Emotional Regulation: Somatic Tools, Feeling Safe, and Self-Acceptance | Being Well

[@candaceheidenrich6278]

Regulation….my key takeaways….thank you. 1. Tapping cheeks, chin, forehead, head, chest 2. Shake hands, bounce, squeeze hips, face yoga 3. Identify the feeling mentally, I am ______. It is okay. 4. Grounding self while it’s happening…in room, etc. 5. Community of safe people 6. Self-Parenting…put your child self on your lap, hold her, pat her on the back….IFS…speak to the voices…. 7. Dance, walk, stretch, ballet…. 8. Follow your curiosity to find your best ways to regulate 9. Hyper vigilant…mental manager operating…sway….find place in body 10. Repressed…pushing energy down, can’t take lid off…. 11. Change stories - recreate story endings to dreams, voices, etc.

[@S_24120]

Thankyou for sharing

[@sarahaziz6963]

THANK U SO MUCH :) :) :)

[@KarebelleMissKarebear]

This is a great list of pointers. Many to choose from in order to remember in 'the moment'

[@paula.nasmith]

Thank you!

[@sayusayme7729]

Thank you so much

[@bayzahh]

the episodes with elizabeth are my favorites. shes so wise and knowledgeable about this topic ❤️

[@angelal7733]

Oh,if only I could find a therapist that understands emotional disregulation the way you two do-

[@jed88]

They are out there. Most SE practitioners are aware. Check out Irene Lyon.

[@therapeuticeating]

Many therapists are skilled at ER - try looking for someone trained somatic work

[@Morghast]

People in general being this educated would be amazing, but your wish might be a pre requisite for mine

[@lindaelarde2692]

Elizabeth is describing my experience EXACTLY! I have not been able to fully articulate this total rejection of my somatic experience. When I would have a panic attack, from my early years through adulthood, I would leap up into my head and go into doing mode which suppressed 5he panic and affirmed my value as a "doer". I was straight A through high school and college. As an adult, I began to learn and explore my parts. I'm now approaching 66 and still evolving in this self-awareness. Thank you so much for your life transforming content. ❤

[@critter_paws]

Omg "there's a part of you that knows something" that is huge

[@pressonradio571]

Believing this has saved my life over and over.

[@dumitriudaniela]

finally a video that not only talks about somatic tools and nervous system regulation, but also provides some techniques that can actually be used. People need this and i hope that more youtubers will follow this example. There are enough talks about the effects on NS regulation and very little content on how to do it. I applaud your effort.

[@horrorgore_]

Something about sweet Elizabeth calms my soul. 🥺

[@saramichael3837]

I love your work together! I honestly think Elizabeth should be a co-host with you and your father, she adds a whole new dimension to the conversation because of her background and experience! Great video! Thank you!❤

[@earthpearl3790]

For real, this!!

[@robertunderwood6788]

I agree. She said so many things that helped connect the dots for me. I kept pausing the video to let the things she said sink in. Great comment.

[@MsGuitars666]

Elizabeth is such a gracious wise woman, bless her

[@lilacunderground]

For many years I dissociated and kept all my feelings bottled up. Now that I'm in a healthy relationship, I am starting to under regulate and 'fizz' out, getting overly emotional. Thank you for explaining this!

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Overly emotional I have that too, lately. I started to cry during a job interview. Never happened to me before but it is what it is.

[@CamaguNcoso]

It's amazing how a relationship can push you towards change

[@thatidealself]

Not only was this helpful and grounded, it’s really well-structured. I appreciate how the interviewer asked questions; so spot on and yet still sensitive to the heaviness of the topic. The guest is perfect for the topic ❤

[@Yottabee]

Glad to have found you here today, Forrest! You're a warm, knowledgeable, and empathetic host👍. Elizabeth is such a treat! She teaches with clarity and the kind of authenticity that are so warm and relatable. Encore!!!

[@juliannaversola]

This video is quite literally saving my life right now. I have never felt so seen and heard and spoken for ever before. This gives me so much hope during this really difficult beginning of my healing journey.

[@WorkerBeesUnite]

Radical honesty by Brad Blanton. They touch on the stuff in there for a bit but honesty with yourself is literally square one because how can you deal with something when you’re so busy containing it subconsciously

[@becks_99]

Elizabeth’s aura is enchanting. Her calm demeanor must be so healing for clients. As someone who plans to begin grad school next year to be a therapist, I’m curious if she mostly learned somatic tools on her own or was the bulk of it through her grad school program? I’d love to do somatic experiencing and IFS as it comes so naturally. Thank all of you for making extraordinary content so accessible.

