Found Out My Online Boyfriend Is in Prison

Found Out My Online Boyfriend Is in Prison
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[@alyssapowelltate4000]

I’ve worked in a prison. Women fall for it. All. The. Time. There’s inmates with 3-5 different women writing to them, thinking they’re exclusively dating. The women send them money and try to work on their legal cases. It’s CRAZY what these diagnosed psychopaths get away with manipulating women… Oh and inmates aren’t given internet or cellphones, but they’re smuggled in by dirty staff and visitors all the time.

[@NvrDieNvrSurrender]

I worked in a jail sis for almost a decade and my comment is exactly this!

[@VS-fo9py]

I hope the caller reads these comments, and opens her eyes.

[@ConnieFoster1]

I've heard similar things. Inmates are master manipulators and these women want someone to 'save'

[@elfascisto6549]

​@@VS-fo9py me too

[@ES-7766]

Some women just have bad taste in men. They are their own worst enemy. Love yourself first.

[@soothinggentlesounds]

She's channeling her energy into proving her boyfriend isn't guilty instead of living her life. She'll look back at this time frame with regret when she's older.

[@RoseWater20]

I hope she sees this comment. This is for her now and future self.

[@bettysmith4527]

For god sakes he isn't her boyfriend, he is some criminal in jail that charmed her into believing he is not guilty and fulfilling his own needs!

[@kaglaw]

@@bettysmith4527 and guaranteed, she is paying his legal bills.

[@JustinCase780]

She spent *years* getting involved in his case with a lawyer trying to make his/her career and it was denied in the courts. The guy has zero to lose playing her. Sad pathetic story.

[@TonyCox1351]

@@bettysmith4527yeah this guy is literally just some child toucher, reaching out from prison to lonely overweight women. He’s probably got 2 or 3 other ones putting money on his books

[@ladytea697]

This guy is 100% guilty. He conned you. Sold you a dream. Its easy to be the best boyfriend ever when you’re stuck in prison. If he ever did get out, he’d turn into a completely different guy. Watch Love After Lockup😂 Stop wasting your life.

[@Mysterious_Moon]

I’ve lived it. Mine was a master manipulator. I was 17.

[@ladytea697]

@@Mysterious_Moon You were 17 though. That’s understandable. This chick is 38 years old. Just goes to show a master’s degree can’t buy a person common sense.

[@Mysterious_Moon]

@@ladytea697I didn’t have an excuse. I stayed and married, until I was 30. Point being, I realized time and my efforts didn’t change who he was or his situation. Someone who would lie, cheat, steal to benefit himself. I learned that once in jail, they become a different breed.

[@kimberlysmith7625]

She should also watch KZbin channels dedicated to parole hearings of sex offenders. They are skilled manipulators and liars bc that's what works for them....to get what they want.

[@mw6346]

I watched a coworker marry an inmate and you are completely correct. Once he was released he cheated and was gone in less than a year. She had to pick the pieces back up and begin again.

[@SaystheTruth3]

Wrongfully convicted??? Bruh......🙄

[@eurekahope5310]

He may be, but I wouldn't waste my life hoping he was telling the truth.

[@ramblinmama]

particularly not with a charge like that. @@eurekahope5310

[@raraavis7782]

At the very least the doubt will always be there...

[@Veracityseeker7]

Yeah that was a cope

[@chuckokoye2410]

It does happen way more than people think in this country. the court system does get it wrong. buuuuuut, that sounds like his problem, not this poor womans who’s been wasting her time dealing with it

[@_Coe]

It’s very interesting that she says she wants a child the most out of life. But she’s chosen a man in a situation that can’t get her pregnant. And is accused of hurting children. Very strange contrast there.

[@slaviapolandia7541]

great observation

[@bakedbeans9546]

Exactly. I hope she never has children, it's women like this who allow their children to get abused. The fact she thinks a convicted pedophile is innocent is just WILD, it takes a lot of evidence to secure a molestation conviction.

[@caterapullett6235]

I could not have put this better it's a little scary 😟

[@eleonora6980]

Who choosing to artificially inseminate is selfish as well. Shes bringing a child into this world without a second parent intentionally.

[@alanarama]

Plenty of kids with no parents that were born the "right way" plenty of kids whos parents abandon them. It doesn't hurt in the same way if you're just lacking a parent it's being rejected by one, that does the damage. ​@@eleonora6980

[@bethford6884]

"Wrongfully convicted", lady wake up! He also LIED TO YOU/chose not to tell you about being in prison. Of course he's lying about being innocent. You should have been mad enough to end it right then. Love yourself enough to want more for yourself.

[@roathripper]

everyone in prison can't wait to tell you they are innocent. all those prisoners - innocent! who knew?

[@marysaltlife1427]

You said it all, and so well!!!

[@annt7384]

Enough about him. She’s got some kind of virtue/white knight syndrome, and nobody’s paying her any reward.

[@alladreamwedreamed]

All she has to do is stop sending him Jpays and see how much he still loves her 😂

[@mrsmomrach]

Dr John’s poker face is UN👏🏼MATCHED👏🏼

[@faraha2826]

I would have been doing so much eye rolling 😄 I don’t know how he does it.

[@thecramptons]

😂😂😂

[@rz8753]

@@faraha2826😂😂😂😂😂 I know lol at this point just meet a guy and have a baby , when women try doing ivf solo I’m like girl there is lots of options

[@alicef128]

@@faraha2826me too. I’ve about given myself a headache from rolling mine so much just listening. 6 years.

[@ihateallyall]

@@faraha2826well he’s been doing this for years, his face has poker face muscle memory when he hears something cringe 😂😂

[@BeautifulStranger]

This is absolutely ridiculous. And desperate. There's sooooo many more valuable men out here, and she's fighting alongside a convicted child offender? Where is her self worth???? Why does this one man, deserve her time, resources, and attention? Who told her she had to settle???? This is outrageous.

