Gumball's Saddest Episode And Letting Go Of The Past

Gumball's got some pretty sad moments. In this episode Nicole and her parents learn to accept eachother, as we learn to embrace our present selves.
CHAPTERS:
0:00 - INTRO
1:27 - THE PARENTS
5:54 - THE CHOICES
7:53 - THE ORIGINS PT. 1
8:25 - ARGUMENT
10:22 - RESOLUTION
13:44 - LIVING IN THE MOMENT
15:05 - THANKS FOR WATCHING G
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[@CrobatmanIamthenight]

my favourite emotional moment in gumball has to be how nicole met richard and how she accepts that her family life isnt perfect but she wouldent change that for the world

[@jacklyntree7752]

I tear up everytime at the music montage of them meeting, growing up and staying together through thick and thin

[@Joeh_]

Don't get me started on "the hero" 😭

[@jiraisuzuya]

@@Joeh_ the song richard sang made me bawl my eyes out for some reason

[@BlackDiamond2718]

@@Joeh_the problem is how they tried to solve it. Darwin had a better solution.

[@WarFoxThunder]

Ikrrr

[@SirAsdf]

Gumball is like the only show where the workaholic mom and the lazy lay-about slob dad being together actually makes sense.

[@wtichery]

I understand Marge and Homer tbh

[@sarad2487]

I don't even understand Cosmo and Wanda.

[@genericname2747]

​@@sarad2487 I remember when they loved each other

[@sarad2487]

@@genericname2747 yeah, the first seasons were gold.

[@KE-yq2eg]

It's almost like she wanted to be with Richard in order to spite her family though.

[@brickshithouse8780]

I like how Richard is portrayed as dumb and stupid but he's always there for his wife and is definitely emotionally smart at times. Nicole is the logical leader and Richard is the emotional supporter which is why they get along very well together

[@SupHapCak]

I don’t like how they flip back and forth between him being dumb and not being dumb, because it makes me think he’s got some sort of disorder they’re playing off as stupidity.

[@ntfoperative9432]

@@SupHapCakit’s not that they’re flipping, it’s that he is intelligent in some ways, an absolute idiot in others. He definitely couldn’t tell you how to fix a car, how to get a job, but if you’re down and out, he’ll know what needs to be done to get you back up again

[@aaronkasarion8144]

​@@SupHapCak Being academically intelligent and emotionally intelligent are two different things.

[@acoin1116]

Welcome to 1K likes my dude

[@Yusuf45993]

Wait bro should be a carters advisor 🤣🤣

[@sethbrokmeier3744]

There's a hidden detail about this episode- it's implied if Nicole's parents didn't hit the brakes, they would have DIED. The episode goes out of its way to show a truck was coming at the intersection, and Nicole's parents were distracted looking back and/or crying to notice the oncoming traffic. If her father hadn't hit the brakes to come back, it would've been too late to make up- forever.

[@LeBatteur]

I feel like that’s putting way too much guilt and blame on Nicole, who was an actual child when they hurt her. She’s under no obligation to forgive them, and that whole “well someday they won’t be here” BS is only ever used by people who don’t understand that sometimes cutting family off has less to do with petty grudges and more to do with actual sanity and mental wellness- or, the abusers themselves. The parents were ALWAYS the ones responsible for making things right. They didn’t. If she never saw them again, it would be their own fault.

[@sanicboi9187]

​@@LeBatteur From my view it didn't feel like that scene was putting blame on Nicole. It was signifying that if her parents didn't realize their mistakes and went back to make up, then they would never have another chance to reconcile with her.

[@user-wn3wv5bx5e]

@@LeBatteur I don't think this is about Nicole? The song was definitely referring to the parents too. It's _their_ time that's running out, and their only legacy with their daughter is anger and fighting. In fact it had to be her _parent's_ decision to stop and come back to _her._ Isn't that directly implying it had to be her parents that decided to come back and finally show their care for their daughter, rather than it should be Nicole to do all the effort to receive acceptance?

[@ayjayce]

WOAHH

[@jojode334]

​@@LeBatteuridk, i feel it's more complicated than that. I totally agree that no one should be under obligation to stay in their family's lives just because there's this stigma that family will always unconditionally love you so you should put up with abuse, but in this specific instance in the show there's still a want on both sides to fix things despite all the mistakes. Regardless of who is to blame, the only way for the relationship to be given the chance they all want, is for both parties to be willing to let go of all the fighting. You're right that Nicole is a victim in this circumstance of pretty bad parenting, but by the time they're adults BOTH nicole and her parents have done a whole bunch of unnecessary crappy things to each other and refuse to take accountability because "well that was only after you did this!". They all still wanted to make things work, and the only way to do that was to let go of all the past fighting. Not every family dynamic works like that, and it doesn't have to. I think it works well in the show though. I'm sorry if you go through something similar with your family, i have as well and it's so hard to go through..

[@queen-Angel-3]

'' it's because you tried to ship Richard to Guatemala'' that line never failed to make me laugh 😅

[@metal_pipe9764]

Guatemala🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹

[@NCEYSPT]

Guatemala 🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹

[@AGoofyJester]

GUATEMALA MENTION 🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹

[@BlackDiamond2718]

I would lmao if nicole was in the crate too and took a free vacation

[@abnerrodriguez739]

Guatemala 🎉🇬🇹

[@notlucinda]

Nicole has ALWAYS reminded me of my own mom. She grew up in a strict Korean-American family where she was always forced to overachieve. She ended up taking a vacation to Australia, meeting my dad, and getting married all within a few months without telling her parents anything.

