[FULL STORY] I Found a List My Fiancé Made Titled Reasons I Shouldn't Marry Her.

[@PizzaLover379]

I agree with the sister. From an outsiders perspective it just sounds like they weren’t very good at communicating. Op also just let the MIL interfere with the relationship so it’s unfair to put all the blame on the fiancé when she made it sound as if it didn’t bother her originally and then turned around and made it the fiancés problem. Better communication on both sides

[@ReeseHedglen]

Op seems a bit out of touch. All this seems so one sided like she’s in her own world. The way she reacted to the list was so weird. It didn’t make any sense. The whole time he’s been apologizing and trying to fix things. I think she’s viewing things wrongly and being too hard on him.

[@FreedDailyByHIM]

That list isn’t even worth addressing, sheesh.

[@hollyhal1254]

Is OP a complete idiot? The list wasn’t even about her. It was about him. His fears, his doubts, his insecurities. This isn’t abnormal for a man. My husband of THIRTY years is going through the same thing right now. He became disabled almost two years ago. This has pushed back my retirement by several years. He is feeling useless and that he has let me down. We are working through it. Now the part about his mother is a whole other thing all together.

[@trishav.2710]

@@hollyhal1254 👏👏🥂🍻 Hope everything quickly works out the best possible for y'all! Totally agree lol Didn't even want to brooch the topic of the mother in my post 🫣😱 that's a can of babbling paragraphs & personal mama drama trauma best left all the way in the forgotten back corner of the hidden top shelf nook for future generations of far far unknown people.... 🧐🥸☠️😶‍🌫️

[@jamiedoe3888]

Forgive him for what?!? What he was just thinking what’s on his mind. There nothing to forgive. She blew it up and how strong and wonderful she is and how she’s a power house and he couldn’t live up to her.

[@Mariewolf_94]

"am i making a big deal out of nothing?" girl, yes, you are! i'm only a couple minutes in and already i'm rolling my eyes at her reaction as well as how her friend is so gungho and angry about something so stupid. unless at some point in that list, he said he didnt actually love OP or made some sort of confession that he was using her for money or something, maybe even confessed he cheated on her, then her reaction would be more understandable. but a list about petty grievances? really??? so shes saying she has absolutely no frustrations w/ him too? if he had to make that list to begin w/, something tells me shes not very approachable when it comes to communication for one reason or another. he wrote that list because he likely feels like he cant talk to her and come to a compromise where necessary, or just laugh about petty pet peeves. this relationship isnt going to last, just saying that now! EDIT: now that i finished the full video, i will say i had to pause multiple times because, as the story progressed, OP was just making me more and more violently angry. she sounds SUUUUUPER self-absorbed and delusional, like she was in her own little world. constantly playing victim and being overly dramatic over literally NOTHING! like, the whole MIL thing and setting boundaries, ok, understandable, but everything else shes making a mountain out of, it wasnt even a molehill, it was an ANTHILL! her fiancé was doing literally EVERYTHING! 👏 RIGHT! 👏 and she was still all like "How can I trust his word and trust he'll actually change?" and her saying she cant be sure if they can fix what was broken: BITCH, WHAT WAS BROKEN??? NOTHING WAS F*CKING BROKEN!! based on what she said -- and i personally think shes not a wholly reliable narrator, twisting the narrative to suit her delusional insights to get affirmation -- it sounds as if her fiancé is dealing w/ mental and emotional trauma that stems from his mother. when he said that during one of their therapy sessions, everything clicked for me, but she was so far up her own a$$ that she couldnt recognize what the problem was and where all their trouble truly lied. HE wasnt the problem here, his MOTHER was, and so was OP quite honestly. instead of seeing her future husband's POV on things and supporting him, helping him find his courage to stand up to his sh*tty mother, she whined and played the victim card. i said it before and i'll say it again: this marriage wont last. she does not deserve him, and i hope and pray that when he does change and becomes his own man he sees just how toxic she is, and leaves her pathetic a$$. he deserves so much better than OP, and, on his family side of things, he deserves to only surround himself w/ family that will love and support him no matter what. he needs to go NC w/ that crazy, controlling mother too because she aint gonna change either

[@leahsundvall5894]

Irony…she sounds just like his Mother.

[@mds-kv2rs]

She is crazy. It was a list you went over it. And then move on. Its not like he cheated on you.

[@Jasmine_breeze]

I agree. Probably narcissist. A red flag for a poor guy.

[@Bunker278]

Shit like this is why men keep everything inside. Well, that and we don't want what we open up about being used against us when you're mad.

[@shealstewart5381]

OP giirRll, *_your fiancé should run and never look back,_* you went around the bend, there you were, it's *ALL a b o u t YOU!*

[@dianapickett1690]

Maybe you are not approachable. So he gets bashed because he loves you and was not able to tell you his concerns. He did what almost every therapist tells you to do. Write it down

[@jarodshawcroft6624]

The list he made reminds of things therapy used to suggest, don't know if they still do. She got pissed at his list but later she writes a similar list and hers is perfectly fine? Wtf. I agree he should of set clearer boundaries but her going to others before him kind of validates some of his things on the list and makes her a hypocrite cause she wants him to go to her but she doesn't go to him. Her also just up and giving ultimatums like she did is a red flag to me.

