Grief Journey, Death of Spouse and Moving forward

Loss of your husband or wife means so much more and at some point you may decide to relocate.

[@helmsman3082]

Lost my wife 3 weeks ago. She just retired 6 months ago, I retired 18 months ago. She got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died 8 weeks later. I'm looking forward to having something to look forward to sometime in the future. Thanks for posting this.

[@chattyc1743]

My brother lost his wife just 2 weeks ago. She had pancreatic cancer and passed within 8 weeks. Terrible disease. Sending prayers to you

[@staynalive660]

I lost my husband to cancer 2 1/2 months ago. I have no family nor close friends here. We moved here 20 years ago to help my elderly parents but they are both gone now also. I’m sitting in this house feeling lost. Been thinking about moving close to my son and now after watch this I’m thinking “what’s stopping me?” I need something to look forward to..

[@pamcornelius9122]

My beloved husband went to Heaven on August 10, 2021. It was very sudden and unexpected. We met in HS as well and were also introduced by our parents. We were together for 44 years, married for 41. Eddie was only 61 years old when he died. We adored each other. He was my whole world and we were so excited about our upcoming retirement together. I feel so adrift without him. Thanks for the words of hope.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Hi Pam, I'm so sorry for your loss and of course I truly know how you feel. Sounds like our stories are very similar. You are still in the early stages of grief and there will be some very difficult days ahead. But, it does get slowly better. I can honestly say not great but at least better to the point of being OK is what I tell people. I would like to invite you to check out my podcast where I post programs on a more regular basis. You can look for "Love letters to Pam - The Jack Church Show." It's available from all the major podcast providers or if you can go here and listen online. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@pamcornelius9122]

@@lifewithjackandnicole Thank you for the kind words. I will listen to the podcast.

[@andrewbiggs1338]

I lost my wife of 31 years, together 36 years on June 12, 2022. She also passed with cancer at 54. I feel lost right now. Thanks for sharing.

[@jrwheeler81]

I very suddenly and unexpectedly lost my husband a little over 4 months ago. We had been together for 22 years (married for 20). We had been together since I was only 18, so over half of my life and my entire adult life. We met the week after I had graduated from high school and fell in love very quickly. The rest is history. We were rarely ever apart in 22 years and did just about everything together. He was my rock, my best friend, and my soulmate. I don't know a life without him. Never in a million years did I ever think I'd become a widow at only 40 years old. My husband had just turned 52 only 3 weeks prior to his passing, so he was much too young to go. I thought we would still have decades together. We had actually gone under contract to purchase our dream home not even a week before he so suddenly passed away. I still bought the home. I felt that I needed to. My husband loved the house and he was so excited about it, so I felt obliged to carry out or dream. Tonight is actually my first night in the new house (been doing some renovations on it the last couple of months) and I'm filled with a rollercoaster of emotions. I absolutely love my new home, but it shatters my heart that my husband is not here to share it with. I'd give anything to have him back.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. It sounds very similar to mine and Pams. I do hope sharing here and knowing you are not alone on this journey helps. I might recommend anther video I did called "Life Expectations". Not sure if you knew or not but on our channel I have a separate playlist for grief support videos. Here is the link where you will find over 100 videos on a variety of topics. kzbin.info/aero/PL3Q4sRGNs57aGMhjQp2cCFaccVbabQj9i

[@fmds2115]

Thank you Jack. One week after my husband died, I removed all his belongings and gave them to those in need. I move all the pictures and videos with him and our children to external drive, so nothing left in the handphone and laptop. I have drilled my mind and my heart to be exist in 'now' time. I stop them when they try to reach the past and the future because that exactly where grief seat. I visited the places or people who are memorable for us, but this time alone. I train my being to be disassociated with my deceased loved husband. 22 years, I spent my days with him, so when he left, I feel drained out. He was the central of my family. I live only 30% of the remaining energy. Just to ease my mourning, I keep saying myself that one day I will go to the same death path, meet him in eternal time, eternal happiness, no more departure, no more farewell, so while waiting to that final exit, I decide to live my life with gratitude and joy. It's not easy, but doable.

