Girls Just Wanna Have Fun - Kevin Samuels Started this Conversation (Episode 82)

[@thinkredpill5118]

Just found this channel, let’s thank the algorithm for the blessing 🔥

[@wnttalk]

lol Welcome to the ministry brother🙏🏿

[@kevinsmith4814]

yeh the Al G. Rithm pulled me too lol

[@gratefulliving4155]

“It’s his job to make sure everyone is happy. “ No! Fellas do not allow yourself to be emotionally abused. Everyone is responsible for the own happiness.

[@taybiztv]

Faaaacts!!

[@jg8807]

I peeped that shit along with the special unicorn "Need to be right" jargon

[@diegomagellan]

Yea don’t light your self on fire to keep others warm

[@michaelmarion7360]

A leader has to check-in though. You cannot leave her to her own devices or she will destroy herself and possibly her children as well. You maintain a woman the way you maintain a car.

[@openmindchannel1978]

This sounds good but it's stupid and don't make much sense in some context. True if your are living by yourself and single it's your responsibility to keep yourself or make yourself happy. But, on the other hand if you are in a relationship with husband, or wife and kids involves, yourself is not enough to keep yourself happy, It would be somewhat a shared happiness.

[@BirdFinder100]

I’ll be honest Obi, I might be done too. Im in a place in my life where I’m not tolerating an ounce of combativeness or ratchetness, or any women who thinks she can jockey for headship in the home. I came out of a 5 1/2 year marriage with a women who filed for a divorce under the pretenses of irreconcilable differences. She wasn’t happy. I never stepped out on her, no abuse, nothing. I provided a large part of her livelihood throughout med school by the way. This is a women who, when I met her, was devout in her Christianity. She still believes that til this day. I know I’m a good man - people tell me this often. But my experiences with black women growing up, and my ex-wife, gave me a reason to go where I’m celebrated, not tolerated. Im not dealing with it.

[@DVX755]

I feel ya......dont accept the negativity as it can literally cost men hundreds of thousands of dollars if not millions when people divorce, mostly the mens money.

[@acct4600]

latina women are better. i'm never going back to bIack women.

[@cloudnationmedia8326]

What scares you about a woman's love? If I was asked this at 20 yrs old I would say nothing. Today, I would say love doesn't scare me, it's the illusion of love that can be dangerous. When a Black man loves, he loves fully. That gives an unusual amount of power to the woman in whom has his heart. With the wrong person, this can turn a productive man to a broken vessel.

[@vendeezel]

This is kinda what I was thinking. Love doesn't scare us; It's the possibility that it's not real. But that's a risk both sides take. U can't be in the other person's head 2 ever know 4 sure.

[@babyhazelz]

So you’re not frightened or discouraged of love but it’s the vulnerability that has you discouraged? I want to apologize on the behalf of whatever women violated your trust. In a perfect world she should’ve been honest and given you a choice and vice versa. Thank you for speaking your truth. The world would be a better place if most followed your example.

[@MaxPowers2.0]

@@babyhazelzthat’s not what he said. It’s not the vulnerability that he fears. It’s being used and not having your love reciprocated.

[@RM-uk4xq]

Bottom line - don’t make decisions based on a woman thinking that she’s a unicorn and can change her character instantly when the circumstances call for it

[@KevinSmith-xt8xr]

🥵 whewww

[@Mickey21Boyce]

They all think there different

[@erictoombs4842]

So many women try to negotiate, rather than do what works. So many women have so many words, and not enough substance. She missed the LeBron analogy that he used, and it was spot on. LeBron's wife is very respected, despite not being in the lead position.

[@drich2579]

This channel should really be much bigger than it is, I don’t miss an episode… this chick had me laughing bc it seemed like she was repeatedly shooting her shot but I ain’t mad at her lol

[@imperator8657]

The masculine mindset is entrenched this guest. I think that these interviews should be marketed as comedy. No masculine man will buy what is being sold in this interview!! Only weak men want a "boss bae"!!!!

[@tyquandoe3490]

Only boss bae needs a beta to give her that female energy and support she need. He makes for a great wife

[@imperator8657]

@@tyquandoe3490 True

[@julsdubb6344]

"A Mother's love does everything for your survival, another women's love is for their own".

