Girl Tries To Play Victim But the Internet Calls her Out on It (Love Is blind Zanab And Cole)

[@annaliadesigns]

How can she say "I don't have beef with you" when she goes around mocking and villainizing him to all her friends??? She clearly lives in a toxic echochamber and I hope she'll get the outside opinion that she needs in therapy

[@Mama_Bear524]

Exactly

[@AnnaVictrix]

It’s an abuse tactic called Triangulation and it seems to be one of her favs. I believe it’s also why all her friends walked out of the wedding too. When they cannot control you, they try to control how others see you.

[@asarishepard8171]

ikr the only reason she kinda went back at the end of reunion saying"id do it again with him", i think she realized how far shed gone and was trying to make herself look better. nope, im not letting that slide, zanab.

[@asarishepard8171]

her whole tone of voice says she has it. either shes insanely unselfaware or she just doesn't care how she comes off.

[@GingerThereforeNoSoul]

Not to mention, I still dragged him on social media... but I think that was just her riding the hype train, wanting to stay relevant anyway possible. She chooses the form of abusive, gaslighter, and manipulator.

[@IamjustBruh]

It was very clear that Zanab was “unwell” to put it nicely early on in season 3. Her insecurities and past trauma got the best of her and she clearly had no reason to be in a relationship. She tried so hard to be victim when it was right in our faces that she is the problem.

[@okoala62]

Right? Just goes to show looks aren’t everything- she looked/continues to look “great” on the outside (beauty is subjective, of course) but that amounts to nothing if inner beauty and stability isn’t there

[@jessica5470]

She needs therapy, I used to be just like this, moreso paranoid my bf would leave over the way I looked even though he always reassured me, now I have real confidence since therapy, I've been able to think positively, rationally, and and I know I look really good, I don't need anyone to validate me anymore, it's a freeing and great feeling, if you consider therapy for whatever reason, just do it if it's available to you

[@jessica5470]

Then end up reflecting on your previous behaviour and realise the only person you cared about was yourself, even if unintentionally, I felt so guilty thinking about how I treated him, hopefully she'll realise she needs to learn and grow, but I think most people who do need it don't believe they do, whether it's denial of your own behaviour or just being so big headed you don't think you need to grow

[@anubisthacutest4752]

It was obvious she was one of the ones who only went on for clout. Which is the case for most of them but with her it was very evident.

[@nublessed8993]

She was downright vile at the end

[@notkevin7]

I was so frustrated with all the other people on love is blind. From the spineless dude that is with Alexa, too the other girls that blindly believed Zenab. It was infuriating to see them dogpile Cole without any evidence whatsoever

[@TummySticks0110]

Spineless dude was such a bitch. He might as well have been one of the gossiping girls in the group

[@nakitauchichica]

Their opinions are formed by hearsay from Zanab who, by nature is narcissistic and abusive, meaning she will give them a perception of him that is not true, and people like her are good at making people believe their delusions.. But, this is all recorded for TV so they can't successfully gaslight and manipulate the audience because we have the "rewind" button. IRL, most people in relationships with these kind of people aren't so lucky to have millions of people aware of what goes on behind closed doors and many of those people end up being made the "bad guy" by their abuser because no one can tell them they're lying and they already made you out to be a liar so no one believes you when you try and explain your side. They assume you're dragging their name through dirt, and if you say nice things they assume you were the problem.. You can't win against narcissistic abuse.. You just can't.. You can only walk away from it and hope it doesn't follow you.

[@Gchildwarrior]

I want to pimp slap them into apologizing to Cole

[@BethanyNash]

As a woman myself, this is the most frustrating social programming to me right now. It’s like if you don’t instantly believe everything a woman says, no matter the facts or the evidence otherwise, you must hate women. So of course they all went along with it, including the simp with bitter, hateful spoiled brat Alexa. ALL of them saw evidence that Zenab was the liar and manipulator in this situation and they chose to stand next to her and cheer her on. So toxic, so gross.

[@thatgirlinautumn5995]

I really came around on Raven though, so that’s something ig

[@erincogan1]

I really, REALLY, *REALLY,* just can't understand how *ANYONE* can believe that Zanab is in the right at all about anything. She knew she wasn't going to marry him from the moment she said yes to his proposal. It absolutely infuriates me that this stupid "cutie orange" situation hasn't been brought back up. She can just accuse someone of abusing her and turn a situation into something it wasn't, but then when the actual footage is shown, EVERY ONE STILL BACKS HER LIKE SHE DIDN'T LIE TO/ MANIPULATE ALL OF THEM! worst kind of human being. grrrr

[@Pwnners]

Nearly all women ever

[@KatzeWire]

​@Smoothie Brained Nigg A guy did this to me. It's not a gender thing. Anyone can be insecure and project it on their partner or other people on general. Let's just all do better instead of generalizing a whole gender. That gets us nowhere.

[@Pwnners]

@@KatzeWire Thats basically where im going w/ womens, nowhere. Ask me again in 5-10y, for now theres the hub yk

[@Pwnners]

@@KatzeWire nearly got jailtime from them hoes, lyin their teeth out saying i broke her door to the cops. One other manipulated me into f-in up her ex (who didnt even know he was her ex at the time) said he ra**d her and shit while i learned afterwards that, weirdly enough, thats what she does to get rid of clingy guys. Theres more but this aint no psychiatrist. Some are diabolical thats a fact, and idc about mens, i dont date them'

[@mrpeach2023]

@@Pwnners You’re not that bright.

[@paopao3736]

I'm so happy people are calling her out on her bullshit because she was evil beyond reason

[@iampotsataja]

As opposed to people being reasonably evil? 🤔

[@juliexx7058]

@@iampotsataja reasonably evil is usually made by a person who doesn’t understand what they’re doing. For example, a child being coldhearted. There is typically a contingency in which the evilness is justifiable to a certain degree. Not to say without punishment but that’s what I think op is saying. She’s unreasonably evil meaning no contingency that may justify her current actions

[@iampotsataja]

@@juliexx7058 oh I get that. Just the phrase "evil beyond reason" sounds silly to me. Even reasonably evil, which you explain, I'd just call oblivious. Evil as a word just has a much darker, intent filled meaning, to me at least.

