Girl Gaslights, Manipulates & Embarrasses Man At the Alter -(Love Is Blind Cole & Zanab DEEP DIVE)

[@sixteenleo]

Merry Christmas Everyone! This is my longest video ever, and the deepest of dives. I hope you have a wonderful holiday and enjoy the gift and if you want to do something back consider supporting and copping the merch with the link here. thank you my big babies

[@jayceallen6530]

Merry Christmas leo

[@Danniedorito]

Thank you ❤️ totally made my day with this! I'm going to listen to it while I do Christmas stuff. You know cooking and what not. 🥰 Merry Christmas and happy holidays to everyone

[@gimandri5577]

Merry Chrysler Sixteenleo

[@zhdrums3872]

Happy birthday Leo!

[@WillNeverBeAGI]

Merry Christmas!

[@THEDubbleHelixx]

"I prefer shallow relationships." "I don't really want a shallow relationship." "OMG did you just call me shallow???"

[@matchaleche]

Yeah, I didn't really get that Colleen was offended about that o___O Maybe she wanted to hear that "he can look into her soul" and that that soul is not shallow at all or some BS like that

[@sylverscale]

That was odd, but they may just have misunderstood each other. I think she meant starting off somewhat shallow, not going too deep right away, while he took that as being shallow forever. It's the only thing that would make sense to me with that situation.

[@THEDubbleHelixx]

​@@sylverscale Maybe. I saw it as her not being able to handle the rejection, so she jumped to feeling victimized instead of seeing it as him being open about not being on the same page as her. That's the only way it makes sense to me.

[@thesadunicorns1]

Poor Cole.

[@thesadunicorns1]

What a horrible, miserable, sick woman.

[@chyasmin]

I finished this and all I can say is it's just hurtful. Cole is childish, immature, but he's willing to learn. Zanab on the other hand is a vengeful person, a perfectionist, and a queen of gaslight. I knew she doesn't want to marry him with the way she talk to him, she just want to break him on the altar.

[@christmastiger]

I was going to say this, Cole was very immature in the beginning but went through major growth, Zanab almost went the opposite way, well it was more that her pod self was far nicer than her irl self, which I realize as I’m typing this maybe this was all a ploy to stay on the show 😳

[@kmcclellan9820]

This is exactly how I perceived what happened. Nobody’s perfect, and cole is far from it, but he’s real. She’s something else entirely…

[@HitsugiHime]

I think he can be a better person if he put effort into it

[@JSealification]

Yeah, that alter scene felt like I was watching a cold-blooded murder.

[@ak47adam47]

@K McClellan yeah she is low key evil and toxic!! She gone be single for eternity after that alter scene!! Lol!!

[@patriciathemaras3274]

It's hilarious how exuberant Cole was in the beginning... Then, 4 weeks with Zenib, and he looks like she sucked the living life out of him... like an energy vampire.

[@TandJgaming]

Like when he tried to make that dinner for them and she literally just shit all over him the entire time and he literally had no idea what he was doing wrong. Could you imagine knowing someone was like that but actually being in love with them and not knowing what to do about it? And that’s only the shit we see on camera, imagine how shitty she was to him when they knew they weren’t being filmed.

[@Peanut_taco_muffin]

Not so much hilarious, but really sad! 😢

[@aleshasinclair8529]

Facts

[@brigade7678]

@@TandJgaming Yeah her faces during that dinner were uh kinda scary at a few moments whenever he dared challenge her view

[@yurinoworry]

Humans operate at a frequency. Creating a soul tie with someone in any way alters that frequency, sometimes permanently and always taking a lot of conscious effort to realign your inner frequency. Sounds crazy, so don’t take me at my word if you wish not to - I understand.

[@azraelfish]

Every time I feel like I’m a terrible person, I watch Love is Blind and feel so much better about myself

[@larajayne4934]

😅😅😅 100%

[@bhocolatebhipbookie3967]

🤣🤣 if it makes you feel better the fact that you contemplate whether you're being a good person or not lets me know that you're a good person.. but your comment was funny

[@ff2154]

As Dr. Honda would say - Yikes!

[@dolladollabillsyo7698]

🤣

[@antonydrossos5719]

Actual terrible people don't reflect on how terrible they really are.

[@nuggiesvids]

Not only she made the wedding just about herself (by not letting him dress how he wanted), she waited until the very last moment, made him think she was going to say yes by saying how nice he is and how much she loves him just to publicly humiliate him and then act as if he had it coming. Girl... that was not the empowered moment you and your friends thought it was.

[@asarishepard8171]

i konw right.the internet comments gives me hope for human kind that not everyone is in her stupid echo chamber. she couldn't take it.

[@la7427]

I thought it was. Knock him down a peg 😅

[@jesse.p2263]

@@la7427 If he needs to be knocked down a peg, Zanab needs to be knocked down 3 pegs lol

[@TandJgaming]

Not only that but it was definitely pre meditated and not just a last moment realization, she was planning that shit for days. Her friends knew exactly what to do after she told him off.

[@PrettyGhostX]

He dodged a REAL bullet! She's awful

[@Toskrr]

Cole has the personality of a golden retriever puppy, and Zanab hates dogs.

[@gingerdeguia]

Omg - on point!

[@NoNo-fz8hu]

Exactly..people who don’t like dogs are not my kinda people. They suck hehe

[@isitoveryet9525]

@@NoNo-fz8huAmen! Never trust a person who hates dogs……that’s about the biggest red flag you can find 😬

[@kristentrep5038]

This!

[@sfr2107]

Well it's more like liking well behaved dogs more than ones who are carelessly rambunctious and jump on furniture with dirty feet

[@MLC92]

I didn't expect to feel so bad for Cole in the end. But wow, it's not only that she has insecurities but it's like she enjoyed breaking his self-esteem. It's pretty disturbing.

[@darkcrystal4498]

Agree. It's giving Megan Markle vibes...

[@skylarsunday]

He may have started immature, but my heart breaks for him. She was being absolutely abusive to him, whether or not she meant to. She severely needs therapy to stop projecting her insecurities onto others, No one deserves to be treated like that.

[@Jahsizzl9]

Dated a girl like this. Shit was incredibly freaking draining

[@xsevynnx3903]

This, I agree 100%.

[@P0rk_Sinigang]

He ended immature too, he just got his shit pushed in for his boyish nonsense instead of having his Christian fuccboi behavior laughed off.

[@PaintingOfTheMind]

They both abused one another.

[@s4di.3]

I don't even think she's insecure I think she's a narcissist parading like she's insecure

[@ashleydeluca775]

Watching him cry is the saddest thing. And he says that he didn’t mean to hurt her so genuinely. It’s so sad.

[@AlexandraUtschig]

Zay claims multiple times during the reunion show that Cole didn't apologize to her, but we saw him apologize so many times! It's on camera!

[@AlexandraUtschig]

Also, he ordered them cheesecake during that flowers and dinner scene, if he actually cared about controlling her food intake that would be the last thing he would order.

[@liaw1231]

@@AlexandraUtschig hhhhhhhhhhhhghvhhhnbhh😅😅

[@theanubisfan10]

Gaslight Girlboss I guess??

