What He Says Vs. What He REALLY Means (feat. Anna Akana) (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

[@ShikhaNB]

"My exes are CRAZY" Matt: "I cause sane people to do crazy shit" BEST!

[@nosoynadaoriginal]

#Narcissist Preach it!

[@nosoynadaoriginal]

@TheGodEmperorofMankind LMAO

[@lindaliriel]

@TheGodEmperorofMankind as someone who was in an abusive relationship with a narcissist, Matt is 100% correct. That guy spoke about his exes saying how crazy they were and the crazy things they would do, but after 2 years I realised they were perfectly normal but he messed with their head and mine. He was really fond of manipulation and gaslighting, of saying things then pretending you imagined it, or not saying anything then claiming you forgot etc. A narcissist is destructive to your mental health. A man might be unfortunate and have 1 insane ex, but when a guy says ALL his exes were crazy, RUN AWAY. And anyone who says ALL women are inherently crazy is just blaming them for his own inadequacies and should be ignored (he's probably used to being ignored by women anyway)

[@yazajag]

@TheGodEmperorofMankind It's called gaslighting, do some research on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, psychopaths and sociopaths, higher percentage are men, and sorry, but both men and women can be crazy and usually are because of either childhood abused or abuse in relationships, so no need to hate on actual proven facts. Go date someone who says all their exes are crazy and watch how fast you start to question your own sanity. The blame game is a HUGE red flag. Including your comment. 🆘️

[@Theefashionchilld]

Exactly 😂

[@luckyleano6030]

Why not just date the Manslator, he's honest and straightforward😂

[@amandas.6500]

And attractive!

[@phenomenalphysics3548]

Lmao🤣🤣

[@sonsapothecary2267]

He's cheating

[@littleripper312]

@@ShaunHensley That's actually where most of the issues come from. People in both genders think they are superior and want more than they give. You won't have a successful relationship regardless of the genders/orientation with that mentality. Just move on asap from anyone like that. They can go be like that with someone else. There are nice girls/guys out there and you only need one.

[@jiggerblayne]

Shaun Hensley you could swap the genders and most of this would still work.

[@Konpekikaminari]

"My job is just so complicated" can also be translated to "I have no clue what it is that I'm actually doing, so please spare me the questions"

[@XxSouIxX]

Also: "I'm unemployed."

[@blackpinkluv9869]

Or I’m broke as well

[@TimTamSlam7]

It could also be used as an excuse to not explain the job because of the fact that it is, indeed, complicated. But this is assuming its an honest man answering and they do in fact work in a complex field.

[@nightmare4122]

Or "I'm a drug dealer."

[@UnknownKnower2]

That's actually more charming answer.

[@zemiyac.2949]

I was in a relationship with a narcissist... and the manslater is so accurate about "I cause sane people to do crazy shit." It's really and exactly that..

[@zemiyac.2949]

@@AG-vp1ok Sorry for the long text incoming: you know, I already struggle with a personality disorder. But after going to a therapist I finally found how to balance everything. Myself, my life, the people around me. It was just fine. So my ex came into my life and wanted me to instantly move to his place. I said I have an important role at home, i have responsibilities to take care of. But all he said was "I thought you wanted this relationship and that you are ready. Because this is what I expect from a relationship. It's one of my needs to have the person I love right beside me." So I tried to convince my family, 3 people who need me, to accept me leaving them behind. For one person. One, that wanted HIS way and only his. He made me fight against people who wished nothing but luck and they knew - whatever they say I won't accept it. And all because he said things like "You are my world. I want you. I can't live like this. This is so stressful to me." So when I plead for more time and that he shall respect my decisions (to see if he's worth the pain) he said "You always say i should respect your choices". He really cost me all my nerves. He caused a lot of damage and i allowed that because i thought he is the only one who will ever love me and where i get the love i longed for (issues due to personality disorder). They are a red fleg on their own. And they will suck all energy out of you like a tick sucks blood. They manipulate you and it becomes harder and harder to escape from them...

[@zemiyac.2949]

@MissUnderstood Thank you ♡ Lots of love ♡

[@Delfina-Zafira]

Same here

[@scarlettthebrave5854]

@@zemiyac.2949 I get you- I have borderline personality disorder-( diagnosed) and guys have exacerbated it( one guy I was only with 6 months gaslit me and manipulated me and blamed my medication for me distrusting him- he even said I should stop taking said medication. I found out he was a multiple texting guy on multiple dating apps. I got out by the skin of my teeth- anorexic and self harm issues made worse by his behaviour ( he is now on the sex offenders register as he was caught trying to groom an underage girl) I was with him 3 years ago- his texting obsession was actually mentioned in court- I have learned- if a guy shows you himself- believe him( not my quote I borrowed it) and if you suspect foul play you are most probably right. Good karma peace and love xxx

[@stepheniedomingo56]

@@AG-vp1ok ""My ex-wife cheated with my daughter's bestfriend which was a boy, had sex with him when they were drunk" (reality: It was the narcissist I met online who cheated with his daughter's bestfriend who was a girl).

[@william-l7b]

OMG I JUST NOTICED THE SHIRTS HALFWAY LOL

[@kehbab]

Eggplant

[@CeliBananaz]

I was about to comment this fffffffs

[@jeanpatrick8572]

It’s so great

[@tuhinadolui30]

Well me too

[@cadence8058]

I need that book

[@Semokada]

"I don't wanna hurt you" definitely gonna hurt you. It is quite sad how true that is 😂

[@cypher_22]

Humans are fragile

[@jadewjh]

Semokada really wish this video was uploaded before I got hurt

[@kevinvanhorsing5141]

Men said things direct and women can't get it!!!

[@minhhangtranthi2211]

@@kevinvanhorsing5141 thinking and action are 2 different things

[@tinaperez7393]

When someone's talking about "hurting" people that's a major red flag and dealbreaker for even thinking to mention that cuz that means that's what they and their ego are into. So when you hear that, it's either time to go or at least it's when you decide not to see this person again.