[@chilli1115]

@@juliexx7058 yep or some times u can even act awfully in retaliation. Doesn’t make it right but u can see how someone is pushed to that point. When someone is that awful for no apparent reason it’s not reactionary it’s coming from within

[@asarishepard8171]

yeah kinda gives me alot more hope in humanity. like thank god.

[@TheGamersState]

I think we can all agree that while Zanab won the battle on Love is Blind, Cole overwhelmingly won the war. The amount of people I've seen come out in support of Cole while also correctly calling out Zanab on her evil treatment genuinely makes me happy.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

We Arabs are vindictive people and from our perspective she did the right thing, IDK about you guys but he treated her like shit at the beginning and she had the to chose between being a victim or a vengeful queen and she chose right.

[@EtherealLyvea17]

@@gostavoadolfos2023 being vindictive isn't something to be excited about, it shows that you're not secure in yourself and your own life. Living in the past to an unreasonable extent is only harmful for you and the people you love, the people that hate you don't care She wasn't a' vengeful queen', she was playing the victim throughout the entire thing, and deep down she was just needlessly cruel. Her response was far from proportional because while he may have been immature at the start, he showed growth, and he showed a willingness to continue to grow. She showed neither. All she showed was that she's stuck in the past and wasted his time while also putting him through emotional turmoil because she didn't feel like extending the same amount of effort to him as he did to her. Being vindictive isn't an Arab thing, it's an immature thing.

[@oldstump1628]

@@gostavoadolfos2023 how exactly did he “treat her like shit”. Feels like a cope for her being a cunt.

[@cptcap7531]

Yeah I’m really happy to see that alot of people could see through Zanabs lies

[@angytingz]

i dnt think either of them ¨won¨ anything, not to mention, she was way out of his league in every way. her only downfall was that she clearly has a lot of unhealed trauma thats keeping her from opening up and just letting love happen without being constantly defensive

[@AnnaVictrix]

Cole was immature and superficial, but Zanab is emotionally, psychologically, and verbally abusive. She’s the Queen of Triangulation.

[@chasitylynn8183]

I disagree. I don't think he was superficial at all. He was 25. We ALL behaved that way sometime in our early to mid 20s. He's a darn kid. Give the guy a break. He was boisterous and confident, on a reality show, trying to be entertaining, that was all that was happening at the beginning. I've always loved Cole. You can just sense how genuine he is, now and then. No matter how insensitive he was. He was always his true self. That's far more appealing than anything in the world.

[@yuubiko]

Bitchmuda triangle.

[@dmargot2828]

To punish someone for their personality is the worst thing you can do. We all learn and grow, but he was not given a chance before being ridiculed and defamed first.

[@julieoluna8887]

She seems like the person who would say or do something wrong and when confronted about it, she'd cry and say she's been through a lot in her life instead of apologising and actually mean it! To me she comes across as cold and hateful, perhaps that's why no one flirts with her.

[@nataliakom8310]

@@chasitylynn8183 I absolutely agree! He was nice, young and kind of carefree but also genuine and fun to be around. I would much rather be with someone like that than, I forget his name, Coleen's dude or Brennan or Bartise. SK was also giving me weird vibes from the beginning, like he was too good to be true. For sure in my eyes Cole was the best guy out of the main cast and before the reunion when everybody was criticizing Cole I could not for the life of me understand why. He might have been a bit immature but he is still young and willing to learn and grow. The way they all treated him at the reunion was also super nasty especially given the fact that they've already seen the episodes but were still relying on what Zanab told them.

[@TuxedoMasc]

Yeah, Zanab forever disqualified herself from ever being viewed as "someone who was trying soooo hard to make things work and HE was just unreasonable," when she unnecessarily hurt and humiliated Cole in front of everyone they know and love at the alter, to be shown to millions of people. If that didn't show you everything you needed to know about who that person is - I don't know what does. She could've done that anytime before then, but she chose to be just downright hateful.

[@letsgooo-4281]

She had repeated chances to get out of the relationship, to end it peacefully but she waited until the alter to humiliate and degrade this man. She wanted to hurt him.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

I think she is just a normal middle eastern just like me and we can be very vindictive people... she had every right to destroy Cole for how he treated her, he played the stereotype of the douchy white boy and she paid him right. I also admit that our vindictiveness is what turned the Middle East into a Hell hole of bloodshed and hatred but we love to put the blame on the US foreign policy lmao

[@FoxyFoxlyn]

​@@letsgooo-4281She just wanted the clout. Thought she could be the empowered woman who stood up to her abuser on TV. Fact is, she was the abuser. Her own Step Mother was trying to warn Cole about her. She even went up to check on him at the altar, before she went to her step daughter. She looked furious with her. She is a pos. I really hope he meets a woman who deserves him. He seems like a lovely lad. My bf is very playful, and I love it. He knows how to make me laugh. Great when I am having a shit day, which is a lot recently as my mum is really ill. He cheers me up. How can you be annoyed with someone for trying to make you feel better, when you are feeling down? I also burst out into song at home. My bf then joins in. 😆 I can't sing, he is even worse though. 😂

[@angytingz]

i mean but he humilliated her in other ways too, just not in front of everyone

[@Lenci_of_Hazelnut]

Cole sitting there eating Cuties and being his goofy self was the absolute highlight of the show.

[@BeliiSpii]

I really hope Cole finds someone that will love and care for him. When he does, he’s going to realize just how toxic Zanab was and he won’t be able to imagine how he could have ever loved her in the first place.

