Has Porn Already Broken My Future Marriage?

[@joshuarhawi]

please pray for me. i was clean for 2 years but relapsed again and the temptation is overwhelming..

[@ElijahWebb]

Dear Lord, A contrite heart you do not despise. I thank you for the Grace that abounds in Joshua brought to life by your Holy Spirit. I thank you that the power to overcome does not come from a battle fought alone by human will, but from a victory over sin and death that belongs to his Creator. I pray that you put to death the old nature that lives in Joshua. I thank you that the fact he is asking for prayer already shows how merciful and attentive you are to his needs. He loves you. He wants you and he is not hiding from you. I pray that you show him how to live in the victory that was purchased by Jesus on that cross. That the Christian’s way out of the enemies snares is to pursue the face of Jesus before we pursue the freedom from pornography. Because Jesus is our joy. Jesus is our satisfaction. We are made in HIS image, and pornography is made in the image of the world- which is not our home. I pray for rest in his heart and trust in You, Lord. Thank you Jesus for how beautiful you are. Holy God you are worthy of all praise and amazing beyond words. Show us all your Glory. Thank you for prayer and saving grace. In Your Name, sweet Jesus Amen

[@joshuarhawi]

@Elijah Webb Thank you so much brother from this prayer from your heart 🙏🏼 Please let me know if I can pray for you as well. God bless you🙏🏼❤️

[@joshuarhawi]

@@johnpipper7432 I appreciate your prayer, but please don't use a shady obvious fake account you created 6 hours ago the next time. May God forgive both of us..

[@joshuarhawi]

@@jonives2729 Thanks bro🙏🏼 Let me know if there's anything i can pray for! God bless you❤️🙏🏼

[@mscottster444]

Good luck man! I dealt with it for 10 years. This video and another one told me to imagine the women’s parents and how they are feeling that their daughter does that. And to also be aware that the women is not a believer and if she doesn’t turn her life around will probably not get saved. It shook me up. Good luck man!

[@skysmusic__7666]

I relate to the question so much. When I was 11 it started. I’m 20 now. I too had these “victories” of stopping for a while, but then getting pulled back in. I’ve asked God so much for strength to overcome, but I’m still here. This video broke my heart for my ex girlfriend who I’ve now left a mark on with the sexual ventures we had. I was ruled by lust. I grew to love her, but it was too late and the damage was done. Porn is horrible and degrading to all of your relationships in life, your self esteem and confidence. Please pray for me.

[@Jackson-tw4rg]

will do brother! I can relate currently!

[@jaspereco9504]

im in the same boat, what you said sounds very similar to everything thats happening to me right now. im clinging onto hope that maybe my relationship with my ex can be fixed. we were engaged, but now we arent together anymore. I was ruled by lust and grew to love her too. Ill pray for you brother. Please pray for my relationship too. My ex is still willing to talk to me. I pray that God may help me get through this. Weather i get to be with her or not. I just want to be a better man who can serve God and serve the woman i love properly

[@nakeshabwala5222]

​@@jaspereco9504 out of mercy for her, pls let her go.

[@HearGodsWord]

This guy needs to pray for deliverance from his struggle. Maybe there's a mature Christian in his church who could help him too. In my church two guys were struggling with porn and they ended up being accountable to each other in the fight - both are now happily married. Keep the faith bro.

[@HearGodsWord]

@@johnpipper7432 stop spamming and pretending to be John Piper

[@ruannel2879]

@@HearGodsWord This guy. I caught him once before on APJ

[@HearGodsWord]

@Metal Sonic v3.8 Two guys. It's not strange to have more than one guy in a church struggling with this. The strange thing would have been to pair up a man and woman - do you not have people in your church who meet up in small groups and 1-2-1 ministry?

[@HearGodsWord]

@Metal Sonic v3.8 haha no worries. Maybe I could have been clearer 👍

[@vanessap7209]

What an incredible response to a very personal struggle by Pastor John!! I'm SO encouraged by his final words, as I prepare myself, with The Holy Spirit's leading, to become the wife I am called to be, for my upcoming marriage to my future husband. Blessings to you you Pastor John, your family and ministry🙏🏿

[@pinchofsalt4566]

@@johnpipper7432 *SPAM*

[@spaceman4224]

Thank you Pastor John and thank you Ben for your courage to ask and so receive what we all needed to hear.

