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The 16 Personalities of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator are INFJ, INTJ, INFP, ISFP, INTP, ISTP, ISFJ, ISTJ, ENFP, ENTP, ESTP, ESFP, ENTJ, ESTJ, ENFJ, ESFJ
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[@FrankJames]

🍀 Take a free and accurate 16 Types assessment at Cloverleaf! Click here 👉 bit.ly/3ht9Trz Here are the studies mentioned in the video: MBTI twin study: Bouchard, Jr, T. J., & Hur, Y. M. (1998). Genetic and environmental influences on the continuous scales of the Myers‐Briggs Type Indicator: an analysis based on twins reared apart. Journal of Personality, 66(2), 135-149. Big 5 twin study: Jang, K. L., Livesley, W. J., & Vemon, P. A. (1996). Heritability of the big five personality dimensions and their facets: A twin study. Journal of personality, 64(3), 577-592.

[@ClubENTP]

BEST Cloverleaf Add of All Time! Of ALL TIME! 💥💥

[@Missmagazinebura]

@@ClubENTP I’m an infj and it fits me so well

[@maurimyllyaho534]

Do I see right or ??? Nothing.. dont ask? Why am I writing this anymore? Why would I comment this after all? WTF am I doing? Oh yeah! INFJ-t

[@anxen]

Still an INTJ *sigh*

[@ClubENTP]

@@maurimyllyaho534 lol 🤣😂

[@letfreedomring7330]

My husband is an ENFP, but his friends and family were thinking types. His dad and older brother are INTPs. So was his youth group leader whom he admired as a teenager. I was his best friend when we were children (I'm a rather nerdy ISTJ). So my husband, the fun-loving ENFP, became a computer engineer and cyber security expert. His Si and Te are quite developed. He uses his knowledge to help others, then comes home from work with unused ENFP energy bursting out of him. It's interesting to see.

[@naowright9308]

I am an ENFP woman who married an ISTJ husband. 😂😂😂

[@letfreedomring7330]

@@naowright9308 😄

[@fatchicken9497]

I'm a ENFP computer programmer and what you described as 'bursting ENFP' energy after not using your Fi for a prolonged period of time, totally applies to me too. Furthermore, as a kid I was a typical INTP, who then evolved into the ENTP and in their twenties, to an ENFP. ...or maybe, I'm an ENTP chameleon after all.

[@BlessThissMess]

ISTJ here. One important question. How do you not die of anxiety with an ENFP husband??? lol. I do think they're super interesting, I just don't know if I could survive their lack of structure

[@toad4112]

@@BlessThissMessmy mom (enfp) married an isfj, and she said that she got more structured when she got older

[@SayItAintTso]

I’m an INFP but I believe I was born an ENFP. I used to have so much energy as a kid, until it led to me getting repeatedly bullied and left out for being “annoying”. As a teenager I developed serious anxiety and withdrew socially, and never relearned how to be fully comfortable around people again. I’m unmistakably an INFP now.

[@end4567]

Maybe you were an INFP from the very start?

[@msteriousone9616]

If only you knew how much I relate to your comment... -INFP

[@Hamless_Kiwi]

Woah are you me? I could’ve typed this

[@flutterwinkle]

I’m so sorry that you were bullied and developed social anxiety because of that. I hope that you can find healing and learn how to be comfortable in expressing your personality and loving who you are. It’s a journey and it can be really hard at times, but it’s possible. I used to be really quite, insecure, and awkward. I still have a difficult time in social settings sometimes, but it’s gotten a lot better. What has helped me is therapy, healing my inner child, and my relationship with God. Sending love and hope to you!- ENFP

[@violetdusk1968]

Infp with similar experiences

[@introvertedneko5922]

I'm literally an INFP that wasn't given the emotional feedback from my family that I needed. To put more on top of it I have Autism and was socially isolated growing up due to bullying. Took me quite a while to make an identity for myself but I can definitely come off as cold if I'm in a bad mood. My mom literally at one point said that she didn't know what mood I was in or what emotion I felt due to me being monotone in face and tone of voice.. after that I created a 'mask' to seem happier.. and at one point forgot who I was underneath due to it. I'm better now after having moved from the toxic homelife with my mother and her fiancé a few years ago that involved cutting contact as much as possible with both. It says a lot when someone that gets mistreated all their life comes out of it and can still find something to smile about most days even if it started out badly. Btw sorry for the punctuation for those that cares about it. I'm self taught in English and come from Denmark so I don't know a lot of the punctuation/comma rules for English grammar ^^'

[@annasonboonta2003]

i'm an INFP who got bad emotional feedback from my family too. when i was little i thought that i shouldn't cry in front of people because one of my family members would blame herself if i do and another would overly concerned about me. and some teachers at my school said that i always looked sad. so as i grow up i tried to appear as happy all the time so other people wouldn't worry about me. as a teenager my friends described me as calm and stoic because i didn't really show my true emotions to anyone. even now if i feel like crying i would cry alone. to be honest i still living in the environment that i can't fully express my feelings. so i think that eventually one day may be i can be somewhere else that i can explore my own identity.

[@introvertedneko5922]

@@annasonboonta2003 I hope you'll be able to get in a better environment eventually. I personally have a hard time letting people see me cry as well since whenever I did in front of people I was told to suck it up. I really do hope you'll be somewhere in life eventually that you can figure out yourself as well. I'm still not there completely myself so don't be afraid if it takes time to get there.

[@annasonboonta2003]

@@introvertedneko5922 thank you! your reply means a lot to me ❤️‍🩹

[@ElisaSarah]

I was emotionally abused and shamed for having autism by my dad. So yes I am also an INFP.

[@introvertedneko5922]

@@ElisaSarah Being shamed and abused for something you can't control isn't okay. I hope you're doing better and if not that you'll get better in the future. Such things can take time and leave deep emotional and mental scars.

[@Zundfolge2000]

Agreed. I tested as an INTJ as a teenager, then again when exiting the military (with their official tests for helping with transition back to civilian life). I didn't think much of it for several years then took the test again when I was more interested for myself. Same result. But man, I was a different person in that time. Fast forward to now. Almost 50. I have matured, grown, and learned so much in the last few years. Better person. Still INTJ. But I have worked on areas that are weaknesses. Those tendencies are still there but I've learned to control them better.

[@smule77]

I'm 47 and totally agree. I've changed how I present to the world two or three times as I matured. And of course I've changed my view on many, many things in life. But my core self (how I think, what I need to feel good, what I value, how I relate to family and to people outside my inner circle) has never changed since I was a child. FJ and you are spot on, IMO. ~ Fellow INTJ

[@Zundfolge2000]

@@smule77 Great minds??

[@smule77]

@@Zundfolge2000 Maybe rather old minds... I see a lot of younger INTJs still kind of trapped in some sort of stubborn pride, celebrating the weaknesses of our type (social awkwardness, bluntness, arrogance) as form of self-expression. In a way it is and I see their point, they're not doing these things on purpose or with bad intentions. I was in that place too and quite unwilling to change, out of fear of "losing myself". When I came to realise that how I express myself has little to do with who I am, it was a lot easier to so the work on my side instead of blaming everybody else for my lack of social skills. Accepting my flaws, analysing them and working on them wasn't pretty - and still feels awful sometimes - but it's gotten easier and it really brings me peace. Inner and outer... My parents often said to me that I'm my worst enemy. They had no psycological training whatsoever, but they were right and it took me decades to see it. So, in case there's any younger INTJs reading this who have heard similar things before: be smarter than I was. With the understanding of your cognitive functions you have a great tool to work with to become a very cool and attractive version of yourself 😉 I wish I had known about these things a lot earlier in life.

