What to Do When Your Boss is a Bully

[@thyop89]

The worst thing is when your boss only bullies you personally and behaves like a complete sweetheart to everyone else. No-one believes you when you try and speak out, you feel completely isolated and like a pariah.

[@lavellesikhosana6041]

I'm going through exactly that

[@mimiwilliams8918]

This! 💯

[@garlandtif8055]

I'm experiencing this now. It sucks she doesn't want to pay me unemployment, because there isn't a valid reason to get rid of me.

[@theicemaiden5816]

@@garlandtif8055 I've just been there. There is really no way you can win here. The best thing you can do is find another job and let them deal with the constructive dismissal claim when you are gone

[@sophiepeatling2358]

So true

[@leviticuscornwall9631]

Bosses need to realize most of their subordinates only tolerate them because of the paycheck. If you talk to someone like that who you have no leverage over on the streets, they’re gonna beat you up, or worse

[@wagman68]

Exactly, not so tough when their waiting for the paramedics to scrape them off the pavement

[@garlandtif8055]

Exactly its the funniest thing ever this is how people get the ish beat outta of them. You have no idea who really who or who knows who. Maybe im calm cool and collected professional but my daughters abd nieces ready and rachet af ..

[@dazza4345]

Biggest problem is co workers will turn their back on you and say they want to get involved.

[@marksummers463]

Yup! 7 days a week. If u get the chance, check out a piece titled The Hatchet Man's Playbook. I can't recommend it highly enough!

[@MadamPocketz]

MAN!!!!😠😥🤦🏾‍♂️

[@leebassett9623]

Yes thats the worst

[@AlissaSss23]

You mean DON'T want to get involved

[@myketoside]

Thank you for the reminder that the victim didn't create the problem. The bully boss did.

[@sherylsalazar4822]

Boundaries! But personally I will never go to HR. They side with the manager who just happens to be the bully and then fire you not the bully.

[@grainneo8545]

It’s illegal to fire an employee for filing a complaint

[@maggieboo910]

Yes HR always sides with the manager! When my boss was nasty, sarcastic and stopped talking to me in the middle of a meeting, HR intervened and said it was because my boss was under pressure from above so it wasn't her fault!! Couldn't make it up!!

[@krystjanchanerley9288]

HR in the majority of cases will Support the bully Boss.

[@runethllesis9025]

My boss has a superiority complex 😶

[@amylee8969]

Bully bosses are no different that other bullies. They're secretly inferior and want to feel powerful To hide their insecurities. These are the bosses who were bullied in high school and no one wanted to be their friend. As a result, they seek revenge by abusing power and becoming bullies themselves to blow off steam from their own tramatic past.

[@andreeabacanu1707]

Or they truly think they deserve the power and have no shame or remorse in treating others poorly

[@Michaelgracon]

It’s sad they need a lot of counseling and help.

[@TaxingIsThieving]

Nah I think my boss was the bully

[@Heidi123]

Often the boss was the bully at school.

[@ytfeverguy8367]

Recognize there is a serious problem at work. You have to confront the bullying or it will only get worse. Start talking to a lawyer depending on how deep in the job you are.

[@marksummers463]

Yup! Sounds like you read The Hatchet Man's Playbook.

[@myketoside]

What can a lawyer do though? Unless you are in a protected group and can prove discrimination, the most you can do is get your boss spoken to by THEIR supervisor.

[@ytfeverguy8367]

@@myketoside An employment lawyer can advise you on options for the worst case scenario(s) such as constructive discharge, retaliation (wrongful firing), UI (unemployment insurance), workplace harassment, etc. The bigger the entity the better and documentation is key. GL

[@debbiekillewald8384]

She's absolutely right about needing that person or that coach.

[@happypit3576]

My child care director is very bullying. No one can speak up. If speaking up, you guarantee your job is done. When employees go to the office, they will be gone and no one knows what is going on. She has abused so much her power. Once she doesn't like an employee, she picks a person small things until quit.

[@melaniewhalen9944]

What can you do when you work with non-profit and you don't have an HR department and it's Board of Directors bullying?

[@lightningloans]

Wow... that's strong I like that. I am either passive or aggressive... I need to arm myself with things I can say to stand up for myself with out blasting people

[@PS-xb9hc]

Those people are not good leaders. I deal with one, today I was ready to say f...off!😁😆and run!!!💥

[@GILDCoaching]

Unfortunately many people are promoted to manager and lack the skills to manage effectively. Then, the companies that promoted them do not provide management coaching (some of what we do at GILD) or training to help them grow into their position, and *poof* poor management style and unhappy employees. It's sad, and OH, SO PREVENTABLE!