[@ineedhoez]

She doesn't have any. She is down bad.

[@ceelothatmane9421]

She’s clearly a self absorbed brat with poor relationship skills. How else can yo explain being a single woman who would do IVF and intentionally bring a child into the world without either of them knowing the other parent

[@eclipse.5295]

The patriarchy has convinced us for YEARS to settle!! 😡

[@mamat1213]

So she prob was very overweight, had to lose 50 to even be a candidate for IVF. She seems to accept this is the best she can do, she never mentioned a successful long term relationship, just being a martyr and dutiful daughter basically. She may not have great prospects in the real world so this could feel “safer”. Especially if she’s trauma bonded or codependent to this guy thru everything she’s dealing with. He’s a project, she’s in position of savior and martyr again, and he needs her - also she may think he can’t really cheat or leave her while in prison. Also these guys can be master manipulators, love bombers, future fakers so there’s that. Could be love or it could be him using her for commissary, companionship and financing this expensive appeal 😒 It’s SUPER sad but I love how John addressed it, knowing that sometimes we have to just let folks make their mistakes

[@dudeorduuude5211]

​@@eclipse.5295and the red pillers have other ridiculous notions like that dumb pop feminist crap. Red pillers live in fantasy world, the feminist stuff is also delusional because it didn't tell us that life is choices, that the choices are in your 20s, career or kids, and the consequences of each choice explained to us. Our mothers fought to have us not barefoot and pregnant and serving men... good, as that 2as soul sucking for many women for that to be the only choice. But now we need to re-balance women as it went too far the other way. We can choose either path, but we may not get both, and we don't need to be superwoman making both work because it is really difficult to do this.

[@seasoning7]

Meeting someone online, falling in love and thinking they’re “the one” in less than 3 months all without meeting them once in person? She got catfished and is choosing to roll with it. 🤷‍♀️

[@boston312]

most of the time its lonely gullible men being catfished by a Filipina overseas. The few times ive seen it happen to women is when the woman is well past her prime and she is very desperate to settle down

[@coolkidvt01]

Delulu

[@lucilleyoung4744]

Why do women make such a big deal about wanting to have children, not everyone should or can't, but can't accept that dreams are unrealistic. Instead of taking responsibility for bad decisions, they justify them. Be happy for yourself and live your life and quit having an unrealistic life that everyone has. When she says she wanted to have a wedding so her mom can see her in a wedding dress. Her whole existence was based on an overpriced dress that would be worn one time.

[@alladreamwedreamed]

You're right and I think her hang up that she's "a smart person" is what keeps her going with this delusional "relationship" with a prison pen pal. A smart girl wouldn't be fooled by a child-molesting con man! Therefore, he must be real and innocent. Lol

[@mirabella2154]

A child molester (allegedly) as a boyfriend with a prison sentence over his head... Where did she meet that splendid specimen? At some point we have to take responsibility for the choices we make.

[@CarnivoreStork]

👍🏼

[@angryox3102]

Not allegedly, convicted. He did it.

[@pegzpat]

Choosing to date a CONVICTED child molester, while wanting to be a mother... She's not ready to have a child.

[@Thetruesauce100]

Not allegedly he has been convicted and sentenced 😂😂 there’s nothing alleged about it

[@shivapazoki1881]

@@Thetruesauce100 😂😂😂

[@faith780]

Dating a convicted child molester with a felony she can never have kids anywhere near him. They can’t adopt kids. Her only option is to get pregnant by him but he won’t be able to attend school functions or pick the kid up from school. Honestly I side-eye anyone that openly dates/marries children abusers, I start thinking they also hurt kids. Her doubling-down on this relationship gives me the icks. Dr John handled this call with a LOT of patience.

[@name9601]

she's complaining about what her life became then chooses the exact scenario so it stays the same

[@name9601]

best not, her believing bf over kids or worst doesn't care enough denial just to keep him

[@JanHagen-rt6qi]

Her choice it’s a good thing she didn’t get what she wanted

[@CassandraV-kl4hq]

Even if they were married. He’d have to move out and can’t be around his own kid.

[@skeeterbug589]

💯

[@Mysterious_Moon]

Why in the eff aren’t prisons blocking dating websites from inmates? They’re supposed to be rehabilitating AWAY from the public, not unleashed upon them while still serving.

[@user-xi8jh8xo4b]

Bcuz we liberal lawyers, judges and politicians who care so much for the inmates they fight for every right for them.

[@tduck828]

THISSSSSSS!!!! Why the heck are inmates even allowed to get online???

[@MeowmyandMe]

Many of them have friends posting on their behalf and sending the correspondence to them in letters or reading it over phone calls

[@ceelothatmane9421]

Becaus inmates lives matter too right? Inmates don’t deserve love?

[@greenAbbot]

@@user-xi8jh8xo4b No prisons allow internet access outside of monitored texts. And all the evidence shows that recidivism is greatly reduced when inmates are integrated into and connected with society upon release, rather than just punished. Or does talking about data make me too much of a liberal?

[@lisaobesaful]

I just got married at 38. I sympathize that it's sometimes hard to find the right person. But even in the worst of my loneliness, I wouldn't have put up with this nonsense! This is truly baffling. It's extreme self-sabotage at this point.

[@rae7782]

Hi Lisa, hope you do not mind answering but I would like to know firstly, how did you know your husband was the one and secondly, how you coped with being a single woman for so long. I desire to be single but sometimes, societal pressure makes it difficult to be a single woman especially when I constantly see women my age getting married and getting pregnant etc. Thank you in advance ❤.