[@HCrugger]

It is refreshing, Pastor, to be so candidly counseled on this oft-skirted topic.

[@g.williams2047]

Praise the Lord for freeing me from this evil that scourges the world.

[@vanessap7209]

Amen! Me too!

[@SintijaKeire]

Me too, but in my case those were erotic romance books which also potray porn, only in written words. Praise God for His deliverance! 🙌🙏

[@g.williams2047]

@@SintijaKeire Glad for you! As a man it was just basic pornography, the stuff every man is addicted too.

[@olaadewuyi8116]

Lord deliver me too 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@frankchukwumah9477]

Porn should be illegal it almost messed up my life, but because everyone loves sex and it sell society thinks it's ok.

[@DynamicGracer]

I went 10 years no porn and then went back and saw it had no power over me lol Oh wait, we are supposed to be saying defeat stories not success stories Praise God

[@ruannel2879]

Jeez, I did not expect this.

[@ruannel2879]

@@johnpipper7432 You already tried this on me bro. REPENT

[@TheCommentEvangelist]

Fasting for eleven days freed me from the desire and gave enough control back to my mind to resist the urge until satan finally fled. James 4:7 Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.

[@itsmemichael2975]

Pastor john, you're such a wise man, very inspiring. Thank you very much.

[@lewtube6436]

Did Jesus come into the world for the best behaved, or for the rogues, criminals, violent thugs, rapists, prostitutes, etc, etc? The bible says he came for the latter. No one is perfect, and one reason is, everyone is a sinner. Paul himself was a ruthless hit man for the Pharisees. Yet look how godly he turned out. In my opinion, Ben has every chance to grow into a model husband.

[@Romans-10-9-13]

Spoken like a true porn addict.

[@libbeylibbey]

“Resist the devil, and he will flee from you” is a Bible verse from James 4:7 in the King James Version

[@Composure_Official]

A two edged sword. Cuts deep and true. Hallelujah holy God.

[@xaviersonofgod4464]

Psalm 34:7 The angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear Him, And rescues them NASB The fear of the Lord is the key to obedience.

[@xaviersonofgod4464]

@@johnpipper7432 I have a revelation for you from God, cease what you are doing in manipulating His people, or suffer. Rest assured, God is not mocked, and will trouble those who trouble His people. Please, heed this warning. If you want people to give, simply ask, and don't copy paste a response to every single person. It is impersonal to the person, and offensive to the Lord when you hide it behind the guise of blessing.

[@FOTWC]

WE ARE NO LONGER SLAVES TO SIN. WE HAVE THE POWER TO SAY NO!!! WALK IN VICTORY AS CHILDREN OF GOD. God will strengthen us he is faithful to that promise. We must be able to wait on the LORD.

[@Romans-10-9-13]

Wow, a Christian leader who actually addresses this issue that over 90% of evangelical Christian men partake in. So many cowardly Christian leaders don’t even speak on this. May God bless you for standing up and being a man in this issue.

[@adison70]

Thank you Pastor John and Desiring God for bringing us this podcast. I know many of the Christians, including me are battling against porn. It's satisfying and pleasurable to watch but we try to not to fall into it. Sometimes we misclicked or clicked intentionally but in the end we ended up regretfully of what we did. Let us not give up and seek the strength we need from our Lord. I will pray for you all as I know you will pray for me as well. May God lead us all to victory. Amen ✝️.

[@aileenprestan1823]

Pray, and pray a lot to hate the things the Lord hates also. To never get pleasure from those images, but to hate the sin once you loved. God answers prayers.

[@adison70]

@@aileenprestan1823 Amen. And God be with you sister.

[@VietglishFun]

So because this is for "Future Marriage" I'm assuming most people (including myself) are not married yet. So when Pastor John describes what you should do in the bedroom, I can't help but just imagine it and then yell at myself for thinking about it because he put the picture in my head. Anyone else? Or is it just me?

