The BIG SIGNS You Should KEEP TRYING With Him | Matthew Hussey

[@zamekilewendymzila]

When he said "someone can't be that great that you have to keep chasing them" I felt that

[@nikkibooks3096]

Hello lovely, Dr Stephen was able to restore my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex, I'm so much greaful to him. And also Dr Stephen always keep to his promise I advise you to seek him out so that he can help you also thanks!

[@nikkibooks3096]

[phone].

[@Yamikaiba123]

Me too 🙄

[@nathand4500]

welcome to a man's world day in day out.

[@leptune]

What if he's richest man in the world? 🤣👀

[@fajaranuar4333]

When you're chasing someone, it means that someone is running away from you. Get the hint.

[@nithaazalea7579]

Yep he is gone

[@imwatching2960]

Exactly!

[@SLCtica]

😂😂😂

[@amyoverton8737]

Well said!

[@SupAModel100]

💯

[@CrystalSicily]

You let him know ONCE that you like him. That's it. If he doesn't pursue you...he's not INTERESTED.

[@saramaccarrick5673]

this is so true and underrated!!

[@artemis2291]

That’s so true and powerful

[@weirdscience6820]

I'm the proverb bull in a China shop. But was trying to make up for some harm I did & inadvertently smashed it to smithereens, great. It was the risk I took. Now he must think I'm a stalker, despite adding that I was joking! Actually hang on, I didn't add that but thought he'd know by my little laugh 😆. Funny but not 😓 😢. Misunderstandings involved. Probably didn't care anyway. Communication was one way.

[@thecurrentmoment]

Yeah, if only it was that easy. You seem to think of people as light switches or robots. If that is your standard then that's fine, but I don't think you understand how people (and guys) operate. Some people don't have that much confidence, they need a few reassurances. If you show some genuine curiosity you may be pleasantly surprised by who is interested in you. Again, if that is your standard and you want to only show your interest once then that's fine. It just doesn't mean that they are not interested in you. It could be a whole lot of things. They could be shy, ignorant, oblivious, absentminded, have a bad cold, have something on their mind, and the list goes on. Maybe they think "if she is interested, she will show me more than once". You just don't know until you find out

[@CrystalSicily]

@@thecurrentmoment My advice. GET YOUR ACT TOGETHER. If a Woman shows you that she's interested. Pursue her. Women IGNORE men they don't like.

[@athenatheshewolf]

"You can't have someone who's great for a relationship but doesn't invest." YES!

[@fleshmaiden69]

When it comes to friendships too honestly

[@tugzsurf]

Ok I have watched many of your videos. It’s not the women it’s the men! They just chat and text they never ask a girl out. The men need you more than women. They all have become to passive in south california. All my beautiful friends who have good morals values and jobs have same issues. We have so many aggressive women here who are successful and beautiful. The women who want to be chased have no chance because a 1000 hot women want the same good looking man with a job we want. Maybe come to california and do seminars for men to become men.

[@rogerward3390]

Define invest

[@tugzsurf]

Invest is time, emotions(if applicable) and financial on both sides.

[@justanothergoogleuser3263]

​@@tugzsurf okay, how about the man that asked woman out but rarely chat? Only calls and and chat when he misses her?

[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*If love cannot stand the test of time, then it has failed the test of love.*

[@valerieinnyc4719]

I want to know where that coffee shop is, that Matthew keeps talking about, where the coffee is delicious and the men seem great 😂 ☕️

[@sunshinedayz7032]

😉💪🏼☕

[@sarai72]

Right? I’d like to know as well.

[@KarinaCor]

I like your sense of humour 😂☺️

[@Seisha-Eagle]

I love these points here, very valid information! One should never be desperate to the extent of loosing themselves to keep someone!

[@infolanguages]

Hahahahah I laughed way too hard at this! XD

[@colin4060]

I'm a guy, and I've been watching a lot of your content the last couple of months. And even though your target audience is female, and I am a guy, I've learnt so much from you, because I'm starting to understand the female side so much better now. thank you for this

[@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy]

Yes, I have been learning that there definitely some differences in the male and female brain. Some of the differences in behavior can be blamed on biology, such as the fact that women have their emotions spread all across the brain, while males only have a small emotional compartment in the brain that is stored way wayy at the back, away from most other parts of the brain (sex was said to be spread all across the male brain, rather than emotions; while the female brain is quite opposite in these two particular subjects. I am really trying to understand a situation right now, on trying to figure out if my coworker is still interested in me. He has been chasing me for over a year, then amped up the flirting for a little over two weeks, and then when I return the flirts, he seemed really into it for about three weeks, and then suddenly he seemed to have a mini panic and avoided eye contact with me for two days. Then when I ignored him, he started looking at me and making long eye contact again, but our eye contact feels more awkward now because I feel like it all got ruined in a sense. And today we weren't sure whether we should look at each other or talk to each other. He seems so timid to talk to me right now, so I really can't figure out where this thing is all going, because I don't know how a guy would act if he's interested in my particular situation (where he suddenly has a mini panic and turns it all into an awkward situation by suddenly pulling away. He's probably too afraid to start flirting again, possibly thinking that I am angry at him, and so I really don't know how to read his intentions, and I wonder how long I should wait until the feelings of awkwardness finally subside so that we can have a chance at flirting and progressing again. I've been so fudgin' frustrated today that I really don't know what to think or do 😥.

