really liked how her friend was. I had literally the exact same friendship at the time where we'd grown up together but as much as she was my best friend she was also a complete bitch to me over and over and it got to the point where I wondered if we were friends because she could easily take advantage of me. But staying in a friendship like that is also linked to overall low self confidence and thinking youre not worth more than that/ you won't find other people. The scene when she fantasised about unzipping the fat from her body was so emotional also- I always used to think my life would only really begin once I lost the weight. And the way she's initially desexualised by everyone around her, partly because of her weight, and called 'Raymondo' and considered one of the guys and the funny one is so relatable. I think its done very well because it's based on a real persons diary! People rarely talk about bigger people having eating disorders either

[@annoyedbyyourface]

The tone is extremely different. Shrill is more of a comedy while MMFD is way more dramatic (with a, imo, more interesting cast).

[@writerspen010]

@@annoyedbyyourface I finished watching Shrill the other day, and I've got to agree. The cast of MMFD is definitely more interesting, and I think MMFD is the better show. Shrill is good, but... in a way, I almost felt like the main issue--fatness, and existing in the world as someone with a larger body--was the backdrop to the plot about Annie and her deadbeat boyfriend, sprinkled with bits where she lays out the thesis for the audience. But I do like that Shrill has scenes are straight up celebrations of women with bigger bodies, like the pool party episode. In MMFD, since Rae was the only one dealing with obesity, her depression really highlighted how alone people--teens especially--may feel when dealing with such a visible personal problem. Both shows are good, but My Mad Fat Diary wins for me. The character arcs more truthful to me, the acting is great for such a young cast, and I appreciate how compassionate the story is.

[@AnnieDHarpie]

The pool party is a real event that happens every year in Portland. My hairstylist is one of the background actors 😊

[@sylvias190]

I got emotional when she was dancing during the pool party scene because you can tell for once she was just living her life and as a fat black woman that is what I've, and probably so many of us, want just a sense of peace 💗💖

[@ayanna6327]

As a fat black girl, I was always compared to Precious. And I look nothing like Precious.

[@dismurrart6648]

I'm gonna be real. As a chronically fat person I felt very validated when you made the comparison to how black bodies are treated. Because people do see me as something to comment on and tell things like if you were x you'd be so pretty and the like but often when you're fat comparisons of your treatment to marginalized groups is seen as trying to co-opt their struggle vs sharing your experience to empathize.

[@Oonagh72]

What do people have against millennials? It drives me bananas!! As a middle aged woman all I see is a generation that has different ideas, and doing their thing. I’m proud of this generation!

[@Eveningbreeze721]

Agreed. As did every other generation did. This is nothing new imo.

[@ThePhillyfashionista]

I am a millennial and I hate them. Their the biggest hypocrites.

[@125loopy]

@@ThePhillyfashionista they're*

[@jfm14]

We came of age in the anxiety-ridden post-9/11 era, during the Wars on Drugs/Afghanistan/Iraq and the Great Recession. Consequently, we tend to distrust big, hierarchical institutions and established ways of doing things. We're also more open about how social issues affect us and our communities, which sets off older generations who think they had it as bad or worse. In many ways, the opposite is true. These are obviously generalizations, but I think that sums up the disconnect between older generations (Boomers and Gen X-ers) and younger ones (Millennials and Gen Z-ers).

[@Eveningbreeze721]

@@jfm14 still not seeing much of a difference. Maybevyou don't realize the things that were going on when the other generations were born and growing up. Its the same old stuff. One difference now is that we all have more platforms for expression.

[@melykm4051]

Being obese with large breasts you would think my breasts were complete public domain. They're hardly even mine. It's insane what people think they can say and do when a body isn't "the norm"

[@redrooster3420]

This is such a raw and heartbreaking description of what you experience, and I'm so sorry for the ways that society so often objectifies and demonizes you. As a disabled, hairy trans/nonbinary person, I can partially understand the experience of being treated as a spectacle for simply existing outside of society's rigid "norms". I wish I could offer you an entire world of kindness and respect and compassion because you really deserve better. Wishing you so much gentleness and comfort

[@claudia_intheunderwhere3655]

Damn straight about her mom. My husband is the easy-going, fun-loving guy who never remembers to do ANYTHING, so unfortunately I've been forced into the disciplinarian role. My kids are really small now, but I am afraid that I'll be resented, cuz I'm the "tough" one. I didn't want to be, though.

