Girl Gaslights, Manipulates & Embarrasses Man At the Alter -(Love Is Blind Cole & Zanab DEEP DIVE)

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[@sixteenleo]

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[@jayceallen6530]

Merry Christmas leo

[@Danniedorito]

Thank you ❤️ totally made my day with this! I'm going to listen to it while I do Christmas stuff. You know cooking and what not. 🥰 Merry Christmas and happy holidays to everyone

[@gimandri5577]

Merry Chrysler Sixteenleo

[@zhdrums3872]

Happy birthday Leo!

[@WillNeverBeAGI]

Merry Christmas!

[@THEDubbleHelixx]

"I prefer shallow relationships." "I don't really want a shallow relationship." "OMG did you just call me shallow???"

[@matchaleche]

Yeah, I didn't really get that Colleen was offended about that o___O Maybe she wanted to hear that "he can look into her soul" and that that soul is not shallow at all or some BS like that

[@sylverscale]

That was odd, but they may just have misunderstood each other. I think she meant starting off somewhat shallow, not going too deep right away, while he took that as being shallow forever. It's the only thing that would make sense to me with that situation.

[@THEDubbleHelixx]

​@@sylverscale Maybe. I saw it as her not being able to handle the rejection, so she jumped to feeling victimized instead of seeing it as him being open about not being on the same page as her. That's the only way it makes sense to me.

[@thesadunicorns1]

Poor Cole.

[@thesadunicorns1]

What a horrible, miserable, sick woman.

[@nuggiesvids]

Not only she made the wedding just about herself (by not letting him dress how he wanted), she waited until the very last moment, made him think she was going to say yes by saying how nice he is and how much she loves him just to publicly humiliate him and then act as if he had it coming. Girl... that was not the empowered moment you and your friends thought it was.

[@asarishepard8171]

i konw right.the internet comments gives me hope for human kind that not everyone is in her stupid echo chamber. she couldn't take it.

[@la7427]

I thought it was. Knock him down a peg 😅

[@jesse.p2263]

@@la7427 If he needs to be knocked down a peg, Zanab needs to be knocked down 3 pegs lol

[@TandJgaming]

Not only that but it was definitely pre meditated and not just a last moment realization, she was planning that shit for days. Her friends knew exactly what to do after she told him off.

[@PrettyGhostX]

He dodged a REAL bullet! She's awful

[@Toskrr]

Cole has the personality of a golden retriever puppy, and Zanab hates dogs.

[@gingerdeguia]

Omg - on point!

[@NoNo-fz8hu]

Exactly..people who don’t like dogs are not my kinda people. They suck hehe

[@isitoveryet9525]

@@NoNo-fz8huAmen! Never trust a person who hates dogs……that’s about the biggest red flag you can find 😬

[@kristentrep5038]

This!

[@sfr2107]

Well it's more like liking well behaved dogs more than ones who are carelessly rambunctious and jump on furniture with dirty feet

[@chyasmin]

I finished this and all I can say is it's just hurtful. Cole is childish, immature, but he's willing to learn. Zanab on the other hand is a vengeful person, a perfectionist, and a queen of gaslight. I knew she doesn't want to marry him with the way she talk to him, she just want to break him on the altar.

[@christmastiger]

I was going to say this, Cole was very immature in the beginning but went through major growth, Zanab almost went the opposite way, well it was more that her pod self was far nicer than her irl self, which I realize as I’m typing this maybe this was all a ploy to stay on the show 😳

[@kmcclellan9820]

This is exactly how I perceived what happened. Nobody’s perfect, and cole is far from it, but he’s real. She’s something else entirely…

[@HitsugiHime]

I think he can be a better person if he put effort into it

[@JSealification]

Yeah, that alter scene felt like I was watching a cold-blooded murder.

[@ak47adam47]

@K McClellan yeah she is low key evil and toxic!! She gone be single for eternity after that alter scene!! Lol!!

[@azraelfish]

Every time I feel like I’m a terrible person, I watch Love is Blind and feel so much better about myself

[@larajayne4934]

😅😅😅 100%

[@bhocolatebhipbookie3967]

🤣🤣 if it makes you feel better the fact that you contemplate whether you're being a good person or not lets me know that you're a good person.. but your comment was funny

[@ff2154]

As Dr. Honda would say - Yikes!

[@dolladollabillsyo7698]

🤣

[@antonydrossos5719]

Actual terrible people don't reflect on how terrible they really are.

[@patriciathemaras3274]

It's hilarious how exuberant Cole was in the beginning... Then, 4 weeks with Zenib, and he looks like she sucked the living life out of him... like an energy vampire.

[@TandJgaming]

Like when he tried to make that dinner for them and she literally just shit all over him the entire time and he literally had no idea what he was doing wrong. Could you imagine knowing someone was like that but actually being in love with them and not knowing what to do about it? And that’s only the shit we see on camera, imagine how shitty she was to him when they knew they weren’t being filmed.

[@Peanut_taco_muffin]

Not so much hilarious, but really sad! 😢

[@aleshasinclair8529]

Facts

[@brigade7678]

@@TandJgaming Yeah her faces during that dinner were uh kinda scary at a few moments whenever he dared challenge her view

[@yurinoworry]

Humans operate at a frequency. Creating a soul tie with someone in any way alters that frequency, sometimes permanently and always taking a lot of conscious effort to realign your inner frequency. Sounds crazy, so don’t take me at my word if you wish not to - I understand.

[@MLC92]

I didn't expect to feel so bad for Cole in the end. But wow, it's not only that she has insecurities but it's like she enjoyed breaking his self-esteem. It's pretty disturbing.

[@darkcrystal4498]

Agree. It's giving Megan Markle vibes...

[@skylarsunday]

He may have started immature, but my heart breaks for him. She was being absolutely abusive to him, whether or not she meant to. She severely needs therapy to stop projecting her insecurities onto others, No one deserves to be treated like that.

