When Giving Her Space in a Relationship: HOW LONG Before Relationship is Restored?

When Giving Her Space in a Relationship: HOW LONG Before Relationship is Restored?
So you’re currently giving her space to miss you and you believe that giving her space to think and giving her space in a relationship will make her miss you.
But how long should you wait and give her space when she pulls away? How can you believe that if you give her space, she will come back?
In this video, I am going give you the REAL answer on how long you should be giving her time and space for, whether you should continue giving her space or move on, and a bit about how to give her space when she’s mad and how to give her space and let her come to you.
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[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@MrBigZN323i]

Geoffrey thanks again for all your help here on youtube whilst i really cant afford to do the masterclass but i need to know something, whilst every guy here would like to know when but that is like asking how long is a piece of string? what I want to know is what signs i should be looking for? when is the right time not in a chronological sense but how to tell is she ready? thanks again

[@DirectorCypriaInfo]

I like the straight and honest approach ,yes we need to work on ourselves !

[@cc3822]

What if you married and you are not sure you want her back?

[@shilohthebeagle1430]

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4 : 6

[@dennisray8904]

Thank you

[@renechavira9653]

Amen

[@user-qo1wq7vt7t]

Amen❤️

[@OmnivoreMacrophage]

This video made me smile like crazy, and I've watched it 6 or 7 times today. The reason this video makes me happy, is because it made me realize that I've reached a point where I act and think exactly like this. I've finally begun accepting that she wants space, that I must give her the space to work on her emotions and process her thoughts, while I work in my own issues. I am willing to wait for however long it takes, because I want to better myself for the sake of me, to be a better person and father.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Omnivore, Happy that this video have been so helpful in your situation… Once you understand why your partner needs time and space you can start the rebuilding process of safety & trust.

[@shubhagarwal158]

Hey ......is everything alright now?.....can you please share how you were able to work on this?

[@nickc8656]

I hope everything is good and went well with urs. Just going through the same thing with my misso and it’s definitely devastating as I’m just uncertain about my future but everyday waking up and just trying to focus on myself has helped. I still overthink and get worried about it a lot but everyday I can see it get better and I’m being more happy working on myself and doing things I want to do

[@orrengager3321]

Great comments man think I need to take this on board too. It’s horrible feeling going through a seperation as we speak

[@OmnivoreMacrophage]

I just wanted to give an update - Me and her are no longer married. But it was a decision made in unison. We agreed that we had been drifting apart for a long time, and that we would be better suited as just friends. She still enjoys her alone time, and I am slowly starting to open up when it comes to dating. We are better friends than we have been in years, since a lot of the tension is now gone. And although this video, and Geoffrey's other videos, didn't end up saving my marriage, I have learned SO much that I will bring with me into a future relationship. So, thank you Geoffrey.

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

Relationships are so fragile nowadays, and “she” can detonate it at any time, for any reason, logical or otherwise.... not even worth it.

[@heliuh1]

true

[@southcac24]

Facts

[@JAAY2KAAY]

Damn too on point yo it's ridiculous

[@mattjohn6819]

Yes woman are weak they think they are strong. Go find a province girl in the Philippines that hasn’t been molested by western media and you will find a good loyal hardworking woman who will never leave your side.

[@rob9368]

I’m going through this now. 8 years together. She’s been gone for just over a week. I’ve made some big self improvements with the time with my job and myself.

[@dontaimitchell3107]

Congratulations Rob.

[@rob9368]

Just to update. We ended up getting back together for a week now. She just started moving her things back in. She was gone in total for a month and a half while I worked on myself. I'm a lot better now.

[@dontaimitchell3107]

@@rob9368 That's great news, your story inspired me I hope it inspires other's as well. I hope everything in your life continues to fall into place.✌🏾

[@komradebussy4150]

I am in a LDR for almost 3 years but she said she needed space weeks back because she thinks that we couldn't make it together in the future. I really can't handle the thought of loosing her, I kept texting her and being just spamming her with reassurance and love. These past weeks I kept asking her to tell me how she feels whenever she is ready but she never did. After watching this video I understand now I should focus on myself and get ready for the result even though it may be bad. Even though I love her more than anything, but I believe right now I should just be patient. Update officially ended things 3 July 2022 She came back after 1 month but all she did was left again. I decided to move on because holding on to someone who already gave on our relationship is just causing yourself nothing but pain. Trust me cut off contact, she keeps trying to contact me but just focus on you now. Now I am working out daily and focusing more on my life, I feel a lot better about things. For all the people out there struggling right now with theirs. All the best to you and if it goes downhill then don't be afraid to focus on yourself, there's more people out there that will appreciate you. Everything will be okay.