[@smartmarketing173]

This is where I’m stuck- but WHY did he love her? She treated him like crap from Day 1, I don’t get it. Do guys really just like b*tches?! 👀

[@snegluf]

@@smartmarketing173 unfortunately that’s just how it goes sometimes, she seemed kind and normal at first but when her true colors showed he’d already been ‘blinded by love’.

[@orbeezeater]

@@smartmarketing173 She was nice in the beginning, and he fell hard. When she revealed her true colors, he already had the rose-tinted glasses glued to his face. The only thing that got them off was her humiliating him in front of everyone.

[@christopherknorr2895]

She ends by saying she's looking for someone funny and secure. Cole *is* funny and secure. She broke him down viciously. She's not looking for a partner, she's looking for a victim. Steer clear of Chernobyl, lads.

[@amyt2035]

Zanab's idea of "closure" for Cole is having the audacity to say that *she* forgives *him*. And the worst part of it all is he has been bullied so much that he actually believes he needs her forgiveness and not the other way around. I can barely even watch it, I hate seeing that kind of injustice.

[@emp9413]

Narcissist

[@hannahshmulsky7119]

@@emp9413yes she definitely is. They drain their victims like vampires and Cole is a shell by the time Zay’s done with him.

[@breevans5219]

I didn't think I could hate Zanab and her circle any more than I already did. I love Cole's arc and how he's grown and learned and honestly came out on top after Zanab did him beyond dirty. I really hope he finds a woman who gives him the love and respect he deserves, wishing all the best for him.

[@toastyfox2893]

It says a lot that the woman who raised Zanab went to Cole after the rejection at the altar and expressed that she was “sorry,” as though she knew what just happened to him was not his doing and he did not deserve it.

[@okoala62]

You said it well, the monologue in the end. Sometimes, we don’t get closure or an apology NOR even an acknowledgement from people that have wronged us. Some people won’t change until they HAVE to and not everyone gets to that point. It sucks but it’s a loss for them once they find that they are alone / unhappy / unliked.

[@Pwnners]

Most of the time it ends w/ the press of a button these days "Block account/number" And next time you hear of the hoe she has a wholeass new life. So ez to be a good looking women in relationships

[@asarishepard8171]

i got apologies for bad stuff done, but it was years later when i was over it. it was nice to hear an apology and i believe they meant it, but at that point i didn't need it. thats whats important, that you can get over it and not need one.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

Vengeance is good for your health and apologies are a waste of time. she did the right thing.

[@_..-.._..-.._]

@@gostavoadolfos2023 Yawn 🥱

[@tabris5304]

Cole is so mature. I am so impressed with him for sitting there and taking all of that from both Brendan AND Zanab and not arguing or defending himself. Man knew he couldn't win with this type of person, and so he didn't play. That is really tough to do, but he did it, and he's the bigger and better person. It sounds like therapy has helped him so much and I wish the best for him. As for her, I don't think Zanab could even stand to date herself, honestly, she just seems like the kind of person who is always annoyed, passive aggressive, terrible communication skills, huge victim complex, and someone who can't stand to even consider they might be wrong about anything. She seemed to be constantly trying to get some revenge and for what? He just wanted to move on. I'm sure she has some mental issues, I say this as someone with mental issues myself so its not an insult AT ALL, and I hope that things improve for her one day so she can enjoy a good and healthy relationship if thats what she wants. I had such a good time watching this story though, I have to say. So much entertaining and frustrating drama.

[@thatgirlinautumn5995]

That is so true, he was a true class act at the reunion (from what we’ve seen anyways, but he did seem very genuine). He seems incredibly self-reflected as well!

[@MichieHoward]

Preach!

[@Soy_boi]

The other problem is she is in an echo chamber that is constantly hyping her up and validating her toxic behavior.

[@fantomesauvage2663]

Why would a person want to look extra good for their ex when they are the one who rejected the ex? Sounds like he was already sold.

[@justposi]

To be extra mean and rub the salt in the wound

[@Mama_Bear524]

Same question

[@annoulag3621]

It’s childish, indeed

[@asarishepard8171]

its desperation.

[@biggie395]

Validation

[@katherinejimenezmatos2009]

They broke Cole man, and Zanab is the worst of them all. He aint perfect but you could see he was trying hard to better their relationship on his side, but she doesnt care. She gives me hard narc vibes💀💀💀 The rest of the cast are mostly bullies and jackasses. I hope he doesnt have to participate in anything with them again. L😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 why I'm not surprised Therapist paul getting that money and zanab learning legit NOTHING LOL

[@MooseShower]

Cole seems like a fun guy. I’d party with him

[@katherinejimenezmatos2009]

@@MooseShower same, he seems genuine and cool.

[@cpolt1192]

There is no way Zanab is telling the actual truth to her therapist and still believing she's got the higher moral ground. She doesn't want to grow, she wants to continue the toxic echo chamber life.

[@tinylama]

no, Brendon is the worst. you can argue that zanab was hurt and clearly has huge issues, but Brendon had no personal business with Cole and treated him like shit for no reason. he was extremely mean to him just because.

[@cpolt1192]

@@tinylama they both suck. Brennan is obvi a cuck loser. Zanab is an emotional child.

[@OrdinarySupergirl]

I agree 100%! Her low self-esteem made her overthink and misinterpret Cole. Hes young, immature and shallow (in a fun, im not passive aggressive way). It blew my mind how many people jumped on the band wagon based upon a biased opinion. And to know that after everyone watched themselves and saw what really occurred, no one had his back at all!

[@smartmarketing173]

Her therapist isn’t saying she’s wrong because she’s manipulating that situation too, she’s telling her delusional version of the story, essentially gaslighting anyone who’ll listen

[@jaxj968]

oh yeah that makes sense!

[@7salads]

It's always a good day when you get to spend an hour with Leo.