[@tsuyayaka1]

I really liked the show for most of the points she made. But there were two I didn't like: 1) The black characters are only the stereotypical funny best friends. That cliche we have seen a hundred times is still in this "progressive" show. 2) They did another cliche of the "black guy is super attracted to the white girl." Of course, the only guy who treats her well is a black dude. 🙄

[@mollygrace3068]

I felt the same way. Yeah, she’s fat, but it’s still a white female main with the gay/black best friend whose only purpose is to support her. Of course, in this case, it’s a mémoire written by a real life white women, so the casting makes sense. Still... I’m also really over seeing black men with white women on TV. And I’m married to a black dude. Just mix it up, people. Not every black man’s deepest desire is too hook up with a quirky white girl.

[@AJ-cq5pw]

Mmm I don't know, not everything needs to be about race. The story is about her, not necessarily her friends, and the season is quite short and so are the episodes so if the show has a season 2, we may get more into her friends story line and her darting issues. Also the black man thing, I never knew that was a trope or a cliche. The "nice handsome guy who likes the fat girl" is quite common in movies about plus size girls learning to love themselves, like Dumplin for example.

[@nowwhat1434]

*TWO black dudes

[@thinkingoutloud3358]

It’s more reality than cliche. At least point number 2.

[@leonamay8776]

@@mollygrace3068 yeah. But changing the race of people from her memoir just to make us feel more comfortable? That would have been weird as well.

[@xanaduxanadu4325]

I remember my Salt n Peppa loving days and an article in some magazine asserted that black girls don't get eating disorders. Wish I could find that article so ignorant but later those singers dealt with eating issues too.

[@politicaljunkie1967]

My sister suffered from bulimia back in 1984

[@Itsunclegabby]

I struggled with disordered eating for the majority of my life.

[@doggolovescheese1310]

Oh my god I hate Toned Tanya and I have met her in different circles...ughhh (For me though it's my disability, all their cures, prayers...)

[@ThaBlkRainbow]

😎 Boss! I love this analysis. Just a side note: I'm tired of Black women having to do the "repair" work for White women's problems. We are not all Oprahs. I'm also increasingly annoyed that Black women are often given this "shield" against body issues. Like we don't have our own insecurities to deal with. It has been shown in studies that Black girls typically have better self-esteem around our bodies than White women but that doesn't mean we are "immune" from fat shaming.

[@warmhoney5829]

YES !! Media portrays black women as if we are not allowed to be vulnerable and soft . We are always expected to be strong and "Oprah" like. It's incredibly detrimental to our image in white media .

[@outherewildinb2874]

Are those studies recent though? I'd wonder how those rates are now with younger generations growing up with social media.

[@FightsRightsAlways]

👏👏👏 yep.

[@ToraleiCream]

When I was around 14-15 I fell in LOVE with the show Shameless because of how I could relate with the younger kids, having grown up in poverty with my drug/alcohol abusing father. I felt heard. Until about halfway through the show, when the older brother(the name is completely leaving me whoops) goes off to college and goes on a sex bender with "undesirable" women after being rejected. Now it's subtle, but one of those women's "undesirable/disgusting" traits seems to just be that she's slightly fat. Not huge, but the way that the sex scene is shot, her cellulite and jiggling thighs are almost the centre of the frame in a way that subtlety, but clearly, pokes fun at her weight. Sprinkle in the fact that at 15 I was at my highest bmi and that I adored the characters and messages in that show, and I've honestly never felt comfortable with my body since. I can't have sex without immense fear that I'm a fetish or a pity fuck and that's because of the small, subtextual messages in media that shame the idea of fat women(or men) having sex. I haven't seen Shrill and I don't know if I ever will because I don't have a Hulu subscription but it's refreshing to hear of how the sex scenes are just that, nothing more or nothing less.

[@ayemiksenoj5254]

I really appreciate your comment.

[@cremepuffle]

I watched shameless too around that age and I completely blocked that scene out until just now… my body got chills because i reacted the same way. Im soooo terrified of being a mans fetish, i hate when men like me because im fat and hate how they think it’s a compliment. like i should just take what i can get.