[@BlossomPathOnStage15]

What happened afterwards? I genuinely curious.

[@AtlasGaming-1993]

​@@BlossomPathOnStage15 well obviously this commenter was born

[@a_random_lizard]

but, does your grandparents know all about this after all these years? and if so, do they accept this?

[@angstyteen6042]

Getting married within months of meeting each other doesn't sound too responsible.

[@notlucinda]

@@a_random_lizard they do. we visited them once but all i really remember is my mom and grandma arguing a lot.

[@storozhevoy75]

Nicole has every right to hate her parents for how they treated her.

[@mrwonka407]

She really had. But that's the point of the entire episode: would it be the best choice, though?

[@angstyteen6042]

​@@mrwonka407whatever choice made her feel better was the right one.

[@felixstrider]

@@angstyteen6042 broken mug shards on the ground are a hazard others need to step around lest they get hurt. the responsible thing is to pick them up

[@pawuki]

@@angstyteen6042at the end, she said “i just want you guys back” .. it seems like she just wanted to see them again, but not through fighting

[@DeathnoteBB]

@@mrwonka407Uh, yeah? They abuse her and tried to export a whole man. I think she has a case to go no contact

[@Bryce_the_Woomy_Boi]

It's crazy how the show can go from Gumball and Darwin trying to return a DVD and going to school, to loving someone for who they are and reuniting a daughter and her parents.

[@Yoshihelicopter]

Sup Bryce

[@Bryce_the_Woomy_Boi]

​@@Yoshihelicopter not much.

[@Yoshihelicopter]

@@Bryce_the_Woomy_Boi wdym?

[@Bryce_the_Woomy_Boi]

@@Yoshihelicopter sup means "what's up" and there's not much going on for me.

[@Yoshihelicopter]

@@Bryce_the_Woomy_Boi oh ok.

[@daneddieloayon2701]

When Mary opens her phone and it's revealed that she has Gumball, Darwin, and Anais on her phone and cares about Nicole's children is shocking I thought she didn't want nothing to do with them

[@CRSB00]

There were othe little things, like the face she makes when Nicole walks away after telking them she's marrying Richard and that's the tragedy here, Nicole's parents do love her but they suck at showing it and that has lead to years of resentment from both parties

[@ntfoperative9432]

@@CRSB00i feel like her mother more than her father

[@coolchrisable]

@@ntfoperative9432 given their age and the time they grew up i wouldnt say that as he does care for her and is hurt by her words its jsut like his daughter to fucking stubborn to admit when they are wrong and dont really like showing weakness. hell for all we know after he went back in the house after nicole left probley broke down in tears

[@Mordecrox]

​@@coolchrisable don't want to show weakness? Fine by me, king/queen, rest in power. For me it is even more aggravating when they want to engage with the grandchildren but not wanting to make amends with their child who is now a parent and demonstrated how much of a failure they were. In fact I know a few parents who are still aggravated with their children BECAUSE they directly or indirectly proved them wrong by raising their kids the opposite of what they got. Reap what you sow, and gaze upon your fields and see they are barren.

[@coolchrisable]

@@Mordecrox ty King/queen i would mostly say its both him and nicole are overly stubbon. i do agree Nicole has every right not wanting to make amends with her folks thats 100% understandable and not wanting them around her kids. also this isnt for you i jsut wanna point this out no one questions when granny joe joe also kicked richard out like do we all jsut forget that while nicole stormed out richard was kicked out

[@hedgehogpower194]

Something to give a REALLY BIG mention is that "Hit the Brakes" was not only a expression in the song but visually too as a giant truck was going to the same intersection that Nicole's parents car, as they decided their lives were not worthy as they screw up their chance to have a family back At other words, if it wasn't for Nicole stopping them, those roads would have been tainted red It's so crazy how that scene was passed by CN as it is something really hard to watch as an adult or in a age that you can understand this kind of stuffs, but honestly i'm thankful for that scene and it's meaning

[@1thedanfan949]

OH SNAP THE ALMOST DIED

[@alishbasajjad2953]

Timestamp?

[@hedgehogpower194]

@@alishbasajjad2953 it's not shown in this video but you can search the song and look at the moment after Nicole gets back to the house Almost at the end

[@alishbasajjad2953]

@@hedgehogpower194 thanks

[@SupHapCak]

The truck also had a driver It isn’t an unstoppable force.

[@blturn]

10:41 The metaphor here is that the mug is the relationship, it's not broken or cracked, it's oblitterated. And like a smashed mug, sometimes it's so broken it's beyond repair.

[@AlemoBavir]

Also, what do you do with broke unfixable things, you replace it, start over.

[@ByTheStorm]

@@AlemoBavirIn other words? Be a doormat and buy them all the mugs they want to smash. Screw that hippie crap. Toxic parents or family members in general aren’t owed shit just because of similar genes. Outside of the child’s consent? Their parents did the legal minimum to keep their children alive so as to not get legally attacked by the law. And or project a fantasy of a loving home to keep up societal expectations. You assume everyone is redeemable and have the best interests at heart. That they’re not narcissistic sociopaths who see themselves in the right despite whatever bullying and abuse they dish out. Here’s this paraphrased quote from Buffy: The Vampire Slayer. They actually have to WANT to be redeemed first and acknowledge the pain they have dealt to others. Nowhere does it say their victims have to give them any sort of forgiveness or trust them ever again. And they shouldn’t have to. It’s insane to expect victims to accept horrible behaviors from others they wouldn’t have to tolerate from others who aren’t genetically related to them.