[@candyheirjones7461]

She is clueless about how a good relationship would work.

[@SoSuave3]

Most females have ALL the answers, and in the same space, have none.

[@yoyotwee]

Chaos

[@NatHenrickClarke]

Yea, but they never know the dude they're picking ain't ish, ( yeah right🧐)

[@SoSuave3]

@@NatHenrickClarke No, they know, that’s why they like them. The ain’t schlit dude ain’t in a position to judge them. They don’t like judgement unless they are the ones doing the judging.

[@Illalcap]

@@SoSuave3 BINGO

[@NatHenrickClarke]

@@SoSuave3 I agree that's why I put yeah right in parentheses, I was being sarcastic

[@rodmandrake2101]

" I'm a MF who is going to make everything work how I want it to work" REDFLAG......

[@Destro237]

The coddling she claims happens is actually neglect. Letting boys run the streets freely, not teaching them life skills like how to cook, maintain a house, etc. That's not coddling.

[@ArtfulDodger566]

Benign neglect

[@kiriende3691]

Notice the first thing she would do with the women's delegation is to do something to correct the men as if BW don't have major issues in and amongst themselves. These women have been convinced that their ish don't stink and their only problem is outside of themselves.

[@510t-mac]

Real talk

[@malikaustin9087]

BOOM! 💥💥

[@kennethsmith6367]

You notice she accidentally admitted the women KNOW they are sleeping with the same incompetent men. That’s why she said they should probably get together and try to correct him.🤷🏾‍♂️

[@shorts26]

They know it's them they're just shifting the blame so they don't have to fix themselves

[@richrowlandjr]

Communication is key, so she says. What happens when her feelings change tomorrow?

[@gregorylagrange]

That came from a woman who kept trying to finish what he was saying by asking a question in the middle of his statement that didn't have anything to do with what he was saying in the first place.

[@CuirPhotodotNet]

@@gregorylagrange ....exactly....

[@GB2139]

I heard a brother said: “It’s a lost battle, men retreat and organize , we will back stronger!”

[@sekougetrouw6828]

She is a unicorn who knows everything.

[@shihoblade]

They can never stsy on the general. Always want to get specific or dodge the actual trends. So dishonest.

[@Ben-Ken]

Women think "communication" will change basic biological urges, psychology and reality.

[@riddickj16]

When all else fails. Women have to use the that’s not every women rebuttal

[@carlforpresidentanthony4574]

so she said feminism has messed us up then proceeded to be the ultimate feminist. wow #wheresMYpassport

[@faheemfaquir1024]

How is she feminist?

[@faheemfaquir1024]

@ok Feminist don't believe men are the leader in the household, a woman was made to be a helpmate and to make a man's life easier. I do.

[@faheemfaquir1024]

@ok Maybe you're just talking

[@carlforpresidentanthony4574]

@@faheemfaquir1024 did you listen to literally every thing she said after the beginning?. every point was sign language and no accountability... so like ok said... dude you're a male feminist. heres a tip leave it to the women bruh. you're embarrassing yourself and us

[@faheemfaquir1024]

@@carlforpresidentanthony4574 I asked you for an example of what she said that was feminist. Otherwise you gentlemen have a good day

[@jehrardmartin4340]

I really think this is the kind of woman the black community needs. She keeps him in line but never over steps. I like here delivery. She always keeps her points clear, then loops it back to communication. She's good.

[@510t-mac]

Ok maybe 1/8 I can understand, but real talk naaaw folks she’s JUST LIKE THEM females TGAT NEEDSTO TURN INTO A WOMAN

[@510t-mac]

Maaan folks if you think 🤔 from a standpoint of wonderful wife that is not what she is could she be an ok/maybe 🤷🏾‍♂️ girlfriend naw just keep her as a coworker because she’s allll about the females and not the Woman. also Man She would want to fight take back. Anyways folks you be safe

[@cw5971]

I've been watching these videos for months now and it amazes me how seemingly the vast majority of sisters can take something that should be so simple (not easy, but simple in concept), which is male- female relationships, and make it so needlessly convoluted and complicated. It's like Black men are asking for a flat tax for individuals and corporations and sisters respond with the current U.S. tax code. Just like the tax code is written to mainly benefit wealthy individuals and corporations, western women in general have framed relationships to mainly benefit themselves. It's their opinions and actions which make SYSBM so appealing. To be clear, for those of us who only want Black women, there are Black women ALL OVER THE WORLD! We're not limited to the ones here.