[@TheDawnMelissa]

Ok you've convinced me. I'm going to watch this show.

[@beccadee0935]

I also really related to the parents scene. I having a semi absentee parent and having to really step up and be the lame responsible party in a family is alot and you often have to be the "bad guy" it was nice to see that part it was like a small "thanks we see you". Good review. 💕☺️

[@shashavengesayi6055]

I love Aidy Bryant. Just started the show and I’m hooked

[@IMVUDressUp]

Shasha Vengesayi samee. My boyfriend and I LOVVVEEE this show

[@AnabethalightASMR]

Shasha Vengesayi I’m so anxious for the next season! It’s definitely frustratingly short

[@beatrizdulcete]

i'm a fat white skinned latino woman (that was a big title), I found your channel and since then Ive became more aware of the things I am privileged about and the things I'm not, it is a very confusing argument seeing how people balance those things. Shes has white skin, but is brazilian She speaks english, but it's fat. Counterpointing those stupid things and seeing how I was raised had so much prejudice inside of me, that i watched unfold my whole life and I am so glad i get to change.

[@buttershady24]

I’d say that as a woman people feel entitled to comment on your body and touch you and it is more prevalent when someone has a non-normative body or is black.

[@unjadedrealist4416]

Definitely and sadly so true.

[@katherinemorelle7115]

Sometimes I feel like I get it doubly, being fat and visibly disabled (in a chair).

[@user-ry2xd2yu6c]

I’m not plus sized but I am very petite with no curves and I definitely agree that people try to fit women in one “normal” body type. Especially for black women. If you don’t have huge hips, ass, or plus sized, people think they are entitled to make you feel bad about something you didn’t have control over.

[@mlwilliams7959]

Wow, I just learned something today about birth control. Thank you!

[@Sonturist]

I never knew that about birth control either. Now I have a 9 year old. Lol

[@Ramberta]

same here - luckily Plan B worked for me when I was well over 250 lbs but yikes!!

[@pha2traore]

There are other options: Ella(ullipristal) for women with a Bmi higher than 25

[@GDIEternal]

I would love to see them explore the dynamics of relationships between fat women who have sex with men and men who are genuinely attracted to fat women. There are some of us who approach that attraction as a kink (no shame) and those, like myself, who simply perceive fat women as exceptionally and extremely attractive. In a fatphobic society, there are so many ways in which our relationships face unique pressures, and there are also misconceptions we can have about each other. There are very few representations that depict fat women in relationships with men that aren't either for laughs or predicated on the man being horribly flawed (particularly in relationship to her size).

[@cremepuffle]

Very good point as a fat woman i can confirm this is all true. Society has hated our bodies into a fetish, like we are not normal.

[@teachingwithsmiles1116]

and plus size women can play in other roles too. Not just roles in body positivity. So many problems in shows like this to me and I am fat black woman

[@SianLondon]

Oooh thanks for letting us know about this show, hopefully I can pay to access it from my country (England) I've never heard of the Black British actress before but she sounds great. I am Black, fat and not hetero so yay for representation

[@oof-rr5nf]

I am Indian, fat and bi so high-five? 🖐!!

[@MyChannel773]

if you want to see more of lolly adefope (the best friend), she was recently on a british panel show called hypothetical and she’s so funny! i learned about her through that and then listened to a couple podcasts she was on, i highly recommend

[@MyChannel773]

oh no sorry i meant taskmaster instead of hypothetical!

[@simplycorre2404]

If you have Spotify Premium you get it free on Hulu

[@nazgayle5007]

It’s on the BBC IPlayer now

[@shenette]

The interracial couple thing is not just this show. It is rampant in media right now, especially in shows on Netflix. It really chaps my hide that about 8 out of 10 couples are interracial and the other two where they are black and black, is dysfunctional. But I am a recent subscriber and love your content! I don't agree with everything, but have been binge watching your videos. Keep doing what you are doing.