[@Jahsizzl9]

Dated a girl like this. Shit was incredibly freaking draining

[@xsevynnx3903]

This, I agree 100%.

[@P0rk_Sinigang]

He ended immature too, he just got his shit pushed in for his boyish nonsense instead of having his Christian fuccboi behavior laughed off.

[@PaintingOfTheMind]

They both abused one another.

[@s4di.3]

I don't even think she's insecure I think she's a narcissist parading like she's insecure

[@ozarklisa1199]

Years ago a therapist told me that once contempt is felt by a romantic partner, it's over. If you look at relationships through that lens, you are no longer respectful or thinking your partner as your equal. She is contemptuous and exasperated. Clear as a bell.

[@FryNeedsCalm]

Correction, Lauren and Cameron from season 1 are still together and they are a pretty genuine couple.

[@claire___]

I think Amber and Barrnett are still together, as well?

[@nattynema]

​@@claire___ they are

[@desoxyne4765]

i was just gonna comment that! two couples r still together from the 1st season so success rate technically not zero but… also not the best

[@AnnieFarmer113]

There’s always one from the first season! Probably cause they’re in it for love and not for fame

[@missdebbie8131]

Thank you.

[@klafrance100]

My god. If I came home to my man making me dinner, I would gladly drink whatever wine he picked for me out of a styrofoam cup and gulp down whatever he cooked for me. And relax and make sure he felt appreciated for his efforts. This woman is miserable!!!

[@domm5715]

Ya it seem like she can't accept anything good and gotta put some insane standard or judgment on it, so that she can complain or feel the victim

[@HitsugiHime]

Honestly I felt it was sweet how much effort Cole put into everything. He tried and you can tell he really wanted to make things work. That says a lot about him.

[@cet1r1z1ne]

Miserable is a great word for it! She's like a vortex of suffering.

[@sierramobley8962]

exactly!! my now-husband cooked dinner for us for our second date and it was absolutely delicious, but even if it hadn’t been good i would still have shown appreciation for his effort and for extending such a personal, thoughtful gesture. she’s so mean for no reason

[@asarishepard8171]

Even if you're hungry after a badly made meal you can spin it to an advantage. Maybe order a pizza to share a slice off saying its dessert.

[@alexanderhelsley2359]

That entire cooking scene killed me lol. Me and my girlfriend surprise cook for eachother all the time and if I walked in the kitchen like oh you you're finally cooking for me, she would have my head for that.

[@jocelynsmyth6604]

I do 98% of the cooking in our home, but my beau was so upset at the kitchen scene - he was like ' he tried, what's wrong with you?! Stop picking on that chicken!'

[@katec7386]

Before my fiancé past away, he would constantly start nerf gun wars at random times…I loved it! We hid nerf guns and amo throughout the apartment. It was so fun, chaotic, and spontaneous and it made us both closer. I miss that😢

[@pearlosibu]

I’m so sorry.

[@MLGLegend123]

rip to a truly great man

[@aniyanic621]

I’m sorry for you lost

[@katec7386]

@@aniyanic621 Thank you❤

[@katec7386]

@@pearlosibu Thank you❤

[@AllLifeIsTravesty]

Good God, Z's behavior in the kitchen scene gave me PTSD flashbacks to my father. They're the type of person who if you gave them a million dollars on a silver platter the first thing they'd say is, "Why isn't the platter gold?" Sucks to see Cole heartbroken but reality is he dodged a massive bullet.

[@silentj624]

Yes! It broke my brain that he was really trying to figure out how to include as much of her family as possible and she was like nope!

[@DPWFG]

I was wondering who she reminded me of (my dad is very similar)

[@AllLifeIsTravesty]

@@DPWFG Ooooff sorry to hear that. Hope things are better/getting better for you.

[@DPWFG]

@@AllLifeIsTravesty thanks! I don't live with him anymore, so that has helped (also, I gave birth to his only grandkid), and I think my dad now realizes that I can very easily cut him out of my life, so he's been on his best behavior. I hope things have gotten/ get better for you too!

[@AllLifeIsTravesty]

@@DPWFG Congrats on your kiddo! And glad to hear your situation is so much better. I haven't seen or spoken to my father in nearly 6 years so life is very good.

[@gd4344]

I feel like she wanted to pull a Deepti, but in Deepti’s speech she never belittled or brought down shake (even though he deserved it and was a horrible person) she just said I choose me and good luck and walk away. Zenib completely torn down someone to make her self feel better because she’s insecure or this is a form of revenge.

[@hannahz6848]

THIS! I like how she tries to act like this clearly rehearsed speech was just her feelings in the moment. I felt so bad for Cole. He was not my favorite during the show, but I think he was trying and she was so manipulative.

[@asarishepard8171]

yeah deepti proved to be the better person, cause she did NOT break down shake, she was as nice about it as she could be. she gets huge kudos. how zanab thought she could EVER be compared to deepti is beyond me and narcistic.

[@mercedesmarie2162]

My thoughts exactly, especially when her friends started clapping after her speech like how was that not rehearsed?

[@asarishepard8171]

@@mercedesmarie2162 ikr???

[@insanecurity]

Am I tripping or does this girl want to be a victim like really bad?? It's almost like she WANTED him to be abusive towards her so they wouldn't go through with the wedding and she'd be considered brave for standing up to him or something. The way she started listing his "abusive behaviour" at the altar really makes it seem like she wanted this to be an ultimate power move in bravery when in reality none of those things occurred the way she described them. People like her scare me fr.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

She definitely wants to play victim

[@Baldjotarokujo]

Bro thats exactly what i was thinking

[@Invisible.fatty99]

And half of the things she lists didn’t go that way or the camera crew “just happened not to capture it”

[@gabrielleduplessis7388]

As she listed things, I literally screamed, “that was you”. You are just projecting onto him.

[@potatoCreature8476]

Everything she said at the alter should've been said in a mirror. She full on described what SHE did in the relationship but made it like he did it.