[@alanarama]

You'll know when some one makes you desire them, more than being single. Never give up a good single life for a mediocre relationship, regardless of the outside noise.​@@rae7782

[@amymain2213]

I got married at 39. Oh how I GET this gal. Yeah my life didn't go sideways toward a prisoner (that's my sis - another story 😮) but I did marry someone who turned out to be abusive. Man she is telling my story otherwise.did all the right things. Even her timeline was similar. Instead I married at 39, failed IVF and still sticking it out for pennies. 😢 I appreciate his recommendation to write letters to my younger self. May need to try it. The grief is INTENSE! My life looks NOTHING like I thought!

[@betbabe8222]

“It’s Easier to Fool People Than It Is to Convince Them That They Have Been Fooled.” - Mark Twain

[@kellylott9296]

This is so incredibly true. I had a boyfriend who was an addict,(though at the time i was also.i just didnt lie to others or do anything to anyone else in order to get my fix) Anyways i worked across the street at a dairy farm, milking cows. While working one night, he came running over, no shoes on, out of breath, saying someone had broken in and had a board for a weapon. I was so freaked out, I ultimately end f up knocking on the boss's door , talking to his wife, using her phone to call 911. I was not there. I was at work. when they pulled in they asked if they could take a look around the perimiter. I said yes. So didn't they end up going inside, seeing paraphernalia and charging me with that. I never gave permission to go inside but I see now life doesn't work like that. I was very frightened after that. I lived alone, you know? Anyways all this to say, i ended up having serious doubts and questions as to whether it even happened. I have come to terms with the fact that it was all more than likely an elaborate lie, that he created and I don't know entirely what his pay off was, I know he asked his dad for help with money to get locks. I'm sure he got far more money than I knew. It was extremely upsetting to think the person I loved would not online deceive me, but take away my sense of safety and security in my own home. So... I feel that quote.

[@AT-bt1cu]

What’s the difference between being single or with a guy that’s in prison? You’re alone regardless

[@JaZmine147]

At least she always knows where her boyfriend is. 😂

[@ineedhoez]

Pahahaahaha!!!! Facts

[@MixUpTheVideos]

It's physically no different. But relationships have many elements apart from the physical.

[@lav7161]

The guy in prison showers with other men.

[@chocolatte8301]

Agreed

[@alinamanoochehri3844]

Lady, regardless of him being guilty or not, he didn’t tell you that he was in prison when you met. He started your relationship with lies. Please move on. You still have time to build the life you’ve wanted.

[@ders972]

She is mentally ill and he is using her

[@JC-ov5yz]

I absolutely hate it when you get falsely imprisoned for child molestation.

[@katiewaves]

😂

[@TonyCox1351]

Happened to me on my way to work this morning

[@auemmjee]

😂

[@atdepaulis]

😂

[@Zumcho]

​@@TonyCox1351 same 😂😂😂

[@Miss_Judy]

I'm seriously crying for this lady right now... It's so pathetically sad... I married a man who was a pedophile - unknown to me... After being married to my husband for 9 years, he was accused of raping a child... He swore he never did anything - to my face - crying, denying everything... it was not until I heard the mother's side - the mother of the child he raped... that I realized my husband lied to me - the entire time... He had been so convincing... I believed every word he said... I hope this Megan lady does research on the psychology of pedophiles and their need to lie... this Megan person just breaks my heart that she's throwing away her dreams of having a baby for a pedophile.

[@Veracityseeker7]

I'm sorry that happened to you, but your situation is very different. You didn't know. She knew, and still decided to stand by this guy. Someone like you would get my empathy, where this woman gets none. She's earned where she is right now. I hope you can do some healing around your situation❤

[@emilyemily6316]

Ask yourself, what kind of women KNOWINGLY does it? You would not have. That's her!!! Don't feel sorry for her.

[@Veracityseeker7]

@@emilyemily6316 THANK YOU. I had a friend who was in the situation where, she didn't know and the cops busted him when they were hanging out. Of course she dumped him immediately, and went to therapy. This caller decided to fight for him! The caller is getting exactly what she deserves.

[@emilyemily6316]

yup!!!@@Veracityseeker7

[@olivialisonbee8153]

I understand this because I also married a pedophile unknowingly. I remember the police showing up to my door and arresting him. The police officer that explained everything to me was so kind even when I didn’t believe him at first. He showed me some evidence that showed they had the right guy. It still didn’t really hit me fully until I sat down with his lawyer and saw the evidence and arrested statements. I picked up divorce papers the next day. I hadn’t been married long, but it was still very traumatic and haunts me. I’m remarried now and have two beautiful children, I never could have had that with my ex. This woman needs to move on, they don’t put you behind bars without evidence. They stalked my ex for three months before they arrested him to make sure he went to jail.

[@ericalashan1923]

Please caller...if I knew u in real life I wouldn't bring my children to ur house ever...if he ever gets out. Sorry.

[@michelejohnson6459]

Legally he can never be around children. Why did you say sorry? Sorry you won't let your children be around a child molester? 🤔

[@santafilipina9020]

I'm innocent and wrongfully convicted are very common refrain of inmates, don't you know?

[@mamat1213]

YES AND the fact that they are trying to get him off on a procedural technicality?! HUGE red flag 😳

[@bettysmith4527]

I just hope she hasn't spent her hard earned money trying to get his perv out!! @@mamat1213

[@eveallusion]

This story is beyond disturbing. I hope the caller sees her kindness is being taken advantage of. Please caller, find purpose in finding a great man and building the life you've always wanted. If you decide to stay, which I hope you don't, DO NOT EVER HAVE CHILDREN WITH THIS MAN OR BRING CHILDREN AROUND HIM. EVER.

[@tracy5721]

I’m betting she’s paying for his lawyer and legal fees too. I think he’s using her.