[@stephenle2879]

Space is key. After watching this I’ve come to realize and understand that I was focused on the outcome rather then to just give space and time. It’s been almost two and a half weeks since everything hit the fan but it’s been on the downhill for more then 4 years. I’ve come to the realization that I’ve caused a lot of pain and hopelessness for my wife of 7 years together for over 12 years. I’m now on the path of changing myself first and permanently. Your videos have been getting me through these past couple weeks and I truly appreciate all you do to help men help themselves. Thank you.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love it, glad you are seeing the spirit behind the message that I am sharing. Thank you for your comment and support.

[@eriklopez7371]

that makes two of us its hard all the way around but its gota get done

[@Metalman2351]

What ended up happening?

[@connorchapman4637]

My god. This is my situation to a T!!!!!! I was solely focused on the outcome. I need to watch this video every single day. Ugh. Thank you so much.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

You got this!

[@MassiveMediaOnline]

Did you get back with your partner?

[@moldyrefrigerator]

Any update??

[@rob5465]

Update? Lol

[@vektorgekon4768]

I am so thankful for you guiding me towards this video Geoffrey. I will have to watch it a few times for sure to learn very well the concept. Thank you for all your great information, and great explanation on how to approach this type of situations. Stay blessed!

[@malibongweduma6883]

I was completely shattered when she said she wanted space, everything you’re saying is so true and I was so scared of losing her forever. But watching this really helped and made me realize that I just need to work on myself and have patience and respect her decision for wanting space.

[@Luciusaurelius]

My GF said she needs space/a break but she’s also moving out, what does that mean?

[@chiefskingdom4151]

@@Luciusaurelius it means she found a new pogo stick. Let her go

[@anotheranon2579]

How did things turn out?

[@atharvadeshmukh-kr6mz]

Did she come back?

[@ricachuuuu]

what happened? care to share?

[@andysarah6616]

Yes i do expect my husband to be a good listener & not giving judgement when i said something . It really makes me reluctant to express my feeling to him.

[@mani1px743]

This is exactly why i keep failing in relationships,you hit all the points!!

[@ianstewart3879]

This is the realest advice I've heard on this topic. Way better than those "five ways to..." or "three texts to send..." articles out there. I'm glad I found your channel, my girlfriend of almost five years just moved out on wants to take a break, and everything you've described encapsulates my situation so well.

[@ErMarvado201]

Did it end up well?

[@Jaybiino]

Thank you so much for this video, everything you said I witnessed just a few days ago and thought I was on the right track but I was fooling myself and your right, she was suspicious, I understood why but it still frustrated me. I gotta focus on me. I don’t have to have the goal of proving it to her. That’ll just be the outcome. I gotta put my growth as priority for myself. Then she’ll see it. You taught me that today.

[@rramanauthor2992]

this is going to help tons of people! thanks so much for sharing this with people who might be in that situation!

[@vaporwave2345]

I sincerely appreciate your wisdom and education on this issue. It gives a light of hope during dark times.

[@buellerferrisbueller3045]

Did things work out for you?

[@CreatewithKel]

Great info you are bringing peeps! Thanks for sharing!

[@Socoolral]

It’s been two days and this video absolutely pin pointed me to a T. This is so heart wrenching but I need to be have patience. I subscribed because your approach seems like the right advice.

[@YKSOFG]

Thanks again for the information. I really like the point that you say you need to improve yourself for yourself. I find myself understanding that more and more everyday. I'm finding this whole process more positive to me and becoming a better person. In the end it up to you to become the better person you want to be. " There are no shortcuts" and I wouldn't have it any other way

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Exactly! Glad you had that realization :)

[@cecilialambert2918]

Omg you are so right! That’s what I’m going though! Thank so for explaining in so clearly! You so good!

[@rejinyahel2170]

I watched 50 years of video in KZbin regarding this topic but didn't motivate me but now I feel im on the right track

[@kalluralove946]

I came here because, as the woman in this situation, I'm struggling with his "changes" being sincere. I'm trying to figure it out, and the more we talk and open up to each other, the more confused I feel. Thank you for giving this advice in such an authentic manner, hopefully it will help many couples resolve their issues!

