Signs Each of the 16 Personalities are STRUGGLING

[@EliasShenasi]

0:53 ESFP 1:30 ESTP 1:59 ESFJ 2:37 ENFJ 3:20 ISTJ 4:02 ISFJ 4:54 ENTJ 5:41 ESTJ 6:31 ENTP 7:03 ENFP 8:01 ISTP 8:34 INTP 9:26 ISFP 9:55 INFP 10:31 INTJ 11:13 INFJ

[@CommentThere]

Thanks!!

[@medusagorgon9]

Mental health is such an important issue! We have to get past the stigmas and taboos people have created around it! Thanks for this!

[@unnecessaryapostrophe4047]

The "stigmas and taboos" are a byproduct of the culture of psychology. The vocabulary and norms associated with mental health treatment are alienating to many people, especially men.

[@Пинагод]

This is a quote from my favorite KZbinrs on the importance of mental health: "Think of how many people who've died from a leg injury. Now, think of how many people who have died out of PTSD." The guy that quoted that has been through the military and often talked about how many men left that place filled to the brim with mental health issues, yet they're never given the chance to properly express it, neither do they even realize that they needed help to begin with. A lot of people think that since mental health happens mentally, it can be overcome, but the whole point is that it can't be naturally healed like a physical injury. Sure, it doesn't actually hurt as much as a physical injury - But it isn't as easy as solving that physical injury. What makes mental problems hurt is how complicated and influential it actually is.

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

At the end of the day, it a footballer injured his knee and had to take time out, no-one (let alone a severely-dyspraxic 14-year-old who couldn’t kick or even straight-walk his way out of a plastic bag) would see him as incapable or incompetent/kick him while he’s already-down because they know he’d spring to agile-action once he was back on his feet. Similar Phoenix-esque analogy for mental illness and eventual recovery. Only a low scumbag with a dead I.Q. was use someone’s bearing during a very low point in their life as indicative of their overall nature and capabilities. Things happen to everyone and anyone can be anything.

[@FirstNameLastName-wt5to]

We should stop calling it mental health as if it’s a problem that needs to be fixed. It’s really just normal human reactions to a messed up world. Labeling it as a mental health issue is invalidating and the only purpose is to sell you drugs so you don’t demand the world change and be not so messed up.

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

@@FirstNameLastName-wt5to it’s really not. Psychotic depression, catatonic schizophrenia, trichotillomania and Bell’s mania have existed since the beginning of time and (in some form or-other) across all the world and are not ‘normal reactions to a messed-up world.’ An illness is a sodding illness, whether it’s a general-medical or psychiatric/mental-health one. Don’t be silly.

[@melodyconte]

I appreciate that your sponsored segments are just as entertaining and funny as your main content 😊 I see you, Frank!

[@spectorcsm]

Ikr lol probably the first and only sponsor segment I've ever watched through in any video haha

[@EllePlowPlow]

He’s the only KZbinr that I watch the sponsored part of his videos. He always makes it worth it lol

[@Lolo-lt2lf]

FRRR

[@Lolo-lt2lf]

Fr FJ

[@theporcelainunicorn8194]

100% agreeeeee

[@helenwood8482]

All very recognisable. I'm INFP and once in a bad patch I dropped my keys (I hadn't slept in days) and I burst into tears and told my sister, "I'm so stupid, I can't even hold things now." She suggested I might need to have a rest.

[@nicoleestigarribia3131]

This is so relatable and accurate, the exact kind of situation I find myself in when I'm struggling. I recently had a rough patch (at least a week without sleep, and chronic health issues) and was in such a vulnerable and fragile emotional state, I would burst into tears at any little thing. I had to do a chore around the house that took me a long time to start, so my brother told me "go do something else, I'll take care of it." I fell apart. I couldn't stop crying, shaking and blaming myself for being so irresponsible and not helping anyone. He was very confused and just comforted me.

[@alittleinfppanda]

An elderly couple once told me I'm fat and I called my mom, sobbing, and apologized for being a failure at life. 😔

[@juliaweasley]

This made me laugh out loud. I'm sorry, it's just I'm an INFP as well and I can absolutely relate to this. I can find this hilarious now but when it's happening I'm "distraught".

[@MamaMOB]

Sounds about right. I got a flat tire once and ended up walking in circles for about five minutes until some nice man helped me. And I mean literally walking in circles. And I literally mean 5 minutes.

[@bluehats1]

As an INFP, I would not say that I was stupid. I would just sit on the floor and cry.

[@Musicandfilms7]

You nailed the INTJ, when I'm struggling with something everything in my life stops untill I solve that problem

[@omarplayz4454]

hi again frank

[@entangledatoms7153]

This appears to be a sign of struggle.

[@omarplayz4454]

@@entangledatoms7153 a sign of struggle?

[@entangledatoms7153]

@@omarplayz4454 woah. I wasn’t expecting you to reply to a 1 year old comment. Anyways, that was my poor attempt of a joke.

[@omarplayz4454]

@@entangledatoms7153 oh ok all good

[@V62926685]

I approve this INTP struggle-bus description 100%. Also - I love this format. Brief, but succinct and using the cognitive functions to explain. Keep up the great work man :D

[@AskForDoodles]

Can confirm. Me, default: 👁👄👁 Me, struggling: 👁 👄 👁

[@SnekSnak12]

Also.. hes funny

[@HollieBlack]

Same, I was nodding and finished his his sentence when he started saying we have to "find the absolute perfect..." solution . I have to write my problems and solutions out, make pros and cons lists, do research, ask for advice anonymously from strangers online, do more research, etc 😅

[@JuguitodeUwU555]

Totally! 👌🏻 Today I was writing a list of pros and cons about starting my master's degree rn or next year :p Is such a pain in the head

[@emp9413]

That intro was hilarious!

[@anealin]

I am an infj. My 14 yo cat is struggling with several surgery complications at the moment, and she is like a daughter to me. So I really feel like being detached from my body and from reality, and I do some routine things religiously like cleaning the house, ironong clothes just to feel in control. My day is a constant care for my cat not also physically, but also in my mind: I observe patterns, analyse tests, create possible outcomes and plans for them. Actually, it helped save her twice, but this is draining. I feel like I send her energy in a background mode so I have to be focused. Infj life....

[@wren_.]

is your cat alright OP?

