Podcast 19: Typical Workplace Bullying Scenario

Typical Workplace Bullying Scenario As bullied targets know all too well, they are not believed when they eventually tell their story. How can this happen? How can others be so incredulous? In this podcast, Dr. Gary Namie describes the lengthy process that leads to the destruction of a thoroughly competent veteran worker. A podcast in the WBI podcast series. Visit the WBI website for a complete list -- workplacebullying.org

[@michaelplitt2135]

Similar scenario for me. On top of the bullying, I was shocked when my coworkers, people I would regularly helped out, whom I considered my friends, failed to support me. People are the worst.

[@sunshineeveryday9873]

Same for me.

[@davise26]

Yup selfish and cowards

[@carolmahoney2109]

You have no friends at work. Now you know that.

[@miguelsonofzeus]

@@carolmahoney2109 That's the truth. But it's the employees who keep to themselves who are targeted.

[@kevinm8865]

@@carolmahoney2109 Carol spoke truth. People wake up and realize the truth before it's too late. Most people are cowards and will protect themselves at all costs. Don't mistake grabbing lunch daily w these people for genuine friendship. You work together and its convenient. When you leave they'll get a new lunch buddy. Sometimes you get lucky and find a "real one" but that's not common. It's a gift from God. My dad told me as a kid to be careful being the spokesperson for a group of disgruntled people at work, especially if you are speaking primarily from 2nd/3rd hand experience. Often when you get resistance from the complaint, the others will disperse into the shadows and leave you to fight the battle ... and likely lose your job in the process. Be smart but don't be a coward.

[@jackbauer6543]

Shit I've seen this happen at my own workplace. Target was an elderly female coworker by a male supervisor and two other female employees. Supervisor was being a real ass making comments about her age leaving her so upset that she was forgetting how to do basic tasks. The three continued to slander her behind her back claiming she's showing signs of dementia and going crazy. A month later, she gave her two weeks notice and quit. And they still talk shit about her. It's disgusting.

[@GiaBlinks]

OMG this made me cry. Cocky young people suck.

[@patriciahill4619]

Sue that employer.

[@user-fp4dr1ne7z]

This is so real that it triggers so many emotions. There’s a special place in hell for those types of people.

[@DD_MENEN]

Yes because its emotional murder

[@lynetteoneofyahsbeloved2510]

I completely agree with you. There is indeed a special place in hell for those types of wicked people. They are sociopathic narcissists who takes pleasure in emotionally harming their bullying target and are able to psychologically manipulate others in the company to go against the innocent target. They always target the best of workers due to jealousy. Or just wanting to be malicious..I have recently went through a similar experience at my present job. It is only by the grace of God that I have been remaining strong and have patiently endured mistreatment and defamation for a number of years. I never experienced this in the previous jobs I had. My guess is that there are companies who have a bullying culture and others that have a more healthier work place.

[@colin6768]

I dealt with bullying at the last place I worked at and suffered a nervous breakdown as a result. It was a very sneaky, covert form of bullying and these vermin had the home court advantage. Thanks for posting this information.

[@itypethetruthnobshere8975]

BETA!

[@miguelsonofzeus]

I hope you found better.

[@natlyfranks6856]

This is me- I'm dealing with bulling at work. I've lived my entire life NEVER was I bullied- I defended those that were bullied. Now in my 50's I'm being bullied at work, for a few years now. - I can barely complete a sentence without having to search for words. My confidence & memory are SHOT! I am CRUSHED- That people can be so cruel! Then I'm mad at myself for being a weakling & putting faith into people because I do know how Cruel ppl can be! I have a substance abuse issue, I had 16 years sober- no more! I'd love to go to detox & rehab however if I leave work for any length of time- I will not have a job when I return. The money is more than I can earn anywhere else. My only recourse is God Almighty- that God sees this wrong & makes it RIGHT! Or I go to rehab on their dime & let them do what they will once I return??? I'm really confused. Thank you for this post, it is comforting knowing your not alone.