[@doritos4956]

Or you throw it out and don't replace it... it's an amazing metaphor that works for both ways one can handle a situation like this.​@AlemoBavir

[@CharmsTB_]

That last line about breathing in and out made me tear up wtf

[@cuppuphead]

me too

[@sylvieboschman9337]

right??? like literal tears coming out of my eyes omg why???

[@_-Ch1p-_]

Same -

[@reiyumiz]

real??

[@Idkwhattoputheresorry34]

Same ☹️

[@-Craig_Tucker-]

i really used to find this episode boring because now, as a 15 year old understand it was because i was so numbed by my own family drama that the bickering back and forth felt like it was supposed to be any normal family drama between everyone. to the point if theres yelling in my home, i dont even realize until its after the fight since my brain just mutes it. now I just feel okay now, after disowning a family member who was the source of my pain and my health i feel free and happy again! just wish my families problems could work out like this episode

[@Oreoss]

well said craig tucker, well said 😢

[@the_best_username]

you should update your about section in your profile

[@BlackDiamond2718]

There are BORING episodes?

[@-Craig_Tucker-]

@@BlackDiamond2718 bru did you read the whole thing or JUST the beginning 😭??

[@WilliamH-1841]

@@the_best_username lol

[@Crypt-Kitty]

I dont know, I do like the episode, but I do kind of hate the message of "just move on and forgive", not because thats not important, but because its not always as simple as that. It didnt happen that way for Nicole luckily, but just moving on and forgiving someone whose not even sorry, and letting them back into your life can just open your life back up to people who will continuously cause you pain, and never be sorry for anything. Whose to say in a few years, that her parents dont start doing the same things to her kids as they did to her? Whose to say they dont get worse? Forgiveness and moving on are both important lessons, but I think its also important to know your worth, and know when youre owed an apology, or a show of behavior improvement.

[@cattudoggu]

While I do understand your reasoning, I think that isn't the main message. Sure thats what it looks like in the surface, but I think its more about reconciling with your past. This doesn't necessarily mean 'to forgive'; like what was mentioned in the video, even if one of them takes the blame they won't really be remorseful about it and it just continues the cycle. I'd like to think that its more about just letting go, where old mistakes are not forgiven and forgotten but still acknowledged, and just settling with all thats happened because the point is we don't have all the time in the world. I don't expect Nicole's parents to come back _looking for forgiveness_ after this, rather, just them trying to make do with whatever time left they have for their daughter

[@Darren-lb3rx]

6:45 “Didn’t want anything” Correction. He wanted out of that tree stump

[@Apoloyloy13]

and those acorns

[@bookworm0414]

That's different though. Those were small things. Everyone else wanted big things out of her

[@lumix4282]

I remember not liking this episode as a kid, but now seeing it again, it really is one of the best.

[@topdon.goldist]

How could you not like this episode? Because it's emotional? I kinda want to know

[@lumix4282]

@@topdon.goldist I don’t rly remember, I think I just found it boring. But also I was like 7 so.. yes

[@mayadafox]

​@topdon.goldist it's often difficult for someone to like something they don't understand. As they said in the reply above, they were 7. most kids at that age don't understand such harsh concepts. this episode deals with some incredibly dark matters, that could be applied to many pieces of trauma, such as a bad divorce or abuse.

[@AFishInPajamas]

​@@mayadafox Honestly, the only thing that brings this episode down, in my opinion, is the tone-deaf last laugh of Gumball stating that the song was supposed to be about Christmas presents. Other than that, the episode really is good.

[@nightowlowo149]

@@AFishInPajamas That's just Gumball being Gumball, I'm glad he got slapped for it though. Gumball just ages so well as a show.

[@wolfygirlowo]

that ending part with the breathe in breathe out thing genuinely made me feel so much better, ive been having extreme mood swings 3 days in a row and keep thinking of my trauma.. thank u man

[@valeriaramirez2586]

You’re able to move forward 🥰 if you’re depressed you’re in the past , if you’re anxious you’re in the future and you have peace when you’re present 🥰 it’s all in the mind.

[@reynarodriguez9742]

Yeah, I had a childhood trauma with my parents fighting sometimes and some stupid Disney sequel that reflected my own life I wish I never saw as a kid, but despite those I still had a great childhood with other great things that made it so memorable. Nowadays as an adult on the spectrum, I just wanna move on and be successful but it's so darn stressful sometimes still living with parents at age 28 now, and even an 2nd older brother that couldn't afford to buy a house of his own like my 1st eldest did. I thought if I lived in a house of my own, I could finally live in peace with no arguments, anxiety, stress, and pressure to succeed and live my dream career as a producer and make great movies and shows like 𝘎𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘢𝘭𝘭 but I still have to remember that family is still the most important thing of all, this episode of Nicole's downfall with her parents really spoke my language. That deep breathing exercise at the end really helped me let go of the anxiety, stress, and anger that just built up on me when I comes to my parents--I'm just for one glad they never put too much pressure on me and give me insane expectations, as Nicole said in this episode, as a child unlike how Nicole's parents did to their poor daughter

[@yeetleleetlelee9242]

Okay that last bit with the breathe in and out made me cry. I’ve been trapped in the past for so long, hating who I was, hating that I’m not who I want to be, and so on that I never really gave a second thought of who I am now. Thank you.

