Asking My Husband AGAIN what Men REALLY Think.. Part 2! Dating Advice for Women

WE ARE BACK WITH ANOTHER EPISODE OF "What Men REALLY think!!" with MORE juicy questions... Kaleb and Jeanine answer your questions you submitted on what MEN really think! Kaleb takes a deep dive into the male brain and leaves it all on the table. He answers questions like..
- Lust
- Do men want a stay at home wife?
- Why don't they commit?
- When do they know you are the one?
- Why do they have huge egos?
& MORE!!
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[@tuffy2362]

Part 3 please 😂 this could definitely be a series "into the minds of men"

[@IndiaJanee]

When he started talking about woman, he got too personal 😂😂😂

[@brandyceleste8910]

"You have conditioner for your conditioner's condition" 😂😂😂😂😂 I'm weak😂😂😂😂😂

[@Uhohk8]

“Flee from sin” is so real. People think they are desensitized so they keep putting themselves and exposing themselves to things like Only Fans and “soft visuals” not knowing it affects the subconscious mind.

[@preparetobedazled]

Regarding the commitment comment: I think it depends on time. If y'all have been seriously dating for over a year and he still can't make up his mind, he's indecisive. It's time to paint or get off the ladder, bro.

[@BMC2019]

EXACTLY. I just had a situation with this guy who was actively pursuing me despite just getting out of a 2 year relationship a few months prior. He said the girl broke up with him due to emotionally unavailability, which for me is something i cannot deal with. Despite all that i still gave him a chance because he and i were still connecting on an emotional level and really developing feelings towards one another. He invited me to his birthday and introduced me to all of his friends and things were going so well. He even held my hand and kissed me in front of his friends and we weren’t even official yet. A week later we went on a date and he basically told me that the intimacy was triggering for him because his exes shadow was still very much present (something i knew he was struggling for a while), and that immediately turned me off and made me uncomfortable to the extent that we basically spent the entire night talking about where we were at in our lives, and it was HEAVY and NOT FUN. Ultimately he isnt ready for a relationship and knows i am and he needs more time to get over his ex. He told me the more close and intimate we became the harder it was for him because things were becoming more real. So my point is the phrase “right person, wrong time” is completely valid. To make these overt generalizations about what guys mean when they do this or that, can lead to your listeners creating these black and white assumptions that are not necessarily true, robbing them of potential relationships or opportunities. Just a thought

[@jonathanball8021]

@BMC2019, thank you for sharing your story and experiences. I can definitely relate to what it’s like to have some of those difficult conversations. It sounds like the man you were talking to was truly struggling. However, I can admire him for being honest with you about his struggles and hardships in getting over his previous relationship. As a Christian, I believe that God ordains all things for His good and according to His plan. So, it’s really important to trust God even when the bottom falls out from under you because the person we want to be with isn’t ready or emotionally available for a relationship. Jesus is a perfect God. Keep pursuing Him and trust in His plan even when it doesn’t feel right. Anyway, thanks for sharing! I think many people can relate to your story. I know it spoke to me.

[@jessicayaj]

What!? I think it's cute when a guy tries something new for the first time! Lol they're at their most vulnerable!

[@the.victorgeorge]

For commitment, sometimes it's an excuse because the guy is not willing to do the work. For example, if a guys says you deserve better, sometimes it's because they know your worth and they know that if they put in the work, they would actually be good for you. They are just not willing to so it's easier to say that than admit they still need to fix some things

[@malisehargrove8971]

I have always been told, if a man says that run! I learned the hard way that it is so true! He is letting you know!!!!

[@SarahAnnJohnson]

This is so good! Definitely needed this. I agree that having an ego isn’t bad but too much is bad. There’s a fine line between being confident and being arrogant. Too big of an ego leads to arrogance but confidence goes a long way

[@restoredbyfaith]

This is the second pod I’ve ever listened to of yours and I love how candid you two are

[@allisonsuter8135]

"the worst thing we've seen since WWI" HAHAHAHAHH

[@mplpl2678]

I love how honest these answers are and not so much the typical and vague answers men say when you ask them these things. Kudos to yall. I just subscribed.