[@kennethreynolds7660]

There's a rnb song called "circles" I like. The women that come on this platform will never come to realize the damage they've contributed to black relationships. They just want to keep going in circles. I'm done!! I'm dizzy!

[@bigsteve3530]

I don't tolerate any level of SIGN language. These broads just has to be right about everything. SMH.

[@BookerT1]

this conversation has to be had at 10 11 12 years old….. talking to a woman when she’s damn near 30 is too late.

[@KingMK31]

This was a conversation I really liked. Keep up the good work with your channel, I come here just to hear the dialogue and see what I can learn from it!

[@wnttalk]

🙏🏿Thank you so much

[@KingMK31]

@@wnttalk No, thank you. These conversations need to be had, and by you doing so its helping to bridge the gap between a lot of miss information between the sexes.

[@wnttalk]

@@KingMK31 That's the goal✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿

[@biggmixxo]

The key is she said she will fall in line with what your doing. She's smart.

[@derekhowell4005]

She asked a phenomenal question - "What scares you about a woman's love (Outside of your mother)?" and I don't think the question is ever articulated well enough, especially the way she asked it. The clearest answer is this...it's conditional. The main impetus that it is conditional isn't the issue because we understand that life itself comes with conditions and you learn to operate within them. Men's issue comes in with the fact that unconditional love is reserved for women, children and pets. Your mother (and if you're blessed to have it fathers) love is unconditional regardless of what or who you are. The woman you commit yourself to for life loves you on the condition that you (as a man) provide value to her and her potential offspring. Should you fall below the threshold of what her required output of value should be, then you become compromised and she's looking for the replacement to secure her survival. Operating under the notion that if life happens to a man to the point where your value is compromised and resources become a finite thing, you know eventually that woman could possibly step out or outright leave is a terrifying reality men have to face. This is why every (competent) man is working themselves to the bone to never have to experience that reality if they can avoid it. Even then, the conditions still may not be enough and is why most men just choose to remain alone. They surmise risk isn't worth the reward anymore unfortunately.

[@mrd3870]

Did anyone notice she claimed to be a unicorn, but same all the same things other women say. men to to get out of their heads. As soon as she started to develop other women gave her info to make her fearful of men. She's running things but won't work while pregnant. He has to make enough to hold it down while she chooses not to work. But at no point have I heard her say anything about the man being her leader. Women today want everything they do to be negotiable. But what they will TAKE is never negotiable. And especially with Black women. Good luck to you. But, my zones and nephews won't be told that thus is a good idea.

[@subjectmatterexperts2550]

She is fine as wine.

[@QUNYC7]

Yes, from the neck down.

[@deoncovington9485]

Great conversation

[@KevinSmith-xt8xr]

‪Learn to decipher the difference between connections and attachments. Pure connections give you energy and authentic power, attachments drain you and throw you off course.‬

[@malikaustin9087]

Fkn BRILLIANT 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@jayeverything]

I love her long hair and her nails............... so natural

[@snuffa.luffagus7588]

She walks in, stops, and sits nicely. 👍🏾👍🏾

[@Sinceredagreatnyc]

As oppose to what? Haha

[@s.s.6329]

She just has a really nice figure!!!!!!!

[@mreincome]

What's crazy is the toxicity of the black girl code this obviously intelligent ambitious beautiful young lady just presented bro broke down 2 scenarios where black women was dead wrong one she didn't speak on and the other she says is "pimpin" this is a major problem black women gonna defend each others bullshit one way or another

[@mp9931]

Another banger! Side note: Bro please please stop the using the N word. As a black man who uses the N word, when we use it “publicly” it discredits our work and dilutes the message you’re trying to convey. Keep up the good work Boss.

