Growing Up Gay In A Straight World: Olly Alexander

[@theoriesandscience468]

Having a GAY child doesn’t mean you failed as a parent, DISOWNING your GAY child means you Failed as a parent. Growing up was extremely hard for me because no one in my family understood me as I was developing. I was bullied in school for being “gay”... how do a kid know that at a young age? It’s not a choice although people seem to think it is... it’s important to love your kid no matter their preference.... give them the love they need to become who they will become.

[@jcdenton5828]

Candy Godiva it’s not a choice it’s programming on a mis association ! I’m sorry for the shit you’ve been through as a child but all you’re doing here is telling a story and not addressing facts.

[@RockyRoad7]

JC Denton yeah and it’s a great story. No “facts” needed

[@darunzahn3171]

@@fisher2536 The DSM5 and the majority of psych professionals disagree with you on the basis that being gay causes no harm or hindrance to the person experiencing it, but are usually badly influenced by homophobia and societal rejection whether actual or perceived. Further, prejudice such as homophobia, racism, misogyny, etc is having a case made of being a behavioral problem or illness because it can developed aversion to a person based on identity and not merit, and sometimes even leads to verbal or physical violence.

[@promptoffxv9657]

Sexual orientation is more accurate. “Sexual preference” is offensive.

[@AliceP.]

I'm gay as well, felt just the same in my family as you did all my life, and I'm so sorry that you've been through that - I can relate and I'd love to have a beer and listen to your story. Also sorry for the insensible comments you had to read after saying something so personal. We've been around to see how mean people can be. Take care!

[@dancewithme2278]

Being gay is hard

[@iamthegame09]

I agree and I think it's also important to remember that it's not being gay that's the difficult part, but rather societies view of it...the person isn't the problem, the people are the problem...

[@Nikolai70936]

Ok

[@PhsycoEarthling]

iamthegame09 if ur a bottom and a twink it's even harder

[@Lovetrain-io6kt]

dancewithme ! Being transgender is hard

[@rivvy2138]

@@PhsycoEarthling dude😂😂🤣

[@natalieluders378]

My daughter came out as gay but I had my suspicion from when she was bout 11 years old I love her dearly she my heart but she struggles every day , you just don't want your kids lives to be any harder then it has to be cause you know how awful and cruel people can be

[@MrDeerz]

Ok when i get a daughter she’s going to be gay to

[@natalieluders378]

@@durbijalajankovic6126 moron says what

[@arctic485]

Yikes.. Homophobes in this comment thread..

[@adriannajohnson3724]

your daughter came out as straight?

[@adriannajohnson3724]

@Tuxe735 why do you not respect our rights?

[@Bilal_is_joking]

When he started crying i started crying as well

[@Bilal_is_joking]

@Hit Stoner The fact that you click on this video...lmao..i invite you back to Islam as well....

[@Bilal_is_joking]

@Hit Stoner bisshhh you don't know me so stfu

[@Bilal_is_joking]

@Hit Stoner I invite you to 'Mind on your own business'

[@Bilal_is_joking]

@Hit Stoner "O you who have faith! Avoid much suspicion. Indeed some suspicions are sins." [Surah Hujurat:12]

[@Bilal_is_joking]

@Asriella The Sheepdog He was and he knew he was wrong so he deleted his comments...and don't worry I'm really open minded and easy going...thanks for asking 💕

[@yerssulyang.6267]

If in UK being a gay is hard then I can’t imagine what people’s feel in other countries like Asia, Africa, China

[@Ottieinthewoods]

Oh god yeah it's terrible

[@raskolnikov765]

People are killed there because they are gay for example:Ali Fazeli Monfared(rip)

[@ayoubben2018]

Im a 17 years and gay boy My life here in north africa is really hard and having no friends and I'm so lonely even my communications skill is so bad I think that has a relationship with staying at home all the time i really hope if gay rights is normal here 😭😭💔 Sorry for my bad english

[@boyezzy6546]

Hi. You're not alone. It's the same in west Africa. Stay safe and hope we get to know eachother ❤

[@sumeya1923]

Ezekiel Yirenkyi it’s not bad ♥️

[@nobodyimportant6871]

Stay safe! ❤️

[@samstamant1673]

Ur not alone. Maybe you can come to Europe

[@tanktank9486]

Stay strong being gay is not a crime it's the people that hold you down have small minds come too ireland it's totally different

[@jakenicholls4986]

people don't understand that people like this didn't choose to be this way. The way someone acts or sounds shouldn't affect anyone around them. bullies just need to get grip.