[@izanai3790]

ISTP - Literally so accurate because I just disappear from the face of the world whenever I’m going through something🤣 but I also relate to ENTP where I believe most of my struggles come from my commitments and then I rashly quit/get rid of those commitments after being so done with everything

[@lacusrengoku5087]

I am INFJ, and I just got my professional license of counseling.

[@weirdo-potato3697]

I'm an INFJ studying clinical psychology I love it

[@ashleyshotwell3452]

INFJ is definitely me. I escape into books or binge my favorite KZbinrs for long periods of time. Also, I've been known to 'create a movie scenario' in my head while I'm trying to fall asleep if I'm having a particularly difficult time getting there. I did this a lot as a child, and still do sometimes as an adult in her 30s.

[@raddaks2039]

INTP and same on the scenario to sleep thing. I think it's just a helpful sleep aid? At least that's how I treat it.

[@thetiredworm2100]

Making scenarios in your head before sleep is very common, it’s normal, BUT can become unhealthy if daydreaming begins to inhibit your life, your constantly escaping reality into an idealistic or fun world for hours and hours, you seem to constantly wonder off while doing things your supposed to be doing.

[@pinkie547]

Omg the "create a movie scenario" part is so true! I do it almost everyday (or everyday) to go to sleep!

[@lanascribe]

Omg me too!!! Thanks for making me feel like a little less of a weirdo!

[@maudline]

Are you me?!

[@hourlymichi2594]

that’s true, as an INFJ, i was in depressive loop and struggling months ago and the only thing that entertain me enough to distract me was by watching your videos over and over again lol 😭

[@rielhawkrht2536]

Have you seen the show "The Mentalist"? I know this might sound stupid, but it has this odd wholesome effect....

[@zumizumi2319]

Me too😭

[@anonymous-cx7ng]

I’m ISFP I was born depressed I have autism too

[@ti9erlilly]

For my latest one, it was Markiplier and his friends. Before that, it was How I Met Your Mother and New Girl, and before that it was Supernatural and Bones. My first ones were Lord of the Rings extended edition, the OG Star Wars trilogy, and Harry Potter. Then I'll sometimes play the same song on repeat for hours. It's a different song almost every time, last time it was "Black Creek" by Brent Cobb. All of my coping content take turns, depending on what time of year it is and what type of thing I'm struggling with. I'm doing ok right now, so I've been branching out watching new things, and getting out of the house more often, but it'll come back around soon enough. 😅

[@lawrencebolt3540]

Just broke up with an INFJ. Some of you are super super toxic. 🙄

[@alextorres990]

Omg my ENFP mom used to literally drive me crazy when she was struggling. When she broke up with my step dad, she woke us up at 3am and drove 2 states over so we could zip line across some random mountain. ENFPs are all fun and games until you're 6 years old and screaming across a mountain, at 7am 🤣. I love it.

[@stellatelmi]

Lol.. I just quit my job last month.. without knowing what to do next.. and almost destroyed a long time relationship.. Im supposed to be very stressed out cause I have no income now.. but.. hell, I feel better.. lol

[@aramskaef6955]

Wow as a 22 yo ENFP, this sounds VERY unlike my parents but kinda like me. I remember once I got really mad at home so I just decided to WALK to the nearest town to us (15 km away) and back. It was pretty fun tbh, I saw some cool spots that I never had seen before!

[@IndigoBellyDance]

ENFP mom here: having a hard time right now, we r all fun & games till shit hits the fan & u r bringing your kid to get expensive dessert at 9pm at night. & having all the deep convos. And telling your kid u r dead inside Asking my kid if I can take a traveling job

[@Takisan111]

As a neurodivergent INFP, you are absolutely right. For a long time I believed that every thing that went wrong was my fault and I often talked down about myself for being a useless load to everyone. I eventually did something spontaneous and had a good time and it motivated me to get therapy. Turns out all this bad stuff makes less sense when sad out loud.

[@Takisan111]

​@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs Yes there is a difference though it's worth noting that even neurotypical INFPs can be different from each other. I brought up my neurodivergence because I took a very different path to get to the same place. Because of the extreme different ranges in neuro diversity there is no one size fits all, even with folks in the same group. In my case I am a verbal autistic that has gotten really good at masking in public. The biggest struggle for me while typing was figuring out learned traits vs natural traits as I changed so much of myself over the years to fit in. I frequently tried to convince myself that I couldn't be an INFP because of how much I changed myself. An INFP is all about trying to be authentic and staying true to themselves as opposed to me who grew to genuinely not like myself for the longest time because I abandoned everything that made me happy for some validation from other people. I would later learn that this actually helped me be the INFP I am today as I've learned the hard way how bad it feels to be fake and that the common stereotypes you see online are not the ideal I need to live up to. I don't need to be an all loving sunshine child, I just need to find a version of myself that makes me happy. Intuitive vs sensing was the easiest to figure out since sensors tend to be more focused on current matters and are good at doing things as they happen. My mind bounces everywhere and I spend ridiculous amounts of time planning things out only to chicken out at the last moment and wing whatever I was trying to do (do not recommend, it doesn't always work). Judging vs perceiving was a lot harder because it essentially boils down to organization and planning. As an autistic individual, I have a daily routine that keeps me focused which most people would immediately assume makes me a J type. However my routine is born from overstimulation and is a learned habit I began doing as a desperate attempt to have some control over my life. Outside my routine, I'm very disorganized and any plans I make are usually flexible enough to change at a moments notice. I'm an organized chaos type of person. Thinking vs feeling was also a very difficult one to figure out as xNxPs are obsessive learners, always looking for new things research. So simply being into research or learning was not enough to decide. Not helping me was the issue of my routine and overstimulation issues. I have a habit of numbing myself emotionally just so I'm not overwhelmed by every single complicated emotion I come across in the wild. I genuinely wondered for a while if I was an INTP because of how some people in my past have compared me to a robot (something INTPs are unfairly stereotyped as being like). What ultimately sealed me being an F type was the question what matters more in making a decision. A thinker will decide to do something because the facts say this is the best course of action. A feeler decides based on how each options makes them, well, feel. Despite my faith and interests in facts, sometimes taking that approach risks something happening that I would rather not deal with. Of all the choices however, the one that has given me the most sleepless nights was introvert vs extrovert and it all boiled down to how child me was so much more outgoing and hyperactive than present me. That was a serious mistake to do. There's a reason its recommended that children don't bother with MBTI till they are older. A child is still growing and changing. Who they are changes every day. Despite what I tried to convince myself, I was absolutely not an ENFP with anxiety issues. I'm so much an introvert that I actually miss the 2020 quarantine. Anyway, I think I had a point somewhere in this but I think I went on a bit of a tangent. I know you asked specifically about neurodivergence in MBTI and all I did was talk about myself for several paragraphs. It's getting late where I am so I need to stop for now but if you have any further questions I'm open to answer them the best I can later after I've slept. I didn't even get into the cognitive functions this time around. I hope at least something in this huge messy wall of text helped a little.