[@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy]

@@colin4060 I would totally love some advice, because I don't have a clue what he is thinking, or how to get out of this phase of feeling awkward around each other. So far, the advice that I have given myself is to literally do nothing, and to try and not to give a crap about the situation.

[@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy]

@@colin4060 I would love to know what he might be thinking, even if I don't like it. When I happen to be around him, I try to act like it doesn't bother me at all, and I am trying to treat him the way I would if I lost interest (because I bet you that as soon as I turn my focus off of him and start focusing on someone else, that will be when he will start to like me more, but then it would be too late.

[@colin4060]

@@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy from what I'm reading and how I would be in such a situation, I would say, talk with him about it. Like a legitimate conversation about your intentions/interests, and his intentions/interests. Personally I don't like having to find hints and small flirts, I'd rather just be told that someone had feelings/interest in me which can then make me more confident to flirt back. Maybe he's just not sure whether you feel the same as he does. Now of course it could also be that he's keeping you on a leash and sometimes giving you attention to make sure you don't leave. I can't be sure about that because I obviously don't know this other person, nor do I know you. But the chances are really high that he's just unsure about this whole situation. And all in all, you're both adults, so such a conversation should be nothing to be afraid of. If you want to chat about it with me, hit me up on my Instagram, that talks a bit easier than a KZbin comment section 😅. So if you want, colin.brav

[@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy]

@@colin4060 that sounds fair. I am 95% sure that he knows that I was interested (I held eye contact with him for a good period of time, multiple times during my shift, and then one day he caught me looking at him and he seemed to be annoyed by it (maybe he seen me as being needy because I was already looking at him before looking at me). My instincts tell me that he felt pressured when I would look at him and do the head tilt, and then I wonder if that scared him, because maybe he suddenly realized that things could turn serious, even though I really just wanted to casually play it by ear. I feel like I gave him too much attention, and then he suddenly took a leap away from me. He and I have never had an actual real conversation before (may be a one-minute conversation) because we work in different departments of the store. I tried to approach him when he started to pull away, and then he seemed to have gotten frazzled and avoided eye contact with me because he probably didn't know what to say and didn't expect me to approach him. But at this very moment, I am not sure if he knows that I still like him, but I don't want to suddenly wreck everything by suddenly fighting for his attention when he doesn't deserve attention. I acknowledge his presence by looking at him, with a mostly blank face, but I don't maintain eye contact with him anymore and am trying not to flirt at all in the hopes that he will try harder to win me over. Should I suddenly start holding eye contact with him if I catch him looking at me from across the room, or will that teach him that I am easy where he doesn't put effort into winning my love? Sorry for writing a novel, lol.

[@murielmcgregor4766]

I'd love for Matt to address this: The only guys who seem interested in investing are guys whom I'm not attracted to. So I tell them I'm not interested. Then, I find a few men who I am actually physically/intellectually/pheromonally attracted to and they don't really want to invest. So I end up chasing a little until I realize that's what's happening and I stop. It's just frustrating. I have my life together in so many ways, so I want a partner who's in the same place. I've been ready to commit for years, but the men around me seem to be content with a never-ending cycle of honeymoon phases. Once they realize that they're going to have to communicate, compromise, and even change a little bit, they're out - because they can find another slightly younger and less wiser female who will go through the cycle with them all over again.

[@therealtulip]

Story of my life

[@mattkugler8068]

As a gay man, I can relate to a lot of your points. I think the dating landscape now favors quick fixes over relationship building unfortunately.

[@StrangeDisposition]

Me too 100% have that same experience. I’m 33 and I am getting worried.

[@therealtulip]

@@StrangeDisposition 37 here…

[@goldscythe6242]

Works the same way for men.

[@valfarruggia8886]

One pro tip: just ask. Ask him why he linked up with you in the first place. You'd be amazed at the raw truth you might get in return, and it saves so much time.

[@queen_of_elegance7218]

" in dating the problem is we don't do enough communicating, we do too much chasing"- so well said 👏👏👏

[@sophiapsychictarot2669]

Hey friend I got my relationship fixed with the help of the greatest spiritualist who bought my ex back after many months of separation"

[@sophiapsychictarot2669]

Here I leave his WhatsApp Number he will surely help you

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[@SashaHiwatari]

GOLDEN THOUGHTS (video's summary): 🔸️Invest in who invests in you. 🔸️Invest and then test. 🔸️We don't do enough communicating but we do too much chasing.