[@Maddy.Nicoleee]

You both compliment one another so well. The space kaleb provides for you to be so authentic and passionate about what you speak about is a beautiful thing. Your relationship speaks loudly and proudly in regards to love

[@zipporahlaurenz]

I be really having to humble myself because Kaleb be making me mad but I know its all love lol love yall

[@GymPrincess111]

loved this episode!!! but I feel like there was so much tension and that they were arguing the whole time 😭

[@TheSingleManPodcast]

LETS GOO! Some great tips in this one. As a single man myself, I really resonated with a lot of the advice Kaleb shared🔥🔥

[@DahliaTuong]

First here

[@thebestofus677]

I really appreciate his honesty in this little series. It really helps seeing his perspective

[@jocelynchavez8054]

Jeanine I’ve been listening to the audio book of your book and it just so happens that yesterday I was presented with a difficult decision. I had left off on your decisions chapter! It was such a blessing and it was definitely God using your words in the book to help me make this decision process easier. Praying for his guidance 🙏

[@HappyandHealthyPodcast]

Praise God!! So glad it helped!!

[@debs.213]

PART 333333😂😂 loved this candidness also I love the say it like it is vibe ❤

[@SarahVargasMúsica]

Loved your little argument! And YES, we are more messy, BUT guys are dirtier in need of a Savior 😅 You guys have become my new favorite couple ❤

[@hannahyoder3114]

You have me laughing at 33:45😆I can see both of your points!

[@clarisar898]

I love how he’s so honest 😂love it it’s true sad but true we are messier lol 😂

[@katherine3107]

35:08 I think that cleaning is a learned behavior, like Caleb was saying. In my culture, girls are taught to clean and cook at an early age, and then boys are served foot and mouth… HOWEVER, some of my uncles learned those things too. I’ve met guys who are cleaner than some girls. It depends on what you were taught + what is important for you 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@PrettyLittlePlantBased]

The bathroom trashcan, lol so true and the men’s five in one ha ha 😂❤

[@debs.213]

LOVE YOUR BOOK JEANINE!!!

[@candicecastro7]

So good!! Wanna hear more!

[@lillyl1599]

We need a part 3 😅 Heck, just make it an entire series 😊

[@OpenUpYourHeartPod]

Kaleb is actually very wise. Like he knows exactly what he is saying. All FACTS!

[@destinyvives1248]

You guys are hilarious 😂😂😂 Loved this podcast

[@brendam.fernandez7764]

Hello ,God Bless you both, It's Brenda Fernández from Dominican Republic,this Podcast has Bless me since i have been watching it!, thanks 🙌🏻🙏🏻

[@melina0079]

great episode. love the male/female bicker we all go through as married couples. LOL God bless you guys. xo

[@savannahserna4133]

Bruh the ending was hilarious🤣

[@incognito8082]

This was great, the only thing I will comment on for the men's sake, guys, I LOVE it when you are learning things😂 It is literally the cutest thing ever. I'd say most girls think it's absolutely adorable, to each their own, just wanted to throw that out there for y'all 😂❤️

[@andrewkimfike9516]

I love being a stay at home mom. But, there are times when im just like "i wanna go somewhere!!" But, i wouldnt change it forthe world!

[@graceworships]

This is crazy 😭😆 YOU GUYS JUST OPEN MY EYES

[@leslieperez5494]

Been feeling broken. This was very therapeutic thank you ❤

[@HauwaBalaHalilu]

The Holy Spirits arms are open to hold you and put you back together

[@olivia7561]

Y’all are too funny together 🤣🤣 my favorite episodes are when you guys sit down and tackle different topics like this! Haha Kaleb @ 34:40 “You guys want to slice your strawberries and blueberries into your bowl and then the juice comes out.. so it’s like.. *visibly cringing*” 🤣 Jeanine you sat there and took it like a champ… we all know there’s no contest between disgusting frat boy houses and a little shaving cream getting stuck in the shower or God forbid fruit juice on the counter 😂 Caleb hats off to you for illustrating what a girl’s bathroom looks like lol. God bless y’all, thanks for the laughs and wisdom :)

[@racheljulianne]

why is the bathroom trash so real 😂. my brother in law got so irritated w my sister and i likeeeee. 😭 i just hate taking out the trash.