[@HB-dd3yg]

As someone who tends to be more on the underregulated side, I have learned that practicing what some call „emotional sobriety“ often works well, when I‘m dysregulated. Something clicked for me when you described the state as lacking containment, being everywhere and nowhere to be found. I have found that actually sometimes containing my feeling works better than following my gut and talking to every person that would listen in order to mine for reassurance (some part of me knows that this reassurance is not something that can actually be found with other humans, at least not in the ways my inner children would need it).I am a few years in my journey and it has taken me a long while to get here. I like to work with inner conferences, where I imagine my parts would sit down at a table and just talk to each other. It’s fascinating, what comes out during these conferences. It helps me to practice containing myself (usually my wiser adult is the the leader of the conference and encourages everybody to share). I don’t expect to ever get to being able to process every instance of dysregulation by myself (and I don’t think as humans we are meant to be) but it has helped me moving towards being more regulated in general, dealing with dyregulation and getting to know myself more. Sometimes during these conferences thoughts and feeling come up that I hadn‘t even realized were there. I don’t know if this makes sense, but maybe it could help someone.

[@mclovin7000]

Yea I definitely relate when you say sometimes riding out the intense emotions first, is more helpful than to listen to your gut and seeking reassurance/advice from others.

[@HB-dd3yg]

@@mclovin7000 totally! And then, when one isn’t in total dysregulation, they can actually register potential corrective experiences.

[@katiunddu]

I love videos with Elizabeth because they are so helpful.

[@DoYouLikeLuxury]

all I can say is: wow (and i’m sure that’s been said a thousand times before). this is my first time viewing this channel and i’ve never felt so seen while at the same time learning so much critical information. truly mind blowing and eye opening … I don’t even have words to describe it. just so incredibly helpful. thank you. 🙏🏼

[@jcosmochic82]

Same!!

[@Roxxette58]

Same!!

[@TK-cg4ks]

I’d like to think of myself as an articulate person but I seriously have no words. The je ne sais quoi of this episode is something I haven’t experienced since I was a child. You guys are revolutionary.

[@punyashloka4946]

You are a great inspiration for people like me who struggles with dissociation, Elizabeth, thank you 😊.

[@littleflor2975]

Thank you for being angels in a harsh world x

[@earthpearl3790]

You guys have such a beautiful energy together and the way you relate / communicate really brings your teachings to life!!

[@lindaelarde2692]

Now i understand why I feel regulated and energized after doing an online workout with a class. I find I'm smiling with the other participants and I feel grounded in my body.

[@beatricetei]

The tapping part mentioned is called Emotional Freedom Technique or eft tapping ! It’s a great method so glad to hear you talk about it

[@glukkan]

Thank you so much for having her on again. Her presence is so calming and it's a balm to listen to her speak!

[@andreabuntpercy]

I so relate to 'somatic'... the swaying specifically. After I found out I had CPTSD, I was introduced to Qi Gong where we do lots of swaying, lots of breathwork and slowing down. It has had a long-term effect, and just now, when I was swaying along with Elizabeth and her explanation, I understood why. The words are an important aspect of the exercise for me. Thank you!

[@donnaomalley1212]

This might have been my favorite of all the listened to Being Well podcasts! What a team. Bring Elizabeth whenever you can! This one might be a podcast to revisit!

[@siulankantor9380]

I like how you two talk and explain. Both of you.

[@aprilk569]

Incredibly helpful episode 🙏 Thank you both so much! Side note: Elizabeth, your hair is Disney princess level beautiful 🤗

[@ForrestHanson]

It really is.

[@earthpearl3790]

I noticed her hair too!!

[@xKarenWalkerx]

She looks like Belle!

[@debreciafonville8963]

THIS is the content I have been searching for on KZbin for months. Thank you for the practical steps and self-regulation and self-soothing. Very noteworthy podcast from such a compassionate thoughtful and knowledgeable couple❤

[@bumblebeebrass164]

Her hair is fabulous

[@mirahb.9713]

Yea it’s got that voluminous 80s style

[@chillosophification]

That's the most important thing about her, yes.

[@ummabdullah7601]

@@chillosophificationno one said it was

[@raydragerns3657]

They both have fantastic hair ❤

[@patrickanderson5927]

I know, she looks great!