[@janicerockwell8417]

For me communication with someone I was attracted to was an enjoyable learning experience. He left and I was better prepared for a future relationship. It was all good. Married with children, then divorced, I missed out on romance and sweetness of courtship. Goosebumps ! 💞

[@janiceoffei1384]

@@janicerockwell8417 Hiiii

[@jaynesjourney1721]

I legit only look for these comments on these types of videos haha

[@teresaredman4405]

🎉

[@animeannaotaku]

Can we just talk about how serene the background looks?

[@nabbanjamariam8681]

So cool

[@EstebanQuijada]

noticed it alot too

[@anoukc6928]

I think this applies to any relationship, like friendships.

[@theg.o.a.t3577]

This didn't work out for me; I got my ex back with the help of someone else whom I know can help you too

[@theg.o.a.t3577]

Text me

[@theg.o.a.t3577]

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[@bellydansah]

@@theg.o.a.t3577 lol wow! Going onto someone else's vids to try to take their business. Oof

[@AzadeSeif]

I have to say that "in the blue" thing is absolutely epic. After I watched that video some time ago, I'm always measuring the blue in my texts.

[@funnymovie2897]

Its like with a dog: you run after it, it runs away. You run away, it goes after you 😀😀

[@goddyhelen6049]

Hello I know of someone great and powerful who helped me get my ex back recently he can also help you too

[@funnymovie2897]

I am happily married actually :)

[@HeartandHorror]

Funny both true

[@MP-nj1qy]

😅😂😂😂

[@toria37]

Someone said “I like you but don’t want to lead you on.” At this point I feel like I should completely pull away.

[@Gabriela323]

Girl, run the other way and find someone who values you. It’s up to you whether you wanna give it a shot or not, but I was once told the same thing and I put myself through a lot of unnecessary pain that I’m still healing from.

[@toria37]

Thanks 🙏🏼 I know it’s what I should do :/

[@Wellwithkel]

Victoria Itskov yes find a new one b

[@catherine9808]

Completely pull away , you’ll save yourself a lot of head wreck and pain .

[@YogawithAliBeale]

Absolutely tell yourself you are worth more! If they are not in it with you 100 % I would be out.

[@carmenkamberos1156]

With me, he did all the chasing and communicating, I responded positively and a long and beautiful relationship developed. If he’s interested enough he will pursue .

[@stayslickwithkit]

Chasing is investing continuously without them investing back. Courting someone is you investing a bit in them, and they invest a bit in you, doesn't matter who makes the first move. And for sure only continue so as long as you're getting the return, almost like any business deal 😂 Thanks Matt, always an inspiration for my channel.

[@katherinep708]

@@missmadelinesadventures3278 I think so!

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

Nobody should be chasing. A man should pursue, not chase.

[@el_gol]

@@sbusisiweshaba1715 a man should nothing, thia both side stuff.

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

@@el_gol That's your opinion. My man pursues me and that's what I would teach my fellow feminine women.

[@el_gol]

@@sbusisiweshaba1715 that's what some women think and that's why they need to watch this kind of videos because they know nothing about men. When you think that you are the prize and that you must be persued then there is something wrong.

[@mummy8460]

""How can someone be so great that you continue to chase them "" that's deep

[@marymccormack2317]

I am a 63 year young lady.. I met a man and he seemed to be into me. I didnt know him. Me met again at a dance and we danced a few times and I felt he wanted to ask me out and I said do u want to date me. Later he came over and asked on a date. He said he was bit shy and thanked me for making bit easier. We in a relationship now and he stepped up to the plate. It's a risk but I felt it was worth it. 💯😍

[@jessicahitchens6926]

Your not young.. 🤣

[@youtubedrifter5594]

Are women really that delusional 😂 like cmon!!

[@bl7817]

@@jessicahitchens6926 wow, and I thought mean girls had to be pretty.

[@Indigomaja]

Now all I need to do is find a man who's willing to invest in me.....

[@silvermont331]

Me too 😂

[@anataliavallez]

You will!! Knowing this for you!!

[@Jenn-1222]

Yep

[@quinmai16]

T

[@thecurrentmoment]

How about....excited to invest in you? Instead of just 'willing'

[@ShayC143]

I always find myself back here rewatching this video to remind myself not to invest in someone who isn't willing to invest in me. My energy has been sucked dry and now that I have ended things I'm regaining it back! Know your worth people. There are better people out there who will appreciate you and what you have to offer. Stand your ground.

[@jessicahitchens6926]

Are there? I don't think there are many quality men on the market..

[@rx6857]

this is so true! show your interest, make it easy for them to communicate with you. if you see bad behaviour you don't like then tell them in a polite manner and see their reaction. if you don't like their reaction then move on

[@GreeceKelly]

Let them know you're interested and then wait and see if they're also interested. We don't want people who don't want us! You explained that simple concept years ago Matthew. Thank you

[@LisaSabala]

Being proactive is different from chasing someone. If the date leads to chasing, oh, cut it off. Thank you so much for the tips, Matthew!

