Grieving the Death of a Spouse (Grief)

Grieving the Death of a Spouse (Grief) - With JP Sears

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Grieving the Death of a Spouse
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How can you move through the grieving process with the death of your spouse? In this video I share how to make space for the pain, helplessness, and sense that you don't know how to move on. I also give some fresh perspectives on the five stages of grief to help you heal and grieve the death of your loved one healthfully.
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@michelerivera3055 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! My high school sweetheart was the love of my life. Knew him 49 years and died in November after 43 years married. I know this is recent but what you said about talking to him really helps me. I felt guilt, heartbreak, and sorrow. I have never felt such grief for anyone else like this. It can be overwhelming and sometimes I am scared about how low I am going. Not long ago, I was resting on the couch and he came to me. He put his arms around me and he looked right at me with a tear in his eye. I believe he was telling me to let him go. To me, we have to get to the place where we let them go. Hanging on is destructive because we must accept we will never see them again. Once we do accept, we can let go. Not forget them but not hold on so tight we can’t take a step forward. Praying for everyone going through this hell. Pray you all find peace.

@markn1969able 4 жыл бұрын

I lost my wife of 30 years 6 months ago. You'll never "move on" you will move forward. Moving on means you leave them in the past. You'll move forward with your loved one.

@angelamilne2054 4 жыл бұрын

6 months later in my case ..I agree about not moving *on* in 'that' sense .. The thing that's come to mind lately is to see the broken heart of 2 lives as one , that contained that concentrated personal shared love connection ,....that it has been cracked open & is releasing & infiltrating or seeping that love into the rest of my life ,today & allways,...even though I may not allways be perceiving it ... But by living & moving about in the consciousness of some of the hidden comfort of it , in the Bigger space, where the essence of those memories become *alive* in connection to me ,interacting with my thoughts & feelings in practical ways. ..having an effect on my life,however small & the lives of others ...like remembering certain ways of his that have become clearer as a better way ...so I can remember & apply it in life 'now' (so action & change is sprouting out of those memories into Life ) .... It's only just come to me & it may be difficult at times but it's better than that feeling of leaving the loved one behind.... & I don't believe that this way of seeing it is imagination either ..I feel a sense of reality with it... I hope that you too are finding ways to move *within* the memory space & 'feeling' more of your own aliveness .

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 3 жыл бұрын

@@angelamilne2054 I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

@angelamilne2054 3 жыл бұрын

@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb Hi Chris & Thankyou for your kind words & I am also very sorry you have experienced such emotional trauma,but am glad that you are thriving despite it. I don't think we can ever be prepared for it .The "Shock" in the begining is beyond description! A very dark feeling . 10 months down the line I feel much better . I felt virtually alone with no one close willing to listen in talking about the inexpressible when needed. Not a critisism because maybe these few "expected" ones were "unable" to relate in empathy with me? I tried to be philosophical ,convincing myself that being alone with "it" may be more healing on a deeper level,but I was begining to feel very alienated from humanity . There has been one kind extended family member i "didn't" know(distant niece of spouse)& is a great active "listener" who I have been texting sometimes though. I haven't been mentioning the grief much but just getting to know this lovely kind & attentive person bit by bit . Also, someone in a comment section like this which has been continuing for 3-4 months & I didn't even mention the death until maybe a month ago .It was another subject matter . Anyway ,I could Feel the personal kindness & attention through the words of this person even if they are not fully aware of the impact they have had & have developed trust even though the "need" for that hasn't really been mentioned .This person could disappear into life's circumstances at "any" time but the sense of attentive kindness from this particular individual,even in humour has definately been like a healing substance ,along with the kindness of the neice I didn't know . To me it was divine providence & a lesson in the value of sincere kindness & I feel it is growing in 'me' without trying because that kindness was "planted" in me unconditionally. Your comment is yet another kindness I have received which I am grateful for especially again because you are a stranger to me but sincere kindness cancels out the word "stranger." Have you had a similar experience over your journey through grief and everything surrounding it?

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 3 жыл бұрын

@@angelamilne2054 honestly when I lost my wife, that was about 3yrs ago I was doomed with grief and I never get any help from friends, suddenly all of my so called friends stopped checking or Even talking to me, I went through the dark days alone, but realized I have to be strong for my daughter named Tracy she just turned 13, she's my joy and reason for me to stay positive about the future, well it's really nice having a good sincere person to talk to, I got help as time's goes on things got alot better, I'm now ready to move on because loneliness is eating me from the dept of my heart, I believe life is a gift and time is a blessing because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday so what really matters is our happiness and how we treated the people we love and got loved in return, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@stevewyche5232 3 жыл бұрын

@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb Kind of stalker-ish dude

@channabrennon2017 2 ай бұрын

This helped me a lot this viseo..i didnt lose a husband. I am a survivor of domestic abuse. But i had my dog..he followed me everywhere and brought me so much comfort..i have no friends..but didnt mind so much because he was the best friend i could of asked for. I hate grief. But the wisdom in this video was comforting. God bless everyone in this comment section..may the God of all peace comfort us all

@lininomartino 5 жыл бұрын

I'm 67 and I lost my other half in August 2018. I really am binge watching videos on grief. This is good to help me help myself.

@WeepingWidowSueAna Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss... I have been binge watching videos on grief too. so hard... so hard....

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?

@boshi700 5 ай бұрын

I just lost my wife of 22 years, on Christmas day 2023. It was so sudden and unexpected. I miss her so much. We literally did everything together. We didn't need other people, we had each other. It hurts so bad that I didn't get to say goodbye and tell her how much I love her. I know she knows how much I love her, but I didn't get that chance at saying it. I carry so much guilt like I failed her when she needed me most. I was trying to revive her until a firman showed up in my living room and pushed me out of the way to take over. They made me sit down the hall on the stairs as they didn't want me watching them try to save my love. They tried hard for about 20 minutes or more. The hardest thing I ever heard in my life was when a paramedic said they had a doctor on the phone and he said to call time of death. I ran down the hall and begged them not to give up. They told me she was gone. I'm not dealing good with this at all. Thank you for this video.

@channabrennon2017 2 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss and pain.

@moochnhowzn Ай бұрын

I just went through the same thing with my wife of 23 years and we were each other’s lives 24/7 and we didn’t need anyone else and I’m so empty and lost and full of guilt that I didn’t go into the bedroom 15 minutes earlier and she would have still been here. I don’t know what to do with my life anymore and can’t see a future. I know how much hurt you must feel right now and I’m so sorry.