[@markushoffman8735]

Temptation is not something that should make you feel condemned. I struggle with pornography at least once a week and am in a group to counter act that. Because a big part of the group is about addressing the wounds, it can feel deeply painful when I start thinking lustfully about a woman, though it is natural and good to desire sexual intimacy the way that God designed it. The key difference is marriage that is God-centered is selfless, and therefore sex in the marriage covenant has to be rooted in the person of your wife rather than the body of your wife, though it is good to desire her physically as Pastor John was talking about. I hope I can encourage you in knowing that I struggle with that too, but God knows our hearts and he knows our desires. I hope this was helpful! I will be praying for you :)

[@vicdamone3313]

I feel you, and that's why I found my self tearing up. I want to experience the intamacy that occurs when you truley love your wife and cherish her. So when he explained how you don't want her to feel like she's only being used it really struck me because nowadays that's what a lot of guys do. And they make the females who really don't know better, believe that it's love, when it's only for there own personal gain/satisfaction.

[@Richie016]

Setting aside secondary matters and unclear indulgence while acting upon righteous conduct in the spirit breaks the habitual sin and sets free from its captivity.

[@cashman5355]

Short answer is no.... If you let yourself be healed and really go deep with God about it. And there's nothing God can't heal or fix.

[@shynafye]

I just pray Yeshua could help my relationship w my fiancé, a relationship of 6 years, I jus had a baby and he’s reverted to his lustful temptations… between abuse and having to care for the baby and teach him how to love properly…. It’s just a lot… it’s gotten very toxic and I just ask for anyone to just please help by sending some prayers toward my household.. I’m scared that this relationship will end soon… I’ve been doing everything to help him and get him the help he needs.. For the sake of my baby girl, I want him to be that godly man again…

[@tromboneman4517]

Leave him. Porn addiction is bad enough but abuse is unacceptable.

[@gregmoore2875]

Beautifully stated!

[@treatshow900]

Thank you so much for talking about this and the way you did ❤

[@KeyStar71]

And for thoses who are struggling like me who are single and have had non-married relationship in the past before returning to Christ, how could we manage to stay clean? Specially when we spent so many years like that. It is hard especially when seeing girls even in the streets theses days dressed up to provoque.....and porn is to easy to get.... I was trying to check at least no perverted things . And try to avoid doing it as much as possible...I am not wanting this only for sex but for love hoping to have a wife some day but turns out to be only sex since it is porn.... Still always ending up regreting too....

[@SaphireSystrine]

Read 1 Corinthians 7 onwards, friend. I dont know what God's will for you is, and I myself have my own plank and struggle myself with this. Read the word of God and beg for understanding. Love you brother, stay strong and keep going, I really feel you there.

[@Thelasthouroil]

by believing the Gospel. Treasure Jesus. Im learning as well

[@CollinsBlessings-rj2fz]

Thank you Dr pius on KZbin for all you do in my life and My family. I went for test today after taking the medication I ordered from Dr Pius and I tested chronic Hepatitis B virus negative. Thank doctors I will keep letting the world know about your good work sir!!.

[@kabandana2900]

Don’t you know that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? And anyone who has died has been freed from seen ( he/she can’t sin again). After dying with Christ he was raised from dead through the glory of the father, we too were raised with him. •the sin can not enslave us again •we are dead to sin but alive to God So as people who have been brought from death to life, after believing that we are no longer alive to sin, we have to offer our parts of our bodies to him as instruments of righteousness. This is simply what Paul taught Romans in chapter 6. (Read this chapter again and again and again until you believe it as it is) The lord set me free from addictions through this chapter (Romans 6). Take this as your very own message read it many times and meditate on it. Surely the word of God is living and active 💪🏾 Hallelujah 🙌🏾

[@TripleTx3]

Such a powerful message and food for the soul to receive victory over pornography. Amen!!

[@PJ-ql4pw]

How does God come to us? I wonder if He would lead me to the truth. Im living for my desire right now. Not just porns but like in everything. I do what my body tells me to do. I eat tasty food, watch youtube videos for hours, sleep late at night, play games for hours, watch porns, and on and on. Though I know that it is something that I shouldn't do, I never stopped myself. Eventually, I am at a point where I just start to not think about it a lot. Just do it over and over. Living without any thoughts. I feel like Im not living anymore. I feel like a slave to sin. Though my brain says that it's bad, my heart says "why is it so bad to do sth you desire? you're not hurting anyone." Then I realized that my heart is corrupted. Satan is so powerful. I thought I was able to beat him, but not even close. The evil knows me too well. If my parents don't find me in heaven, that will be too depressing. If no one in this world knew me, I probably would've felt just a little better about going to hell. Of course I wont be able to endure God's wrath. Blessed are the christians... I use to think that I was a christian, but God might not know me. when I get asked by church people or take a survey about religion, I hesitate to say that I am christian, because Idk whether Im known by God or not. I really want to ask myself of past, "why did you say that you are a christian?" I thought it was obvious that I am a christian, but reality was different. I have wonderful christian friends and families around me... they belong to God... they do what God tells them to do... how wonderful... if I could receive His grace and mercy.... how great would it be? someone so sinful like me receiving them would be so relentless.