Why would it irk you though? It is 2019... most of us have left tribal thinking back in the last century

[@brieoliver]

It's definitely noticeable. The commercials is where I notice it most. Idk if everyone got the same memo "To encourage diversity: cast a black/white interracial pairing". Its strange lol

[@LM-ki5ll]

@ there is an underrepresentation of two dark skin black people in a relationship. Straight, gay, lesbian. It's always interracial or light skin dark skin for the most part.

[@125loopy]

@ it's not tribal thinking to want to see non dysfunctional black couples in the media.

[@bellejour559]

@ you correct about 'most of us'.

[@inkstainedgirl]

Growing up heavy and constantly berated for it, makes me appreciate this show so much. It's not trite. The fat girl isn't the best friend that gets thrown a bone character. They don't make a big deal about the guys liking her as she is, liking a heavy girl isn't made into a fetish. The character Ryan just sucks because he sucks, he isn't emotionally abusive to make the audience pity her more. I feel like I've had everything that goes through her head go through mine. We are basically told our whole lives that the only way a person could love us is if they have a fat fetish, we aren't people, we are just excessive flesh. It's nice to have something that actually doesn't make the fat person either jolly or tragic (both in reality being tragic), and that not only fat people are watching it and relating to it in some way. I don't agree with the troll thing, I think it was showing that the guy is ashamed he is attracted to her, and thats why he's so horrible to her, then she rejects him and he's doubled up on his hate. It's essentially the self loathing homosexual story, but exchanged with self loathing chubby chaser.

[@dawnmullen4348]

The depiction of life as a fat person (especially women) is so real. Great review!

[@BrittanySimon]

Wowoowwowoowowwow wait, I did not know that about the morning after pill! That is insane! I am glad I dont mind spoilers, I might watch this. I dont always have the time but this show seems worth a watch. Ps. Being an educator and commentor and a sex worker has made me this body positive and fierce warrior woman . I appreciate the humans before me who showed me how to own my self 100%. Okay back to watching

[@Itsunclegabby]

@Glen CoCo Is it your body?! What the hell?

[@AslanNotYoshi]

@Brittany Simon As a person who is dealing with body dysmorphia, even though I am going to psychotherapy right now for that and mild depression and anxiety, would you recommend employing part-time as a sex worker to find the positivity that you've found? I'm genuinely asking because I've seen so much media counteracting the idea that sex workers at being exploited and that it can help with self-esteem. Thanks for your comment!!

[@hydeeIdance]

Brittany Simon im a patron of yours omg we watch the same people!!!

[@lookingforsanjunipero4542]

This channel is phenomenal, and you are one amazing lady! I hope some day I will be as educated and articulate as you. Your work is eye-opening, and a true blessing in my life (I found you through your Gwen Stefani and Handmaid's Tale videos... They were also marvelous!). Hope you have a blessed week. Thank you so much ❤

[@ForHarriet619]

You can get 2 weeks of free Hulu here! mbsy.co/l9f8V (be sure to unsubscribe tho) I talked about my body dysmorphic disorder on Patreon. Patreon.com/ForHarriet

[@bobbym1799]

When i looked at a previous video you made you mentioned your body dismorphia i just want to say I think your a marvel and very BEAUTIFUL,INTELLIGENT and REAL. I dig that about you Kim.

[@anoukrichters9964]

I just found your channel and I have watched so many of your video's. I love love love your extensive and well constructed reviews and opinions about all kinds of topics I'm interested in, thank you!

[@lillieleach4299]

I found your channel a couple weeks ago and I am loving it.Thank you for this. Thank you for talking about this. So often people's "wokeness" doesn't include fat people or disabled people. Not saying that race is the same as these things, they are different, but not being fat or being abled is privilege and I love when people acknowledge either one of those things and appreciate it so much.

[@ayemiksenoj5254]

You're comment is so underappreciated.

[@ieatpaintchips72]

You're totally right about the sex scenes. It's the only time a show doesn't humiliate a heavy woman during a sex scene.

[@savannaherickson6895]

I adore Aidy Bryant she’s brilliant on SNL and in everything she does

[@niaranoctyrna3754]

I love the part where Fran says to Ryan that she doesn't apologize to white people and Annie doesn't challenge her. Like, yes, that is the kind of allyship we love to see.