[@TandJgaming]

@@AlexandraUtschighe literally falls to pieces every time he was around her after the wedding, knowing the type of guy he is under all the bravado I guarantee he apologized to her more than what’s shown.

[@lane6216]

Who Zanab really is can be summed up in the kitchen scene. When Cole finally starts to push back and try to express his concerns, she flips the script and starts to say how she really sees herself. Talking about what a great girl she is, and how anyone would be lucky to have her, and his family should love her. Like, what? Are you the same supposably insecure person we’ve been seeing the entire time?! Yes, she’s insecure, but not in any of the ways she’s willing to admit.

[@cindiwindi]

Same

[@moxiemaxie3543]

What she said is what she wants to hear. She needs to hear she's the only one and everyone likes her

[@lane6216]

@@moxiemaxie3543, yep! She’s the kind of girl that says she thinks she’s unattractive so everyone tells her she is. She’s sickening.

[@alexuz93]

She really comes off as a narcissist to me. Narcissists can be very insecure, that why they are constantly seeking attention and wanting others to praise them constantly. She wants to be admired by everyone and hates when she isnt, that why she was complaining about not getting hit on at the gym and while she is working. She doesn't care about it being inappropriate, she only cares about her being validated with attention.

[@TheGeekyBanana]

@@alexuz93 yes!! I couldn’t agree more! Then the whole playing the victim, puh-lease!

[@sydneyhuff6976]

I rewatched this again and I’m so mad that the LiB people don’t step in on a relationship with abusive behavior. Cole is in therapy now. He has trauma. They are literally just standing by as people get hurt.

[@brigade7678]

Like they think they're national geographic photographers- not supposed to step in and interfere with "natural order" ugh. I'm glad hes in therapy but you're SO right I think they fuel that abusive shit to keep content. look at the "last resort" episode ONE they let all these toxic terrible couples drink before therapy! Its terrible and sets everyone up for pain. So many moments of abuse where they should have had a mediator /therapist that steps in to say "i think what Cole is trying to say is _____" or "hey lets take a break and think before communicating further"

[@alexiswatts649]

I think Zanab started to give me the ick during their outdoor games date when she started insulting Cole for his drink and demeanor. I think she perceives herself as better than Cole so when she started losing or didn’t know how to play a game, instead of asking for help or keeping a positive attitude, she distracted from her failure by pointing out “flaws” about Cole. Like “I know I’m bad but look at yourself, you’re not better than me” when he wasn’t actively trying to make her feel bad. I think she doesn’t like looking incompetent at something, especially next to someone she thinks shouldn’t be better than her at anything. I’ve known people who did this and honestly we just don’t talk anymore 😅

[@asarishepard8171]

yeah it was just weird. such negative comments and for no reason. it really rubbed me the wrong way. and he still tried to stick it out and make the date work. and she was giving up at every second.

[@AngelaEAwesome]

It’s gross that she shamed him for a “girly” drink.

[@TheBlissCatalyst]

She’s pretty gross in her ways…

[@raicyner843]

Even if I am bad at something why not try to have some fun. She sucks so much. She has no joy in her

[@rakly347]

She did everything she could to make Cole break it of, so she could be the victim. When he didn't even end it at the altar, she was completely out of options and still had to turn all the blame on him. I could write a whole dissertation on these two and the mindgames she plays.

[@gypsieladie]

Exactly. That's what the whole kitchen attack was all about.

[@meliponaplays]

And I would like to read it!

[@SuperThumb_PNG]

Please, I beg of you, I would love to read your entire essay to see how much I may have seen as well or missed.

[@sylverscale]

I know! The way she did it, oh boy. First she made him fully believe she was going to say yes, manipulating him in any way she could, just to then completely shatter him. Absolutely awful. And then she spins it as if he was the one destroying her and as she was just trying to be helpful. As if he was such a horrible person. Did he say insensitive stuff? Yes, absolutely. But he's a 26 year old somewhat immature dude and he tried his best to change for her. Some day I hope he'll see that he's better off without her. They absolutely didn't match. She would need a guy that does absolutely nothing else but treat her like the princess she thinks she is. And he would be better if with a sporty girl that likes outdoor activities and doesn't care about which glass your wine is in or how someone flips the chicken breasts. He's got some maturing to do, which he tried, but she needs some soul searching.

[@SuperThumb_PNG]

Agh, you are an absolute angel, that is exactly the same way I feel. Both parties have their own growth necessary and hopefully able to start up by this experience. Maybe even this whole thing can be something even more positive by even just making conversations like this. Who knows, maybe a new season/show can be all about old contestants who had messy breakups and actually find a better match. 👀 Could even call it something like uhhh 'Love is Trial and Error' idk.

[@potatoCreature8476]

Everything she said at the alter should've been said in a mirror. She full on described what SHE did in the relationship but made it like he did it.

[@Invisible.fatty99]

This 🙌

[@bexproctor360]

Agreed

[@nby8838]

The way she spoke to him at the alter... MY heart broke. He wasn't perfect, but he sure didn't deserve to be treated that way. I think once he gets over the heartache he'll see what a freaking bullet he dodged there

[@Baldjotarokujo]

I mean no one is perfect

[@TandJgaming]

The reunion was painful as fuck too because we all know she was lying but he was still so upset and gaslit that he was still trying to profusely apologize and crying, she couldn’t give less of a fuck. Even at the wedding he was crying and apologizing and that one skinny cowboy dude was shitting on him because it was his wife’s “best friend” even though yes not perfect and is just a yes man. He needs to stay away from her and anyone that she calls a friend.

[@aleshasinclair8529]

He dodged a major bullet

[@GoWithDaFlowMo]

Broke my heart too big time, Im not an aggressive person but I truly wanted to hit her... He didn't deserve any of it, I loved his authenticity and his happy bubbly personality, but I quess all she can do is hate... It's all so sad... He truly dodged a massive bullet, hope he's happy and thriving again..... ❤

[@FryNeedsCalm]

Correction, Lauren and Cameron from season 1 are still together and they are a pretty genuine couple.

[@claire___]

I think Amber and Barrnett are still together, as well?

[@nattynema]

​@@claire___ they are

[@desoxyne4765]

i was just gonna comment that! two couples r still together from the 1st season so success rate technically not zero but… also not the best

[@AnnieFarmer113]

There’s always one from the first season! Probably cause they’re in it for love and not for fame

[@missdebbie8131]

Thank you.

[@ozarklisa1199]

Years ago a therapist told me that once contempt is felt by a romantic partner, it's over. If you look at relationships through that lens, you are no longer respectful or thinking your partner as your equal. She is contemptuous and exasperated. Clear as a bell.

[@klafrance100]

My god. If I came home to my man making me dinner, I would gladly drink whatever wine he picked for me out of a styrofoam cup and gulp down whatever he cooked for me. And relax and make sure he felt appreciated for his efforts. This woman is miserable!!!