[@analisamelculo85]

As an INTJ, I doubted a lot about the J part, Most of my life I've been a really organized person that always got things done and had a lot of plans that I always achieved, but these last couple years, my life is so messy and I feel like I don't care about deadlines, my health, my career or anything. Someone did something really heartbreaking and actually illegal to me. Since then, I kinda lost confidence in myself, as this powerful person I used to feel, that event made me feel vulnerable, weak and impotent. It's just recently that I've realized that I am not this person, and that traumatizing event that I've been neglecting and acting like I moved on from it, is the cause of my current bad mental health. Neglecting that events affect my mental/emotional health is such an INTJ thing to do, and well, learning about MBTI along with taking therapy has helped me confront those repressed old emotions

[@sharmaineandes9296]

an INFJ here, imagination really is my escape to reality hahaha.. and now watching a lot of clips and videos just to ease my stress really .. well I'm somewhat good at dealing my own struggles :)

[@katharina3362]

omg samee

[@zeynepkaratas9844]

Yes, same! I always daydream when I feel down or depressed.

[@bluebellbell3725]

Same

[@gailnichols1284]

INFJ also - I paint abstracts - really good to keep me mentally sound.

[@larada7549]

the infp is so accurate.. I had a mental breakdown the other day because I couldn't open a jar and that's when I concluded maybe something bigger is going on 🙃

[@lishayost44]

wow, I so relate to this. -intp

[@haileye5513]

Frr

[@acharich]

Sounds like my Mrs.. 😅😭🤣

[@jobethhillyard4192]

yup INFP is pretty accurate. This might be specific to me, but I will also start to shut down and isolate myself as much as possible. Talking about my struggles never helps and just makes it worse so I don’t bother anymore. But yeah, we basically go into crisis mode 🤠

[@AnnieIsaLau]

Yeah I shut down, that's what I do most. But if I find the right people to talk to, then I'm happy to share.

[@larada7549]

I think too if you find the right person, sharing does help! most people just try helping or understanding your struggles for you and that's so unhelpful and exhausting but if you have someone who just accepts what's going on and is there for you, it eases the struggle for me at least

[@luminyam6145]

Agree, I shut down too. Fortunately I married my conscience (ESFJ) and I tell him everything. But at first I just shut it all down, sometimes it takes me days or weeks before I can discuss the issue without breaking down and crying.

[@angelagoodwin5758]

@@AnnieIsaLau Exactly!

[@angelagoodwin5758]

@@luminyam6145 It must be a blessing to have someone in your life you can talk things over with.💙

[@BigSisAne]

“ISTP will disappear until they work through it” This is why most of my sick days are mental health days. So I can work through it. The last one ended up being physical as well, throwing up due to stress really is something

[@TheRealSavage05]

Wait a sensor into mbti

[@currymuttonpizza2]

INFP here. I said in another comment that I also related very deeply to ENFP and INFJ, but I was thinking about the INFP bit and how you said we’re a tough read because of our reputation for being depressed. I think the key difference is that a healthy INFP will say "everything sucks and is pointless, so enjoy what you can, life is meant to be enjoyed, we are meant to connect with others and make their lives brighter too, even quietly." A lot of people who don’t have this outlook will see "everything is pointless" over the positives, and it comes off as pessimistic, but I don’t feel that it is, it can be freeing. But an unhealthy INFP will say "everything sucks and is pointless" and we draw the worst conclusions about the world and how other people view us. Connecting real life to something more poetic and abstract is what fuels us when we’re doing well, and when we’re not doing well, we lose that footing, and not only will we assume the worst in every possible situation, we conclude that the connecting to the abstract is just a sign that we’re horrible people who are incapable of being fully present in the moment. And also that the world is going to end anyway so there’s no point in doing something fulfilling in the meantime etc etc. I’ve had it happen where it’s like a three step process: step one is the ENFP reaction. Step two is where I come crashing down from that impulsivity and withdraw closer to the INFJ reaction. But the INFP fatalism is usually when I realize I’ve been withdrawn for so long and I can’t forgive myself for it, and it’s the worst one, and what usually pushes me to get help.

[@lishayost44]

I relate a lot to what you're saying, even down to the progression of a struggle to where eventually you're finally at the end of your rope and you finally realize you really need help. - intp

[@soph.b6054]

Yes and no. Believing the world is pointless isn't inherently an INFP thing, that's just your worldview. As an INFP I certainly don't believe that. Everything else though I can relate to

[@naginiriddle7091]

@@soph.b6054 I don't think it's necessarily that the world is pointless so much that you start thinking nothing you do will change the circumstances or outcome, so why try? I related heavily to the op here. One example I can think of is just having friendships. I struggle with them so much, and all I can seem to do is see the negative, and it gets to the point where I sometimes think it isn't worth the effort of trying to figure out friendship because I am doomed to just not find good friends. And on top of that, I think of myself as a failure because it must be me that is causing the search for friends to not succeed. So then I want to stop trying because it just feels easier and less painful than trying. I haven't actually given up on it, and am working very hard at it, trying to recognize triggers that cause me to shut down, and trying to trust myself and others. But I really understand the feeling that my efforts are futile and that I am just destined to never succeed at it. The good news is that I've been taking steps for the past 2.5 years to move away from that kind of thinking, and I'm more conscious of my mental health and recognizing when I'm struggling and trying to make sure I think rationally and take care of myself. I still have moments of doubt and failure, but I'm getting better at recognizing those moments and seeking help during them. I feel like I've made a lot of progress, but I also know it is still going to take time and practice to get myself in a healthier state of mind. And after all that, I am sure I will still come off as moody and depressed 😅 that infp life, hahahaha

[@soph.b6054]

@@naginiriddle7091 That's fair- I can also relate to that. I struggle with a sort of toxic perfectionism, where if I feel like a task isn't going to turn out exactly the way I want it to, I don't even attempt to do it. It really sucks honestly. But similar to you, in recent years I've been trying to shut those doubts down, because all it does is to stop me from reaching my potential. I think life as an INFP is a journey of telling our inner critic to shut the hell up 😂

[@Datsyoashley]

As an INFP i try to enjoy every moment of my life and i mean that quite literally, whenever i have a chance to do smth fun or relaxe i absolutely will i just straight up ignore everything

[@ktvx.94]

Man I can 100% confirm the INTJ one. I usually tidy my room once a week or when I'm trying to rest my eyes and hands from tech while doing something productive, but when I'm feeling down my room gets horrendously messy and I have no energy to do anything but what's absolutely necessary for my job and maybe watch some videos or play a game, then just lie down.