[@Zundfolge2000]

@@smule77 lolz. I was referring to your comparison of me and FJ. :D Your reply, though, is spot on. I've been going through the same. It seems the journey should be easier but it isn't. And looking back at my younger self is frustrating. I am now that "When I was your age" guy when I hated that guy growing up. I should have listened to him a little more.

[@smule77]

@@Zundfolge2000 LOL - looks like I score another awkwardness point 😆 Yeah, being on either end of "when I was your age" can be quite frustrating. When I was young, I had one or two people I trusted enough to take their advice. Knowing that, I don't take it too hard when young people decide not to listen to me now. Doesn't even bother me when it's my own kids rather making a bad experience than listening to me. I save my "you really need to heed my words" for the rare cases when there's too much on the line to just let them see for themselves. Sometimes, they just need to learn from their mistakes and take the lecture afterwards. I don't fancy being a witness of their failures, but such is life... 😉

[@trinaq]

I really love your psychology MBTI videos, Frank. When you're not making us laugh, you're educating us in the best way possible! ❤️😻

[@neightowl4003]

And when he's doing neither one, he's doing both

[@lailanitukuafu]

I'm an INFP, but I was heavily influenced by my ESFJ mom. So I've turned out to be much more expressive than other INFPs. I also stress a lot more about the Si side of life than other INFPs do, because it comes so naturally to my mom. I'm not good at it, but I try to be

[@TheInnerSpark]

as an INFP with an ENFJ mom i can relate... I also think she made me wayy too expressive and stress on the Ni side of things like you and si

[@loiccooper5375]

My mom is also an Esfj and as an infp I relate to this on so many levels. I also realized that most Infp have ExxJ moms idk

[@worthfightingfor2299]

Ohh, I'm an INFP with an ESFJ mom too!

[@flutterwinkle]

I’m an ENFP with and ESFJ mom and I think it’s made me a lot more organized and nostalgic than I would be naturally.

[@CamzCritiques]

i also have an ESFJ mom, and an ISTJ dad as well. one very expressive and one very cold, except when he's having adorable Fi child function moments. overall i was a very introverted INFP who probably favored Si over Ne at some point. i didn't know true Ne until high school and i'm now a much cooler more creative and chaotic INFP

[@amjthe_paleosquare9399]

INTP. As a baby I was pretty quiet and sorta suspiscious or cranky with people I didn't know. My INFJ mom made sure to explain things to me because of the way most children are raised "You hear me 'cause I say so! 😡", and she went for rationality; kids are smarter than you think. So from her side I got drilled into me to take emotions into account, sorta; gotta be considerate with others and take care of what I say and how I say it.

[@renbrent2314]

My INTP was so suspicious of people! I couldn't leave her even with family until she was 2! She would throw up from anxiety if I left her in a nursery. She also spake at age 9 months. A lot. Most people wouldn't believe it unless they heard it! I knew she was a genius, haha. My ENFP girl is very bright too. She mainly drew a fantasy land of different animals and charcters her entire childhood. So different but they are the best of friends.

[@otakus1216]

Me also an INTP with an INFJ mom-

[@neightowl4003]

Oh I wish I hadn't gotten the "because I said so" unluggy

[@lyaneris]

@@AA123TD If he's quiet, try talking with him about something that interests him. Even if you don't understand everything, he'll probably be glad someone is listening and asking questions. He may be ranting and switching topics (like I do), though :) - Also, (you are probably not doing this) nothing was worse for me during my childhood than adults talking down to me and not taking any of my questions/ideas seriously. Regarding problems with siblings: for me, I did not have the boundaries that I needed. I need space from my sister (ESFP) and time to think alone. My problems with her were mostly about her ability to get into my room and take my stuff without asking/ not respecting no and that she argued mostly with her emotions even if logically, she didn't make any sense. It might be helpful to have a talk about why emotions are more important to some people :) Also, even an INTP gets lonely. Especially during the pandemic I've realized that I need to reach out to my family.

[@amjthe_paleosquare9399]

@@AA123TD Awww sheesh, I remember when I didn't get along with my younger sisters either :/ It took me a spiritual retirement and joining the Oratory to get better (at 13) and my mom drilling on me that I'd have to rely on my family as an adult and that I must try to get along with them, to try to understand that as kids younger than I they wouldn't automatically get me or what I was talking about (I still feel guilty from time to time)

[@sekketsu]

I'm an ISTP. Both my mum and sister are feelers and I'm also the only thinker in my friend group, so I came to have very developed Fe. Obviously I'm still very logic-driven, but I've learnt to think about the impact of my words on others before they leave my mouth, and to ask people their opinion before I make a decision. Thanks for the video Frank, super interesting as always 👌

[@neightowl4003]

Haha literally didn't have a single thinker in my life until high school (don't ask me how cause I don't know) so this is hAshTaG RelAtEAbLe

[@ellenh278]

Frank James' and Ryan Reynolds' ads are the only ones I watch and even sometimes rewatch because they are hilarious. I never skip over . Sponsors....are you listening? I actually pay FULL attention during his ads!

[@cloverleafme]

Frank James makes the best ads. We love working with him.

[@ellenh278]

@@cloverleafme Oh, you were listening. 😂👏 (Always a surprise to an ENFP)

[@bloodorangemoon]

I rewatched that skit and sent my husband, who leads a large tech team, the link for cloverleaf 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼

[@cloverleafme]

@@bloodorangemoon 🙌🙌 - Yay!

[@ellenh278]

@@bloodorangemoon Very cool!

[@galaad8978]

YES THAT IS WHAT I NEEDED! I kept on wondering how much the environment and genetics would affect one's personality

[@davidblindt9291]

INTP, As a HS math teacher, I looked more like an INFP. BUT it was still an INTP response. I saw all the students as a problem to solve (students are not a problem. To get as much math into their brains IS the problem to solve). This led me to learn as much as I could about their personal worldview (yes, always back to MBTI. it was very useful) so I could construct a personalized interaction persona to help them learn. That looks like inFp but it was rooted in inTp (problem solving, secondary function Ni). This was a long winded way to say ( and I saw this in many other comments) that nature seems to me to be the strongest influence and we adapt to the environment (nurture) using our inborn strengths.

[@neightowl4003]

Yep, people don't change they grow 👍

[@krustyfan321]

in sociology we had a look at the Jim Twins, who were identical twins raised apart and had almost identical lives. it was interesting

[@faolan2174]

Wow, I'd somehow never heard of this one before in my classes. That's fascinating. One that really intrigues me is the Bogotá twins.

[@JadestonePony]

Makes a lot of sense! I'm an INFP who grew up surrounded heavy thinking types. Went into engineering and computer science because of how much I've learned to value Ti and Te, and I've always preferred being in more technical environments.

[@Xandycane]

I tried to! I love math and wanted to program, especially games. Thought mathematician or programmer. Programming ended up boring me because of the lack of creativity and the only part of mathematician as a job I liked was doing the impossible math problems. I need to create in some capacity. I even considered law because, honestly, being creative with rules is fun. It just either doesn't work or makes you feel like crap because it's being used wrong.

[@AtarahDerek]

I'm a technical minded INFP too. We tend to confuse people because Fi and Ti already look a lot alike when in the throes of their passions. And both Fi-doms and Ti-doms tend to have eclectic interests. But my stubborn adherence to the idea that I'm an Fi-dom proves that I am. Fi-doms feel VERY strongly about their identity. Also, I couldn't use Fe if I tried. Ti-doms use theirs automatically, even if it is their weakest function. I definitely do not have Fe in my useful function stack.