[@Invisible.fatty99]

This 🙌

[@bexproctor360]

Agreed

[@peweynewton3562]

Cole made hurtful decisions like he wasn't being filmed but z was super passive aggressive.. "Oil and water" was a perfect description for this couple

[@TuberoseKisser]

Oil fire that has water thrown on it.

[@peweynewton3562]

@@TuberoseKisser 📠 especially the way Z was "gas lighting" Cole the last couple days too

[@thedeepfriar745]

Honestly I feel like Cole came out of the series way better than her. And maybe it’s the series making her look terrible. But it also doesn’t look good when you come off as selfish, arrogant and emotionally unavailable. And even the fact that she’s tried to throw pretty slanderous accusations at him afterwards is really unfair. But, it says more about her that she keeps trying to hurt him afterward. I mean if you look at the clementine drama. All he said was you’re eating two oranges remember we’re eating a large dinner later. She tries to spin that as him trying to control her eating which is a colossal fucking reach. Also you don’t say that kind of thing unless you’re trying to hurt somebody’s reputation.

[@EmperorDxD]

@@thedeepfriar745 the series goes out of its way to make woman looks good so that not true

[@hotchacolate2]

Yeah but how do you expect someone to not be passive aggressive when the other person is being hurtful to them? they def aren’t made for eachother and both have to work on communication.

[@heathermalmal9943]

“No couple has worked out” Lauren and Cameron: Am I a joke to you? 😂

[@ms.shineray]

Also Barnett and amber, from the same season

[@dmargot2828]

I related to Cole in the reunion. He was genuinely confused and had to fight everybody off and defend himself, which he shouldn't have had to do. The only thing that makes this way worse is that it was in front of millions of people.

[@TandJgaming]

Especially that wannabe cowboy douche, fuck that guy. He only hates him because his wife hates him and his wife only hates him because she’s friends with zanab 😂

[@Radb707]

Yeah she told everyone lies basically and he was unaware that she was saying all this stuff. You get to a reunion and everyone already hates you and I'm so glad netflix released the dumb clip that she claimed was him calling her fat while he fed her cheescake. Cuz y'know...that makes sense. You're fat but let me keep ordering food.

[@CBrown86]

Either she is “testing” him, or cannot accept love, period. She only treated him good when she thought he was interested in someone else. The more love he shows her, the more she is going to push him away. Either that or shes trying to punish him. Very very toxic dynamic.

[@rockettcassia]

Ding ding ding… as soon as she gets him she doesn’t want him

[@qwandary]

When she said she wouldn't trust him if he said he only had eyes for her, I think that might have been her truest words of the season...

[@hermine1657]

It’s ironic that she always questioned Coles love for her when from the outside it was super clear that he actually genuinely cared for her and she was actually the unsure person. She projected her feelings on him

[@SeeBeesHoney]

Cole is definitely not my type, but there is something so charming and "Cole” about him pulling a nerf gun out of the microwave to shoot while he makes dinner. 😂

[@sydneyhuff6976]

As a girl- Zanab is definitely more at fault than Cole. Maybe it’s bc I identify more with Cole- I have issues reading social situations and do accidentally say the wrong thing at the wrong time and seem to have no filter because of it- but everything Cole did seemed to be either genuinely on accident or not out of a place of malice. Everything Zanab did was out of malice and passive aggression it seems. Also I’m editing this to add: Cole is in therapy now. My bio dad was a lot like Zay where it was walking on eggshells, gaslighting, manipulating and lying. It traumatizes you. I apologize frequently. I take the blame a lot of the time. If someone is in a bad mood I assume it’s my fault. I feel so bad for Cole. What Zay did goes deeper than people realize.

[@rose-yeah]

Don’t we all sometimes say the wrong things at the wrong times? That part of being human. But then there are people who apologize and who don’t. He did and in the best ways.

[@suitdoggy4707]

This! Some of the things Cole said was very rude and disrespectful but not only did he apologize multiple times for it but it just didn't seem like he was trying to be purposely hurtful. Zanab in my opinion seems to have only noticed for every moment he slips up or even provoke those moments (the kitchen scene) so she could really lay into him. Even finding faults when he was trying to change.

[@jewel8425]

My dad was like that too, to the point that i second guessed (& still do sometimes) my emotions, & wonder if i have the "right" to feel them. Do I have the "right" to be angry right now, should i be hurt that they did that to me? Can I feel annoyed, should i be this happy? I'm never quite fully sure or confident in them, & i ALWAYS think EVERYTHING is my fault.

[@indigo3896]

The word “no filter” is such a cope out. It’s essentially a nice way of saying if what I say offends you, it’s not my fault, it’s because I have “no filter 🤪”

[@sydneyhuff6976]

@@indigo3896 I disagree. “no filter” to me, means a tendency to blurt out things without thinking. I always apologize if I say something that affects someone negatively, but like, blurting out something without a filter isn’t the same as just saying hurtful shit and then blaming it on that. That’s the same as those people who say they are “brutally honest” and really just want an excuse to be an asshole. Like an example of what I mean is making a joke at an inappropriate time bc I read the situation wrong and blurted one out bc I was uncomfortable. Or if someone mentions something like ducks and jumping on a tangent about the mating habits of the ducks. Maybe no filter is the wrong wording but that’s what I mean when I say it, not like saying hurtful shit and then blaming it on no filter! But I get what you mean, people honestly suck sometimes and will use any excuse to not apologize.

[@minka_thork2892]

Zenab saying his family would be crazy not to want her???? Why on earth would his family want him to be continually treated like that?

[@becca53444]

As a girl who has only had guys hit on me while I was working, I freaking hate it. Please don’t. Ever. I will always say no based on principle and how predatory the situation feels.

[@whatifschrodingersboxwasacofin]

THIS!! Ick. 👍 Same for guys.

[@Apples765]

My friend works at a store and everytime men hit on her (bother her) she feels so shit all day. She is there to work not to date. Leave her alone.