[@miltoncat]

I can’t help but think her choosing to get pregnant on her own isn’t going to complete her life like she thinks it will.

[@tishataray]

Agreed, being in a similar situation it sucks too when you miss the chance of using your fertile years because life didn't provide the one.

[@Veracityseeker7]

She'll just project all of her weirdness onto her child.

[@Veracityseeker7]

​@@tishatarayThat's valid, but in this case she made bad decisions to stick with this dude who was convicted of CM. You could also choose to adopt, and not be so selfish and dedicate your life to an unwanted child.

[@tishataray]

@@Veracityseeker7 some women desire to experience the journey of pregnancy , the baby kicking and all that. Even if you choose to adopt , you still grieve having your own if that was your dream... I get you tho ...i hope she gets someone better

[@tishataray]

@@Veracityseeker7 some women desire to experience the journey of pregnancy , the baby kicking and all that. Even if you choose to adopt , you still grieve having your own if that was your dream... I get you tho ...i hope she gets someone better

[@JacksonvilleTammy]

I hate how people say "I met someone" when all they did was talk to someone on the phone or text etc.... You are speaking to someone you didn't meet them

[@tiffanynicoley]

Oh John tried SO HARD to be nice here lol but we all can clearly see she’s just headed for more pain and more heartbreak. I hope she wakes up.

[@shivapazoki1881]

I have seen so many late 30s single women who have made insane choices when it comes to dating but this one was whole new level of desperate / crazy 😢

[@jaylucas10]

😂🤣😂

[@bettysmith4527]

Agreed... I eventually learned to just enjoy being single, and if Mr. Right comes along great, if not, that is ok too! Happiness is an inside job!

[@shivapazoki1881]

@@bettysmith4527 good for you😊 myself divorced with s child at 21 and single ever since (now 50) to date i have not known one couple whose life is better, more fulfilled because of their relationship. Ppl either have the art of happiness or they don’t. Ppl who are happy in a relationship are those who had a great life when they were single too. Miserable single ppl end up marrying and establishing a miserable family 😂

[@Shaara1]

You have to have a large number of insane men who are players, so all these women can choose them. If all these men had integrity no women could find players to ruin their future with. :)

[@name9601]

@@Shaara1 so you settle on insanity, that choice is still on you :)

[@Gardenpath11]

How do you meet someone online and have fireworks, and know he’s the one without meeting them? That’s insanity.

[@zitroanor]

They're ALWAYS innocent and Prince Charming in prison. She might not even be someone he would choose if he was out. She provides letters, conversations that she pays for, visits, money and whatever else he "needs". He's a stand in, a "fantasy" of the life she dreamed of. This is one of the saddest calls I've heard on this show.

[@mexicanachulax3]

Let go of your timeline and let go of this man.

[@name9601]

cinderblock

[@gingergann3934]

Megan, none of them are "guilty". Sorry, 95% are guilty. You feel desperate and unloveable. That is why you're "settling".

[@RoseWater20]

You’re holding her accountable for her choices. I’m glad you emphasized this.

[@whitney9429]

Wrongful convictions exist, but come on. She wasn’t even in the picture at this time so she should stay out of it.

[@BMAN1able]

Be careful with that jail talk, They will tell you anything. once they get out It's a different story.. Guard your heart..

[@CiaoColeG]

First I can empathize as a childless, never married 38 year old woman. I know what it feels like to do "everything right", stay slim, volunteer, be involved in church etc....and still not meet anyone who is compatible at church, at work, on dating apps etc... HOWEVER, I realized around 32/33 that my life is NOW. And I'd rather be single, ambitious, joyfully serve God and others, and live a fun life than lower my standards to hades just to have someone. Being a wife and mother is not where my value lies. Being a child of God and walking with integrity is all I ever need. Singleness can be lonely at times, but I am beyond thankful that God has given me grace when I had desperate moments to not choose a toxic or deadend relationship. He's given me a great family and friends, whom I have more time to pour into because I'm single. I hope this lady shakes herself and wakes up, because life is not a game where if we accumulate enough points we are rewarded with whatever we want. Life itself is the reward.

[@tishataray]

I wish I had your mindset.

[@jillianwickham31]

If women don’t have a relationship with God, the One True God, who is our everything, our eternal Husband, our closest Friend, then… women are going to channel their desperation for love into fruitless relationships. Life doesn’t begin once married. It has always been and always will be NOW. Much love and heart peace to you, sister.

[@jw70467]

You don’t have to lower your standards to Hades, you just have to teach yourself to see the men who aren’t six feet tall and maybe has a boring job he loves and is good at.

[@kagnewcobra5228]

Big difference between being alone and being lonely. Big, big, difference!

[@auemmjee]

If you watch this show you know that many, many married people are lonely and are worse off financially and otherwise than when they were single. Couldn't pay me to get married.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

Megan, please sweetheart RUN from this guy. You are worth so much more than waiting for a guy to get out of prison who is just using you. You could find an amazing man, and start a family if you just grieve and leave this convicted felon. He’s not worth your time and he’s certainly never going to be allowed near a kid that you so badly want. You have no clue (nor do I) if he was wrongly convicted. He can tell you his cute little sob story but the reality is cops don’t just put guys in prison without evidence especially with something that serious, it’s also a red flag that this lawyer you hired who specializes is wrongful conviction cases couldn’t help you. Your life is just worth so much more than waiting around for this guy to get out of prison when chances are it will be a long time and won’t be the fantasy you dream of if he does. Dr. John, me and many others are rooting for you. You have so much more potential than you think! ❤️

[@thenorthface4]

Totally agree! Anytime someone is/was in prison, the first place to go is the evidence and police reports. This dude is lying about sexually related crimes with a minor. Absolutely disgusting. These dudes don’t make it long on the inside… she also forked over her own money for an attorney to help this dude. I could just cry in her behalf. I hope she moves on.