[@janineplamondon8893]

That's why I clicked here too!

[@thefnaffan2]

New Sub... Wife left 2 months ago and I can't blame her. She's a good woman and deserves the best and I wasn't giving her my best...

[@johnh8780]

Man I'm in a very similar situation. Same here. Currently going through a process of self-improvement. I hope she believes my changes.

[@richiesaul9073]

Not alone here... me also.. 3 months now.

[@connorchapman4637]

Same here man. It’s tough. Hope we can all come out on the other side !

[@ANG3LiiToVU3LA]

My wife is leaving soon. Don’t even know what to do. But I’m Working on emotional safety

[@torachan23]

Simp.

[@wulfclaw4921]

Thank you so much. This is the REAL THING and do helpful. Much appreciation, Wulfy

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Awesome stuff man. Thanks for taking the time to comment and happy to be able to support you!

[@user-hv2su3uc1f]

I find all of these great! Your amazing! I will be joining your free class!

[@zohairali333]

Very well explained and I have understood the whole process of what I genuinely have to do moving forward. Thank you ❤

[@user-zx3he9ls6z]

Wow you have just spoken not even about me but into me😌you have no idea about how you relaxed my mind….seriously have been rushing more into getting her back rather than working on to my self.Thanks mr.Geof

[@TheMatureDiva]

Very interesting to learn from another point of view. This will help lots of people

[@rockstarterguitar]

Absolutely amazing insight, thank you. I've recently been through a breakup where my partner said she needed to be on her own, and my first instinct was, "I need to tell her how I feel immediately and try and get her back!" Thank God I found this video - I'm now spending the foreseeable future giving her space, working on myself and how to become a better person in my relationships...whether that's with my ex or someone else in future.

[@pete9105]

I like your delivery, makes it very easy to understand and Implement, subbed, good luck with the new channel 👍

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thank for the support! I'm sure you'll find many gems here :)

[@maceheath]

I think this is the healthiest video I’ve seen on this topic

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thanks for watching peeps! What did you find most insightful? Leave a comment below! I'd love to hear from yah!

[@TheAbdullahi305]

GEOFFREY THANKS .MY QUESTION IS I HAVE DIVORCE MY WIFE AFTER 7 YEARS IN MARTIAGE . SHE NEEDED TO MOVE ON HER OWN . AFTER SHE MOVE OFF FROM ME . NOW SHE TIMES CALL ME TO HELP HER WITH THE KIDS .SHE WANT ME TAKE THE KIDS TO THE KINDERGARTEN. I DO NOT CALL HER I HAVE DECIDED TO DO NO CONTACT .SINCE IT WAS HER DECISION TO MOVE OUT FROM ME . SHE TAKE KIDS FROM ME AND SHE NEED HELP WITH THE KIDS HOW COMES I THINK SHE IS USING ME . I NEED YOUR HELP . EMAIL ME .THRU [e-mail]

[@seanisboss777]

Fast vs right ! It changed my thinking completely. Time heals all wounds and I must be a consistent positive presence during this time and understand if she is who I truly love then the time will not be bothersome and patience will be required. It is a true test of love and manhood in my opinion. Thank you for your insight. It means so much

[@RichWil]

I’ve changed for her many of times but after I get her back I go back to my normal self. 2 months ago I changed for myself for the first time in this 3 year relationship of back and forths. I thought things were getting better but she doesn’t believe that I actually changed for myself she thinks I’m just trying to get her back again. I thought I had her back and was gaining trust but now she wants some space. I think she jsut want time to really think if she’s willing to give me another shot. And if she can get past the resentment she has towards me. We’ll see what happens. I’m gonna give her some space. She said she still loves me and wants things to work but needs time to think if she can give me another chance and get past her resenent and trust issues with me. I’ve never cheated or anything like that I’ve just been a shitty boyfriend and I didn’t realize it for along time what the issues were.

[@ste6826]

The need to give her space is clearly a massive oversight for most men and sure it’s good to be a man and take the initiative but this only seems to work as long as the lady does her bit too and not just blaming the man all the time. Surely it has to be a two way process?

[@shirazally6193]

Great advice!