[@D-Dollie]

I love how the manslation’s T-shirt keep changing! Hahahahahaha. Love this video!

[@propogandalf]

I didn't notice, thanks!

[@LauRa-re9un]

I didn´t notice also, read Narcisistic in 1:57 that is a lot men!!

[@xw6475]

Oh my god! You are right! I didn't noticed until you mentioned. Good eyes

[@funkay1]

Haha the hashtag and eggplant t-shirt cracked me up

[@JJam20]

Whoa blew my mind!🤯 Thanks for telling us☺

[@Vladimyrful]

Ladies let me give you a nugget of advice as a 31 year old man: If you have to decipher what a man is saying - you're in the wrong place and dealing with a wrong person. Normal, well adjusted men are quite uncomplicated, they say exactly what they mean, EXACTLY what they mean.

[@melodyworld706]

Well, thank you. I guess I was looking for this 😂

[@Vladimyrful]

@@melodyworld706 My pleasure.

[@ineedhoez]

Yerp!

[@edinagaspar722]

I guess that is why I keep hearing and experiencing the type of guys who are like: the date was amazing (yiu indeed got the feelig that you hit off well) ,lets meet up again...and then you never hear from him again 😄😄😄

[@Vladimyrful]

@@edinagaspar722 Please don't get this the wrong way, but it might be your choice in men if this happens repeatedly. Rethink what your dating criteria is and NEVER deviate. The tricky part , of course, is being able to recognize the qualities you value (what DOES a good man look like? how does he behave etc.) which unfortunatelly young women aren't thought very well.

[@super.surabhi]

The 'take things slow' translation was on point!

[@Marq5104]

You right! lmao

[@Nunak91]

I didn't get it.

[@tiana8249]

So true..every guys i meet always repeat this word..then asking me to do....

[@yozume8859]

I felt so attacked fuck

[@Humanoverclock]

So when she says take things slow, is that what she really means too?

[@philliphamilton3032]

"Drink and driiive!" "What?" "See you soon!"

[@stevenhulbert6973]

Phillip Hamilton See why is that okay to say? once a guy is designated a douche it's okay to wish he gets in an accident. However a woman behaved would it be acceptable to wish that on her?

[@rencaelum4396]

@@stevenhulbert6973 if a woman scorns me I'm really good at hurting their feelings.

[@RainOn2SunnyDay]

Steven Hulbert its just a clever way of saying go to hell

[@Koozomec]

@@RainOn2SunnyDay that's immature and mean. She is upset, ok. Does it justifie to do that ?

[@blueshoes5145]

@@Koozomec lmao chill. She didnt push him of a cliff or anything.

[@pm0913]

"I make sane people do crazy shit." That's what crosses my mind every time I hear a guy complaining about "crazy" exes.

[@UnholyRave666]

Probably because you can't imagine how a girl could be possibly crazy or you atuomatically assume that there can't be a man who voluntarely picks a crazy person as their partner, without being a lunatic himself?

[@natnuss98]

SkipTheShit no more because it sounds like: No it's definitely not my fault at all, not even the slightest bit, I am a perfect person I make no mistakes.

[@UnholyRave666]

Well then go date a borderline personality, and then we talk again. God, you make me angry.

[@UnholyRave666]

Its like saying "Everyone who ends up with someone crazy is crazy himself" And since it sounds like "No it's definitely not my fault at all, not even the slightest bit, I am a perfect person I make no mistakes." in your ears, you should take responsibility for the fact when the CRAZY SO you unfortunately eded up with tries too run you over with a car...! FUCK. Use your brain and THINK. Its biased to assume one case or the other, fuckfuckFUCK. Idiots everywhere!

[@UnholyRave666]

Borderliner are crazy by definition. What. The. Fuck. Are you talking. Its literally a personality disorder, which is god fucking crazy! Ever met one? You can't argue with them in logical terms, they can't reföect, they cant do anything which requires higher cognitive circuits - because their cognitive developement is stuck in a toddlers state! Dont believe me? Well, guess what, i studied this shit for years because i wanted to understand whats wrong with those people who are like this. Dont dare to talk about stuff you dont understand, once you triggered a borderliner with whatever shit they may be sensitive to, you are done - and so they are with you! God. I repeat, idiots everywhere.

[@YogaconMarinaBuedo]

I love that almost the only thing he actually meant was: " This place is nice" 😂😂😂 Great video!

[@ChristianOne]

And that he really didn't want anything serious! If a guy says that he always means it.

[@collarmole1819]

When he slapped his crotch.

[@snicker12]

he’ll remember that one

[@AlaniSugar]

I read this right as it happened lololol

[@Koozomec]

Yes, Matthew attack like a coward.

[@mariamistretta3860]

The best part of the video is when mattew slap the narrastic guy in the crotch lmaf. 🤣 that Is funny.

[@kaitlynbarrios9388]

collarmole 😂

[@lizzle2cents289]

*Drink and drive~* "What?" "See you soon"

[@_chun-ja_5788]

Army💜

[@queenofpain9188]

Army!!💜💜💜

[@Domtronic]

I dont get it

[@botandrew1]

@@Domtronic the guy got rejected so he will drink and drive

[@Domtronic]

@@botandrew1 why will he do that

[@awesomeJenster]

I like how Matt's t-shirt changes too

[@Marq5104]

That part was hilarious!

[@hannahscott6604]

The validation one Hahahahaha And the narcissist one

[@lioydwilliams1850]

Jenny Sadler,hope you are with a good man!

[@paintlightshine918]

Matthew is like that angel just accompanying you and protecting you from anything that's about to dangerously be thrown at you. Thank you Matthew you're awesome!