[@nikolmichalou8426]

Also an intj and it's super accurate. You can really tell if I'm struggling or not just by looking at my kitchen. If I'm fine it's going to be clean and tidy everyday, but if I'm struggling you'll see dirty dishes from the whole week laying around everywhere

[@sushi_tuna01]

so we're all just collectively rot in bed when we're struggling

[@optimist-ri1439]

As an ISFP, I agree I will start a new project then drop it and start another, then another, I keep those to myself now. I would add another side of the ISFP when struggling, at least in my case, its rashly purging things to simplify my life. Regrettably, I have thrown out things and left relationships rashly. Seeing debt & material possessions as things that can keep me hostage stresses me out, so I'm very cautious about making rash purchases.

[@aimee5259]

INTJ here. Struggle-vision is such a good term! Been there, done that. Also, YES to the importance of mental health!

[@jolie7228]

Agreed! I feel like every time I get into the struggle-vision mode, my family and relationships go “out the window” unless I can schedule time for them… this often leads to break-ups and bitter family members. People often feel like I treat them like appointments or items when I’m stressed because I feel like I have to organize all creation just to not be constantly anxious. Considering therapy.-also INTJ

[@Jha9124]

Similar problems....!! 😶

[@katharina3362]

I´m an INFJ and honestly, I really struggle at identifying my own feelings a lot of the time. I can immediately tell if and why someone is feeling a certain way, but when it comes to my own feelings, I can´t seem to figure them out.

[@JustHereToHear]

Same my friend.. I need to get away fr everything and write things down sometimes, it may help

[@igtg]

i feel you..

[@pinkie547]

Same honestly, I'm starting to get all my feelings messed up and confused that I myself don't even know how I should feel, so I see how others feel 'bout a situation and just.. feel the same-

[@katharina3362]

@@pinkie547 yes same! I feel like I´m always waiting for other to tell me how I should feel and that´s so strange?

[@chrisr9952]

Journaling helps unscramble my mind and to even get anything done at all. I find I can write more honestly than I can share with others. I definitely sympathize with you on feeling others emotions way more clearly than my own; sometimes I feel like the emotions of those around me are my own... Then I get home and pace around for hours until I actually determine how I feel.

[@figs449]

Struggling INFJ here! I think the reason we do the same thing over and over again like watching your favourite film or over exercising, (I can walk and walk when I'm stressed, I suppose it's because it's a physical thing in the real world, so it makes me feel like I'm doing something but in reality I'm over thinking and going into a spiral) is because when I'm struggling making basic decisions like what to eat, what drink to choose etc causes so much stress that doing the same thing alleviates some of that 'extra' pressure.

[@Missmagazinebura]

Me too. I overthink

[@mussharatnaaz1325]

Hey 👋. Just checking on you. I understand how you feel. Are you doing fine now?

[@Imelda123]

Yes exactly. Dinner? A decision about dinner? Surely you jest! A new book? What are you trying to do, kill me?

[@folkis982]

So happy for a new video! I really like our work and it is so relatable to watch! Keep up the good work!👍/INTP

[@ls_waifu2789]

Yes!

[@colddark9330]

Yep

[@taradonelson9242]

Yep, INFP here. I've been fixating on tiny perceived flaws that I usually wouldn't care about and neither would anyone else. Thanks for helping me acknowledge how much I'm struggling. I'll make sure to take it easy on myself this week 😉

[@pari546]

The ISTP is quite accurate to how I am while struggling which blew my mind. Thanks FJ! 😁

[@coyotech55]

ISTP, I've disappeared more than once for awhile under big stress and only re-emerged when I had new plan worked out - somewhere else. I'm not too good at repairing relationships and situations that go seriously wrong. I prefer to just leave and start over. Therapy doesn't do that mindset much good. If they're taking the house, my old man is crazy, and I got fired, I'm taking my dogs and my truck and getting out of Dodge. That's a really common solution nowadays. And if the problem isn't so serious and is solvable, I'll just solve it. I hate drama, especially my own.

[@janmots2829]

That's a very astute observation of the INFJ when struggling because I have a habit of wanting to control things even things way out of my control which in the past led to very unhealthy behaviours. However, I'm now starting to manage my life better & feel good as a result of it. Thanks for an interesting video FJ. 👍

[@shelbywoo3229]

I almost always bypass sponsor info…not this time! I love seeing multiple FJs in scenes. Re: the content - my son is an INFP so this is very helpful as someone who wants to love him in the best and most helpful way. I’m an ISTJ so there are always opportunities to learn from each other. He’s a wonderful human being!

[@elise85391]

As an INFJ I have been using books to escape reality ever since Covid hit. Everyone always asks me how I read so much with everything else I have going on, and I'm like, lol, I just ignore my responsibilities, because reading is the only thing that lets me set aside any thoughts of the real world for a while

[@ChronaWyvr]

INTJ and I totally feel you on this! 🖤

[@affinity266]

Man, you shouldn't make a sponsor ads that are catchy and funny like this! we will keep re-watching them and ignore the lesson! 😎

[@FrankJames]

lol

[@megane0125]

INFP is accurate 😂 but maybe sometimes the self blame is warranted. Sometimes I would want other people to blame me to "feel better" and once they do I would feel hurt for blaming me 😅 but now I learned from a self help book that guilt is a selfish emotion and instead of blaming myself over and over, I should fix whatever that needs to be fixed, learn from my mistakes, and move on.