[@domm5715]

Ya it seem like she can't accept anything good and gotta put some insane standard or judgment on it, so that she can complain or feel the victim

[@HitsugiHime]

Honestly I felt it was sweet how much effort Cole put into everything. He tried and you can tell he really wanted to make things work. That says a lot about him.

[@cet1r1z1ne]

Miserable is a great word for it! She's like a vortex of suffering.

[@sierramobley8962]

exactly!! my now-husband cooked dinner for us for our second date and it was absolutely delicious, but even if it hadn’t been good i would still have shown appreciation for his effort and for extending such a personal, thoughtful gesture. she’s so mean for no reason

[@asarishepard8171]

Even if you're hungry after a badly made meal you can spin it to an advantage. Maybe order a pizza to share a slice off saying its dessert.

[@biospark4758]

Zanab’s behavior at the bachelorette party was reprehensible. He expressed his feelings about her interacting with strippers ahead of time, and she chose to ignore them and get physical with one, on the night before her wedding, and after she experienced how the Cole/Colleen situation made her feel. It shows a severe lack of empathy and tells me she knew she was gonna say no at the altar

[@JMel2012]

And then she makes the claim that she's changed so much for him.

[@TandJgaming]

Oh she definitely knew, she had that speech at least somewhat rehearsed and her friends knew exactly what to do after. My guess is that for a week or so she started planning with her friends about what things he did or said that could be misconstrued as “mentally abusive” and then got to work planning on how to shit on him as hard as possible for the clout on the show and to come out looking as good as possible.

[@Roy-eu1gq]

She wanted to get the most humaliation out of it as she could, while trying to sound nice and caring, but falling short and showing everyone that is not an idiot how fake she is. Disgusting. He shows character for not giving her a rebuttal and exposing what a horrible person she truly is. She does not deserve happiness...

[@redjeepjudy]

100%

[@redjeepjudy]

My 100% was that she knew and practiced the speech...everyone should have happiness but I hope she watches and realizes how she looks...she knew when family didn't run to her with open arms that she was done...and look his family was right..she wasn't worth opening their hearts and homes to...maybe when people that REALLY love you give you their opinion about your choices you should take what your family feels as part of the factors in your decisions

[@moosenman]

As someone who was a very vindictive child, I know exactly what she’s doing. She didn’t want to tell him this so he could improve, and she knew she could have said it sooner. But she *wanted* to make him feel like a fool. She wanted him to be embarrassed. At some point she fell out of love and just was waiting to act on all the hate that had been brewing. It was her way of lashing out. For context, when I say vindictive child, I told the teacher every single thing I saw that was out of line because it made me feel superior, and people getting mad at me made me feel right? If that makes sense? Cheating, and swear words, mostly. I grew out of it.

[@gigiarmany]

once a snitch always a snitch

[@katec7386]

Before my fiancé past away, he would constantly start nerf gun wars at random times…I loved it! We hid nerf guns and amo throughout the apartment. It was so fun, chaotic, and spontaneous and it made us both closer. I miss that😢

[@pearlosibu]

I’m so sorry.

[@MLGLegend123]

rip to a truly great man

[@aniyanic621]

I’m sorry for you lost

[@katec7386]

@@aniyanic621 Thank you❤

[@katec7386]

@@pearlosibu Thank you❤

[@gd4344]

I feel like she wanted to pull a Deepti, but in Deepti’s speech she never belittled or brought down shake (even though he deserved it and was a horrible person) she just said I choose me and good luck and walk away. Zenib completely torn down someone to make her self feel better because she’s insecure or this is a form of revenge.

[@hannahz6848]

THIS! I like how she tries to act like this clearly rehearsed speech was just her feelings in the moment. I felt so bad for Cole. He was not my favorite during the show, but I think he was trying and she was so manipulative.

[@asarishepard8171]

yeah deepti proved to be the better person, cause she did NOT break down shake, she was as nice about it as she could be. she gets huge kudos. how zanab thought she could EVER be compared to deepti is beyond me and narcistic.

[@mercedesmarie2162]

My thoughts exactly, especially when her friends started clapping after her speech like how was that not rehearsed?

[@asarishepard8171]

@@mercedesmarie2162 ikr???

[@heathermalmal9943]

“No couple has worked out” Lauren and Cameron: Am I a joke to you? 😂

[@ms.shineray]

Also Barnett and amber, from the same season

[@AllLifeIsTravesty]

Good God, Z's behavior in the kitchen scene gave me PTSD flashbacks to my father. They're the type of person who if you gave them a million dollars on a silver platter the first thing they'd say is, "Why isn't the platter gold?" Sucks to see Cole heartbroken but reality is he dodged a massive bullet.

[@silentj624]

Yes! It broke my brain that he was really trying to figure out how to include as much of her family as possible and she was like nope!

[@DPWFG]

I was wondering who she reminded me of (my dad is very similar)

[@AllLifeIsTravesty]

@@DPWFG Ooooff sorry to hear that. Hope things are better/getting better for you.

[@DPWFG]

@@AllLifeIsTravesty thanks! I don't live with him anymore, so that has helped (also, I gave birth to his only grandkid), and I think my dad now realizes that I can very easily cut him out of my life, so he's been on his best behavior. I hope things have gotten/ get better for you too!

[@AllLifeIsTravesty]

@@DPWFG Congrats on your kiddo! And glad to hear your situation is so much better. I haven't seen or spoken to my father in nearly 6 years so life is very good.

[@insanecurity]

Am I tripping or does this girl want to be a victim like really bad?? It's almost like she WANTED him to be abusive towards her so they wouldn't go through with the wedding and she'd be considered brave for standing up to him or something. The way she started listing his "abusive behaviour" at the altar really makes it seem like she wanted this to be an ultimate power move in bravery when in reality none of those things occurred the way she described them. People like her scare me fr.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

She definitely wants to play victim

[@Baldjotarokujo]

Bro thats exactly what i was thinking

[@Invisible.fatty99]

And half of the things she lists didn’t go that way or the camera crew “just happened not to capture it”

[@gabrielleduplessis7388]

As she listed things, I literally screamed, “that was you”. You are just projecting onto him.

[@alexanderhelsley2359]

That entire cooking scene killed me lol. Me and my girlfriend surprise cook for eachother all the time and if I walked in the kitchen like oh you you're finally cooking for me, she would have my head for that.

[@jocelynsmyth6604]

I do 98% of the cooking in our home, but my beau was so upset at the kitchen scene - he was like ' he tried, what's wrong with you?! Stop picking on that chicken!'

[@tajcee]

When this season ended my wife and I hoped to god you’d cover Zanab and Cole. You unpacked so much from start to finish and we proudly watched all 2 hours and 27 minutes of this, *without* any breaks or intermissions 😂 Thank you for this epic Love Is Blind breakdown, Santa Leo! 🎅🏽🎄

[@kasparseglitis1849]

Linguistic ambiguity strikes again. I thought this show murdered your wife.

