Friends - A Selfless Good Deed

[@glarcier4398]

chandler just sitting there with his brain cells slowly dying is the best part

[@dekuuchiha9990]

That was great

[@HarikrishnaRaoM]

Are you calling you “people”? Hahaaha

[@ryanstauffer119]

His reaction was basically me when my college roommate and his girlfriend would argue in the same room. Of if they were arguing on the phone and her yelling was so loud that she wasn't even on speaker.

[@Kim-ss5bb]

😂

[@Geraldo_Rivian]

Too soon bro

[@nshearer01]

I love how Joey actually knows bees die after using their stingers.

[@TheScribe1.0]

nshearer01 Yeah. Seeing as how it's Joey Tribbiani we're talking about. And he makes a good point. Selfless good deeds don't exist.

[@pauliecorleone1054]

nshearer01 however... more species of wasp die after stinging than Bees.

[@RAHUL-kp5pn]

............. Darn it !

[@shilpasanjeev1]

@@TheScribe1.0 Yesss they dooo xD

[@TheScribe1.0]

Shilpa Sanjeev May I ask for one example?

[@teodorapavlovic5568]

Phoebe's face when Joey said that Santa isn't real 😂😂😂

[@thepoofs2527]

My little sister: 👁👄👁

[@Geraldo_Rivian]

@@teodorapavlovic5568 she be like: do I tell him? Or do I pretend what he is saying is right?

[@keira-f7b]

Excellent acting

[@uttamsharma6358]

Joey is not intelligent but he is wise.

[@KAAASHIII]

He is pretty wisdomist

[@randlambab]

So he's basically Karl Pilkington

[@galactic_clashx4056]

Not really

[@galactic_clashx4056]

southerncajuncharm uhh what??????

[@galactic_clashx4056]

Do any of you know what selfish means

[@Les1987]

I am laughing at Chandler's reactions during Joey and Phoebe's argument haha

[@angieb976]

Mike cushinberry he looks bored and like oh my god they’re stupid

[@chandlerbing9964]

😂😂😂😂

[@ryanstauffer119]

It's very relatable. Whenever my college roommate and his ex girlfriend were arguing in the room, Chandler's reaction was how felt.

[@fmfilipinoman5609]

It’s so justified lol

[@lordalessan]

Ross walked Carol down the aisle in her wedding to Susan. Chandler gave up Janice so she can return to her husband. Rachel fulfilled Mindy's wish to be the maid of honor at her wedding to Barry. Phoebe carried Frank and Alice's triplets (she was happy to do it but heartbroken when she couldn't keep one). Monica gave up her dream wedding dress to Chandler can have his band. Joey, he's done a lot of kind stuff, but convincing Rachel to move in with Ross so he can be more involved is one that comes to mind.

[@Ihatetheseupdates]

But all of them did all of those things because it might them feel good about doing the right thing. They got to be the good person. Or it made them happy that they made someone else happy. And they wouldn't have done any of those things if that hadn't made them feel good about themselves. So not entirely selfless.

[@galactic_clashx4056]

E S. So hypothetically if you gave up your dream girl so one of your best friends could have her and you felt like you did the right thing but wasn’t happy then would that count as a selfless good deed

[@galactic_clashx4056]

E S. And also they didn’t do it to make them feel good they did it so the other people would be happy doesn’t mean they did it to feel happy

[@gustavomarcondes3908]

GalaxyGamer They wouldn’t have done it if they didn’t feel good in doing so.

[@gustavomarcondes3908]

GalaxyGamer. There are certain actions in which we might not feel good doing it. But we feel “less pain”. In your scenario, your moral brain is compelling you to give up on your dream girl, cause not giving her up and breaking your friends heart would make you feel worse than losing her so your friend may be with her. Therefore, still selfish. No action humans beings do fall out of the concept of “self preservation”, “pleasure seeking” and “procreating”.

[@rhaenyraitargaryen6360]

Joey did a selfless good deed. He didn't eat meat for 6 months because he knew Phoebe needed it, even tho she was a Vegetarian. He didn't want her to feel bad so he did it to even everything out.