[@TruthoverWine]

So true!! Women do make the mistake of leading with their feelings and not their heads when dealing with men in relationships. Men are pretty straightforward.

[@queenesreina7424]

@Eris To be fair, the OP said *Men*. Grown men who _behave_ like grown men, their behavior will be much different than someone who _looks_ like a grown man, yet behaves like anything but. Quality vs imitation. Best of hopes!

[@silentgrove7670]

Not all males are like this. I happen to be a highly sensitive male and I lead with my feeling. Its lead to two unrequited loves in the last four years. Fortunately I have figured out how to manage this in the last case without getting hurt. Not all women lead with feelings either as one of my friends clearly doesn't.

[@Predictable1]

Men are everything but straightforward.

[@georgialee6755]

Men are not always straightforward - sometime but now always

[@joicethatsme]

Yet men can be indecisive

[@FollowYourLife]

There are specific signs and red flags that one should notice, and for doing so, we must act consciously, not repeat the unconscious patterns on and on

[@katnisseverdeen2724]

I have autism and keep struggling with this aspect of dating, and no one could give me constructive advice. You have officially solved a big problem of mine with your simple and practical advice. Thank you 😊

[@tcchip]

@theygirl I'm also on the spectrum myself, and it's so difficult, simply because it's so hard to read cues.

[@thebackup2121]

I'm an Autistic person too, glad this helped you! I'm on a break with the GF (or rather, it's not on hold but she needs time to work through personal things) so I'm a bit stuck as to whether this applies to me, it seems enough to match her current level of investment and just message here and there for now

[@thebackup2121]

@theygirl Same here, we need more "to the point" advice!

[@thebackup2121]

@@tcchip Yeah it's tricky, but having a social savvy friend, and sharing regularly with other Autistic people, both really help - Keep going! 😄

[@R1senb18c]

As a male on the spectrum dating is beyond frustrating to me. I've done work for decades to better myself and I seem to keep attracting women who don't invest in me the way I energetically invest in them. Grateful I have a few good friends an amazing Aussie Shepard to keep me company. Lol.

[@positivetea_]

"invest a little so that you can test whether you get anything back, and ONLY continue to invest in those who invest in you." 💯

[@kimminseo0121]

Invest in people based on how much they invest in you, not based on how much you like them. Invest and then test(measure the reaction). Give a little and see if they move a little to meet you where you are. Communicate, not chase. Commuicating is showing them that you like them & expressing your fondness. Chasing is continuing to invest in that person without getting anything in return long after the point you've communicated with them. Invest a little bit so that the other person knows where you stand, knows that you are open to a date, knows that you'd like to see them for another date, knows that tou find them attractive & appealing - this is brave, vulnerable and courageous. Chasing someone is a sign of low self worth. How could someone be that great when they are giving nothing in return after you having communicated with that person for so long? Noone can be that great.

[@vigabor1457]

Hi Matt, your message just saved a lot of hearts from being broken. It's clear when someone wants you to be in their life, it's not difficult and painful. There's no chasing and begging in a reciprocal or balanced relationship. 💕

[@tyboogie1982]

Yes! That applies to any relationship, whether it's friendships and romantically

[@sharersale6480]

Matthew always gets me out of dark places when I hit a rough dating patch. The love and pride I have for him, can't articulate. Thanks for what you do mate!

[@MrWesleysDad]

Just wanted to comment, I’m a dude, and I can appreciate the videos. Fresh out of a 2 1/2 year relationship, I can see some things that I did wrong, and that she did wrong. I can also see where we both went right. When you come from a bad childhood, and have no good examples of healthy relationships, it’s hard to know what to do or expect. Videos like these help a lot

[@33quincey]

'you're in the blue mate' I'm dead 😂💀

[@howiknow4582]

3:00

[@paolaflores6161]

Its very important to realize when you are being rejected, and why we allow/find atraction in rejection. 🙈

[@anne-claired.7207]

Even though I am single and very happy to be single, I keep watching your videos for 2 reasons : your positive energy, and the fact that all your pieces of advice apply to friendships as well. Thanks a lot, and I wish you the best in life 🧡

[@rainbowwarpig3536]

Do you girls own a cat by any chance.

[@tacrewgirl]

Same. It's good friendship advice.

[@coutureleotards]

God said don't get into a relationship unless you plan to get married. Don't get married unless your prepared for many troubles. Stay single unless you just can't help yourself but don't be shocked when you have to put in more work than expected when your married. You can't tap out when it gets hard so stay single and save yourself the trouble. I kid you not that's the advice God gave 😉

[@sethtenrec]

@@coutureleotards “god said”… lmao, Were you listening to her say it?