[@Marq5104]

When a guy asks how a girl is single, it's not "what's wrong with you that makes you single" at least to me, it is "wow I'm really surprised you aren't already taken, because you are so great." Almost like a "how lucky am I to have found you" maybe I just male wrong edit: WOW 1K likes, thank you all! I'd like to thank The Academy and all you wonderful fans and... oh it's just a YT comment? ok then... 😋

[@nightyonetwothree]

same

[@Koozomec]

+MQ Exactly, it can mean that. It's a way to flirt. Insecure people or dishonnest partners can freak out with this question. Better see the red flags early on imo.

[@haiphie8439]

😂😂😂

[@alexandreparent5754]

Same + 100

[@JamesBongo]

This is the real explanation

[@JR-JR-JR]

"my exes are crazy" -> I make sane people do crazy things EXACTLY.

[@pyromasterau]

I call soooooo much bullshit. I've had crazy exes before. Being told by a girl you've been with for less than a week that she wants you to be the father of her children is hella creepy. Children she wants in the next year mind you

[@TariQ-nx3uz]

That's what women want to hear....

[@issakelly8071]

This video shows me there is no difference between men and women. Both speak in this coded language.

[@AutomaticDuck300]

david kelly This is why I don't date. I have Aspergers and take everything literally.

[@mrgreyman3358]

'some', not all people are dishonest. I get in heaps of trouble because I am always honest and always say what I mean and mean what I say.

[@LunarEdge7]

MrAussiedigger From my view there are way less of your kind. Most of us speak in this 'coded language', including myself with the exception of close friends.

[@Nionivek]

It is mostly politeness and the fact that people couch everything... AND that people have this need to say what they are thinking, but don't want you to know what they are thinking.

[@lj8816]

pvaz How is 35 a wall?

[@Boertje247]

Hilarious! And TRUE! When men say "I'm not looking for anything serious/monogamous/exclusive," I say, "Cool! You know what you want! That's so great!" I don't say I AM looking for a serious, committed, monogamous relationship. I then change the subject, talk about something else. He has told you the truest thing about himself, and no need to dwell on it. I don't get my hopes up, no matter how good he looks on paper. He doesn't want what I want, so no harm, no foul. I also don't respond immediately to his texts, emails, calls. Men will be intrigued by your indifference, and that makes the pursuit all the more exciting for them. Just remember, they've told you they don't want what you want. Move on.

[@thatexcalifornian6124]

I’ve made the mistake of continuing seeing someone who said the same fucking thing. I should have used that!!

[@hannahretel1073]

Spot on

[@paulogaspar8295]

some maybe, I hate that. I hate people that wait on purpose because he will most likely discover it sooner or later and if the doesn't like games it's just annoying.

[@AutomaticDuck300]

Na, if I’m not getting any interest back, I’m moving on. If she doesn’t text back immediately, I’m gonna assume that she has a life. But I’m not intrigued by complete indifference or games. I’m turned off by it.

[@noiZtheartist]

...I'm actually put off by indifference I'm pretty sure it's only the guys who like playing games or are insecure who will chase seemingly uninterested people If that's what you want...that's fine I guess But you're probably not attracting the kind of people you say you want...

[@lilacbirman]

"Drink and Drive" LOL!!

[@SargeScum]

lilac G shots

[@aikighost]

#likesinnocentpeoplebeingkilledontheroads

[@Koozomec]

Immature and mean.

[@Cutenerdywoman]

I learned the hard way when a man says he doesn't like drama it means he will be the biggest drama in my life and doesn't want compation for that. LoL. also so sick of the why are you single question. I simply answer "because I chose to be". I generally don't hear back from them with that answer. LoL

[@sixxqueen916]

I know so stupid to ask when they are single too

[@roxanneworld11]

Lisa Johnsen yeah..when they answer questions not asked = danger, Will Robinson (for those old enough to get that reference, haha!!). and the one i *really* also can't stand (also unasked): 'she..or the last one? she was was a crazy b*tch!!..she turned into (or almost into) a stalker!' (has come up re: group friends and acquaintances - on a fun night out - when dude is trying to impress a new wonderful female addition or 2 to our family of friends). usually, we found, that dude (often on the outskirts of our core group) had bedded a vulnerable young lady and then walked away coldly..and then he became annoyed when she tried to follow up with a phone call, maybe 2 phone calls..we have a good group, so not usually more than 2 calls before, after outskirts guy was found out to be a dishonest wimp, the real men, told the young woman the truth..as, sometimes, selfish, dishonest dude, had to be waited out if he was the cousin or brother from out of town..or thinking about moving close for college..but eventually, all no- gooders got booted, in one way or another. 👍👍

[@MuseTheSoloist]

Sharon Vanguard double standards, and girls usually get more offers than men.

[@MegaKaitouKID1412]

+Sharon Vanguard Because obviously women are obligated to date any guy who shows interest in her or something. :P

[@Lerossignol94]

MegaKaitouKID1412 You're reaching way too far. It's an innocent question that reveals his feelings about her, not some double standard. He's obviously attracted to her but he doesn't want to come across desperate. So, he asked Sharon why she's single. What he really wanted to know was, "are you talking to anyone right now? Because to me you're beautiful and can get any man you want so I'm insecure" Stop making everything about some societal hot topic. It's true, double standards exist in both sexes. But you'll be miserable if you always interpret a clearly innocent question as somehow an attack. Change your perspective on things. It's not always about you.