[@nachiketsachin8269]

He ate it in London

[@derokdeathaxe6984]

well...he was happy to do something for her...that's selfish XD good intentions but still with a bit of selfishness behind it, he would make him feel good that Phoebe is feeling good

[@andrewstout7452]

he did it for his friend who he likes therefore selfish

[@sleepCircle]

@@derokdeathaxe6984 so you're saying that as soon as you feel slightly good about something it becomes selfish? the only way to make it unselfish would be to hit yourself with a rock any time you thought you might be glad about helping a friend?

[@paolavega2400]

And he felt happy to do so. So...

[@shreshbhattacharyya9290]

I just feel for Chandler sitting there and listening to all "all selfish no selfless good deeds" thing after paying for Joey's bills, food and even interviews

[@sandhinh8485]

It did make Chandler feel good for helping his friend out.

[@0428733]

still selfish, she did it to prove herself right

[@MrFahadaz]

agreed my friend.

[@michaelscantlebury1525]

wow thats clever

[@hindiarticles3608]

Oh right..

[@psirenn8049]

No she did it to prove herself right which is selfish

[@ArcticFalcon]

@@psirenn8049 uh... and isn't that exactly what OP said?

[@themangekyosharingan4090]

1:52... Chandler's face and expressions...who would not love them😍😂

[@gaboseries5252]

But Phoebe's "selfless" good deed was made so she could prove a point. So it wasn't selfless

[@chrisvgt2010]

6 years later this was my first thought rewatching it

[@itsmee6630]

LOL at phoebe's face when she finds out about santa.

[@TheDarkestStarRMS2]

I love this debate. One of the more clever pieces of writing on this show. :-D

[@sedlyholmes3722]

Chandler's reaction is like listening to your kids arguing something stupid 😂

[@jessechung5135]

WHat about Joey not eating meat so that phoebe could? I don't think he felt so good about that

[@cadejirkovsky2037]

He let her eat he could not give it to her but he feels good about letting her eat food

[@bilalchaudhry5636]

Cade Jirkovsky I

[@bilalchaudhry5636]

Jesse Chung

[@aayushisinha565]

it's called love because Joe loves phoebe

[@thepoofs2527]

A selfless good deed 😊

[@D34N6232]

Even if Phoebe's pledge didn't get Joey on TV she only made the pledge to prove Joey wrong thus proving herself right, which would be selfish, so it would _still_ be a selfish good deed.

[@roffana951]

I know right!

[@bcasa3376]

I love their friendship! One episode they are team goals then next challenging each other especially this one!

[@thefireflysmagic]

Last bit cu "Oh, no!" simply priceless 😂

[@HitmanJenkins1]

Who would've thought that a mid 90s American Sitcom would have an episode dedicated almost entirely to the idea of altruism?

[@thykingdomcomethywillbedon9359]

Nathan Howard Thanks I just learned a word today .

[@maiali5362]

why ?

[@angeland8]

This sitcom covered pretty much everything that may happen in this world. Ever time something happens I say, remember when Ross/Monica/Rachel/Phoebe/Chandler/Joey ... They covered it ALL!

[@MohanKumar-jp4tn]

Thank you I learned a new word aswell

[@ATJ253]

This is super nit picky but 4:38 is not almost entirely roughly 22 minutes. I’m aware of how much of an asshole I am, but I’m selfish and wanted to make sure everyone knew I’m right

[@gargamellenoir8460]

Phoebe : "So when my mom killed herself..." *LAUGH TRACKS*

[@randomdude8790]

@Moist Gnome It was recorded in front of an audience, but in what way was it necessary to basically call this person an ignorant and disgusting caveman? It would have been enough to say "Actually, it's recorded in front of a live audience".

[@user-fe1le2yl3x]

The show had 300 fans in the studio it wasn’t “ laugh tracks “ and I expected them to laugh since phoebe use that “ my mother is dead “ as excuse for everything ...

[@gargamellenoir8460]

@Moist Gnome True question here : Was the actual fuck is wrong with you? If me using the "laugh track" term as an umbrella for recorded laugh and prompted audience reaction sends in you that rage mode, what do you do when something actually bad happens?

[@doudoube6249]

Joey argu with Phoebe. Joey won. Ross argu with Phoebe. Phoebe WON.