[@jakenicholls4986]

@R RQyou would never understand

[@hachikoakita5375]

@R RQ No, you just proved their point, because you thought the word "gay" in "gay conversion therapy" was an insult. Let me clarify, gay conversion "therapy" (using quotes because they don't have the same success rate as ACTUAL therapies, is a process meant to "help" people to stop being gay (with little effect, but that's a bit of a tangent). Point is, you missed the point by thinking the word "gay" was an insult there, thus making a fool of yourself, thus pretty much losing the argument. Sorry to be the one breaking it down for you mate.

[@hachikoakita5375]

@R RQ Oh, the classic "if you support them, you're one of them", one of the most common fallacies in arguments there is. Let's see if logic supports your claim (spoiler alert, it doesn't): Premise 1. Some homosexuals are effeminate Premise 2. Being effeminate sucks. Therefore, all homosexuals suck (not in that way). It is fallacious because not ALL homosexuals are "effeminate", what do you do with homosexuals who are not effeminate ? Getting back to your comment, I can also identify Ad Hominem (nice attacking the person instead of their argument, good job, you get one more logical fallacy point) and Red Herring (diverting attention from your mistake of thinking that the word "gay" utilised in that context was an insult). Sorry dude, your arguments are quite flimsy and the logical fallacies in them are quite easy to spot. You should work harder next time. "Have a great day". :)

[@hachikoakita5375]

@R RQ Sure, I am worked up, as I am with any argument since I do enjoy finding logical fallacies in them :). Red Herring again, adding some Argument from Personal Incredulity (I mean, after all, you also believe in a God, makes sense for you to make such big logical mistakes, pardon my French). Interesting to see you debunking yourself at this point (by calling out the fact that you said "I was effeminate" pretty much puts emphasis on your Ad Hominem fallacy, congrats dude, you're pointing out your own mistakes). Sorry dude, you lost. 1. Your arguments are full of logical fallacies. 2. You misinterpreted a simple English sentence. 3. You're making a fool of yourself replying again and again, even after you have been proved wrong. I'm suggesting you take a beginner's course in Logic and reflect on this. See you.

[@JANELLEFUCKINGPIERZINA]

*"Get a grip, get a life, and get over it."* lol

[@barrydelisle4453]

Homophobia is bullying and bullying is NOT ok

[@caioeduardobueno5474]

Viva a diversidade

[@fray4317]

i'm 13 and growing up gay. i'm a teenager, in secondary and british. the homophobia is actually unreal. i've moved schools, to a nicer area and also moved house to help cope with it. nothing really happened, homophobia is just wherever you go. i have lgbt friends now, and the school has been good when my friends reported some homophobia i would just never have the confidence to report because the teachers would know i'm gay. it just seems that most boys in my school don't know how to deal with it. its heartbreaking, because i'm just here to be here, and live my life. to go to school and be mocked for every slight thing i do is really depressing. it won't get better, and homophobia in 2019 is very real.

[@runround3]

frazer It’s a horrible situation but it honestly gets better as you get older, lots people mature (obviously not everyone unfortunately)

[@ethan5947]

The worst people for me are the WANA be roadmen who always try and bully me

[@diamondust2054]

hi! sorry i’m a bit late. just wanted to say that things do change, the world is slowly but surely getting a whole lot more accepting and welcoming for LGBTQ+ people. there’s still a lot of progress to be made, but we’re in the right direction. please remember that you don’t deserve any of the hate you’re facing. i really hope one day you’ll feel comfortable and confident in being you. i’m sure you’re an amazing person and wish you the best of luck. ❤️

[@matildarobinson7517]

My story is the exact same, I’m 12 and moved schools in year 7 because of all the bullying 😔

[@jackcobb2928]

I'm literally like this now 13 British gay recently moved schools and I feel for u dude

[@ericblair5841]

Olly is an awesome role model 🏳️‍🌈 he's so adorable and I have huge respect for his openness about mental health and being bullied.

[@woops5970]

He has given me confidence to face my anxiety and to be happy with who I am. I'm gay. And I'm fine with that. I don't care who gets in my way whoever pushes me over I will always get back up. Olly has definitely given all of us inspiration and confidence and made us all feel happy about who we are

[@emilywestwood7776]

he is so cute!

[@lillypatterson7670]

I love BTS!!!! Army forever

[@iamthatguyfromslipknot1137]

Uuuuhhhhgggg puke..

[@dcdemon5951]

@@iamthatguyfromslipknot1137 seek therapy

[@MelD88]

I can’t tell my parents that I’m bi- I’m a 31 year old woman living in the south, Christian, and married to a man but ever since I was in the 5th grade Iv been attracted to females, more so than men. The only person Iv ever come out to about it was actually my husband (because at this point it didn’t really matter since I married him and we have no plans of ever divorcing) but he was not happy about it at all, I just wanted to tell someone and get it off my chest but maybe I shouldn’t have. I donno... I don’t even know why I’m posting this- I just feel a lot of sadness

[@AliceP.]