[@Fred2-123]

That poor girl, she fell for a prison inmate romance scammer.

[@catherinewilke5583]

Yep but she won’t let the fantasy go. She said she’s fat so I’m sure that makes irl dating hard so she can lose weight or own it and find someone who likes fatties

[@miltoncat]

I feel for her. I was the same way, expected to meet Mr Right in my 20s and have a kid or two. By 30 I’d had some failed relationships and was so tired of dating and the whole thing. I didn’t want to be single forever and that sadness is SO hard. And it can make you do stupid things. Like trying to tell yourself that a convicted child abuser is really a nice guy and would be a great father. 😮 So as lonely as it was, I just kept living my life. Then at 33, I very randomly met Mr. Right. Got engaged 4 months after we met, and got married 10 months later. Both our families were shocked as to how similar we are. I’m 51 now, marriage got rough sometimes but we still love each other. I wasn’t able to have kids and that about crushed me. I even told my husband he should leave me and get with someone who could have his kid. He knew I was insane at the time and assured me that was never gonna happen. So yeah, life didn’t turn out like I thought, but it’s still pretty dang good. Hang in there.

[@mamat1213]

❤❤❤

[@BigSoul29]

Wholesome ❤

[@JohnWilliams-cx3ip]

Women are pushed in different directions at the same time....have a thriving career and have thriving families at the same time. Yet, if both are not achieved they feel like failures. Societal judgement (unwarranted) "Oh, you are a successful lawyer but alone with no kids.... failure." "Oh, you are just a housewife with kids....loser."

[@miltoncat]

@@JohnWilliams-cx3ipHmm. I think it’s worse when women don’t have kids, regardless of a career. People always say “Parenting is the hardest and most important job in the world!” Or “You just don’t know what real love is until you’re a mother!” Both are very dismissive and cruel to those who wanted kids and never had them. I could cure cancer, but nope, not as important as popping out a kid. There’s people in my life that I’d take a bullet for, but nope, I just don’t know what real love is. 🙄😒

[@JohnWilliams-cx3ip]

@@miltoncat Agree 👍

[@Germania72]

She doesn't understand the point he's telling her.

[@texasdazzlers]

I like how John didn’t try to tackle the elephant in the room - she’s dating a guy in prison for child abuse because she feels like making good choices got her nowhere so what heck…why not? Hopefully once she’s able to make peace with herself, she will accept the things she can’t change and take control of today. Just because life didn’t turn out the way you want doesn’t mean you have to reduce yourself to dating a convicted felon.

[@mirabella2154]

Good point (or elephant 😏) that you mention.

[@cbyt8759]

I understand why he didn’t address it. She’s already been through a lot in his put all her eggs in this basket for this relationship to work out. She chose this relationship out of desperation, and she’s not open to changing her mind because accepting that reality will be devastating for her. He was wise to not judge her choices openly (though he did comment on it), but encourage her that she has to accept what comes with her choices, which is true, whether she was making an amazing decision, or a poor decision, such as this one. Now she won’t see this advice as an argument, and as she follows it, she will naturally have to ask herself honestly, if she is OK with this, and she will convince herself instead of John trying to argue with her.

[@socku5850]

He was attractive to her.

[@Mike-sj9si]

That last sentence should be on a refrigerator magnet

[@texasdazzlers]

@@mirabella2154 Agreed…she isn’t ready yet. She just would have become defensive. Best for her to figure it out on her own.

[@gambers20001]

Should be Ex Boyfriend soon...

[@dabd8175]

Oh you must have missed the memo. Females love low life's 😂

[@ladymusiqka]

Spot on

[@amendaalmonte2236]

I use to have a friend who also supported her boyfriend at the time who was in prison for “wrongful accusation of child molestation”. She swore up and down his ex was out to get him. Anyways the guy was released and they break up. He went on to be one of those “repent for your sins the end is near” wackos holding a sign. Then contacted her years later to repent for his sins and tell her that he actually was guilty of child molestation. Anytime a man’s name and child molestation are in the same sentence, just turn the other way.

[@FrankS111]

Imagine throwing your life away for a convicted child sex offender. There is no saving her.

[@MeowmyandMe]

“I’m the only guilty man in Shawshank!” -Red

[@mellowbirddreamer77]

Awesome book and good movie!

[@Myraisins1]

Girl, no. Move on from him! You have time to turn things around.

[@cindycarlsonallen72]

WTF is wrong with her?? It’s so frightening!! Please lady, think! A jury would take this kind of crime/criminal very seriously and before ruining his life, they would set him free. HE IS GUILTY! RUN as fast as you can!!

[@janetstraw191]

Poor thing thinks her life is OVER!! At 38?! She still has her whole life ahead of her - she hasn’t even hit her prime yet! I am 77 and I wish I could be 38 again.

[@jennprescott2757]

She’s past her prime for having a family but doesn’t mean life is over.

[@FilthyMcNasty69]

You women are funny lol way past her prime

[@Monk7791]

@@jennprescott2757 That's not true. Many women still have a family, even via the natural way, at that age.

[@emily-zv7fs]

My observation lately is that while we do not properly prepare our young people for married life, we also do not prepare them for the possibility of the single life. While I'd love for all my children to grow up and have families, I've also started trying to teach them how to be single. Recently we read about George Washington Carver and were just blown away by his single life and all that he accomplished and the godly man that he was. Can't recommend his biography enough. I'd much rather see my children single adults than in terrible relationships.

[@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559]

Yup. The advice should be, 'get up every day, give it your best and learn as much as possible, no matter what. Take each day seriously, because doing so will stand to you the next. You may not get everything you want, but there's peace to be found in knowing that you did the best you could with what you had.'