[@maryla1558]

I binged the show. Loved it and had read the book. I have not finished your video, yet, but am so excited that you loved it too. I'm tired of seeing the same old same old recipe. I want to see different people being real. Yay!!!

[@darthchocolate5190]

Omg you said he only had 1 pillow...horrible!😂 This show seems really good.

[@karleythompson6020]

After watching your vid I went and binged the whole entire season is one day. I loved the show so much!

[@emi23er]

Thank you for making a video of shrill. I love the show and I hope they make season 2. While watching the show a lot of things came to mind. Lots of experiences that I dealt with for sure. I’m a guy and I felt so connected with Annie. It’s amazing that they did this show !! I love it ! I love Fran so much! I’m glad I found your channel !

[@donstarfinkel6456]

I loved when you said that saying fat was uncomfortable for you because of your own negative view of the word. For years I didnt want to call gay ppl gay for fear I would offend them, it was my own negative interpretation of the word.. good shit Kim .

[@kylerichardson3181]

I was planning on watching the show eventually, but saw that you made a video about it and ended up binging the entire series in a day, falling in love with it. Finally watching your video, and as usual you’ve hit the nail on the head

[@sonnithehungryyogi4458]

Coming back after I watch it!!! I used to love reading Lindy Hern pieces so I'm excited and can't wait to watch your critique (low key more excited about the critique than I am about the show🤷🏽‍♀️)

[@HRMLadyArtemis14]

One of the best things about this show, is that they had ACTUAL Sex Workers consult on the scene w the strippers. This is why it felt so authentic, and so positive! :)

[@Fien334]

Can I just say that I really like your videos. And I really need to check out this series now!

[@cassandra6441]

I loved the show, and... I would like to see a show where the fat girl lead does not hate herself. Where she truly believes she has worth, is loved and does not allow crappy people/romantic partners in her life. In one scene, we see the woman in red walking across the street, but shes treated like a fantasy character, not a real person. Again, still the show is great! Love your analysis work!

[@gimmebackmyarm]

OMG the lady in red!! 😍

[@BrittanySimon]

That start ;) I'm hoping you're well. I very much appreciate you and the time you take to share your ideas. Thank you!

[@leahdavis9434]

I love seeing you in other places on KZbin! I absolutely love your channel

[@Sonturist]

I watched it in two days and loved it. So many subjects covered on a very real relatable level.

[@katiej8295]

I've been watching your videos non stop for the past 2 nights from Australia. You are so intelligent and insightful and I love your commentary on so many interesting topics. I've learned so much 💕

[@myrddino]

I have been loving Shrill, and as an Oregonian it is so cool seeing something other than Portlandia associated with Portland. I loved it for all the same reasons you listed; it feels real. (Spoilers!!) Her relationship with Ryan is really familiar and we have all been there. Her relationship with her parents, and how she’s treated at her job as a lower writer is everything I have experienced too. I may not be plus sized, but I love getting to see this perspective.

[@ginabudick6912]

If the world had more people like you it would be a better place

[@dance-dance_bby]

Working Moms on Netflix also has a GREAT abortion story line that involves a husband and a wife. I really enjoyed the show so I always recommend it to others.

[@lafoxymama28]

I literally have have people say all of those things to me.

[@kimmyball4961]

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. After having 2 kids and being in an unhappy marriage, I gained a huge amount of weight!! I finally took charge and lost a whole person!! Unreal.....anyway I've kept it off for almost 15 yrs now. I could not believe how different people treated me after the weight loss!! So I've been on both sides. Overweight people, especially women, are treated horribly!! It's like night and day.

[@sunnyedge5602]

I’m so sorry! People can be so cruel!

[@Mbani94]

It does work you need to get a higher dose. For example in New Zealand if you weigh more than 70kg they give you two pills

[@sharr630]

Your review is so good that I'll probably watch Shrill this weekend.

[@nia7833]

Looooooved Shrill. Love your channel and perspectives. You’re making me want to go watch it again. Oh yeah,I’m one of the ones that watch SNL. Thats the reason I watched Shrill. She’s one of the funniest SNL characters.

[@dstir66]

Thanks to this review I think I will binge it. I didn't mind the spoilers.

[@anthrogal19]

I like what you said at the beginning about having a show about real people, real problems NOT aspirational. I hadn't thought about that but I think it's important and I also appreciate that.