I'm sorry you went through that. I had a fair share of coming out (as a lesbian) in my life and having people unload their sanctimoniousness on me. It's the worst thing and it makes you feel rejected and isolated, even though sometimes you don't realize that on a conscious level. It's not your fault that you decided to share something so personal with your husband and he couldn't meet you halfway. And it's good that you posted this. Find someone who's able to understand you, get it out.

[@itsyaboi3854]

@Britney L very true what you've said. I've had many bi or gay friends. So I kinda understand where you're coming from (surely not 100% I mean I'm just a straight white dude) and to not know for certain if you're either gay or lesbian is okay and totally normal at your age. Just live your life and eventually you're gonna find out. Sorry to hear about that you need to hide it from school and family. Many need to do that. I hope one day when you're older you can come out. Where you don't feel like you're living a lie. I really wish you the best :)

[@Nikolai70936]

Just tell them

[@Hey-py2hb]

idk how you guys get to switch your sexuality and then you say you are born with it

[@anguswu2685]

Hey Sometimes people switch because they might have changed tastes or have discovered more attraction for the other gender, just like how you might have different favourite foods as you grow up. I don’t think anyone is born to be straight, or gay, or bi, or whatever their orientation is, but often you grow up adopting the mindset that “you should be straight because most others are” and the fear of coming out casts doubts on your sexuality later on in life. In other words, you might’ve grown up preferring the same gender unconsciously and think you’re straight, but later on you realize that you’re gay, not straight

[@majesticlukas]

Gay or not, fantastic band. Deserve so much more credit. Fair play for taking time and being involved in a documentary and helping fans and others who have struggles. Hats of to you, sir.

[@MrGERiarza]

I told my mom a year ago that I am bisexual and leaning on the gay side a lot. She got confused because I had a girlfriend just a few months before that. Now I have a boyfriend, my ex girlfriend is my best friend and my mom still does not want to accept that I can date a guy. She still prays alot and told me that if I keep on living like this they will disown me. I hope someday she comes around or I come around and drop her from my life.

[@vishnushankar7232]

Stay strong buddy, you've got the whole community for support😊😊😊

[@obinwankwo8015]

I support u

[@sass_king5576]

Ger Iarza drop her, she will eventually come back and realize her mistakes

[@PhsycoEarthling]

Ger Iarza pick her up and dump her in the trash she just misses home when people miss home they get bitchy

[@Alphae21]

Tuffturtle.mvp

[@brokewithexpensivegames]

eugh this is so true. I hate when people say things like "well, it's accepted now." Even if you grew up in the most accepting environment, you will most-likely still feel shame and shame hits deep. As much as I have grown to love being gay, I know that it has affected my confidence and mental health a lot. And straight people don't have to go through that.

[@pietro_tino]

Exactly. And… is it even accepted now? It's just not quite as bad as it used to be. Still I wouldn't say "accepted"

[@fahadalfahad5403]

Not here baby not here . Still shame and danger in middle east 🏳️‍🌈❤️🏳️‍🌈 but i am still proud inside and out of me 😊👍

[@fahadalfahad5403]

mj It’s true my friend 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@selenaolivia6639]

Good for you!!! Be safe, I hope all goes well for you!

[@fahadalfahad5403]

Selena Olivia Thank you really , i try my best to be happy and be who i am 🙏🙏🙏

[@graeme5272]

Stay safe mate and keep smiling. Loving you , from Scotland!

[@fahadalfahad5403]

Graeme Dron Thanks ❤️❤️❤️❤️😘

[@iamthegame09]

I grew up in a time when in Ireland being homosexual was actually criminalised...so basically, when I was going through secondary school during the 1990's I was bullied relentlessly and had numerous death threats made against me...and what's worse, when it was unfolding in the classroom (yep, I was bullied in the classrooms) only ONE teacher ever said anything!...it wouldn't be till 1998 (I think) that homosexuality was decriminalised in Ireland) and by then it was too late for me...I'm openly gay and happier now but do I still feel the impact of growing up gay, absolutely...did the school I go to in my teens let me down, absolutely...am I now ashamed to be gay, absolutely NOT!!!..

[@GG-xcx9z]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@ysabellacohen-monfared7219]

NOT SURPRISED. THEY'RE IRISH MATE.

[@swinephrog6428]

@@ysabellacohen-monfared7219 we legalised marriage in 2015 and our just gone PM was gay but after all that were still a shockingly homophobic country and it’s disgusting

[@anniem251]

Isn’t that just Northern Ireland though

[@YARROWS9]

Ireland. Just like all countries that are majority Catholic, are singing the same hymsheet as an outdated and homophobic church based in Rome. That should not be having any influence in modern culture. This doesn't happen in mainly Protestant Countries like the US, UK and Germany.