[@delphoxhoopa7289]

That last bit with the breathing in and out was honestly really sweet and useful. It's so easy to get caught up in everything going on around you and how difficult things are, you forget how reliving it is to just...breathe. It doesn't change your problems, but gosh darn it does it help you relax, even if it's for only a second.

[@sewwfffyhjijui]

This episode hits too close to home since I don't have a good relationship with my parents. I left home and joined the Army so I can get away from them. I sometimes go back home but still feel the pain from my childhood, so I only stay there for 4 days at a time. I want to talk to my parents and forgive them but they always say that nothing happened and that they're right, which makes it difficult to talk to them.

[@amycontreras410]

I'm in a similar boat and this episode hit really hard. I text my mother every now and then but I don't want to if she's never going to accept what she did to hurt me for so long.

[@shadowsinmymind9]

Same here, they never accept that they're the problem, and that im the problem. 😒

[@DeathnoteBB]

Yeah that’s my annoyance with shows that pull “Aw they really do care” storylines. Sometimes people are just abusive. It’s not always a matter of PoV.

[@stephenkrahling1634]

just let it go, move on. At some point you just have to accept that you can't control others and that you need to live your own life

[@afairyist9981]

@@stephenkrahling1634 Ah geez I'm sure they haven't thought of that. "You have trauma? Just let it go! Problem solved!" Thank you for your helpful and very intelligent advice.

[@Dr_Mid]

Oof. I'm getting my little brother into gumball and at first he was giggling at the fight scene but then when we got deeper he just continuously said "I'm sad ):"

[@-talwer]

I like and agree with everything in this video, but I hate how it kinda says that Nicole is the reason her childhood sucked and/or didnt have a right to eventually fight what she dealt with in her childhood. Im sure thats not at all what you mean or think, but idk if her wanting independence or to form her own happiness was a “mistake.” Her parents, however good their intentions were for her, were ultimately in the wrong. Their mistakes were withholding love, putting the weight of the world on her shoulders and then blaming her for being a *child* (finger painting Mary mentioned). Nicole “mistake” was her not being okay with suffocating anymore. imo its amazing she was even able to get out. Still, its beautiful she was willing to try to ‘give’ them 💀

[@mrfandangos.4394]

7:18 sometimes you just need a Richard.

[@AGuyInTheInternet2.0]

RT60 is so underrated

[@stupidface2292]

You know who else is underrated?

[@TheDoomSlayerButPettingaCat]

​@@stupidface2292ur mom

[@Pookster_]

REALL

[@king_tutankhamun]

ONGG

[@NTVE404]

@@stupidface2292MUSCLE MAN’S MOM!

[@silversylveon2380]

This episode hit me hard. My own relationship with my mother has been very rocky for the past couple years and being able to see a show actually tackle that kind of subject is a breath of fresh air, especially with how the explained it and the ultimate message wasn’t to just “forgive those who hurt you”, but more so to learn to live despite of the pain you endeared. To not let that trauma hold you back with how you live your life and your relationship with others. It’s a lot more realistic and mature than what I see in some other series that attempt to tackle these kinds of subjects. Thank you for covering it.

[@clockwork3494]

I've always found it incredible how despite being a "silly show for kids" Gumball manages to have that peak balance between goofy humour for kids and serious episodes with genuinely meaningful topics and lifelong messages. As someone who comes from a broken family, this episode really hits home for me because neither of my parents are in my life anymore either. My father was an abusive alcoholic (enough said) and my mother was almost identical to Nicole's mother, someone who expected me to achieve nothing but the best with anything lower being broadcast in an attempt to humiliate me into doing better. Home life was awful and it got to a point where I was starving myself, barely brushing my teeth and doing the bare minimum to keep myself alive because I was so burnt out on life as a whole that everything felt like too much effort. I lost the ability to enjoy things, I stopped going outside and my grades plummeted, which resulted in an hour long screaming match where my mother ended it by asking why she had the dumbest kid out of my 8 cousins. I've tried to reconnect over the years as I know neither of us will have forever to do so, and yet no matter how willing I am to forgive every hurtful thing she's done to me like Nicole does, she never reciprocates and instead gaslights me, acting as if she never did anything wrong while doubling down and believing the abuse I went through was "worth it" I love the message this episode sends, however I think it's also good for people to know and realize that this isn't always the case and sometimes people aren't always willing to meet in the middle.

[@milx7210]

As great as this episode is, it’s pretty obvious that Nicole’s parents are in the wrong. Obviously their unrealistically high standards are exaggerated for the sake of comedy, but it kinda irks me how the show sorta half-assedly defends this style of parenting with a “both sides are in the wrong” argument.

[@-RawTirent-]

this is the first "documentary" video where I've legit sat all the way through it, cried a bit, and didn't feel the need to skip at any given point. THis is a masterpiece man

[@Jamsteo]

ngl this actually almost made me cry dawg I never finished this episode of gumball but this hits different now

[@gruithed]

3:50 I think we was talking to the canned beef not her lol.