[@Alixir1228]

How can you speak for all women? I enjoy being hit on at work. Especially because none of my work uniforms were flattering. So they've already seen me at my worst.

[@singingchristian]

To sum it up. Cole: Literally never TRIED to hurt her. Had some not good choice of words, yes. But it wasn’t with the intention to HURR. Zanab: Tells him what to do, how to do it, puts him down at every chance, tries to hurt him into doing things how she wants, then intentionally tries to hurt him most at the altar.

[@theshermantanker7043]

@@crusheddandelions5640 Classic, if it's the man that's being abusive the fault lies solely with him, but if it's the woman that's being abusive it suddenly shifts to "Oh both of them were at fault", NEVER ever considering the possibility that the woman is the one at fault, even though women are Human just like the rest of us and have the capacity to be a shitty person regardless

[@DreamsInBlue]

Zanab... I couldn't put my finger on it, but I didn't like her. I caught on to her when Cole was trying to make her dinner and she was soooo negative and bossy. I'm glad they showed the Cuties incident. I also did not like how they villainized him at the reunion. Yes, he has his faults (who doesn't), but he did not try to beat her down.

[@jazzyprince3335]

@Crushed dandelions Early on he had some shitty moments, even that bipolar question was completely out of line. But the reason I strictly side with cole is because he’s tried to take accountability for a lot of the shit he caused. Zay on the other hand has barely ever taken any accountability for her shittyness. Relationships are built and broken on how much genuine effort both partners are willing to give. Saying “they were both shitty” isn’t wrong, but one person actively made an effort to get better while the other person just gave up.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

@@theshermantanker7043 Coe obviously wasn't perfect, but hes definitely wasn't abusive. Zay was

[@asarishepard8171]

@@jazzyprince3335 considering she was acting highly irrational and negative, i dont blame him for asking that. dont want to be asked bipolar, dont act like it.

[@checkerbearhair]

I feel like this show should be called “attractive people who don’t want each other” 😅😂

[@courtneycoleman6849]

Amber & Barnett and Lauren & Cameron are still together from season one, I think they celebrated 3 years this year. I think it worked for that first group who had no idea what they were getting into and we’re actually into the concept of the show. Since it’s blown up I think lost people are in it for the exposure and extra bonus if they meet someone along the way.

[@tracisr]

That's what I said. People also commented that on his last video when he said that so I think he just doesn't care 😂

[@anastasiiabobeshko]

also, Alexa and Brennan celebrated a 1 year anniversary recently and seem to be really happy too. So 🤷‍♀️

[@mandyj2809]

The first time I heard Leo say none of the couples had worked out, I had to rush to see if Lauren and Cameron had gotten divorced, cause I really liked them.

[@tracisr]

@@mandyj2809 lmao same 🤣

[@AP-vo2mp]

I also think people in the first season were less desperate/ love starved, overall. People in season 2 and season 3 just seem like they would do anything to make it to the alter and to make the other person like them.

[@MK-Hogan]

Cole makes a nice dinner for her. Zanab: “I can forgive you for spilling chicken.” 🤨 Not marrying him was the only nice thing she did for him.

[@Jkjoannaki]

She got her revenge, she was holding her emotions and pretending she wanted to marry him to just ridicule him at the wedding in front of everyone. This is pure revenge.

[@butthurttaco8636]

Revenge for nothing, dude wasn't terrible like she portrayed and tried to destroy his character on live TV and all the women just believe her without question. And yet her bs story was called out

[@ApollosHyacinth]

Revenge for what exactly? He didn't do anything wrong.

[@Jkjoannaki]

@ApollosHyacinth revenge for not being into her enough. I never said what he did was "wrong" I said she got revenge for feeling hurt for not being as liked as she wanted (he was physically interested in other girls more)

[@butthurttaco8636]

@@Jkjoannaki the he was as into her as he could have been, and was honest when asked. He matured while in the relationship while the bitch acted like he was starving her and constantly belittling her

[@brigade7678]

​@@butthurttaco8636 it really seems like he was a bit insensitive or blunt & thought another girl was awesome within the first 3 weeks they met... and she just held onto every little thing to get her "revenge" at the alter. He wasn't perfect and didn't cave in enough apparently. Shes a nasty person inside for sure.

[@paytonmanning1109]

I’ll admit, I didn’t like Cole much at first, but he really grew on me and it made me so sad to see him being treated like that when all he was really trying to do is have fun. I hope the best for him. He wasn’t the bad person everyone made him out to be. He just wasn’t smart with his words at first.

[@kitty-yg1bg]

Zeinab literally gives me the vibe that she got rejected multiple times in her life by pretty boys like Cole so she decided to act out her revenge solely on him. She was so insecure and passive agressive throughout the whole show it drove me nuts. And thats not to say that Cole is without his defects, he's definetly a bit of a manchild and a little immature but damn he did not deserve to be treated and spoke to in the way that she did... Especially in the reunion that was REALLY out of pocket how they all ganged up on him especially when the producers proved to the audience at the end of the episode that Z was plain lying through her teeth.... Anyways sorry for the long comment but damn this whole thing really made me feel some type of way clearly >:(

[@deputyblunderbusboondoggle1807]

you and your kitty are both gorgeous

[@HitsugiHime]

That’s so heartbreaking and probably has ruined relationships for him… and now he’s going to be a worse person because of it

[@crystallaner230]

I got this exact same vibe from her. She'd clearly mad at "someone" else (probably men in general) and projecting onto him

[@kitty-yg1bg]

@@deputyblunderbusboondoggle1807 awn thanks :3

[@asarishepard8171]

I agree she was ready to destroy someone and when things weren't 100 with cole she went to nuclear.

[@meg9599]

Zanab's mom is an absolute queen for going to comfort Cole instead of instantly siding with her daughter and believing her fully.