[@henryrogers5500]

Not sure if you’ll ever see this. It’s been two years since your post. You’re bothered enough by your set of circumstances that you wrote about it. Which indicates to me Holy Spirit conviction. You care about these things that are negatively affecting your life. The unsaved do not care and they are not convicted by the Holy Spirit because they do not belong to Christ. Going by the nature of what I read in your post, it sounds to me like you belong to Christ. Believe His word, the Scriptures. Pray the Psalms. Psalm 51. Psalm 103. Believe Romans 8:1. Embrace it. Ask God, in Jesus name, to give you a proper perspective on holiness, a godly worldview. Sanctification isn’t always a straight smooth road. Lots of bumps twists and turns and sometimes we lose our way. Repent. Change direction in your life and don’t give up. Don’t surrender to your flesh and accept defeat. Keep trusting in Jesus and ask Him to help you get back up on your feet again. It’s a battle for all of us. Get into fellowship with other Christians at a good Bible- believing church. People who love Jesus and will love you with Christ’s love. Ask Jesus to be a lamp unto your feet and a light unto your path. God bless you, brother.

[@nathanwood6707]

NSFW - Tony’s intro doesn’t adequately communicate how graphic this one is.

[@natalia-yg8gh]

@@johnpipper7432 1. You are not John Piper, stop deceiving people. 2. You have commented this same comment on multiple other videos. Repent of the deception. Turn to God.

[@the32712]

Covenant Eyes is a MUST. With your spouse, or spouse-to-be make them your accountability partner on Covenant Eyes. You NEED an accountability partner. Here comes the shocking part fellow men, GET RID OF YOUR SMARTPHONE. Pluck out that "eye".

[@samu3256]

It’s not that simple actually, you would think that would help but there are books library, also the world it’s self is sexual so doing external things alone won’t help. First and foremost It comes down to the heart and longing for the fear of the lord that trumps all these sins and letting the gospel empower you to live in a holy revering way and obeying His commands. God wants our hearts first, not just sacrifice. “Obedience is better than sacrifice”.

[@the32712]

​@@samu3256 It was that simple for me.

[@samu3256]

@@the32712 praise God that worked for you! I pray it continues to work as well.

[@josephbrandenburg4373]

Blocking it doesn't remove the sin, just the opportunity to indulge. You are still an alcoholic if you can't walk past a liquor store. You have to deal with the heart issue, and that means renewing your mind! Although blocking it is a good idea to give yourself space to work on that. A good first step and no more.

[@henryrogers5500]

@@josephbrandenburg4373Ask God to help us to see women as other human beings who are just like us in many ways but are (the opposite sex) with value, as a precious soul whom Christ loves and died for. Perspective! Christ’s perspective.

[@esthergenao7361]

Thank you

[@frankchukwumah9477]

It's a down ward spiral to hell.

[@henryrogers5500]

For the unsaved. Not for the born again believer in Christ.

[@briancannon4607]

3:14

[@samuelmaina5420]

Thank you

[@krispyqwiff8161]

He never really answered the question. I can see why some people are responding to this video with frustration and confusion.

[@henryrogers5500]

That’s why I take all of Piper’s videos with a grain of salt. He’s also a Calvinist.

[@Angelalex242]

Bold of you to assume you'll fall in love in the first place. You are not guaranteed a relationship at all.