[@lesablunt6298]

You Are Absolutely Right!! My Montra straight from my Soul is. “God Sees Everything “ and it’s True!! When you remove yourself from that Horrible Bully,, God will step in and take care of the consequences of that Bully’s actions towards You and Others!! Let God do his work for you now and You Will be Vindicated!!!!Amen😇

[@nobodycares1211]

Dont let em see you sweat

[@dannysims5914]

This is the Lord's battle with these demons... Oh believe me they're not getting away with anything @ all. Let King Jesus be King Jesus and just stand firm on his Truths and let God do his will. We don't have to see what God does all the time however its already done.... Don't laugh or mock them either. Just live for The Most High God... Oh He is so soooo wonderful...

[@laurajane4806]

When this happened to me by a co-worker, one thing that struck me (once I finally realized what was happening) was that they have no regard for the children who will be affected.

[@l.d.m.33]

I just want everyone writing on this board to know that I love you all! This bullying at the workplace that we have experienced binds us together. We are family in this battle.

[@philipgebhardt3453]

Fact is,if your line manager wants to get rid of you and does so by 'bullying' and generally making life unpleasant for you then there's not a lot you can do. Human Resources department will ALWAYS back up your line manager, no matter how badly he/she behaves. Generally what happens is that you get 'managed' out of the department (this happened to me TWICE) My manager was very clever-he used a colleague of mine as a 'battering ram' -the colleague made life for me very unpleasant and I could tell he was put up to doing this by my manager. I call it 'bullying by proxy'.Later on , the bullying by my line manager became more 'overt' The first time I went to complain to HR department their response was to turn the issue into a 'performance management issue' and I was put on a discipliniary just for having the temerity to complain. Workplace Bullying should be made a CRIME -it damages lives. I now work for MYSELF as I would never want anyone to have that kind of power or control over me ever again.....

[@manuelluis5456]

make it easy : do a handwritten letter to your local police authority ... and explain everything ... don't waste time collecting evidences ... it's not your job . Local authority have the means and appropriate professionals to deal with it and start collecting proofs of evidence _____ IT MAY TAKE YEARS _______ . One week after you've sent the letter to the police station , send a registered copy to your aggressor --- the exactly one you'd sent to the police ----- .By that time ,,, experts might be already on the field trying to gather evidence without ANYONE notified it --- low profile ---- . After several years [ 4 in my case ] they have already enough evidence gathered very discreetly to present to the court . In the end : the ceramics factory went out of business , my agressores were socially empoverished , and 'committed' suicide [ defenestration ] 253 workers went on the streets jobless and without pay , l received a small $$$$ repairmente and went to another job . P.S : l took about 8 years minimum wage whilst performing small jobs .

[@sl4983]

Report harassment to the police??

[@marshalhaynes3007]

You need to read The Hatchet Man's Playbook. Great read!

[@samusaran181818]

I had a similar experience, and I arrived at the same place you did. After that job, I never wanted to put myself in a situation where psychotic managers will just create chaos in my life for absolutely no reason. I'm trying to create my business and be my own boss. I hope you have a successful business!

[@marshalhaynes3007]

I know the feeling. But there things u can do. Read The Hatchet Man's Playbook - a LOT of eye-popping, non-obvious stuff!

[@renees1021]

He nailed this topic!

[@rvcuisinemarysway]

I went through a similar situation, however, I was fortunate to be transferred away from the department to another, but the bullying didn't stop there...then people started to gossip about me. So sad and I feel so bad for everyone in Susan's situation.

[@999timepass]

Similar experience here.They get salary and bonus just to gossip about people who just want to do their job and go home.

[@MW713]

What about the ones who have been at the company for years and target new employees? Is there a video on that?

[@999timepass]

That has always been the case for me in most workplaces.

[@allkindsamusicchick]

Yes, I agree with some of the others. Workplace bullying should absolutely be punished, and not allowed to continue. Those that do bully are psychologically unwell!!