@greggbrady5728 Ай бұрын

i lost my wife of 24 year 10 minutes before midnight new years eve. she had medical issues but mostly controlled with meds. a week before she thought she was having panic attack saw the dr got another script , it wasnt, it was her heart giving out . i am 65 and spend more time crying in a day than i have in all my time alive. in some ways my life goes on, i do things that i did before but even as i do i miss her to be there with me. even now as think back on our time together her one desire was to be my wife and care for me. when she retired , it made her so happy to search the internet for new meals to make for me. spent countless hours on diamond art , sometimes 40 hours or more to complete because i liked it. sometimes spending a full day shopping online for a dress i might like to see her wear and showing me before she ordered it. got up at 5a everyday to layout my clean clothes , fresh from the dryer if it was cold, same with the towel after my shower. made my breakfast and lunch. told me of her love as i kissed goodbye and asked me if i was going to keep her. she was dedicated and devoted to me in ways i cant describe. now i wait for my turn with no real direction

@desertrat79 23 күн бұрын

I'm about a month out myself. We also had 22 years. I miss her so much. I pray for your healing.

@lydiamoore142 13 күн бұрын

Prayers for all of you. Leaning on Jesus has given me so much peace.

@johnq5370 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for taking the time to post this video. My dearest, the love of my life and purpose, Gwen passed away last Oct. We were married for 38 years. It was like a bomb going off. Grief can be so profound that it actually causes our mind to rewire, the loss is so great, this happens to save us from the pain. The stages of grief are crap. It was derived from a study on the stages of death and miss-applied to grief. I remember sitting alone, after the last car left the drive way, the lives of family and friends goes on, it has too. But, sitting month after month, empty, quiet. The loss and grief is one thing but the abject loneliness is something else. When my Gwen died she took everything "we" were. Not half of me but all of us was gone forever. I read everything I could find, personal stories, clinical writings, videos...etc. The singular work that help me was a book by Megan Devine, "It's Okay, Your Not Okay". I am a spiritual man, but this loss and eventual acceptance has challenged everything I hold to be true. I am a retired US Marine, I was very aquatinted with loss and extreme stress but nothing - nothing can prepare you for the loss of your wife. You will survive, you will learn to accept it, but it will change you.

@glowinthelight 13 күн бұрын

I am crying while watching this. I lost my husband of 29 years . He passed on May30,2024 . I kept busy. I cry. I go for long walks. And just joined our Local Church. You are so kind to devote a time for so many grieving families. God bless you! My husband used to watch you too. That is how I came to know your channel. Thank you!

@remiska8655 Жыл бұрын

Thank you JP I cried all through this, I lost my husband of 40 years just three weeks ago. I am only 58. It is definitely an overwhelming thing to go through.

@exbritishforcespatriotscha7723 11 ай бұрын

My wife passed 3 years ago.I am now 59..It does get easier but will never forget.The person you loved has gone.Not like a divorce.

@belindarodriguez9543 7 ай бұрын

My husband of 39 years passed to the other side a month before our 40th anniversary. It's been unbearable at times. A part of me is missing. So many emotions . Prayers!

@pinkpele 7 жыл бұрын

I was REALLY worried this was going to be a parody video about grief (I've only ever seen your funny videos) and I'm SO relieved it's genuine, real and actually one of the best support videos I've seen in my grieving process. Lost my wonderful husband 5 months ago.

@patriciablue2739 3 жыл бұрын

Blessings

@sophiyabhoire1341 2 жыл бұрын

I have lost my husband 18 days before suddenly, unexpectedly with cardiac arrest

@simplyme7821 3 жыл бұрын

You have a beautiful soul. Your ability to use an analogy of a broken leg and how it would be almost impossible to try to stand up and walk. When my husband died a year ago on his birthday, I didn't try to walk on my broken leg. I let my body tell me what to do and I shut off the televisions and the radios. Someone would ask me why are you living in silence? I would say because I'm listening for that small quiet voice that is going to guide me along this path. It's been a little over a year and I still live in silence. I need that for my nervous system to have peace. It has brought me to a point of seeing the 23 years I had with him as a gift and I thank him for that. When I'm sad, I get out of bed and I just start being grateful for every little thing. Nothing is too small to feel gratitude. I thank God for the blue sky and the green grass and the bunny that comes into my yard. The list is endless and if I'm living in gratitude it leaves less room for self-pity. Not that I didn't do that. Loneliness is the hardest part. Thank you for this beautiful and comforting talk with all of us who are going through this at this time even if it happened 25 years ago. God bless you and your beautiful family. I wish my spirit was half as strong and self-sufficient and radiant as yours. Sincerely, Carly

@chrisjohnson2246 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@fembot521 2 жыл бұрын

My husband died suddenly 9 months ago. It’s thanksgiving weekend here and I am so lost without him. He was my rock, my strength and my companion. Now I feel unimaginable loneliness. No one else cares about me the way he did. Thank you for this video, you really gave me a lot of food for thought, especially about connecting with him now in a spiritual way. I have tried in the past but it always felt weird. But I guess that’s ok.

@charleneware6574 Жыл бұрын

I feel the same. Yesterday was seven months since my hubby of 28 years died a massive heart attack in front of me. I am empty inside although I have good friends around me this holiday. I am taking every day one at a time.....every moment as they come. I wish you a peaceful, self loving holiday season. Please be good to yourself. Smile and laugh because even if your heart aches a smile calms the pain. Your not betraying him if you laugh and smile

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

@micheleelofskey1429 4 ай бұрын

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@onamaehadanieru9600 5 ай бұрын

My wife died this month from an aggressive lymphoma at the age of 34. She taught me so much and I’m a changed man from when I first met her almost 7 years ago. I’m broken. I feel like I’m floating through space and time like some gaseous object that everyone is interacting with. My chest and head have been so heavy and tears come and go as they please. I don’t know what my future holds but I am so grateful for every second shared with my wife. Thank you for this video.

@jessicaagosto3633 Жыл бұрын

my husband went to Heaven May 2022, and i felt broken and lost, and yes i was angry and felt guilty that i wish i was more kind and loving, my husband and i bump heads due to the fact i was a republican and he was a democrap, but i never got a chance to say im sorry, but God told me i could see him again just stay on the Narrow path, this video was very good for me thankyou! and may God bless all who lost a love one🙏🏻✝️❤️

@suzettewilliams6369 8 жыл бұрын

If Jennifer sees this or any other widow's or widowers. I'm going to share my story. I lost my husband on July 20,2004. He passed right in my arms after 15 years. (yes, my highschool sweetheart). We have 2 daughters together. It's now been 11 years. I went to grief counseling, I seriously lost my mind. I'm so grateful for both my parents (just lost them within the last year). I slept pretty much for 4 years in their basement. The Dr's put me on medication. Which made me worse... deeper into that depression. I went from 150lbs to 312lbs.(lost it) I swore to never be with another man again. (didn't date for 5 1/2 years) To be honest, I did what JP is saying in this video. I stayed miserable until a year ago. I'm still single by choice. I'm learning all about life and what makes my heart tick now. I've grown so much in this last year. I lost a decade of my life. (everybody's timing is different) My 30's gone. I'm often asked if I regret that. NO, I had to go through that to get to where I am today. Dave(my husband) is still in my heart.... one thing that will never die is your love for each other. Our love NEVER died, our time together will never be forgotten. I do talk to him daily. His body is just gone. The soul never dies. (Took 10 years for me to realize it). They just want us to be happy. Feel it, don't deny the pain. Sorry for anyone's loss of a spouse. I'm seriously here to talk to anyone about it. If you need someone whose been there and can relate, I'm a good listener. ✌