[@myka8712]

I have a problem brothers and sisters this thought of mine is what's causing me to have some ill feeling towards God despite being a Christian, desiring to live for him, and loving him. What is causing this feeling and thoughts of mine that makes me have some sort of anger towards him is this: Why is it that God made some people more beautiful and handsome than others? I know people and Christians alike say all the time no that's not true everyone is equally beautiful and handsome but that's not true there are people who are universally beautiful and handsome and just to put that for an example. There's people like Gigi Hadid, Emma Watson, Angelina Jolie, Julia Robert's, and I can say the same thing about men. If we are all made in God's image and all are loved and created equal in his eyes than why are some people created not as pretty or not as handsome. And here again is where I'll point out that no its not true that it's our fallen nature or sin that sees people as ugly or unattractive, the truth is not everyone is created in equal measures of beauty. One that comes to mind is the story of Leah and Rachel where the Bible itself describes the sister as not being equal, it differentiates Rachel as beautiful in appearance and figure unlike her sister Leah. It was the Bible that pointed out this differentiation meaning it's not so much man's sinful heart that perceives ugly due to sin, while that can be the case, its very clear that the Bible even points out the fact that yes they aren't equal and weren't created in such same level of beauty. This to me is very hard to accept and I find God unfair about this because I do believe that it's the beauty of a person's soul, their inner being that is far more important and worth more than jewels. It's what counts while looks fade a way. But also I don't see how people say no she or he may be beautiful in the exterior but have ugly hearts on the inside. I dont believe that to be true. I think that it's hard to cope with that idea because I find God to be unfair that if we are all deeply loved by him equally why did he make some of his children beautiful and handsome while others have to deal with the fact that they aren't as attractive and are ugly such people get overlooked, rejected, mistreated, and made fun of. It just seems not right. Because while there are people who do have a beautiful exterior and an ugly heart there are also those who God has made and love, who are not only beautiful and handsome in the exterior but also love Jesus and have kind loving hearts in the inside. So God made some people who have to deal with the fact they have to accept themselves with their body and their appearance even if its hard for them to accept their reality of being unattractive and this people work on building character and working on being a gentle, meek, kind hearted person on the inside, while on the other hand God made his other children who are very beautiful and handsome in ther exterior and who do seek him, who do love him, and have loving hearts as well, people said to be beautiful inside and out, and this people are not only beautiful on the inside and a Christian but also dont struggle as much because they love their outside as well that they can take care of that God blessed them with. It seems very unfair to me. I know they say looks fade over time but the truth is for those who make it in heaven they will look like their younger self with glorified bodies in heaven and that will always be the way they are. Im not here being conceited but I can speak for any men and any women who don't necessarily ask to be drop dead gorgeous or supermodels we just want to be happy with ourselves I don't think that's a bad thing. Yes, God does seem unfair I feel like if he loves us all equally and we are all made in his image then surely there shouldn't be people on the end of the spectrum dealing with so much hurt for something that they can't control. Yet their are people who do live in this world who are made beautifully and have kind hearts as well so for anyone saying no its not the outside that counts or no those beautiful people are stuck up, conceited, have ugly hearts, that's not true. Some people are just lucky enough to be born beautiful and even more better if they dont have pride and seek Jesus they become not only beautiful on the outside but very beautiful on the inside as well. But as for the other children God made we are here to work on being golden on the inside and trying to accept what we are dealt with how we are and how we look and continously fight of that insecurity. No, I believe as much as God made everyone beautiful and wonderful in his image the reality of the matter is no he didn't make everyone equal like that. And while there are people who never had to deal with being called ugly or made fun of and are blessed to be beautiful and loved and grow with kind hearts as a believer its just not the same for some of us we have to accept bullying we have to accept having to continously cast down our thoughts and find beauty in ourselves no matter if nobody sees it and at the same time work on being a beautiful gem internally. I hope my thoughts and explanation made sense I dont know how else to best put it. I hated that I was born Filipino, that I am Asian and ugly. I just think that if God made both women and both are dearly loved by him why didnt they both look lovely despite one woman being loved than the other.. it's true so many people in this world born like Taylor Hill, Alexandra Ambrosio, and theres some of us that are just average to ugly looking.. My hurt is coming from not about people. Leah's problem is that she felt overlooked and wanted to be beautiful to be seen and not live under her sisters shadow and most of all to be accepted and loved by her husband Jacob. Me its different. I didnt mind not being liked by the guy I like or going through rejection, relationship, or not gaining love or acceptance from the world. I didnt want to be pretty just to be loved or just for some other person to cherish me. For me I just wished God made me well like some of his daughters, that im actually pretty so I can stand waking up in the morning and feeling okay with myself with some love without feeling a weight of discouragement. I simply wanted God to make me at least somewhat beautiful and attractive like how he made his other daughters so that I can be happy and embrace myself for me because in the end of the day I have me to deal with and to take care of this body and soul I occupy and take good care for it till it grows old. I wanted to feel attractive and made beautiful and not in a vain way i know looks will fade but to just be okay with me for me to care for myself and actually feel not discouraged, brushing my hair, dress up seeing myself every morning in the mirror. Why couldn't he do that? I could never understand why he made some people exquisitely beautiful and handsome as his children and not his other childrens. I understand why some people would want to be beautiful maybe to be accepted by society, maybe for praise, maybe to be loved by the guy they want, me my reason is for me to just be okay and actually not hate myself to actually be strong as a women . I've been hurt by guys before and one thing I can say is I never wanted to be beautiful by them I came to the knowledge in such a young age that humans have sinful nature pretty girls too get cheated on, hurt, betrayed, but what I did thought deeply to myself is when all this people leave and guys who hurt leave I have to stand on my own and that's where I wish God made me beautiful because I'm strong enough to know that I can make it in this life just with me and God alone, though I would be happy enough to actually want God to make me like his other daughters beautiful too so I can live my life to the fullest and be happy and embrace myself with some love (again not in a vain obsessive way). It's like some of us are just not lucky. Instead I'm ugly and filipino. I felt cursed and unfortuante. I wish He had made me Caucasian, European, or Hispanic. But out of all the race im not lucky that im Asian and Filipino, that I have the features I have and look the way I do. I thought long and hard I hate my reality and the fate im given I hate looking Filipino but more so an ugly girl. Had he made me pretty I can actually be less mean to myself and not have this hurt feeling every time I try to just dress okay or look pretty in some days.. Granted many people are superficial, I can say for myself all I ever want is TO BE PRETTY FOR ME, JUST ME, to feel fine and to dress up and do my hair with makeup simple as it is for me, just me and that would have been the best feeling in the world on top of loving God. I try to not let it get to me and always focus on my character and my heart as a person but it does hurt and it makes me wonder what is it with his other daughters that he had decided to make them born beautiful and gorgeous to occupy this world and he forgot to add me in it too. They are lucky very much so. Its like when he was creating his children he completely forgot to add a sparkle dust on me and he went overboard and threw the whole dust in some of his daughters and sons that he also loves. I'm not looking to be a Rachel in this world for a handsome Jacob to love me nor a Leah who wants to be seen for Jacob. This is were my frustration stems from with God because after all he is the one that makes us all. I hate that I was born Filipino and look like one and am ugly Asian girl, out of all the race I could have become. I dont like waking up to my reality and hate the fate I have. . But I completely get the story Leah was favored and she received the greatest honor.