[@bloodymares]

@@Xandycane Programming and lack of creativity.... It seems like you didn't get a taste for it lol. Programming is really no different from your childhood puzzles or I would compare it to Legos. I loved Legos as a kid, and code is basically lego pieces that you can use for whatever. It's the vast field of creativity. It's only not creative when you're in it for the money and work on a project that has a strict goal with little to no experimentation. I got into programming by modding games first, which is a very creative and stimulating process, you just need to train yourself to "see the matrix" eventually. Where you can just glimpse at the code and already have an idea of what it's for.

[@Xandycane]

@@bloodymares I know! Games! But I could not get into typing in the code to get a result. I tried though. For games. 🙂

[@bloodymares]

@@Xandycane You could always try again ;) At first I tried it when I was a young teen and some things I just didn't get and came to conclusion that it's not for me. I tried again as an adult, and it really clicked with me, it's just a learning process.

[@letfreedomring7330]

I'm an ISTJ, but people who don't know me extremely well type me as an ISFJ. I value the caring and nurture that that type has (it's my mom's type), so I can slip into that role. But I often say I have to "logic my way into it." It doesn't really come naturally.

[@horo_horo_horo]

Omg same, but for me this Fe caring side is a big insecurity because my infj mum pressured me a lot about it

[@roisingrant]

This is my mom! I'm an INTJ lol so we're not too dissimilar

[@BlessThissMess]

Same!

[@jessica-pf9fy]

Same, I’m trying to be more caring but I’m pretty inconsiderate by default lol

[@YehudiNimol]

I had a coworker who I initially thought was ISFJ but then realized was actually ISTJ. It's a very easy mistake to make. ISJs are some of the nicest people on the planet

[@dudubbi]

This is actually one of the greatest philosophical questions about who we really are. Thank you for this video, I agree with your hypothesis.

[@FrankJames]

I appreciate it!

[@kaiserfranz_1973]

yeah, it's basically you have an inner core which is your MBTI types, and some features that can change by the time, which is your unique traits, that makes you a little bit different from other person with same inner core as you. Judge by their inner cause and their outer cause that makes some unique traits that other people don't have. Please correct me.

[@Soviet_Cat1729]

The sponsorship segment Is like a whole video in on of Itself .

[@userr5678]

in and of itself* sorry dont want to be annoying just gramamr mistakes itch my brain 😭

[@cloverleafme]

Frank James makes the best sponsored segment.

[@qwerty0yt]

@@userr5678 yes, gramamr. 😂

[@userr5678]

@@qwerty0yt HAHAHAHAHAH 😂😭🤦‍♂️

[@luisaboos2752]

German INFP here, I think my cultural environment influenced me to improve much on things like structure and organizational skills. It doesn‘t come naturally though, I feel like I had to fight really hard against my chaotic tendencies to function well in this society and I will still never be at their level.

[@kaliah1494]

As an American ENFP that moved this year to Germany...Das spüre ich auch.

[@lastgunman5270]

only works at work for me, sadly not at home

[@helgaioannidis9365]

Also a German INFP here. I couldn't fit in in Germany and moved to Greece. I'm considered pretty organised and structured here due to my upbringing. Showing emotion and improvising is considered very normal here in Greece. And when I'm sometimes acting weird, people think it's because I'm from a different culture, not because I'm weird.

[@lordryan_rblx4576]

We should switch countries lad, im an ENTJ in an American environment it’s hell with all the small talk and emotional talk, I just want lads to cut to the Chase

[@TheNameIsLisi]

I struggle with that so much as a German ENFP. I try to work on stuff like organization skills and stuff like that but so far no success lol

[@beekie88]

I want to add here that culture and gender stereotyping also plays a big role! I'm often typed as ISTP, which has typically a very masculine stereotype as the chill mechanic. I think that I am a ISTP/ISTJ (the cognitive functions overlap). As a female, I notice that girls are expected to develop their F functions (caring, social, etc), and boys their T functions (logics, education). I also know a few F-type guys who were "pushed" to develop their T functions during their childhood.

[@takoyaki9211]

agree

[@Reegish]

I definitely had difficulty socially as an INTP female partly because I didn’t naturally conform to expectations for girls, and also partly because I tended to never be sure about social interactions in general.

[@beccascraps8141]

This is super interesting. I’m a friendly outgoing INFP. I spend a lot of time with my ENFP daughter and often wonder if I’m REALLY an ENFP. I have a complicated upbringing but I think I might just be like Anna because I spend time with her

[@windy8395]

Hey! On the offical website of the 16 personality types, they split 16 personality types into four groups: -Analysts (xNTx) -Diplomats(xNFx) -Sentinels(xSxJ) -Explorers(xSxP) Maybe can you make a video explaining them to get more people know about it? Thanks.

[@GotTheSwablus]

Closest you'll get: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aGTKopSoe7Gcq6s&ab_channel=FrankJames

[@dsnunez09]

This video would be helpful as well :) kzbin.info/www/bejne/apjFZmmIbrWfbrc

[@tiberiusgrey1529]

In my opinion this is in reference of Berens Core Approach by Linda Berens. Sentinels=Stabilizer, Explorers=Improviser, Analyst=Theorist, Diplomats=Catalyst.

[@myquiescentmind]

My dad is an INFP, so despite being an INFJ, all my life I grew up learning how to improvise and deal with situations on the spot because that's how my dad generally would spend time with people and experience the world. To this day, I do still prefer using my XXXJ trait for most things of course, however living with my father has at least given me a head start in being more comfortable with the spontaneous, improvisational side to life. I even enjoy it a lot of times, it helps me balance my tendency to over-analyze and cage myself into everything. That said flying by the seat of our pants still grates on my nerves a fair bit 😂

[@bloodymares]

As an INFP I can only enjoy improvising when it's not a big deal, just fun. If the task is very important or I really need to plan ahead, then I'm very careful with my organizing and planning to the point of being a bit extra, Because I have burned myself a lot in situations where life punished me for not being prepared for tough situations. So I feel like if I'll be improvising, I'll just make a dumb mistake or miss a crucial detail that would end up messing things up for me. Acting on a whim feels like walking on a tightrope without a safety net.

[@hoiorrandom]

@@bloodymares YES

[@naowright9308]

I am an ENFP who was raised by an INTJ and an ESFJ. I got my mom's fun loving attitude and my dad's way of communicating. Both were Judgement types so I have some strong beliefs that make me come across as a xxxJ type at times. For example, I do not believe in messing around in an intimate manner with someone other than my spouse. I also would not touch a hallucinogen. I have a strong moral base but the rest.....Let it go, let it go🎵🎶

[@bloodymares]

My belief is any fun goes as long as you're experiencing it together with your spouse ;) Regardless if there's someone else involved or not as long as there's mutual honesty and respect from everyone involved. IMO better to find your boundaries by trying different things (as long as they're ethical and don't harm anyone) than limiting one's possibilities before even trying. But respecting other person's boundaries is also important so I'd never pressure anyone into anything, maybe slightly nudge if there's hesitation but curiosity, though I mainly adapt to other people and willing to expand my horizons if it makes us both happy in the end. But I agree about being strictly against psychedelics or other drugs or even smoking, mainly for the sake of health than morality.

[@shachintheartist]

I'm an INFJ raised by Father ENTJ and Mother ISFJ

[@tabithamcintyre4570]

I laughed harder than I probably should have at the Jeans joke 😂 love me some "Dad" jokes! Also, I love this video because I've always thought about the Nature vs Nurture applied to MBTI. My mother and I both are INFJ and on the outside seem very different. Great video!

[@TimurMamatov]

I'm an INFJ who grew up with an ENFJ father and an ISFJ mom. I think the gap between that acceptance and understanding I felt at home and cruelty and unfairness of the outside world definitely shaped the person I am today (including watching such videos at 2 AM instead of, you know, touching grass and interacting with some real people).