[@TranscendingTrauma]

Elizabeth never fails to bring me some wow realizations about my own self/nervous system. Thank you 🙏 ❤

[@leeanne3710]

Both Elizabeth and Forrest are super calm and present the information practically and not in a preachy way. I appreciated this episode!

[@diilouise]

A gold mine. Thank you, both.

[@dianeyoung8068]

Emotional Freedom Technique-EFT---Tapping. Great conversation and information, thank you!

[@karenbird1279]

Thank you both for this episode. Truly, this is what has been in my heart and in my mind. When I first came in contact with my shame it terrified me, and I bolted. I wish I hadn’t because I missed out on the reparative experience. Now, little by little, I have gained more self presence and capacity for tolerating those intense shut down reactions, and I have been longing to find practical advice on healing my nervous system, where these deeply embedded responses (parts) from very early childhood adapted from. So this was meant for me. Thank you again, so much!❤️

[@crystalmckinneycoaches]

Congratulations Elizabeth for finding a healthy man to be with. Congratulations Forrest for winning the family lottery and spreading being healthy to other men. Congratulations for finding Elizabeth because she’s fantastic. I appreciate her transparency and honesty today. I’m going to have to replay this over and over again to understand where I’m doing some of these emotional behaviors because most people don’t explain it as well as she has.

[@JJ-qz5gv]

Thanks for your comment. He kept referring to her as his partner. I couldn't figure out if he meant it literally.

[@RRB8745]

Yesss hearing them gives me hope. It’s so good to see what healthy conversations are supposed to look like.

[@niks_91]

Elizabeth brings me so much peace and makes me feel so seen. I never hear anyone talk about the things I struggle with but she never fails so make me feel like "oh my gosh someone else has felt like this." I'd love if she would speak more about structural dissociation/cptsd because it's not something that is often talked about and leaves me and I'm sure others feeling extremely alone.

[@GraceRay-b9m]

Just want to say thanks to you two. Thanks for the insights and tips for emotional regulation. And Forrest, always look forward to your next video.

[@CatherineLong-d3u]

Thank you. This has been helpful. I'm at a stage in my life, where the experiences I had as a survivor are coming back to me as my adult childs processes her experiance living thru my cptsd recovery. I was going down the rabbit hole of blame and worthlessness.

[@mandyluzmarquez1234]

31:58 this explain why I’ve noticed in myself that whenever a new person is introduced to my awareness during my day I find that adjusting myself somehow physically helps accept the energy that is coming from them. As simple as raised eye brows, shift in weight, head tilt…all the way up to changing the course of direction I walk at that time but it’s organic and doesn’t seem offensive.

[@CreativeArtandEnergy]

I see the topic and feel instantly called out. I am going to tune. I love when you both work together because I relate to your communication styles. ❤

[@catherinemanuele8352]

I appreciate the honesty from both E & F and I am healing from the tools shared. Many Thanks!

[@MijaStahlschmidt]

Love this so much - I have already listened to this many times, thank you for the somatic/trauma approach - says an emotion-focused therapy student in Denmark

[@ccburro1]

Elizabeth’s segments with you have been incredibly helpful for me-this one, the best by far. ❤️ I love your approach to hosting and facilitating the connection/conveyance of info from guest to audience-You are the “bridge”, so to speak. And I love the concise summaries you provide at the end. Thank you!

[@shirleykhoza9725]

Thanks!

[@lindabyrne3353]

Excellent chat with so much useful and practical information. Thank you.

[@rjurikdavidson]

Your summaries at the end are great. So useful.

[@TheCoyotemonster]

Especially if you can't watch all at one time!

[@CasildaChenier]

Elizabeth, your explanations are so helpful to describe my structural dissoc. I am 50+ and just Feb 2023 started doing ART because i have been so frozen that EMDR wouldn't help.

[@earthpearl3790]

I had a similar experience with EMDR when I was dissociated. I session after session with connecting to my feelings in an embodied way. Hands on somatic bodywork with a therapist has changed everything! Sending care 〰️💟

[@mirelladlima5278]

This is such a powerful conversation and anyone who has any trauma residue would greatly benefit from the inputs and tools given to help them control the intensity of their emotions🙏

[@Samrodriguez117]

I am always so grateful for the recourses on KZbin. Here is a legitimate professional and I get to sit in my room and learn from her. Also she’s so pretty lol

[@franziepethal4624]

thank you guys for the enormous vulnerability you have offered. Faith in humanity ❤for me!