[@nachiketsachin8269]

More logical you are, more you lose

[@AlePatra]

Are you calling you 'people'?

[@championblessed2917]

cleopatra settimi My favorite part too

[@nextctrl]

Are you calling me selfish

[@khangphamchannel016]

@@nextctrl are you calling you “people” 😂

[@traintrack3761]

“I’m gonna beat you, you-you evil genius!” 😂😂

[@n19ntendods]

I love Chandler’s face when caught in the middle of their argument! He’s like, “Kill me now! Just kill me now! These idiots won’t shut up!” 🙄

[@aabhishek4911]

thats very deep from joey , didnt expect that

[@HatakeHyei]

Remember the Moo point?

[@saifsagor69]

Thats the most knowledgeable conversation Chandler ever heard! 🤣

[@booklover4330]

Chandler's reaction through out the whole thing, lol.

[@trendingfunandtechnology]

Joey's top 3 wise quotes- 1 There is no selfless good deed 2 Santa doesn't exist. 3 Bees die after stinging.

[@the.wisdomizer]

monica's hair is simply amazing here😍😍😍

[@imanahmad6456]

Ross actually did do a selfless good deed He walked down the isle with Carol even though it didn’t make him feel good

[@daragh4316]

what they're talking about is psychological egoism, even Plato claimed it's impossible to act out of one's own interests. 🤔

[@lizzab605]

Daragh bro this comment just saved my essay thanks

[@n19ntendods]

“Well, you know, a lot of those Muppets don’t have thumbs.” ROFL! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Tbf, Chandler did have a point. What did Phoebe expect? Elmo to write her a letter? 🤷‍♂️

[@vandrickjann]

The reaction of phoebe after knowing Sta Clause aint reall haha kills me everytime

[@izabelarodrigues8894]

From what i learned a true selfless deed is when you do something good for someone Else without expecting something in return, You may end up feeling good about It because you did something good that led to something good, but you didn't do It for that reason

[@RobertoLorenzPianist]

Poor Phoebe has no chance here. Even if the bee would have survived, Phoebe's deed wouldn't have been selfless because she did it only to proove she's right about her point - and that itself is a selfish motivation. There's no way she can win this game. .

[@ahmadmo3ath212]

Chandler reaction tho 😂😂😂😂

[@daniellavaladez9538]

There is no such thing as a selfless act or true altruism in general because we, as humans, are inherently selfish and we're made that way from the beginning.

[@chanaberlove8720]

burying someone is a selfless good deed. my aunt buried my grandmother.

[@paulkearney7077]

Agreed, but that doesn't cheapen the value of altruism. Selfish doesn't necessarily mean the person only cares about him or herself while doing the deed.

[@thedoctor3528]

Daniella Valadez i have seen and done things that could be called selfless deeds even though i myself am not such a great human being.

[@ananyapandey8415]

Anything can be considered selfless when you do a deed that benefits a community and do not expect something in return.

[@alexico909]

Daniella Valadez there are good and bad people, its as simple as that

[@sanobr318]

1:40-2:10 You can listen to Chandler's brain cells popping themselves goodbye one at a time 🤣, lol!

[@streamlover2224]

I think Phoebe giving birth to her brother's triplets is a selfless good deed. It may have made her feel good, but she didn't do it because of that. She didn't even consider that, she made that decision when she saw how happy they'll be.

[@saimcheeda93]

Yeah so when she saw how happy they would be and made the decision that was the selfish act on her part since their happiness made her happy

[@blehbleh-bleh2840]

the point flew right over your head

[@panczaki9084]

Not true! She did it because of that. Remember, when she made this decision? When she gave a puppy to Frank and Alice and She realized that She will be even more happy when She'll give birth to Their baby (She didn't know about the triplets back then lol). That was the deal maker, so She did that because She knew it would make Her feel good.

[@scotchdopole]

Joey is very wise after all. Everyone is seeking their own advantage, consciously or unconsciously.

[@lonamisa834]

"Selfless deed don't exist " I totally agree with Joey people do good things to make themselves happy.

[@brandwijkgg]

And others...it makes me happy to see other people be happy, because i know how it feels to be happy.