[@sariahsue]

INFP here. When I'm feeling upset or stressed or even sick, I don't even need to wait for little things to go wrong. I'll just start remembering everything that has gone wrong in my life EVER! Like every bad day attacking you at once! Fun times!

[@whaddyaa]

INFP who's been riding the struggle bus for a loong time here, and this was spot on once again. When I told my mom about my mental health issues her first response was "finally you're telling me something"

[@GartekVilen]

As an INFP, what was said about my struggle was so deeply and painfully accurate. Of course like everyone else, I can relate a little bit to some other types like ENFP and INFJ, we're only human. But the INFP one was the most relatable to me that it just hit me in the feels. It's too accurate.

[@Valkyrie-dx2oc]

The infj one is very clearly correct to me. I had a really bad childhood and when I finally got somewhere safe and normal, I couldn’t process everything I went through. So from the time I woke up to the time I went to bed I read books. Literally escaping to a different reality. It helped me and I learned a lot as well but in the process I completely neglected my younger sister and she never forgave me for abandoning her too. Didn’t realize till I was older what I was doing and how it affected her.

[@joycliffe266]

As an INFP, I had to chuckle over Frank's line that, "They get a reputation for being these depressed, mopey people even on a good day." Sad, but true.

[@aMereHooman]

sad, but not true. at least I'm not. people can't even guess that I'm sad without me telling (which is impossible) I wonder why we're different?

[@Multitudes_]

@@aMereHooman You're different because the stereotype is *not* true! Of course there *are* sad/depressed INFPs, as there are unhealthy and unhappy people of every type, but that just gets wrongly overgeneralized to INFPs as a whole.

[@CaveyMoth]

Lol, an ENFP I work with just put in his notice this week, and is going to move across the country! He has really been struggling. I'm still trying to find that perfect solution for my life. Maybe the next hobby will help!

[@sparkiebunnie8]

I never realized why I just stop taking care of myself when things are making me struggle. INTJ here and it makes sense now.

[@sophiavincent7485]

10/10- research, 10/10- concept development, 10/10- practical execution. Love how you carried the bus concept through the whole video, even the sponsored segment! Great video 🌟

[@jennifermorris6848]

OMG! This ENFP just rode the struggle bus last week. I bit people’s heads off. Snapped at my boss. Once I allowed other people to do the things I’d been guarding. Later in the day I was given an award for all the help I give people. YIKES! I was shamed by my snappy behavior earlier in the day. (Maybe I’m ENFJ?)

[@Dfd_Free_Speech]

Sounds indeed more like an ENFJ to me, as ENFP's typically are always happy when someone else does the(ir) tedious work ;-)

[@acharich]

@@Dfd_Free_Speech 🎯🤣

[@m_n_a_b]

ENFP tend to go into full on ESTJ mode when in charge of a project and a group of people. We shut down our Fi in order to focus on Si and use Te to organize the tasks. As a result, we can feel overwhelmed by others not cooperating in accomplishing the goal the way we thought they should, and by factors we didn't anticipate. We guard things that we view as a paramount task to the success of the project and tend to delegate, in a rather bossy manner, the things we don't see as paramount. Since we aren't naturally good at Si, we tend to force ourselves to hard-core focus in these moments. It is utterly draining and overwhelming. At least for me, I find myself snappy, too.

[@rosieleaverton]

I struggle a lot with anxiety (OCD, social anxiety, etc), and as an INTP, you are so correct. I just become so distant when overwhelmed because I don't know how to process emotions well and I become sort of a robot that absentmindedly goes through the days, not really taking anything in, just going through the motions and routines. I've been trying to get a hold of my OCD's obsessive thinking, and I've been getting a lot better recently, but it's so hard not wanting to talk about emotions and thoughts and just keeping it inside, but at the same time just wanting to spill everything to someone I trust.

[@lisarodriguez6966]

INFJ, here. Recognizing I've fallen into struggle vision. Made an appt to finished the intake process and to schedule a therapist for assessment.

[@angelagoodwin5758]

The torture we INFPs put ourselves through in private can be worse than our 'sin'. We tend to think we've done the most unforgiveable things when most people wouldn't even be phased.

[@sillysoul3663]

Yes! Believing that you have been the most heartless monster to ever exist because you were having a bad day. No one really cared or noticed, or they understood since who couldn't relate to a bad day? But whoever I mildly lashed out at doesn't know that I also cursed their entire existence in my head, and that's why I feel like a terrible person whenever I am struggling.

[@sharnice4366]

Ohw my gosh i feel i am absolutely validated!!!

[@skippyjonjones23]

I have clinical depression, anxiety and PTSD plus having chronic pain and health problems so I’m on the struggle bus all day every day. My negative coping strategies tend towards distraction or intentional numbing but if I’m really in my feelings, I just self isolate. I hate having to fight my body and mind on a daily basis just to get anything done.

[@Justmahya]

Hello, I'm really sorry for what u been going through 😢. It was a year when u posted this. Are u better now? Or getting better? I wish u all the best ❤

[@sunshineandrain869]

I totally relate to the INFP, being one myself. Sometimes when I’ve been stressed for a long time, my TE will try to kick in and I might stay up super late feeling like I desperately need to reorganize my pantry or all the drawers and closets in the house. I think I have control issues with my environment because of my childhood. I also have 3 kids and a husband so I’m always stressed because I never get alone time. 😬😵‍💫

[@Amanita._.Verosa._.]

I can feel physically paralyzed by reality when I'm stressed. I have to push myself to do something and doing something I've done over and over limits stressing out even more were I to do something wrong by trying something new. Also, imagination is a huge help. -INFJ

[@jenniferhanses7064]

Welp, can't argue with that. As an INTJ, when life sucks, I do not have the energy to clean things, up to and including myself (not a problem if I have a work schedule to keep to, as showering will be part of that, but weekends mean I don't have to shower until I want to). I also don't have to do dishes until I want to. Things like that. Now, sometimes I will do mindless repetitive tasks (I remember doing all of the cardboard recycling after I had moved and my cat died). But for the most part, cleaning is just not an option. Of course, my mom is an ISTJ, with a particular obsessive compulsive cleanliness thing. We're both depressed at the moment because Dad is dying. So in addition to her needing to clean her environment because she's an ISTJ, I get all kinds of harassment because my environment is not clean. Which just makes my own depression worse, and makes me less likely to pull together and clean anything. I'm going to add for context that in terms of messiness, I'm not actually all that bad. I don't do rotting food in the house, I keep my papers filed, and I can't stand stuff left on the floors because I WILL trip over it and hurt myself. I just don't vacuum my house twice a week and wash my sheets once a week (heck, i don't make my bed more than throwing the sheets back on top). And sometimes things are a mess around my desk. Or I don't clean the cat boxes daily. But, you know, not good enough for OCD ISTJ Mom on depression. Or at any time, really, but the stress and depression is making it worse.