[@calvinjohnson2985]

Yet Nicole managed to calm down a bit. Food really does speak for you in this case. 🤔

[@bazookabullet101]

I appreciate the nuance of this video but one thing you said I think summarizes the conflict. 12:25 “It all led up to-that she came out of it okay happy and successful. But also a mother and a father never getting to see their child become a happy adult” Uh.. but Nicole is a happy adult..? She has her problems and personality but in general she appreciates the life she has. She went beyond reasonable effort to show that to her parents, but it didn’t work All her parents have to do is open their eyes and not be morons. They were written to provide conflict obviously, but you did a great job breaking down the details of their relationships

[@ShawnsLegacy]

Dude... That final part was the most impactful shit, and it hit me like a fucking truck hurdling towards an anime girl. Well done, my guy.

[@chrisz7494]

I get this reference

[@garbagedataraccoon]

ZLS?

[@Oceane1803]

Oh wow I got genuinly emotional when you showed that song. My mother is mentally abusive and now that I got away, she refuses to speak to me. The only words she said when she finally brought my stuff to my father's place (where I live now) after a year and a half of not seeing or talking to me at all were "I don't want to talk to you".

[@justalittleturtle5600]

My mom sent my stuff in a bunch of garbage bags, and she had my dad bring them for her. He also purposely came during my class hours to avoid me. Still haven’t seen or heard from either of them for nearly a year. I think it’s for the best though, because I’ve been using this time away from them to mentally heal. I was never able to probably speak in front of my mom due to a fear response where I’d break down in tears and my throat would close up. I also obviously couldn’t produce a coherent string of words. I’m using this time while they’re ignoring me to heal in a way I could never do if they were harassing me. Maybe that’s what this time will be for you? It’s okay to take time for yourself and heal.

[@Oceane1803]

@@justalittleturtle5600 Yeah that's what it is.

[@agni3743]

Some relationships just don't work and that includes your relationship with parents.

[@Oceane1803]

@@agni3743 Yeah I noticed that.

[@inkchariot6147]

Any bond can be broken, even blood. Family may be family, but you can still cut them off when they're shitty to you.

[@RJmakes69]

9:35 shipping Richard to Guatemala is absolutely DOWN TREMENDOUS 😭💀💀

[@I_like_Beez_and_Coffee]

IT IS LMAOOO

[@ThatRabbitDude]

GUATEMALA IS INSANE 😭

[@thegumballwatterson]

She would've sent him to Colombia with 6 cases of flour

[@joserodrigoaguilararriola2150]

MY COUNTRY MENTIONED LET'S GO DUDE

[@RJmakes69]

@@joserodrigoaguilararriola2150 did Richard make it all the way?

[@cristinaperez5101]

“the choices” episode had me bawling. I really started reflecting on my own life and realized that although my life isn’t perfect, I’m content with how things are now. I loved the way you analyzed this episode.

[@isabellaa1750]

"Actually, you know what... I wouldn't change a thing" 😭😭😭😭

[@brickphone8069]

Holy shit, this was legitimately eye opening, I’ve disliked so many things just on the basis that I didn’t when I was little, I can’t let that shape me as, thank you for making this, I never would have come to this realization with this video

[@RainingBeanz]

This episode is honestly one of my favourites and is just so good. Growing up I would always watch this show with my older brother as it was how we bonded. But the older he got the more he would mentally abuse and criticise me. Watching this video made me remember this episode. Thank you for putting this back into my memories, so I can remember the good times with my brother. Also your channel is completely underrated. Keep making this type of content.

[@RainingBeanz]

Reply: Wait I didn’t think he would heart this. Thank you dude.

[@marzin64]

If you don't mind... Hows your relationship with your big brother now?

[@king_tutankhamun]

that deep breath bit at the end was genuinely so beautiful, this channel is amazing

[@levijunior1176]

The gender part had me rollin 😂 2:48

[@emeraldpichu1]

Forgive and forget is a nice sentiment, but it doesn’t work in all situations. In this case, it’s mostly a difference of opinion that led to the schism but when you’re talking about actual abuse, actual neglect, forgive and forget isn’t enough, and it never will be.

[@valeriaramirez2586]

Holding onto the past is a double edge sword. You’re able to move forward but you have to decide to. Look forward to the future because the past isn’t you. Yes it was bad but we’re still alive. There is a tomorrow so let’s loon forward to that.

[@emeraldpichu1]

@@valeriaramirez2586 That doesn’t mean validating abuse. It’s ok for people to go their separate ways forever family or not it’s not on the victim to give them peace

[@Ttyumbra]

⁠@@emeraldpichu1I think it’s important to forgive yourself most of all as a kid all the lessons you’ve learned all the bad stuff don’t give it to another child you have to at least acknowledge what happened because most children had to repress their feelings you got to forgive not for anyone else but you so you don’t hurt anymore you don’t keep the poison in you but rather get rid of it and have the child in you wake up if they’re abusive then don’t go back but like if they change which some do you gotta give them a chance at least but if they mess it up go seperate I wouldn’t want a family to be damaged realistically but if that’s the only way go ahead

[@emeraldpichu1]

@@Ttyumbra forgiving, and forgetting, isn’t the same thing as letting go. Forgiving and forgetting demands communication with the other party letting go is for yourself. I can’t claim to be a person who has seen the most extreme version of this, but suffice to say there is a person that I have let go of and have no desire to see them again it’s nothing that occupies any part of my life unless the discussion comes up from a third-party like here, but it doesn’t change the fact that forgive and forget, isn’t a solution here. When the other party is an unashamed user of people, you can’t let them in even just to say you’re let this go because it provides benefits to no one but them and that’s not really something worth bothering with in the first place. Some people are just born sociopaths or narcissists, or entitled to the point that to approach them in any capacity is to put yourself at risk. Do you consider that I get what you’re going for but some people are just beyond that.