[@tanzeelamariam1356]

How she said, 'Son of a bitch'. 😂😂😂

[@yukiharukaze41]

tanzeela mariam #DeanWinchester #SuperNatural 😂

[@max8m1]

Man, as a guy with mild autism I've never understood why other men don't just say what they mean (same with women lol). Life is so much easier if you're just straight forward and let people take it or leave it. The ones who stick around do so because of who you truly are, no need to profile yourself or anything. Makes for a simple life ^^

[@Mali8029]

They want to get something out of the person and they don't have a genuine interest just like our character here he will say anything to have sex with her, he is just "having fun" and wants "nothing serious right now"

[@pepperred35]

The changing manslator shirt is EVERYTHING!! Dearest Matt thank you for giving us women all a laugh at the sometimes daunting task of wading through douches to find the high value men!! 😂😂😂

[@boldisgenius1953]

The shirts are the best!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@checkennugget4448]

Elisa Bark the changing shirts 👚 😂😂😂😂😂 this video was amazing

[@sheimarisgarlo7851]

High value men??? Where in this day and age there are none... and if there is a chance there are they are of course taken

[@pepperred35]

Sheila Garcia​! They are out there Sheila, but its like Matthew says the journey to find a high value man is a marathon not a sprint. Dont give up! You are worth the effort to find a high value man!! They say the easiest way to meet people is just doing the things you love. I just got back from dinner with a friend and her boyfriend. She met her boyfriend at a rummycubic (card group) meet up group! And I really like boyfriend! Dont give up Sheila!! Hugs and blessings to you!! ❤😃

[@sheimarisgarlo7851]

Thank you for your reply, it's just hard to think that when you've failed at it more than once and I am freshly divorced. Guess healing is what I need for now. Much thanks for the advice and tip I will keep it in mind - love and blessings love ❤️

[@mytwocents8023]

If you need to translate what your guy is saying you are dating the wrong guys

[@therealrauch]

I was going to say the same thing. Right on.

[@misschaney9245]

Right?!

[@SH3player]

Well we do communicate in different ways and you will have to translate both ways. Real men usually are more logical , but many guys are like this guy. He does seem pretty insecure.

[@MarcusofMenace]

Or you simply can't speak English

[@AzAlexzZ]

@RetroSupporter93 I guess you make an effort to learn their language, or use google translator, Google Translator is sehr gut

[@SahanTheMighty]

"Drink and driiiive!" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Sinikkastudio]

SahanTheMighty i died 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Jinx-il9jo]

SahanTheMighty best line😂

[@andreamoscoso4065]

SahanTheMighty 😂😂

[@hannahscott6604]

Is this her wishing death on him

[@alecgeinitz8769]

Mighty pfft try shitey

[@anthonycisneros33]

This place is nice Translation: *this place is nice*

[@despbella8951]

When this place is his house 😂

[@Lilly1012]

Translation: I am bored, ... you are not interesting ... this date is going to nowhere, ... I have nothing to say, ... I just try to say anything to skip awkward silence before I asume I have spent socialy acceptable amount of time with you and leave.

[@drobles394]

@@despbella8951 Yes! That was my first thought.

[@AnaFiamatta]

Damn Matthew! You keep getting better and better with these videos!! I saw the changes in shirts and thought it was clever

[@c.g.keuning445]

Kirk yeahhh man! he just took it to a whole other level effortlessly! Respect for the creativity!

[@AnaFiamatta]

Agree completely!

[@martinajosheska9541]

Im not sure but ,if anyone else wants to discover how to get a guy to like you try Avyanna attract tactic (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my co-worker got great success with it.

[@samuelpridgen1854]

Men are hard to read. Your man might be hiding something. But it’s not what you think. Are you overlooking his cry for help? *4WhatHeWants. Com*

[@fluxy121]

Kirk 🍆

[@Ursulline]

I think this is one of the best videos you've made hands down! ha!

[@AlaskanGirl75]

UrsullineTV I have to agree, I think this might be my #1! The shirt was hilarious, but the slap at the end was the BEST!

[@maetam584]

in the top ten I agree!!

[@santioliva]

for a girl that wants to confirm her worth because she destroyed every relationship prospect or possibility and cant realize its because of her, them sure!! If youre grounded in reality at all, then no, guys dont say those things and dont mean the worst possible version of what they say. its stupid AF LOL

[@SuzannaKiraly]

Yeah, this explains a lot about dating in one short video. lol.

[@christopherbrown2706]

DakotaJanes so where are the videos for men who date women?

[@leongeorge9783]

Mansalator for man,womenslater for women's and translator for transgenders

[@daytime__dawn2338]

I'm wheezing.

[@Jana-ql5qg]

Bruh

[@MPatti]

🤦😂😂

[@hmmmwhat4400]

Underrated comment Im dying

[@thinbulb8832]

W b

[@julialouk9363]

yeah in my mind anytime a man says he's not looking for nothing serious than that means don't sleep with him leave his ass alone

[@CosmicArticleReader]

Keeping my distance from one now and he keeps calling and texting 🤷🏽‍♀️ I even blocked him before but he called me on insta 🤦🏾‍♀️wtf ig he thinks I'll cave

[@dpb4481]

@@CosmicArticleReader Block him everywhere, he clearly doesn't respect your will anymore.

[@MK_ULTRA420]

Women withhold sex, men withhold commitment.

[@wholeNwon]

And if you use double negatives, a guy looking for a future someone won't be able to get away fast enough.

[@Peachsnowcone]

Her dress is so cute

[@PhunkBustA]

i like frozen milk :}

[@kyleyvonnesherwood991]

Scarlett it really is lol I'm going to look for for it to buy it lol

[@SassyWinterFox]

Kyle &Yvonne Sherwood it's blackmilk

[@Abigdummy4life]

I dig her boots >/////>;

[@Danny-fm3yn]

I like her face

[@AlishaArlene]

1:53 Nearly every guy I've ever known- relatives, friends, ex-boyfriends, - describe their exes this way. It's incredibly annoying to me, and is an instant red flag. I LOVED the response you gave! "I cause sane people to do crazy shit" is incredibly spot on! Men (and women, of course) need to claim responsibility for their role in the demise of their past relationships. You can't learn from a mistake you won't admit to, meaning you're only bound to repeat that very mistake over and over again.

[@christopherbrown2706]

Who said that calling exes crazy automatically denies personal responsibility (mostly for choosing that craziness)? You're being judgmental and dictating how people should share their experiences.

[@SuzannaKiraly]

A guy I started dating said this about his last girlfriend. I think it says something about the standards of the person who is saying this. Why would you be with someone who is “crazy” unless you have low standards and maybe you are crazy yourself.