[@Wookinpanub235]

Lost my beautiful bride of 33 years to cancer 3 weeks ago. Trying to battle the grief and juggle the financial and legal issues that come with such a tragedy makes it all that much more difficult. i strongly feel that I need to move on and do some thing I want to do. One of them is to rebuild the diesel engine in my Dodge Ram and the other is to honor my Wifes wishes and find another true love. I know I got it in me to do both. Just gonna take time to get all the legal and financial stuff settled before I’ll be of any use to anyone but I know what kind of woman Im looking for . Sarah Connor from the terminator cause this world is quickly becoming a distopian 80’s sci fi flick. Yes…..calling all Sarah Connors.

[@Orehia]

Thank you for your message today. Sounds like she was wonderful. I walk this road aswell.Its been 5 years now.We were married for 31 years and knew each other 41.I pray many of us can make the necessary move, so we can move forward,select a new place,home, townhome or cottage.They would want us to.Sending blessings to all.🙏😇

[@frankmackritis719]

Thank you Jack. My wife died on 18 May. We have very similar stories. My wife and I also met in high school, then broke up right after the prom as I was leaving for the military. We only stayed away from each other for aboutThree weeks before we got back together. We had been married 36 years and together for 39. I feel as though I’m so lost and don’t know what to do. I’ll be watching more of your videos for some tips and encouragement. Thank you

[@christinapatterson7300]

Thank you Jack for sharing. I lost my high school sweetheart February 13th. We would have been married 40 years this June😢.I am pretty close to my family but I have always been a stay at home wife and mother, our girls are grown and have families of their own yes they want me involved but that’s not enough but I am not ready to get out there to join life again but I want to someday but am so scared I hate being alone I have never been on my own I went from my mom and dads to being married at 18 with a 6month old baby. They he was my world. Now I sit and think Now What! I am 58 and alone broken hearted and scared. But your video has given me hope for the future. Thank you 🙏💔❤️

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Hi Christina, I am so very sorry you are having to go thru this. It is truly the hardest thing you will ever do but in time it gets a little easier to move forward. I always stress, we don't move on but we learn to move forward. Be gentle on yourself and don't let anyone for any reason try and tell you how you should feel or act. I want to also let you know I have a podcast where I post on a more regular basis. In fact there are over 200 episodes on a wide range of topics. Here is a link where you can listen online or simply look for "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show from any of the major podcast providers. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@menofairy]

OMG today I found this on the 89th day since my husband was killed...we were married 38 years this year. The topics you are discussing are so close to my heart. Thank you so much.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

I am so sorry you are having to go thru this. It is so very, very difficult but in time the healing slowly takes place. The hole in our heart will never be fully healed but the pain does lesse a bit over time. While I do post videos here on our channel you might want to check out my podcast where I post programs every three or four days. Look on any of the major podcast providers for "Love Letters to Pam - The Jack Church Show." Or, here is a direct link where you can listen online. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@brianh.5727]

Hi Jack. I lost my wife of 38 years two weeks ago tomorrow. I was searching the the internet for answers to explain the grief I am feeling right now. Your message was very inspiring and gives me hope that someday I too can move forward. Thank You so much and keep up the great work you’re doing. I will definitely check out your other videos.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Brian, I am so very, very sorry you are having to go thru this. There is no sugar coating it...some very difficult days are ahead but you can and will learn how to keep moving forward. I am by no means and expert but simply share my experiences in hopes it can provide comfort to others like you going thru the same thing. I would also like to invite you check out my podcast. It's called Love Letters to Pam - The Jack Church show and is available from all the major podcast providers. Or, if you prefer to listen online here is a link to the site. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@Laurie_Tinsley]

You dont know how much I needed to hear this. My husband passed a year ago and this house we bought in the country 4 years ago feels so isolated from the world. No neighbors, no family or true friends nearby. I feel so lonely here and have been thinking about selling everything and moving to a retirement community or somewhere with like minded people. My daughter and her family are thinking about moving in with me....I surely have enough room for all of us, but I have a feeling they will feel the isolation after being here for a while, just like I do. I guess time will tell and if they decide to stay where they are currently, then I will be moving on and finding a place that I can start a fresh new life at.