[@okoala62]

💯

[@cookie123539]

Definitely ‼️

[@weeble3140]

🤘🏽😎🤘🏽‼️

[@ZariyaJ]

Literally I get soo much homework done listening to him😂

[@mercedes_420]

@@ZariyaJ let’s hope ur answers aren’t all about Cole & Zanab 😆 jk lolz 😂 good job 😌🤗

[@ryanalexandra1297]

She did not love him, she didn’t even like him. I hate that she says that. It’s so manipulative. Compliments aren’t supposed to be followed by insults.

[@LoganDX1990]

And the true tragedy of this was that Cole really loved her

[@Invisible.fatty99]

She’s the emotionally abusive one Trying to be the victim soooo hard Not even just at the alter but in all of their interactions. Everything was a fight, she took everything he did as a personal attack. And then mocked Cole openly. Treating him like an incompetent child. It was exhausting.

[@asarishepard8171]

in that one conversation when cole was gently trying to explain how she was and she snapped back "I never thought you were lesser than me!" uhm, maybe, but your every word clearly states that, zay.

[@emp9413]

Narcissist playbook

[@captnkirksmoviequeue8294]

Super ironic that Brennen would say “what I know to be true and doesn’t matter if it’s hearsay” while dude literally got out of a Domestic Assault charge because it was “hearsay”

[@audryanne257]

Leo, I cannot express enough how refreshing and attractive it is to see a man explain the basics of a healthy relationship. You especially acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes and love is beyond what we see or expect on the surface level. When two mature adults make it a priority to communicate and respect each other’s feelings, and boundaries, that’s love. You explain it perfectly in all of your love is blind deep dive videos. I want let you know that I appreciate men like you 🥹 makes me feel hopeful that the rest of these idiots will maybe understand someday too 🥴

[@idkybily]

Took the words out of my mouth! 😍

[@nobodyinparticular1290]

Even if a dog gets kicked by its owner it'll still seek affection from them. Poor golden retriever man.

[@bluelight6517]

I sympathize so much with Cole cause I see myself in his situation. I was also super bubbly and happy and immature when I started to date a guy that literally killed that happy energy I had. When we broke up and I find a person who gave me back my happiness, one of my friends said "It's so good to see you smiling again, it's been a long time since I saw you smile" I'll never forget that.

[@007nadineL]

So you take no responsibility for anything you said here happened?

[@michaelrud4351]

If Cole was that toxic, she wouldn't have to fabricate things to vilify him

[@TheFatalcrest]

Why wouldn't they...you know televise it more too? As a example of how a guy was so toxic on the show the producers had to document and get rid of him.

[@ibtunesoriginals2629]

Asian Amber Heard

[@confetticake7813]

I cried during the Tell All for Cole. He was ripped to pieces and I felt like the whole thing was handled so negligently!

[@AveryWeinstein]

I agree with looking good for yourself. My good friend did my hair and makeup for my birthday dinner and when I looked in the mirror, I was beyond blown away. I felt so confident for the first time in a long time. My mom and sister wouldn’t stop telling me how good I looked, which made me so happy. I gave my friend all of the credit, as she made me feel amazing for my birthday night.

[@hunynutqueerios8730]

I absolutely love that for you. This made me smile. Happy late birthday from me! ❤🎉

[@CyanideAlert_]

That's so wholesomee Also you're gorgeous, belated happy birthday 💜

[@AveryWeinstein]

@@hunynutqueerios8730 Thank you!!😊

[@AveryWeinstein]

@@CyanideAlert_ Thank you!!☺️

[@tracey7093]

Leo, from just watching your love is blind videos I was able to keep up in conversation w my coworkers about the show. They think I'm a fan when in reality I only watch everything you post! Haha. Thanks for keeping me relevant

[@asalim948]

Omg! Same here!

[@jordanperdue8986]

This is literally me as well 😂 any type of reality tv show I go to Leo 😂

[@BeliiSpii]

Same here. It’s the best way to keep up

[@davidoneill7554]

Big brain moves, much respect 😎

[@tcf_iceland]

Wait, you actually DM'd her? I hope she watches this episode and realizes that you are the best therapist she could have! 😂😂😂😂

[@peweynewton3562]

Next week my wife and I will be celebrating 10 years of marriage. I don't know if it's an exception to the rule or the ingredients to a life long relationship... But we didnt really ever have to work hard or "fight for love"... It's been one of the easiest parts of my life and has made all our individual goals come easier too, with each other's support

[@Lenci_of_Hazelnut]

Congratulations! Me too. Just celebrated our 4th year of marriage, 7th year together. I used to think people were right when they said marriage was so hard, but now I just feel thankful that my relationship with my husband has made everything in my life easier, and I get to make life easier for him too.

[@ieatwildtigers]

I couldn’t tell you for sure because I’m not married, but I think the idea isn’t that you’re constantly going to have to fight for love, but rather that when the hard times come, even though it’s much easier to give up on it, you have to fight for that love

[@Merrowsteel]

@@ieatwildtigers this is my interpretation of it too! My husband and I will be married 4 years this year, and I know that’s not that long but let me tell you, that first year was HARD. And it wasn’t because of our relationship. I quit teaching, he lost his job, it was in the middle of the pandemic, I had just had a surgery and couldn’t walk/drive, we were surviving on one salary until I could find another job, and not to mention we were both fighting our own personal demons. But because we loved eachother so much we chose to stick together through the “hard”, and when we finally got to the end of the tunnel we were so much stronger for it. There were times where it would have been easier for us to go our separate ways but we had to fight for our relationship. And it was easy to choose to fight because we did love each other. Anyway, I don’t know if any of that made sense, but the bottom line is, any relationship is going to have it’s hard parts (even if the hard parts aren’t that hard). Fights, annoying habits, disappointment, etc. But because you love someone, you’re willing to deal with that, communicate, make compromises, and stay together.

[@asarishepard8171]

i think thats an important point to make. not everything should be a claw out fight to survive to keep. it should be abit easier to hold onto.