@josieavila785 7 жыл бұрын

Suzette Williams im going through this now. i would love to speak to you

@craftopiaid6237 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing, i need this now. Mine passed away two weeks ago

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 3 жыл бұрын

@@josieavila785 I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

@brownville13615 2 жыл бұрын

My husband is 58 and terminal. I am devastated and so scared. He is such a good, strong and ethical man. Watching this process is just killing me and seeing him scared and hurting, is so indescribably difficult. I’m so glad to have found this video today and I expect I’ll be watching it over and over. Your message has helped, at least for now. Thank-you.

@COSkywatch Жыл бұрын

Sorry Kathy. My wife recently passed same age. I hope you hang on to cherished memories! Heart is with you.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

@oneawakenedsoul Жыл бұрын

I lost the woman I loved two weeks ago. I'm looking for answers everywhere and what an irony I should find some comfort in a contribution from JP, considering his comical notoriety. I'm finding some comfort in the comments here and I thought it would help to be a part of this conversation in relating to the loss of my true love. We were together only seven months and she was taken away two weeks ago in a terrible car crash. We were so hopeful for the future together and so in love. Now I'm desperately hanging on and moving forward with a grief I never imagined I would ever experience. But here I am trying to make sense of it and come to terms with it and move on with it in my heart forever. Thanks again JP for this and thanks to all who have commented that are going through this, I have found some comfort here and I hope that my comment adds to the help for someone out there in the same space of grieving as the rest of us.

@tammyhenderson1592 2 жыл бұрын

You just described the true process. I often tell people who think they know what gut wrenching feels like but when you lose the love of your life, you know. You actually know what gut wrenching feels. The first six months I had to teach myself how to do my job, again. Totally heart broken in a gut wrenching haze. Everything you expressed, I have described my experience. You move forward but not move on. Thanks for helping people. 🙏🏻

@user-rj5ld7jh7n 6 ай бұрын

My husband is gone I don't know how to go on sometimes I went to two sessions of griefshare didn't help that much my man was everything to me my heart is broken

@gregbarnes3433 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you JP. I am 52 years old and lost my wife of 31 years on June 29th, 2016. I appreciate your explanation of how we don't graduate the stages of grieving, but rather navigate through them to a place of acceptance.

@ALKIMYlove 11 ай бұрын

Thank you JP. I lost my husband about a month & a half ago. Everything you said, made me feel so much better, because I feel like I'm crazy, & that people treat me like I have a rare disease.😢 Thank you.❤

@tytaylor8762 4 жыл бұрын

9 years ago I lost my partner of 10 years to a heart attack 2 days before my birthday. It took me 3 years of grieving and healing before I could even think about going out on a date. I didn't even look at anyone else because I felt like I was cheating. One night my partner stood at the foot of my bed and told me it was time to let go and start living again. For anyone who has lost a spouse and is still having a hard time letting go and moving forward with your life, understand your spouse wants you to be happy and live life to the fullest and quit mourning their passing and enjoy the memories of the good times you shared. Sometimes I wish my partner were still alive and by my side because 3 years ago I was diagnosed with congestive heart failure and they're not sure how long I have left on this Earth but I'm not going to let it get me down or defeat me. I'm the happiest and at the most peace in my life ever. I'm enjoying each sunrise and sunset and living life to the fullest.

@craftopiaid6237 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this, My fiance just passed away two weeks ago of cancer. I need a motivation that things will get better. I’m happy for him, i’m just sad and scared for me

@jessicaagosto3633 Жыл бұрын

thankyou and may God bless you

@jessicaagosto3633 Жыл бұрын

@@craftopiaid6237 may God heal your heart 🙏🏻✝️❤️

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

@carol622 7 ай бұрын

Thank you JP Sears. This was an excellent and insightful talk. I was widowed 5 months ago. I loved my husband so much that our 54 years together that to even consider that grief will leave at some point in time is not even a consideration for me. Its more realistic to believe I can go on with my life, but the loss will be part of me even though I may laugh or "smile again." Thank you for being real in your communication.

@ChronicllyHigh Жыл бұрын

I spent the last year and 10 months feeling bad for grieving all over the place. I’m glad I found this video.

@mikebee6633 8 ай бұрын

When he said it was about (someone else) losing a loved one, I was about to trash this video, but he said everything that I was going through after losing my wife. He nailed it on the head. Great video.

@stevewyche5232 3 жыл бұрын

I don't think I feel like " I don't deserve to live if you're not living " but rather I feel like " I don't WANT to live if you're not living"

@stevewyche5232 2 жыл бұрын

@Dan Theman Nope but I had things to do and plans to make first.

@npenick66 5 ай бұрын

I was surprised to see JP pop up when I searched grief, I'm subscribed to him here and on the other unmentioned platform but have only seen his funny/political vids. Friday, Jan 5, 2024, my wife of 20 years said she was feeling a little tired and was going to nap a bit. She was in her favorite recliner with our cat Mandu in her lap and our dog Tyson at her feet. I tucked her in with her new blanket that she got for Christmas, got her a glass of water and went into the other room to hang out with our 14 year old autistic son so that she could rest. When I went to take the dog out a couple of hours later I noticed that her lips where white. She was gone. She was 52 years old. She had a long term heart issue, she had a pacemaker/defibrillator since she was 28 but she had been so healthy the last several years. She had been taking yoga classes and was very active with her friends. She was fighting a little cold but that was it. There was no warning. I can try to keep busy in the day time with all the paperwork, notifications, texts, emails, housework, cooking, planning, pets, our son, etc but the nights are the times when I'm struggling to breathe. I can't close my eyes without seeing the images of trying to perform cpr on her when she was clearly gone. How can I feel so numb and empty but so full of pain at the same time? I'm broken, I've never felt wounded like this before. It feels like I woke up in an alternate reality where nothing will ever be right again. How do I explain that Mama is never coming home to a severely autistic teen? I can't breathe but I have to appear calm and normal to our son. I'm so lost right now. If I could draw breath I'd scream but there's nobody there to hear me. I know that I need help to get through this, counseling starts on the 23rd for me and I've arranged for help for my son. I just hate the nights now and I've been a life long night owl.