[@pmarti9009]

Thank you for this video Sir. I relate to everything you tell in this video, basically you are the voice inside my head. Lost my mother and my wife in October 2021, cancer it's a despicable disease took my wife down in 95 days. My wife was, as you said, my everything. Too many similitudes in all of our stories. Keep talking about your beloved Pam, we need to do that. All I hear is that we shouldn't make big decisions right after, but wait for a while until the emotional storm has passed. We met them, we married them, we loved them. Still do. Lets keep going.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

I am so very sorry you are having to go thru this as well. I always tell people it's a crappy club we've joined with much too high of a price for admission. I still do some videos but most of my grief videos are now on my podcast. If you have not had a chance to check them out I would invite you to do so. Just look for "Love Letters to Pam - The Jack Church Show". It's available from all the major podcast providers or you can listen online here...anchor.fm/jack-church

[@MagnumVideos]

Hope you are doing well Jack. I lost my wife of 51 years 107 days ago. I'm a bit lost right now not knowing what I'm supposed to do next. Thanks for the video and wishing you happiness.

[@sportsfaan]

14 months... What would have been our 34th anniversary was last Saturday; we married at 18 & 21. It's been a hard long journey so far, and yes the grief never gets better, but I can stand before my loved ones and say it has become easier to manage through a lot of love from my kids, my family and my friends (and a great grief counselor which I highly recommend anyone reading this seeks out). I am inspired by you and the posts of others on this vlog, and I offer up my condolences to each and every one of you - I don't feel you can understand until you live it yourself. I will love my wife with every breath moving forward until we meet again. We got this fellow warriors; we can do this... Hang in there.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

So sorry for your loss too. Your story is similar to ours. Married 37 years, met i high school, married first year in college. It does get a little better but the pain will always be there. It seems like a football injury. You can blow out your knee, have surgery, rehab, get back on the field, but you never forget the injury. Not sure if you have had a chance to check out my podcast but I produce programs there on a much more regular basis than I do my videos. It's called "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show and is available from all the major podcast providers like Spotify, Apple, iHeart etc. Or, you can go to this link and listen online. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@1drwmngar980]

Thank you for the message. My husband past just 3 weeks ago… now I’m left trying to figure out how to do life with out him. I was only married for 3.5 years but met and dated him for 2 years.. it feels like I had known him forever. Losing him hurts I can’t even imagine how those of you that lost your soul mate of 25+ years survive such heartbreak. I’m struggling. Blessings be with each of you.

[@jitendrasinghdhami4495]

The same cases happened to me Debby. i lost my wife. she was just 24 and married was 3 years. Its really painful how to overcome pls turned with me.

[@jamiemcinerney3287]

I lost my guy of 15-1/2 years two months ago. You are such an inspiration. Thank you.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Jamie, I am so sorry for your loss. I know it is very, very difficult and over time it slowly gets better but of course the pain is like a old injury. You may get better and keep going but you will never forget the injury. I pray you as well as the so many others of us out there can find ways to keep moving forward. Not sure if you have had a chance to check out my podcast but I produce programs there on a much more regular basis than I do my videos. It's called "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show and is available from all the major podcast providers like Spotify, Apple, iHeart etc. Or, you can go to this link and listen online. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@jamiemcinerney3287]

@@lifewithjackandnicole Thank you for caring, really. I'll check it out.

[@mzzbevcreates]

I like that, “moving forward “ instead of moving on. It’s only been two months for me. I still can’t believe he’s gone. I have several ugly cries per day and to tell you the truth, I’m tired of them. But I guess because it’s still so painful because I miss him terribly! I’m packing up and moving and I am looking forward to that especially getting back to my minding my ETSY shop. It’s to a nice apartment complex with people. I couldn’t live in this house I am currently in, like you said, too many bad memories and I just never like the neighborhood. We were only a year here any ways but we were married 38 years. Thanks for sharing your story. I have searched KZbin for these testimonies by widows and widowers alike, I believe they’re helping me through my grief. What bring me the most comfort is that my hubby’s no longer suffering as he’s in the arms of Jesus. Have you had a chance to listen to that song by Casting Crowns? Scars in Heaven? Took me a long time to listen to it and I finally did. If you haven’t make sure to have a tissue. But it is helping me heal.