[@christopherbrown2706]

Suzanna Kiraly or maybe he didn't know, found out the hard way, tried to make it work, failed, and learned his lesson.

[@aprilpenname8814]

That was my favorite part too I replayed it n it just got funnier.

[@Yuli-xk1lr]

Arlene S I had a guy describe his ex as being "a denom" and told me not worry about her but turns out was secretly trying to get back with her....

[@maka91kz]

Drink and drive...what ? See you soon LOL !!! Loved it

[@ll_extremelystressed_ll3804]

Just date the translator he seems pretty cool lol

[@blacksheep9772]

Wears allota blue .... not that its a red flag or anything 😉

[@shymickey6]

"I make sane people do crazy shit." LOVE that one. 😂

[@puppy3908]

why cause it removes your personal accountability?

[@17dgoudy]

omg died laughing... this is literally 90% of men from online😂😂 the accuracy is amazing!

[@termanpak2598]

I'm a man, so let me correct you. This is 100% of men, online or in real life. I honestly wanted to be offended by the video, but I found myself nodding more and more as the video progressed. #shameonme

[@tinacarpenter1810]

loved it!!! I need a mantranslater app for such occasions, where you type in the phrase the man is using and it throws out more then probable suggestions as to his meaning...lol ..remeber my idea😜

[@sierracook3343]

Tina Carpenter I agree! Life would be way more easier with a mantranslator app. No More Confusion!😊😁

[@santioliva]

damn youre all delusional. how have you made any connections? real ones i mean, when you judge people so outright, and to the guy, youre something even worse. damn you guys should take an empathy crash course, itll help all ya'lls lives so much more than you realize

[@christopherbrown2706]

Adela Setara it looked painful, but you're laughing. So if I ever see a man get violent with a woman in public, do I then have the right to laugh with abandon?

[@madisoned]

"I cause sane people to do crazy shit!" :D

[@alisonn7200]

I never like it when guys ask how it is I'm still single. I think it's a loaded question and that there's no right answer here. Clearly, the guy is trying to suss out much male interest she receives and when she was last in a relationship. It just always annoys me and I'm often tempted to say, you're asking the wrong person. You need to ask the men who've not recognised a great opportunity when they've seen it. I would never ask a man this question and I think it's best to avoided at all costs.

[@joseph8216]

if I asked someone how they're single I would mean it as a compliment

[@tinaperez7393]

You're right to see this as a red flag. It's the number one most hated and insulting "question" guys ask girls on dates. To me, it tells me right away they're a jerk. Matt has this completely right. Don't ever defend yourself. I would say that "wow, that's an odd thing to ask. Do women ask you that?" OR "Am I supposed to not be single?" OR "I don't understand. It's sounds like you think being single is something that should be explained or defended" OR "Do you want me to be seeing someone now?" OR "Aren't you single?" "Is there something wrong with that?" OR "I don't understand, are you looking for someone to have an affair with? - like the Ashley Madison app?" OR "Are you looking for someone to cheat with you?" "Are you looking to cheat on someone you're seeing?" OR "I'm sorry, I thought we're here to do something about that." AND/OR "Well, I figured the right guy for me will be glad I was single when we meet. So, if my being single is an problem for you or you're just not interested, that's perfectly fine and we can go now.". Etc. As to getting to know the answer to that question if it's asked in a genuinely decent way with the right intentions - and at the right time - to get to know you better - you want to have an answer ready that is truthful, short and not too detailed and positive and confident. Like "I feel I'm at a good place in my life where I know what I have to offer and what I want and I feel it's a good time to meet someone to build a great future with."

[@cosmopolitanbay9508]

@@tinaperez7393 you've just proved this question works like a charm :))

[@saffyaaffy826]

@@joseph8216 well it's not a compliment. It's presupposes, that you are only worth in a relationship.

[@irishshamrock3025]

@@joseph8216 I actually agree.... I just said this to my now boyfriend a little bit ago when we were getting to know each other. It was 100% meant as a compliment b/c I was in shock that I found someone with his quality/character actually available. Can't believe he hadn't been snatched up by someone else already. Not every single person or comment is going to fit into a box. Everyone is different and can have different intent even when using the same sentence.

[@MelindaMysticWitch]

LMAO I didn't realize his shirt designs were changing till mid video. Hilarious... and so fucking true.

[@destanieblackgrave8859]

I wish this happened on every date! It would make things so much simpler

[@donnawoodford6641]

I love my life, and want to avoid the mind games. I'm all done, really done.

[@neelashreedey7339]

@Al B well that isn't true! I do love spending money on my boyfriend. Watches t-shirt cologne and what not. 😉

[@neelashreedey7339]

@Al B yes both men and women need it. I agree with that there are many women who only expect and want their bf/husband to appreciate, respect, be emotionally available to them but when it comes for them(woman) to be there for their significant other they aren't anywhere to be seen. This is also same for men. Same thing happened to me the man asked me out to dinner but i had to pay for whole meal (starter main course dessert). It's okay if you can't pay fully but at least give whatever you can. Glad that i had taken my credit card with me. 😹😹😹

[@MK_ULTRA420]

If you were a guy you'd be called a loser incel.

[@katieblake3023]

@@MK_ULTRA420 Except she's not actively bashing and maligning men like those bitter incels do on every comment section regarding women. She's just done. Nothing wrong with enjoying your own company ;)

[@MK_ULTRA420]

@@katieblake3023 Yeah but that's where we're at in 2021. Guys who are done with women are considered loser incels by mainstream society.

[@peewoops86]

What about a female translator I'm confused when shes just making small talk...

[@m.ksalem7631]

@@giordanobruno1333 pisses me off when we're expected to

[@jumafaro]

She is bored!