[@evanlim9098]

I actually really like what you said at the beginning TAWOG can really go from really goofy and fun to really deep and emotional. I actually broke down at the sad moments inside of the episode “The Hero” it really shows how much power any show has

[@TreeckoDX64]

Watching this video without watching the episode when it aired almost made me tear up, and I almost did the same thing when I rewatched The Hero from second season. Man, what is the deal with this cartoon? In one scene I'm laughing like an idiot, and in the other I'm almost crying like a baby. I think that's kinda amazing, ngl

[@Sutwang]

10:27 this the mf that beat up dream

[@TAWoGFan-vl7mk]

9:19 Got me laughing.

[@lucianaidone5134]

Me tooo

[@Cod.normal]

Same

[@forabba5776]

13:42 That metal pipe was perfect.😂

[@jamestolbert1856]

10:05 sorry but this part always hits because of the built up and the way Nicole said,”Separately.”

[@brendanrudell9559]

It was really incredible storytelling when the writers made everything Gumball had said previously make sense in both the context of being about Nicole and her parents, and also in the context of being about Gumball wanting his grandparents to give him Christmas presents. Lines like: “If it’s too hard to forgive, then just give,” and before he even sings, “there’s too much on the line here,” can be easily interpreted as just being about getting Christmas presents.

[@svaphacj7037]

I wasn’t able to comment this the day the video was released, but I came back to say thank you man. The video really helped me think about stuff going on in my life and helped me sort stuff out. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Side note: never really imagined that a Gumball video will make me realize a lot about my life

[@TwisterTH]

So, while I was watching this video, I slammed my fist at the table (it goes with out saying, but please don’t do that) and I kid you not, my cat came in, jumped on my knees and started purring, as if she was checking on me. And the at the end of the video, that breath-in section, really makes me feel better. Wonderful job as always! 👏 Reminded me, how I discovered your channel thanks that video about SpongeBob Credits song.

[@Dxuser5]

bro why’d u do that tho

[@TwisterTH]

@@Dxuser5 Bro, It’s all good, don’t worry about it. 🙏

[@WildCapybara1]

Why Does The Lip Syncing Fit Well In This Part? 4:46

[@Sir_Purple]

I don't normally comment on yt comments but this episode of Gumball really hit close to home. I do not have the healthiest relationship with my family and in many ways, it is similar to Nicole's situation with her parents. This video was a real eye-opener for me to approach my view on them differently. The ending of the video is also very validating and comforting so thank you very much! This is the first video that I have watched of RT60 but I'm so glad I stumbled onto him! I will definitely be watching more of his videos in the future!

[@nickdijkman714]

The ending message was actually to real

[@CitrusPencil]

My man really made me cry and heal all in one episode about TAWOG. I'm deceased. Thank you, my homie 😭

[@electrobob992]

0:09 What I noticed is while she had a stern face before she left. Nicole's mother can be seen crying into her hands in the background.

[@Sky_Firez]

Great ending message.15:00

[@floppaflop6897]

13:36 last words before death

[@hash4202]

This episode is so deep. You’re one of my favorite people to watch for sure. 😢😢😢

[@ahmedalissa7620]

14:49 i didn't expect that part but regardless it felt ........ good, thanks 😊

[@treedeerthethingy4812]

I’ve never watched this episode, let alone the show, but this video kept popping up. This was a really solid in-depth analysis of an episode and made really good points. Also, it made me cry a little bit.

[@lucillehosmann4562]

The saddest episode for me was when richard overhears gumball trashing on him. I LITERALLY HAD TEARS FLOWING FROM MY EYES. Edit: THE SONG PART ABOUT RICHARD BEING GUMBALL'S HERO WHEN HE WAS A BABY MADE ME WANT TO MAKE A WHOLE OCEAN OF TEARS.

[@The_Hero74_]

I’ve had many moments like that with my father and we’ve always had issues but we’ve always grown closer each time. It’s weird but somehow nice.

[@angstyteen6042]

I mean, gumball was right though.

[@The_Hero74_]

@@angstyteen6042 The moral I took from the episode was that it didn’t matter he was right but that it’s his father and even though he’s a lazy bum he still loves his kids and that’s all that matters really.

[@angstyteen6042]

@@The_Hero74_ Well it's bad that he's a lazy bum. Well Nicole works in her underpaid job to support the family he just sits around all day on the couch sleeping. Richard is incompetent, I'm pretty sure multiple characters have said that in the series. He simply lacks the intelligence to do real work.

[@The_Hero74_]

@@angstyteen6042 Well let me put it this way, would you rather want a dad who’s lazy and spends most his time with you or would you rather have a dad who works and has to find time to spend with you? Also I’m not saying your argument is invalid because it is far from it but I think we’re both looking at this from 2 different perspectives is all.