[@haze4661]

"no it sucks i was saving up to buy a hamster". lmao love phoebe

[@dylanelizabeth7712]

while reading my psyc book i though of this episode.... and they had a link that brought me here how perfect!!!

[@nikmar77]

So Joey is the only one in the group who can put up a fight with Phoebe and win?

[@n19ntendods]

Seems like it. The rest of them are wimps.

[@21ikari]

I m amaze with how smart Joey here 😍 even Ross couldnt win argument against Phoebe 😅 remember the eps about evolution theory?

[@nagatouzumaki3492]

Actually, Ross did win argument against Phoebe if being correct is considered a victory. All Phoebe did was shaming Ross for something he didn't do and didn't make logical sense.

[@21ikari]

Nagato Uzumaki ok🤔 then what made u think ross was correct? 😅 who decided that? Actually i agree with ross tht time but... we re talking bout the scene where ross seemed desperate and speechless against phoebe... tht made audience thought phoebe won te arguement.

[@nagatouzumaki3492]

He made logical arguments and his position was backed up by overhelming amount of evidence and he tried to present some of that to Phoebe that didn't care. Ross was speechless because Phoebe made argument attacking Ross character rather than his position. She made incorrect argument that he abandoned his position, despite he didn't but simply admited that there is very small chance that he can be incorrect. If audience thinks she won argument that speaks more about the audience and how susceptible it's to emotionally charged rethoric.The only way I can see Phoebe being a victor if we accept that shaming your opponent out of argument as legitimate tactic to win argument, what wouldn't deterimine in any way corectness of argued position, at best popularity.

[@21ikari]

Nagato Uzumaki ok make sense 🤔 still... ross couldnt argue more... tht made him lose. 😅

[@siddharthsingh-hs3yv]

well if someone does not believe on science , they are more dumb than a unborn baby who atleast learns it , phoebe not believing in evolution is so bad written , and actually shaming someone for it , its like show is saying all kids learning about science is worthless

[@n19ntendods]

What’s wrong with feeling good about a selfless good deed? When someone is grateful for your assistance, it makes you feel like you’ve accomplished something. There’s a difference between self-esteem and self-confidence.

[@SOPARA862k]

Theres absolutely nothing wrong with feeling good about helping someone. Joey is kinda right in saying there's no selfless good deed however he's wrong in the stigma he's attaching to that statement. If your own satisfaction is the only thing you get out of it that is as pure a good deed can be. It's only when you have an agenda that the good deed will lead to you gaining something else that should attract the kind of ire Joey is throwing.

[@zidneya]

A deed that didn't make you feel good? I had to take care of an elder relative when I was young. When all I wanted to do was go out and have fun. It was horrible each day was a nightmare. And it didn’t take long before I started to hate him. And myself. And wishing he died. I sure as hell wasn’t happy. And I did it so I don’t feel worse than I already felt. And when he died I was so relieved that this nightmare was over. _“People say you should always do the right thing but sometimes there is no right thing. And then, and then you just have to pick the sin you can live with.”_ - Daniel Radcliffe Horns (2013)

[@scotchdopole]

Only people who had to give up their life like that will understand you. I wish euthanasia was an option so we don't have to prolong dying people's suffering. The taboos around subject of death won't allow it though.

[@ahmedk5201]

Best argument ever 🤣

[@christiankarlkarganilla2763]

The smartest Joey has been throughout the entire series.

[@TheScribe1.0]

He has his moments.

[@MegaMissfitz]

A good deed done sarks... I hoped ya kept a smile on ya face all day😀😀😀

[@kamyagupta4030]

Chandler's expressions ❤️😂

[@christianali5431]

That moment where the episode ends and you wonder how Joey could have a philosophical argument like this? Then you watch the episode again you remember that Joey bought an encyclopedia Britannica,volume V. What philosophers name begins with V? Voltaire. A famous French philosopher with a cynical view on God, religion, and human beings. Most likely he read about Voltaire in his V Encyclopaedia, and now believes that there are no selfless good deeds. How's that for continuity?