[@sarabear7828]

Me too! Married 1 year- together almost 5 😊

[@DPWFG]

I'm still convinced Zanab wanted a Deepti moment... I vaguely remember her mentioning something about Deeps wedding being right before hers during the reunion. Am I remembering correctly?

[@orrandclan]

I agree, that's what I thought, too. She saw how Deppti got sympathy as an actual victim of a bad match who stood up for herself in the end. Z wanted to match that "arc"; hence some of the trouble with these shows. It seems after the first season airs, subsequent seasons attract people who build their tv persona into what they WANT to be perceived as. It totally backfired because she wasn't a real victim of anything except her own ego and Cole putting his foot in his mouth (let us not forget that was the "honesty" she claimed to value so much in the beginning). Ironically, she ended up giving Cole an actual victim arc (and possible life long trauma). The public sees her 100% for who she is. She's a perpetual victim, possibly a strong narc, egotistical, unable to admit to any flaws, and definitely has a lot of work to do to be a good partner one day. Cole grew and matured through the process. In my opinion with over 2 decades of a happy marriage myself to analyze what works and doesn't first hand, I think he'll appreciate love when he finds it and he has grown enough to make it work. He also seems willing to do the work to change when needed, admit fault (even though he was basically gaslit into feeling at fault), and seemingly overall positive about life...and those skills are priceless in a healthy relationship. No real Christian (decent person in general) would pray at the alter before ripping someone's self esteem to shreds in front of friends and family. I think that move sealed all my thoughts about her. Trash move... girl needs to pray for an attitude adjustment and forgiveness. Thanks Leo for wading through the sewage of awful people for us, lol!

[@equidistanthoneyjoy7600]

Issue is, to get your Deepti moment you need a Shake as your partner.

[@leed4212]

Yes. I if I’m not mistaken, I noticed that production even sat Z and Cole in the places Deepti and Shake sat at their reunion.

[@notyourmom4ever]

If I were cole I would be absent at the party. Silence is the best revenge

[@pembrokelove]

I just wanted to say thank you for always making sure that your captions are on, even when they are just the auto captions. I'm having so much trouble with creators and the captions. I guess KZbin changed the way that the captions are turned on or something, because many of my favorite creators no longer have captions, and I'll request them and come back two or three days later and they might have them up then or they might still not be available. Years of always been available as soon as your videos drop, and I appreciate that as a Deaf fan.

[@victoriaskully]

Sorry to hear this but glad you can at least watch his. Good luck

[@chelly9131]

I'm taking that " one way to son a man.... is to become his father " lmaooo

[@necrowic]

I wish I could message Cole and tell him "You're going to be ok. You deserve so much better than a manipulative, lying gaslighter. And that you're much stronger than you think." He didn't deserve to be treated that way and she is just so insufferable.

[@huhs112]

So dramatic good lord 💀

[@cindy4628]

​@huhs112 its just basic empathy bro 💀 I would hate to be in your friend group wtf

[@Seypenni]

I think hyping your friends and staying by them is a good thing, but if you do that you should also respect them enough to put them back in their place. Especially if they are behaving in a way that's borderline delusional.

[@JackManic1984]

Zanab is going to be one of those forever alone ladies!

[@goblitch]

Cole did absolutely nothing to deserve this kind of toxic behavior. Sure, he made some mistakes, but this? They're acting like he's an abuser. Solely because Zanab says so, despite the publicly available evidence showing this to be a blatant lie. Really sad to see even the other men being manipulated into toxicity because they don't want to deal with the backlash from the girlsquad. If ANYONE is manipulating your friend group solely because they "don't like them" and forcing you to adhere to their will solely because they "don't like them", leave. That's not how you treat a partner; that's how you treat property.

[@amiahh6157]

that man really had sex w zenab then turned around and said im not attracted to her…idc what u say that man needs to rot

[@PrettyGhostX]

I can also bet on that IF they, the producers had ANY footage/evidence of the "abusive" she received from Cole or anything even close we would have seen it. She is really obnoxious and in the end, Cole really dodged a real bullet with her so I hope he finds a real woman who can make him happy and they can live happily together

[@theboregasms]

"To love is to get hurt. You just have to find the person who you want to forgive." Man, you nailed it.

[@tomhawkinson2162]

Zaneb talks about her parents death more than Bruce Wayne does his

[@lisele39]

😩🤣🤣

[@asarishepard8171]

i had a parent die when i was younger than she was (eight). i dont go around talking about it at every event. so her behavior really makes me mad and cringe.

[@Tuoyo3005]

She's more on par with that Iron Fist guy. He was like "hi my name is (whatever his name was) my parents died when I was 8". I don't remember much of that show but I remember that he never shut up about how his parents are dead 🙄

[@LoganDX1990]

Danny rand. And yeah you didn't miss anything

[@Jessica.Shawnte]

@@asarishepard8171i get what you’re saying but you had a parent that died both of hers died before she was 18

[@Beccastyles_]

I felt horrible for Cole. She treated him like he was a child the entire time. He deserves so much better! He's a sweetheart!

[@nayarimartinez8131]

the worst thing is she has a support group who keeps enabling her behavior and actively stands behind her no questions asked. If people stop putting up with her lies and give her a reality check, then i think she can change. But until then she'll stay the same person.

[@NaneelQueenOfDarknes]

So glad this is finally happening, girl needs to take some accountability for her own actions instead of projecting them all on cole.

[@htm5814]

Zanab reminds me of a Facebook minion meme. That is all.