@sophiagrande9465 20 күн бұрын

I’m so sorry to hear your story. Mine is strikingly similar in many ways. Wishing us both healing and peace

@elizabethtaylor8603 8 жыл бұрын

It has been 9 months 23 days since my husband died. I think I have reached the stage of acceptance but I have vivid dreams that he rises from the dead and comes back to me. We were happy and I don't want to risk replacing my happy memories with the ups and downs of a new relationship. I prefer to stay alone at least that is what I feel now. I slip into a little depression sometimes. Thanks for the insights.

@patriciaspires5450 3 жыл бұрын

Amen when you find your soulmate that love will carry you through it all! Not saying it doesn’t hurt but it does!

@patriciaspires5450 3 жыл бұрын

Elizabeth Taylor know your boson and your loss! Just wish there was some way to form a grief loss support for all of us on KZbin

@megkag1977 3 жыл бұрын

I'll never replace my wonderful husband and soulmate. We were together for 44 years. I just wish that God would call me home.

@pec9761 3 жыл бұрын

Elizabeth, your comment made me teary. I have been hoping for vivid dreams. I lost my husband after 22 years of being together. Got into a weekly Grieshare zoom meeting, and a 1 night loss of spouse seminar. Both have workbooks and are comforting. Just prayed for you and all who are suffering.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 3 жыл бұрын

@@pec9761 I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +1206-237-2054 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@rhonda5811 2 жыл бұрын

My husband died recently we used to love laughing at your videos especially the gluten free one. Thank you for the experience with him. Thank you for this topic, it brought back a wonderful memory ❤

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

@chrismurphy3482 3 күн бұрын

I have always enjoyed your video's and for some reason this one came to me today. 2 weeks ago on June 18, 2024 my amazing wife of 29 years (we were together 33) went home to God at 50 years old. She was my PERSON and my SOUL. I find myself walking around like a zombie while I am home not knowing what I should be doing but I find peace at work doing my daily activity. For the last 15 years my life was consumed with taking care of her as her body slowly shut down do to bone deterioration leading to multiple surgeries which eventually led to Hemorrhagic Bleeding causing multiple organ failure. I do not know what to do with my time, that lonely feeling sucks but I am thankful her pain is gone even as mine begins. Nothing can replace what we built together. All I can say is that my wife was very prepared and had everything in order and her wishes known to everyone so she made the hardest decision I have ever had to make a little easier. Thank you for this video

@sheribritton9911 5 жыл бұрын

My husband died Sept 24 2016. We were married for 37 yrs and still consider myself married to him. He was the love of my life and soul. I feel even to this day that half of my soul is gone. I think of him everyday. There are good days... And days were a tsunami of grief will hit me. We did everything together....he was my lover, my bestfriend and my support system through hard times. He was my SOUL. Grief will never go away...it comes in strides. Anger because the family moved on... I have no support system.....when I grieve I will look on FB and find something that I connect with and express my feelings and talk about my husband.... Protective setting/not public. People may think I'm crazy but I was fortunate to hear my husband whisper in my ear a wk after he died "Hey I love you" . There has been to many spiritual experiences that I've had through my life that our loved ones are still here with us. Touches, things falling/moving in my house that only he would do. My mom even came to me in my sleep and said she's ok....and that is the one thing I seeked after so many yrs of wondering. My grieving is not physically being able to see him and the loneliness that sets in. When this happens I cry and let my emotions take me and work through them. Will it happen again.....definitely. I can hear him tell me don't cry, I'm here be happy and live....for when its time I will come to get you...not your time. I get angry and say that's easy for you to say. LOL... But I know he's right. He will always be the love of my life. Look up automatic writing and see if this is something you would venture in but be careful. You must have a positive light....look for signs that your loved one sends you...you have to be tuned into it....Some of you may have experienced things already....embrace it. I'm still like wait...what. I'm not the only one that seen or heard things in my house....my son, daughter and grandchildren. I miss him everyday...and my grieving is still work in progress. So for all...you are not alone we all feel the devasting hurt ..and don't let know one tell you when it's time to move on....you need to move at your space....one min at a time... But just don't let it empower you...work through your emotions.....a lot of crying helps. ❤❤

@chrisjohnson2246 3 жыл бұрын

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@oldhardmanjohnson6585 2 жыл бұрын

My wife passed after two years of immunotherapy...16 days ago...we were together 52 years....I held her hand

@barbaruby 4 ай бұрын

I googled 'solace for people grieving ' and immediately saw JP's name. Oldie, but ....timeless, off course. I have cousins' grieving a sudden loss of a contemporary sibling. They are struggling.❤ THANK YOU JP, for digging deep in this uncomfortable, stressfull, maddening,& hurtful subject matter. GB

@mjadd 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so very much, JP. You spoke to me so acutely in this video. I suddenly lost my husband after 42years of partnership just 27 weeks ago tomorrow. I am handling this new found journey better than I would have imagined. Most of that success is attributed to listening to his favorite music constantly. Returning to our life long mutual sport. Loving our dogs. Visiting our memories, even many long forgotten. I am thankful each and every day for having known this special man. He made me a better person and I do hope I offered this to him too. I know I did. Our commitment and loving friendship provided this to both of us over the years and continues for me and always will. I love him every day and that will not change. I am moving forward with a smile on my face and in my heart, thanks to having known him. His gifts come to me daily. I think you get it. Thanks

@tiaranewengland Жыл бұрын

My mom lost her husband today. I’m at the airport waiting to fly home to her. Seeing that you have a video on this is so refreshing. I have not watched yet but thank you for making this. I need every bit of advice that I can get right now.

@PoetSkyMSA0227 2 ай бұрын

My partner transitioned into his next life 7 weeks and 3 days ago . There’s a fog that has been left with me . I miss his face ,, his smile and his eyes .. beautiful blue eyes .

@sovereignnomad21 5 жыл бұрын

I lost my wife on 4/8/17 & I have lost my mind because of it. I miss her more than I can explain. The stages of grief are dynamic and constantly recurring. I’m kinda just going through the motions of what I have to do to stay alive; which seems pointless really. I didn’t know what to expect when I first read the title of your video because of your usual material. I gave it go because I thought you’d be on some grown up stuff, I was right and thought I would be (thankfully). I’m glad I watched it. If anything it’s nice to hear someone who is usually making people laugh and laugh at ourselves reaches out with genuine compassion. We’re blessed to be a blessing. Be blessed all.

@jen4yahwehsal176 4 жыл бұрын

I just lost my husband of 27 years 2 weeks ago I'm so scared without him I feel lost I just pray that he heard what I said to him in his ear when he was intubated I'm so angry at myself for not appreciating him as much as I supposed to I hope he knew I loved him more than anything. I feel numb and I can only cry in private.

@angelamilne2054 4 жыл бұрын

It happened to me 6 months ago & I feel similar ...especially in knowing I didn't show the appreciation that I would do if I had the chance now ...but ..I think he knew I appreciated him ,but I don't think as much as I did ....