[@zeynepyucekaya]

Dude.. awesome

[@simplyone200]

Dude that is so cool 😎

[@rasberryjamdoughnut2288]

Good deeds inherently involve everybody taking part feeling happy. That's just how a good deed works, it's not selfish.

[@robertwoods3462]

It is selfish, if it wouldn't have made you happy you wouldn't have done it.

[@noosy530]

​@@robertwoods3462thats not true. If I hold the door open for someone, or say thank you, or let the person in line behind me go before me, I may feel good the first few times. However, after it becomes a habit, these deeds are done automatically without feeling good because i've gotten used to them as second nature.

[@wissam5811]

1:55 Chandlers's face 😂😂

[@isabelleh5660]

Look at Chandler the whole way through.

[@jaimindesai1013]

Yes.. there is a selfless good deed. I just let the love of my life spend the rest of his life with the one he loves...He's happy and I'm not😐.

[@artemiswolf4508]

Jaimin Desai What was the alternative? Where you not gonna let them be with the person they love? Was the other choice trapping them in your basement or something?

[@Nish-ej3zn]

Well... what else were you going to do? Kidnap him? It’s not a selfless deed. It’s not even a deed at all!

[@nachiketsachin8269]

Ross kinda did that

[@AlineIndech]

I miss friends

[@babbisp1]

2:13 Randy from Monk had the same reaction when told Santa doesn't exit.

[@itslikethesamebutdifferent8020]

Chander is like “why do i always get stuck between these two?”

[@wajirasree6579]

In friends tv sereis there is some self less good deeds done by ross, when he accompany Carol at her wedding, sharing ben with Susan, letting his interview for Rachel.....

[@tylerbushong3452]

Phoebe’s playing checkers meanwhile Joey’s over here playing chess!

[@beccaboyer36]

That darn Pheobe!!!! What hamster did she have her eye on??.... 😏😏😏

[@deepdsd9629]

When I see friends i just wonder that I can't find a weakling out of those 6 characters & actors. Such a wonderful show and wonderful cast

[@elleryholmes2098]

“cuz right after my mom killed herself.. i was just in a really bad place. you know-personally.” 🤣

[@BobNinjaCat]

The thing about altruism (the thing Joey is arguing against) is that functionally it can't be fully satisfied in a pro-social species. "Doing good without feeling anything" is an impossible concept for Human's to fulfill because our species has evolved to experience pleasure from certain behaviors. That said, it's also counter-intuitive to conclude that just because something *feels good* that it is therefore tainted. Selfishness isn't a necessarily negative attribute to have.

[@arhaan2004]

This is revenge for when phoebe tried to argue with Ross about evolution...lol

[@galactic_clashx4056]

How?

[@galactic_clashx4056]

Evolution is full of shit

[@emiquintana509]

Anyone else here cause of the link in the Psych textbook?

[@ahmedk5201]

Season 5 - episode 4 Thats good deed 👆🏻👆🏻

[@Shepthebassman91]

Her reaction when Joey tells her that the bee 🐝 died after it stung her! Priceless!

[@annachan8151]

The paradox is real XD

[@n19ntendods]

The moment when you realise even Joey knew Santa Claus doesn’t exist and that bees die after they sting.

[@Lifestartsnow69]

I believe an example of a selfless good deed (based on their criteria ) could be something like giving you're seat in the subway to someone who needs it more . A lot of people give their seats to those older than them. sure you may feel good about it almost every time. But it's such a common occurrence I'm pretty sure someone somewhere just subconsciously did it cause it's the right thing to do and nothing more. Good deed without feeling good about it.

[@PrimetimeX]

Nah. If you feel good about it or think there is some greater purpose to your deed, its still selfish because you are thinking of yourself (conscious or subconsciously) when acting altruistic. The only example of a selfless good deed is one in which it is impossible for that to occur. To act selfless is to essentially not even really possess a consciousness. If you think, you are. If you are, your evolutionary instincts dictate your motives. Thus, your actions follow your motives. There is always capital to be gained outside of materialism. Emotional and social capital play a big role in decision-making. But regardless, both are inherently selfish.

[@davidcolledge69]

Wicked Silver You said it makes you feel good lol which makes it selfish

[@corsariocapitao]

How about when parents sacrifice themselves for their kids? Imagine a single mom who became pregnant very young without planning to be, alone without no one to help her, working her ass off, hungry, begging on the streets for money so she could buy her child some food?