[@acct4600]

what was the context he used it in?

[@vendeezel]

"Sustainability" sounds like not wanting 2 have 2 adjust. Having children in itself is an adjustment. U can't always plan ur way out of things.

[@kamfromtmrradio3088]

She doesn't truly understand. KS said it best real dudes are TERRITORIAL with their women. I DO NOT want my wife to be beholden to another mofo. Period. Me: Yo lets go do something Her: Nah I gotta go to work..... NOPE! HELL NO... This is why my wife is a SAHM and she receives a percentage of my income as do wtf ever you want money. She "works" for the family.

[@camden336]

Get a passport. Problem solved

[@kevinsmith4814]

a woman love dont scare me... not matching her love does scare me... fear of failing...

[@tommytee6290]

we. are. hopeless. I honor you Allen for trying...you do a great job...but they don't get it...mainly bcuz they don't wanna get it...there seems to be a fundamental lack of respect for Black men in general...for good reason in many cases...but GENERALLY they don't respect us...so how can we build? It almost forces us to divest just for them to respect the fact that we have options...but that ain't working either...hence...we. are. hopeless.

[@Papadidas]

Good talk 👍🏿

[@TheBigDre23]

@WeNeedToTalk salute to you brother love the work 🫡💪🏾 I didn’t know you were in SC. I’m from Columbia born and raised. Continue your ministry and would love to help the ministry ✊🏾

[@Unsalsero]

What scares me most about a woman’s love? The expiration of it.

[@cw5971]

Men aren't afraid of love, we just know your "love" will change once you're angry and we're in divorce court in front of a judge and you're taking our children from us and running our pockets.

[@tavisshipp2225]

Texas gang wya

[@MrDee001]

Regarding her love question. Love is a feeling that changes. Women often fall out of relationships because their love for their current partner changes. Love cannot sustain a purpose driven relationship. Loving a partner for various traits or actions is quantifiable. Emotional love is irrational and dangerous especially if you are the provider.

[@joejett5084]

Love grows, women fall in lust.

[@ALT3REDB3AST]

Women's love is opportunistic and conditional. Men love idealistically.

[@MrLayz_DaPipe]

(5:21) pressure bust pipes, Kids are inevitable.Fast.Not.Slow.

[@malikaustin9087]

I don't think they GET IT but keep GIVIN IT

[@ryelwilliams6482]

transparency

[@jackharris9835]

Just get fit, feminine, friendly your natural hair no lashes, no raptor claws let's start there.

[@dpayne3646]

Communication is nothing with the actions to back it

[@PA-qv2dy]

Listening to her, I can see why bruthas say appreciate what you’re doing, but I’m out. She isn’t realistic or solutions oriented!!

[@rwwdzzm5608]

I liked the conversation one daughter is a cardiologist the other is an attorney blue collar son phd son college son thug daughter. The constant with all is to do what works for you there is no one size fits all that’s the problem for most people they try to do what other people

[@christopherclinton1141]

We see it bro repping the 803.

[@openmindchannel1978]

The answer is very simple , women should stop acting or thinking that they know how to picked or choose men, because datas and stats have proven you don't know at all..

[@delvinking5151]

803?!?!?! I'm from Columbia, don't lie on us😑... I live in Chicago tho🤣🤣🤣... damn.. I was just bout to say how fine I thought she was too😤😤

[@Olyrous]

This lady needs to understand that men have emotional needs as well and cannot be satisfied by a masculine, bossy, hustling women. You can call men insecure and egotistical, but a healthy functional male wants to feel powerful and in command of his woman.

[@blackyodaprime]

She's definitely not a unicorn.

[@swellscity5792]

She brought out the bible 🤔🤔 i want to see that clip Also I'm so tired of women expressing the word communication... and then being victims of multiple relationships 🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️

[@albertrobinson4133]

Whole time black families is only the first step to building our communities and we been struggling with that for how long now? Das crazy

[@davidclass7150]

Men put yourself first ok regardless and make yourself better for yourself period ok they love fun all the time she Said girls want have fun all the time so that's it so we sysbm and passport it and let these sistas figure it it be too late ok say stop cuddling them don't be an f boy leave them alone

[@dafloatinbar4072]

Wont stop talking long enough to learn anything new. Asking questions and wont shut up long enough to hear the response. Interrupting mid sentence but constantly saying communication is key. Needs to learn to be quiet, listen and process new information. Difficult, disagreeable modern woman. I admire you ability to sit and endure speaking with these women.