[@Suaru]

Okay. I will say this. Nurses do one of the most important jobs in our society, but there is something about that profession that attracts some of the meanest most arrogant people I have ever met in my entire life.

[@DVAcme]

I'm a psychiatric nurse at a mental health hospital, and yeah, we nurses are challenging people. We deal with hard hours for proportionately little pay and with life-threatening situations, both for our patients AND for ourselves, that build a constant edge to us that's hard to soften up, and it usually ends up making us very snarky, sarcastic and even mean sometimes.

[@alexiswatts649]

The rudest people at my undergrad were nursing majors. I’m now reapplying to nursing school as a pathway to be a physicians assistant and I’m worried for how the snarky mean social environment is gonna affect me :/

[@kr3642]

I have to second this

[@carrained]

absolutely, people are just afraid to say that because they’re underpaid. that doesn’t have anything to do with how the majority are as people though, it’s important to separate the two issues but instead everyone just calls them angels.

[@Alixir1228]

Because a nurse is a position of power. Not too hard to get into, pays well compared to the amount of schooling required, and you have a lot of people at your mercy. The same reason why teaching and policing attracts certain people.

[@alexuz93]

That bit when Collen's tried to get offended because Cole said he didn't want a shallow relationship was so bizarre to me. She literally said she prefers shallow and superficial connections and he said he didn't want a shallow RELATIONSHIP. He didn't say anything about her being shallow so I'm so confused as to why she left the room crying and telling the other girls that he called her shallow. That was so dumb. And with Cole and Zanab, yeah Cole was a bit immature in the beginning but he really tried. It seems like he really tried to do some self-reflecting on his actions. But Zanab, this is woman was ridiculous. That kitchen scene when Cole was trying to cook for her was hard to watch. She really ruined the entire moment! I felt so bad for Cole, especially at the wedding. That was so insensitive and fucked up what Zanab did to him. I sometimes think she is a narcissist.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

She most likely is, the whole “I’m cute and no one ever hits on me” rubbed me so wrong

[@alexuz93]

@@Baldjotarokujo Exactly! What a strange thing to complain about! I have never met a sane woman that gets upset because guys AREN'T hitting on them while they are working or at the gym. She has a very high opinion of herself and has a problem with others if they don't think the same thing.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

@@alexuz93 but im confused because women complain when men hit on them in public(to clarify i am not male)

[@Elesclusterb1971]

I was triggered by her grandiose display attitude, her tone of voice saying one thing but her face expressed totally contrary to her words. She confused the crap out of Cole.

[@lilskipper8002]

@@Baldjotarokujo Some do, but mainly because it boosts their ego or attention seeking. She could possibly have gotten a lot of attention growing up since she lost her parents at a young age and still wants to have that much attention in any way she can, regardless of where it comes from or by who. But that is just an observation from my end

[@CygmaSlag]

@1:31:27 Honestly this moment was kind of triggering for me. When Cole told her how he was so in love with her and she just avoided reciprocating it. That was SO telling that she had made up her mind that she was going to dump him at the altar. It's also possible she was trying to push him away by denying him the choice of his wedding attire. This is probably just me projecting and needing to keep this between me and my therapist, but this frighteningly reminds me of when my ex broke it off with me. She spent the last month avoiding me while we lived in the same house, and only ever quietly mumbled "I love you too" when I told her I loved her. A couple weeks before she broke it off she would just remain silent. We were trying to find a new apartment, and she kept telling me "why don't we wait and see if things open up closer to our lease ending?" when in reality she was lying because she had already gotten her own place to live. She sat me down one day and said we were breaking up, told me she had a place for a few weeks and asked me to leave the apartment for the weekend so I wouldn't be there when she moved out. Again, probably a gross overshare, but I saw that in this episode. This thing felt pretty pre-meditated, she made up her mind long before the wedding. It felt like she made active decisions to push him away prior to the wedding day. I call bullshit on her saying she didn't know she was going to do it before that day.

[@TheFatalcrest]

Hey, I know this is a year old, but I'm sorry that happened to you. That's a brutal way for things to end. I hope you've had better luck since.

[@perrious4980]

I genuinely think Cole did not understand he was hurting her on the occasions when he did. I also don't think Z ever believed he loved her, and she constantly lashed out about it, and was so mean to him, and treated him like a child she didn't like. A nuisance even.

[@josephmatthews7698]

An insecure flight attendant is the worst possible combination. Long flights away from home while her little brain goes wild thinking about her insecurities and how many women you're boning while she's gone.

[@WiieZ]

"you don't call a woman fat" *2 seconds later* "Alexa the whale floats up"

[@lemon3060]

exactly, i've noticed he bodyshames people quite a bit and it just feels shitty

[@rubyq]

About died laughing

[@mariekeho]

Exactly, I agreed with him up to that point when it caught me off guard completely. I understand not vibing with her as a person but come on, that was rude and hypocritical.

[@oliviahayes4991]

Shocked there’s not more comments like this, so disheartened by it

[@itsmeezee3818]

Especially with the Big Ed videos like I feel like he says too much about his body and not enough about how much a shitty person Big Ed is so much to the point where the whole video is just calling Big Ed fat in different ways instead of analyzing his character which I thought was the whole point.

[@MyMessyAttic]

This is it. This is the video that made me realize I was a shit partner. It made me take a hard look at myself and see the absolute golden person I married. I am trying hard to make it up to him. As much as my depression allows. I have made long strives accepting that my husband does want to help but has been shut down so many times because all I saw was him doing it wrong. Thank you for watching the trash to find the actual wholesome meaning so I don't have to! Even if I did watch it I would still need you to tell me what the meaning was.

[@brigade7678]

thats really cool, I hope you continue to improve and save your partner from a life of pain. Early on (within the first year) I realized I was becoming abusive like my own parent's relationship and saw it affect my partner- entered therapy as fast as I could and really opened myself up to MASSIVE self change. It takes time and practice and a shit ton of energy/effort, but its so important to stop our own behavior from hurting others.