[@sydneyhuff6976]

As a girl- Zanab is definitely more at fault than Cole. Maybe it’s bc I identify more with Cole- I have issues reading social situations and do accidentally say the wrong thing at the wrong time and seem to have no filter because of it- but everything Cole did seemed to be either genuinely on accident or not out of a place of malice. Everything Zanab did was out of malice and passive aggression it seems. Also I’m editing this to add: Cole is in therapy now. My bio dad was a lot like Zay where it was walking on eggshells, gaslighting, manipulating and lying. It traumatizes you. I apologize frequently. I take the blame a lot of the time. If someone is in a bad mood I assume it’s my fault. I feel so bad for Cole. What Zay did goes deeper than people realize.

[@rose-yeah]

Don’t we all sometimes say the wrong things at the wrong times? That part of being human. But then there are people who apologize and who don’t. He did and in the best ways.

[@suitdoggy4707]

This! Some of the things Cole said was very rude and disrespectful but not only did he apologize multiple times for it but it just didn't seem like he was trying to be purposely hurtful. Zanab in my opinion seems to have only noticed for every moment he slips up or even provoke those moments (the kitchen scene) so she could really lay into him. Even finding faults when he was trying to change.

[@jewel8425]

My dad was like that too, to the point that i second guessed (& still do sometimes) my emotions, & wonder if i have the "right" to feel them. Do I have the "right" to be angry right now, should i be hurt that they did that to me? Can I feel annoyed, should i be this happy? I'm never quite fully sure or confident in them, & i ALWAYS think EVERYTHING is my fault.

[@indigo3896]

The word “no filter” is such a cope out. It’s essentially a nice way of saying if what I say offends you, it’s not my fault, it’s because I have “no filter 🤪”

[@sydneyhuff6976]

@@indigo3896 I disagree. “no filter” to me, means a tendency to blurt out things without thinking. I always apologize if I say something that affects someone negatively, but like, blurting out something without a filter isn’t the same as just saying hurtful shit and then blaming it on that. That’s the same as those people who say they are “brutally honest” and really just want an excuse to be an asshole. Like an example of what I mean is making a joke at an inappropriate time bc I read the situation wrong and blurted one out bc I was uncomfortable. Or if someone mentions something like ducks and jumping on a tangent about the mating habits of the ducks. Maybe no filter is the wrong wording but that’s what I mean when I say it, not like saying hurtful shit and then blaming it on no filter! But I get what you mean, people honestly suck sometimes and will use any excuse to not apologize.

[@SeeBeesHoney]

Cole is definitely not my type, but there is something so charming and "Cole” about him pulling a nerf gun out of the microwave to shoot while he makes dinner. 😂

[@peweynewton3562]

Cole made hurtful decisions like he wasn't being filmed but z was super passive aggressive.. "Oil and water" was a perfect description for this couple

[@TuberoseKisser]

Oil fire that has water thrown on it.

[@peweynewton3562]

@@TuberoseKisser 📠 especially the way Z was "gas lighting" Cole the last couple days too

[@thedeepfriar745]

Honestly I feel like Cole came out of the series way better than her. And maybe it’s the series making her look terrible. But it also doesn’t look good when you come off as selfish, arrogant and emotionally unavailable. And even the fact that she’s tried to throw pretty slanderous accusations at him afterwards is really unfair. But, it says more about her that she keeps trying to hurt him afterward. I mean if you look at the clementine drama. All he said was you’re eating two oranges remember we’re eating a large dinner later. She tries to spin that as him trying to control her eating which is a colossal fucking reach. Also you don’t say that kind of thing unless you’re trying to hurt somebody’s reputation.

[@EmperorDxD]

@@thedeepfriar745 the series goes out of its way to make woman looks good so that not true

[@hotchacolate2]

Yeah but how do you expect someone to not be passive aggressive when the other person is being hurtful to them? they def aren’t made for eachother and both have to work on communication.

[@ILikeTheIvy]

The scene of cole trying to cook her dinner makes me so angry to watch. I can feel the anxiety from cole. She was too insecure and controlling.

[@farrahmirabel330]

thanks god Z said NO to him.

[@VanessaDownen]

Oh my god Matt's meltdown triggered me so much. My ex used to talk to me like that and manipulate my emotions. That shit sucks so hard.

[@CBrown86]

Either she is “testing” him, or cannot accept love, period. She only treated him good when she thought he was interested in someone else. The more love he shows her, the more she is going to push him away. Either that or shes trying to punish him. Very very toxic dynamic.

[@rockettcassia]

Ding ding ding… as soon as she gets him she doesn’t want him

[@qwandary]

When she said she wouldn't trust him if he said he only had eyes for her, I think that might have been her truest words of the season...

[@dmargot2828]

I related to Cole in the reunion. He was genuinely confused and had to fight everybody off and defend himself, which he shouldn't have had to do. The only thing that makes this way worse is that it was in front of millions of people.

[@TandJgaming]

Especially that wannabe cowboy douche, fuck that guy. He only hates him because his wife hates him and his wife only hates him because she’s friends with zanab 😂

[@Radb707]

Yeah she told everyone lies basically and he was unaware that she was saying all this stuff. You get to a reunion and everyone already hates you and I'm so glad netflix released the dumb clip that she claimed was him calling her fat while he fed her cheescake. Cuz y'know...that makes sense. You're fat but let me keep ordering food.

[@adventuretimeness222]

He literally flipped 3 chicken breasts perfectly (which she got ANNOYED about) and then later she has the nerve to say she’s all in “even with you spilling chicken” WTF

[@s0nnasauras630]

Super cool and impressive

[@DVAcme]

Adding some context to how damaged and messed up Zanab is, Cole mentioned in the show how he was actually married for a short time. After they broke up, Zanab actually looked up his ex-wife to contact her. THAT'S FUCKING PSYCHO.

[@jayceechester]

Umm what the hell

[@ericar.7924]

Wt actual f is wrong with her? That is definitely psychotic.

[@katexfob]

what did she told the ex wife?

[@TandJgaming]

Oh my GOD lmao. That’s exactly what my narcissist abusive ex step mother did to my dad with my mom and then after they broke up she did it with his new girlfriend too. It’s like the special move of narcissists.

[@hermine1657]

It’s ironic that she always questioned Coles love for her when from the outside it was super clear that he actually genuinely cared for her and she was actually the unsure person. She projected her feelings on him

[@minka_thork2892]

Zenab saying his family would be crazy not to want her???? Why on earth would his family want him to be continually treated like that?

[@alexuz93]

That bit when Collen's tried to get offended because Cole said he didn't want a shallow relationship was so bizarre to me. She literally said she prefers shallow and superficial connections and he said he didn't want a shallow RELATIONSHIP. He didn't say anything about her being shallow so I'm so confused as to why she left the room crying and telling the other girls that he called her shallow. That was so dumb. And with Cole and Zanab, yeah Cole was a bit immature in the beginning but he really tried. It seems like he really tried to do some self-reflecting on his actions. But Zanab, this is woman was ridiculous. That kitchen scene when Cole was trying to cook for her was hard to watch. She really ruined the entire moment! I felt so bad for Cole, especially at the wedding. That was so insensitive and fucked up what Zanab did to him. I sometimes think she is a narcissist.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

She most likely is, the whole “I’m cute and no one ever hits on me” rubbed me so wrong

[@alexuz93]

@@Baldjotarokujo Exactly! What a strange thing to complain about! I have never met a sane woman that gets upset because guys AREN'T hitting on them while they are working or at the gym. She has a very high opinion of herself and has a problem with others if they don't think the same thing.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

@@alexuz93 but im confused because women complain when men hit on them in public(to clarify i am not male)

[@Elesclusterb1971]

I was triggered by her grandiose display attitude, her tone of voice saying one thing but her face expressed totally contrary to her words. She confused the crap out of Cole.