[@ellejohnson3187]

And Nobody that She Previously Helped will Bother to help her.

[@sunshineeveryday9873]

That's right and that's my scenario now

[@marshalhaynes3007]

That's so true!

[@14meowss71]

This is absolutely 100% the story of my life! I was even reprimanded by upper management for documenting my bullying supervisors!

[@marshalhaynes3007]

You should read The Hatchet Man's Playbook!

[@marshalhaynes3007]

Options: Get your manager fired or sue.

[@gailarnold2660]

I am so sorry....it is so painful. My empathies to you.

[@debbiekillewald8384]

What upsets me is that Susan will start not to believe in herself anymore and carry that over to other workplaces unless she gets some serious help. I understand this...

[@patriciahill4619]

It's like it follows like a black cloud.

[@jennifervallari2674]

Yes, agree. It destroys a person’s confidence.

[@jc1865]

This happens all the time. I've been through it myself --- targeted by incompetent director who, frankly, was jealous of me because I was younger, had a graduate degree, and had accomplished things she never would. It was a nightmare. I left the company before I had a nervous breakdown. I was financially devastated for years since it was right after 911 and had to take a job at less than half the salary I was making. I saved my home though it was hell.

[@RitaLBriody]

This is almost EXACTLY what happened to me. I'm shocked and so very sad that this is common enough a narrative that this story to be told. I want to help, somehow.

[@gailarnold2660]

omg. This is the FIRST time I have ever heard this explained so clearly!!! I have been searching and searching for this video. Thank you Dr. Namie. I am in shock that someone actually knows this besides me. I mean-of course people do-I just hadn't found you and this explanation until now. I feel so much better knowing someone gets this situation cause I couldn't explain it to someone like family and friends. I am a changed person right now. Thank you! wow......

[@youcangetholdofjules]

Yes, very good explanation. Especially when it mirrors ones own experiences, as it did in my case.

[@Bahbahlatje]

I am being bullied at work. From the day I arrived in my office, my supervisor has done hostile things to me. She has had the ear of her supervisor and distorted information regarding what she's done. I filed and EEO complaint based on my PTSD, which she was aware of. She has exacerbated my stress response by doing sneaky things to me. For example, she refused a request for sick leave but she never informed me of that decision. She hid the refusal by requiring that I file for annual leave. When I discovered this and asked her, she said she didn't accept my medical note as it didn't conform to requirements, without spelling out how it did not conform, nor did she give me an opportunity to remediate the issue with the letter. She also denied me sick leave without explaining why she denied it. I ended up going up the chain of command and then filing an EEO complaint. I started tracking how the case affected me, and saw quite quickly that it was extremely upsetting and stressful and was badly disrupting my sleep. I felt like this woman was robbing me of my badly needed sick leave by reaching out from the office to bully me and deprive me of peace of mind. I have a stress disorder and this woman has stressed me out. I didn't realize she was bullying me until I started watching WBI podcasts. I am still on leave. At this point, I plan to change offices. However, this woman retired and was given another position doing the same job in the same office. In short, she was allowed to stay on despite the fact she bullies her staff. Despite her bullying, she was rewarded and her position is now more permanent so staff will perpetually be trapped by a boss who bullies. Pretty disgusting response by the organization in light of her abusive treatment of her staff.

[@Share_123]

Witchcraft monitoring spirit is real at work!

[@coreyanderson7424]

Because bullies create an illusion. You must find a smart way to break the illusion. Expose incompetence.

[@samusaran181818]

I experienced a similar scenario. I argued against a crazy manager and proved him wrong every time. However, HR would always take his side. I experienced those situations where HR was blaming me. When you're in that situation, you feel like you're living in the Twilight Zone. It is stressful to be in this kind of job, and I had to leave that toxic job. Furthermore, thank you for mentioning the disbelievers because I had people that were blaming me for everything that was going on.