[@sydney2257]

To translate what? She barerely talked the whole time

[@leonettainthemix]

I assume because Mathew made this video moreso for the female audience and his goal is to simplistically outline the male lies specifically , in this video :)

[@liam6772]

There is a verson with the female translator like this

[@xoxdmfmxox]

hi Matt. I remember you saying a line like this in one of your radio show, "Not everybody is gonna agree with me on this, but truth is sometimes you meet the right person at the wrong time(unavailable, engaged, married)...", hope you could do a video discussing more about this and what is the best thing to do about it? Thanks.

[@annarostocka5468]

Dee Em :)

[@willowbark8178]

Dee Em Hi Dee.. I so agree. I was married when I found the right person...but stayed loyal to my husband, who was cheating on me, although I didn't know it at the time. Later, when he asked for a divorce, and it was finalized, I met the same person again, but this time, he couldn't leave his wife, who was ill. I was extremely sad, but completely agreed with his decision. Right person, wrong time.. It absolutely happens... :(

[@neotyppe4469]

That's why I'm poly...

[@for3stspirit]

*drags Matthew to my church* *throws in a chair next to my crush* TRANSLATE

[@simplyincorrigible7708]

He's not into you. Simple translation.

[@ABookIsHobSession]

@@simplyincorrigible7708 daym! 😂😂😂

[@shodai2054]

*“to my church”*

[@amgm1996]

@@shodai2054 ikr 😂😂😂

[@roxypicasso66]

i’ve never related to a comment more than i do this one

[@Mentis-de]

The 1st question. No, the real translation means: "If you are that pretty, nice and funny like you pretend - you must probably have some bad characteristics that you reveal later"

[@fckthefearturkey]

Shh. Let them enjoy their illusion for a while before reality shatters it.

[@cupidalisha]

Yeah because every human has bad traits like the have good ones...

[@thedragon133]

@@cupidalisha yeah and there are some immediate dealbreakers so its good to figure them out early.

[@ListlessLion]

I understand you get more dates when you don't do this, but why can't people just list their deal breakers in their profile when they do online dating? edit: also, when I say you get less dates, I'm including people who don't fit any of the criteria but will immediately overlook you for the fact you have a list of deal breakers

[@thedragon133]

@@ListlessLion fair point. They really should. It may be hard to word sometimes but things like no emotional baggage, no crazy jealousy or such stuff... most people don't admit that they have that, to others and to themselves. So you have to look for clues.

[@hiiiroobee]

"I don't want to hurt you" - definitely going to hurt you. My god, this guy I was seeing just gave me the "I'm not looking for anything. I don't want to hurt you" speech.. how is this so on point?!

[@amelialou1895]

Translation: I hunted down the lovely Anna because her videos are aimed at the same audience that I want target too.

[@samiik4227]

SAVAGE HAHAHA

[@ClueSign]

LOL

[@celiashen5490]

biggest reason I clicked. :)

[@syguzman5739]

Amelia Lou - I don't think it's the "same" audience. Since watching this video, I've been following Matthew Hussey and he's way cool! Besides relationship advice, he's a comedian and life coach for women/men who can use self-esteem uplifting. I like Matthew Hussey's page better than Anna's, not only because the audience is a little older & mature but because his subscribers tend to support one another in the comments. While Anna tends to be goofy and playful, Matthew tends to be genuinely emotional and tender-hearted. If you don't follow Matthew Hussey, I'd encourage you to because he & his team put out some positive messages weekly 💛

[@celiashen5490]

When Amelia Lou said "same audience", I read it as "specific demographic". I like also how you support your arguments. :D

[@ginastotallybodaciousunive2375]

Dating is so draining sometimes.

[@kheperasekmet5197]

Bazinga

[@minhhangtranthi2211]

I think it most of the time. I give up pretty soon.

[@claireelijah]

@@minhhangtranthi2211 not only you😌 Kindly check this out!kzbin.info/www/bejne/a56ldpKGmNJ-qc0

[@chmc1378]

Yeah

[@babybug6462]

If you're looking for the wrong person yes if you know what you want then there's no problem

[@shanellewebb374]

Anna akana in this video i love her and how many shirts did you change in this video Matthew 😂

[@dikshasharma2880]

Shanelle Webb I noticed all the shirts after reading your comment 🙈

[@shanellewebb374]

😅

[@ebmurtaza]

WOW Girl! You got good eyes to catch the detailing!

[@laulau3817]

online and real life dear

[@loislee2895]

2 years single and this is still the most accurate and most astute video I've ever watched on dating men in this 21st century hellhole.

[@stacyj9111]

HAHAHAHA! This is great! I had to re-watch the whole thing just for the shirts!

[@DivinelyMandy]

I would love to see the bloopers of this video. absolutely a fantastic video Matthew!

[@AlaskanGirl75]

amanda kaiser BLOOPERS! BLOOPERS!

[@stacyk692]

Bloopers- YES PLEASE!!!!😁

[@Sara-xe6sm]

amanda kaiser yyeeeeeessssssssss

[@NoirKittie]

I got so excited when I saw Anna Akana was featured! (:

[@boghyarman2050]

NoirKittie ME TOO!!

[@jordansmith8547]

Lesson of the day: say what you mean and mean what you say!

[@RosiBosi]

The more I watch this, the more I see how genius it is!!!!

[@katemakou2771]

Matthew went an extra mile for us on this video. Great job, man! You all awesome :-)

[@theresaasian300]

There needs to be a "manslator" for every age group because what a man in his early 20s and what he means is totally different than a man in is late 40s.

[@karlabeard7519]

This is the best 3 and 1/2 minutes I have ever spent on KZbin.

[@athanasiospapakostas8413]

" I cause sane people to do crazy shit " OMG !!!!! AMAZING!!!!

[@evelina]

This is so great!

[@SahanTheMighty]

Awesome. Same shit us guys-who-look-for-guys get as well. This has helped me nail the coffin on the current "I'm very very busy" guy I have (not) being seeing. Thanks Matthew 😘

[@syguzman5739]

SahanTheMighty - Did you notice that the blue t-shirts change throughout the video? 😂 The t-shirt at "Work is so busy," reads #douche 😂 Which is exactly what a douchebag would say to run, hide, and escape from having to be emotionally responsible.