[@Bygrace8509]

Part 3 please 😭😭🤧

[@stephaniemarin5479]

Girl here- I actually have a harder time reading the Bible than my husband. I’m the audio book, sermon kinda girl, he’s the in the word every day and night kinda guy. Maybe we’re a rare combination 😅

[@unapologeticallyromel7096]

Love your channel ❤

[@jdove1392]

All I can think about how your "Ick" watching someone do something for the first time, and your husband saved himself for marriage. LOL I hope his mind did not go to that when you said that LOL still funny though

[@JeanineAmapola]

Haha oh no that has nothing to do with it 😂😂

[@Solodolo18]

Jaenine ampola glad god bringing us together soon amen amen amen 🙏

[@lean-angelygazzingan5893]

part 3 😂 please

[@alexa.sanchez]

where’s part 3?

[@timinri1989]

56:30 For the record, I am very much a masculine guy. But as a man in my 30's for some reason I have grown more attracted to character rather than pure aesthetics. Dont get me wrong I like a girl who takes care of herself, but she needs to have good character first.

[@DahliaTuong]

Adding to the stay-at-home mom situation, I think it's good to have a woman at home and take care of the children and do the cleaning and cooking dishes for her family. But it has bad sides also, when there's only one contributor to the cost in a family, it's really easy to blame the women's fault when the man is tired or there's problem in the house financial situation- speaking from what I've experienced with my parents. So I do agree with Kaleb's viewpoint, a woman should have her career and also be financially independent if you can!!!

[@mr.problematic9798]

Men want their wives to be SAHM moms but not because of the label. Mainly, men just want their wives to prioritize their young children before career, making money, etc. As long as she does that then we're good, but that's very hard to do as a high-achieving career woman. The messaging that women get today is that you can have it all when you just can't.

[@DahliaTuong]

@@mr.problematic9798 Yes that's so true. That's why I only said women should be financially independent or contribute to the family income, cause when she has a successful career, it's hard to prioritize the kid. Society wants too many things for a women, sadly

[@xjoemallardx]

I'd cook and clean for my wife if she had a job.

[@Kedesh14]

I very much think this depends on the couple, I’ve never seen my father come down on my mom for anything financially. To me my father understands it’s his responsibility to be the provider for the family and mother had other things to see about which include taking care of the home and the people in it.

[@itsjuliamarie.c]

Kaleb didn’t answer the cleaning question….so why don’t men know HOW to clean?? Did your parents not teach you?? Did you grow up doing other chores?? 🤔

[@xjoemallardx]

I clean houses for a living, some men do know how. 😂

[@sunvavachi]

My own brothers are taught and clean. If a man can't clean, run.

[@theyre-all-taken]

"You can be a stay at home mom and not limit your dreams" is a classic childless assumption to make. Being a mom, working or stay at home, is HARD and absolutely does put many of your own wants and hopes and dreams on hold, no matter how hard you work or want to do everything. Let's revisit this comment when you have kiddos in the picture. ;) Bc as idealic as it sounds, young kids do put your dreams and life plans on hold in many ways.

[@sofiaekholm1140]

Part 3 please:) haha

[@bridgetteteapp]

id take conditioner and makeup on the sink over pee on the toilet and dishes that are still dirty cause its not scrubbed right ... lol...

[@MichelleQ_]

About how men see you, that whole explanation is true, I remember one day (well I dress modestly because I'm a believer and all that good stuff) and the guy driving the car was like, "Uhm, i just wanted to say you're so beautiful, gorgeous and I know you wouldn't even consider me for a date, but if I had you, I know my mom would be happy, I mean based on how you dress even the way you speak and act I love it."