[@lilskipper8002]

@@Baldjotarokujo Some do, but mainly because it boosts their ego or attention seeking. She could possibly have gotten a lot of attention growing up since she lost her parents at a young age and still wants to have that much attention in any way she can, regardless of where it comes from or by who. But that is just an observation from my end

[@theanubisfan10]

You know what? Cole's biggest crime is being an immature dumbass at times and missing the mark, but he's still making an effort to be better for his partner without losing his playfulness. I'm on his side in this!

[@Baldjotarokujo]

Same!

[@CygmaSlag]

@1:31:27 Honestly this moment was kind of triggering for me. When Cole told her how he was so in love with her and she just avoided reciprocating it. That was SO telling that she had made up her mind that she was going to dump him at the altar. It's also possible she was trying to push him away by denying him the choice of his wedding attire. This is probably just me projecting and needing to keep this between me and my therapist, but this frighteningly reminds me of when my ex broke it off with me. She spent the last month avoiding me while we lived in the same house, and only ever quietly mumbled "I love you too" when I told her I loved her. A couple weeks before she broke it off she would just remain silent. We were trying to find a new apartment, and she kept telling me "why don't we wait and see if things open up closer to our lease ending?" when in reality she was lying because she had already gotten her own place to live. She sat me down one day and said we were breaking up, told me she had a place for a few weeks and asked me to leave the apartment for the weekend so I wouldn't be there when she moved out. Again, probably a gross overshare, but I saw that in this episode. This thing felt pretty pre-meditated, she made up her mind long before the wedding. It felt like she made active decisions to push him away prior to the wedding day. I call bullshit on her saying she didn't know she was going to do it before that day.

[@TheFatalcrest]

Hey, I know this is a year old, but I'm sorry that happened to you. That's a brutal way for things to end. I hope you've had better luck since.

[@courtneycoleman6849]

Amber & Barnett and Lauren & Cameron are still together from season one, I think they celebrated 3 years this year. I think it worked for that first group who had no idea what they were getting into and we’re actually into the concept of the show. Since it’s blown up I think lost people are in it for the exposure and extra bonus if they meet someone along the way.

[@tracisr]

That's what I said. People also commented that on his last video when he said that so I think he just doesn't care 😂

[@anastasiiabobeshko]

also, Alexa and Brennan celebrated a 1 year anniversary recently and seem to be really happy too. So 🤷‍♀️

[@mandyj2809]

The first time I heard Leo say none of the couples had worked out, I had to rush to see if Lauren and Cameron had gotten divorced, cause I really liked them.

[@tracisr]

@@mandyj2809 lmao same 🤣

[@AP-vo2mp]

I also think people in the first season were less desperate/ love starved, overall. People in season 2 and season 3 just seem like they would do anything to make it to the alter and to make the other person like them.

[@MadameTiffanyYvonne]

Yup, I definitely cried at the end when Cole was having his soul crushed in front of his friends & family by the person he loved. Zanab handled so many things horribly and she did not grow as a person like I saw Cole did during the show. Maybe it's just how it was filmed and edited, I don't know, but that alter scene cannot be misinterpreted. Zanab did a killing blow. The way that Cole & Zanab have decided to go on with their real lives is very telling of the type of person/people they are.

[@OGseoulite]

Can you expand on that last sentence please??? Are they doing well or is one having problems and the other is still a golden retriever?

[@sminerie]

when Cole asked “Do you want to marry me?” and Zanab says “I would love for this to end with me marrying you-“ her saying that she wants this to end before marrying him IN HER OWN WORDS is extremely telling within itself. her own body language can’t lie with her verbal lies and it shows 😂

[@asarishepard8171]

That wording got me too!

[@TheFatalcrest]

XD honestly I would have said "Can you give me a straight answer? I want to know where you stand for real." and if I can't get one...I'd probably assume its actually No.

[@singingchristian]

To sum it up. Cole: Literally never TRIED to hurt her. Had some not good choice of words, yes. But it wasn’t with the intention to HURR. Zanab: Tells him what to do, how to do it, puts him down at every chance, tries to hurt him into doing things how she wants, then intentionally tries to hurt him most at the altar.

[@theshermantanker7043]

@@crusheddandelions5640 Classic, if it's the man that's being abusive the fault lies solely with him, but if it's the woman that's being abusive it suddenly shifts to "Oh both of them were at fault", NEVER ever considering the possibility that the woman is the one at fault, even though women are Human just like the rest of us and have the capacity to be a shitty person regardless

[@DreamsInBlue]

Zanab... I couldn't put my finger on it, but I didn't like her. I caught on to her when Cole was trying to make her dinner and she was soooo negative and bossy. I'm glad they showed the Cuties incident. I also did not like how they villainized him at the reunion. Yes, he has his faults (who doesn't), but he did not try to beat her down.

[@jazzyprince3335]

@Crushed dandelions Early on he had some shitty moments, even that bipolar question was completely out of line. But the reason I strictly side with cole is because he’s tried to take accountability for a lot of the shit he caused. Zay on the other hand has barely ever taken any accountability for her shittyness. Relationships are built and broken on how much genuine effort both partners are willing to give. Saying “they were both shitty” isn’t wrong, but one person actively made an effort to get better while the other person just gave up.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

@@theshermantanker7043 Coe obviously wasn't perfect, but hes definitely wasn't abusive. Zay was

[@asarishepard8171]

@@jazzyprince3335 considering she was acting highly irrational and negative, i dont blame him for asking that. dont want to be asked bipolar, dont act like it.

[@becca53444]

As a girl who has only had guys hit on me while I was working, I freaking hate it. Please don’t. Ever. I will always say no based on principle and how predatory the situation feels.

[@whatifschrodingersboxwasacofin]

THIS!! Ick. 👍 Same for guys.

[@Apples765]

My friend works at a store and everytime men hit on her (bother her) she feels so shit all day. She is there to work not to date. Leave her alone.

[@viennawalker7002]

Your relationship advice is genuinely second to none. Many of the things you've said are things I've herd from a few therapists and general self improvement classes.

[@itiswhatitis1315]

Bro I really thought the worst she could say is no but boy was I wrong. The fact that she really stood up there and got his hopes up even more and had the AUDACITY to project her insecurities unto him infront of EVERYONE AND MADE HIM SEEM LIKE A BAD PERSON IS UNBELIEVABLE. Really made my heart break for him. Yeah he really did say some things he wasn't supposed to say but he apologized and tried to make it up. He tried hard to make it up but she kept shutting him down. She's honestly one of the worst people I've ever seen and I hope she gets the help that she needs. Absolutely unbelievable.