[@sl2608]

This is the absolute truth. I've lived it, unfortunately. I was targeted, just like Susan, and it almost killed me. Thank you for this excellent, important description, Dr. Namie. It's a comfort to hear and receive your validation.

[@brycewalat5321]

The only truly effective way to avoid being bullied, whether at work, at school, or on the street, is to get away from the bullies. That means changing schools, changing jobs, or changing neighborhoods where you live, worship, or shop.

[@buoazej]

this. unless your parent is a bully. then what?

[@inthesun3884]

Start your own business if you can. They’re everywhere. Some are under a tremendous amount of pressure from above and are downright crazy.

[@kathysheehan1]

This makes me sick!!! So wrong. I have been bullied for yrs i can relate. Still have a job. But my confidence has gone down dont know where to go im i n my 50.

[@JR-xp1iz]

I'm in my 50's too. The bullies think we are too old and dumb to leave but leave we must.

[@MarionetteMuse]

50s are young this day in age. You've got decades ahead of you... for better or worse. Find a new job.

[@natlyfranks6856]

Me too!!! I document EVERYTHING!! If I make a mistake everyone hears about it but they are all hush hush with their mistakes. Best of luck to you

[@redsolocup727]

On the first day of this one job I had. One of the guys I was supposed to be working with, called my female supervisor, ugly, manly and basically stupid to her face. My supervisor tried to defend herself and said a couple things back, but it wasn't anywhere close to the kind of mean things this male co worker was saying. I felt so uncomfortable witnessing this. So I kind of have heartedly laughed..And said " I just want to keep the peace. " After hearing this. My male coworkers said laughing at both are jokes?" Your going to have to pick a side. " I ended up quitting after three days. I had a bad feeling. That I just witnessed a small taste of how bad things could go. I'm sure that eventually I would've became a target for that kind of treatment.

[@helenpaul-smith754]

Exactly what happened to me and my colleagues. There are around up to 20 of us hoping to join together and make a mass complaint. Some of us have left because of the bullying so a lot of it will be historical but for goodness sake something needs to be done about these occupational monsters who ruin peoples lives.

[@renaelynn6376]

Love that description occupational monsters.

[@sherristeckel3178]

Yep and the sad part is your family doesn’t even believe you

[@gailarnold2660]

I don't think they understand it cause it is so vicious, ya know? They would believe it if they had ever seen it or felt some of it I bet.

[@Itzyhani]

This is happening to me now. Thank you because without this I felt like a horrible person, not valued, emotionally weak, weird, socially awkward, all these things. Im so beat down I almost don’t want to to even talk to ppl about it anymore because im sure my support system is tired of hearing about it. Im tired. I have been picked apart for years and feel like there is nothing left. I don’t know if I will ever be the same. They will finally either find a reason to fire me or get me to quit and be celebrating while I am forever changed. I constantly think what did I do to deserve this. Am I weaker then most people. Why don’t I fit in. Will I be like this forever. How has it gotten so bad. Will anyone help me, believe me, do I have enough proof. Will I lose it all. Will I lose me?

[@l.d.m.33]

Listen, you are not alone. All of us here are here for you. I'm going through exactly what you are going through now. Watching videos like this and reading these comments help because they let me know that I am not crazy, that I am not alone - and either are you. Hang in there.

[@439bananas]

I think the answer is to move jobs as soon as anything like this happens. It is a downward spiral. The best solution might be simply to say as you think that I no longer fit your company you will have no problem in me moving on and providing me with a reference. This would put the employer on the backfoot, because either the company would have to let a previously competent worker go or they would have to back pedal.

[@marshalhaynes3007]

It is distressing. But there are things u can do!

[@Laarla]

Yes, the best strategy is to plan an exit strategy. That also helps with the work stress, as you will know that it won't be happening forever.

[@jenniwatkins5251]

Spot on. Happened exactly this way to me.