[@myka8712]

@S R Amen, I agree with this sister! For me I get told all the time no most attractive people have ugly hearts, are more prone to temptation, and become proud or vain. I can see why that is and I do believe that to be so true for many however its just as true that God did create really beautiful people here in this world who are beautiful inside and out, I can say this for many of my sisters in Christ I know of at my old church who are very gorgeous indeed and their personality and love for Jesus make them even shine more and sure enough they are awesome people and very likeable! As to why God made some people not equally so I don't know and I do believe it to be unfair because such people including myself have to really just focus on beautifying the inner man and accepting the fate of the hands where dealt with. I sympathize with you I understand that it's one of the greatest things in life to be blessed with a great partner and build on a happy family somewhere down the line many want that and it sure is a blessing. But I can also say this to be true I think I'm okay even without the idea of having a spouse or someone to love me in the future. I have my baby boy and it's enough for me to fill my heart and God. But just like you I want to be pretty for me its nothing that the opposite sex or people can really do, I specifically want to love my skin, embrace myself, and feel love for myself as I dress up, do a simple nice hairstyle, hang out with friends, put on a simple makeup, its not something over the top to where it's pride but it is a great feeling to actually embrace your femininity and love yourself not feeling discouraged when you see the mirror. Going to alot of heartbreaks made me realize that I would've been happy and not put my self down if I actually like myself. Had I been born differently I do believe that I can love myself fully, live life to the fullest, and be full of such optimism and happiness radiating from my being, loving God of course and more confident to really preach the gospel and share so much love to people telling them to know more about Jesus. It does something to you, when you're as they say ugly by society standard people don't bother to hear you out no matter your potential and desire to spread that growing love in your heart for people to know Jesus and edify them about the gospel, people are quick to judge, reject, and play on someone's emotions, it is hard. And I'm sorry to offend anyone but though people say God makes no mistakes I do believe he made a mistake with me. As to why he decides to make some handsome and beautiful of his children made also in his image and the other group of people get rejected and tossed to the side because their not equally as such brings some ill feelings to me. And though I know in heaven our main focus is God and Jesus not ourselves I do know for one thing I'll keep my race forever for eternity and still be and look as I am only difference is ill be younger there. As for those who are beautiful here who God blessed with such looks and sold out for Jesus well I can only imagine they too will keep their ethnic background and look as they do only younger in heaven for all of eternity! And that to me feels very disheartening and makes me feel like I'm in the unfortunate end of the spectrum on this one. If I'm not pretty and I hate my race im assigned I just have to make a constant effort to allow God's love penetrate to my heart despite all the many things I just have to accept as is.