[@tendaicleopatramhembere3000]

Am I the only one who hits the like button before even listening coz he s good.!!? I just love this guy.

[@charlottesmith5760]

No, you're not! Matthew has this gift for creating valuable content that everyone can benefit from. Love this guy😀

[@Lolstop100]

Nope haha

[@kristinahamel]

Me, as I click open the video 💁🏻‍♀️

[@naomenyambira3416]

Gogo 😀😀

[@bitturuyal6850]

Always remember the red flags you ignore in the starting will distroy your entire relationship.

[@sati4486]

I found the love of my life at 41. Effortlessly, going for a walk near my apartment. At the time I had become wildly determined ONLY to take a man who was willing to invest his time in me from the start, someone with similar needs and wishes. Our relationship was so easy compared to my other relationships from the start. Now we are married and have a son. He is twelve years younger than I am and I wasn't even looking for a younger man. I think you have to be very sure about what you want snd what you don't want internally. Unavailable men will just stop showing up in your life. You only have to be brave enough to stick to your standards and live your life joyfully. The right man will eventually show up for sure. It's called law of attraction. 🙂🍀

[@Laura-sn8iy]

Thank you so much for this video! When I see a man I like I become so passionate and I absolutely adore him. I used to communicate this more often but sometimes I loose my self esteem and put the guy on a pedestal. However, that’s always a setup for failure! I will now continue being charming and pro active and whoever is open for it is going to have the time of his life. 😌

[@oseahumenkubana170]

I have some who can help you get pregnant

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Give him a text message on what's app

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[@_hautebox3877]

Invest and ASSESS.

[@holiday197]

Great video. The principle of investing and testing can also apply to friendships as well. When you’ve been making most of the effort to keep a friendship going and the other person just goes along with it and never takes it upon themselves to catch up with you then it’s time to let them go and find new friends. And yes this has happened to me and I realised that life and time is too valuable to waste on people who aren’t invested in you as a romantic partner or a friend.

[@sunitafisher4758]

🌸 I once saw a caption that placed it very simply Spend your time on those that love you unconditionally. Don’t waste it on those that only love you when the conditions are right for them

[@inegbedunbar332]

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[@allimenendez3149]

I have a guy I’ve been having a complicated mess with for about a year and a half. Just listen to this opened my eyes so much to it is and what it isn’t! Thank you so much for communicating your advise and lessons! He is such a helpful speaker, I love how honest and how straight forward he is!

[@LonjeMarie7]

To anyone who is this Reading this I know it’s frustrating you have to grieve, be disappointed, over someone that Did NOT , return your interest and affection. Try not to ruminate over what you’ve lost ,but rejoice over what YOU eventually will gain someone BETTER!

[@callumtaylor6038]

I know this is mostly for women but it's still powerful for everyone me being here since last year I'm glad to say that you Matthew Hussey have changed me for the better I was so lost and so filled with pain but now I see everything thank you so much you really have helped me so I say this please keep making these videos for everyone and that I hope your doing good man honestly I can't imagine this being easy for you.

[@sweettemptations2695]

For me too dear...

[@ribidimi]

lovely

[@TheEbonycullen]

Quality content as always! And you look so good with dark hair. ❤️

[@diegoandy2031]

i know right, i watch his videos a lot. Helps me widen my perspective

[@skylight_gameuse]

i think men should rather watch his vids than others, there are plenty of male coaches who just encourage toxic/creepy behaviors that make women run away. this kind of advice apply to everyone wether you're a man or woman

[@aanelejj]

After investing in him for 2 years I finally decided I'd stop. Now that he's not busy anymore and that he realized what his priorities are,he is hoping to get me back. I don't know what to do,I love him but I feel like he had too many chances...and now that he's actually showing me he cares and that he invests it's hard to think straight

[@Miiimiiinette]

Yea ... same here. Invested for few months and as soon as i back off he reaches out .... i think they just are too used to us doing all the "work" and become lazy. Thats why this advice is so key. We need to stop doing too much cuz we obviously see it not working in the long run.

[@51844mj]

Be the one who got away.... he has taken you for granted.. cause he knows you will be around. Why bother with that? Just leave and love yourself

[@sanouja]

Don't fall for it. He just realized that you moved on. He'll repeat the same patern if you ever let him back.

[@anuranjana5927]

omg! same I am so tired of trying.

[@eadc2158]

@@sanouja totally true. The OP became a challenge again so once she gives in, he will disregard her again.

[@Chiungalla79]

"Treat everybody 10% better than they treat you, do correct for meassurement errors." - somebody wise If you follow that you never invest too much, and still you give every relationship the chance to grow.