[@Maia271]

Just watching your videos... I wish you can help my mom go through her grief.. I wish you well...

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Hi Marnie, needless to say I do understand your Mom's pain and am so very sorry she lost her soul mate too. Not sure if she listens to podcast or not but I have a program where I produce much more grief related content than what you find on our KZbin channel. It's called "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church. Just maybe it can provide a little comfort from time to time. You can download from any of the major podcast providers or simply go online to this link and listen there. Thank you again for sharing. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@jan-christinejohnson5256]

Jack, Thank you for your shares 🌿

[@michaelparry1383]

Jack, so sorry for your loss. I wish I could say that I can't understand what you are going through, but at 4:30 am in the morning with a huge hole in my heart, I may understand a little. My wife of almost 51 years passed away twelve days ago and was laid to rest a week ago. I can't understand what you feel (and no one can), and I can't understand what I feel. I understand what you say about "moving forward", but that to me means more than just packing up and relocating to a new zip code. You have had a little time to think about this, but I am just in my first days of this life changing event. I do hope and pray that you can find what you need to move through this part of your life without your Pam at your side. We are all put here on earth to be tested and prove ourselves with God. This is indeed one of the most difficult test we will need to approach. Jack, usually we guys get to pass first and let our good wives suffer the loss. You and I can understand just a little of what so many wonderful wives experience had to go through during that very difficult part of their life. I hope and pray you can find peace. Oh, yes, almost 50 years ago after Pat and I were first married, we decided to travel first. We purchased a VW Campmobile and set out to tour Europe for a year. It only lasted four months, but created priceless memories for many years to come. God be with you until you and Pam meet again.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Michael, it sounds like you and your beautiful bride were like Pam and me in the fact you lived life to the fullest. Of course now everything is different but I'm assuming God left us here because he still has purpose for our lives. Doesn't make it any easier but we simply have to learn to keep putting one foot in front of the other even on those days we would just as soon not. I truly appreciate your kind words and you sharing your story.

[@katherinea8315]

Thank you, Jack! It has been five years. It is my time to shine! Blessings to you on your journey......

[@diannelarose4392]

Thank you. I'm glad I found this channel.

[@jessiemarquez1976]

Thank you for this video lost my wife September 18, 2021 from COVID-19

[@kuchihotpot]

Chanced upon this and watched it : thanks , Jack . New week Blessings as you continue with your grief journey,Jack and also, for others on their grief journey who are following Jack on this issue of grief .

[@jn3098]

I’m so sorry and I’m in the same situation 36 years of the most wonderful woman now nothing and I mean nothing. I died last month with her

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

I am so incredibly sorry you are having to live thru this. Not sure if it helps or not but I'm now 5 years in on my grief journey and I can tell you it slowly gets better. Does not mean we forget but we simply learn how to move forward. Take care.

[@k.t.6497]

Thank you! Just lost my husband and I totally relate.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

I am so very sorry Kathy. Indeed, only those of us that have experienced this type of loss truly understand the depth of pain we feel. It does slowly get better but I always tell people to still let the tears flow because there are healing powers in the tears. You might also find some comfort in my daily podcast. It's called "The Jack Church Show" and you can dowload from any of the major podcast providers like Spotify, Google, Apple etc.