[@mistica9833]

What if your boss owns his own company? He sometimes nice and the. other times finds anything to put me down no matter how hard I work. Ive never had this problem Ive always been a hard working it affects my confidence tremendously. And its confusing because he can be nice and apologies sometimes , but then he goes back to being a bully.

[@GILDCoaching]

If this person is not someone you can discuss this problem with (the imbalance & not knowing "which boss" will be in the room) then it may be time to put yourself out there for another job. We should always have a current resume ready because... you never know!

[@thepsychicspoon5984]

Your best chance is to find another job.

[@TaxingIsThieving]

​@@GILDCoaching I can't get another job. That's why I'm here.

[@DiamondDubs]

I left my first corporate job recently, I worked there for 3 years. I have no more savings. No money to live off and pay the bills or we are homeless. Unfortunately I'm stuck looking desperately for another job. Nobody wants me, and the only jobs available are 12-14hr jobs in warehouse or call center, never touching those jobs. I just can't take it or I just wouldn't want to live anymore. I'm just stressed and anxious 24/7. I have a chronic illness which makes everything harder. Nobody cares. I've tried everything possible to make money, even stupid things. I run multiple online businesses, have multiple KZbin Channels, I spent all my savings on trying to become a voice actor, which was my passion and the most i've made in a year is $30. I worked so freaking hard, even during my full time job all I did was grind outside of my job. I can't do this anymore, how do people live like this. My whole family thinks i'm a disgrace as I left a good paying job, but it was super toxic and stressful. Constant deadlines, daily meetings and managers making you stay unpaid overtime. I'm only 23. I can't do this for another 40+ years. I wish I knew what to do... I'm burned out too, all I do is voice acting for free and I'm too busy nowadays to even take on small paid jobs. Just sick of this bullshit society.

[@larisabellydance2492]

You did the right thing for you . Don’t give up And yes it’s a shitty superficial world and it feels like everyone seeks money over integrity Going through similar bullying crap from my boss stm too

[@magdaibrahim7559]

My team leader being bulling me for years and my supervisor backs him and support him in everything he does ( they are both friends outside work) I end up having both as well as staff members turning against me My supervisor keeps calling me to the office to humiliate me in front of my colleagues. Can I object to go to the meeting when he calls me and ask to have the situation address in a document so I have records and chance to have my say too ?

[@mantiger3780]

Ask him to email you what ever want to say because you are busy.

[@andreeabacanu1707]

I have the same problem...first level boss and the higher boss like to emphasize every single mistake in front of whole team...and now every time i have an issue with a coworker they can peacefully treat me like crap cause bosses say it.s my fault anyways... terrible coordinators just don't have a clue about group dynamics..or they are just plain evil

[@karenlloyd1701]

Thank you this is extremely helpful!

[@dr.l8763]

Talking to HR is a waste of time.

[@GILDCoaching]

We are so sorry that your company's HR is ineffective. Unfortunately that is sometimes the case. If you would like to get into specifics about your particular situation, you're welcomed to schedule a session here: www.ScheduleGILD.com

[@bryce3851]

yeah, watching this before my old supervisor always interferes and saying demeaning my work ethic always tries to intimidate by firing. and gossip things about things usually should of just said something earlier but feel damaged from the harassment. didn't have no other jobs for back-up . I reported once and later on he retaliated from my complaint. Should of documented all of this to build a case but damn either way the place was unprofessional it was minimum wage but not I know what to expect later on....

[@GILDCoaching]

Lessons learned are valuable! Thanks for sharing!

[@debbiekillewald8384]

I can relate. I'm so sorry. I just put in my 3 week notice after a year.

[@porcupinesauce3872]

How are u doing now? I hope ur doing better

[@colingale7501]

Thank you for the advice

[@stormdancer0]

Not sure if my boss is a bully boss. She wants me to send her the following emails every day: -@ start of day, what is my plan for the day -@ the end of the day, what did I get accomplished today -Also an email every time I get a task done. She repremanded me for answering my work phone after hours, We are NEVER EVER to do ANYTHING work-related while not on the clock. HOWEVER, she also called both my phones 4 times each, and called me three times on Teams, then send me a nasty email about being unavailable to my team, etc. But she called during my lunch break, when I was off the clock. She was great to work with - but turned into Attila the Hun when they gave her the title "temporary supervisor." I can't do any reporting anonymously - she and I are the only ones at the satellite office in our city.