[@candyluna2929]

Thank you for the suggestion.❤ I knew a bit about him. I'll look into this book.

[@Veracityseeker7]

Amen

[@jugendamthamburg-ggkonform381]

I agree, I hope we can start having match makers for young people to guide them and help them avoid the time wasters and so on...so the don't waste their 20's.

[@thenorthface4]

There is an amazing book called “it’s not supposed to be this way” that sheds a lot of light on how to navigate life when it takes a different turn.

[@goodgirlvicki]

Author?

[@thenorthface4]

@@goodgirlvicki Lysa Terkeurst 😊

[@dudeorduuude5211]

Thank you for this recommendation :-)

[@barbarahansen5353]

Fantastic book- I’m reading it as well. Highly recommend!

[@christawarrington3795]

Thank you! Im going to see if my library has it.

[@darcycolborne2565]

I really think this lady needs to figure out why, out of all the men in the world, she's drawn to one who is locked away and needing a ton of effort expended on them. Something about him actually being unavailable while at the same time needing you pings your radar. If you can unpack that, you can figure out why you remained unattached for +15 years and never realized what you thought your dream was.

[@Sigma_Wolverine]

She admitted she had 50 pounds to lose at one point so she has probably struggled with body image insecurity her whole life. She probably struggles to attract men.

[@kcourtney6826]

Bless her heart, she’s looking for someone to complete her instead of working on and valuing herself

[@Heidishereandthere]

I wouldnt care if they were wrongfully accused or not...child molestation??? RUN!! If this woman thinks THAT was "her dream man"... a few screws loose. Don't get me started on her idea of bringing children into the mix without a father being in their lives!! 🙄 THANK GOD

[@havwusbsb]

You wouldn't care if someone was wrongfully convicted? Let's pretend that we aren't talking about this specific person, but your son, brother, father or partner and they WERE wrongfully convicted. You wouldn't care?

[@Heidishereandthere]

@@havwusbsb No, I wouldnt care if they were wrongfully ACCUSED!! THERE IS A DIFFERENCE! Go back and read my comment again, and stop putting the WRONG words in my mouth! ACCUSED AND CONVICTED ARE TOTALLY DIFFERENT INSTANCES. I WAS MOLESTED BY AN UNCLE, YES, HE WAS GUILTY, BUT... HE WAS WRONGFULLY LET OFF THE HOOK!! SO, THERES THAT!! Lord, help us if you ever get pucked for jury duty of a child molestation case! Youd probably be the one to let the guilty go, and the innocent be hung; due to not hearing out all the details; much like you when you failed to read my comment correctly in its entirety! ! 🙄 Good day

[@kavarnijsenshik]

ugh.. such prisoners often have more than one "online girfriend". They use them as emotional saviers, suporters to pass prisson time in emotional comfort. But after they are released they disappear.

[@Mysterious_Moon]

I believe this 💯. People do this anyways online everyday, and all this pedo HAS is time.

[@A_w_200]

This is embarrassing. Reeks of desperation. I’m also a 38 year old woman and I would never stoop this low.

[@Veracityseeker7]

Yeah that's why I'm having a hard time feeling sorry for her. It's not like this guy was locked up for selling a baggie. Being convicted of CM is the lowest crime you can commit. In my opinion. The fact that she attached herself to him, shows a lot about her own character.

[@amandawithlov3908]

I damn near fell out my seat when she threw in the word "wrongful" accusation of child molester. @@Veracityseeker7

[@PinkVisionG]

She’s talking like she’s 65…she’s 38!! Plenty of time to actually meet a decent human and make her dreams come true

[@IHateNicolasCage]

Husband, yes. Children, no.

[@fishin4bogey]

At 38, overweight, no kids.......good damn luck. This poor woman needs two things. A therapist and a personal trainer. She wasted 6 years on a pedophile. Who does that?

[@Sigma_Wolverine]

The wall is unforgiving.

[@PinkVisionG]

@@IHateNicolasCage welcome to 2024 where there are women getting pregnant in their 40’s + early 50’s

[@Monk7791]

@@IHateNicolasCage Why not? There are women much older that get children, the natural way.

[@ditttch]

lol, ask any person in prison if they were wrongfully convicted and the answer will almost always be yes.

[@my7thoughts7exactly63]

Sis . I thought my life would go a certain way to . I too am husbandless, childless, and alone . It’s painful but please don’t make this choice. You’re moving from desperation. This man has nothing but time to figure you out and be perfect for you (aka manipulation) . He also has nothing but time to figure out how to make you feel that he was wrongly convicted. Beware of someone hiding the truth from you. This is not your golden opportunity, it’s the beginning of your nightmare.

[@elainepatterson5587]

She needs to start living life every day, today, in the day. She's living her life somewhere else on the daily.

[@flightsnotfeelings5867]

Getting a masters/PhD or constantly climbing the career ladder to prove to yourself you’re worth something hits so hard to a lot of people.

[@neisci]

Because they are doing for the wrong reasons. Like John said,own your choices. If a Masters ( which is not that hard to get anyways) is what you want for yourself the go for it. It should always be about hour selves, not others.

[@FilthyMcNasty69]

Women who do this even though they just want to be moms are retards lol maybe she would've found a good husband and had a family if she wasn't at school for 8 years and working constantly. She girl bossed too hard

[@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559]

I think she's blinded by how this guy made her feel...from prison, lol. I don't know how she can be so convinced of his innocence, when after 6 years of fighting, he still hasn't been freed, but child abuse is as disturbing as it gets, even more so than certain types of homocide, which can be the result of an accident or self-defence or provocation. I question how suited to motherhood she is, given that she's willing to take a risk on such a man.

[@Jugoplastika7]

Bro 6 years of fighting it. Dude doesn’t have a small crime. He’s in there for life it seems.