[@asarishepard8171]

the look on her step moms face said it all. even SHE was not going to side with her douchebaggery. she went to comfort cole whcih told me everything i needed to know and that zanab was wrong.

[@brigade7678]

@@asarishepard8171 i think she prayed for him bc she knew he would be having a rough time with Z honestly

[@asarishepard8171]

@@brigade7678 true

[@kitty-yg1bg]

Zeinab literally gives me the vibe that she got rejected multiple times in her life by pretty boys like Cole so she decided to act out her revenge solely on him. She was so insecure and passive agressive throughout the whole show it drove me nuts. And thats not to say that Cole is without his defects, he's definetly a bit of a manchild and a little immature but damn he did not deserve to be treated and spoke to in the way that she did... Especially in the reunion that was REALLY out of pocket how they all ganged up on him especially when the producers proved to the audience at the end of the episode that Z was plain lying through her teeth.... Anyways sorry for the long comment but damn this whole thing really made me feel some type of way clearly >:(

[@deputyblunderbusboondoggle1807]

you and your kitty are both gorgeous

[@HitsugiHime]

That’s so heartbreaking and probably has ruined relationships for him… and now he’s going to be a worse person because of it

[@AdjourArcane]

I got this exact same vibe from her. She'd clearly mad at "someone" else (probably men in general) and projecting onto him

[@kitty-yg1bg]

@@deputyblunderbusboondoggle1807 awn thanks :3

[@asarishepard8171]

I agree she was ready to destroy someone and when things weren't 100 with cole she went to nuclear.

[@aalexissmith8240]

I was really bothered with the suit thing. My fiancé didn’t want anything specific for our wedding accept to wear a purple suit. As much as I really wanted him to wear a black suit I told him it was his wedding too and if he wanted to wear purple by all means I’m not gonna tell him he can’t. Even if him wanting purple meant I had to theme the wedding colors around that color I didn’t care because I love him and want him to be happy and enjoy our wedding as much as I. So I made it work and ended up realizing succulents can be purple and they look really good mixed with green and dusty and deep purples and got super excited even though originally I wasn’t thrilled about purple but I’m starting to get more and more excited for the color scheme. Anyway the fact everything had to be her way and that she was making the wedding all about her was just a big red flag on top of her growing pile of flags

[@paytonmanning1109]

I’ll admit, I didn’t like Cole much at first, but he really grew on me and it made me so sad to see him being treated like that when all he was really trying to do is have fun. I hope the best for him. He wasn’t the bad person everyone made him out to be. He just wasn’t smart with his words at first.

[@tinylama]

the passive aggressiveness already started day 1 when zanab was mad that Cole said the word "good" instead of "great"

[@MK-Hogan]

Cole makes a nice dinner for her. Zanab: “I can forgive you for spilling chicken.” 🤨 Not marrying him was the only nice thing she did for him.

[@checkerbearhair]

I feel like this show should be called “attractive people who don’t want each other” 😅😂

[@lizzumzzz]

I never watch dating shows because I find them absolutely reprehensible and hard to watch... But with your insightful and emotionally intelligent commentary I CAN'T STOP WATCHING THESE DEEP DIVES! Merry Christmas Leo and anybody reading his comment. And I wish you all a Happy and productive New Year xx

[@loserplanet]

Same! I love his deep dives of shows I would NEVER watch.

[@Anna.T.]

The cooking scene really broke my heart. Having a guy care enough to cook for you is so special 🥺

[@Jkjoannaki]

She got her revenge, she was holding her emotions and pretending she wanted to marry him to just ridicule him at the wedding in front of everyone. This is pure revenge.

[@butthurttaco8636]

Revenge for nothing, dude wasn't terrible like she portrayed and tried to destroy his character on live TV and all the women just believe her without question. And yet her bs story was called out

[@ApollosHyacinth]

Revenge for what exactly? He didn't do anything wrong.

[@Jkjoannaki]

@ApollosHyacinth revenge for not being into her enough. I never said what he did was "wrong" I said she got revenge for feeling hurt for not being as liked as she wanted (he was physically interested in other girls more)

[@butthurttaco8636]

@@Jkjoannaki the he was as into her as he could have been, and was honest when asked. He matured while in the relationship while the bitch acted like he was starving her and constantly belittling her

[@brigade7678]

​@@butthurttaco8636 it really seems like he was a bit insensitive or blunt & thought another girl was awesome within the first 3 weeks they met... and she just held onto every little thing to get her "revenge" at the alter. He wasn't perfect and didn't cave in enough apparently. Shes a nasty person inside for sure.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

I don’t like Cole, but he definitely doesn’t deserve to be treated the way she treated him. He makes one human mistake and she brings it up every time she’s being toxic and aggressive. He spilt chicken and she couldn’t stop bringing it up. He was just trying to be nice and it seems like she didn’t appreciate it. I hate the kind of person she is. But also that duck scene was so damn adorable But also also Zanab really isn’t that attractive...inside or out

[@gabby3036]

18:16 "That's the show Love Has Requirements and I Need You to Meet Them" had me laughing so hard.

[@snakesonaframe2668]

I am shocked and disgusted at the way she treated Cole. He’s going to have trust issues for a LONG time, this is going to affect his romantic relationships, he’s going to be thinking about this and probably scared out of his mind when he tries to marry someone else, if he can ever trust anyone else enough to try again. And then to go badmouthing him like she’s doing is despicable. She’s an awful person.

[@TuberoseKisser]

This show proves that appearance is incredibly important and that any chance of anonymity is going to be taken. People who say "I don't care about looks" do care about looks they just have more variable standards. If you are not being seen then you're automatically gonna put on your best and not your honest.

[@MyMessyAttic]

This is it. This is the video that made me realize I was a shit partner. It made me take a hard look at myself and see the absolute golden person I married. I am trying hard to make it up to him. As much as my depression allows. I have made long strives accepting that my husband does want to help but has been shut down so many times because all I saw was him doing it wrong. Thank you for watching the trash to find the actual wholesome meaning so I don't have to! Even if I did watch it I would still need you to tell me what the meaning was.

[@brigade7678]

thats really cool, I hope you continue to improve and save your partner from a life of pain. Early on (within the first year) I realized I was becoming abusive like my own parent's relationship and saw it affect my partner- entered therapy as fast as I could and really opened myself up to MASSIVE self change. It takes time and practice and a shit ton of energy/effort, but its so important to stop our own behavior from hurting others.

[@MusicalMe123]

Good luck to you. Please seek therapy for you, and if your partner will go, please encourage him to go individually and with you. Most people NEVER have this revelation. This is GOOD!

[@hotmess9640]

Don’t make your issues someone else’s, and don’t allow your mental health issues to allow you to be a shitty partner/person. Everyone has some form of depression

[@juelanthony]

The moment at 1:42:30 is flat out scary anybody would think this way before getting married. I know it hasn’t been a long time but Cole was putting in a great amount of effort into changing his ways and preparing for marriage and to hear all this pettiness from his fiancé after multiple apologies is a huge red flag. Zanab’s tonality altogether is very condescending

[@asarishepard8171]

If you were Cole and experiencing that you'd be asking his questions too. Shes saying the right words but looks like shes ready to murder him.