[@jessicachuhwak152]

Here I leave his WhatsApp Number he will surely help you

[@sergioangelo4118]

Hey friend I got my relationship fixed with the help of the greatest spiritualist who bought my ex back after many months of separation"

[@lyndylou3642]

I have a partner who loves talking about the things we could do together eg camping, cycling, hiking, but never followed through. It was always me pushing for time to meet in person, me doing the chasing. Got stood up many times and given weak excuses. He seemed happier just chatting on the phone for hours, rather than actual time together in person. This resulted in me getting pretty angry after awhile, to which he said made him want to pull away. So I took ownership of that, and calmly explained what I would like from him eg regular catch ups, making alternative arrangements with me if he had to cancel. And guess what? The same behaviour continued. I have given him so many chances!! So thank you Matthew, my investment time with this guy is over for good. Time to make room for a high quality male.

[@mengie87]

Well said! He sounds like a guy who drives women to utter frustration, then calls all his exes "crazy".

[@lyndylou3642]

@@mengie87 probably!

[@hannaherlwein2901]

Same situation here. I ended it. Eventually.

[@georgialee6755]

Lyndey sounds like you were dating a twelve year old! Instead of getting angry you should have cut off contact with him. Men don’t respond to words /anger they respond better if a woman pulls back and says nothing or says it in a calm form voice. . But there are times you have to say something. If the guy isn’t making plans then move on. It’s not your job in the beginning. Again he sounds like a teen. Be done with him!! What a jerk!

[@johnsmith2221]

You did far more that enough. You dodged a bullet.

[@LonjeMarie7]

This is why he is doing very very very well he is a blessing to so many women who don’t have brothers and healthy fathers thank you very very much! !

[@yali3551]

If a person doesn’t invest and continue to invest in you... amazing words that will keep in my heart forever

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[@skylight_gameuse]

that's the first male coach i've watched who's not saying bullshit, not encouraging toxic relationships, that's really appreciable, we should just be ourselves. I've been doing all of this, 50-50, i give a little but not everything because i want to see if the guy is really interested and really going to do his job. sadly it's so rare, most of the time they give up before even trying or other guys are the opposite, too clingy, too dependent on you when you've known them for a couple of minutes. there are so many things that need to be discussed and changed in our dating habits.

[@adri8wog]

I had a girl who was giving me every sign that she was into me; we went on dates, slept together, told each other we wanted each other than I got ghosted.. how does that happen?

[@MeNeta1]

Matthey Hussey is the guy friend we need, the guy who will analyze for us. Long live M.H.! 🎉

[@yokonono2171]

I loved the part where you talked about chasing and putting men in a pedestal. I never realized but I keep doing that. Thank you for opening my eyes

[@yokonono2171]

@Matthew Hussey lolll why did you have to do that to me. My heart almost jumped out because I thought it was really him replying

[@whatwhatwhatwhat3953]

@@yokonono2171 believe me men do that to women too. What else should be done? Just segregate the genders I guess hahahaha don’t form relationships

[@savvyflows]

"No one can be that great"

[@makalefitzgerald4814]

Sigh.. When you get called out by Matt, but can now move forward in a more productive way. :)

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[@pointerryan9318]

As a man, this was also very helpful. Here I thought I was doing the right thing, or the best thing, but it's gotten to the point where I'm just chasing someone I've unintentionally put on a pedestal, rather than investing in someone who can reciprocate and put in at least a reasonable amount of effort even if it's far less than what I'd put in. And all that's left is finding myself just worrying excessively. Thank you Matt for this, really needed someone to talk sense into my wavering heart.

[@AnnaCley]

Matthew, I actually used this advice in my work relationships. It is a true game changer. I stopped wasting my time chasing certain business partnerships. It turned out that when I stopped, I realized they were obviously not a good fit for me. I now spend more time and attention with those who already see my value. Those are the right business partnerships. It’s gold. Watching your video last week enlightened me about which business partnerships were right for me right now. So, even if it’s non intentional, thank you! When do you start a business / career channel?

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[@cristinalacoste2062]

It's so true, you have to observe and be able to be honest with yourself if your feelings are not reciprocated. Just because someone is nice doesn't mean that there is romantic interest. If it's not romantic from their perspective, they won't pursue you after you show interest. I think this applies to both men and women.

[@brookeericson2716]

This video was truly inspired 🙏🏻 I was feeling so weary and down tonight thinking about someone I have been chasing all year. This video just randomly popped up in my feed and I am so glad I watched it. Thanks for bringing some clarity into my life ❤️

[@emmanuelisaac7131]

Sorry for asking, but what happened to your circumstance after watching?

[@DayByDavidO]

This helped a lot, actually! It’s clear what I need to do with the guy I was talking to. He has never invested as much as I did. So...time to move on. Date myself for awhile. Hahah.

[@DidiMuseri]

This was so helpful Matthew , it gave me the wake up call I needed to stop waisting time with my situation, because it's a one sided investment, life is too short 💃💃

[@larissahorne9991]

Unfortunately we crashed the car in a cold, wet cow paddock. My sister caught a cold from standing around in it. A couple of days later Robert and I managed to have a wonderful conversation like we used to. Talking about about anything and everything. In any easy, give and take manner. I reassured him that I wouldn't be chasing or pressuring him. Telling him, "I'll be your friend or anything else you want me to be." I walked away happy and content about having restored our very special friendship. That was in September, I'll be seeing him in a couple of weeks. It will be interesting to talk to him again after he's had a chance to think.