[@kokolores.4690]

I´m so happy for him that he has such a great mum :)

[@xoxoindigolovespirituality8587]

Some of the comments on here are absolutely disgusting.

[@thetrippedup9322]

Tee-Hee-Hee we're free

[@jcdenton5828]

JC Denton LOL... I’m on data and DP took a while to load... I’m thinking... I don’t remember making this comment... DP loads... oop diff DE pic, yep wasn’t me. Lol

[@fray4317]

@@ramens say that again c:

[@frankjackson2359]

@@ramens You were a mistake so....

[@fray4317]

mj alright, and why?

[@Drp-te8om]

You’re an amazing guy Olly, and speaking about what you’ve experienced is so extremely helpful to others. I’m a 54 year old gay man in the US and I still deal with the issues of people saying things or the fear of standing too close to my husband in public with the wrong people around. It’s a tough world filled with a lot of ignorant people, but I wouldn’t change who I am for anything! xo

[@jodiebrian9343]

I'm totally not crying. Gonna send this to my friend to show it gets better

[@user-ow4wk8kp9q]

same like ew gay

[@prpeptv8463]

Ew gay? What?

[@franzleonard3903]

Here's to those who have depression and anxiety. We'll survive this one too.. Amen 🙏🏻

[@anitap2619]

To all my LGBT+, I love you, you are not alone and I keep you in my prayers to be accepted someday 🙏❤️

[@zeropomegranates9976]

what about straight people

[@anitap2619]

@@zeropomegranates9976 I hope someday everyone should be treated equally and everyone should be loved the same way 😊

[@amigaamigo5307]

10,000 Christians were killed in 2017. Being human is just crap.

[@sarahgoesvroom]

@@zeropomegranates9976 straight people are still accept in the world

[@zeropomegranates9976]

@@sarahgoesvroom soon in the future straight or normal people as is say will be seen as the weird ones

[@TheOnlyWil]

I was never bullied as a child for being gay. I’m 17 now and came out a year ago. I feel like I covered it up my whole life. I always made an effort to come off masculine and then when I came to secondary school I really put my head into books and hung out with the nerds. I think subconsciously I wanted to be made fun of for being a nerd rather than gay as inside I knew I didn’t really fit in with the super smart kids, it wasn’t really me so I didn’t care if I got made fun of for that but if I was taunted for being gay, that thought scared me as I knew it was who I truly was

[@djdean75]

Sounds exactly like my secondary school years

[@michaeldonohue167]

You weren't bullied outwardly, but you were bullied in a more general sense by a society that only allowed you to be straight - or else! The oppression is a form of bullying. Some were called names, some feared being called names. It's the same thing.

[@alexandrinewood8561]

This actually hurts my feelings. He got bullied when he was to 8 to 15 years old. 😫😫😭😭

[@Alphae21]

**9*

[@mariec6056]

Laa

[@anyalee5056]

Forever a huge role model for me. Growing up gay for me wasn't hard, as my parents were always accepting and I spent life until 17 closeted to everyone (now, only my parents and a few friends know), but it was different. It is challenging to grow up feeling different to everyone else around you and it can be scary to be alone in that process of figuring out who you really are. Having out and proud role models such as Olly, Hayley Kiyoko, Zolita, Ellen Page, Kristen Stewart, Clea Duvall and many more is so so vital to showing children hat the way they feel is felt by others as well and that they really aren't alone. I'll always be grateful to Olly for showing me this at such a young age. He is, truly awe inspiring.

[@luca-mr4it]

The worst part about being bullied as a kid is that I knew I couldn’t tell my parents anything about it, they probably would have made things worse. When I was 9, my parents told me "we would rather have a dead son than a gay son". I really hated myself, to the point that I thought ending everything would be better than being myself. Even if eventually I was able to overcome that, what I went through really broke me and left me with strong anxiety. These scars will never heal

[@unstablezebra8115]

I’m one of the lucky people who didn’t experience anything bad when I’ve come out to friends and family and I feel so grateful for that

[@VivekPatel-ze6jy]

Same here... I'm so lucky that my year group is relatively accepting

[@danrgn5078]

This brought tears to my eyes… Literally every single words Holly and his mum said hit me like a bullet train at full speed.

[@baileythedog9243]

Nothing wrong with being gay I’m not gay myself but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it!

[@kikkasluca]

Yeee I love this little gay man ... Being gay is a constant struggle, I experienced depression myself, it's very hard.