[@tyleringram7883]

As an istp, i totally agree. I think that people develop personalities when they are a little after being born. I think it starts to develop at age 2-3 though since baby’s dont really interact as much and give much clues. Plus, their brain is still developing

[@bloodymares]

I guess it can depend based on the upbringing. If the person doesn't interact much with other kids until they go to school, they might not have acquired enough social experience to really shape their personality there. It's one thing interacting with parents in relatively safe environment, and a whole different experience being on your own, trying to fit in and make friends.

[@Reegish]

Babies interact a lot with the people around them, it’s just harder to see the evidence because they’re not as developed. My kids were very distinct from birth, and their personalities, while developing and changing with age, have some distinct constants. Maybe they don’t have specific types at birth, but there are things that don’t change much over time.

[@anthonyfelix2972]

I definitely think genetics has a strong factor. I'm an INTP with a fraternal twin that's an ESFJ, a ISFJ mother and a ENFJ father. Since my 3 closest family members have Fe high up in the stack I was able to learn how to tap into my inferior Fe sooner but it gave me a lot of issues early on in my upbringing. It wasn't until I left for college and spent more time by myself that I learned how to use my Fe in smaller dosrs

[@leeguo9443]

yeah..my mom's fe kinda makes me use it alot more even though I'm not comftorble with it

[@altsak840]

ISFJ mother and ENFJ father - I became an ENTP 😁

[@omomo202]

I'm ENFP and I LOVE my routine! I find having scheduled free time is so much more relaxing. I wake up at a regular time and go to bed at a regular time. I also hate being late and waiting around for others UNLESS they tell me beforehand they will be late. I grew up with an extremely organized ESFJ for a mother and an always absent ISTP stepfather. He was nice when he was home but that man was restless! We moved all the time. My younger sister is ISTJ and she can be pretty talkative having grown up with my mom and I. My husband is Japanese and ISTJ and he rarely calls his parents and they rarely call him. I talked to my mom every day! ;lol. Having said that, he's in the world of sports and he's away a lot and hates the thought of living in one place for the rest of his life. I'm with him on that!

[@maanlicht8583]

Still an INFP, though working at a store really improved my small talk skills and being more expressive.

[@novds]

Intj here. I grew up having a normal and happy childhood, as an only child. My mum pressed me hard to do well in school, to be a perfectionist, but i remember when i was young, that i liked to play chess with my classmate, and i don't have many friends even now. I like strategic games, and yes i do wear fashionable clothes so people would think nice of me, or is what they say. I don't what to talk about exactly so yeah take this with a gran of salt

[@marinac444]

I’m an INFP and I grew up in a family where, well, let’s say, things didn’t go as smoothly. I wasn’t abused or something-no, nothing like that, it’s just I was the most emotional one and it often backfired. So, I’ve always appeared cold or maybe even aloof to people (as FJ said) and I’m often mistyped for TJ type. Recently, my group mate has told me that she thought I was an ESTJ for 2 years and she was shocked to learn that I’m actually an INFP

[@Lokis_Tea]

Frank’s channel is the best one to go to when trying to make an analysis on yourself or others. This is really really helpful ✨

[@radosawkierzkowski5339]

I am an ESTP raised by a family who did a lot of planning. So yeah ESTP can make plans too even for 1 or 2 years ahead. Also, I am irritated when they are saying ESTP is not loyal romantically. It depends on how they raised you!

[@wkpopchannel1128]

Growing up with lots of friends I never thought I was an introvert until I learnt the difference between being social and extrovert. Your environment really does shape you but my sensor parents couldn't stop me from becoming an INTP lol so nature also plays a part I believe

[@lyaneris]

(INTP also) I can definitely look like an extrovert if you start talking to me about aviation XD

[@rebeccabrandish3374]

I have 2 brothers, no idea what personality types they are, but they're extroverted. I used to be jealous that they had more friends than me, the older I got, I realised that I didn't want a lot of friends, obviously I'm an introvert.

[@TheGreatWerebear]

It's worth noting that personality formation actually starts prior to birth. Babies' personalities after they're born are impacted in-utero by factors like mom's cortisol levels. And you can observe certain characteristics in a baby before they're born. EG my firstborn, who's just about the most go-with-the-flow toddler in the world, was already exibiting that tendency at his 20-week ultrasound. When the tech wanted him to move, she'd nudge at him with the wand and he'd just roll right over. It was like that later on in pregnancy, too: if he was positioned in a way that was uncomfortable for me, I could just nudge him and he'd shift. Meanwhile his little brother (due in January) has been demonstrating since that 20-week ultrasound that he's gonna do what he wants and he's not really interested in taking suggestions on how he's positioned. I imagine we'll be seeing that in his personality after he's born as well.

[@SYAITAN-us7wv]

Dang that's lot of words

[@markwright3161]

@@SYAITAN-us7wv It really isn't. :)

[@AnnaMayKremer]

Looking back I can tell all 3 of my kids’ MBTI types were set before they turned one and possibly long before that. My youngest was very active in my womb and that carried on throughout his life.

[@dustycouch4526]

My personal life has been a journey. I am 99% sure i was born an ENFP, but during my late middle school years, I changed because of a lot of self-criticisms, and I took a step back to understand me. That was when i became an INFP. then, later in life, i accepted that just because a lot of other people don't like me, doesn't mean I can't like myself. for some reason, I then made a drastic change, and somehow turned into my rival type; the INFJ. ever since, i was very in tune with Ni and Fe, but i still have the essence of Ne and Fi in me somewhere. although, Ne usually only kicks in when I'm using Fe, and Fi usually only kicks in when i use Ni... i don't know if that makes any sense.

[@kristofferbraddock3950]

I'm a parent of identical twins. One is an ENFP and the other is an INFJ. Only one data point, but I found it interesting that they have the same function stack except with the attitudes reversed. Additional info: ESFP sibling, ISFP and INTP parents.

[@GrafinVonHopper]

Como é o relacionamento entre os gêmeos? Eles se dão bem?

[@myec101]

Honestly this makes sense because my mom is an ESFJ and my dad is an ISTJ, one time she told me that when they met she had to tone down because she liked to go out, go to parties, hang out with friends, talk with people but my dad is the complete opposite so she adapted to that and my dad learned to be a little bit more care free 😅

[@vaylaria9945]

As always, your videos are awesome! FWIW, intp here that fully agrees with your final thoughts, seeing many children in my family grow over decades. It's amazing how early you can see some basic traits in babies (esp intro/extroversion), and watching how various things in childhood can make a personality go one way or another.

[@psychwithkrithika2]

MY GOOD GOD, HOW DO YOU COME UP WITH INTERESTING SUBJECTS EVERY SINGLE VIDEO WITH THE 16 PERSONALITIES? THIS IS INSANELY MIND BLOWING

[@ninasolum8868]

@Frank James 14:14 Undoubtedly, I rember being a baby. I described my first Christmas to my mother. Her mouth dropped as she said, "Nina, their is No Way!?! You were not even a year old." I described the events in detail and nearly blew her mind. When I asked, a doctor explained: "When a child is exsposed to new stressors, the memory is captured and stored, as they are learning. If a child is offered No stressors the potential for memories is reduced by the lack of learning instances." Think about how days get blurred together when you do the same thing every day, like in school. ~INTP

[@faithworks217]

I've heard that being able to remember things from very early childhood is a sign of creativity. My pastor's wife remembered things about a house her family lived in before she was a year old. They moved from that house only a few months after she was born. The lady who was in charge of the nursery at church saw a toy clown with a wooden nose the first day she entered the nursery. It triggered a memory. She had a toy clown just like it when she was a baby. She remembered the grain of the wood and how it smelled, and that when she tried really hard, she was able to turn the nose by herself and it played music. She felt so proud of herself that she managed to do that. Her mother said this incident happened when Robin was only 11 months old. Some remember even earlier. John and Paula Sandford, psychologists, wrote in one of their books about their son who had a recurring dream. It embarrassed him because he couldn't figure out why he kept having that dream and it seemed so goofy. He dreamed he was in a warm, dark place and there was a long, stretchy cord that he liked to pull on and wrap around his body and play with. It was actually a memory of him playing with his umbilical cord. His parents never told him, but when he was born, the nurse screamed when she saw his umbilical cord because it was so long. He didn't know that he had an unusually long umbilical cord.