[@abbeymoody1507]

Great message Matthew! I regret not being more vulnerable with someone in the past that I was highly attractive. I always believed that a man should pursue a woman, so I kept my mouth shut. But what you’re getting into here is the nuances of it. Love the dance break at the end the most😆

[@marshagonzales593]

Matthew I will continue to invest in you when I'm able, cause you have invested so much in helping me (us, should I say)!! I truly and deeply respect and love you!!! You gave me desire to grow and live, you're strength and energy flows thru your videos and pod casts!!! Your words give me power to fight another day! I don't know if you believe in GOD like I do, but I know he is with you, or I don't think you would have such an impact on me. Your gift is powerful and I'm grateful for any part you have in my life!!! I will never forget what you did for me! You gave me, my love for me back, when other men made me, hate me. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@andeemarquez3879]

Thank you for this, Matt! Dating is a bit of a challenge for me, and whenever I try to connect or have the courage to just initiate i feel like im more of the guy and that courage becomes sort of an urge to overshare and overdo my initiative making me feel like im just breaking my chances whenever i try. This video brought me relief, cause i’m trying to figure out how to relate and build connection.

[@betocampainha]

Simple, crystal clear, and effective. Never fails, even with friendships. ✅

[@Jenny2023-o9o]

I never comment on videos but I just have to say Matt is amazing with his wisdom on relationships. He is really good at teaching us how to love or not love, rather.

[@lalawv7831]

This is amazing! It feels like you read my mind these days! That’s EXACTLY the question I’ve been asking myself lately and it already helped me so much to be reminded by you to value my own value again and to stay true to my standards. Thank you so much!

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[@mariamanchamancilla5030]

I don't know how you knew it but I REALLY needed this video! Thank you so much 🙌🏼

[@peggystephanie3983]

Same! 🙌🏼

[@ruth..]

💯

[@thecurrentmoment]

Oh, he knows...

[@23rdClassic]

Somewhere in my mind I knew I've been struggling with this, especially when it's so much harder to meet new people, but I needed to hear it in this way for it to stick Thank you Matthew

[@PushPastParalysis]

I love this. I’m at a place now where I refuse to keep chasing or investing if I don’t get equal back.

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[@shellyirwin9938]

I honestly can't tell you how much your videos are helping me through one of the worst and most difficult times of my life. Everything you say makes complete and perfect sense. Thank you so much!!

[@gadbadantaratma]

I was chasing a guy madly rather than communicating, thank you Mathew

[@loissanchez7220]

Hope I heard this earlier, but still it's good to have this as confirmation that I made the right decision. It was like dancing with this person at first, which was great and you did not want to give that up. But because I got anxious, it turned into a bit of a chase and lost it's momentum. I'm learning as I go on in this dating season. And I loved how you said no one is that great if they're not treating you well ❤

[@sandrazevallos5077]

I have a boyfriend, my first one (and Im 27). I observed that He only invests based on how much I invest. And some times less. He said to me that He likes Meeting in Real more than writing, so I understand why He is maybe not that much on the Phone. But I have a great male friend and He is very clinging and comunicates more often with me. I like that and Its ok with my boyfriend. But I wish that my boyfriend would be more Affectionate and clinging.

[@melimel3706]

Based on this small glimpse into your relationship, it seems like he is “breadcrumbing” you a bit. Meaning that he is giving you enough attention to stay in your life, but not enough to truly satisfy your need for affection and connection. It is true that some people do not like to talk via text, but there are other ways to communicate throughout the day like FaceTime and phone calls. Have a conversation with him so that he knows that the lack of communication bothers you, and if he is not willing to make some simple changes, move on. It sounds like this is bothering you a lot.

[@sandrazevallos5077]

@@melimel3706 thank you♥️

[@sansadrake4133]

@@melimel3706 i was in a similar scenario. Whereby the guy didn't want to text..he said texting is disingenuous. And literally all i do is text people, im not a caller. When he used to call id rarely pick up the phone n text instead..and he said he doesnt want to be my text buddy. So now its been six months zero contact from either side. Because i don't call and he doesn't text 😳😂😂🤷‍♀️

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[@TanvirAhmed24]

Are you in a relationship that feels like it may be over? Do you feel it’s time to move on?

[@yvaz3373]

Just ask! Mathew just said we don’t communicate enough...that’s exactly what he means. There you are with a person in a relationship and you don’t know where you are standing in this relationship? Why is that? If you are not sure just ask, your partner is the only person who can answer your question. “Is this over?” “Should I move on?”