[@amzar4587]

Luca Caldari dont be gay

[@PhsycoEarthling]

Luca Caldari little? I couldn't tell of u were being shady

[@kikkasluca]

@@PhsycoEarthling little like cute :) no shade at all

[@PhsycoEarthling]

@@kikkasluca okurrrrrrrr sorry I've been watching too many rupauls drag race

[@kikkasluca]

@@PhsycoEarthling me too haha :D

[@beeurd]

I think one of the reasons why it's so difficult to talk to your parents about being gay is sometimes it's just as difficult to admit to come to terms with it yourself, especially if you've been brought up in an environment where being gay is seen as being wrong.

[@vomm]

And talking about feelings as a man is also untypical, and is seen as typically gay.

[@kellnola]

Ya think?!?!?!?!?

[@sonia-kv6xk]

seeing olly cry hurts me

[@skankined]

I’ve just seen this for the first time... it was on TV tonight in Hong Kong where I live. As the uncle to my transgender niece, a lot of things discussed were very relevant and poignant. Everyone deserves to live a happy life. Thank you for sharing!

[@just_resa]

In my teens I was bullied because of my complicated family situation and because of my mental health. So when I realized I was queer, I didn't come out for a long time. I also was so scared of not fitting in and not being "normal" that I pretended to be straight and dating boys. It's been a few years and I'm out now. But there are some things that are still hard for me. For example I struggle with using the words for gay and lesbian in my own language, german, because I associate something bad with it. I even struggle with the English word "lesbian" because it's so close to the German word "lesbisch". And I know this is weird, but growing up I've heard those words as insults, so it's hard for me using them. Even though I am a lesbian, so every time I come out to someone, I have to swallow down the bad feeling. On a more happy note, I have a super supportive mom and when we talked about me being scared of not being normal she just asked me what normal even was. She said, that she as a blind person wouldn't be considered as normal and that "normal" doesn't really exist.

[@luca-mr4it]

Unfortunately I can relate to what you said about using the word "gay"... growing up in rural Italy, gay was always a taboo, something shameful and perverse. My own parents told me that they would rather I was dead than gay. And even now that I've come to fully accept myself, I still feel a massive burden when I have to use the word gay, as if all the shame and self loathing came back to the surface. I hate that feeling

[@johnking5174]

Olly is so warm, lovely and cute. I would be so proud if he was my younger brother.

[@sophies8313]

I love years and years and I love olly. Not only is their music great but so are they as people and this has shown me even more how much they deserve all the support they get off their music, honestly would love to meet them because they seem like such genuine people

[@HouseOfRainbow]

Thank you so much for sharing this Olly. Hope you are getting all the support you need. Young LGBTQ folks need affirmation from their families and communities.

[@jojofc88]

I went to school in the nineties and early noughties. The bullying was horrible, especially when I started senior school in 2000. I refer to that time in my life as the Dark Ages. Looking back I was *INCREDIBLY* confused, very frightened and extremely lonely. The bullies said that being gay meant I was a paedophile and that I would die from AIDS. I wasn’t even entirely sure what the words gay, paedophile and AIDS meant back then. My parents had guessed I was gay but never mentioned it. They meant well but in hindsight I can see that they had the mentality of their 1970s youth where you just didn’t talk about homosexuality. I was bullied because I was different and as a result, none of the other kids at school wanted to be friends with me and subsequently put themselves in my line of fire. One of my saddest memories was coming into school and panicking because I’d been off sick one day the previous week and hadn’t got the homework assignment, so I had no homework to hand in and I was scared that I was going to get in trouble. A girl said to me: “why didn’t you just text someone in your class to find out what the assignment was?” I said: “because I don’t have anyone’s number”. And she replied “you don’t have anyone’s number??!?” I didn’t realise that the other kids all had each other’s phone numbers. I didn’t have anyone’s because I had no friends - but that was normal for me. It never even occurred to me that the other kids all had each other’s numbers. I was never invited to birthday parties or sleepovers, whenever we had to pair up for projects I was always the last person left and the teacher had to pair me up with someone because no-one wanted to work with me. Being an LGBT kid is so hard and so lonely.

[@zugisbugis7716]

This is literally the real life "I'm the only gay in the village" lmao

[@mb34679]

F off. Ignorant bigot.

[@mb34679]

@American girl His trying to discredit Olly's experience and many other feminine lgbt's. By creating an illusion that it's a non issue. Yet we clearly see the impact in high suicide rates from the community.

[@zugisbugis7716]

@@mb34679 im just saying this reminds me of little Britain and im sure everyone straight or gay can agree

[@mb34679]

@@zugisbugis7716 You ain't slick with that shade. Maybe go to the LGBT center near you and gain some understanding about a community you barely know. There suicide rates etc I cant go talking for women, on their rights because i've never experienced the reality of being a woman. Then write such shade about women or bristol, rural kids etc Nor talk for disabled persons on what they only need, based on my opinion and experience.