[@youcangetholdofjules]

Jesus. Soon much of this tale rings true for me. Except the end of the story. I was VP Ops and the new CEO put me on a PIP after a month and moved me to a written warning 2 days later, and you could tell he was getting off on it. Shook me to my core as I received promotion after promotion up to this point. After I had a panic attack and took a day off work I was berated for not calling in sick (I was passed out on the floor). But then I fought back. Wrote to the board, told them exactly what was happening and said sort it as the next step is the shareholders and then the CEOs little house falls down. I have never seen a turnaround happen so quickly. I resigned but raised grievances, sent letters showing that this guy was off on one, and they offered to settle. That was in fact yesterday. Bottom line - don't listen to the "be gentle" advisors. If you can - fight fire with fire.

[@brendad5105]

How does one fight against the bully if it is one's manager? This is the same situation I am in. I'm looking for help...

[@marshalhaynes3007]

You should have read The Hatchet Man's Playbook!

[@marshalhaynes3007]

Brenda: Read The Hatchet Man's Playbook! There are things u can do!

[@MarionetteMuse]

You can't. Just find a new job ASAP. It'll only get worse and only you will suffer.

[@asiajjwhy23r94]

@@marshalhaynes3007 shame is only on kindle

[@contessachristabella259]

That's what I've been talking bout and going through exactly, but your absolutely right when no one believes you.

[@sieracki001]

This very same thing is happening to me as I write this. I am facing a situation where I have lots of experience and get the job done but have constant criticism of everything I do. But I have the emails from internal clients that say I can deliver. I will be getting a review in about another month and I know it's not going to be positive. I am definitely looking at the exit doors and planning my inevitable resignation. I just am facing reality here and I know I'm history. Se la Vie.

[@JR-xp1iz]

well said

[@user-tr5bz6mn5o]

This is very close to what happened to me 6 years ago. I am still recovering from this.

[@Queenni1111]

Well said.... I went through this but I wrote them up immediately... and refused to go to work in a hostile work environment.

[@itypethetruthnobshere8975]

So u snitched?

[@Queenni1111]

@@itypethetruthnobshere8975 no... stood up for my rights

[@tauniajanekennedy3839]

On point . On many points . Thank you for giving people like me a voice when no one believes you !

[@yvonneoakes550]

wow wow, you are describing exactly what's happening to me at the moment. Thank you so much for your insight, this is amazing. It's so difficult to describe it when you are in it. Difficult to make sense of it all.

[@dgrl9842]

EXACT scenario I recently went through 😪😪

[@marshalhaynes3007]

There are a 1000 things u can do in such a situation to retaliate. Remember your boss has bosses too and he is under the gun just as u are. Also not all managers like each other. Many are rivals. Find out who his are.

[@samanthadoyle6528]

We're done Dr Namie this is an excellent explanation. I am working on presentations and training for schools & workplace bullying in Ireland and your work has been very inspirational and true to the reality of this toxic behavior.

[@captainnemo2150]

NOPE THEY KNOW WHAT YOU ARE SCENSITIZED TO AND YOI COULD SEE IT A MILE AWAY...YOU JUST PLAY ALONG CAUSE YOU NEED A PAYCHECK...UNTIL YOU KNOW ITS TIME TO GO.

[@AndiLee75]

I’ve met so many Maudes in my life!! It’s amazing how people go along with them and become bullies by proxy.

[@Mysticmegster1]

this describes exactly what I have seen in some hostile workplaces in years gone by. Everything described is exactly the way it happened. But if we know the process we can beat the bullies

[@j-scribble7676]

WP bullying REALLY irks me. It's really NOT fair. Bullies need serious karma now. This bully at my WP has gotten rid of over 10 people so far... WHAT is management NOT seeing?!

[@inthesun3884]

In my case managers got bonuses for saving money and one of the few ways to do that was to replace high performing sales people with new ones. Strip the sales accounts giving the top billers to non-commissioned reps. Give other large accounts to other salespeople but not pay extra commissions. Make them work harder for nothing. This manager was sinister. I sat in the office while this person gave horrible references to companies looking to hire their victims. More than once! I was there when HR came in and told them to stop. They agreed. Then 5 minutes later another reference call & they did it again! Didn’t want the competition. This very large company ended in bankruptcy. Their strategy for saving money is just part of what destroyed them.