[@WingedHuman]

I'll be honest, I really didn't like this episode. It really feels like they were trying to "both sides" the situation, when it was clearly on Nicole's parents' fault. I mean even the show told us that it started in childhood, when they put too much pressure on Nicole. That's pretty abusive, and yet they "don't know" when it started. This is usually what bad parents will say (sometimes aware and sometimes not) to avoid accountability. The episode really felt victim-blamey and bascailly said "well your parents might die soon so better make up" (which is also what a lot of childhood abuse victims hear), ignoring the fact that they didn't even say sorry. Sorry about the rant, I just feel really personally hurt by this episode, because it seems everyone always wants the kid to forgive but not the parents to apologize. It felt very "sweep it under the rug".

[@fishingmasterstudios9481]

sweeping it under the rug never helps, it always makes things so so much worse, I know this from experience wholeheartedly

[@val3mi]

i personally think that, forgiving, even if deserved or not, is the better option, not for the abuser, but for the victim. being resentful about the past, even rightfully understandable, is a step to healing, which gives inner peace. peace is something everyone deserves. just as the song says, "let go of the weight that won't let you live."

[@fishingmasterstudios9481]

@@val3mi not everyone can forgive the abuser person so easily, probably never due to how deep the pain truly is for most people who have survived abusive/traumatic situations, letting go of the past is also incredibly difficult but healing from it can be done, its not impossible as most people think, and to also be there for that person who wants to accept that comfort and help for their trauma, never ridicule or make fun of that person.

[@Ttyumbra]

@@fishingmasterstudios9481Yeah, that is true, at the end of the day you got you. If you’re planning to have children especially, you have to forgive, but you can still cut contact. The responsibility is on you, what happened to that person that kid full of life, curiosity, bring that sleeping child back to life. I can’t do that for you but you can. This isn’t to excuse what your parents did to you, but a way to acknowledge what you’ve been hiding from, what a lot of people have been hiding from. People feel the same way you feel as a child of a immigrant family grades important no girlfriend work make family proud comparing yourself to your peers and when you fail you already know what they might say this is a common experience they overwork you chastise you then when you do well it’s not even a good thing you feel like it’s required in order to get respect or appreciation then years down the road you feel lazy burnt out after high school or you might be in college not at 100% trust me it’s better to forgive yourself even your parents when you look at the why and how they did or didn’t know about what they did it’s time for you yourself you might be angry and your justified but it’s a poison only you can have it’s time to let go of those feelings see them but let go detach from it heal for once

[@Novaconis]

I really needed this video… Getting over trauma is difficult… glad KZbin recommended this

[@jobb4854]

Tried to breath out, I almost cried... F u man, this was too emotional

[@jamestolbert1856]

4:18 that’s why I love him

[@Pinkdragon333]

The end up the video made me tear up a bit, i really needed to heart that. Thank you

[@tannerweaver3203]

Whether you see this or not: thank you. I've been trying to get over years of trauma caused by myself and the people around me. I really needed this video today. Another step forward.

[@glacevallite5103]

Although you can't go back and prevent any damage done to a relationship, that doesn't mean you can't try to repair it.

[@kirbo-is-cracked1987]

3:04 and if you look in the other car its the damn clown

[@Mr.flo44]

HUH

[@stephlala094]

Hes EVERYWHERE 😭 hold old is bro???

[@Max-rh1be]

I love Gumball and I'm so glad that Nicole got her happy ending. Unfortunately, I didn't get that with my own parents. Also, protecting your own peace and happiness is 100% an okay thing to do!! Sometimes, you can't heal the relationship, because the other person doesn't want to, and you just gotta make peace with it, like I did. Loved the video, you got a new sub. :)🎉

[@legendary1873]

Genuinely one of the best and most meaningful videos I've ever watched, a perfect blend of comedy, analysis, entertainment, and unexpected introspection. Definitely don't regret watching this one bit and wont forget about it for the rest of my life. So many people need to hear these messages right now and I thank you for creating an avenue for people to explore that side of life. Keep up the great work!

[@FatHamsteMustBeDrawn]

11:25 time is a tool that you put on a wall or wear it on your wrist, the past is far behind us, the future doesn’t exist

[@ZStorm]

Honestly one of your best videos so far. The ending was really good. Keep up the great work RT.

[@theninetailedfox5040]

This video came at a time in my life when I really genuinely needed it. I needed to hear that it’s just me now, no past, no expectations.. just me. Thank you for this brother 💯

[@KikoTheOni]

I JUST STUMBLED UPON THIS, WHY ARE YOU MAKING ME CRY (thank you for this fire video, I lowkey needed it)

[@CreatureCabin]

gosh, that moment at the end (14:47) made me tear up! It's so easy to get lost in the memories of what once was, and the idea that "this wouldnt have happened if ___". Living in the past is a universal experience, and it's one I've struggled with in my own way. Hearing those words really squeezed my heart, and I'm sure it positively impacted the other thousands of people who have watched this video. Wonderful analysis of this episode, It's left me with a lot to think about!

[@1CY..]

Got back from school and immediately clicked on this. Please make more Gumball videos, I’ve watched this, part one and two of the 1-6 videos (rewatched so much) (Edit: ok, the goat hearted the comment 🗿)

[@marzin64]

Coincidentally, I did the same 😅

[@Soleil_17]

This is the first time I come across RT60, but after the end of the video, I subscribes immediately. I usually never comment on videos but this was really beuatiful and very well put together. Thank you, RT.

[@taffysaltwater7813]

This actually really helped my point of view of the past and it’s one of those life changing videos. Thank you for doing this and going in depth!

[@vandam6057]

14:43 I don't know why but this part almost made me cry wtf

[@spinky4373]

THE RETURN OF THE KING!