[@margaret539]

So direct, so real, and so helpful! deep thanks to both participants!!

[@artynegelen786]

Just saw this pop-up on my phone. Will listen now. Thank you!

[@erinsullivan1053]

Elizabeth! So beautiful to see you and hear your wise guidance 🙏 ❤

[@rachelhayhurst-mason7846]

A fish who's expected to climb a tree... that's me. Thank you for helping me start to understand something so foreign but needed. You're a great team.

[@ArtyAntics]

Shaking hands, swaying and so on are Stims that autistic people use all the time (until society teach us we aren’t normal). We have to use movement to ground if we are sensitive to the rest of our senses. Interoception isn’t great for us but we do seem to notice the need to ground when we stim 😊

[@ADHDologia]

I'm not even done watching the video yet (really enjoying it!) and I was also like, autistic stims! autistic stims!! Do we have this kind of innate knowledge about self-regulation? I'm so hyped :')

[@dzihanahajdarpasicmisirlic5347]

you guys are so lovely ....thanx so much for such a great helping podcast

[@looli1327]

Thank you so much Elizabeth for sharing your experiences. I’ve been feeling so loopy a year into intensive trauma work. I felt a slow decline after moving in with my partner. He's the first and so far only feeling of real safety and security on a somatic level. I think that's when the overcontrol started to wear away.

[@kaylinelisa]

Oh my god, minute 14:10 thank you so much. I have never heard someone say what I am experiencing.

[@from.memories]

Thank you both for putting this together. It really helped get some insight on my own challenges and a direction to go in.

[@jmlouie]

When you brought up releasing the energy in public I thought about how kids throw tantrums and parents tell their kids to behave. They teach kids to bottle up emotions. This made me wonder... how do we teach children to regulate that energy that fuels their emotions?

[@isabellenutt4493]

Look into Aba psychology never use negative reinforcement but the therapy works

[@patrickanderson5927]

This is the first video I have seen from this channel and Wow. It is such a good video. Usually with these talk videos I can listen a little and get the general gist and then go do something else. With this video I just kept feeling like watching without even worrying about doing anything else. You gained my full attention and am glad to listen. I only started learning about Somatic Therapy recently so this topic interests me.

[@lilyneva]

It would be so special if you guys started a companion show to this one called something like ‘Loving Well.’ In it you could maybe share things about your journey as a couple and how you have navigated issues related to attachment wounding and developmental trauma (the way you do when you do shows together now) and you’d also interview therapists like Dr Jacob Ham, etc.

[@jillianduguay2113]

Check Terry Real podcasts. He's a relationship therapist. Excellent.

[@aestrada11]

I second this! That would be extremely helpful to have a resource like that ❤

[@clara3322]

This is exactly the video I have been thinking, for a while now, that I really wish existed! Wow! 🍀🙏

[@jessicalong6011]

This is just wonderful and gives me hope. I love you guys. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@RSLFRSLF]

I just started learning about emotional regulation and the vagus nerve and it fascinates me and it's been an eye opening experience. Practice, practice and practice self-love and self-care.

[@rosettarafanelli3989]

Same . I have been listening to Forest for over a year and have found it so relevant to my life. So thankful for him and Dr Rick. Always bring wonderful people into their podcasts!

[@georgia_yn]

Extremely helpful and clear! I love episodes with Elizabeth ❤

[@Jennifer-gr7hn]

I love the cross earrings..the only real way to have the depth of healing we need

[@littleflor2975]

Thank you. Going through a breakdown/detox/trauma release right now. Childhood stuff with added relationship abuse. Didn't realise how repressed I've been ( even though I'm scared of everything and always feel like I'm not really here). The first waves of emotions were very overwhelmed. I'm getting there bit by bit.

[@sahagunchocolate]

Thank you for always summing things up at the end!

[@HelloTraumaBrain]

This was a wonderful conversation. Absolutely validating. I tried swaying while I listened and noticed the different in my nervous system and body almost immediately. Thank you for sharing these wonderful tools. 💜

[@simonanardi4312]

O My F-ing Word… this is so detailed, and intricate! I lack a lot of knowledge

[@aleenr4425]

I’m in love with her hair!! So beautiful!! ❤ Thx for the info!!

[@elizabethash4720]

You two are great.. so good at expressing this part of our humanity, precious feeling, and emotional selves. Enjoyed this discussion. Thank you.