[@PappPolo773]

16:55 in regards to this. Women are just designed that way. If they feel Line they the boss they will belittle their man. They will… the majority of these kind of women run shit at work and come home and think they can talk to their man at home the same way and I for one ain’t going for that Shit. I have my own money too and I expect to be treated a certain way by my woman. If she too strong and can’t know her place I’ll just get another woman that will kindly and happily know her place and the order of things. I’m not a dictator but this not a democracy either

[@kreativeforce532]

she wants to have a "conversation" because she doesn't accept that the husband has to shut her outside job down once she's having his children. She must follow him where his work goes period. No discussion, no negotiation. What she's hinting at is the matrilocal matriarchy that BGS has talked about. Where the sistas don't want to go where a brotha is going because she wants to maintain control over the house, and city setting. Most of these conversations are made moot by simply surveying Black ppl UXR style and asking: what is your sex? what is ideal for us as a people; being matriarchal or patriarchal, matrilocal or patrilocal, matrilineal or patrilineal? Thats a 3squared possiblity of combinations and they aren't being put in those terms hence all the confusion amongst us. Diasporans are composed of varying tribes who have had most of but not all of those types of social structures. Then thats subsumed under white society which is a ppp combo.

[@jjoy7992]

Allen she literally just said women do nothing wrong the whole convo. She was just slick about it. If you pay attention. No respect from me on my end. Sorry not sorry.

[@jaquan1798]

I’ll be honest as well I love us coming together if it’s ever possible, but I might have to agree from what I experienced with the black woman I loved dearly, did me dirty , lied when I held home down always and was with a lesser guy behind my back , she tried to even say she was pregnant knowing I didn’t shoot the club up… simply already projecting as if she would put the baby on me,since I’m more responsible, when it wasn’t mine. And to this day I don’t know if she really was or not but that’s just half smh

[@Demsky83]

Why do women think there is a flip they can switch to change their personality.

[@cedricrobinson374]

6:13 💪🏿

[@Olyrous]

Conclusion: she is a unicorn, so none of the issues with women apply to her.

[@kouplegrand]

To answer her ? A mother a love you with no conditions(up or down). Where as, a woman you dealing with definitely a put conditions on it. It’s conditions on the way she loves you before she gets with you. An example of that is the standards she have.

[@mayankingrevisited8815]

Black women keep it up The Gen Z prom viral photo will be the norm

[@Lovebrix99]

There's no need to try to use that as a scare tactic because it's already the norm. It's also the norm for gen z black girls as well

[@TheSockbottom]

Bro these women don't get it. 95% of American and western women are in a journey of no return. 😂

[@justinkendrick3753]

She said she would up and leave her company while she still gringing to build it... CAPPPPPPP

[@tobymo32]

This lady is fine as hell and she has a beautiful smile.

[@mayankingrevisited8815]

Sigh

[@overdrammtic04]

If everyone is a Unicorn then who's the problem? I'll admit that she's dead on with the need for real heartfelt consistent detailed communication parties who want to date each other

[@Kei5ive]

10:28 ( what scares you about a woman's love? ) It's fickle or delusional. The universe has showed me many times. People that use words don't mean it. Love shown to me from action is the realest love in my life.

[@hiprofael]

Women really do just argue to argue. She keeps saying she believes it will work "in the beginning" Looks like she doesn't realize relations are meant to go beyond the beginning. Why's that even a point to make?

[@mayankingrevisited8815]

Women think in the moment

[@Mikelarryyyyy]

I couldn't focus on the discussion after I notice how BIG HER HANDS are

[@StraightFromTheMet]

Gtfooh!!! 😭😭😭😭

[@jjshbk]

He said," he is critical of Christianity' So where do he get his standard of good and evil, right and wrong? No relationship would work for him.