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

I recall my first Christmas too every detail was born 88 n this was 6 months after Christmas of 88 the photo n receipt found n shown to me when older validated my memories

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

I was also told I may have photographic memory I remember events like videos playing in my mind every sound smell n everything. One was when I was 6months the other 2 n the other 4

[@violetazur]

It is technically both. I'm an ENTJ but I don't appear as an extrovert at all. Growing up, I didn't have much people to talk to, so it's hard for me to engage in small talk. I'm bad at talking to people if I have no business with them

[@end4567]

I noticed ENTJs are often not that extroverted in a social way. It's very surprising for me how quiet they can be.

[@affinity266]

Word. Great video, Frank.

[@thoroughlycaffeinated7353]

What I find fascinating is how relatives not raised in the same household have very similar personalities. You know, how your ten year old kid reminds you so much an an uncle who died long ago. I have two nieces who, their parents swear, act just like me (INTH). Even using the same unusual phrases I might, although I never spent much time with them as children. It’s a little spooky at times, but cool.

[@julissa37]

I'm a twin and my type is ISFJ my sister's type is ENTP We always have had the same enviorments like we shared all our classes and teachers in school but we are opposites :)

[@sparklenights5421]

that is so interesting

[@sunnyshinecreation]

That is super interesting indeed!

[@alexr6114]

Did your parents expect you to be two individuals or did they expect you to conform to be one personality? Many people do not understand that even identical twins are only identical genetically at conception. There are genetic differences that occur as a result of mutations shortly after in some twins and throughout life in others depending upon environmental factors such as contracting a virus. If parents expect and treat their identical twins as two individuals with the right to be different from each other, the twins are much more likely to become what they wish that they could be. Most kids will conform to parent's expectations even if they do not particularly like the expectations when very young.

[@stevenkinscherf6642]

Very cool video Frank! Please continue making more like this! Being INFJ myself, I find it really interesting to dive into the nuts and bolts of Meyers Briggs like this.

[@AndromedaMoon888]

I grew up in a very restrictive family dynamic as an ENFP (compounded by the pressure to excel in school) which resulted in me strongly developing my shadow functions. I can still tap into them but I don't like using them very much, though it took me a while to figure that out (my MBTI results must have changed 5+ times- now it's finally stabilized into ENFP which checks out according to the cognitive functions) I also remember reading somewhere once that your personality in your late-twenties or so is more similar to your personality when you were 6 compared to developmental teen/college years. Thought that was really interesting- I do feel like I've kind of "re-discovered" my child self over the years and have shed off the identities others tried to put on me

[@sangiaodich]

I was afraid when Frank says personalities would change but luckily he tell that they don't basically changes after that. I just love being an INFP, I love how I perceive my world, how I'm deeply connected with mostly everything, even my MBTI type. And yeah I'd love to stay as an INFP until I change my mind. My family mostly are intuitive, maybe that's why my intuitive energy in me has a very important role:)) have a nice day, I just wanted to leave a comment for no reason

[@ritsu305-u8g]

Just had a lecture about this topic in my behavioural neurobiology class yesterday. Very interesting stuff. Great video!

[@Redfork2000]

I'm really happy that you made a video on this topic, it's definitely one of the most debated topics I've seen in my time with MBTI. And I'm even happier to know that my stance on the topic is really similar to yours. I'm an INTP, and when I look back at my childhood I can already see a lot of signs of INTP traits in my personality, particularly strong Ti traits, like a thirst for knowledge, great curiosity and wanting to understand everything around me. I wasn't as interested in hanging out with other kids, and while they were all playing, many times I would rather sit down and read a book. I also loved all kinds of activities that were mentally stimulating to me. However, I can definitely say there's been a strong nurture factor as well. While I'm naturally someone who loves to learn new things and wants to understand new concepts and ideas, my parents really encouraged me to make the most with my skills and learn more, so I guess you could say I grew up in an environment that did indeed encourage the development of my Ti. Then again, inferior Fe is something that I've seen give me trouble way back, even during childhood, but as I've grown up I have started to grow in those weak spots. One thing that I particularly find interesting is that I seem to have rather good Si for an INTP. I think a big part of that is thanks to my mom (ISFJ), who is one of the people I spent the most time with during my childhood and adolescence. In fact, nowadays other people have told me that I don't act nearly as much as an INTP as they expect. To be honest earlier in life I was a lot closer to being the stereotypical INTP, and even to this day those traits still remain, it's just that over time I've grown, developed the areas I was weaker in, and now I'm a bit more well-rounded. I still get overwhelmed and feel a bit awkward in social interactions at time, but it's not nearly as apparent as it used to, not to mention I'm a lot more confident and able to keep a good conversation going, to the point some people might even mistakingly assume I'm an extrovert simply due to that. Even my Fe has developed a bit, even though it's still my weakest function by far. I've learned that at times just being blunt and saying what I think isn't always the best solution, sometimes it's important to read the situation, and understand whether or not it's the right time to say that. I've learned that sometimes when people talk about their problems, they don't necessarily want a solution, they just want to feel heard, so I stop myself from trying to give direct advice right away and hear them out. I try to read the situation, and understand if the person wants my advice or if they just want to be heard, and then act accordingly. It sounds simple but simple things like this have really changed the way I interact with people. While I'm still a bit clumsy at dealing with the more Feeling side of things, I feel like over time I've improved a lot. That doesn't change the fact that I am an INTP, but I've understood that being an INTP doesn't mean I'm locked into having the stereotypes of an INTP. Rather, I've learned to see it as a path for improvement. I know what my strengths and weaknesses are, and thus, over time I'm able to improve on my weaknesses, and see the progress that's been made. So yes, I believe I have been an INTP (at the very least, clearly inclined towards Ti), pretty much since my childhood days, but I do believe that over time, the environment I grew up in, and my own personal decision to improve have both played a role in developing as a person, and are why I now act differently from how I used to.

[@winniechan384]

I do think I'm born as an intp, after learning about my mbti, I realized just how many things from my childhood fits and it was quite a revelation

[@TheQwuilleran]

Frank! FJ~ great video about how Nature vs Nurture is usually "Both is good," and behavior does not necessarily match Type, whether from loops/grips, an environment that doesn't support self-expression, or just maturing and developing your other functions. P.S. I finally took the Cloverfield assessment, and was relieved to see I know myself well enough to score the same Type as usual (16 Personalities, Myers-Briggs long test, and looking at the Function Stack).