[@goodgirlvicki]

I wouldn't deprive myself of physical embrace for a guy in prison. Long distance relationships are already challenging It's best to partner up with someone in your city

[@missl9348]

Easier said than done. Not all of us are in a major metropolitan area. Especially difficult if you're a 40+ year old female trying to date in the Midwest. Its awful. I gave up. All that's left around here are men my age who are liars, cheaters, moochers, abusers, etc.

[@name9601]

​@@missl9348 well there's always prison pen pal, or move city doubt much better may be it's where ur looking

[@Britty0189]

Did she say “ *WE* spent money on a lawyer” 😱 gurl.

[@Mysterious_Moon]

Bruh… did his use his 0.50/hr commissary money from sweeping the prison floors? 😂

[@42Ccastro]

You gotta be tough if you're gonna be stupid. -A dad on a meme once said to his daughter. Sound words I live by.

[@Veracityseeker7]

Thank you. Everybody is being so empathetic with her and I just don't see why.

[@SoulfulVeg]

I don't know the name, but there is a reality show that follows people who unite after prison. She should watch that. Also, prisoners have all day to talk and lovebomb. They can be so compelling because they need folks on the outside.

[@kcourtney6826]

Love after Lockup?

[@SoulfulVeg]

@@kcourtney6826 That's it. I've seen excerpts on YT Short but haven't watch the show. It looks wild.

[@ss7581]

I wonder how many women online hes conning with this exact same song and dance. This is so pathetic and sad, caller deserves to do better for herself.

[@neisci]

Love after lock-up is such a trash you. Love it 😂😂😂. She should definitely watch it.

[@SoulfulVeg]

@@ss7581 He has all day free. I bet there are many desperate women falling for his BS.

[@megscott222]

Aw, praying she sees her worth and moves on from this guy. She deserves so much better.

[@ittybittyspaces]

She really believes she knows the ins and outs of what happened that resulted in his conviction - it’s sad. Her denial is disturbing.

[@katiewaves]

Girl, stand up! Better to be alone than have a boyfriend in prison. 6 years?!!

[@Imzadi]

This lady 🤦🏼‍♀️ EVEN if her bf is innocent why waste time on someone incarcerated?

[@Veracityseeker7]

Yeah like I wouldn't even speak to this man, let alone think I'm going to date him? Like wow

[@jovitarich7078]

@@Veracityseeker7. Exactly…low self stem

[@havwusbsb]

If it was your husband, father, brother or son, you would just let them rot on their own if they are innocent?

[@shimmeringchimps3842]

​@@havwusbsbThere was no pre-existing relationship plus he didn't even tell her he was incarcerated for the first few months they were talking. At the very least, he's a liar. She has NO obligation to help him.

[@FilthyMcNasty69]

​@@havwusbsbyou're very naive and get taken advantage of alot, huh?

[@tommiller12345]

John should have told her what to do. She’s stupid to pay for a lawyer to prove her bf’s innocence. She wasted her life with bad decisions. Stop now. John told her to own her decisions, but she doesn’t know what that means. He was too vague.

[@Mysterious_Moon]

I think once she sees a therapist in-person and sorts through her stuff, without the judgement, she’ll leave.

[@pegzpat]

She has to know that just because you have a partner, it doesn't mean you'll have a gd life. This is a case of never go shopping at the supermarket when you're hungry.

[@natalieelliott1984]

This woman needs a lot of therapy and help so that she stops sabotaging her life with the choices she is making.

[@VS-fo9py]

Notice her choice of words like “we” are fighting this conviction. 😬

[@Mysterious_Moon]

She wants to be his savior and he’s her project. This is not going to end well.

[@OopThereItIs77777]

@@Mysterious_Moonhe’s draining her

[@nutellanebula]

Volunteer, go to church, pray for a decent partner. Good people are out there. Hoping for the best for this caller.

[@lizwiens671]

I just feel sick for this lady. She seems like such a genuinely wonderful person. Please FLEE from this dead end relationship, you deserve better ❤

[@suek7086]

I hurt for her and pray she can find peace. I can’t fault her for getting sucked in because she has lost so much. The death of dreams is really tough. It causes immense pain and suffering.

[@CaToRi-]

Biological clock doesn’t care about bachelors or masters degree. The best years for finding a partner were overlapped by your studies and career.

[@FilthyMcNasty69]

Girl bossed too close to the sun

[@davidcharnes3623]

For some reason most convicts will swear up and down that they are innocent.

[@jasminebaby3375]

What is the point of this call. When she knows she is going to still be married to her husband who is in PRISON. I don’t feel sorry for people who keep putting themselves in sh*tty situations. 🚩🚩🚩

[@irishrose23]

He isn't her husband, he's her online boyfriend. She's never even met him in person. I think her purpose in making the call was a desire for validation of her decision to fight for his freedom. What she got was an attempt to wake her up. I hope she wakes up, let's this prisoner guy go, and finds someone a lot better.

[@LifehasnoNiche]

IT NOT TOO LATE!. It may hurt to let go but once you become intentional about what you want and going after it you will be surprised. 38yo is not the end, loosing a child is not the end, letting go of a 6 yr relationship is not the end. Many women find love and have children after 38yo you have to decide.

[@tparker4458]

Well said !

[@tparker4458]

Love your name !

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

Desperation will make you do things you thought you’d never do. It will also put in a situation that you need to escape from because you can’t handle it.

[@calebburghardt3391]

Life would be a lot easier if I was this delusional

[@auemmjee]

😂

[@boston312]

on the surface level yes but even these people with no self awareness still have to ask themselves why they havnt accomplished their goals (of getting married, or having kids). The delusion is just a way to justify their actions and deal with the pain.