[@sillyrednewby]

"We have to talk about normal things sometimes." PREACH 🤣

[@unicornsarereal8484]

I didn't even realise that I am in the blue and I didn't even think I was ''chasing'' as I get short answers (to my rather long texts!). Drastic action needed. Time to invest a little bit more in someone who invests in me: Me! Gosh, I am rather shocked at that revelation as I am usually level headed. Thanks Matthew.

[@kitkatkateri2521]

I love this message about bravery and self respect! Thank you Matt!!

[@vyhn6111]

If someone else is always investing the first bit, try investing first one time and see their reaction. Perhaps they feel that they are chasing you and are losing hope when in reality you are there for them but didn't realize you have let them make all the first moves.

[@nickiedesardo9860]

This is the most straight-forward and valuable advice I've ever heard!

[@MOYEBOY]

That football slide at the end of the video was so epic

[@fraulein_farah]

Excellent and concise ! Do not continue to invest in someone who is just not that into you ...

[@Revolution-tl5wo]

There's really only one sign that matters: They're putting in effort.

[@christinah.1884]

Love the hair cut getting some Adam Levine vibes 😍😍

[@Aleyah]

He didn't reply so get the hint😁. P.S. I second ur comment though.

[@wilairatthongsoot]

I will take your advice seriously, now I'm in this situation. Thank you so much

[@grettyhaqim5508]

"invest in who invests in you", a magic words

[@larissahorne9991]

Then we stood around exchanging tender looks and talking about a wide variety of different things including our fears. Some of which we share. His parents and one of his sisters were also a part of our conversation. He's the second youngest of four kids. (He has a big sister, a younger one and a brother.) I looked around at them and they were smiling at us. The next time I saw him, his mum practically welcomed me to the family. My late mum loved Robert and his family feels the same way about me. Then at lunchtime I went to talk to him, and he told me why he wasn't going to be asking me out. I'll go into that in a seventh comment.

[@lizogilvie8337]

Love this! The snippets of you, Jameson & Stephen moving to electronica or as I like to call it 80s arcade games music was hilarious 😂

[@paula-elizabeth]

Liz Ogilvie 🎯👍🏽😆

[@DayByDavidO]

It was so cute. Lol.

[@lizogilvie8337]

@@DayByDavidO I just love it when guys ‘goof it up’ and aren’t self-conscious

[@cindyelizabethrangel1073]

Definitely, especially the last clip. Hahaha!

[@fearnoevil5445]

Reminds me of the part in "my best friends wedding " when Julia Roberts is chasing him literally as he's chasing his bride to be...and there's a pause where she's stopped and someone says," look behind you...nobody's chasing you" people need to stop chasing, even sometimes in a relationship. Give them just a tiny taste of who you are, and let them chase you. And ALWAYS, as Matthew says, only give as much investment as the other person is investing...equal investment

[@abihortin2160]

I love your hair short, Matthew. You look really great, happy and healthy. Thanks for the video, brilliant content. I’ve always been guilty of chasing! Learning to invest and test instead.

[@larissahorne9991]

I told him that he could count on me to be his friend. But I warned him that if he did manage to concur his religious fear, that he should hold off on making his move for a while. But I told him that I'd hug him to congratulate him. He managed to concur that fear 6 months before Covid hit. I kept my word and gave him that hug. We both enjoyed that physical contact, but he managed to control himself. When I stepped back he gave me a wistful look as if to say the following. "I wish you'd come back into my arms." He checked me out, which is the Aussie way of paying a compliment. I could feel him watching me as I walked away. It was good to know that he still Liked me. I'll pick up with our reunion after Covid in a tenth comment.

[@catarinagimenezpaes7247]

Mathew has this power to make you cry and to fall in love with him AT THE SAME TIME.

[@taraef]

I am at the age where men basically see me as a piece of you know what, so very difficult to decipher. I keep it pretty blunt and short. Guess I will be single forever lol.

[@hm2011100]

There is no such age. Early experiences of hurt & growing up in a certain contexts may have convinced you of this but it’s demonstrably false.

[@nicholairank5846]

As always, struggling with this presently and along comes Matt with a perfectly timed video. Really appreciate your content man :)

[@bellamirna7874]

in every new video of mathew you learn something new cuz he explains everything differently♥️♥️

[@sheenamaeoracion7411]

This touched me nobody can be that great for you...invest in someone who has great energy for you...❤️❤️ thanks matt

[@larissahorne9991]

We had a bit of a false start before he told me about his fears and why he wasn't going to ask me out just them. That when we discovered how much we had in common when it comes to our natures and some personality traits. In other ways we're very different, but we balance each other out and click together on many levels. We respect each other's differences. He observed me interacting with other people over the course of a day. I'm a warm cuddly lady who loves people of all ages, with a lot of friends. He made up for his comment from when we were younger, by saying the following. In a voice loud enough for me to hear he observed "She's nice to everyone, young and old." And we smiled at each other. To be continued in a sixth comment.