[@dashthatoneviewer]

What a wonderful video. I dont usually watch these type of video essays as im usually into gaming (speedruns/funny moments) but Gumball shaped my humour so i clicked on this out of curiosity. Did not expected to be hit with such emotion and motivation

[@nyLbackwards]

instant sub!!! this video was so beautifully made and that ending really got me . “it was you .” was so surprisingly powerful, 11/10 will be rewatching

[@JAYBOWAYBOW]

A great KZbinr that can always put his viewers in a great mood, don't worry RT, we enjoyed the video, and will keep enjoying the many more you give us 👍🏽

[@hunterjohnson2027]

GOAT T60 the ending made me feel alot better thank you

[@artoace3728]

The words that you gave us at the end of the video gave me alot of encouragement and hope so thank you

[@GreenStorm8200]

For lack of a better term, this "documentary" vid is probably the only one that I've ever actually sat down and watch. The fact you manage to balance humor and the beautiful message as perfectly if not better than the source material you're reviewing is absolutely incredible to me. Kudos m8. I'm in tears rn. 😢 This is just incredible.

[@francuz-chan8860]

Really good video. The moment with breathing truly touched me. I didn't know how much I needed to hear what u said. Thank you!

[@Flare_IA]

Thnx RT60, I honestly havent watched much since your gumball series reviews, but im gonna call my parents now, so thanks

[@suncrestt4839]

I skipped forward once I heard the “but before we get into the video” and then rewinded immediately once I realized how short it was and it made me smile to see that it wasn’t panhandling for likes or subscriptions before the video’s even started. I love your diction and the way you think and your media analysis is flawless. I cried watching this video because it just hit way too close to home for me lol. Nicole saying that “she was never enough for them” broke my heart bc it felt like i was listening to myself talk out loud. our childhood stories were very similar. ever since i was little, i was a voracious overachiever. i wanted to be the best in everything because i loved how much pride and joy it would bring to my parents’ eyes. Until high school came and I realized that being a gifted kid meant nothing when there’s other ppl just as smart and often smarter than you. I had always gotten A’s bc i never had to put in much effort until I got to high school/college level schoolwork. High school humbled the mess out of me lol really shattered my whole ego and perception of myself. I wanted to build my identity outside of my achievements for the first time ever. I wanted to experience and live life. My parents hated that. Just like Nicole, i also moved out at 18 and didn’t speak to them for years. my boyfriend came into my life a year later and again just like Nicole, i found my soulmate in someone who never wanted me to change or do anything for them. even back in high school when we first met as friends, he’s always treated me and looked at me the same. he doesn’t judge or belittle my hopes and dreams. he is my #1 supporter and cheerleader in everything I do. that kind of love is priceless and truly God’s greatest gift to me. my parents also don’t approve of him because he’s of another race and isn’t in school but just like Nicole, i could care less what they think. my baby has loved me for me than anyone else in my life has. we may not lead the most conventional lives and it can get quite messy at times but with him by my side, anything is possible. i can’t wait to have our own gumball, Darwin, & anais one day. Coincidentally as well, i also plan to adopt and foster in addition to having our own kids. :) Thank you for this. You are spot on w how we can’t let the past influence how we live now otherwise it will destroy us and ruin our current opportunities. My stepmom and dad caused me so much pain and strife and betrayed me numerous times yet today with hindsight and a little bit of maturity from living in the real world for a couple years, i realize now that they were only doing the best they could w the information they had at the time. Not to excuse what they did, but they had every reason to act the way they did. maturing is realizing your parents are also experiencing life for the first time and being a parent for the first time. my parents loved me in the only way they knew how bc that’s what they were taught growing up and that’s what their parents were taught as well. it doesn’t matter who was more at fault. what matters now is forgiveness and grace so that both parties can move forward without hatred and resentment in their hearts. to create a new life and better present to look back on one day. 🤍

[@demijones7537]

The episode analysis especially the ending made me subscribe. I have to embrace me and not let my past define me, I have a hard time letting stuff go from the past until I let it build up. So thank you for this, I really appreciate it 💚💚💚💚

[@nopenottoday4268]

beautiful commentary for a beautiful episode. really love and appreciate the brief yet meaningful breathing activity at the end

[@LorienInksong]

Wow that was an excellent break down of everything that episode represents. Your take actually helped me with how I think of my current self and my past traumas. Thank you

[@jjkilhij9531]

Glad to see this one blew up, loved the analysis 🙏🏾

[@seaver6769]

What have you done I literally cried😭 (needed this, thanks)

[@hiiamLia]

This video brang so many meanings to me when I was not even expecting it would come from a gumball episode. Thank you kind sir for this great video.

[@ploopyfudgewink9207]

As someone who stopped watch gumball a few years ago, the formatting and presentation for this was perfect for helping me not feel lost. Earned a sub for sure and earned the producers of gumball a returning fan. Keep at it ❤

[@vleewesan]

the message you gave in this video is absolutely beautiful, i applaud you for being able to connect the viewer to the video and helping people accept themselves as who they are

[@Dannycraft360]

Your commentary is amazing. Amazing, The way you explained everything made me cry.

[@VANILLAMILKISGUD]

2:33 I’m not even joking, those are my parent’s names. (they’re the sweetest people ever, don’t worry)

[@TayjonTheGreekWarrior_YT]

2:07 same here, brother. The struggle was real