[@natnaut6113]

OMG that is exactly what is happening to me. How did you know my story. The area I live in, the laws are so backwards that unwarranted performance management (or unwarranted PIPs) due to workplace bullying is not even recognized. No manager will ever believe that one of his/her own is a bully...oh no, NIMBY. Everyone assumes that any PIP is legit and assumes that you are incompetent without even having evidence of bad performance. All the bully has to say to senior management is "she's not performing" and there are no questions asked. The anger associated with being targeted by an incompetent bully who controls your every mood and then has unlimited powers to destroy you is one thing, but as you correctly describe the associated humiliation of having to defend your performance while all management sit there and look at you with disgrace is another thing. I too developed high blood pressure, and gastro problems...the bullying was so bad that blood was gushing out of my nose when the bully sat in front of me (GUSHING out!). The room constantly caved in and as I suffered from severe panic attacks all day and PTSD. I can't take it anymore, and am contemplating ending my life - there is no help where I live, and nobody cares...I just can't take one more day of it!

[@thelaughingfoxx]

Nat Naut you want to end your life from an asshole boss?? See your worth, tell your boss to fuck off and whether you get fired or quit, both is healthier than staying. NO job is worth staying if it affects your health. Since you posted this 5 months ago, I hope you found a worthwhile job where they value you. I wish you hope, health and happiness. 🙏

[@ellejohnson3187]

Medical or Legal field?

[@JR-xp1iz]

Nat Naut please could you reply and say if you're okay? I've been feeling suicidal because of the same terrible situation at work but I know I won't do it. Please rely. I hope you are alright and maybe have even moved on to a new job.

[@debbiekillewald8384]

This is so true. I've been through this.

[@KARENK72886]

Thank you so much! I appreciate your help.

[@sistersofvirtue]

This is happening right now to me!

[@blackdahlia4U]

I needed this today. Thank you!

[@dog453679]

Like you said, Dr, Naime, Susan should spotted the problem right then and there, and put an end to Maude's evil plan. She should've documented Maude's behavior, and her attacks, and question any employee if she spread rumors about her, gathering support for her case, and bring it to the executives, and HR before Maude could exact her plans on her! The higher-ups, if they were smart would've gotten wise to Maude's plan, and handed her walking papers, therefor saving Susan from being railroaded out of her job. That's what would've happen instead of that sad story you told. This shouldn't have happened! Bullying doesn't belong in the workplace. Period.

[@ellejohnson3187]

@dg...-the thing to consider is Why they hired Maude in the 1st place. She went to their alma mater, their favorite college prof. Is her mentor, her father is their golf buddy, she's a member of their club. SUSAN is Non of that, not a part of their "class group". There is NOT 1 Single reason for them to consider her in their future plans. People dont consider "class" groups in America but they Are Certainly There. Personally, i prefer classism to racism because with early planning/training a few can make the transition but racism is heinous no matter what. Lastly, the comment about quickly noticing the bs & asking for a letter of recommendation and leaving quickly is probably best. For most of us hard-working nsibe people our "lives" were lost b4 we even knew we were targets. Take care

[@markbrad123]

If you start to notice there is not many customers then management is probably on a lay off at any excuse. Best to start looking for a new job before the ship sinks. No one would fire you if you were really necessary and not expendable.

[@msjreneful]

This is so good!!

[@manchitas3531]

What has helped me overcome the same situation at work has been to bite the bullet, gulp down the shame and report each incident. Document everything and report them. Even when they paid no attention. Only because the day would come when they would ask me "why didn't you say so before"? Well, they day also came when I was empowered to say "I had enough and I let you know all along. It is all on the record. For 9 years. Guess who had a strong case in the end... Even if the bully's power was diminished in the end because her enabler left, I would have had no support if I had not kept everything documented and copied everybody up the chain

[@davidhayman7623]

I've never heard this scenario so perfectly discribed before, thank you so much Gary. My only question is what can be done? And how can we deter this sort of behaviour? Any thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated.