[@sophiaaigotti9224]

I’m currently in a relationship with a golden retriever person and it’s the best relationship I’ve ever been in. Zay genuinely did not deserve Cole, she is too emotionally closed off to receive all the love he has to give. Cole deserves someone who will receive that love and give it back to him in return 💕

[@xaytana]

Mean girl cliques are such an obvious red flag that nobody actually tries to hide. It's so exhausting, but so is every toxic trait. I've never believed in jumping into relationships, and catching onto who a person is when they're around other people is the exact reason why; seeing how someone interacts with people outside of their clique is important too, I made the mistake of getting close to someone who ended up being an entirely different person depending on who they were around and how many people were around. Honestly, after some of the shit people have put me through, I don't even know if I can get close to someone at a platonic level, people are just so utterly unreliable and will absolutely turn on you for no reason; I had an overly jealous ex abuse me over _thoughts_ she had that had no logical basis in reality, she even isolated me from everyone for a significant period of time yet still continued acting on the bullshit in her head, I lost a close friend after knowing them for years because they got on some mean girl shit over the fact that we met by me casually approaching them when they believed I had further intent when I absolutely didn't and they _knew_ I didn't if they just took a second to not be toxic considering I never acted on intents I never had. I used to be the golden retriever type of guy but now I'm just so jaded because of toxic people, because I've learned that people can't be trusted to not be toxic, that people absolutely will not learn to be a better person, and it's even worse when these people are also fake as shit to the point that they don't even know who they are. I've learned that as an average guy nobody is there for you, because you're replaceable, you don't matter the moment someone finds something better. People are shit, and that's something that will never change.

[@asarishepard8171]

you poor poor man. id give you a hug but the computer blocks the way....

[@asarishepard8171]

also on the flip side, im a woman and its very weird to be attacked by otehr women, when mean girls take a look at you and decide theyre going to make your life miserable. maybe they can sense im not going to subscribe to their nonsense so they go on the offensive. ive worked with real hyenas like this before and it kills my soul.

[@tgfitzgerald]

It's not just guys my friend. I met a woman a few years ago and discovered we shared MANY mutual friends. So many I was actually surprised we hadn't met sooner. We became very close friends, VERY quickly (which I later realized was her intention from the beginning) and before long I trusted and confided in her. Unfortunately she turned out to be the most malignant narcissist I've ever encountered. She lied to all of my friends, claiming I'd said things about them I'd never said. She and her husband (who was actually a really nice guy) befriended my boyfriend, then she started making plans for the 3 of them to hang out when she knew I be there because I had to work. Then I found out she was texting my boyfriend, saying I was talking shit about him behind his back and telling everyone I was going to dump him. Ultimately I ended up losing 90% of my so called "friends" (which was actually a blessing in disguise) and would have lost my boyfriend as well if we hadn't finally read each other's texts and caught on to her scheme. Come to find out, she's done this kind of thing many times before and since. What's really crazy is that everyone knows about it yet they're all STILL FRIENDS WITH HER!! And I truly believe it's because people are so afraid of her they don't want to cross her and risk being her enemy. So yeah, you're absolutely right. Most people are shit and even the ones who wouldn't actually shove the knife in your back are usually too chickenshit to stand up to the ones who will. That's why I went from being a social butterfly who loved everybody to a hermit with like 2 friends.

[@huhs112]

Maybe communicate to the women you directly approach especially during a relationship that you have no interest in more than friendship 💀

[@anarose7193]

They genuinely invited cole to try to corner him again, poor guy

[@naz0098]

Cole at the party speaking to people is me with social anxiety but masking heavily

[@saganasivakumaran4242]

I agree 100%, because that’s how I act in social settings as an extremely anxious individual who does not want to come off as such.

[@mobyythicc]

Leo if you were a friend of mine you would be the friend I go to to talk about a break up and talk through my issues with. You seriously seem so emotionally mature and it’s not always easy to find someone that will look at things from both sides and say “hey, you were also in the wrong for this.” It’s so important to have friends who think and see things like this because it also helps us grow to get advice from someone like you. Anywayssss always loving the content! Much love and sending good vibes your way Leo 🙌🏼

[@zoorenard1101]

I wish Cole a great girl whos gonna enjoy his golden retriever vibes! Hes one of the best reality tv character arc Ive seen in a while! He really grown and deserve someone who will appreciate him! Hes actually kind of endearing 😂

[@SuzanneIYN]

Zanab “I am extremely single” Geez I can’t imagine why. Zanab “I’m over it, I’m healed….but I also want to recreate a dress to remind everyone of the moment I’m obviously not over” Zanab “You dogged me everyday Cole” Also Zanab *dogs on Cole for a year over a question about a type of orange* Zanab “I don’t want to talk to Cole. Buuuuut if he wants to talk to me…..” And also, for Brennan to go that hard and angry at Cole at Alex’s birthday was too fcking weird. I could never be that emotionally invested in a beef between a guy and girl I only knew for 6 weeks a year ago.

[@daisylavenderlove]

This is everything! So true. & Brennan, as this fine man is saying, has no thoughts of his own.

[@ThePoptartjunkie]

Who would have thought Cole would be the emotionally mature one. I think the whole incident with Colleen sent her spiraling. I think she has major insecurities and past trauma that needs healing. She was in no way ready for a big commitment like marriage. It seems like she just like the idea of being in a committed relationship to fill a void in her life. I kind of feel sorry for her though. No way am I defending her actions towards Cole, but sometimes when we're triggered we act in certain ways. We've all got our shit and nobody's perfect. I just hope she gets therapy and sorts herself out before her next relationship.

[@Invisible.fatty99]

I’m so glad to see others agreeing with this! Me and my partner were screaming at our tv repeatedly with this couple. She was so manipulative and passive aggressive. He was a golden retriever but you could tell he really tried and cared. And then her trying to twist it like he was the bad guy? Gross When you see the clips she talks about she’s borderline delusional at best and a sick liar at worst. And then everything at the alter? 🙄 I’m just glad they didn’t get married

[@Tuoyo3005]

Urgh! Same! We would pause every couple of seconds to deconstruct. We felt she was just eating away at him every opportunity she got. If you love and respect someone, it will also show in the way you express your displeasure.