[@speedyfrochesk2230]

Thanks for the advice!!! I’ll see how it goes 👍

[@nickycophen6326]

I stumbled on these videos but it wasn't a mistake as it's exactly what I needed to hear it just put everything in a different better perspective for me so thank you.

[@malikharrison8894]

It felt like you were speaking directly to me, even though we never met. Good vid

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thanks for the kind words Malik! Glad the work we put unto every single one of our videos is being recognized!

[@cosmicmeat3277]

Did it help I just lost my girl 😔

[@malikharrison8894]

@@cosmicmeat3277 I didn't get her back but, I learned what was wrong on my end of the relationship and his vids helped me gain closure. I'll be better next time is how I look at it.

[@LaboyMoto]

same!

[@NB-sq7ui]

Spot on Geoff, you really were..

[@johnmar5]

Geoffrey. Great video. It's always important for her to work on her self and "being the version" too for betterment of the relationship.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

With all due respect, that should NOT have been your takeaway from the video :) Don't play victim.

[@RubinaMerchant]

I can't give you any insights, cause I cannot give myself a break from your videos. They are making so much sense and don't want to stop. Lol.

[@rahuldeb9235]

Insightful...actually realization came much later..still processing the fact that "its always how long it shud take ME to unlearn-learn-to communicate-not ro communicate-react-not to react- face the battle inside"..detaching from outcome with positive mindset too tough..but may be the way

[@seanhung2600]

Thanks Geoffrey! Awesome

[@ShogunxCAL]

Being honest this is very true. Being stuck to an outcome keeps you stuck in the cycle.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi ShogunCal, Absolutely! One you can shift your focus from the outcome that’s the moment when things start to change.

[@b-rye8134]

spot on for me..Thank you for what you are doing here. I will be back for sure.

[@kateharvath]

This was spot on! You nailed it!! 🙏👍🏻🙌🏻

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Kateharvath, Great, be sure to let me know what you found most eye-opening.

[@charleslawrence1930]

good advice and break down👍

[@ZhengSW]

This simple short video could've saved me months and months of time. Thank you so much Mr. Setiawan!

[@RachelSmets]

I hope many couples watch this video. Very very very good. Myself, I am happily single and glad to have my own space :)

[@chriscostello7759]

I recently started talking to this girl and she said she needed space and which I have given her. I was hoping to at least reach out and wish her a happy birthday and see if shes doing any better. I think ive actually grown a bit because in the past i would freak out with other girls and go off the deep end, but with her Im learning to be more patient.

[@ZeeVonny]

How have you stopped ?

[@DonaldB]

Not sure if I want to go through the dating game again. I love my wife. Great video

[@Timhttrsn]

How did it go, Donald?

[@moldyrefrigerator]

Any update??

[@TaymaShine]

Donald? DONALD??!

[@artifactsantlersoh]

Thank you so much man, really. I’m learning so much from you and this video helped me tremendously.

[@tictoc439]

This video is incredible! I feel SO caught! It is like you're directly talking to me and knowing everything I've been doing and thinking so far...

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

So glad you found my video helpful. What did you like the most?

[@tictoc439]

​@@GeoffreySetiawan Honestly, I just think the realization that giving her space and bettering yourself is literally the best thing you can do in this situation. That eases the mind a lot. Fun fact: It worked! I feel like now the really hard part begins, but It'll be worth it. Thank you so much for your advice!

[@datyellaman447]

Man you are so right!!! It's been hard during this separation but I'm seriously trying to better myself without sabotaging myself, I'm still sad and I miss her of course but I want to be a better ME, everything you say is so true!! You are helping me so much

[@Jonathan-ko6hf]

Did it work out my man?

[@thevegaexperience8584]

@datyellaman447 did it work

[@gregory1252]

This one was very helpful, thank you very much!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Gregory, Thank you for your comment and support.

[@CyrusKawaii]

I just started watching your videos and these are exactly what I needed thanks! I've been really miserable and constantly texting her solutions but I really need to give her the space that she asked for cause I was afraid and worried she will leave me. This is my first real relationship ever, and I hope this process goes well. Thank you!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Keep watching my videos and you no longer need to hope!

[@CyrusKawaii]

@@GeoffreySetiawan Thank you soo much Geoffrey! My gf messaged me today saying that she misses me after we were in no contact for a few days. I kept watching your videos to not only help me feel better, but make myself a better person than I was before. Everything you taught me was 100% accurate. Thanks!