@patriciaspires5450 3 жыл бұрын

Know this overwhelming grief! Lost my soulmate of 34 years! Glad he is not suffering anymore! But maybe selfish but I cannot move on

@jen4yahwehsal176 3 жыл бұрын

@@patriciaspires5450 I'm so sorry you feel that way what I did was picturing my husband standing next to me yelling at me for sitting here moping around I know that's not what he wanted the best way to honor the dead is to keep on living

@5MinutePsychology 3 жыл бұрын

He did know that you loved him so much. And he felt the same to you. Also know this: hearing is believed to be the last remaining sense in patients in their last moments. It is most likely he did hear and understand what you were saying. I hope at least this will give you comfort. Be strong and be safe.

@Sara-rr1lu 3 жыл бұрын

I recently lost my mom, and I can relate to your words soo strongly. If anything, this has definitely taught me to love and appreciate everyone in my life more intently. We can’t go back in time, but we can grow and make the current better because of the lessons learned in the depths of our suffering...

@21khronic 2 жыл бұрын

Lost her 2 weeks ago to a dui driver after 17 years. It feels like the gaping hole where my heart used to be will never be completely patched up.

@elisaferzacca1775 8 жыл бұрын

This is wonderful JP! I love that you speak of allowing for grief instead of trying to rush someone through their experience. I think we do a big disservice to ourselves and others when we want and expect to be "joyful" at all times. Loss is part of the human experience and when we try to avoid or rush it, we ironically get stuck.

@AwakenWithJP 8 жыл бұрын

+Elisa Ferzacca Thanks for the reflection. Yes, being joyful all the time means we're manic, which is a pretty out of balance place to be stuck in. If the sun always shined and there was never any rain, it would equal death from a severe drought.

@HooFHearteD77 2 жыл бұрын

And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. Revelation 21:4

@brianh.5727 2 жыл бұрын

Thank You for posting this video. I lost my wife of 38 years almost two weeks ago. This is the kind of inspiring explanation I was looking for to explain what I am feeling. It really hurts my entire being right now and I see no way that it will ever end. You gave me real hope that maybe some day I won’t feel so hollow and broken. Thank You.

@moniclare4214 Жыл бұрын

Am one year plus three days since my hubby my protector died. What do I do without him. my heart is breaking this grief is all consuming I feel him holding me in my dreams I feel he is comforting me with his love but it makes the pain so cruelling and painful. The five stage of grieving are not meant to cover people who have died it's for people who are dying of decease. There is no bargaining there is no denial there is only the aching pain the never ending cruel pain. There is no stages that is out of the ball game . There is no anger that's plain stupid just absolute pain. Please stop saying there are five stages there is not five stages it's ongoing roping your heart and soul out of your very being. There is no anger there is no anger is ok . It's just ripping your arms kegs heart soul out . There's no bargaining no one who is greiving feels that . That is just stupid and is something that those who have not suffered bereavement says. You need to listen to people rather than reading

@AFH90 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much.... My husband died 5 weeks ago.... Yours is the best video on grief I have seen-real and kind.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

@trueUvoice 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you. My husband left his physical body 7 months ago at the young age of 35. I appreciate your advice. Hugs ♡♡

@AwakenWithJP 8 жыл бұрын

+True U Voice I appreciate you watching. I hope this can be perhaps a small crumb of help on your journey of healing after you loss.

@chrisjohnson2246 3 жыл бұрын

@TheTaoLotus 4 жыл бұрын

i am watching your video for the fourth time...my husband died suddenly yesterday & you hit the nail on the head. yes, all those feelings/emotions; the numbness, surrealness; a waking nightmare. thank you for your comforting words.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

@jessicaagosto3633 Жыл бұрын

i understand im going threw the same, only God can heal and lift the Soul, this video is a blessing 🙏🏻✝️

@holly8781 Ай бұрын

I lost my best friend, partner, soulmate, boyfriend and love of my life in December 2022 due to SUDEP. He had a seizure and went into cardiac arrest died in my arms. I also, lost my family of 7. His 3/my 2 split up in separate ways. My dogs went to live with my boyfriend mom and my youngest son is currently living with friends. My oldest son joined the military. I have been through so much since his passing. And still going through it. Grief doesn’t stop. We just manage life around it. We have to go through it. I miss you and love you Jared Pinkard RIP 4/26/82-12/17/22 He was the one that introduced me to watching JP as well

@jondace04 8 жыл бұрын

This was beautiful. My 21 year old brother died from suicide 2 years ago and the experience of grief has been unimaginably difficult. What you said at the end about allowing space in my heart for the hurt really resonated with me. Thank you.

@domais68 7 жыл бұрын

This is such a difficult topic. I lost my mother to cancer in Oct. and my wife to a tragic and sudden death in Dec. My wife's death was egregiously premature. The pain of these losses is horrific and has taken over every aspect of my life. My mother's death was awful but I understand it because she was older and had stage 4 cancer. In many ways, her death was merciful because she was in so much pain. My wife's death has been impossible to process. The doctors that treated her were nearly as shocked as her loved ones that she would die from her condition. I had a great life, I thought I had 4-5 decades of fun ahead with my wife and, in the blink of an eye, I lost her. I will find a way to move forward. Thanks JP for the kind messages and God bless all of you who are dealing with the losses of loved ones.

@larryalexander2642 4 жыл бұрын

He has such a soothing voice

@kace9075 2 жыл бұрын

You're very wise and respectful. Thank you for this video. It's nearly a year now since I lost my partner and I'm nowhere near acceptance, even though I thought that several times. Someone once said "I wish I had a scar on my face so people would know what I've gone through". I absolutely agree. Like you said, it will never go away, that hurt will be part of me forever; so I just wish I didn't have to contain it within me.

@tonyamcgrew5891 3 ай бұрын

My Phil passed 2/20/24, and it feels like I died and this is hell, and I only got 10 years in our young lives, hurts like heck, it feels like the best years is behind me.. thank you for this video

@pampistoresi6431 3 ай бұрын

Tonya: oh my gosh I’m so sorry that you find yourself on this horrible path of grief. And your journey has just began! My husband, Chris, passed away 3 years, 3months and 4 days ago (Dec 16 2020); we’d been married for 46 wonderful years. He was my best friend and love of my life and it’s still so hard to function without him by my side. I’m doing better today than I was 3-1/2 years ago but I’m not the same person I once was and I never will be. Right now I hope you’re giving yourself lots of TLC because now you need it more than anything. Please take care and again, I am so very sorry for your recent loss. 💔

@misstbikini 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind words. It is in the middle of the night I have to go to work tomorrow and I’m so sad that he’s gone. I tried to have a conversation with him to explain the pain I’m in out loud. it’s not that I miss him. It’s also our plans our hopes our dreams, old age experiences has been taken from us. I hope to have the strength that you do. Thank you for your kind message.