[@mb34679]

@David David Go make fun of some woman that faced some rape,domestic violence issues, some old folk that got swindled, some dude that got raped. Lots of videos covering that. There's lots of pop culture comedies covering such topics. Hey you could gain lots of likes for your gratification.

[@awoFalase]

We must not confuse having pride with oneself and who you are with the reality that some folks make it difficult to exist in the world.

[@veganvocalist4782]

What a beautiful relationship he and his dear mom have together . Proud of him ✊🏼

[@sykogemini]

Firstly let me say Olly is an amazing singer and such an amazing example of a proud man living authentically. secondly I agree 100% We do all grow up in a straight world and no matter how accepting people are around you we grow up feeling wrong and damaged. I agree that there is no one who is gay/lesbian/bi/trans etc. who isn't damaged in some way, but also we are all survivers, even those we have lost. Thank you Olly for your bravery and honesty!!!! you have expressed exactly how I feel.

[@joeyl669]

Thanks for this so much. I'm from a small hick town in South Wisconsin. I grew up there my entire life. I never really had the chance to meet another gay person my age. When high school started, I got to watch all my friends have relationships. I never got to have that, though.

[@ItJustT]

Olly’s music is amazing and I love the live shows him and band put on. So much positive energy and so much raw honesty. Mad props!!!!

[@lovelyskull3483]

Erase Hate, please.

[@j.stanisic1586]

Ma Tt 🖕🏻

[@rivvy2138]

@@user-ow4wk8kp9q if you weren't born the world would be a better place.

[@AnonymousCaveman]

Honestly came out last year as bi and I have some struggles through this year but honestly after discovering Olly's music and saw him in its a sin, he's been such an inspiration for me to be happy for who I am 💜

[@luqke9518]

This made me cry sm like wow- this is actually so relatable and just like thank you so much for making this and spreading the word

[@codywolfwestern2476]

They put Gay and Straight in bold as if it's so different when they're both just sexualities. Interesting.

[@codywolfwestern2476]

@Faith Omoniyi idk

[@mat8194]

Sexuality is the main focus of the video?

[@kxroq]

No hate I want to know what you’re meaning too. Do you expect them to put “a” in bold?

[@KhelCayetano]

Awwww this is very inspiring 😊😊😊 thanks for sharing!

[@babyybatter]

people have trillions of trait and things that make people who they are. Their personality, skin colour, everything. Why is being LGBT any different to those other things? People treat me differently, not only to insult me for being gay but just asking things like when did you first find out you are gay or what are my gay experiences. I get you may be curious but my point is that I don't get asked these kinds of questions because of my hair colour or for being funny ect. Being LGBT is no different, we're born like this, can't change it and for some reason it's treated as something that decides what kind of person I am. I'm happy that things are getting better but homophobia will never go away and most people will never treat LGBT people the same as others and it sucks.

[@shortangel333]

IDK, but I was watching this thing where people were against interracial marriage in the 70's and I was like take out mixed people for gay people and this sounds rather familiar.

[@enigmatube613]

Even living in a "liberal" city like NYC, I have to deal with #homophobia & #transphobia, all the time on top of my other oppressions. People stare at me in the streets, men don't want to sit next to me or give me dirty looks, people talk behind my back, and make fun of me and call me names. At times I feel pressured to conform for other people to accept me, but I will never be seen as normal, so I stopped pleasing everyone, and continued to be myself openly, and accept a select few into my inner circle who are kind and worthy of being my friends.

[@TheShepherds2323]

And I’m a lesbian and I’m not afraid to show myself to the world....I dated 2 girls who soon broke my heart after a few weeks. I am not searching for love, but instead let love find me. You are not alone you don’t find much girls who like girls or boys who like boys, but just so you know, there used to be a lot of lesbians in my school, but they came down after Christmas..that was when I got to date my second time and after a few weeks, she broke my heart from my first ex..so don’t worry, your not alone.

[@peterbodenham9412]

As a gay guy I’ve learnt that it’s not straight people who have had a negative impact on my life, it’s other gay guys. Rare to meet an actual decent one.

[@rebeccaturton4278]

I was bullied 9-15 amazing your mum new and so accepting, welcomes you back

[@James-ng4ie]

He is a nice person and kind I wish the best

[@johnrmce]

What is wrong with people, allowing their children to bully anyone is just terrible parenting

[@johnking5174]

When children bully other children at school, the parents are usually the last to know.

[@laurasophie1633]

To see him crying is so hard 😭❤️

[@francescacats1988]

His mom, his family, himself have to be proud because he is an amazing person and artist, able to give happiness and hope to others. He is a wonderful actor and musician and I really wish him all the best in his life and career.