[@karenfahmy8958]

When in the video do they talk about when a guy knows she is the one? I think I missed it

[@myrtlegarcel3633]

The girl is so cool. Love her vibes 🤍

[@huntergreene7306]

Not the cleanliness argument 😅😅

[@blissangg]

Thank you!!! Really is nice to hear the truth!!

[@lillyl1599]

Not the strawberries and blueberries 😅

[@soupergiffy]

I love my vocation (rescue and recovery of trafficked children and brain health) and get upset with "moms must stay home". That should be each family's choice of what works best, what want together, and God guided. We live in a society that 1st pulled men from a self sufficient home all together with money, then children with school, then women with inflations (more money) to which none of those 3 pullings fully work like everyone being home and living off God's land not money. I stayed home with each child for 2 years each and went back to work. My children and family were and are fine. My babies are now 30 and 25 and are good. It's survivable. And kuddos to moms who love homemaker too!

[@elliefrangoulis2228]

Can you speak to the difference between the one that got away and the one they regret hurting form the male perspective? Is the one that got away even a real thing? Does it imply you were the one or he feels guilty for hurting you and misses the benefits of being with you (like you would say having his cake and eating it too)?

[@soupergiffy]

Men and women can both multitask. A lot is the other isn't interested or doesn't want to do something. We all have that stuff but God says to be present with each other and listen. Men need to give a little more of their thinking out loud, and women need to sum up quicker and both need to say just listen or help me with this so we all know.

[@xjoemallardx]

Is there a double standard between men dating younger women and women dating younger men?

[@danpeterson8040]

You 2 are so cute and funny!!!

[@joen5445]

Wheres the Caleb pod

[@jccarty1477]

I'm an insecure man. I want all that stuff before I meet a girl. Better car. More money. Free of bad habits.

[@xjoemallardx]

I have to learn to stop self sabotaging myself thinking about asking a woman out.

[@Kedesh14]

I found that he said that means a man is insecure strange. Because I feel like what’s so wrong with a man wanted to have those things before being with a woman- isn’t that natural? Idk. Don’t really see that as being insecure. If it’s anything you show you want to be secure in having those things so you can provide and take care for the woman you choose.

[@Solodolo18]

Thank you God for jaenine ampola love you beautiful amen 🙏

[@AndiAlexander1]

How are people going to get better at things if they have to show up already good at it? Be confident enough to suck at something and let people see the process.

[@Keepsmilingboo]

Loveee ❤

[@Solodolo18]

Jaenine ampola you are my wife and i know 100% god wants us together and god gonna bring us together soon i love you 😍 thank you God for everything protecting us thank you universe for bringing us together this week june 27 2024 with gratitude amen amen amen 🙏

[@vickyxolovejoy]

6:30 Let's get cancelled 😂 you guys are so funny!!

[@moniquemartinez5228]

You two are too cute!

[@daughterofthemosthigh3366]

I truly do not think God created motherhood to be a part time job like it has become! Our children are so precious. Being home with our children is incredibly important for their well-being. Believers are not to follow culture in this way or really any other way.

[@xjoemallardx]

Hope your husband is making 6 figures.

[@daughterofthemosthigh3366]

@@xjoemallardx It is important to be willing to make sacrifices to be home with our kids. We can also save in preparation for this time. People will save for a vacation that comes and goes in a week but don’t save to prepare to be there for their children.

[@soupergiffy]

If we go back to true tradition, both husband and wife were home and self sufficient. They did land, home, cooking, animals, children and community together. The money came along and it pulled men from the home and snowballed from there to 5 days to weeks. The #1 death of children is accidents in the home because moms are alone and told to do it all. That's not God's design. He told Adam to work the land. God will help us in sick societies were trapped but it won't still be right. We get a lot of overwhelmed moms who are overloaded and their hubbies are out having fun and affairs - cause of this society (men) created.