[@Mariewolf_94]

yes, they still do. therapists tend to suggest putting down all your thoughts, worries and/or grievances on a piece of paper as a list, so you can physically see all your thoughts and problems on paper. this is to help you organize your thoughts and see all your thoughts (metaphorically) from an outsider's POV; it's meant to help you take a step back and work through everything, make peace w/ the more darker parts of your mind, and, in the end, better yourself as a person. and i agree, her reaction to all this is a MAJOR red flag. i truly hope, since hes getting therapy and help now, he learns to value himself and his own worth and expectations, he realizes just how toxic she truly is and divorces her. she does not deserve him

[@1bestfriend2u18]

2:24 he should leave

[@1ladymacleod263]

OP have him the ring because he paused after she suggested eloping. That was stupid. Anyone would need a minute to process that. To me his mother had legitimate reasons why they might not be compatible. Now OP has caused her fiancé to distance himself from his family.

[@TdawgTheKingSlays]

Working things out doesn’t mean you act like something didn’t happen, you try to find solutions to your problem.

[@leahsundvall5894]

You will fight again, you will get on each other’s nerves. You will want to strangle each other, but as long as the good days and the average days outweigh the bad ones, you got a pretty damn good marriage.

[@Swagprincezz]

Ok I think u need to understand he was under pressure the guy was crying obviously he’s gonna write that down and plus it wasn’t that deep, he was scared bc he loved you,

[@zerotodona1495]

YOU started this mess OP. You caused this trouble and need time to think?

[@TdawgTheKingSlays]

Some people don’t feel comfortable talking like that.

[@seanmurray4323]

op is a master manipulator

[@donadeavera9608]

OP is an entitled Karen type. How dare he have feelings and fears. He's just to be so in love he never questions anything. He should run!

[@Ykitsisla]

0:57 people coming from shorts

[@Angelinefunedits]

Yes I can't wait to see your next story.❤️‍🩹

[@Lynthechickennugget]

0:55 - 0:57 for shorts people

[@dorabarkley6335]

OP you’re a pain - I mostly tell the woman to run / but this my advice is for him to runnnnnmmm useless banter over -- what exactly?? It was about you it was just a vent not in a bad way but a reflective way - stop thinking and talk to your man

[@jamiedoe3888]

This story is dumb. It’s his list which he was just putting his thoughts on a lists. It’s not this serious. Stupid overthinking and self involved. Drama queen. Not a good story and a girl definitely wrote this and never dated anyone and fantasizing this stupid story.

[@owlcake]

1 year update: So we are divorcing…

[@Shadow_onGT]

0:57 for part 2

[@Gorgeous_13swiftie]

Wait , is the fiancé a man or a woman ?? I’m confused Edit : TY for all the people who explains it to me . It was just the way the story was told and the way the description was with genders swapped

[@lorivalley]

Op is female, fiance is male

[@Privateperson4]

Male

[@Gorgeous_13swiftie]

@ Kk , just confused about some of the things in the video

[@lorivalley]

@@Gorgeous_13swiftie Could you tell me then? Perhaps I can help clear things up for you.

[@Gorgeous_13swiftie]

@ no need , it’s fine now ☺️

[@eliciabonnie]

I give them 3 years. It won't last longer. He has no spine, he didn't want to disappoint his 'family', meaning he didn't see OP as family or at least not as important as his mom. She was the scapegoat of his list, his mom became the scapegoat of the therapy. He just moves along with the flow. At the end I think the mom is right, OP is not the right fit. He's just swimming in a restless sea and he'll follow the lead of the last person to talk. 3 years... Maybe five if they have a kid in the meantime, but this will end in divorce.

[@katelyncaldwell7555]

Considering they are now properly communicating and learnt it's important they do I don't think it will. This sounds like the stepping stone to them actually forming a very real and healthy relationship.

[@Mariewolf_94]

​@@katelyncaldwell7555 i can only hope so, but i dont agree w/ OOP here: HE isnt the issue, SHE is! if she gets like this over such a non-issue, something tells me she gets on case over a lot of petty things and thats why he feels like he cant talk to her. i do hope they can communicate better and do better for each other (not just him, but her as well if she can pull her head out of her a$$), and they have a happy, healthy marriage, but i guarantee they wont last if she doesnt change too

[@Isa-d3l]

I think you need to be there for him probably has a child hood something

[@sanjeevanisinghal]

He will pull you down OP. Run run this psychology and upbringing style... There is lot of resentment in his heart because in his head he is lacking to be the provider.. no time if you marry him he will ask you to let go of your independence your job you are happiness... Baby trap also eventually

[@Sattrax]

OP needs to go at once. Divorce your husband. He is a control freak. Danger. Be wary. .

[@tiffystrangebirdbrown6844]

The phrase "...making him feel like less of a man" makes my skin crawl. 14:00

[@trishav.2710]

🤦🤯🤔 First off, I have to point out that making lists is a f🤬in' dam good thing 🧐 !!! Tons of peebles makes lists! To get most everything in perspective and slowly process 💩 : cause & effect, self vs mutual issues, mental insecurities or possible realities.... 🎤🫳 {I'm old-ish, autistic, excessively detailed, and my listing has no boundaries} 😏🤓 Secondly, {especially with boys/men/dudes/males/the guys} when/where/by who/how you're brought up leaves lasting personality traits & habits that may no longer be acceptable or be the "normal" now-a-days... 🫣🤫 Considering how societal beliefs(passed down, newly created, & popular brainwashing) view and treat men's feelings, thoughts, standards, and advertise WHAT "being a man" entails/demands/shapes the populations' definitions of them... Honestly, I'm surprised human beings are capable of self-influenced thoughts enough to pick partners and write lists at this point.... 🫢😜 It's all his emotions, fears, insecurities, and tryin' to feel his own way through problems; but she makes it all about herself.... 😓😢 Poor guy. AND YES! This all happens to women as well, but not as abundantly/extensively/massively/deeply/etc-ly (had to keep the rhythm 😂😅) ~Just myselfs' opinions, don't yell at them~