[@bunnyfunny2130]

Same here. I'm fighting back now.

[@sedwards2207]

I’m being mobbed at the moment. This is so accurate, it’s frightening.

[@TheAlsdkf]

This happened to me . I called out a 27 year worker for being racist and abusive so she made it her mission to gas light me and make my job impossible and talk shit about me while I’m standing there etc . Got me fired . Because I didn’t look happy at work : wow fuck wonder why .

[@obgfoster]

My name isn't Susan, but I am Susan.

[@sssttt2211]

Generality in feedback is never a feedback. It is meant to test your reaction. Ask them for specifics or ignore whatever said as incorrect. PIP never helps and it is method used to get employee out. This is only to create proof and formalities to avoid legal percussions if let go of employee just like that... Never take it personally. Never work hard due to pip. Let them have pip.. enjoy your 2-3 months. Life is too short to work for shady employer, if they had to use such tactics. I let go of job for my health and peace of mind.. nothing matters more than these. HR always protects manager , no matter how pathetic he is.. best is to move internally in different team or leave company.

[@manumusa9224]

Bullying at work cause murder at work. It should be illegal to do that, period!

[@marshalhaynes3007]

One GREAT resource on the topic of defeating corporate predators is a piece titled The Hatchet Man's Playbook - a LOT of eye-popping-non-obvious stuff!

[@labellt9717]

Susan should have written out her concerns and sent a copy to HR, MOD, DEPT HEAD AND CEO of company. Mail to each of them by FedEx.

[@richarddavis748]

Bullying and blame allocation go hand in hand

[@pamlogan6920]

I believe that there is always a pattern of practice. If previous employees were interviewed it would be sufficient evidence needed to determine a legal action.

[@ms.fabulous478]

I hate bullying. I am bullied everyday at my job, by my co-workers. They tell me what to do, and they blame me when a customer has stolen something. Some of my other co-workers stand around, and talk amongst themselves. They care more about friendships on the job, than completing tasks. I do the best that I can at work, but it's not good enough.

[@DrManar-mx1bw]

I was Suzan in my last work place

[@ballcapgirl1210]

Great info...but what do you do in this situation?

[@gailarnold2660]

I see in the comments that people are saying that they don't know what to do about it and maybe, just maybe if people start talking more about it and that it happens and we all know it is happening that some of the bullies may not try it cause we are all on to it now. I guess voice it. Let people know that we know it happens. IDK.

[@latricegant4440]

I’m dealing with this now.

[@renaelynn6376]

So how can this be changed????

[@corinadanaeca4778]

Poor Susan. I wish people would just be fair. The supervisor had no right to act that way, and honestly, I was thinking about going into work in the field of HR. I would never tolerate bullying. The first thing management should do is inform supervisors that bullying will not be tolerated.

[@tintran2302]