@killmydreamdorothy8800 6 жыл бұрын

You're an extraordinary human being.

@lauraw3739 3 жыл бұрын

I just lost my husband. We were just at your show In Tacoma the other night on Thursday 3/11. I’m lost & crushed without him. We have been together for over twenty years & were friends before that. He was only 43. This video was the first suggested video when I opened up my app this morning. Thank you for making this video.

@chrisjohnson2246 3 жыл бұрын

@richardbradshaw7830 2 жыл бұрын

i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday.

@BUBBLESPOGO 5 ай бұрын

@@richardbradshaw7830Roman 5:12

@RodneyFreeman 7 жыл бұрын

Lost my wife to cancer March 34th last year. :( The grief monster is horrible. Thank you for this video.

@patriciaspires5450 3 жыл бұрын

Rod Freeman I know you posted this 4 years ago! But I lost my Soulmate of 34 years ! 11 /10/13 it will always hurt but God is the healer! God bless and really I will life your name up in prayer

@user-rj5ld7jh7n 6 ай бұрын

Jp what youve done is to help a multitude of people tonite i couldn't even breathe because of griefi miss him so much i dont know what to do without him ive gone thru so much but i will survive because of your compassion for others

@TheEllaTB 2 жыл бұрын

I lost the love of my life just 2yrs after our wedding. Finding myself a widow at 25 was rattling for my soul. As I described it to a friend. Grief is like a ball of yarn. At first you don't know what to do with it. You start as a child and just unravel and unravel to see where it ends. There you end up with a knotted mess...but you can learn to knit and create something beautiful out if it. It doesn't go away. It will always be a part of you. But it can also be redeemed

@AndreaC0 Жыл бұрын

Hi Ella, thank you for sharing your story and that great ball of yarn analogy. I'm sorry you lost your spouse, death is for sure our enemy. Soon God "will swallow up death forever." (Isa 25:8) And there will be a resurrection, until then it's comforting to know you can continue "to knit." I love this scripture: "For all things I have the strength through the one who gives me power. 🌺

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

@joparham9255 6 жыл бұрын

I have found this very helpful. I have listened to it twice and will do again. You reminded me that what I am feeling is ok and I shouldnt struggle to deny the feelings that I feel uncomfortable with and that are so painful as they are natural and just because they hurt doesnt mean I have to try and run from them. I thought I was through the worse after just 3 months after my husband died suddenly. The noise in my head subsided and the pain in my chest eased then whoosh depression and madness and daily tears again. I panicked thinking there was something wrong with me but your video has helped me realise I have just been going through different stages of grief. What I have noticed though is following every real low I emerge feeling stronger just a little. I am riding this one out being kind to myself hoping tomorrow will be brighter. Thanks again.

@kymomandstuff 8 жыл бұрын

A year ago this past Friday, I lost my husband of 29 years to complications from COPD. I indeed experienced all 5 stages, and still find myself going back even though I now primarily reside in acceptance. Thank you for helping me release the guilt I've often felt when finding myself angry at him for his many years as a smoker, which inevitably contributed to his death. Although, the anger stage was brief, I still feel aggravated that my son had to give up his father at only 16.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

@josieavila785 7 жыл бұрын

i feel LUCKY to know someone like you exists. i cant thank you enough for this video. you are something i will cherish because this video is kind of saving my life from not commiting suicide because the pain i am in. feels like i cant physically take anymore. and i would just want to tell my loved ones that if i at some point cant go on. i am sorry and they should know i will be okay. she left me on sep 19 and i am so so angry at her i hate her for leaving me. she decided to get into that car and not think of me not think of what and how lost she would leave me. i feel fooled i feel crazy.

@SharonJackson13 8 жыл бұрын

This is incredibly compassionate. The nicest thing I have heard said recently to someone who was grieving, was, "You will never forget your husband. It will take a while, perhaps a long while, but eventually, life will come knocking at your door. And when the time is right, let it in.

@chrisjohnson2246 3 жыл бұрын

@richardbradshaw7830 2 жыл бұрын

@viviangibbs4597 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. My heart is broken as I grieve my sweet husband’s passing.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

@user-rj5ld7jh7n 6 ай бұрын

Iam sorry you lost your love I too lost my loveithink icant go on but I have to and you do also we are needed by others please know iam praying for you may God bless you a sister in grieving

@LS-vb6kt 3 жыл бұрын

Just watched your video. Thank you for this. I just lost my husband 3 months ago and I don’t know where to go from here. The only thing that keeps me going is my faith and thats it. Thank you for helping us...❤️

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

@christinegalusky7621 6 жыл бұрын

This was amazing. It's been three years since my fiance passed away this unexpectedly and this is the first thing I've heard that has made any sense to me. For seven years he was here with me and then one night he was just gone, no goodbyes or anything. It's been hard but I am getting through it one day at a time, this helped a lot. Thank you.

@chrisjohnson2246 3 жыл бұрын

@latkagravas986 3 жыл бұрын

😢 Sorry for you're loss. I had my fiance just over 6yrs unexpected. She was my 'sweet, pretty, cute, tender lil Gf very much Wife' ---there was so much more to do and go😢. I really feel like that Rambo end scene, where Ive flipped out and Colonel Troutman (God) had to calm his tearfull wailing greif.

@TuuliPuro 7 жыл бұрын

When I saw a title of video I wasn't sure if I'm ready for the irony and jokes about grief and loss. I didn't know you have this side, too. But now... I really do appreciate this video. It was so comforting and relieving. You showed your compassion very sincerely. Thank you, JP.

@Sheskis 5 жыл бұрын

I love seeing this side of you❤️ My husband (joe) died five days ago 💔 This video spoke to me on so many levels and I can see myself watching this repeatedly over the next few months for help and inspiration Thank you so much

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

@markjohnson1483 3 жыл бұрын

I lost my dear wife of 30 years 1 day b4 her birthday and 2 days b4 Christmas 2020., still dealing with the grief and guilt,now deal ing with my brother terminally ill,and my son who has masterly gone missing for 3 months now, , not sure how much more sadness i can bare,, but these words of insight, support and direction have been very helpful ..thank you for this post...

@pearlsbeforeswine60 8 жыл бұрын

I'm late to the discussion, but something I would like to add is that grief takes as long as it takes. So many people who are bereaved come to me and say "it's been_____months, years..and I still feel so bad." They feel they should be "over it" by now. In my own experience with the suicide of my oldest, dearest friend 14 years ago, I look back and see that I was in another place for about 3 years after her death. I was in the world but not of it, behind the force field that is grief, yet appearing to be in the same reality as other people. It took a long, long time for me to exit the active grieving stage of losing her, but I was very patient with myself and want to encourage others to extend the same thing to themselves when bereaved. I will always feel the loss..but life has regained it's meaning, even though I am now grappling with breast cancer and even though I miss my friend every day. Grief is like losing a limb..( or in my case a breast)..eventually you learn to live well again, in spite of the missing piece of yourself.