[@JohnJones-cj2xd]

Thanks Jack I lost my wife to bone cancer Dec 5, of 21. I am so lost we were married for 48 years and we did everything together. We both did a lot of biking all around our area in Ohio plus traveled to other states and then Italy and went on tours. Your story is very similar to mine and I really feel your pain . But I understand the need to move forward. I am not going to move all my kids and grand kids are close so not really an option. But I am going to plan extended bike trips for this Spring Summer and Fall for this year. I am going to try grief counseling . Your message really hit home glad I opened your video . Thanks John Jones from Ohio

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

John, I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful wife. I know it is very difficult moving forward but since we are still here there is purpose to our life. Doesn't make it any easier but there is also some comfort knowing we are not alone on this path. If you have not listened to my podcast I would invite you to check it out. I don't do many grief videos anymore since I moved most of that material to the podcast. You can download from any of the major podcast providers. Just look for "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church show. Or you can listen on line here anchor.fm/jack-church

[@rabick62]

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my wife last year after 53 years of marriage. It is so hard, beyond belief, and I am sorry we are going thru this grief journey we didn't ask for and wasn't prepared for at all. I attended grief counseling, it was good, but I think that getting professional help with a Phycologist helped me more. It is just so hard, I am glad Jack can do these videos, I couldn't. I Pray and Pray some more, listen to 'Scars in Heaven', and other uplifting songs. But healing comes slowly, 1 teardrop at a time. I too am lost and it's hard to think of things being important anymore, Jack has the right attitude I think, I just stumble thru each day to the next. I wish you Peace and Comfort, I believe I will be with my wife again someday, and that sustains me. Best of Luck.

[@brianh.5727]

You’re Right. It’s all about timing. God bless you.

[@GracieCampbell-kg8lk]

~ very encouraging,

[@brendaroberts1469]

This is me!! Thanks for sharing your feelings.

[@gmglic]

Thanks Jack for your inspiring words, It takes courage to make change and we all have it, we just have to dig a little deep to find it.

[@lgodman62]

A beautiful love I'm so happy you had that.

[@nanceenurse]

I'm not religious (am connected to spirt though) but I, too, believe it comes down to me and God. After I lost my spouse, this is especially true. It seems the only thing "real" anymore.

[@kramer070473]

Thanks Jack for your inspiration. Its been two months today. Wow! Its tough but I will seek a new path.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Oh how I remember the first couple of months. The change is so dramatic and life changing. It's been about 16 months for me now and it's still a roller coaster, but it does get better. I always tell people I'm not sure if it will ever be great again but it does improve. Have you had a chance to listen to my podcast? If not, you can find them on Apple, Spotify or whatever platform you download podcast from. Search for "The Jack Church Show". I keep them really short and you may find something there that offers a little comfort. At least I hope so.

[@lauriebaker7608]

Thank you for your message my husband died two years five months ago together forty five years I'm moving on have moved into another home will soon move into another home l miss Richard l look forward to what life has for me God bless those that read this.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you for your kind words Laurie. So very sorry you are having to go thru this. It does take time but seems we find a way to keep moving forward but of course our mates will always be part of our heart.

[@lauriebaker7608]

I'm taking more care of myself going on short walks I'm moving into a larger house I'm still in the same town I live in New Zealand.

[@lauriebaker7608]

@Morgan Chase It has been a very difficult year in New Zealand covid lockdowns has shut down many areas most of thee country has been under strict travel conditions a lot of hardship but there's bean some positive changes.

[@lauriebaker7608]

Hi Morgan missing my husband today but I'm always thankful he's with the Lord and I'm moving forward

[@lauriebaker7608]

I'm good thanks I let love leed kindness is important hope your well.

[@Jdub0916]

God Bless You All.

[@upinderkaur2140]

Really want to do this just waiting for financial stability and right time ..feel only way to get over the passing on of my dearest husband

[@rvodyssey9223]