[@lithiumionized]

*Oh, what? These? Oh no, these are not tears... someone was just cutting onions... uh... totally ain't lying.*

[@alexleon1396]

You’re the most amazing person nothing to hide feel proud of yourself. Being who you’re is nothing wrong was hard year ago but now people like speaking up help others like you. Be just you. Paulina she’s your number one fan ❤

[@angelaandersons7918]

Ritchie!!! I ADORE YOU!! Olly Alexander is sensational, just an awesome singer and so cute x

[@missgucciify]

SO HAPPY Olly has now made it to the top, fills stadiums at his concerts, is rich and independent. I wonder what his former bullies would say to him if they had the courage to meet him. As a teacher here in Germany I always was very strict about bullies.

[@chrish4303]

Never let anyone get you down. Smile at negative vibes and be true to yourself. Although I'm not gay and I'm not a fan of it. I would never say anything negative to someone who is gay as they are the same as anyone else. We all have a heart and want to love and be loved. The world needs to stop judging everyone else and start looking at ourselves and our own flaws.

[@jcdenton5828]

chris h there is humanity and stupidity. Some have both , fewer have one. Btw Chris. I know I’ve replied to a few of your comments and now this one. I’ve been an unbiased personal growth psychology, sociology mental health student for over 10 years. People like me are harder on themselves than others. So yeah, I truly have done the work and agree with 85% of what you say. You’re missing the balls though bro. Don’t worry, even badasses like me who are used to conflict and confrontation their whole lives still don’t like doing it! (You’re so close)

[@chrish4303]

@@jcdenton5828 Trust me when I say I'm not a soft guy. I'm the kind of person no one dares to cross. However, I also have a heart and don't tolerate boas people. As far as I can tell is that your obviously trying to put some negativity my way for no reason. That's ur choice. However, if gays want to be understood the hissy fits and the mouth needs to stop. Simple

[@katiestolealltheunicorns9309]

@@jcdenton5828 Unbiased? How can anyone be arrogant enough to call themselves unbiased?

[@expastelline_sof2742]

Why are we hated for loving.. i will never understand that... why do we get killed, bullied, assaulted, oppressed for LOVING.

[@Samuel115s]

Things are very good and normal in my life now but yes there has been times in my life where being gay negatively effected my life.

[@brachadan6648]

This is unbeliavable. 2021 and young lgbt people still have to undergo the same bad things that we did 10, 15, 20 years ago or more? I am shocked and really dissapointed that even in BRITAIN !!!!!

[@jinkii]

love you olly!!!!!! you’re so strong and inspiring!!!! ❤️💝🌸🌷

[@ScottA2345]

Fantastic little video that packs a wallop of a message. Olly Alexander - thanks for just putting yourself out there - being vulnerable in front of a large audience of strangers. It takes guts - courage. And it is how things will get better for all LGBT people. Tell your story - be present - be truthful - be yourself. It is beyond liberating.

[@alisham6634]

This would've been a good interview in the 80s-90s but not so much in 2019. I feel like this is news that certain people love to hear these days.

[@vishnushankar7232]

What do you mean?

[@DAPortalatin]

Thank you so much for talking about this subject Olly! You said it perfectly about how it feels growing up gay/the LGBTQ experience. I literally felt sick with you as you headed back home/all the feels thinking about the past. Plus, it just really means a great deal/the world/got me in tears/100% relate/connect to this!!! You are an amazing, multi talented, awesome human being/beautiful person, and just inspiring/giving me hope/feeling not alone/understood! Thank for being you and everything that you do! Love ya!

[@lowrijones3279]

This is so good, I relate alot to olly and I want to thank him for sharing this ❣

[@kevinosboosborne179]

Oh olly your such a talented singer sending 🫂 hugs

[@gamerpro5112]

This really helped me because I’m going through a really hard time with my mental health and I’m trans a lot off people don’t understand or dislike that I’m am and it making my anxiety and depression to be bad

[@paulinehoward2254]

What a totally beautiful human being Olly is...sweet soul...x

[@lillypatterson7670]

Who cares if he’s gay! he’s still an amazing angel I love him so much

[@DD-ih7wn]

His story mirrors my own half a world away. Thanks for sharing Olly, my brother, you beautifull being, we are one more step closer to making the world more inclusive. Big hug to all the LGBTI folks on here.

[@brenton4752]

I know what exactly you are talking about. I myself grew up in the straight world. I grew up in the premillennium time frame. my family didnt support it and today still does not. I am 45 yrs old and i broke by silence in 2016 to just a few family members. I am still in the closet to the rest. It is super hard and it hurts deep down.😢💖

[@bmacdonald3557]

You are amazing! Such a positive role model.