[@silverxpanda5852]

I'm an INFJ and sometimes I get skeptical if I really am an INFJ. But no, it's INFJ no matter what lol, and I think being with people I'm closer to tends to reflect how I act as a person. When I was with my ex (ISFJ) he was definitely able to think more in the present than I ever could. I was influenced by the choices he made, and how he was able to cope with certain stresses. Generally I was getting to know them as a person because I found it so interesting how different we sort of were, but also similar. It had a huge impact on me learning to think in the present, and when I took the personality test during that time period, I would score lower on my intuitive side and more on my sensing side. Being more in the present led me to also have a lower score on my introverted side, and a higher score on extraversion. So I was getting close to a kind of ambiverted ISFJ/INFJ. But then, my current boyfriend (INTP) he's definitely a very logical thinker, and now that if I were to take the test, I would get more of a thinking preference over feeling and result in INTJ. It's not that I'm losing myself, or that I don't have a more solidified self-identity, but more so I get so invested and interested in someone else I always question what it's like in their shoes, and as a result, I slowly morph into or adapt some of the ways of thinking or choices they make because it's different from my usual familiar preferences lol. Afterall, we all tend to learn a thing or two with the people we spend our most time with (and it helps broaden my perspective on all different kinds of people)

[@abc123xyz48]

INFJ here. V nice 👍🏼 u definitely describe our chameleon mode of socialization. My dad was INTJ and I was very intelligent kid of him. My mom is an ESFP and I were always a shinny kid in parties 🎉 , singing, dancing , talking etc . My friend was ESFJ and I was great provider . My uncle was INTP and I was very logical thinker . My brother was ISTJ and I was very organized. N now my love is INFP and am very emotional. N this cycle repeat 🔁 . But I love my ESFP MOM AND INFP BEAU . I want them to develop their inferior functions . Especially TJ . N for this I found ISTJ people very attractive .

[@shannon1242]

Anecdotal here. Identical Twins raised in same environment. I'm INFJ and she is ENFJ. Sharing the feeling? Check Sharing introverted and extraverted traits? Check We are both Introverted Intuition and Thinking and Extroverted Feeling and Sensing.

[@Grendygirl]

I know I'm a thinking type, but I find weird is how fascinated and entertained I am by feeling types, in real life I find my compassion for others to be more logical (e.g. I have extra clothing so I donate) but if I watch a show or a movie with a very passionate/feeling type I can be moved to tears. I wonder if that makes sense.

[@jenner81]

After having 3 kids, I can confirm that babies are born with their personalities! My oldest was easy, independent, smart and learned things very quickly. Literally a week after she took her first steps, she was running! People didn't believe me that she had only started walking a week before and I had to show them the video with the date stamp on it! 😅 My second baby is my easy going chill one! She just sits back and watches all the craziness! She was my easiest to get to sleep and still goes to bed on her own with no prompting! And then my son came along... From day one he has been demanding and clingy! I had to co-sleep with him for 6 months, with me holding his hand or he wouldn't sleep! He still doesn't sleep! Lol He is also my sneakiest and has no qualms outright lying to me. He is also ADHD and extremely smart, so he if he thinks he can get away with it, he will do it. They've all been raised the same, but they are all completely different!

[@Alazsel]

Thanks! Love your jokes and never supported you before

[@FrankJames]

Thanks!!

[@imnotme2898]

The study you mentioned about the twins made me remember the 'Three identical strangers' documentary, which I recommend! Even though the fact that I said that I remembered the documentary while watching its a spoiler itself hahahaha Thanks for the explanation James! I'm getting more into the MB recently, and your videos are useful!

[@patriot639]

I agree the personality doesn't change. Before I took a deep dive into MBTI I thought that maybe I switched from INTJ to INFJ or maybe even an ENFJ. However no I've taken the test like once every 5-10 years so about 4 times in my life and it has always been INTJ. I have changed up my personality a lot to adapt to the world around me, but who I am at my core is apparently INTJ. I sure as heck wish that weren't the case, but that's life for you. Oh-well we can only ever play this game with the cards we're dealt and you've made me feel a lot better with them. I always felt like an outcast whom people couldn't understand and that lack of understanding has not lead to a pleasant life. You helped me to understand what being an Introvert meant, you helped me understand that my "quirks" aren't simply unique to me, but to my personality type. Also you helped me to understand my sister is not simply a crazy person she's just ENFJ, who's also a little crazy. So thanks.

[@faithworks217]

I tested as INTJ on Myers Briggs but recently realized I am INFJ. I was so happy thinking I was INTJ because I was such an emotional mess when I was younger, up until 31 years old. There is still more healing needed, but I've come a long way. I wore the INTJ tag like a suit of armour. I made logical decisions, no more stormy emotions, no longer vulnerable to narcissists. Well, I have learned to be more logical, but I was always aware that I was on shaky ground, that I could still be swayed by pity and get entangled in other people's messes, if I did not stay on guard. I had to become like an INTJ so that I did not get overwhelmed by other people's issues. In community college, I met a couple of other people who think they are INTJ, a teacher and a student, but I suspect that they are both INFJs.

[@patriot639]

@@faithworks217 People think of INTJ as emotionless, uncaring, unfeeling, robots when we do feel quite deeply. I'm an incredibly caring person. It is just hard for me to be proactive with that care both in practice and simply leaving my own mindscape. Many people mis-identify themselves because most people lack the objectivity to properly evaluate themselves. Feelers often "feel" like they're thinkers. Because we all feel and think, we all are extroverted and introverted, we all use intuition and sense, and we all do whatever the heck P is supposed to be it can be difficult to properly self assess even with the various tests online. It is probable you are not even an INFJ It is best to go through the questions with someone with a logical mind who knows you well or to be professionally evaluated if you are interested. All of these personality traits apply to everyone in big and small ways. Whatever your type is it is what mostly influences your thinking, not the only thing influencing it.

[@faithworks217]

@@patriot639 I was totally convinced that I am INTJ, so happy to wear that identity. It was like I was saying to people, "You can't get your hooks in me because I am LOGICAL, and my ideas make sense, if you let me explain them." Well, my ideas do make sense, if people let me explain them, but they would have to read a lot of recommended books and give me a lot of time to explain them. Lol! Then I was watching a video about the INTJ woman and I thought, "No, I'm not like that. I am not career-driven. I'd rather look after a husband and children. I'd rather be involved in Christian ministry." I'm retired now, can stay home as much as I want, and I love it. Also, the video said that the INTJ reads only educational stuff. She doesn't spend hours of time watching movies. Well, I have spent a lot of time watching movies, particularly Hallmark romances, though I don't watch them anymore now because I find them boring. But I spend a lot of time watching funny animal videos and they are the default entertainment when I have friends over, and we also look at my collection of hilarious memes. I have read a lot of educational books, but not dry, boring stuff that would advance my career or gets really deep into scientific explanations. I have a lot of general knowledge about many things, so I can usually find common interests with people to talk about. Short conversations, if they aren't deep thinkers. And my whole reason for being is to live for Jesus, not to make a big splash in the business or academic world. Also, I write poetry. Do INTJs write poetry? And I am really into flowers. Yes, I have a lot of books, boxes of them tucked away because I don't want my home to look like a library. It looks like a flower shop, with arrangements all over the place and buckets of silk flowers tucked in a corner for when I replace the arrangements as the seasons change. And I keep my Christmas tree up for months, sometimes all year, because it's so pretty.

[@patriot639]

@@faithworks217 INTJs do write poetry. It's usually not good. I think it's wonderful you're a Christian woman would rather be a wife and mother. That's a very important and meaningful vocation. Much more so than working in an office. INTJs enjoy fictional narratives, not just dry educational things. I prefer reading LitRPGs. I want to read a lot of educational things, but I channel that desire into my media which is 95% talk radio and then 5% audio books. That keeps me generally knowledgeable and informed which I like. Taking all the knowledge you can to better, as Frank would call it, your system to better understand the world to better predict and plan for the future is generally the essence of an INTJ. Lots of people do it, but none do it as naturally as an INTJ does.

[@faithworks217]

@@patriot639 I took a year of Business Management, got straight As, worked as a file clerk, receptionist, or as a secretary. Eventually worked as a secretary for two years in a Christian ministry before I retired. It was very interesting and my boss was a darling. But even that doesn't top the moment my grandson gave me when I was his nanny. I was sitting on my daughter's kitchen floor, washing it shortly after I moved in with her. Connor was three years old at that time. He threw his arms around my neck, hugging me tightly and exclaimed, "I love you, Lanny!" That's better than winning a trophy in the business world, as far as I'm concerned.