[@user-ek6jn6tg6h]

I met a girl on a flight to Atlanta . We started talking trauma. She then showed me her bf of one year she never met that was in the US military on a peacekeeping mission in Ukraine . I politely mentioned to her that I am quite familiar with the military situation there and the us military does not operate as a peacekeeping in Ukraine . She looked very surprised that I mentioned her online bf was most likely fake

[@GAFB1122]

You're 38. It's not too late, actually it's never too late. This guy does not sound like the one to waste time on. Move on.

[@Magdalene952]

Dr. John handled this call well. She's got some very serious self esteem issues that have led her down a path of fighting for a man in prison (whether he is guilty or not is not the point) for 6 years to turn up empty handed. She can still fight for him and if he is truly innocent, I hope she keeps fighting for him. But she doesn't have to put her life on hold for that either. That was a choice she made thinking she'll end up with a fairytale and that didn't work out. Look, life is all about choices. If I could go back 6 years and start trying to have a baby I would, but those were choices I (and my husband) made when we did. She needs to work on giving Megan room to heal, grieve, grow, and love herself first. She owes that to herself.

[@ithinkigottalent4047]

Omg bless her heart. Still striving to achieve the fantasy.

[@Grace-rx7cv]

The part that really gets me about this caller is that she tells gerself that she has "done everything right" she will never stop feeling like the world hasnt served her adequately until she accepts that she has made her choices, maybe because thats what she BELIEVED was the right thing to do, but its likely a justification as to why we do things rather than the reason itself.

[@amberklein1560]

Grieving choices traps us in the past. But taking ownership sets us free. I CHOSE to marry my spouse. I CHOSE to stay with him. I CHOSE to stand up for what I believe is right. I CHOSE my consequences, my life. And I can choose the direction I decide to head in now. Choosing and accepting the losses and gains is calming, and makes life ok.

[@shimmeringchimps3842]

"Own your choices." So simple yet so important! This lady clearly is in a lot of denial and John very patiently showed her the next baby step that she'll be mentally able to take.

[@kaitlinkuhn3406]

Maybe she could adopt a couple of children that really really need a mom. She has a lot of love to give

[@taylorspastpresent1014]

How does Dr.Delony keep a straight face during these calls? This is heavy. May Jesus bless her. ❤ I pray she heals.

[@royalredus]

I don't think I'll ever call John because he gives too much homework. Writing letters to your childhood self, your current self, your future self, your deceased parents, your abuser, your unborn children. Carrying around cinder blocks in a backpack... it's exhausting!

[@mirabella2154]

😂

[@SavannahSedai]

And I always procrastinated homework....

[@royalredus]

@@SavannahSedai Hahahaa me too!

[@eurekahope5310]

Repairing takes work, but I get your point. 😉

[@mosim9691]

@royalredus You are hilarious!😅😅😅😅

[@bleh3039]

As a person who was sa as a kid - do you know how brave that kid was to come forward to report the abuse - and then for the police to find enough evidence to convict the perpetrator? This woman is disgusting to try and find excuses for something he probably did do.

[@kendrascorner]

So the most important thing to her is having kids... She's 38... Even if we all pretend this guy is actually innocent, she will never be able to adopt with a convicted child molester in her life. Best chances are to go find an actually good guy, get married, and have a baby in the next few years or adopt! I promise there's better guys out there than Mr. Perfect you found online who was actually in prison the whole time he was talking to you, and is convicted of child molestation, but convinced you he is innocent. Like I said, even IF he is innocent, you deserve a better life than that.

[@ineedhoez]

For the money she spent on lawyers she could have hired a surrogate

[@jemmajames6719]

Why would you take that chance, an innocent child.

[@kendrascorner]

@@ineedhoez It doesn't sound like a surrogate would be necessary. She did get pregnant once through artificial insemination, and she could do it again. Although there are huge ethical issues with that. If she really wants to care for a child as a single woman, adoption would be a good option. But not if she's with a child molester.

[@kendrascorner]

@@jemmajames6719 I didn't say she should take that chance. I'm saying he is probably guilty. Even if he technically didn't do anything, if the courts found him guilty, they will not let him adopt (which is a GOOD decision on the part of the court).

[@ineedhoez]

@@kendrascorner there aren't any ethical issues with it. As long as you build securely attached children you're fine. Build a community and Network and caretakers for your children so your child is securely attached in your job is done. Cuz let's be real, there are tons of two-parent homes where children still grow up with all type of attachment trauma.

[@eap1983]

This is the epitome of desperation 🤦‍♀️

[@Alex-mj5dv]

She’s loopy. But it’s not her fault completely. The issue is.. life isn’t fair darling. She’s Been sold an age old fairy tale in a modern world that doesn’t always correlate with that Disney / 50s family worldview. But it’s an all to familiar tale these days.. particularly when it comes to artificial insemination.

[@kathya1956]

Girl get rid of all your requirements ( superficial) for a guy. And go out there and find one.

[@skamgodt964]

Notice how men are usually not down bad for women in jail. This is wrong and she will regret it.

[@Gabster1990]

Nah, plenty of men still get with women in prison. Just look at Gypsy Rose.

[@Gabster1990]

Nah, plenty of men still get with women in prison. Just look at Gypsy Rose.

[@mariyaa111]

This is disturbing. I like to think that I am an empathic, compassionate person… but there is no chance that I would give a total stranger, who already lied to me, the benefit of the doubt when it comes to child SA.

[@kaydeemailliard857]

The chances of him being “wrongfully convicted” are so low, this is disgusting. Be a better woman.

[@tammyreise]

The way my mouth dropped after she’d just conveyed this….😮 I’m curious to know what she learned about his case to have her fighting for his innocence…. Girl, run, he’s most likely lying.

[@soni05131]

She needs help.