[@christopherkim1581]

How long were you guys in a relationship if you don’t mind me asking

[@nickleavitt2671]

@@christopherkim1581 yea that’s what I’m wondering I been on break for 2 weeks my 4 year GF ain’t missing me at all she enjoys the free time seems like don’t pick a party girl idk if she’ll ever come back

[@komradebussy4150]

@@nickleavitt2671 how is it going?

[@jillschmidt]

Great video, you were very concise with the info and it will be very helpful to a lot of people.

[@lynlyn6854]

Geoffrey, you are so wise and intellectual. Although this video is meant for men, it also helps women reflect on themselves. Thank you for sharing your knowledge :-) you’ve given me a glimpse of hope.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thanks Lyn! Appreciate you taking the time to leave this comment :)

[@skosankje]

You are so Point On , with Everything you had said...

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Glad it resonates with you!

[@thechiseven3962]

Another great video 👍🏾

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Wohoo!

[@916n0rcal]

I personally don't understand the space thing but as I am going through it and watching this video I understand how important it is to a woman to have it and I've had my impatient episodes where I plead for her to comeback. I need to control my emotions, work on myself and give her space to heal and gather her thoughts.

[@denricsixty970]

We are in the same boat you are not alone It's bad! But anyway let's see how it goes.

[@harshnegi3344]

How are things now?

[@killerx099]

I wish i found this earlier, Youve saved me from so many anxiety attacks it is unreal. Thank you

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love it! Here is another great video if you have been struggling with anxiety. Let me know what you think. kzbin.info/www/bejne/gnyTmH1tpKuWn6c

[@Narindra9]

Truely an opener for me, thank you so much. The journey to better myself for me. You have got my sub easy. 🔥🙏

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Happy you enjoyed the video. What was the most insightful part for you? I would love to hear your comments.

[@Narindra9]

@@GeoffreySetiawan The part when you talk about the perspective of bettering myself for the sake of me regardless of the outcome. The process may be long but it does not matter. i realized that it is not just about changing to get one thing but to slowly progress, keep growing and enjoying. And amazingly it can be applied in all aspects of life. Plus oneself can really be at peace once he comes to the realization that it is within that needs "improvement". I wish i had knwon all of this a bit earlier but eventhough i am more than grateful that i do now. I am sorry if my english is not that good, hopefully it is understandable. Thank you again Sir, I will keep looking for your uploads. Best regards from Madagascar. PS: Really appreciate when you use analogies with your explanations.

[@Everydaychicken]

A lot mental pain on losing a wonderful person. I can deploy for a year, but dont want loose her for a second.

[@theanxietyexpert9913]

Great information. Looking for the outcome instead of understanding the process makes a lot of sense to me. We sometimes just jump ahead wanting to get the results we want.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Exactly! Thank you for tuning in!

[@onlyvlogs1114]

This helped me alot right now. Im on the confused stage and it cleared my mind. I hope turns out well. So I stopped sobbing and start moving.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Gerard, Am happy this video has been helpful. Once you control your emotions, you will get more clarity on your situation. If you’d like to learn more, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: kzbin.info/aero/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU

[@basudevnayak4753]

I forced her to rebuild the relationship without working on myself at all after she asked for a break and she had prepared her mind for a breakup , I will follow these tips and keep updating! Thanks a lot :)

[@leonalaman9772]

Update?

[@1897max]

Great video.

[@tutugabriel9983]

Thanks for this video i have learned a lot and i did the right thing by giving her space and respecting her decision and not contacting her so she can be in a state to forgive me for the wrongs i did to her

[@emmanuelafful5335]

You're the best coach so far..I'm so into this girl I don't want any guy to talk to her so I hv become a little manipulative so I'm gonna try to use this approach..and I feel ok it will work

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thank you for your kind words. Appreciate it! What would you say was your most insightful part of the video?

[@ILLWill1027]

Hmmm. Great video and definitely on point! My Wife feels a break is needed but our issues are so fixable I said let's just take the necessary steps to fix things by making changes and forgiving one another for things. I have seen though she has entertained 2 guys back and forth on Facebook messenger so my thinking is a break would be to do just that and I don't agree with it but I know it's nothing I can control but I'm still praying and hopeful about the marriage overall. Im already working on myself but ofcourse we're trying to do a separation in the same home that we share a child together as well so it's tough to actually leave the home for either one of us.