[@jam9219]

Really interresting ! My little brother is an INTJ and i'm an INFJ I was rlly surprised that our results are close even if INTJ and INFJ are rlly differents. Btw our dad is really an opposite he's an ESFP and our mom an ISFJ they both don't have the N but my brother and myself both have the N hahaha I had much troubles to affirm my feelings or ideas bcs my surroundings often say that I'm overthinking too much or don't understand me, since rlly young (even as a child). So I became a bit cold at first impression and I have some difficulties to give my ideas or to communicate clearly, but it was always more easy with my brother ! I rlly love to talk and share things with the INTX or ENTX types ! With INFP and ENFX it's a bit more difficult sometimes even if we laugh and share many things. Even if i have many infps friends (i love this type too btw) it's not the same I can't share too much with them, not as the INTX and ENTX types. My INFP and ENFX friends can be sometimes more bored or skip conversations more quickly (sometimes can get a little more defensive but not all of them) and i more likely a confident for them it don't bother me at all bcs I can share some things too and we joke too, but INTX and ENTX friends are more likely interrested by our conversations and share many ideas so i rlly love to talk with some of them (or joke around bcs I find most of them rlly funny, some pples say that they have weird humor but i love it). In fact my best childhood friend is an INTP haha But I can rlly understand pples who say that I'm difficult to understand or that i'm overthinking too much (I can be kind of weird too for some pples hahaha even if I show this side only with close pples !) I seem more attracted romantically too by INTX and maybe sometimes ENTX bcs they sometimes give me the vibe that they can make things a little bit more stable and logical and I rlly admire that fact too (kind of envy them sometimes on these points haha). I didn't meet another INFJ so i don't know if I would like a conversation with my type haha PS: I'm sorry for my bad english I try to improve it ! INFJ french girl haha

[@user-xo7re6kh8c]

Wow you really explain everything deeply 👌

[@rachelk4805]

From the day my daughter was born, she was the sweetest, most empathetic little thing. Not super high needs, always ready for a cuddle, always trying to help the people around her. Idk how I got so lucky. When she came into the world, it was such a traumatic experience for me, but she came as quickly as she could to help Mamma. 😊 Also I have an identical twin and we are both ENFPs.

[@incite2004]

Idk what my father's type is (nor do I care), but my mother is an INFJ, my siblings I was raised with were ESTP, ISTP, & ENFP. My favorite sibling is the ENFP. I am an INFP My boyfriend is an INTP My friends are a mix of mainly INTPs, ENTPs, & INTJs

[@romanastewart]

This helped explain a couple things for me, thanks FJ!

[@B.W.I.L.L.Y]

I'm an INFP, always have been, getting close to my 30's still thinking that I was born in the wrong century xD

[@ilovearashiandalanladd6922]

This is exactly the kind of stuff I've been wondering about! Thanks for the video! It took me a while to figure out from learning about the functions that I'm actually an ENFJ, and to believe it. On tests I usually got INFP. When you're a HSP that's been hurt a lot and developed severe social anxiety as a teenager (and have no friends), you can think that you must be an introvert. But of course that's inaccurate, and lately I've been remembering how social and fun-loving I was as a kid.

[@yayalu8650]

I agree with your hypothesis Mr. FJ. Cognitive functions are likely given to us at birth. Hearing stories about my childhood make me realize I already had the temperament of an INFP as a baby and toddler.

[@AnnaMayKremer]

Looking back I can tell all 3 of my kids’ MBTI types were set before they turned one and possibly long before that. My youngest was very active in my womb and that carried on throughout his life.

[@typicalpixelanimator]

Hey FJ, Nice video! I've always been curios about this topic! :) As an INFP who has an ESTJ dad. He always told me to have a plan and study, to which I did not only to get uh.. Asian punishments. Now I'm an INFP who likes Math, more expressive and understand people's perspective. :)) Unrelated but last night I had a dream about you visiting my country and fixing up my dad's car for some reaaon lol

[@faithworks217]

Frank's videos are probably helping you analyze and resolve issues about your Dad and his way of getting ahead in life.

[@nitefrite]

Never been moved to comment before on an FJ video, but I completely agree with everything said here. I also don't believe you can change your type--it's inherent, and genetics and temperament have a huge impact on your future potential. There's a range of possibilities at the beginning, but then over time, it tends to narrow down and ultimately solidify into something more concrete around 12 y/o when puberty is hitting. Of course, we're all capable of maturing and developing our weaker aspects beyond the point of constantly being presented as our type. That also takes time, experience, and overall desire to do so, I think. Great video! I loved it!

[@bloodorangemoon]

Ha! I just brought up mbti in therapy last week, I’ve lately started to wonder about wether you can change your personality or if it’s fixed. This couldn’t be more timely lol

[@mercuryrising2424]

I just tested as an INFJ and I thought I was an INFP.

[@abigailbascom2176]

It's great how Frank goes into random rabbit trail rants all the time on his videos! Thank you for acting like a real human being Frank, I love you man!

[@meltingpointcreations1457]

I’m an ENFP. My mom loves to tell how my oldest sister woke up every day yelling, my middle sister woke up every day giggling, and I woke up every day and went right back to sleep 😆😆😆

[@renbrent2314]

My enfp said, "wow" every day of babyhood/toddlerhood as she stared outside. She NEVER fussed. As a young adult, she sleeps forever.

[@jenniferblixt5148]

I used to work with newborns. This is so true about personality from birth, or even before. I’m an INTJ who became a mother at 19 years old and was a RN for over 20 years. I’m a great example of environment altering natural tendencies. I was a great yet unconventional nurse. Women still stop me in public and thank me for their childbirth experience.

[@SoggyBreadBun]

When i was 18 i was INFP when i turned 22 i tested again I got INFJ. I took the test again at 25 this year and got INTJ this time 😂

[@romeobrimingham4723]

Me and my sister and both INFJs. Both my parents and strong introverted feelers.

[@bubble_gum_witch]

I always thought i was an ISFJ but recently figured out i was an INFJ and i feel like its so much more accurate, tho different tests show different results

[@ourcozycorner8517]

Me: oh this is always a fun & interesting topic. Can’t wait to watch! Also me a few minutes in: quickly ending up in an existential crisis & completely second guessing that whole plan to start adopting like a dozen kids. 😂

[@cantin8697]

I find this interesting to reflect on. Great vid

[@ms.blackcat]

My intuition is at 52%. That means I swing sometimes between sensing and intuition, even though intuition is dominant and I use it a lot. I try to marriage the two when I can.

[@Cashcash08]

Same here. I'm intj with 52% intuition

[@yuschelsea4932]

same but ISTP with S as dominant (52%) but sometimes it becomes 52% N

[@misse7154]

I knew certain aspects of my daughter's personality even when she was in utero. Her movements were always fluid and she never "kicked" me- despite being highly active. Her father, who was only around for her first 6 weeks of life described her as "kind"- definitely a term I would use as well, but not something usually ascribed to a newborn. She's now 3, and exceptionally intuitive and extrenely empathic- like me. But her demeanor is very easy-going and adaptable around all social situations. She's a ham and loves to be the center of attention and make others laugh, and try to be comfortable. I'm an ENFP, and I have to admit she is becoming my mini-me! Sure, we've spent A LOT of time together, but I've been astounded by how hard-wired her personality is. Her dad is an ESFP, and I certainly see some of those traits as well. It will be interesting to see if these traits "stick" as she grows up.

[@AnnaMayKremer]

Looking back I can tell all 3 of my kids’ MBTI types were set before they turned one and possibly long before that. My youngest was very active in my womb and that carried on throughout his life. They are all teenagers now.