[@MusicalMe123]

Good luck to you. Please seek therapy for you, and if your partner will go, please encourage him to go individually and with you. Most people NEVER have this revelation. This is GOOD!

[@hotmess9640]

Don’t make your issues someone else’s, and don’t allow your mental health issues to allow you to be a shitty partner/person. Everyone has some form of depression

[@Rafviel]

My husband can’t cook and asked for NERF guns on our wedding registry lol. I ADORE his goofy nature and the fact that he TRIES to love me in the ways he thinks would bless me. He doesn’t always hit the mark, but he does hit the mark *exactly* in doing what he can to love me. The NERF gun/kitchen seen in this video just broke my heart.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

Awwwww

[@promisedjubileedaniels]

Same. It made me so sad.

[@TuberoseKisser]

This show proves that appearance is incredibly important and that any chance of anonymity is going to be taken. People who say "I don't care about looks" do care about looks they just have more variable standards. If you are not being seen then you're automatically gonna put on your best and not your honest.

[@UhaveN0idea]

bro zenab reminds me of my ex who said “im a nice person. i never lie. im such a good, healed, caring, honest person” and then proceeded to lie to me, demean me, abuse me, abuse my family & friends, all while repeating the same exact thing. wishin cole nothing but being surrounded by love and healing and acceptance. & i hope zenab finds so much healing and therapy cos she definitely needs it

[@Chewyns1]

Well said :/

[@asarishepard8171]

If they were good they wouldn't need to say it.

[@Moi_81]

So sorry you went through this. Abuse is never okay.

[@viennawalker7002]

Your relationship advice is genuinely second to none. Many of the things you've said are things I've herd from a few therapists and general self improvement classes.

[@juelanthony]

The moment at 1:42:30 is flat out scary anybody would think this way before getting married. I know it hasn’t been a long time but Cole was putting in a great amount of effort into changing his ways and preparing for marriage and to hear all this pettiness from his fiancé after multiple apologies is a huge red flag. Zanab’s tonality altogether is very condescending

[@asarishepard8171]

If you were Cole and experiencing that you'd be asking his questions too. Shes saying the right words but looks like shes ready to murder him.

[@juelanthony]

@@asarishepard8171 forreal having a good aura altogether is extremely important

[@snakesonaframe2668]

I am shocked and disgusted at the way she treated Cole. He’s going to have trust issues for a LONG time, this is going to affect his romantic relationships, he’s going to be thinking about this and probably scared out of his mind when he tries to marry someone else, if he can ever trust anyone else enough to try again. And then to go badmouthing him like she’s doing is despicable. She’s an awful person.

[@lizdoodles9128]

Zanab is insane. There has to be something severely wrong with you to jump from one emotion to the other and destroy another person like that

[@CaramelfromKansas]

I married someone like this, it only gets worse. You second guess everything till you're a shell of yourself. I'm just thankful I had support to get out, this is so sad and so triggering. She does darvo and word salad. It's awful, you can't follow the conversation because the abuser is so entitled and delusional. Poor guy I'm just so sad for him.

[@tinywalnut6337]

Someone else said he's in therapy now. Totally understandable and necessary after narcissistic abuse. Glad he's taking care of himself. Hope you are too.

[@brigade7678]

@@tinywalnut6337 I'm so happy to hear he got help, he'll need it to recognize & process what she did to him. Plus learning how to protect yourself when you encounter others like her- something we ALL could benefit from.

[@MusicalMe123]

So did I...there is no improvement. It sinks into HELL really fast.

[@trashnedmak]

to this moment, Z still has comments and stuff on social media limited because i think she still thinks she’s right. she wanted to look really good but it made her loook horrible. even after the show, she reached out to coles ex wife which is awful…

[@Bluemilk92]

It kills me to know that watching a breakdown of a reality show, theoretically makes me a fan of the show.

[@spiderganon]

Getting hit on at work is scary, please don't do it. You can't run away and you have to go back there everyday, working is already stressful enough without worrying about your personal safety along with it. I once got hit on at work by a group of policemen who surrounded me and asked if I thought their friend was attractive. It was genuinely terrifying. DO NOT DO THAT SHIT.

[@GizmoGremlinDog]

Asking if you find someone attractive was TERRIFYING??? What is this world coming to 🙄

[@spiderganon]

@@GizmoGremlinDog ah yes, being scared of being surrounded by 6 police officers as a small woman at 11pm when I was about to go home and pressured into giving my number to one of them is really where the world has gone wrong. I apologise.

[@GizmoGremlinDog]

@@spiderganon well you suddenly worded that story very differently didnt you? Lame. Men standing near you at work and asking if you think their friend is attractive shouldn't terrify you. Get some help

[@spiderganon]

@@GizmoGremlinDog I thought you needed more details to get your head around it but what did I expect from the KZbin comments section. I do not need help for not wanting to get harassed at work, and I hope that if someone harasses you like that at work someone will stand up for you.

[@Quon]

@@spiderganon I feel you, they'll never understand how terrifying that feels. I call it bully behavior, on the same level as 'where's my hug?' or 'haha, then what? ;)'

[@happytobeliving7199]

The fact she caused him to be in therapy after this relationship. She somehow “shes the victim”, sick.

[@Miss_Butterfly80]

Because she's not confident in herself she can't just tell him what she wants cuz She doesn't know she's good enough to expect certain things, so instead she uses passive aggrestiveness but really a bad way. It's abusive and it's a way to tear down the person, point out that "Hey look how imperfect you are, so don't judge me" but she's judging & ruining it. Mental abuse can take years to get over the damage & this is VERY Toxic behavior

[@gabby3036]

18:16 "That's the show Love Has Requirements and I Need You to Meet Them" had me laughing so hard.

[@cactmayne]

A manchild is not necessarily someone who acts juvenile, but it's a man who expects his significant other to fulfill his every need.