[@juelanthony]

@@asarishepard8171 forreal having a good aura altogether is extremely important

[@CaramelfromKansas]

I married someone like this, it only gets worse. You second guess everything till you're a shell of yourself. I'm just thankful I had support to get out, this is so sad and so triggering. She does darvo and word salad. It's awful, you can't follow the conversation because the abuser is so entitled and delusional. Poor guy I'm just so sad for him.

[@tinywalnut6337]

Someone else said he's in therapy now. Totally understandable and necessary after narcissistic abuse. Glad he's taking care of himself. Hope you are too.

[@brigade7678]

@@tinywalnut6337 I'm so happy to hear he got help, he'll need it to recognize & process what she did to him. Plus learning how to protect yourself when you encounter others like her- something we ALL could benefit from.

[@MusicalMe123]

So did I...there is no improvement. It sinks into HELL really fast.

[@rigamortis1797]

He wasn’t always the nicest but he was SOOO honest. In a way that was respectable. He tired and grew in the season. And I ended up really taking a liking to him. I’m sorry Coke. I hope you find someone who matches you.

[@yukii1730]

I never got the sense that the things he said which were unkind came from a negative place. It seemed to me like he was just the sort of guy who said whatever came to his mind.

[@perrious4980]

I genuinely think Cole did not understand he was hurting her on the occasions when he did. I also don't think Z ever believed he loved her, and she constantly lashed out about it, and was so mean to him, and treated him like a child she didn't like. A nuisance even.

[@PhantomMonkey2008]

24:27 She IS shallow. She literally said she wanted a surface level relationship. Marriage without intimacy is pointless. True marriage and commitment is not surface level if you want it to be successful.

[@Bluemilk92]

It kills me to know that watching a breakdown of a reality show, theoretically makes me a fan of the show.

[@Rafviel]

My husband can’t cook and asked for NERF guns on our wedding registry lol. I ADORE his goofy nature and the fact that he TRIES to love me in the ways he thinks would bless me. He doesn’t always hit the mark, but he does hit the mark *exactly* in doing what he can to love me. The NERF gun/kitchen seen in this video just broke my heart.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

Awwwww

[@promisedjubileedaniels]

Same. It made me so sad.

[@WiieZ]

"you don't call a woman fat" *2 seconds later* "Alexa the whale floats up"

[@lemon3060]

exactly, i've noticed he bodyshames people quite a bit and it just feels shitty

[@rubyq]

About died laughing

[@mariekeho]

Exactly, I agreed with him up to that point when it caught me off guard completely. I understand not vibing with her as a person but come on, that was rude and hypocritical.

[@oliviahayes4991]

Shocked there’s not more comments like this, so disheartened by it

[@itsmeezee3818]

Especially with the Big Ed videos like I feel like he says too much about his body and not enough about how much a shitty person Big Ed is so much to the point where the whole video is just calling Big Ed fat in different ways instead of analyzing his character which I thought was the whole point.

[@meg9599]

Zanab's mom is an absolute queen for going to comfort Cole instead of instantly siding with her daughter and believing her fully.

[@Suaru]

Okay. I will say this. Nurses do one of the most important jobs in our society, but there is something about that profession that attracts some of the meanest most arrogant people I have ever met in my entire life.

[@DVAcme]

I'm a psychiatric nurse at a mental health hospital, and yeah, we nurses are challenging people. We deal with hard hours for proportionately little pay and with life-threatening situations, both for our patients AND for ourselves, that build a constant edge to us that's hard to soften up, and it usually ends up making us very snarky, sarcastic and even mean sometimes.

[@alexiswatts649]

The rudest people at my undergrad were nursing majors. I’m now reapplying to nursing school as a pathway to be a physicians assistant and I’m worried for how the snarky mean social environment is gonna affect me :/

[@kr3642]

I have to second this

[@carrained]

absolutely, people are just afraid to say that because they’re underpaid. that doesn’t have anything to do with how the majority are as people though, it’s important to separate the two issues but instead everyone just calls them angels.

[@ruuuuuuuuuuuuun]

Z was never into Cole. She stuck around for the exposure or whatever in the hopes he would dump her and she could play the victim. The fact that she dragged it out until the very last minute and acted like she loved Cole right up to their wedding vows really says something about her.

[@Moi_81]

Nah

[@spiderganon]

Getting hit on at work is scary, please don't do it. You can't run away and you have to go back there everyday, working is already stressful enough without worrying about your personal safety along with it. I once got hit on at work by a group of policemen who surrounded me and asked if I thought their friend was attractive. It was genuinely terrifying. DO NOT DO THAT SHIT.

[@GizmoGremlinDog]

Asking if you find someone attractive was TERRIFYING??? What is this world coming to 🙄

[@spiderganon]

@@GizmoGremlinDog ah yes, being scared of being surrounded by 6 police officers as a small woman at 11pm when I was about to go home and pressured into giving my number to one of them is really where the world has gone wrong. I apologise.

[@GizmoGremlinDog]

@@spiderganon well you suddenly worded that story very differently didnt you? Lame. Men standing near you at work and asking if you think their friend is attractive shouldn't terrify you. Get some help

[@spiderganon]

@@GizmoGremlinDog I thought you needed more details to get your head around it but what did I expect from the KZbin comments section. I do not need help for not wanting to get harassed at work, and I hope that if someone harasses you like that at work someone will stand up for you.

[@Quon]

@@spiderganon I feel you, they'll never understand how terrifying that feels. I call it bully behavior, on the same level as 'where's my hug?' or 'haha, then what? ;)'

[@TheGamersState]

At the beginning I really did not like Cole, he came off as big-headed and not really showing like he cared for Zanab but oh my gosh by the end of it I can say, without a doubt, that he came out looking infinitely better than Zanab and her victimhood. Cole did something that a lot of men don't care to do; They look at their faults and tried to improve and through doing that he actually exposed Zanab's disgusting side. And when she said "You've criticed me" in her speech, that was the moment everything set into place. She's not unhappy because of his shortcomings, she's unhappy because he had the nerve to actually stand up to her and tell her what she didn't want to hear. Cole may be sad and honestly I feel for him as I've gone through something similar but losing her is a win for him in the long run.

[@yeahandthensome]

I was friends with someone like that, very insecure, entitled and APPALLED that i would ever have the nerve to tell her something she did NOT want to hear. Take note that Zanab did not have any positive affirmations for COLE not once. Zanab was too insecure to be with someone like Cole. He is the type of guy to make a joke about a zit on your face saying "it almost knocked me out the bed" and then tickle you and kiss you on the cheek. If you aren't a confident person that does not take offence easily...that would be HIGHLY offensive.