[@sof5611]

Bro istg I was a HUGE ISXJ type growing up-- super organized, self-decisiplined, never procastinated, my hobby was literally making daily planners and decorative them with my organized collection of multicolored gel pens. And then in a year before I entered high school I flipped into an ISTP with 70% perceiving and 30% judging, the most unorganized being. It may have been puberty, i haveno idea why--- My mom is an ISFJ and my dad i an ESTJ, but my brother is an ENTP. I never really got along with my brother until a few years ago, which I assumed was when I wasn´t an ISTP.

[@keharacek]

I believe I am ISFJ by nature, but I think that the effects of my rough upbringing and being a target of bullying in elementary school steered me towards being INFJ, but not all the way, more like I am IXFJ, where X is highly dependent on my current mental health situation. Generally, when I am happier, I tend to not think so much and score way higher towards ISFJ, rather than when I am unhappy and stuck in my head, which isn't necessarily bad, but I think it's just not my kind of tea and can't handle it well in a long term, but it usually floats me toward INFJ.

[@gabrielbezerra8261]

I've grown in a very extroverted and social family. Family who had parties every weekend and had visits all days of the week. (At least 15 to 20 people daily) I've had to learn how to talk, walk and behave, couldn't demonstrate bad traits or bad behavior, even if I saw many of them all the time. So today I'm the most social efficient family member, I know how to act and talk, I can make people like me and I can make friendship quite easily, if I choose so. But I'm an INTJ, and after I've grown, and have passed through several breakdowns doubting who I really was and wondering why I was different, I just do it when I want it or when I have to, which is rarely. That's why I think it's funny when my friends call me "fake introvert" but I see people outside my family once every three months or so and I'm honestly very happy, people are annoying and I get tired quite fast (but I can fake that I'm not). Also I've learned that I can be an true a-hole if I do so want and people won't be mad at me somehow because of my social skills. Honestly it's a strong power, but I rarely use it because I think it's annoying.

[@JohnHenrysaysHi]

Thank you, Frank. 👍 If you celebrate, I hope you and yours are having a very Happy Cyber Monday. Someone asked what to get for Christmas because of the sales. I asked for an orange shirt. This is for overthinking about joining in the color fun for your "If Colors Were People". 🧡 That's also where I discovered your fantastic Proof Santa is an Introvert thanks to a commenter. Take care. And Happy Holidays to Editor Kevin for bringing back the Shrek edit!

[@ThatWomanIsNotMeAndImNotWhite]

Thank God for your life. I feel happy to learn this. Praise the Lord for your life. Also to everyone, know that Jesus is the way to life. If you follow him, you have nothing to worry about ♥️

[@sara.the.muggle]

Thanks for the video, Frank. Keep on keeping on 👍

[@david34nl96]

I know personality type can’t change, but what about people with PTSD? They no longer feel the same, or act the same, or think the same, and this might even be a permanent change, not just a loop or a grip. Do their personalities change, or is it the same and they only use it differently?

[@lailanitukuafu]

Interesting question! My hypothesis is that the personality doesn't change but they use it differently. Your type is the basic hardwiring of your brain, but different factors affect your behavior as well. As an example, INFPs are naturally emotional and kind of detached from reality. But if an INFP goes through some sort of traumatic experience because of these traits, maybe bullying, that person is taught to fear and distrust those tendencies. They connect their trauma with that behavior so out of self-preservation, they suppress it. This traumatized INFP could come off as very cold and confrontational. It would seem that they're not an INFP anymore and their personality changed. But that exterior would be a learned defense mechanism, not their nature. The emotions still come because they can't help that. But they bury it deep down and reject it out of fear.

[@jijitters]

What a great topic to tackle!

[@nathaniellee2270]

FJ, I always appreciate your insight! Thank you for your work 💖

[@luiiiandmovieee]

I once made a family tree with mbti types and I figured out that we're a pretty introverted family. Many IxFx types (me as an infp being one of them)

[@IzzyKawaiichi]

I really get what you're saying at 11:40. I tested MBTI repeatedly in high school and always got INTJ no matter what version of the test. In college I had to take it again for a health class and discuss the results with a career counselor. That time I got INFJ. I was surprised, but I figured it's not a perfect system anyway. However, when I went to the session, the counselor said "So! You're an INTJ!" And I was like "Well... usually, but that's not the result I got this time?" And he said "Yeah, but look at your chart-- You are just over the line in F/T territory, but we only ever see introversion this extreme (his words, not mine) with INTJs. So you're an INTJ. Maybe you've just developed your Feeling a little more." This made sense to me because I had some difficult times during the latter half of high school and into my college years, so I'd been going to counseling for a few years.

[@kolj3810]

This is the conceptual framework I derived from this video as it relates to Jungian thought (whether it lacks nuance or not (I'm still gonna use it)): Shadow + ego = self (authentic self) = mbti type = personality. Ego = exhibited self = exhibited mbti type = exhibited personality. Shadow = inhibited self = inhibited mbti type = inhibited personality. Main takeaway from this model being that your mbti type at it's core would be unchanging, even as you develop an ego and shadow. The ego-shadow tradeoff would just determine your types expression.

[@madeleine5803]

Finally a video on this topic! I always wonder about this.

[@user-bk3xu5yz8c]

Thanks for doing this video. I have been wondering this question ever since I found out my mbpt a couple of months ago, and I came up with the same exact conclusion as you. I appreciate the data breakdown. Keep up the awesome work 👏

[@guesswho5790]

I wonder what the MBTI system thinks about personality disorders. I have had BPD, and it's basically cured by learning how to cope with all the FEELINGS (and processing the trauma). But my worldview is still skewed sometimes by the disorder. We tend to generalize small details. Like, oh this person has left me on read. He's plotting against me and doesn't love me anymore (which I can now see is a bit dumb and oversimplifying... Very low on the S part of things) . It's like if someone's low self-esteem controlled everything about a person. Nevertheless, I have always, ALWAYS been more of a J type, and actually extroverted. But mean people made me more introverted and anti-social/withdrawn. And my main friend group were such P types that I had to adapt. But ultimately in my heart and soul, I feel my most authentic self as an ENFJ when in a group. I saw your video on how to know if a type likes you and I related SO much. Bc I have had people I had no interest in whatsoever say they thought I liked them, and when I am really into someone I will not speak to them. I'm basically flirting with everybody else though lol.

[@letsreadtextbook1687]

Is bpd a since-birth disorder? Prob some Fe dom then

[@katerinas4970]

"Can you change your personality?" I would say modify. In the past 9 months I have undergone a graphological therapy and last weekend I did the Big 5 test after let's say half a year and the results have changed to my surprise! For instance neuroticism dropped by 15 points, my extraversion dropped by a few points too and my openness to experience rised by 5 points. I consider these changes as a valid prove of my personal growth. :-D :))) still ENFJ, though. :)

[@Missmagazinebura]

With therapy. ? I’ve been to therapy for years and they never told me to change

[@mwihakitabitha5255]

LOVE THIS thank you for sharing.

[@ww_artemis]

As an ENFP who grew up with two abusive xSxJ parents, my sense of independance and self direction are very developped, but also my feelings are hidden quite deep inside since I distanced myself from them very early on during my teen years, and relied a lot more on my Te. A lot of people assume that I am an xxTJ because of how pragmatic and detached I can appear sometimes, but once I get to know people, I unleash my Ne onto the poor souls whom I happen to enjoy the company.

[@Oddmartian2]

Gonna go spill milk on some babies now to figure out their types. Thanks Frank! (Update: I guess none of the babies were ISTP because they all cried. Also, I am now banned from the daycare center.)