[@naturallaw52]

Here comes the future of healing!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤

[@franziepethal4624]

Forrest thank you for all the knowledge you so elegantly present. I love the great closing summaries. Also learning and studying your über non violent communication style; I take your interactions with your father as 1:03:16 case studies ❤ onwards!

[@lilyneva]

38:34 Thank you for sharing this. I think I have been focusing on trying to notice when I 𝑎𝑚 dysregulated but I love the idea of being more granular about it and trying to feel when it begins. This is embarrassing but I’ve been noticing that when I am about to have a dysregulated day, I seem unable to make myself brush my teeth or get dressed in weather-appropriate clothing. It makes a lot of sense to me to think about this like it is a younger part running the show. Everything you’re saying in this episode feels almost like a tight supportive hug to me right now. For the past months, I have been in a strictly DBT-oriented environment and I just have felt a little bit like I was going crazy.

[@shalinichristodoulou641]

I really loved this. Thank you so much. I loved how you spoke of co-creaating a safe space. Having experienced trauma I relate to so much of this.

[@jackiemoffat-re3vp]

That was the most in depth amazing podcast. I learnt so much and Elizabeth is an amazing somatic therapist. Thank you.

[@avirginia8808]

This was really beautiful. Thank you so much

[@ricalina4371]

Thank you for that great, insightful conversation! 🙏

[@susanellison5309]

Thank you for share. Really benefited from the discussion

[@avryhowes]

Thank you so much for the work you both do. This video alone has changed so much for me, I can’t tell you my appreciate of you both enough ❤❤❤

[@Saoirseah]

I discovered that when i put on easy listening music like fallout radio my brain keeps the tempo and stays, instead of ramping up and reacting when the other person is argumentative and i can't disengage or leave. I can also sing something like amazing grace to myself when i dont need to respond or know what they are saying. I am taking this time to learn how to regulate, heal, and learn supreme self-control & self-care, and who i am and how i want to live and accomplish. They dont hurt me anymore and it was always verbal only :) Its like watching a zoo animal and studying it. They help me to be a better and more resilient me 👍 No worries, I dont give them any credit, and i am really proud of myself.** I however have something many do not... a point of reference. You dont know different, if this is all you have known. ** Be aware of the swamps of sadness and complacency **

[@Lisa-iu9ib]

I’m new here but I’m grateful to see such an intelligent discussion about such difficult topics. Thank You

[@johanna11980]

Thank you to both of you, this session was very educational ... I appreciate that it was provided in such a understandable way.

[@betsymarsted944]

Very good use of time and extremely helpful! Thank you!

[@fbgirard]

Thank you so much for all these useful insights and practices, this is just what I needed to hear today. Much appreciated :)

[@aliciamarana]

Wow! Such a GREAT conversation. Thank you. I have been participating in monthly Journey dance classes that have been a real game changer in regulating and getting back in touch with my body. Thank you to everyone searching to become more regulated whole people for themselves and their families and the world. ❤ You are doing really important work.

[@CreativeArtandEnergy]

Coming back to this one, I hope there will be more people like you in the Midwest to work with professionally, because I respect your boundaries so much. I wish you could come talk to my advisors at my college. They aren’t understanding what they don’t understand and I’ve been crying for days, like actually letting it out.

[@alyssalee1116]

An incredible conversation that covers so many essentials. Thank you!

[@thepainteduniverse3648]

I’ve found that moving my body or head in small clockwise circles instantly puts me into parasympathetic mode. Squeezing each individual finger sequentially with the opposite hand does that as well. I also do certain things with my eyes and focus that let me switch into a calmer frame of mind too. It requires bit of practice, but it’s super effective.

[@lindaforsyth1856]

I love everything about this podcast. Elizabeth, you are amazing.

[@Amy-wq3li]

This video has been immensely helpful! Thank you!

[@ForrestHanson]

I'm really glad.

[@wootwootwoot32]

Needed to speed this up to hear it at a normal pace. lol. Thank you for this topic though!

[@adamb.9968]

Y'all are great--thanks so much!

[@madgepickles]

this wrecked me, but i needed it. going to have to listen several times i think thank you

[@JJ-qz5gv]

Brilliant conversation. Thank you both.

[@11ZEPHYR67]

"Witness The Experiencer!" Dr David R Hawkins cited this phrase and his work is immensely helpful to me. I hope it helps. First time viewer, and already a fan. Thank you both for such an amazing conversation, this is beyond words to express my gratitude, bless you guys ❤