[@Boertje247]

Matthew, dude, you are not only superbly informative, but hilarious into the bargain! And what's so amazing to me is that men in my dating pool (60-70) are using the same tired phrases! What cracks me up is that by the time I process that some male is trying to chat me up, almost simultaneously, I realize I need the "cro-magnon man translator" book because señor douchey has just parlayed a lame phrase I've seen in your videos! I hope the young women here really take all your info to heart. Memorize it so it's at the forefront of your mind. Practice with your girlfriends. Men only speak the truth when they say, "I'm not looking for anything long-term," "I just want to have fun," "Hey, I'll call you sometime(aka 'never')"! Your answer should always be, "hey! That's great! It was so fun to meet you. Gotta go!" And then leave, and immediately delete his number. Oh yeah, he'll call or text you 3-6 months later, wanting to hook up, but you can honestly say, "Did we meet? I'm having trouble remembering...were you the doctor who helps in the free clinic? The guy who volunteers at the food bank once a week? The man who walks his old lady neighbor's dog? I can't remember who you are."

[@anamadiedo6145]

Hi Matthew, I'm really happy I came across your videos on fb. Im a fan and thank you. A guy that was playing games with me is now out of my life due to your help. Him being a father of 2 I thought he would be different but he's not. Keep inspiring! All of us women that are single or in bad relationships are very grateful. 🌟🙏🏻

[@NixieGee]

This is my favorite video yet.

[@MikeCatSavage]

"drink and drive" 🤣🤣🤣😂😂

[@bookclubvbreadwithvb2020]

Love love love this just straight forward and no bullshit. Will always remember when I heard the sentence 'I don't want to hurt you'. All the bells went of lol. Run run my dear! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣. Thank you Matthew you saved my life!

[@annette454]

Matthew has a great comic timing. Is there anything this man can't do?

[@christopherbrown2706]

Annette Szklowin not be a violent twatboil to innocent guys.

[@jyon8755]

Omg he really did say all of this, I'm so glad i didn't go for it 🤣

[@tinaperez7393]

No kidding, right? It never fails - The bad ones ALWAYS say most if not all of these. End the "date" or meeting asap.

[@conall9415]

Manslater sounds a little too close to manslaughter to me.

[@mariapazmartinez4862]

LOL IKR?🤣🤣🤣

[@sf4735]

This was hilariously brilliant! The world needs more of these. :)

[@beautifullywonderfullymade6204]

I hate when people ask why am I single or am suprised no one taken you 🤷🏻‍♀️ first of all I decide if I want to be taken by you sometimes we actually want to be single because we don’t want just anyone he’s gotta be the best for me.

[@valeriab-6126]

Exactly

[@user-ih6yr3ox3t]

"sOn Of A BiTcH" lmao

[@jenniferlewer2265]

Damn some guys are getting salty. Its comedy, calm tf down.

[@keahililia8208]

I'm wondering that😂. But what's also funny is some people actually taking this video for granted, saying "all men are like this". 😂😂. I think it's both men and women getting triggered.

[@respectfulgamer7232]

@ Your Daily Floof: Why wouldn't a woman get mad over misrepresentation of men? Should women only care about other women? (and also, this does portray women as insecure and unintelligent) You're the one lacking logic.

[@pyrrosdimas5798]

You probably one of those types who get triggered as well

[@akuma4593]

Lolol this was made because of how many females got salty over the original version, so, why so salty?

[@brynnaandersen7739]

The first twenty seconds, I admit I was put off - I thought it was gonna be a PSA and I've seen enough of those (I'm so used to seeing women-making-fun-of-men content being serious). But then after that I realized it was comedy and I liked it. Maybe guys only watched the first twenty seconds 🤷‍♀️

[@sahara4555]

The "best friends" though. Sooo true.

[@rondas7772]

I've literally had a guy say all of these things to me on a first date and after a couple of dates!! Hilarious!

[@Mari-hb5do]

I love the fact that the shirt keeps changing in hashtags for every line

[@caffinatedirl8466]

Ahahaha! So funny! This video will help save me A LOT of wasted time in the future! My ex said almost all these things to me & he turned out to be a narcissist/time waster 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

[@williamscott838]

Hello dear I know a powerful spell caster fro USA 🇺🇸 he brought back my ex back restored my broken 💔 relationship.......

[@williamscott838]

Text him through WhatsApp.

[@williamscott838]

+ 1 (2 6 0) 2 6 8 7 7 1 7.

[@paulogaspar8295]

stop using the word narcissistic. Women always use that as an insult to exes with whom the relationship just didn't worked out. He is probably a normal person that wasn't that into you.

[@AutomaticDuck300]

@@paulogaspar8295 narcissists do exist though. And if he was anything like this guy, that’s what narcissism is. Complete self obsession. Never getting to know her or ask about her. Thinking you’re God’s gift to women.

[@jameswillard-brown6697]

You can’t make anyone do anything they wouldn’t already do, Matthew. It’s called agency and responsibility.

[@lisaandmat]

Wish I had this translator as an app! 😂 or that men were required to wear that changing # shirt on first dates! you're hilarity just made my night! 👍

[@fckthefearturkey]

Box_Edge would probably ruin all the romantism and mystery women search foe in dating. If you cant hide your thoughts dont. A guy will just come up to you and say I think you're hot lets fuck. You can tell how romantic that would be. Men would love it, women not so much.

[@cynthia5102]

Omg ! hahahahahaha ! I couldn't stop laughing at this ! It reminded me of a date I had once. Soooo accurate!

[@sebastianstangassinger4335]

The real translation: questions to keep the conversation going

[@tiffanypersaud3518]

“Love drama”...... oh my. And thanks for this colab!!

[@erikaacw]

Thanks for bringing humor & clarity to some tricky shit. Much appreciated!