[@jacklyndanielle]

Jeanine’s ick isn’t mean that makes total sense it definitely can also be cute when it’s with someone you love but she described an ick a lot of girls have its a good one but it’s not a big deal because obviously the men will get better. i know Kaleb was thinking of every time she may have thought that about him😂 i think he got a lil butt hurt bc that was kinda uncalled for to say his ick is when girls do what she just did. she didn’t say Kaleb doing anything was icky, so that wasn’t right and he made her feel really bad but i hope they can both laugh about it and move on because it’s really not that deep

[@Natalia_72]

I know what Jeanine means, when a guy doesn’t know somethin I know, not necessarily trying something new, but just doesn’t know how to do something so normal in everyday life or doesn’t know something that’s common knowledge, it gives me the ick 😅

[@minabotieso6944]

Most young guys don’t date. Pew research said 60% of men in their 20s aren’t dating while it’s 30% for women

[@lillyhurt7761]

I like a lot of the opinions and perspective of these videos, however I don't think giving opinions or "perspective" on being a mom or parent makes sense when you don't have kids. Because it is true that you have no idea what it's like to be a parent until you are one. You don't actually have that perspective or experience to know anything about it personally. It's not a choice for it to become your identity, especially when you don't have the means or support to have enough free time to pursue other things. Some people are getting through each day with no help and no support and no extra money. Also it shows the lack of understanding towards the exhaustion you can experience daily as a parent, especially with less support.

[@plawton35]

Again… 👏

[@15sarahbz]

I was disappointed on the stay at home mom segment… super disrespectful to solely stay at home moms

[@victoriagoolsby6006]

I’m a stay at home mom as well, but I’m not understanding what he said that was disrespectful. I’m just genuinely curious

[@Kedesh14]

I don’t think they meant to be disrespectful though it may come across that way to you. I expected a lil different response from a Christian couple but the truth is no one couple answers these types of questions the same lol. My mom was a stay at home mom growing up and I felt honestly that was so important as children.

[@victoriagoolsby6006]

I agree with women being dirty. When I worked at the gym and we would have to clean the bathrooms, the women’s bathroom was always atrocious compared to the men’s. And not in a subtle way either. Women had such a disregard compared to men in my experience.

[@RitaP41]

No Kaleb, if you didn't Apologize and Make Up for the pain you caused, you're not truly sorry. And he's Not hurting more than those he hurt. That's another Lie. Stop that.

[@gracejoylove]

Love you guys❤ was soooo helpful and saying it as a 39yo still single girl🙈

[@jesst1306]

🤍

[@fashionspy96]

It's true guys don't know how to clean

[@jenaya_laila2442]

academia person???😂🤣 You mean intellectual!

[@xxicemanxx11]

I disagree. Intimidation would be case by case. Your more A type, type 2 fun personalities won’t be intimidated.

[@mariahc8558]

I don’t fully agree on the fact that women are always tidy, but there’s a difference between having a lot of things and being damn smelly. Man are smelly, you guys literally somehow find a way to keep the odour black

[@GuidetteExpert]

I dont think its right to say to people he treats you bad because he is not into you. That is very non christian and pretty hypocritical. A better advice to people is to say the values don't align and thats why the person is not interested.

[@eduardoleon2106]

This women seems like she went around the block, maybe even the world. The dude is such a little puppy dog in s pathetic. Wow 😯

[@audreynicoletti7329]

You guys ramble on and on. Need better questions and answers.

[@dinahassan4320]

No with all respect 99% of women are clean , period 😅

[@KarenH8]

I’m just going to say it. I really don’t like how he talks to you sometimes. 😫

[@ashleyrichards6736]

Wdym??

[@whitneyangelie3682]

Huh?? I watched the entire thing and thought he seems like he loves his wife allll the way up and down …. How did he talk to her in a bad way at all lol 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@EazyE_]

Bro what are you talking about?

[@xinyilau7578]

Huhh

[@mileyroe4877]

Whatttt? He's so loving and gentle with her.

[@gurlyswagg1014]

Where is the Reddit on Reddit🫨😧