[@andre168]

May I ask how does it goes? My wife also asked for space after 24 yrs of married and I'm hurt so much. She can't talk the problem with me but she can talk to other guys during our "cooling of period"

[@stephenpalscak6393]

Your methods are different than most popular authors on YT. However, it feels correct... like in the heart and chest i trust this, not that it will work 100 but instead, its showing required attributes (kindness, patience, selflessness,etc) relationships need

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Welcome to the new way of approaching relationships.

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[@justynkelly8356]

My girlfriend had asked for space and I was falling apart for the first few days and then I realized that I had been overwhelming her with to much love and attention and this space has helped me realize all of that and your video helped me lose my anxiety about the whole situation so thank you so much

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[@Sporacle]

Are you still with her now?

[@NadaAlawadhi]

I had this friend who would perceive me needing space as me requesting for the friendship to end. He would send me messages guilting me into seeing how good our friendship is and how bad it is to walk away from it. And then when I try to explain to them what I actually mean and how it doesn’t mean the end. They would just give me a few days to a week of space where they continue to just share mini messages. And then after that small period they would come and guilt trip me that I’m not doing anything to fix our friendship and that I destroyed it! Sometimes needing space just means needing space. Not just from one particular person but from everyone. It means needing space to step back and introspect. To work on some deep emotions and deal with them. It means I just need silence to be with myself and work on myself. It’s just that. No need to take it personally and freak out about it.

[@sarahstevenson8155]

I think so many people ghost when they say they need space that it can be hard to know people’s intentions

[@juliogonzales2051]

I was almost there but I prefer the idea of what I get out of it. this time is for me.

[@blitzkrieggaming8341]

Thanks so much man. My girlfriend and I both agreed to give eachother space mainly on her side though I wanted to give her space. I noticed every time I pushed for her she withdrew from me. My main objective is to better my self for me and I know when I better my self It will also benefit the relationship. I'm hanging strong and watching these videos keeps my motivation up because they bring me hope. I can only hope she comes back to me and only time can fix this. I appreciate your help

[@ismailcreisat8726]

What happened? Did she come back??

[@blitzkrieggaming8341]

@@ismailcreisat8726 unfortunately it was just a sad excuse to break up with me. What I have learned from this experience is that if she needs space it would be best to emotionally detach from her during this time and if you fall out of love with her then she clearly wasn't worth your time and effort. You shouldnt make her your first priority if she is gonna make you her last option. I believe the break thing is stupid and childish and if it were to happen to me again I wouldn't bother waiting for her to come back to me because if she truly loved me she would never need a break because she would talk to me about things that bother her and she wouldn't treat me like I was a last option. I treated her really good I mean yea I made my mistakes but I'm by no means perfect but I made the effort to fix my mistakes if she told me something was bothering her and I always fixed my mistakes and I changed for her. All I'm saying is that if you were really good to her and you can consider your self a king in her deck of cards and she wants to reshuffle, she will most likely end up with a bunch of jokers and she will regret leaving you. If you end up suffering through this stage I highly recommend to detach from the relationship and leave her behind. I understand it will be hard to do that but you will eventually move on. For me on the other hand I loved her so damn much that I may never want to be In another relationship again. I have been played for a fool 1 too many times and I'm unfortunately drained. In the end know what you are worth don't play these silly games with someone. I mean let's be honest here, if you guys did get back together (and if I got back together with my girlfriend). Do you really think everything it will be the same, do you really think your relationship will be just how you guys left it. So know your worth and keep your head up and keep moving moving forward don't stop for anybody.

[@ismailcreisat8726]

@@blitzkrieggaming8341 amen brother amen

[@richiesaul9073]

This information was just exactly what I needed to hear ! Finally!!

[@jahskl10]

How did it go for you man?

[@jamibouvier7255]

WOW 🤩… I have had a lot of good therapy in my past … I just want to say WOW!!! So many good points!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love it! Glad you are finding value from watching my videos. What did you find to be most eye-opening?

[@antsbasketball3282]

Love this video !

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Ants Basketball, What did you find to be most helpful?

[@Shonenshark]

I have and am watching this video multiple time today. Just to keep me motivated

[@guyhansen1555]

I'm going through this right now I'm making notes an following your steps

[@coop8861]

Just want to say thank you.. i have only watched two videos so far and they really are helping my situation right now. Thank you i mean it

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Coop, You are welcome! Really appreciate your comments and am happy that the info have been helpful. Just keep growing to become the best version of yourself!