[@shymickey6]

She's a great actress. Her expressions and responses are perfect and realistic! And did anyone peep the hashtags onHusseys shirt each time he manslated? It made his simplified answer even more simplified (for people like me!) 🤗

[@kalieffoster4607]

I really like this video and I learned a lot. It made me reflect on myself and check to see if there were any factors of myself that I need to fix or adjust. So thank you.

[@RobertAlvarezThePsychicWitch]

@King Rags, I fully agree with you, and halfway through the video, I was looking at if I do any of the things the guy on the blind date does, or says any of the things he says. It was very helpful. Not only for romantic relationships, but all my relationships (professional, personal, family, etc.) in general.

[@mysterygirl30011]

Translation: I was watching this to see how obvious I was being: kinda. Fixing it so I can be cyphered again

[@williamhenning4700]

@@mysterygirl30011 Can no positivity exist in your world? Are those who are guilty once guilty forever?

[@mysterygirl30011]

@@williamhenning4700 What does that have to do with guilt or sin/ forgiveness? Just a remark. Enjoy endless positivity while the ship is sinking.

[@marijalebo3915]

Quotes and translations from a few of my exs " I don't want a woman to change me I want a woman who will compliment my life" --things are my way or the highway and your just someone fun to play with. "I'm fluent in sarcasm/sarcastic humour is my favourite" -- I will eventually verbally abuse you and tell you you can't take a joke. "I call all my friends/coworkers a b*tch and they don't get mad at me, why are you so serious"- he will continue verbally abusing you. "I think it's cute/hot when a girl gets jealous/ fights over me"- he's a player just leave.

[@jmaddalena42]

Do you want a guy to come into your life and change everything about you or do you want someone who you can share your life with? In my opinion, in a solid relationship people should compliment one another.

[@aiai-j7i]

@@jmaddalena42 It is spelled complement.

[@jmaddalena42]

@@aiai-j7i Oops. You're right I did misspell that. Thanks for taking the time to point that out.

[@marijalebo3915]

@@jmaddalena42 I so agree with your statement, however this guys idea of me complimenting his lifestyle was supposed to be me okay with him spending more time with his ex girlfriend than with me and sleeping with her in the same bed during a vacation I wasn't invited to. He said she had to sleep in bed with him because otherwise it would ruin the trip and if I went on the trip with them that would ruin it to. I broke up with him after that. No more dating bad guys though. I got myself therapy three weeks after that breakup and now I have bounderies and a better head on my shoulders when it comes to my future love life.

[@hannahscott6604]

This

[@missstaceytan]

It is soooo accurate... I'm shocked... And laughing at the same time... great video matt! 👍👍👍

[@fckthefearturkey]

Stacey Tan Im tired of women saying its soooooooo accurate. How the fuck would you know if it is?

[@renlove313]

the shirts are everything

[@mehakkhakra9812]

Ohhh myyy godddd......it is so funny😂😂😂😂......plus it is such a new and fresh concept ....would love to see more skits like this in the future🔥🔥🔥

[@PurpleLufky]

Mathew is not only brilliant, but creative and hysterical. Love the slap... Been following you for over a decade. 72 and forever young. Still learn from you.

[@DoBeLove]

"So how come you're still single?" " I was going to ask you the same thing..."

[@bbdd2145]

Until they say they are widowed ( Yep happened to me) i was lost for words

[@FlowerposeyB]

I swear if everyone had this dating would be less complicated

[@kuphine]

Actually in my opinion, it'd make things WAY more complicated

[@kimthuy4437]

This is so true lollllll. Especially "my ex is crazy -> narcissist" lol

[@jouca6570]

Can I rent him? I need this manslator in my life so bad.

[@phoenix.soul.8]

Loved😘it ....please do more #MANSLATOR vids👏🏻👏🏻

[@vampnoir]

Sylvia F agree this would save us from many frustrating thinking

[@phoenix.soul.8]

vampnoir Definitely! I mean come on, I thought men were supposed to be the less dramatic earthlings🤔

[@bye1551]

I already posted a comment how I disagree with this narrative so here: This does not accurately portray how a man thinks. This might just be me but if I ask a girl: "how come you're single?" I'm not expressing my insecurities or desires to know her flaws, I'm interested in her past dating life and looking for things that have gone wrong that I can improve on. Like a guy being a dick and her dumping him or her standards being "too high" for many guys. I am looking on how *I* can improve to make it more enjoyable for *her* . The only one I semi agree with is the porn one; if I say I don't watch it it's so she doesn't think the only thing I want in this relationship is her body, in fact the reason I will watch porn is to compensate for the fact that she may not want that much of a physical relationship, so then I get physical pleasure whilst mentally pleasuring both of us. I'm just saying, men's words aren't this cryptic; it's not opposite day every day for us, we simply try to please others and don't open up about our true selves if we fear that the person we are trying to please will dislike it. I'm not hating, I like a lot of your other videos and think a lot of your dating advice is useful and both women and men can take something out of it. But this? This is *harmful* to a relationship if you think that everything he's saying is cryptic and twisted and opposite. Again, I want to stress that I'm not hating. But this is misinformed at best, generalising the worse aspects most likely, and false at worst. Pushing this will be harmful to relationships. Please rethink things like this. If you are going to argue with me, please keep it civil and we can have an argument/debate. Yours sincerely Bye. An anonymous person on KZbin.

[@RaquelFantasia]

I can't believe! :D You made a video with Anna Akana! :D I love you both and this video was fantastic as always!

[@chempanda6388]

Raquel Fantasia this was brilliant =)

[@RaquelFantasia]

And it could be more awesome if they had collaborated with her designer too. Animated illustrations enrich the content.

[@RachelKim]

IKR!!!

[@lovelight6973]

Matthew Hussey once again spot on!! One of my favorite videos by far. Actually share this video was a guy friend of mine he's he's going to love it!! So true thank you for making it!

[@yuno111]

Matt needs to be with me everywhere! He's gonna save me from 50% of my life troubles.