[@RX7Qball]

I was dying 29 min in when Leo started talking about Alexa's mom🤣

[@neonstream6935]

Why aren’t you a therapist? Or a life coach, or speaker? You are very articulate, clear, straight to the point, and spot on every time. Very much enjoyed your breakdown of their interactions. Asks that woman knows exactly what she is doing, she is so poisonous. She is an Amber H. Gaslighter, who needs to let her husband watch the show on his own. Crazy.

[@WhereIsMyCake]

The part where Leo sent Zenab a DM was really funny. Props to you Leo! 😂

[@tcf_iceland]

I love that when you say "it's finally party time" the automatic closed captions say "it's finally potty time" 😂🤣💩💩💩🥳🥳🥳

[@lydz7451]

Bless you for taking the hit for all of us so we don't have to watch the dumpster fire but can stay in the loop ❤

[@scottydont1986]

Thank you so much for sharing a little bit of your experience with situations like this. When I heard you start to talk about your own experience, it was very therapeutic for me, because I recently went through something with a friend who broke my heart and hurt me more than I’ve been hurt in a really long time. This person also messed with me and I was too blind to see what they were doing all along, because I genuinely thought they were a really good person and they cared about me. I went back to them a couple of times to try to get some closure and they wouldn’t even admit to doing anything wrong at all. You really helped me by sharing a little part of your story and I realized I don’t need to get any closure from that person, I can find it myself. Thanks, Leo! 🙏

[@leileyaravencroft]

I haven’t seen the last video because nothing hurts me more than to see someone cry. With that being said, the way she and her friends are talking about Coke… dang.. wouldn’t talk to a dog like that. From what I’m hearing and seeing from this, he actually changed. That speaks VOLUMES about his character. Sure, he was probably a d, but, he changed. She went in a b and she still is a b.

[@e0jay]

Why do these females think that acting like you're in high school at 30 is acceptable??

[@MooseShower]

I forget how old they are because yeah, they really be acting at MOST like they just turned 20

[@Mama_Bear524]

Right?! As a fellow female it’s so cringe to watch

[@highlyquestionable9802]

why females? just say women

[@MooseShower]

@@highlyquestionable9802 Imagine judging 30 year olds without knowing what synonyms are

[@smilesfordays]

It’s got big “peaked in high school” energy and couldn’t deal with real life. 🤷‍♀️

[@Elissa_Marie]

I really wish Cole wouldn’t have went over to her. That’s what she was wanting and expecting. She just wants to keep twisting the knife every chance she gets. And she knows he didn’t fat shame her when she was eating an orange. She just made that up to try to make him look bad after everyone started calling her out for what she did to him the entire show. That’s just my opinion though. He made one mistake in the very beginning of the show and zanab and her friends act like he murdered someone. I don’t think she’ll ever change. She really didn’t deserve another apology from Cole. I wish Cole would stand up for himself when it comes to her. She’s very abusive. I couldn’t be friends with someone like her. I hope Cole is able to find real love and live a really happy and healthy life with that person.

[@faiillusri]

Honestly you seem a lot more difffrentiated and balanced in your views and it's been a pleasure watching your perspectives evolve over time. Love your content and you sharing your thoughts with us, keep on going strong!

[@stefaniagaitan9836]

Leo makes life so much better. Hope this guy is just a good vibe as he is in his videos. Cause I definitely don’t know these shows hahah. Even when I’m playing his long videos, during the late night and asleep… I always cheer up a bit. Thank you for those moments.

[@Luvandrockettes]

The reunion was filmed after the after the altar special, so a lot of things that happened later are not discussed in this 3 episodes, Raven confirmed this in a podcast

[@jenniferp4612]

Zanab is the type to surround herself with Yes people. And the type to twist stories so she always comes out as the victim. She needs to grow up. Cole deserved so much better

[@s0lastsummer7]

I don't watch any of these shows, but I never miss one of your videos about them. 😂 I hope you're feeling better in your heart these days; you deserve all the happiness in the world. 😊🖤

[@BizyJKO13]

My boyfriend has Golden retriever energy and I can confirm you just gotta be nice to them and communicate openly!! My heart breaks for Cole every time you talk about him

[@Manac0r3]

Clear you experienced triggers in this video bro. So thank you for putting yourself out there. Love and respect brother ❤🙏

[@untafsirable]

OMG! The laughing lady (witches laugh) is non other Dato' Vida 😂😂😂

[@richardsonIII]

I had to turn the volume down when you were talking about stubborn people not taking accountability, ("but BUT BUT BUT" )so my partner didn't hear and laugh his ass off as an internet stranger called me out so hard.

[@rachelhoward5743]

Watching this in my cubicle at work and then randomly laughing, making all my co-workers think I'm crazy! Awesome way to start my Wednesday, thank you for breaking up the monotony 😂

[@troublenesss]

That girl is unbearable and impossible. Love your break down and analysis, as always!✌🏻

[@maahnii6555]

I can sympathize with how Cole chooses not to be confrontational with Zanab and Brenan. You kind of know if the person in front of me can be reasoned with (or willing to listen to me) after a few exchange. How Zanab closes the conversation with “you are a bad guy” and Cole simply responds “ok” shows how genuine this guy is. Zanab sensed that she can walk all over him because he would let her, and she’s having a power trip which is only reinforced by her mean girl friends.

[@whatifschrodingersboxwasacofin]

Well. Whoever you hired as your new editor is hitting it out of the park and has nailed your style. Nicely done! ❤

[@Bunny.F00.F00]

I don't watch this stuff, but I watch you go over all of it lol I love your videos

[@rosshugill9548]

I love how give context in most of your videos I have enjoyed watching and rewatching your videos been here for a while and no one entertains me more than you do without you id never be able to sleep you relax my brain (I have adhd so I don’t really get tired but you make my brain slow down and relax)

[@beetee8447]

AZ born and raised! Love your Suns Beanie Leo! PS: I think you mean the 3 Wicked Witches plus 1 from Shakespeare, just looked it up. The Weird sisters in Macbeth 😂

[@Citrus_Spr1nkles862]

I don't understand how grown people can waste so much energy hating someone else when the conflict could easily be resolved by saying how you feel. While finding the words can be hard it can't be as hard as looking back and regretting how you spent so much time. It can't be worth as much pain as it causes. They're grown people in grown relationships but act like they have no idea what's at stake or how to be an actual person. Like teenagers or young adults with no life experiences that have shaped them. They act like any argument or comment made without thought is meant to be hurtful. If you are in it for the long haul disagreements are gonna happen. It's how you handle them, not them happening that makes the relationship.