[@may-mayhatter7223]

I died when you said "immature" pointing on the camera with that stick, straight facts and absolutely hilarious

[@trashnedmak]

to this moment, Z still has comments and stuff on social media limited because i think she still thinks she’s right. she wanted to look really good but it made her loook horrible. even after the show, she reached out to coles ex wife which is awful…

[@eringlaberson1458]

How Zanab acted shows how immature and vengeful she really is. We can all see how she really acts. Cole acted immature too but the way Zanab tried to hurt him in front of everyone out of revenge is just terrible.

[@lizdoodles9128]

Zanab is insane. There has to be something severely wrong with you to jump from one emotion to the other and destroy another person like that

[@Miss_Butterfly80]

Because she's not confident in herself she can't just tell him what she wants cuz She doesn't know she's good enough to expect certain things, so instead she uses passive aggrestiveness but really a bad way. It's abusive and it's a way to tear down the person, point out that "Hey look how imperfect you are, so don't judge me" but she's judging & ruining it. Mental abuse can take years to get over the damage & this is VERY Toxic behavior

[@Redwallwarriorgirl89]

I’ve been married almost 10 years and I can tell you Leo is giving amazing advice. My husband is the love of my life but we have had ups and downs but we love each other so much that no matter what we always hold in to each other until we make it through whatever hardship we are facing. Thank you Leo for sharing positive love advice.

[@Chewyns1]

True

[@bukiyobun]

throughout this, the way she spoke to him was as if she was talking to a child. she obviously felt better than him. he changed for her, he wasn’t perfect, but he showed growth for her. she didn’t change, only showed him that she’s going to treat him badly even when he’s trying his best.

[@damson9470]

so much respect for cole bruh, how he managed to take SO much from her and tried to change SO much, while she didn't do anything herself to actually make the situation better. real narcissistic behaviour from her side. he tried so hard man, really makes me sad and to be honest; proud of cole. been there too, shit hurts.

[@vanyadolly]

He grew a lot for someone who was absolutely intolerable at the start. Ironically the experience will probably end up helping him in the long run. If he gets over the trauma and depression.

[@brigade7678]

@@vanyadolly yeah I really hope he has support that encouraged him to have some kinda therapy just to unpack what happened to him & help him see where he can better protect himself from people like her. I think its easy once you've been beaten down so low to fall in with someone who just barely treats you any better bc you'll still think "oh no thats what Z said about me too- i must be the problem!" instead of recognizing its a common line used by toxic shitty people.

[@charliebrown1061]

I am in a new place that doesn't feel like home, sick with covid, having felt really low and alone the past week. thank you so much for this video, you give a lot of sound perspective and hearing from you/seeing you is like hanging with a friend. Thank you so much, Leo. Merry Christmas to you, you bring so much joy to this world

[@TheGeekyBanana]

I hope you start feeling better soon. I hope you can make this new place feel like home. Sending you lots of love!

[@whatifschrodingersboxwasacofin]

Merry Christmas! Hope you feel better soon. Glad you found a way to make yourself smile. 🎄 It will feel like home before you know it. Give yourself the gift of time today. 🎅🙂 … and say hi to Snoopy. If he’s not off fighting the Red Baron. 🧐 Mwa muh mwa mwa wah.🤣

[@alexissilvers9375]

hope you feel better !! ❤

[@Casinogirl56]

Merry Christmas, hope you feel better soon. Hugs from Wisconsin.

[@jenpenn22]

I have covid too, awww solidarity in our misery lol

[@josephmatthews7698]

An insecure flight attendant is the worst possible combination. Long flights away from home while her little brain goes wild thinking about her insecurities and how many women you're boning while she's gone.

[@gwae9292]

God she reminds me of myself before I started to serious work on myself. You have to hold yourself responsible for being nitpicky and straight up unagreeable. Regular therapy, medication management and accountability helped me, i hope one day she takes a step back and takes a real good look at her attitude.

[@gwae9292]

Also, Cole's question is kinda valid- I am Bipolar and acted EXACTLY like her before medication management. You of course cannot diagnose people..but if the shoe fits

[@AnnaVaughn4351]

I was the same way before a load of therapy and a bipolar disorder diagnosis. I feel so bad for Cole. She does not deserve him. Cole was willing to change to make her happy.

[@MageLexYT]

Credits to you Gwae, for taking responsibility and learning, and also growing as a person :)

[@moreorless8711]

I like the concept of the show about having people see if they’re compatible without having to see them first but what ruins it is making them propose and marry so fast instead of having them just date. It’s giving TLC vibes at that point

[@vedivedi]

They neeeeeed the shock factor😂

[@whyalfie]

As a bi guy, I dunno, Cole is amazing. Not perfect, but I don't really think him talking about other people being attractive is important when underneath it he genuinely seems so introspective and well-intentioned. He's emotionally intelligent, self-aware, cute af, injects fun everywhere, has high self-esteem without being a macho douche, and he seems romantically loyal.

[@Nikki-lh1tu]

You have a crush 🤭, can't blame you honestly same

[@UhaveN0idea]

bro zenab reminds me of my ex who said “im a nice person. i never lie. im such a good, healed, caring, honest person” and then proceeded to lie to me, demean me, abuse me, abuse my family & friends, all while repeating the same exact thing. wishin cole nothing but being surrounded by love and healing and acceptance. & i hope zenab finds so much healing and therapy cos she definitely needs it

[@Chewyns1]

Well said :/

[@asarishepard8171]

If they were good they wouldn't need to say it.

[@Moi_81]

So sorry you went through this. Abuse is never okay.

[@cactmayne]

A manchild is not necessarily someone who acts juvenile, but it's a man who expects his significant other to fulfill his every need.

[@AidenFeltkamp]

Re: strip clubs: I agree with you! I think you and your partner should have the same boundaries for strip clubs before and after you’re married. If you’re together, you’re together. Where those boundaries lie vary from couple to couple, but the idea that the marriage day is a hard line where those boundaries change is so weird to me. It makes no sense.

[@Delicate_Disaster]

Honestly, he worked so damn hard. She doesn't even come close to deserving him.

[@arenasification]

They really did Cole a disservice. He seemed immature, sure, but he was a nice guy. Insane how he was made out to be the villain!

[@kirstyhamilton6214]

Zanab is very insecure, and I don't think she ever got past Cole talking to Colleen. After that, everything he said was tainted in her ears and she treated him as if he was always at his worst. She stayed with him to try and "fix" him instead of fixing herself.

[@vexu7366]

I think majority of the attraction from love is blind is just the unobtainable factor. Once they obtain the person they're over it.

[@Hey_Jamie]

1:49:28 Poor Cole. Look how scared he is to be honest with her. Because he thinks it’s going to sit in her brain for the next however long and she will use it to jab at him passive aggressively for no reason. Just like she did the first time he was honest with her.

[@jaimexxo]

I really enjoyed your commentary & thoughts on this relationship. Your video gave me a totally different perspective-a kinder approach towards each person & their unique needs…I’m able to see Cole in a new light. Also, I laughed like I hadn’t in a long time because of your humor, so thank you! (Your “Matt” was very accurate!) 😂😅

[@redd1799]

Crazy how at the end I like Cole. He was made out to be immature but he wasn’t lying when he said he wanted a deep relationship