[@LauraPictures]

Really great & moving documentary! 💙

[@eccentricpickle2127]

I’ve loved years and years for ages, and I only found out about him being gay a few weeks ago and I don’t think any less of him. If I liked his music before hand there is no reason why I shouldn’t like after I found out he was gay. I doesn’t matter to me whether you’re gay or straight

[@Ossymann]

"Growing up with a gay person"

[@woops5970]

Is fine

[@mint3291]

I do not cry YOU cry

[@freddysegers6439]

Live your life stay yourself be happy with your feelings don t be a shamed your human that s all .wish all the luck

[@zeddeka]

Speaking as a gay man myself who went through this kind of thing - it damages everyone. What is interesting is that some people are utterly crushed but others are hurt to a lesser extent. In my experience, that difference is almost always causes by one thing - family. The people who end up damaged the most are the ones who come from unhappy families. It's no surprise to me therefore to find out that Ollie's dad left the family when he was young. That will have caused another massive trauma that he probably hasn't got over. Those who come from happier families are given a kind of emotional bedrock that allows them to process the trauma of homophobia better and come out less damaged.

[@natashabrown4920]

This comment section is so negative and pretty disgusting if your homophobic don't watch a video about gay people and take your hate somewhere else

[@woops5970]

I KNOW RIGHT

[@ArthurBrinkman-c5z]

At the age of 13 I tried to commit suicide. I had prayed and prayed to god to not let me be gay and then I prayed some more. I discovered two things. 1st. I'm gay And 2nd there is no god. To this day I still have issues with depression and suicidal ideation. I believe at least partially due to the issues of being a gay teenage in the 70's school was nothing less than 5 days if he'll every week. Beat up bullied spit on. Any torture any other 13 year old could think of. If you think it's changed today. Your wrong, it's still there. Your kids just still won't tell you. Like I never told my parents then. A kid needs to be able to accept themselves for who they are. If they can't accept themselves, who will accept them. If you think you have a gay kid. Talk to them, let them know you will love them no matter what. Parents, please just love your kids. Take the fear away. Even if you don't understand. They need you!

[@musamaturah4693]

Hey. You should have faith!. God is real and everything happens for a reason 🙂.

[@jcdenton5828]

Deleting most of my comments because they’ve become a little unstructured. (It’s not easy keeping cool when trying to communicate with people who are obsssesed) I’ve just had things repeatedly confirmed though that the LGBTQQ community is obsessed with sexuality and we should just ACCEPT without understanding...

[@samanthahaynes8740]

My gorgeous beautiful son came out 4years ago I love my boy with all my heart I'm so so proud of him I just can't get my head around how attitudes in the 21 st century are still judgemental and homophobic gay and proud that's what I say and what a fabulous guy ollie is

[@tigrasmith_28]

I'm proud of you baby, you have a lot of support behind you🌈💜 It's horrible that you've been made to feel this way and that you were bullied😔

[@woops5970]

LGBT+ supports you ❤🧡💛💚💙💜😁🏳️‍🌈

[@richardcoffeygeneral]

I hope and keep fingers crossed that the interviewees featured here in 2017 went on to get all the support they needed and live better lives now in 2023. I kinda wonder what happened to them ☺️

[@casiesilverman]

What a pure soul 💛

[@lewis123417]

Being gay I never felt disadvantaged. Thankfully

[@alexandrapavlova6593]

i honestly feel and love Olly so much, sending love, and sending this to my friends 💖💖💖

[@shoponline831]

I’m also a gay man who struggled with bulimia for a long time

[@strictlyboys]

I'm happy being gay

[@vishnushankar7232]

Me too coz you're REALLY cute😊😊😊

[@amzar4587]

I’m not happy that you’re gay.

[@strictlyboys]

@@vishnushankar7232 Thank you! 😊

[@vishnushankar7232]

@@amzar4587 Nobody cares whether you're happy or not about him being gay...and nobody asked your opinion about it......

[@pietro_tino]

Amezar I'm not happy that you're alive

[@ciara313245]

I just wanna give this man a hug frrr😭😭😭😭😭

[@elisestevenson5428]

remember when he was in skins...

[@clairoswife]

was he omg

[@elisestevenson9120]

@@clairoswife yes the last season in the episode pure

[@stephenrafter1022]

They call me names growing up as gay because I was very shy. It was horrible. I just want to meet a nice decent man now and forget the world. This is a straight world and not everyone is straight.

[@MWPRO1000]

Wish you the best, king

[@stephenrafter1022]

@@MWPRO1000 Thank you king.

[@stephenrafter1022]

Where are you from.

[@TP-fl9ul]

Very similar story here in Russia, i love you! Be strong hug you

[@sallycox2135]

Nobody should be upset or ashamed of being Gay. You are born that way and you should just love who you are , be kind and caring and BOLLOCKS the the guy haters . My brother is gay and I'm of firm belief that guy haters are scared of their own sexuality