[@arnavranka4510]

I hope things get better. As a fellow INTJ, I have also been through this.

[@jenniferhanses7064]

@@arnavranka4510 Thank you. I got asked to pick up sticks that had fallen in the backyard. I picked up sticks. Mom then yelled at me for not doing what she asked because she has stick radar and notices the least little thing wrong. And I have ever more diminished desire to help her do anything.

[@arnavranka4510]

@@jenniferhanses7064 Yeah, there are certain phases in life like this. We just need to carry on with our daily routine, and one day it will be over.

[@rachelbass7914]

♥️

[@bodine219]

Nailed the INFP for sure. And ENTJ if my sister is anything to go by. It's funny how we're opposites but the struggle bus looks pretty similar -- it's just whether the criticism comes from yourself or others.

[@lizzysalway6844]

Wow, so true. I’ve learnt not to act on it, but as an ENFP, when life gets tough, I’m like “Seems like it’s time to move to Australia now…”

[@m_n_a_b]

Same!!!! I haven't acted on it, because I adore my INTJ husband and know our life is rooted where we are. But, I will say... when we are both stressed, even he likes my suggestions of leaving it all behind and moving somewhere warm to live under a pier by the ocean. 😂

[@AzaraZ2008]

Me: I feel like all the struggle-bus descriptions of INFJ are really accurate. Great video! Also me: Yeah I think I've been struggling my whole entire life haha (intense anxiety music plays)

[@StephanieJeanne]

Cool idea with the bus theme. I died when the bus driver's door was a female wearing a sandal. 🤣. In seriousness, it's good to know what to look for in others as well as oneself. Thanks, Frank. 😊

[@micke7]

very well done video.

[@darkestuberwald1725]

You sound like a right INFP :)

[@DoriterEater]

@@darkestuberwald1725 I am an INFP and I endorse OP's message.

[@StephanieJeanne]

@@darkestuberwald1725 INFJ actually.😊 The fact that I didn't notice I typed "door" instead of "foot" might be proof of that.😆

[@shelbywoo3229]

The female foot had me cracking up!

[@Invictus_griddy]

As an INTJ, I completely agree with you, I've experienced way too many situations, and when I'm struggling, I'm like eh my life is burning on fire FIGURE OUT THE PROBLEM FIRST!!1!!1! NOW!!1!1!

[@annabelwestwood6192]

As an ENFJ, you are so completely right. I always keep in my struggles until it boils over, and I’ll be nearly in tears whilst telling people I’m alright. Then when I finally admit what’s wrong it all comes spilling out over the pot of my emotions.

[@butterscotch_cremebrulee]

WHY are we like this?!

[@riveroverland5902]

Same! I have legitimately told someone ‘I’m okay’ with tears pooling in my eyes and a huge smile on my face. Then when the flood gates open I’m just drowning in unstoppable tears. Why are we like this XD

[@XxBrittany20xX]

Fellow enfj here and Same!

[@1in_8billion_]

I appreciate a lot the fact you care about our mental health and those vocals are fire

[@RooibosGinger]

Me an INTJ with clinical depression, not having left their waste infested room in 17 months: *This is accurate 👍*

[@briannabrewer392]

I'm sorry, I know how much that sucks as an intj myself who has to fight to stay out of that place everyday. I hope one day you'll find the strength to pull yourself up. Stay strong friend.

[@gentlykim]

Have you tried not being sad?

[@taniaborealis]

@@gentlykim Bruh, wtf? We don't have on-off switch buttons for feelings.

[@tankambli]

As an ENFJ, what you said is absolutely true! I've fallen into endless loops of I'M FINEs because it feels like I'm reassuring myself that even though I may not be fine right now, I will soon be fine. On one hand, it keeps me hopeful that whatever I'm currently feeling won't last and it'll eventually pass by, but on the other, I reject or ignore my current issues and it causes them to linger for longer than, say, if I acknowledged them and accepted my struggle.

[@ForeverSweetx3]

Frank are you okay?! ENFP is so on point. Quitting jobs and moving to another country.

[@rickyspanish9625]

Spot on for me an INxJ, every year since high school I go through a season of stress where I end up gaining then re-losing 30+ pounds lmao. Thousands and thousands of calories is a great way to silence the brain, but only perpetuates the issue because I wake up feeling physically unwell as well as already being mentally unwell.

[@johnknight9150]

(INTJ) Do you have any other pursuits that could take you out of that state and re-channel your energies? Have you ever tried drumming? Or rock climbing? I drum almost every day and I'm particularly interested in double-kick drumming and extreme interdependence. Something like Meshuggah will take over your entire brain and can even knock you into a weird zen state just trying to control it.

[@naowright9308]

I knew an ESTJ who was a chef. Once I was relating a story to him regarding one of his grown children and an onion. He began to get so defensive I couldn't even finish the story. It was like the onion was him and instead of dissecting the onion I was dissecting him. I never got to the point because he took the example so personally.

[@doublesuicidio5830]

This actually hits really hard as an INFP!! Once, when I was in a truly bad place mentally, I dropped a spoon and had a full-blown mental breakdown over it. Like, you know, "I can't even hold a spoon properly, I can't do the simplest things, I should be dead" and in general I've had many similar situations. It always makes me laugh when I feel better, because those are things I wouldn't normally care about and yet at hard times I end up crying over dropped cutlery

[@letsreadtextbook1687]

As fellow infp, reading this makes me simultaneously laugh and sad 🤣🥲

[@Somniatica]

As an ENFJ, in addition to me mmmmBURYING MY FEELINGS, I isolate myself from others. Maybe it's just me but I always feel a sense of guilt when it comes to my emotions. It's not about being around others, it's that I feel like my emotions aren't worthy of others opinion? Kaifisos just the thoughts of an ENFJ 😅

[@sumlf8832]

OMG yessss...when I'm struggling I'll just stay in my room (even if it two days) and try to heal myself alone. Idk, does that make sense, am I the only enfj who do this?