Hi Dr Gary, how are you? I love hearing your audio things on you tube, at my workplace, i think me and my work mates, we've been treated unfairly, i've been work at my workplace for 10 years, it s a Japanese vehicle warehouse that's very popular in Australia. Before that i was working in that company in manufacturing departments. First 5 years working of this warehouse i was mostly working in an area same few jobs every day, straight 5 years, no chance of training up skills, after 5 years, the company start to outsource their employees, most of supervisors took the packages. Before the seniors supervisors left the company with big good package, he already lifted his own favoured same back ground people to be our future supervisors on pm shift. These young blokes, some are very smart on computing and powerpoint presentations. But they wont last down AM shift by their management skills, they are way of incompetent to run the employees down day shift. So they team up with our managers to let them run people down PM shift, cos they know us down PM shift are mostly migrants with not much English and know about the work policies and HR policies. They came down, they moved all the people their current department to a different department with a reason business need. They have moved us to another department and let us know some jobs and do those jobs every day, straight to 5years time, all the people who sucked up to this young bloke, he lifted them up to supervisors, and the funny thing is all the promoted supervisors are same background, these guys are incompetent in running people at workplace too. They only listen to this young bloke to how abuse and bully the new employees just moved over this department. These supervisors only serve the company for afew years then got up supervisor level and start pushing us to work with high workloads, they just disappeared in their office talk and laught with their gangs and watching us working flat out. This young bloke some how got very big support from our lazy managers who delegated him the power to do what ever he likes down our pm shift. Now all my work mates' mentality now all scared, feared to raised their voices for being treated unfair, we not dare to complain because he got very big support from our current toxic managers. In mass meeting they alwaya raised him a good candicate to be in this position, he deserves it. HR people are also teamed up with managers, our pm union rep.teamed up with these managers, they gave him a relaxing job with a pay rise more than us. Instead raise the complaints or stop these managers running wrong things at workplace, this union rep.just silent his mouth and enjoying his relaxing job with good money. So now all of us need to do what to stop these guys bullying us at workplace Dr Gary? Please advise us

[@miguelsonofzeus]

Can we just be honest here? This is an accurate scenario.

[@simpinainteasy680]

Well done

[@gailsmiley6038]

Shared!

[@elmasodioda2261]

This happened at the Ontario one. I went in as hunk bodybuilder. And then I went down with all the bullying. I’m tired of this shit

[@OK-wb1dy]

My boss called me in one day for a “chat” and she accused of me of going outside for a break without signing out. This was NOT true. I told her so. And she said that “… someone reported it to her…”. She wrote this allegation in my probation report as if it was a factual event that happened. What would you do in such a situation ?

[@kristynsotelo1452]

Wow...sounds familiar. I have known more than one person that had to endure this.

[@TCTGFAM]

I got bullied by my manager and his second in command by making trash of my work, speaking to me in a patronizing and condescending manner, by neglecting me (I had to chase them in order to give me assignments) and by blackmailing me with timetables. Well, I guess I've learned my lesson I'm quite a newbie in work, I'm going to kick their ass next time ;)

[@lovetheatre100]

Thank you for caring about bulling

[@kathysheehan1]

How can we get a law pass how can we get this to stop

[@westcoastorbust2462]

I know. We HAVE to get this done seriously!

[@westcoastorbust2462]

Just hit me. Maybe they won't pass them because the very people that pass laws are the kind of people that have bullied their way into their position.

[@MarionetteMuse]

@@westcoastorbust2462 Spot on.

[@luclongly529]

My work place mobbing followed me home 🏡 I even found out that my own government and family participated in it, it's also called "GANGSTALKING" a.k.a. zersetzung 😢

[@Tech81272]

That’s exactly what happened to me

[@GoogleIsAPieceOfShit2023]

Do it on the onset.

[@aliroman1176]

How about 2 cowerkers with less experience, skills and less academic preparation than you. What if the were the bullies? What if they refuse to do tasks and are giving them to the most experienced one? And this happens boss, after boss, after boss for more than 10 years? Even through the experienced one alerted Human Resources Dept.

[@user-he1pp9gh1l]

My life then last 7 months. A tyrant.

[@patriotcraftsboy1046]

Why Mod’s actions sound like a butter bar would do on their first day?

[@Righteousgems]

💚

[@ptrish764]

My story to the T. Sad

[@filrabat1965]

Our definitions of leadership need to change. If we didn't have this top-down authoritarian style that is more appropriate for the military than for the civilian workplace, we wouldn't have had Enron, WorldCom, Lehman Brothers, etc. Not to mention Donald Trump as president.

[@naeru5810]

no point in living if u r Susan.

[@rabbiisraelgoldstein5516]

10:12 you have liberals and the democratic party to thank for this. Oh... The Irony

[@really5453]

Oh and the Republicans continuing assault on women's rights really just helps