[@oof-rr5nf]

Wow! It sounds so good. How come I haven't heard of it yet? Anyway, I will definitely watch it now. Awesome review 🌻

[@taymorgan21]

Great video harriett!! This show comes up on my Hulu recommended, and I just keep scrolling, but now I will watch!

[@TheZieleion]

I could listen to you speak for ever. Insight after insight. Amaze

[@nofskiepatofskie]

This is such a good review! While watching the show, I found myself crying so many times - out of joy and out of a sense of finally being understood; being seen and being celebrated. Before this show came out I read Lindy West's book over and over again. The show manages to show the joy and power inherent in fat women even in a world that treats us like peripheral beings. And what you were saying about the sex scenes is so true! It was even just the little things - like the touching of her waist or the way she was held. I've never seen a body that resembles mine being held with such adoration and care in media before. And that was powerful for me. Aidy Bryant and Lindy West and everyone working on this show are powerful! Thanks again for the review it was so good to listen to! Have a great day :)

[@char90303]

I watch SNL (🤷🏽‍♀️) and I love Aidy. She’s such a talent.

[@minakomann7933]

char90303 she’s one of the better parts from the sketches I’ve seen but generally it’s not as funny as it gets the time for. It being SNL. I generally think 90% of the comedians/actors are funny tho.

[@randiwatches]

I loved the show. I was very delighted. My favorite scene is when she eats leftover spaghetti after getting laid and she's happy.

[@orangeblossom1712]

I just found your channel and I have been watching your videos for 4 hours... love your content, keep creating!! :)

[@mermaidtingzzz]

Aidy Bryant is often the BEST part of SNL!

[@cynv7]

I love what you had to say in the end! I was feeling the same way. Ugh you make me want to watch it so bad, thank you for the vids!

[@jamienorman8205]

i appreciate your reviews. and for me, i don't mind spoilers if it's like, a normal comedy series (the good place is a good example of an exception), so i was glad to hear all of your thoughts and this is encouraging me to watch it. i was definitely interested thanks to a trailer i had caught for the show, but it's always iffy when media decides to handle fatness + fatphobia + body positivity because yeah, there can be a lot of false positivity, it can get really simplistic and on the nose. it's nice to hear that this show is more nuanced than that and more real.

[@ashleybarloweNC]

I binged the entire season the first night it dropped. Loved it. Cried, laughed, cried & laughed some more.... Re: The pool party: It was the most secure & happy I’ve ever seen plus size women be & that made me feel the same. Thx for doing this review, Kim! 👍🏼💙

[@roxywyndham]

Yesssss!!! When she did the shirt stretch I was like Yup! Been there 😊

[@dmoon6137]

You are boosting the hell out of this show. Imma have to check it out now

[@saratadesse8048]

This makes me wanna watch the show and I’m only halfway through your video! Thankyou ✨

[@buggydust]

i love everything you talked about here. i remember seeing the previews for this show and liking them but idk why i didnt watch it

[@samanthaschultz38]

This was such an incredible deep dive. I've been watching your videos for a few months (you're insanely talented!!!) and I was wary to watch this one in particular. I'd already watched the show but it felt like your unpacking it might be too much. Like in a way saying the message out loud would confront too much of what I feared? I'm glad I did because forcing myself to hear it is something that I'm priveleged to have been able to do being only 15. I wish more people my age could as well. I love that you opened up at the end. From someone who has a similar problems, it helped so much to hear. It helped even more when you brought up the stigma of the word fat, as it's something that I wrestled with through the show. You're doing amazing work. I admittedly binge watched your videos when I found your channel. Anyway this is getting unnecessarily long. Essentially what I'm trying to say is thankyou for doing what you do!! 💕

[@TheBlessedJourney]

thanks for this wonderful review! :) i love this show as well and i'm so looking forward to season 2!

[@KaraLinkonisart]

I didn’t know this show existed. Watching it immediately, thank you so much for talking about it. ❤️

[@sarahnoonchester6599]

Every time I come to your channel I learn something new. I love it.

[@cowaybo]

Thank you for sharing! I’m excited to watch.

[@paula92111]

Just found your channel today!! I love it. You're great