[@bukiyobun]

throughout this, the way she spoke to him was as if she was talking to a child. she obviously felt better than him. he changed for her, he wasn’t perfect, but he showed growth for her. she didn’t change, only showed him that she’s going to treat him badly even when he’s trying his best.

[@arenasification]

They really did Cole a disservice. He seemed immature, sure, but he was a nice guy. Insane how he was made out to be the villain!

[@redd1799]

Crazy how at the end I like Cole. He was made out to be immature but he wasn’t lying when he said he wanted a deep relationship

[@adelaidagarcia1943]

Now let’s imagine him doing that to her how different things would be

[@charliebrown1061]

I am in a new place that doesn't feel like home, sick with covid, having felt really low and alone the past week. thank you so much for this video, you give a lot of sound perspective and hearing from you/seeing you is like hanging with a friend. Thank you so much, Leo. Merry Christmas to you, you bring so much joy to this world

[@TheGeekyBanana]

I hope you start feeling better soon. I hope you can make this new place feel like home. Sending you lots of love!

[@whatifschrodingersboxwasacofin]

Merry Christmas! Hope you feel better soon. Glad you found a way to make yourself smile. 🎄 It will feel like home before you know it. Give yourself the gift of time today. 🎅🙂 … and say hi to Snoopy. If he’s not off fighting the Red Baron. 🧐 Mwa muh mwa mwa wah.🤣

[@alexissilvers9375]

hope you feel better !! ❤

[@Casinogirl56]

Merry Christmas, hope you feel better soon. Hugs from Wisconsin.

[@jenpenn22]

I have covid too, awww solidarity in our misery lol

[@Jiminycricketsconscience]

She made that guy turn into a serial killer, with a very specific type.

[@didyallseethat499]

Am I the only one that feels like Z was able to manipulate the whole situation because she’s at least 10 years older than she’s saying she is and has way more life experience than anyone else on that cast 🤔

[@pearlosibu]

😂😂😂😂😂 word.

[@ashleywhitefield6076]

Username checks out

[@elijahtthayer]

​@@ashleywhitefield6076tf does that mean

[@ashleywhitefield6076]

@elijahtthayer it means that their username sort of goes along with the context of their comment. Its by coincidence, but its just a joke to say the username and comment match up. For example, "Am I the only one that" and "didyallseethat" it was a stretch of a joke on my part....but a joke nonetheless 😊

[@benazirjamal632]

Finally someone does not like Alexa and sees that she's actually mean to everyone.

[@pearlosibu]

I actively detest her

[@asarishepard8171]

Shes a mean girl feeding off others misery. You can see it on her face.

[@airwreckagee]

Leo, you’ve done so many Love Is Blind videos but people have to keep correcting you that there are 2-3 successful couples from the show and you never acknowledge it 😂😂😂

[@promisedjubileedaniels]

That's still such a small percentage though 😜

[@skylerc5253]

I guarantee she had this all planned out from the beginning to get famous. Like the way she kept saying she wouldn’t know for sure until she was walking down the isle. She thought this would be her huge girl power moment. Had her friends clap and walk out with her and everything.

[@sethrayne8076]

honestly, even a lot of stuff about him that leo critique, him being loud and cheering so obviously, i found them very endearing. he had problems, but a lot of things about him if he was a girl would be seen as cute, not immature. he IS immature, but some stuff is just him being a cheerful person and the fact that zenab wanted to strip that from him is so sad

[@DB-rp2gj]

The way she said his name made my skin crawl every time. It's that tone that I use when I am talking to someone I have utter disdain for.

[@erincogan1]

"You're a white person, so you should be able to pour white wine..." sixteenleo cracks himself up lol

[@kirstyhamilton6214]

Zanab is very insecure, and I don't think she ever got past Cole talking to Colleen. After that, everything he said was tainted in her ears and she treated him as if he was always at his worst. She stayed with him to try and "fix" him instead of fixing herself.

[@fdre3wsd]

She does laugh, once. When she says "..the Catch of the Century", more of a self-conscious laugh than a humor one.

[@Flashguy4826]

Man, seeing Cole get called out at the fucking ALTAR makes ME want to cry. And I wasn't the one she dumped! I literally just heard that he was crying as I was typing this, I didn't predict this, I swear.

[@Laurenjoinsyoutube]

Zanab was kinda annoying the whole show to me. It was clear she wasn’t meant for Cole which that’s fine but she also came off as rude and condescending

[@Tanjura]

The way Cole behaved in the beginning should've made Zanab break up with him immediately. When you just met someone for the first time, all you have to go off is physical attraction and Cole was obviously somewhere else with his thoughts. But instead of her realizing this, she harbored these feelings of resentment and grew more and more bitter. I believe she only stayed with him to the end so she could have her revenge, even if she didn't plan this out consciously. She doesn't seem like the most self-reflective person so I don't think she was aware of that, but it was clear to everyone else.

[@EmperorDxD]

What exactly did Cole dp

[@alizalieb3962]

i

[@Hey_Jamie]

1:49:28 Poor Cole. Look how scared he is to be honest with her. Because he thinks it’s going to sit in her brain for the next however long and she will use it to jab at him passive aggressively for no reason. Just like she did the first time he was honest with her.

[@TheZombie567]

POV, Your hope for humanity was restored when you realized the internet didn't side with Zanab

[@perrious4980]

The quantity of Matt slander in this was absolutely vicious and I appreciate you for it.

[@luminescent_tides]

Yessssss!!!! Happy Holidays Leo! You are VERY loved and appreciated by MANY! Thank you for sharing yourself with the world! ❤🎉🎄🎅🏼❤️

[@deputyblunderbusboondoggle1807]

you're beautiful

[@louisebrind8326]

She’s a narcissist, when she was saying her vows. It was all about how he made me feel etc. she lost interest in him and discarded him in the most hurtful way and humiliated him. He’s better off without her. He was immature and a douchebag at times but he didn’t deserve this in any way.