This message really speak to me. However it's slightly reversed. My wife was only 33 she was killed by a 22-year-old that hit her at 107 mph. That happened October 19th 2021. At that time we just came back from South Carolina living down there a year and a half to Pennsylvania to take care of both my parents pass so I came up to take care of their estate late 2020 I was injured at work and eventually was let go at work because of my injury. My wife always had her heart set on doing traveling nursing so basically long story short we ended up buying a truck in an RV came back to Pennsylvania for us to get stuff straightened out with my family's situation and get all her license for the states that we wanted to look at to see where we really truly wanted to live since South Carolina did not work out. I am in a place where I have friends however the majority of them just won't bother with me because of the situation and the fact that I have young kids. Our daughter was only 10 months old and my wife is so excited to have a girl finally after having four boys. My other two children to her are three and five. And my two step sons was reclaimed from me the day of the accident. So my kids and I have lost a wife a mother two brothers and two sons all in one day. This area here was the one place we never wanted to come back to. And just listening to your story I have no idea yet how but I need to figure out a way to leave here permanently. There's just nothing left here other than nothing but bad memories and severe loneliness. Unfortunately it's only been 97 days for me since everything is happened and I'm still early in this development and my heart is just beyond shattered. It took me my whole life to find someone like my wife and like you said I'm not looking to ever remarry. But I wouldn't mind being able to actually have people to do things with where here with friends you figure I could but unfortunately like I said I'm avoided at all costs. Thank you for your video sorry for your loss as well sorry for everyone's loss who is here watching this video God bless you all

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

James I am so very sorry for your loss. You have experienced more pain than any one person should be allowed to ever experience. Maybe knowing you are not alone in walking this path will be of some comfort. It is so incredibly hard but since we are still here there must be purpose. If you have not listened to my podcast I would invite you to check it out. I don't do many grief videos anymore since I moved most of that material to the podcast. You can download from any of the major podcast providers. Just look for "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church show. Or you can listen on line here anchor.fm/jack-church

[@rvodyssey9223]

@@lifewithjackandnicole I appreciate that. And I am definitely checking it out. It has not been an easy 109 days for myself. And for the kids especially my oldest son and Cassie's second oldest has been really taking it hard as of late.

[@snappy5590]

Yes its hard for.that jack much relate it my husband died last year december 27,2020 in a motor cycle accident it was almost 3 mos.he was gone still on pain at 1st he died ive been on file leave from my work and i im not in mood or im in a dark full of sadness but im looking for my kids which they need me ive decided to go back at work to make it busy but sometimes i still remembee my husband i know its hard to move forward sometimes im lazy to go to worl which im thinking for what will i work for i have no inspirational then i think again our 2 kids i know my 2 kids give me strenght i hope this will pass as my challenge to continue to be a strong woman 15 years of married is not easily to.forget those happy memories of my partner but trying to make ways to make me strong and battle this feel i have god bless to you thank you for your inspirational advices

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you so much for sharing. You have some incredible challenges ahead of you but we are often much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. Doesn't make the pain go away but we can in time learn to live again. If you listen to podcast i would encourage you to listen to my daily podcast. You can download from all the major podcast providers and the programs are usually less than 5 or 6 minutes long. Just search for "The Jack Church Show" love letters to Pam.

[@lauriebaker7608]

You sound like a wonderful peaceful person your kids need you may your love keep growing.

[@sherrywarwick8563]

How long before the hurt stops it's been two years and it seems like yesterday

[@heatwave713]

thanks

[@barnabasschuler9025]

10:22 I look terrible now. I'm so deeply depressed. I am so sad. Jim died 10 months ago and I am still mourning. I would love to move but where? Just so unsure 😢

[@mm-vd3oc]

Yep I’m 48 married 21 years my husband died Sunday

[@mm-vd3oc]

@Morgan Chase I’m ok waiting next chapter

[@wilmabriggs1771]

Jack make that move !

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

That video was made in the summer of 2020 and I made a move the end of 2020 and may have another move in before end of this year. Either way it was the right decision. Thank you again for sharing.

[@cheryljune1603]

My husband died 3 days ago

[@yvonnehubble8281]

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[@one-G-row]

Would have been 16 years

[@ericchurilla118]

Lost my wife of 25 years last year. Still dealing with it

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

I am so very sorry Eric. I will not sugar coat it. These next few weeks and months will be really tough but try and get out as much as possible. Being out of your home and outside really seems to help me a lot. Not sure if you have listened to my podcast but it could provide some comfort as well. Just look for The Jack Church Show. It's available from all the major providers like Spotify, Google, Apple etc.