@rsSoulRestore 5 жыл бұрын

I too, have been processing the concept of grief lately. So I was delighted to see you have touched on this subject, as I feel you delicately and truthfully discuss challenging topics. Grateful. 🙏 However, I’m having a very different view on grief. To start with any sort of process of understanding a concept better, I try to wrap my head around the definition of the word/concept I'm questioning. Grief-a keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss; sharp sorrow; painful regret; a cause or occasion of keen distress or sorrow. (Dictionary.com) “Mental suffering” sticks out to me. Is grief an ego related experience? Is grief a selfish experience? What comes first mental (thoughts) or emotions (feelings)? I feel grief causes mental suffering due to attachment. Thoughts on "my loss, my sense of happiness, my....etc" Attachment is not love. Attachment is fear. Another aspect of "grieving a loss:" How can we possibly understand “death,” if we don't understand life?? To understand both concepts, one has to understand energy. If we understand energy, then we can understand that energy does not *die.* I've found it to be comforting to understand the essence of energy, and remember the impermanence of these physical forms. Why is "physical death" so sad? (Attachment) Why do we go through the anger (fear), denial (fear), bargaining (fear), depression (fear)...all of this fear in order to remember the love (acceptance)? I've learned to transcend the fear/self-pity by replacing grief with gratitude. Instead of being sad, I'm grateful for the experience and the time and space I was able to share with the loved one. Our loved ones would NOT want us to grieve them, they would want us to continue finding the happiness within ourselves and to expand and flourish in our journeys. We all signed up for these lives and these lessons. Grief to me, is very selfish and self-defeating. I feel it's more empowering to remember the fact that our loved one's earthly experience has indeed, run its course and they have transitioned beautifully to the next realm and are on to bigger and better arenas of life. Instead of being sad for ourselves because we are left behind, we can rejoice that we too will transition one day as well and perhaps be reconnected; as energy never *dies.* We should celebrate them on their continued journey and know that they are cheering us on as we continue ours. We've got important work to do here; join me in raising the consciousness, raising the vibes. 🙌 Love and Light, my friends. ✨

@bubsy1990 7 жыл бұрын

This was a really helpful video thank you very much for making it. I think what is hard about grief and losing a partner is that you are forced into a new reality which you would never chose or want to live out. It takes a lot of strength to heal. I guess hurt is a result of loving something so deeply and for that I am grateful.

@dogma6713 5 жыл бұрын

I lost my wife March 23,2019 my life is still in shambles.... I don't know what to do is married for almost four years I'm so heartbroken

@Angela-un2tx 4 жыл бұрын

I am in the same boat....but I lost Dan On August 31st... I just want to be busy, but yet I just want to shrivel into nothing.

@x2mars 4 жыл бұрын

I'm lost too. This is awful

@maxpower3653 3 жыл бұрын

Same here guys! It’s been five months for me. I wish you all the best.

@5MinutePsychology 3 жыл бұрын

I hope you find solace. Grief is such a terribly painful process. What ever you are feeling now, do not be ashamed of your emotions. They are natural for you. Talk about your feelings. Express them. Do not keep them bottled up. If you are angry - be angry. If sad - be sad. If you feel empty inside - let yourself feel that. One day you will feel better. I promise.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 3 жыл бұрын

@@Angela-un2tx I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

@bloodrevanx 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. I was looking for music to match my feelings, and came across this. I lost my wife unexpectedly from pneumonia. We had been together for only about a year and close to 4 months. And only married for almost 4 months... She passed away in October 2020, I was away for military training when I had gotten a letter informing me of her loss. Thank you for the message you gave, they touched on points that I have been struggling with.

@danstempien7163 6 жыл бұрын

Very sincere thank you, my friend. You spread the word of love.

@schildca 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for giving people a place to share. Grief is so hard. 🙏💔

@courtneymassa2018 4 жыл бұрын

My husband's best friend was killed in 2017 from a head on collision with an 18wheeler. He wasn't the one driving someone else was. I didn't know how to be there for my husband, or the wife of friend who died. Nothing I say can bring him back or fix anyone's pain and im also grieving his loss he was an amazing father and even better friend to us. You are missed dearly Matthew Gregg!

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 3 жыл бұрын

@stephaniebussineau3724 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏻. I lost my Dad last November to cancer. We used to laugh at your videos together. This video is touching 😢😭

@5MinutePsychology 3 жыл бұрын

Grief is such an individual experience. Some feel anger, some feel sad. Some feel depressed...and other seem to feel nothing at all. The thing they all have in common is that all these emotions are perfectly natural. It’s important to let yourself feel all that. For as long as it takes. Some people say it takes a month to grief. Others that it’s a year. The fact is that there is no real timeline one needs to follow. It’s hard. It’s painful. And at some point probably each of us will have to face this.

@kelleymcfadden9675 Жыл бұрын

True peace and comfort can only come from Jesus Christ, unlike anything this world can offer. Jesus loves you more than anything else and He knows exactly what you are going through. I would like to share my best friend's story with you and I pray that you will find this peace. God bless you! Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ********************************************************* If you need more help or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/ If you don't have a church to attend, we would love for you to join us in person @ Liberty Faith Bible Church in Norwood, Mo. every Sunday morning central time 11:00 A.M., Sunday evening 7:00 P.M., and Wednesday evening 7:00. P.M. where you will hear sound, biblical preaching from God's Word as well as uplifting, godly music. Or you can join our livestream family at: libertyfaith.net Facebook: Reg Kelly-Table In The Wilderness Sermon audio: Liberty Faith Church Pastor Reg Kelly KZbin: Liberty Faith Church Reg Kelly sermons (not livestream, but recorded)

@lydiamoore142 13 күн бұрын

This is exactly what I needed to see. Human beings cannot give you the peace, and strength to go through grief, like Jesus can. I read something like this, about Jesus, and my heart lights up for the love that I have for Jesus. He is my comforter. He is my Savior. Thank you for this perfect post.

@marycicco6564 10 ай бұрын

I just want him back, we were supposed to have a couple of months…. We had 3 days. He was everything to me. My rock, my soulmate, my everything. I don’t want to live without him.

@sophiyabhoire1341 2 жыл бұрын

Let me stop leaving if you are not alive. How true feelings . ... I just don't go on leaving without you.....part of mine has been lost because he died suddenly unexpectedly in a minute before my eyes dr called it without any sickness...... pastor said it is time to go ..... ...i am House wife and i have my life around him......he is the person i emotionally connected spiritually.....i am feeling so so empty........i dont know right now how start again now.......my mind is not ready to believe i cannot share things emotionally with him.....whom should i talk.......... Lord please help me

@TheSamdu 6 жыл бұрын

JP I lost my partner on May 5, 2017. It was the saddest day of my life. Thank you for dealing with this topic. It's so difficult. I miss him every day... and I chose to absent myself from christmas these year - I just cannot face this without him.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 3 жыл бұрын

@racheldobbs2028 6 жыл бұрын

This is helpful. I lost my dad a few weeks ago and I've gone through different stages of grief and continue to do so. Thank you.