[@deondricksteen4606]

I don't understand the mom coddles boys' argument when as soon as they teenagers they are treated like men. Also, they never want to talk about the daddy daughter relationship. Also, girls couldn't go out like that because a lot of women need to be honest, they would have been fast as hell.

[@themarathoncontinues4211]

Treated like men before we turn teenagers a lot of the times. Told we have to provide etc

[@lorddj9910]

@@themarathoncontinues4211 if that ain’t the truth

[@robertfant4628]

She don't get it she's going to be problematic and it's not worth the headache, she skipped answering several questions that were foundational and she sideways from other answers to give a justification a series of reasons that lead to incompatibility, she has preconceived ideals of what men think that a woman supposed to be doing! Instead of doing what she's supposed to be doing as a woman that doesn't rely on him being there, when he's got meetings or has to go on a trip. Her theory of man is barefoot, pregnant or cheating, but she doesn't want to work when she's pregnant and she wants the best of everything she can possibly get access to.

[@marcusthomas6998]

She talks to much and doesn't listen. She needs to pick her dog early.

[@kouplegrand]

Guess I’m the only one watching from Chicago lol

[@youmeanblackamericanculture]

Na we in here

[@marcel3942]

That woman was on Kevin Samuel’s show first

[@SL-fx9bp]

I don’t understand why you continue to try to talk to these ladies about their role in relationships. They are not raised not to be domestic women at all,it’s a loss cause,it’s too late. I still salute you Allen for all you do and trying to do. Continue To Be Great Brother!! Peace.

[@dorothyc6037]

What's with these women cursing like sailors?

[@Wraith3100]

The tab told me she was ratchet

[@reddbull9772]

Yall aint had to do Columbia like that #803

[@cedricrobinson374]

Looking for another victim

[@kreativeforce532]

if a woman wants to be a man and not have children which is essentially what it is when shes "hustle bae", then she shouldn't get married. Marriage is not for women who value money over family. She also shouldn't have sex or better have tied tubes because in either scenario eventually she will become pregnant and then see that the difference between her and "the boys"& the result isnt pretty if shes unmarried.

[@jefejones1360]

She is cool but she doesn't get his concept. There can't be 2 bosses to a relationship. Women like this have to run the show. There are plenty beta men that will follow her lead but she won't respect them

[@PM-hx1ds]

If you realize she's an example of why it can't work because she said that she used to date a guy who was on the grind like her. I was hoping he asked why they're not together anymore.

[@jefejones1360]

@@PM-hx1ds I thought I was the only one peeped that. She proved it doesn't work

[@chefgrigs]

@17:45 the statement of being a unicorn is very disingenuous. On a fundamental level we are more alike than different and the reality of being a unicorn is an outlier, you can’t base statements/arguments off fragmented data. Everybody is right in an outlier, and while she does state “dating”, how long are you going to be dating for? The notion of dating isn’t sustainable as Obi says, because at some point there should be enough credible data for you to decide dating has given me enough information to determine if this is going to conclude in the end result of what dating is for companionship whether that’s marriage and procreation. Animals don’t hunt for sport and most don’t have sex for pleasure but somehow because we are sentient creatures we can abuse sex and this is what happens when we lose reverence for purpose. Dating is the most destructive creation to the family unit, it removes the important of intentional interaction in lieu of pleasurable interaction.

[@letsgettipsy85]

Unicorn huh

[@xyzxi771]

Good morning who is the young lady?

[@mizzvip3196]

What was the answer?

[@Mickey21Boyce]

They have all answers until that actual situation happens then they say one thing and do another.

[@tyquandoe3490]

It looks like some dude died and left her his hairline in his will. Sister please go natural. Traction alopecia is a real thing

[@openmindchannel1978]

Total nonsense, Happiness is not based on one thing or one variable, but many or multiples. Yes, being on your own, single maybe, works, workouts, hanging out might be enough to make or keep you happy. But, the same person adding family and kids to the equation , now you have more variables and things added that could be the new reason for your happiness or keeping you happy.

[@faheemfaquir1024]

You didn't show her walk in and sit down. Hmmm 🤔