[@Somniatica]

@@sumlf8832 Makes sense ;-; heal alone so you don't burden others. Part of me does it so others don't see my ugliness but maybe so others want to help me heal even if I won't let them in.

[@sumlf8832]

@@Somniatica yeah understandable 🥲..btw, I checked out you channel and wow you have a beautiful voice 🤧 (needed to say this, bcs I really like it)

[@Somniatica]

@@sumlf8832 🥺 jsjdjsoskkw thank you so much!! Made my night

[@Hime.Gusano]

I'm an INFP and damn that depiction of an INFP struggling is so franking accurate. Just a couple of weeks I had a meltdown on the subway because I was running late (like 20 min) to meet up with my boyfriend. I ran to the station but when I was arriving the damn thing closed its doors. I cried and hyperventilated until the next one came. I spent the whole ride thinking that I should be dead and alone for disappointing everyone with my unpunctuality u.u Context: I was in a stressful time, near the end of the semester

[@yuiitodoro7791]

Wow , the isfj one is spot on....i have been struggling about not knowing what course to choose for college for months now ....and it is staying the same....and the controlling of the story is so spot on...i am not moving forward at all....and I can relate with infj too....i am using my distractions so much to avoid reality and the problems that comes with it

[@carolinethompson376]

That's really interesting. I'm an INFJ enneagram 9 and when I'm stressed out I'll get passive aggressive (not good) or I'll go to the piano and play loud and fast (do not disturb!) But what I didn't realise is the tendency to look for distractions when there's stuff in my life I feel I have no control over. Currently I'm very interested in genealogy and would happily spend all my time exploring that. Maybe that's a sign...

[@ees3876]

oh my gosh the infp one is so accurate for me. im an artist and i just went through a bad art block this month, on top of feeling pressured to finish two projects this month and putting it off the whole time. i couldnt stop putting myself down for every little mistake i was making, in my art and in general. but im doing better now :) i have good friends who remind me im doing my best

[@acharich]

🤗🤗🤗

[@someone63]

Yeah it's true as a ISFP-T, I find it very true about making a big decisions, especially one that's pretty ambitious, to later discarding that idea within a few days.

[@jayofsunshineusa2113]

I am an enfj and I have indeed smiled widely and told people I'm fine while tears are running off my face 😃 it's a thing 👍🏻

[@antrazitaj5209]

"INTJs stop taking care of themselves and their environment" Actually taking a look at my flat. Fair

[@kriistyyanne]

You just described me to a T! I’m an ESFJ and I’m very vocal with my emotions. Gets me into a lot of trouble as I vent about work at work and they don’t like that 😬

[@soraneyorumi2017]

Even in the struggle bus I seem to be both an INFP and an INTP. It seems like I react to others struggling like an INTP, the "there's a lot of emotions here that I cant process so I'm just going to suggest the most logical solution to the problem". As well as when I am struggling I am 100% checked out of reality, but also judging myself for literally nothing. But there's also the INFP response to others issues like "these are bad feelings, bad feelings are icky, how about this not icky thing"

[@sasaandersson4055]

As an INTJ when I was struggling with my mental health I had a hard time imagining a future because I didn’t/couldn’t see one (I haven’t watched the whole video yet so I’m not sure what he says the signs are in INTJs) But as soon as I started to feel better I also started being able to plan out my future again (and I actually realized that after years of struggling with my mental health, I still had the same sort of feeling in my plans as when I was younger)

[@letfreedomring7330]

ISTJ here. Sometimes I fix things, but usually I just rage clean. It's actually great because it helps me get my environment very clean and organized. It makes me oddly grateful for my struggles. 😄

[@johnknight9150]

Another thing to look out for with struggling INTJs: secret addiction or illicit indulgence. INTJs are usually good with self-control, but when we struggle to hold on, you may find us heading down a physically destructive path, though it's probably something we try to keep hidden. This may be drugs, fast driving, adrenaline seeking, heavy drinking, pornography, smoking... anything to physically escape ourselves momentarily

[@meriemz26]

Facts, i relate ( another INTJ)

[@johnknight9150]

@@meriemz26 Which emoji(s) would be appropriate for such a response? I'm thinking a thumbs up combined with someone looking downward with shifty eyes.

[@sweetsoldier5]

the explanation of infp was spot on. I can keep my emotions inside and seem positive and happy around people as long as I can distance myself from my feelings. But when I'm struggling I can't and I cry over anything and not let it go until I have solved the issue. People think it's a small problem or none at all but it is so much bigger in my head. Not that long ago something happened that made me sad for days and it became this worldwide problem because I was overthinking it alot. I was walking with my dad and we met two people, one of them we knew, the other one we didn't. I hugged the person I knew and when I looked at the stranger he held a cigarette in his right hand and I had no idea what to do because that's the hand you use to shake somebodies hand with so I just took a step back and said hi to him. We stood there for a while and talked to them and everything was fine, but I couldn't let go of the fact that I didn't shake this mans hand. So I started crying when I finally came home to my apartment and was alone. I felt so bad about it that I sent a message to my friend and told him to tell his friend I didn't mean to be rude, I just didn't know what to do. A couple of days later he told me his friend didn't even think about it and he told him to tell me not to worry or feel bad about it 😂

[@daniella4800]

I love your story-infp here by the way

[@sweetsoldier5]

@@daniella4800 thanks! It was awkward afterwards haha I thought to myself, mabey I made it even worse now.. what if he thinks I'm a mental disaster who cry over anything but I got over it eventually and I don't even know why I would make such a big deal about it 😅 but we can't help being sensitive, we care alot but that's also what makes us awesome🥹

[@infinitedonuts]

I’ve definitely experienced the struggling as an INFJ. My first year of college, every night I would exercise night for hours on end until I couldn’t even lift anything, eat food that I really enjoy more than I should of, and I’d also obsessively clean my room (although I think this behavior has now translated to OCD as it stayed with me after I went home for the summer).

[@rafagasim8464]

Omg. I'm an INTJ and when i first moved to the other side of the country, i registered to 4 academys + and had my exercise routine+ job + cleaning the house = i had no sleep. After a while I thought it was odd that a never thought of my friends nor cry for them being far away.