[@artyomalekseyevich5927]

@@corsariocapitao The child is her offspring, it's in the parent's genes to take care of their child because that's how the offspring survive, it is still selfish because the parents wants something to be left of them when they die, and the need to be selfless with their children is so they survive and pass on their genes also. The selfish reason is passing on your genes. From the moment you are conscious like Primetime said, you ARE selfish, you can't BE Someone else, you are YOU and can't experience anything but your own experiences.

[@corsariocapitao]

@@artyomalekseyevich5927 Ok, what if the child isn't hers? It's an abandoned child she adopted and now she is trying to find good parents for him? She's not trying to pass on her genes, but she just couldn't leave a baby to die like that even if she is in need herself

[@emfraridades7261]

"Are you calling you people?" Unerrated joke

[@abdulhadiBuneri]

No you may not...😂😂😂😂😂😂 You evil genius.... Joey and genius hahaha

[@kaarthi4524]

"Oh,it makes me so..Oh No!"

[@xLordOfNothingx]

Imo the most mainstream example of objectivism in TV, very deep subjects looken trough the sitcom idiom

[@matteobeach4261]

You know it was kind of a selfless good deed that Phoebe let herself get stung. That way there was one less bee for other people to worry about, and obviously no one thanked for it or gave her any special treatment. So Phoebe made a very rare selfless good deed

[@JayAreAitch]

But she did it to feel good about herself for having done a 'selfless good deed'. There's no winning against someone who believes in psychological egoism.

[@letshaveanormalname6325]

she won because it made her feel bad that she did something good and then felt good hahah

[@Ad_HareKrishna]

What can be a better 'selfless good deed' than Joey giving up eating meat until Phoebe's delivery. By giving up meat eating for her, he had nothing to gain, it was the most touching selfless act for a friend.

[@nachiketsachin8269]

He still ate the meet in London

[@ippola07]

Chandlers face expressions lol 😂

[@Dani.Renter]

The better of this scene is the way Chandler reacts..jajajajajjajajajajajajajaajaa.

[@LukeKetchum7003]

Congratulations Phoebe. Your good deed got Joey on TV on the channel you hate. So it makes sense for Joey to be happy and you to be unhappy.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@E7T39E]

I actually really like this argument and storyline! 😂

[@childofwhonow1269]

Pheebs' reaction to santa🤣🤣

[@annisafadilla9947]

This is just brilliant

[@gangstergastino4072]

The best conversation ever

[@natasaperun3242]

Joey destroyed Phoebe! Ta - da 😂

[@EvoluteCreator]

Bees stinging you is selfless on their parts.

[@steztoyz]

It's a shame that Joey and Phoebe didn't hook up. They're a perfect couple.

[@nothingbeatsajellyfilleddo2085]

Chandler ▶ Joey ▶ phoebe ▶ Ross ▶ Rachel ▶ Monica

[@user-fe1le2yl3x]

“ What about you having those babies for your brother ? Talk about selfish “

[@j_rirl]

Feeling good about yourself does not always mean you are selfish.

[@namrathadath1553]

Phoebe's face at 2:21.. 😂😂😂😂

[@Thomperfan]

3:40 As a Sesame Street fan, I can confirm that’s true.

[@poluticon]

what about when Ross was going to be on TV but cancelled it to take Rachel to the hospital. That was a selfless good deed.

[@sumidas648]

U see their level of acting..Chandler's face during those two's fight.

[@dinelkadananjaya1572]

I think Joey was the only one to disarm Phoebe in an argument

[@amadeuschavez.]

True

[@n19ntendods]

Yeah. This was back before he became a brainless moron.

[@elleryholmes2098]

“and he like force fed me cider and cookies. then i felt wonderful. that old jackass!”☠️☠️

[@Chimonger1]

Love this show! LOL! But if your Utoob is having difficulty keeping the volume even...turn on captions, and/or reload the page to try re-setting it.

[@Thereonthebanana]

Some would argue the good feelings you get from selfless good deeds are an effect, not a cause.