[@panther36]

What if it’s a start up and the owner is the bully and there’s no HR?

[@ilovecanines]

What if your boss IS HR?

[@sophiepeatling2358]

The bully said that to me

[@reemt.2626]

Thank you ❤

[@GILDCoaching]

You're welcome 😊

[@hackbattle4283]

What if your bully boss us a friend of a friend who told you about the job?

[@AlissaSss23]

My workplace only bullies weaker, defenseless ones. Disabled ppl, pregnant women, children

[@ericawelty722]

When I signed on for this role I was under the impression that I would be in a particular role with the manager who hired me and that was changed on me fairly quickly. I’m now off the team I was originally supposed to be on. My boss who hired me now finds every opportunity to rub it in my face that I’m now on a worse team, not as important, making way less money, excludes me from all office events, speaks about benefits and trips and all the great things his team is doing in front of me and my co-workers. While making snide comments towards me and about me. I’m starting to feel maybe I’m being too sensitive but it’s really starting to bother me and I’m not sure what to do.

[@snuggisthecute]

Leave.

[@olegmarkov3442]

kill the boss...

[@martiamatters8710]

Ain’t nobody doing all of that higher ups don’t give a damn. They are well aware of her behavior. She has put a protection on her to prevent them from firing her. She has control on the higher ups to dominate them. My answer was to just get outta there. Find some place better to work.

[@juliaotero9624]

Well I work with the boss and he would make me feel really bad I work I've been there for 10 months the highest people and he takes away my hours and yet he wants me to do everything everything and always find something whether he pushes my hand whether he pushes me or whether he says a bad word and I just can't take it anymore and I work really hard I don't know what to do

[@BBB-to4cc]

People will say to me “but every where you work there will be someone you hate.” Uhm it’s the CEO and my other boss and there’s only 5 other people who work there and everyone wants to leave. And we don’t even have an HR

[@nirvanna305]

when i came in to work today. the work offices were changed. the maintenance office is now the head operator office. and the new maintenance office is next to it. and only for maintenance. im a laborer. and the only one. i was told by the maintenance guys they were to keep it locked. guessing so i don’t go in. but anyways. now everyone has a work space. and im pushed out to the staff room/ lunch area. where as. before i was allowed in the maintenance office

[@GILDCoaching]

Lots of things are changing these days - COVID-19 related, of course! See if you can shift your mindset to find fulfillment in. your tasks (laborious tasks provide mindfulness opportunities - so perfect!) and not self-identification based on external factors. That links to pride, and pride is rooted in things we cannot control - so is a very risky place to find fulfillment and meaning.

[@nirvanna305]

thing one do you have any way i would be able to contact you possibly?

[@nirvanna305]

thing one ok. i wrote it down. you can remove it if you dont want it public anymore

[@nirvanna305]

@thing one. i just sent you a email too btw. saying hi. lol

[@nirvanna305]

thing one did you get the email?

[@arnieg4129]

What’s worse the best way is to let the bully boss lay a finger on you and bam that’s assault and only get fired because you defended yourself which is stupid. Shootings happens because of bullies I wish there was laws against bullies especially here in California. I hate bullies in general and needs to be taught a good lesson. Anything you do right is right

[@AlissaSss23]

Calm down with the shooting. I'm taking my company to court. There are laws that help people, youdont have to murder someone

[@user-cn8br6vh9q]

Report it.

[@LisaVance-ky8rk]

*video oops

[@KazukoLight]

I have a boss who loves to put me down, talk about me behind my back/ in front of others while getting coworkers and even clients involved.Last time I was at work she insinuated I was dumb by saying I might not have a brain I have before told her I have a learning disability. During my previous shift she ripped something out of my hand and threw it while yelling angrily at me. She has made fun of the way I talk. My coworkers have started to join in on the bullying some not as much but alittle bit and others quite a bit.

[@aimeeevans1817]

She needs to be fired

[@taalibatbraswell7670]

Bye bye 👋 😘

[@arunaj1364]

When i listen to you i want to give up, sorry, but do you think people will look for videos like that if someone is being hard on them... i haven't even finished your video. Maybe you said something right later, but at this point i am disappointed

[@marksummers463]

If u get the chance, check out a piece titled The Hatchet Man's Playbook! Can't recommend it highly enough!