[@asarishepard8171]

these type of people are everywhere, theyre unrepetenant aholes. or they have major character syndrome so how dare someone go against them. or imagined go against them.

[@lullabylicia7090]

This has been my beef with girls my entire life even my own friends (granted I believe them hyping me up was due to us being immature teens) but for a long time I would never know my issue as a person because all I had were yes people around me and I would constantly be the one that boyfriends would break up with me, so I never grew. Ladies be real with your friends, you can be nice about it but let’s be real

[@s4di.3]

Did boys never tell you what you did wrong or did you just not listen bc of the yes ppl?

[@aikaendi3650]

Pickme

[@froglegstastebestsalted]

​@@aikaendi3650Jesus Christ, no wonder you can't get feminism to work after damn near 200 years straight of it, you fucking pathetically claw at eachother like this.

[@huhs112]

You shouldve known that yourself 💀

[@melissaj1310]

Cole got done dirty. There is nothing he could have said that would have satisfied Zanab. I hope both of them find the healing they need and have good lives.

[@buddygrouper3599]

I think Cole -- and the next person he dates -- are actually pretty lucky. Most people need their penultimate relationship where they learn the other person has needs and feelings that are equally as important as theirs but the connection ultimately fails. Cole's next person will reap the benefits of all that emotional growth without the trauma of going through the growing pains of having learned it.

[@whathappenedwas7083]

She says she wants a man to call her out, but when cole does sit her down bodily and with love.. she is so offended.

[@moniion7415]

When you got personal, I really felt that. I went through something similar and I just always got hurt in the end. But because I always felt bad and felt like giving multiple chances, it always burned me in the end. You really do have to be vulnerable and willing to change, bc some will say they want to change and then end up doing the same stuff they always do. If you went through similar experiences, keep your head up, hopefully things will turn out.

[@AlexisTwoLastNames]

man. your relationship advice has really helped me be rational about navigating a new relationship i’ve been in for a couple of months as someone who overthinks, has very little experience dating, and has a lot of insecurities and is a natural people pleaser. you remind me to keep myself a priority, to think with a clear head, to look at love as an addition to my happiness and not the creator of it. i truly thank you, my dude. it’s helpful.

[@anetak.9494]

The first thing you said about cole is such a big truth that so many people seem to forget.. they all expect a perfect acting human being and are so unforgiving when someone makes a mistake,unable to distinguish between a person who is really trying to improve and a person who is genuinely mean and horrible. Cole was just immature but had his heart in the right place. Zainab is full of trauma and hate.

[@DRACOCHIEF]

The expression "your friends are an extension of self" applies to Zanab perfectly.

[@ooze8354]

I dislike girls like her. Her: i misunderstood your words, you should have communicated better. Also her: if you misunderstood my words, it's your fault. I love this mental bs.

[@lalalanidani]

Poor guy didn't deserve this 😔 he handled this mess so well though and became a man any woman would be lucky for imo hope he heals well.

[@Toonksbell43]

Zanab basically said in the end “everything I did was right, you were bad to me 1000%, what did you expect me to say? So yeah nothings my fault” and then Cole just has to sit there and take it again when he’s trying to get to a point where they can both say hey I’m sorry it went this way, but Zanab just steamrolled that to make herself the victim and kind of explain nothing

[@thebigkapowski]

Nancy and Cole should get together. They both seem like decent people. Edit: God help the guy Zanab dates next. Oof.

[@MooseShower]

It would make a cool plot twist

[@phizzy123]

after the way nancy vilified cole at the reunion solely based off the lies zanab told her? nah, they can all leave him alone tbh.

[@thebigkapowski]

@@phizzy123 Good point. Agreed!

[@mumumaxima]

No, she defends Zae, the witch. Honestly, it’s a good thing knowing her man rejected her, so everyone gets to know her afterwards for being bitter and not cool in a reunion.

[@xavieranderson6915]

The next guy might be Leo 😂

[@heyitstay_09sutton74]

Brandon and Alexis have always given me the ick

[@sabrinathegreat4961]

I’m so happy you made this video I thought I was the only one super confused as to why everyone was so rude to him- she lied and gaslit and was just AWFUL

[@chemystrypassionfyre729]

Omg the whole time I just wanted to shake Cole and say "LEAVE. HER. ALONE. SHES CRAZY. MOVE ON!" xD and omg he needs to get a backbone and stand up for himself. Like they're out there acting like hes a wife beater when he literally did nothing wrong! Don't talk to her on your own because even with cameras she is so delusional she will twist everything to make you look like the bad guy. Stay far away! Omg. Cole seems like a really nice fun guy but a bit too soft. Zanab saying "I don't have beef with you" like yesterday she was calling him a clown 🙃 gtfo

[@Invisible.fatty99]

THIS 🙌

[@meggy_eggy557]

It’s so upsetting that Zanab has a giant following on the internet (or at least Instagram) that believe she did nothing wrong. She made Cole to be a terrible person even though he didn’t do anything she said he did.

[@mumumaxima]

Well, after watching how manipulative she is, buying a follower is a good option.

[@xryxix]

It's just messed up seeing people get treated any kind of way...never been right

[@EternalCaretaker]

I like how each day is a new experience. Where will Leo be today? Standing with white balancing? Standing without? Will he be in his kitchen? Will he be in his room? Will he be in his room with a desk? Will he be in his room with table? Will he be seated? What pictures will be in the background?

[@Mama_Bear524]

😂