[@bluelight6517]

As an ambiamorous asexual person in an open relationship, this type of show is a pretty interesting thing to analyze.

[@Lafemme17]

1:43:31 She did laugh in the pods, like once lol. Watching this back it was even weird hearing her laughter because it totally ceased after they met and almost seemed like it never happened at all 😂

[@CieraMychele]

Bro this lady reminds me of my fiances ex. She drained every last bit of life out of him, constantly just picking away at pieces of him while simultaneously claiming she "loves his quirks". Constant nagging, it was like she couldn't even muster giving a compliment without a "but...". And then as soon as he tries to point out any of the passive aggressiveness it's "wHaT dO yOu MeAn I'm BeInG mEaN??" It's like she was embarrassed by him at all times. Just an awful situation. He is doing much better now she's outta the picture

[@Financiallyfreeauthor]

I have to say, I’ve been married ten years and I don’t find it hard at all. When you have a compatible person that you communicate with well it doesn’t have to be a struggle.

[@kadygirlforever]

Life is hard enough as it is. A good partner makes the ride worth it.

[@SonjaPond]

“Do you not think we’re great??” Jesus she’s creating traps for him to fall into constantly 😅

[@miffedcuttlefish6139]

It bothers me that so many pretty girls are insecure, and the reason they're insecure is because of their personality flaws that they know they have, but are unwilling to admit them, but if you try to have an honest conversation with them about it, they They think you're "judging" or that "someone hurt you" because you're trying to tell them that there's room for improvement.

[@heidiw3615]

Never watched the actual show but I love how playful and chill Cole is even though he seems icky at the beginning. But he picked up the stuff and was able to learn and grow

[@hannahburdge2394]

The scariest thing about this was when Leo said “Love is Blind has a 0% success rate” and I thought something happened to Lauren and Cameron 😭

[@mikkibarker8671]

Nope

[@ollieshark]

love is blind as a concept is pretty neat but the execution of it in this tv show is the literal worst execution i have ever witnessed. this needs to be a study, not a dating competition.

[@saintofstories]

So after a year and a half, my ex-wife ambushed me at my friend's funeral. Telling me I had six months to propose because she was "the perfect woman and an amazing catch," her and her family pressured me to propose. I did, and after 6 months of hell and abuse, she admitted to cheating on me with numerous guys for the entirety of our marriage. Listening to zanab at the table with Cole made me think of that. Side note: ex-wife was bi polar, acted just like this, I think he question was warranted.

[@gigiarmany4332]

Yep..only she's narcissistic, not bi polar..

[@devonbananastar4170]

Thank fuk for you, Leo. Holidays basically don’t exist in my family anymore and I’ve been trying to pass the time before we have dinner with a quarter of the family. Thank you so much tor uploading today, I hope you have a merry Christmas if you celebrate 🎄

[@PhoenixRoseYT]

I mean at least you have any family...😅

[@gimandri5577]

my holidays couldve been better aswell, hope u have a great new years!:)

[@juliexx7058]

@@PhoenixRoseYT don’t be a nihilist when someone is having a bad time. Common let’s be cool people😎👍🏻

[@tyjhepengel5342]

@@juliexx7058 beautifully stated! Thanks for the positive feedback and support! You moved me with this comment ❤️

[@Alixir1228]

​@PhoenixRoseYT right? I had Christmas with just my sons, mom, and boyfriend. A quarter of my family would be a huge amount haha.

[@tdclemensen]

I love how Leo's impression of Matt slowly turns into Boomhauer over the course of the video

[@jaimexxo]

I really enjoyed your commentary & thoughts on this relationship. Your video gave me a totally different perspective-a kinder approach towards each person & their unique needs…I’m able to see Cole in a new light. Also, I laughed like I hadn’t in a long time because of your humor, so thank you! (Your “Matt” was very accurate!) 😂😅

[@sweetlordbeerus]

zenab and colleen are the only people i know who unironocally dance like the sims

[@meow_XII]

thats funny, i just downloaded the sims

[@christop3]

Pains me everytime Cole says something sweet and she gives literally nothing back too... Girl I was engaged to did the same to me and well, she cheated on me, hardened me up alot in my naïve youth lol. Real shame, positive affirmation is pretty necessary in a relationship, cant expect compliments, to be the only girl in the world, and nonstop showered with affection when you cant even do it back in the slightest. She's also years older than him, treats him like total garbage, does a move in public, then plays victim like he's some abusive partner.... How you could even stomach watching the things she did prior and say Cole did wrong things actually blows my mind because I cant imagine how she was with the cameras off, hes guilty of stuff, but she's a monster.

[@Zironeful]

I would rather be alone than to be with Z by my side. If I had to choose between marrying her and living alone on the moon I would choose the moon.

[@persialionheart]

I really hope Cole finds someone who will actually care for him. Who will actually have fun with him and laugh and join him when he wants to do something childish like playing with nerf guns. But also be someone who talks with him seriously. And actually sees his side of things. Because I genuinely believe he deserves that. Yes maybe he was a jerk at first but he really tried to be better and he did become better. He needs someone who will appreciate him, not like Zaynab who nitpicked a lot of what he did.

[@Moi_81]

No. He needs to learn to be a decent person then he can find someone.

[@TeKnoVKNG23]

I'd be surprised if she ever gets married. Sure he has some issues, but she emotionally manipulated him and then completely hung him out to dry and destroyed his mental well being in front of a bunch of people and wrecked his emotional security. She's doing it for the attention and to make another person suffer, which is pretty evil.

[@bxssbxnny]

cole is the textbook definition of a himbo

[@Baldjotarokujo]

lovable himbo

[@Reneelv-ei8zd]

You want a superficial woman from a show, you got it. A red flag is a red flag, and the first one would be the show in general. If within the first stages of attempting the relationship aquires drama for you to work through, how do you build from that? What kind of foundation is that? Love your videos Leo! 🖤🖤🖤