[@DoriterEater]

I have noticed that when I start getting hypercritical of myself there is some greater stress going on, and usually I realize it too late and hit a wall and have a mental breakdown. I wish that it was easier for me to express my emotions and process them sooner with crying, crying is actually hard for me. -infp

[@l23r4]

It’s mad how you always get each of these so accurate!

[@ayil_5399]

exactly 1000% !!!

[@TheSimplelifemama]

Excellent video as usual. As a 34 year old ISFP I have finally learned to keep my mouth shut and not just up and tell people I’m starting a new project, job, hobby, skill or school because there have been way too many time where I didn’t stick to it and felt embarrassed later. And let me tell you the impulse spending with us is STRONG! I’m still trying to discipline myself because that FiSe grip (I.e. I see it and I want it) is rough 😩. I’m gonna get it together one day, hopefully before I’m 40 lol. And my INFJ husband! You hit the nail on the head! He goes from fasting and working out on week days to eating a whole pizza on the weekends. 🫣 And I’m like how??!! This is horribly unhealthy.

[@michellechouinard4958]

So true. As an INTP, if I have a stressful problem, I focus my whole brain on it and I get really snippy with anyone who interrupts me.

[@xkathygee]

INFP is so true. My first instinct was always not to tell anyone when I was struggling. Even when I had depression, no one noticed. It was only when I found the right person that I learned it was okay to tell people. But I still need to remind myself every time.

[@Sina-cg9oo]

INFJ one is totally accurate I locked myself in my room alone for years just reading reading a specific kind of fiction and watching a specific kind of movies with specific kind of characters in them for years when COVID broke out

[@DanJustason]

I will throw out there that as an INTP, if I'm struggling, I look to organize. Everything. I clean, put everything away. I'll remove programs and clean up my computer desktop and hard drive. It's like... a need to reduce the chaos.

[@raquelmyers9159]

Same here, I am an INTP and anytime I am super stressed I start getting mad about the tiniest thing out of order, it helps to feel a sense of control when everything else is spiraling into madness.

[@roserichards1460]

As an INFJ I've been struggling my entire life apparently. Just moving from one observation to the next. Huh...

[@missk8715]

Actually, INFPs, when stressed tend to get very blunt, critical, direct, hostile, way more aggressive than our normal selves. We feel bad about it later for sure.

[@SamKatlein-jd8tm]

Same :( i hate myself for it, i wish i had nobody, that way no one would get hurt

[@missk8715]

@@SamKatlein-jd8tmi don't really hate myself for it, I'm normally nice and I hate conflict because I don't know how to handle it in a level-headed, assertive way, it's either avoid it altogether or snap. I just wish I had the skill to handle it better

[@riveroverland5902]

ENFJ here, I know there’s not a lot of us here in the comments section but this came at a great time. I remember being young and doing the exact same thing, say I’m fine with tears streaming down my face and a huge smile. If you’re going through the same, just know you’ll get through this

[@Flyboy_73]

ISTJ here and I definitely go overboard on trying to fix something or doing manual labor when I’m stressed out & feeling like I don’t have control. But I’ve also noticed myself exhibiting traits of INTJ’s struggle vision and INFJ’s tendency to do the same obsessive repeating pattern nightly and over-binging on certain foods (usually sweets).

[@brucebolduc3403]

Istj here. Guess it explains why I exercise after work

[@ShamelessLainLover]

as soon as you brought up the infj pizza thing I looked down lol maybe that's why I'm prone to binge eating as a form of coping. It's not that it brings feelings of pleasure. It's just an escape from the reality I'm currently trapped in. Oh, I guess I'm struggling.

[@trinaq]

Only $1.50 for the struggle bus?! That's quite a struggle?!

[@annegetson7825]

As an INFP I feel that I just shut down when I’m really struggling . I don’t ever share how I’m feeling to anyone, I don’t talk to anyone when I’m stuggling. I don’t do anything at all, I just fully stop life. No sleeping, no eating, just thinking about how much of a failure I am and a burden to every one and how much better off everyone else would be without me. I cry on the inside, and almost never cry outwardly.

[@zip7317]

As an Esfj, I do very much agree with this. So that's why I'm trying to be a bit less expressive, so far it's working, sorta.. Btw, I love your videos they really help me understand myself a lot better. Keep up the good work! And take care to whoever is reading this.

[@lishayost44]

It's healthy to express yourself. Better than holding it in. -intp

[@halcyon_echo42]

E/INFJ here & I so totally try to keep a brave face in public hoping someone will see through the facade, but on my own I get so into whatever video game, tv show, content creator, or exercise I like at the time

[@keyladayanabautistatapia3773]

yeees! we show a face that says "I'm fine" but inside we are the opposite and we even feel disgusted by the way we lie to others and ourselves. By the way, I also still don't know if I'm an ENFJ or INFJ, I just can't rule out either. aiudaaa

[@rachaeld6491]

this video won a like when I got to the sponsorship ad. It was so deserving of a like at that point, that I had to pause the video to come down here to express my absolute joy at how perfect the ad was. excellent, just hilarious

[@delucien4075]

I'm an ENTP, and let me tell you-- Once, I neglected all my school work and responsibilities during this horrible time I was going through, and I barely passed my classes even though I usually get decent grades. I didn't think this would be that accurate... I feel exposed

[@clairechan3973]

This was literally me last year I failed one class 😂😂

[@HisJoy7]

ENTJ here! Literally just the other day I asked am I a good friend? Do I seem fake? … now questioning if that was a sign or just my never ending curiosity

[@ghostridda]

As an infj, I normally binge eat when I'm struggling. But I will use the struggle as a 'high' to workout and maybe I might lose weight. Thanks Frank

[@vman0515]

I exercise excessively by working out and training in martial arts and boxing I do use it as an escape from the world so I can process everything in peace so I can come to terms with things that are out of my control while only caring about doing my best in literally everything I do. As a means to keep striving for a higher level of obtainment of capabilities that I wish I had when a prior situation was happening. I learn so that way if I ever make the same mistake again I will be prepared for it in ever way I can. Sorry about the long comment but you hit the nail right on the head for the last part of the video. Much respect.

[@tinymarshmallow3789]

Hey frank, just wanted to let you know your content to so amazing and your such an amazing person. Just keep up the good work and keep making people smile! 😊😃😊