[@coop8861]

@@GeoffreySetiawan To be honest with you my gF and I got into a argument over the weekend and I acted way out of line not being who i am and after that she told me she needed some space. So these videos really are helping right now thank you!

[@ck8087]

Thank you for the advice. I am in this setuation right now. I had a great advice watching your vedios . Lately her responds was : i am lost i dont know how i feel . I stayed silent and then she added ( i dont feel happy right now neither sad , i am observing). My answer was ( I understand. When ever you feel to talk let me know ). While. I am giving her the space i am working on my self for the better . Thank you 🙏🏼

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[@travisganiko6509]

Bro I watch all of your videos and you’re spot on. I’m wondering if you give one on one counseling?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Travis -- We only do 1:1 counseling through our Relationships Revival program. Feel free to join our masterclass to learn more about it and submit your application (relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass) or feel free to take a look at some client stories here: drive.google.com/drive/folders/1yniC6i80XQgaF8GnN7cmBXyQ6nYEAlvM?usp=sharing

[@zuluwarrior6149]

You speak sense bro, thanks 🙏

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Zulu, What stood out the most to you?

[@Bebob85]

Your video always pop up in the right time..its just like God asking me to watch it

[@beto5500]

Im going to counseling to better myself, its been hard but im trying

[@kingjohnjuly]

I don’t know if won’t be single again I love my girl I do anything to get her back

[@Jay-jd7ru]

This is the best coach and I can’t understand why he’s not more famous it’s crazy this worked for me

[@gebronthomasson6960]

You pegged me on my issues on this one ( on our problems in the relationship with my ex) and I thought I was doing good prior to this he breakup until I became aware after when starting watching and learning about my/our Attachment styles ( me and Anxious and her a DA)..now know the communication dynamics..

[@isaiah4123]

So I’m here a bit late, I made the mistake of trying to pull her back in after she asked for space and she came back temporarily but said she didnt feel attached, and it just didn’t feel right. So I told her that I respected that and if she didn’t think it would work I backed her up on the decision to end things. This was about a week ago and we’ve been in contact through text, and once in person. She says she needs time and I’m smart enough to not pour my heart out and beg for her back. But I understand I’ve handled some things poorly, and hope to restore what I lost

[@mdz_8821]

How are things now?

[@SurgeonOfDepth]

yes, cause I’m going through the same thing would love an update on it

[@CyanDumBell_MC]

yea, same brothers

[@dadunbar20]

Sheesh man where do yall find the strength to give her time

[@staygolden84]

@@dadunbar20 we just gotta stop simpin lol 😂 I used to struggle bad with this

[@dgardner61]

i WILL TRY TO TAKE THE CLASS DURING THE WEEK, i AM WORKING TOMOMOW AND MONDAY AM... thanks!!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

David Vance Gardner, we keep the class pretty flexible with the times so be sure to book your spot soon. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@calaser10]

I just started watching your videos today and they look very helpful and full of information. Would you say that your tips and things also apply to a relationship that is fresh?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Yes!

[@marks5740]

Best relationship advice on KZbin. . wished I watched this video 7 weeks ago !! To late for me !

[@Denimchicken.]

Seriously such a comfort to hear just to here you talk. My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 years and we were 17 when we got together, we had to move in together quickly because her family was moving away and she didn’t want to leave. So we stayed at my dads for 7 years and saved/ bought our house together and we have always been extremely happy. Everyone is super shocked to hear that she wants to part ways because we are know as the power couple and have been referenced as Marshall and Lilly from the show HIMYM if you know that one. But She wants space for us to grow and I’m terrified I just want to move back home. This could not have came at a worse time my grandmother passed away Sunday and we were all very close. I know space is what she needs I really want to move back home she is my everything.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thank you for your kind words... Really appreciate it! Give her space, work on yourself and everything else will fall into place...🙂

[@Rbear266]

Hey man, any updates? Also I’m with you 8 years since we were 19. Any way yea Geoffrey is the best one I’ve found on KZbin especially for long term people. No playing ego games, just better yourself. And I’m in like week 4 of space and I think I’m finally nearing that point of not latching to the outcome. But that also scares me because then I’m like well then if I stop caring about the outcome does that mean that the relationship is over??? Because definitely not the outcome I prefer.. I’ll make peace with eventually and respect her decision but definitely not preferred… but yea I hope it worked out for you man.