@enjoir 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you JP for creating this. This is the 3rd time watching this over the past couple 6 months since my wife's passing. It's helped me through this grieving process.. still is now... and also with soul searching.

@dahlilance6087 6 жыл бұрын

This a really beautiful and thoughtful tribute.

@missmerrily4830 5 жыл бұрын

When bereaved you have no 'grieve by' date as JP says. However, the rest of the world will try to impose a 'grieve by' date upon you. There isn't one, and your life is changed forever by the event of the death. The best bit of advice given to me when I lost my partner of over 20 years was, 'Be stoic, because the rest of the world doesn't care. Not after the first five minutes of your loss, anyway'. And so I learned to carry my grief like a load in a shopping bag. Life was heavier, and has been, ever since. It gets a little lighter eventually, but your new reality is different to that which was yours pre-bereavement.

@walterjunovich6180 2 жыл бұрын

I'm used to your funny videos. Thank you for addressing this painful and sensitive subject with tact and kindness. It is greatly appreciated. 💓💔😢

@Railtech_63. 2 жыл бұрын

Mr Sears love your channel and I'm so glad I found this video. I just lost my wife of 39 years, she a wonderful blessing to me. Your message was very insightful and helpful. I don't know what will happen but I have some information to cope with. I always known you had a good heart, thank you for sharing.

@sarahbayliss2950 3 жыл бұрын

This is helped as people keep saying to me just imagine in a year! I am still in shock!

@eileenbrogan1085 2 ай бұрын

Thank you JP, your words are an amazing comfort to me

@JohannaVeerenhuis 6 ай бұрын

Thankfully my husband is alive and healthy, but also he is 26 years older than I am, almost 77. You never know how life goes, but I tend to worry too much. (understatement, in general) Wise and respectful words, thank you.

@dansmith2253 4 жыл бұрын

I discovered JP several years ago. I have always enjoyed his ironic sense of humor, sarcasm, and subliminal wisdom. But with this video, he now has my respect and admiration. I never knew if he could be serious, But now I know. Thank you for the sensitivity with which you approach this difficult subject. You have done well!

@vamhot95 2 жыл бұрын

I agree!

@patriot9455 3 жыл бұрын

The look on your face told me this was not a comedy video. My wife and I are discussing after death life. Your empathy is amazing.

@jennysizemore9241 4 жыл бұрын

I hate the term "moving on." I get what you mean but it makes you feel like you're "forgetting" Them. I just lost my husband 3 months ago and I feel like it's gotten worse instead of better. Can't imagine going the rest of my life like this😔

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 3 жыл бұрын

Don't feel that way Jenny, sometimes in life the things we go through make us the people we are today, we just have to be strong when facing hard times.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 3 жыл бұрын

@richardbradshaw7830 2 жыл бұрын

@jennysizemore9241 2 жыл бұрын

@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb So very true. Thank you!

@susanbaker9315 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this JP Lost my husband almost 2 years ago. Still feeling raw pain at times Still trying to figure out how to move on but I can feel myself slowly moving forward. I don’t know what the future holds for me but I choose to believe that I do have a future and I will heal eventually

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

@kamillaiqbal6156 6 жыл бұрын

One of my friends recently lost her husband. It's tough. Thanks for the video and helping people feel better.

@sumoelment 8 жыл бұрын

I haven't gone through this situation/experience, but I figured it would help me if ever I did or someone I know does. Your advice is key in every aspect of life. Thank you, JP, you share awesome positive vibes to collective consciousness. I bow to you, and love you brother💓💓💓!

@AwakenWithJP 8 жыл бұрын

+Nancy Davila Thanks for bowing! But when you're done, be sure to stand up and look at me eye to eye because we are equals :-)

@anniej2670 Жыл бұрын

My beautiful soulmate died in a car accident on 25th May 2023 ❤️ he had turned 39 only a few days before. I will always love you honey

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 8 ай бұрын

@bridgetmccarthy7333 2 жыл бұрын

Lost my partner 2 weeks ago. Thank you for this video.

@AZ_Raven 2 жыл бұрын

Forty-five years ago, as a much younger man, I lost a dear, dear, girlfriend in a car accident. To say that she was special doesn't do her justice. I was young and naive and she was my first experience with death. I didn't know what to expect, what to do, how to act and to make matters worse, I didn't have a support system available. Or in my young age, I chose not to accept a support system that was maybe right in front of me. I struggled with it for a long time. She still occupies a significant space in my heart to this day and while I did move forward and lived my life to the fullest, I think of her frequently. I wonder, where would we be today if she were alive? What movies would she have liked? What jokes would she have told? What vacations would we have taken? What kind of woman is it that 45 years after her passing, I still miss her? The answer is obvious; a pretty special one. For you to make a video like this for one of your viewers says a lot about your character JP. You are an awesome human being! I wish that I had had the benefit of this insight 45 years ago. The insight in this video will help others for many years to come.

@VixeyTeh 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I really needed to hear this right now. Had two friends pass away in the last few months and I am mad at myself for not being there for them or being enough to keep them alive. I just thought it was guilt, but I understand it's part of the anger phase now. I am still dizzy, but thank you for giving me a point of reference to help me straighen myself out. Been in the depression stage this past week.

@jslogan8535 Жыл бұрын

Been watching you for about 3 years, love your videos, surprised to see you here, my wife is dying, doing hospice, but your video did help me get things kinda in prospective, thanks, peace brother

@islandwitt1 8 ай бұрын

I lost my husband 13 months ago. It doesn’t feel any easier to move forward. I’m still lost, but moving forward because I know he would want me to, even if I don’t. I’m a nomad now. Carrying my broken heart along, trying to find new meaning in my life. But it’s hard because no road I take leads me back to him. I wonder “why bother …?” I bother for my son, and my fur companions, I hope one day I will ‘bother’ for myself. I read a poem that said “you already broke, so the easy part is over, I know you thought that was the most painful chapter, it wasn’t, turn the page. The next part is much longer. It’s the healing. It’s the rise. The birth of a new (different) you, and it’s not easy. But you are strong and brave and worth it.” I don’t feel strong & brave, crawling in a cave would be easier. Others think I’m strong and brave, they don’t see the fear & tears. But I deserve the sunlight, and I’m worth it, so I’m not giving up on life, or myself. Hold on, Hang on. One day the sun will reach our broken hearts and a peace born of acceptance will find us (I hope).