[@nickc8656]

@@Rbear266 yeah mine isn’t 8 years but year and half and idk we’ve been very close and we moved in together at my parents very early and now she’s want more space to do her own thing which I completely understand and I’m trying to do my own thing. But I fear I’m also too attached to the outcome and going to be too pushy. I’m just afraid if it’s because she’s falling out of love with me as she doesn’t know if this relationship is going to last but she’s made it some what clear that she thinks it’s because she doesn’t feel happy in the relationship but loves me a lot and wants more time to be able to do her own thing. I can only hope giving her space will work as I know jsut continually pushing like I’ve somewhat done previously isn’t going to work. Plus it feels super weird to go against what u want to do

[@Rbear266]

@@nickc8656 well my girl just “officially” broke up with me 5 days ago. But has been reaching out everyday with weird messages about ‘look at this, I just want you to be proud of me’ which is confusing the shit out of me. But I’m trying no contact meaning not initiating but responding for now and might have to send her a message about like please stop sending me these messages because they are messing with my emotions. If we are broken up we are broken up

[@raymondgerardcarls4741]

@@Rbear266 how are you now?

[@housearrest4443]

This is really helpful and has been getting me through my separation from my wife. We’ve been separated since Xmas eve 2022 and it’s been so brutal. I did all the pushy begging and pleading, looking for answers. She says she wants space to grow and then we can start the relationship again from the start and forget all the negativity in the past. Fast forward to now and I’m not initiating contact and trying to better myself. She still messaged me and says she still fancies me and loves me but the anxiety of losing her is painful. Thank you Geoffrey for your videos.

[@cmoneygg5980]

I did the exact same. I’m 6 weeks in and just now discovering how I should’ve acted. It can’t be too late, I’m still hopeful.

[@housearrest4443]

@@cmoneygg5980 stay strong, and keep a positive mindset. It’s easier said than done but the moment you start to focus on yourself, you’ll notice a shift and your other half will notice too. I wish you all the luck.

[@mrkadiz1244]

@@housearrest4443 update?

[@housearrest4443]

@@mrkadiz1244 hey, it’s average. We still communicate. She reaches out to me first, I don’t contact her, it’s at her pace. She invited me up last week for drinks and chat which was nice. She said she doesn’t trust me emotionally which is fair. So I bed to build that up again. She asked me if I’d done anything with anyone else and I said no, neither has she, so she says. But I believe her. So it’s just a long game. Thanks for checking in.

[@Metalman2351]

@@housearrest4443what ended up happening?

[@lukeleonardrasmussen3550]

I love your videos. Right now i am separated from my wife due to some of my anger issues. This video helped me a lot. Thank you.

[@mscisland]

Much appreciated brother. Keep posting. I enjoy your videos very helpful.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

I appreciate that! Will do man!

[@chrststllkmp]

I love your content. You are ensuring the path I am already on and that this is the time to work on myself and restructure my focus in life. I feel that I made progress and that I am more happy and fulfilled. However, do I try to take any actions to communicate these changes to her? We had no contact for a few weeks now and due to a kind of long distance between us, we do not see each other randomly.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

The most powerful way to showcase your changes is by letting her choose WHEN to be curious, and HOW she wants to find out. If you decide this for her, it will de-value your changes a lot.

[@LEObearbear]

Same

[@moparmtb360]

Some of the problems I find is that gossip between your wife/girlfriends friends can be very damaging. She has most likely spoken to them about the things which annoy her about you! As we know people tend to dwell on the negative points and not broadcasting the positive memories. Especially if her friends are not having luck in relationships and your wife/girlfriend tends to moan about her man to make her feel at their level. If Her female friends don't have children they are a bad influence, The ones who do have children but divorced are never likely to admit to your wife/girlfriend that they made a mistake. Also the chance of your wife/girlfriend telling her friends she made a mistake or swallowing her pride and changing her mind is also unlikely.

[@housearrest4443]

This is exactly my position. I found out my wife’s friends were talking negative about me and that had an effect on her. My wife admits that her friends are toxic and they do her no good.

[@Ox_musk]

This the best explanation i get, i made some mistakes with my arrogance and i will fix this,

[@galv9499]

Going through it right now. We were not dating for long time but it still touches

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Galv949, What did you like most about this video?