[@myka8712]

@S R Yes haha on your mention to Megan Fox. I can think of one in the Bible a woman full of poise, elegance, beauty, and character. Queen Esther! The King saw something in her she was in fact beautiful physically but she carried herself in beauty and simplicity with her character and favor from God as she willingly obeyed the Lord faithfully and fulfilled her purpose. And it's through times of reading like that where I do feel sad with God. As to why there are people with disabilities or who are an outcast in society for how they look or disabilities maybe I don't think I can swallow this truth either but whatever God's reason is I believe it is a good one despite not being able to accept it.

[@myka8712]

@S R Yes indeed. I'm sure alot of it had to do with lust. Frollo had this idea in his head how getting the woman he loves will be complete bliss and make his heart full. But little does he know thats not how life works. One day they'll both get old and to ha e her love doesn't mean she will have her undivided attention on him, once life kicks in they'll have kids and her attention will be divided as she works herself diligently to being a great mother to her kids. That's how life would play out in reality not in the movies. His on a quest of no return I believe. When he does gain her love it wouldn't be enough as life kicks in, familiarity to their everyday life, and of course the old age. I agree completely I hated being born Asian and every where I look I wonder why is it God made some people lucky enough to not have my race, why are there people like GiGi Hadid who are so exquisitely beautiful in every way and I can name a bunch. I dont necessarily want to look like the exact person but I wanted to be pretty as well. Honestly, it is a very hurtful thing indeed I come from a place of pain. I was used by a friend of mine a coworker who I liked I got pregnant and this entire time he didn't like me he liked another coworker who was very beautiful and just like him she was also Mexican. So I became a single mom right now at 22. It got me feeling so many things but I thought long and hard if I was pretty I dont care who will hurt me again I can feel good about myself even if im alone. I honestly have alot of ill feelings and question this in my head and in my heart all the time why that is and how unfair it seems. But sure enough I know if I make it to heaven and live experiencing God's love for all eternity not to mention the rewards that await the saints in heaven whom God loves deeply I will find peace within myself and maybe just maybe see that it's better of being me than anybody else if that is what gives God the greatest joy rather than having the same level of beauty as all this celebrities and models. Thank you! I will pray for you also sister.

[@myka8712]

Quite honestly I get two ideas on this. I have some Christians tell me we will look completely different with our glorified bodies and who knows what will become. Which pretty much to me seems off because if that's the case I don't think that I'll be a new person maybe a Caucasian, European, Hispanic in heaven that'll be a completely different me. From revelation it says people will come from every tribe and nations and worship the Father at his throne so we will ultimately keep how we are here on earth. A black person will still be that way heaven and an Israelite will still be as they are. My take on that from reading glorified bodies as referencing to a body that has supernatural abilities not limited to the physical realm or time and space. Not able to decay, get sick, or get hurt. I've seen some nde where it's mentioned those people who died in their old age like 80s or so will be younger in their prime age in heaven like 25-30 (my best guess.) But all in all will still keep ourselves, how we look and our mannerism and personalities, talents in heaven :) LOL that's what everyone says that people shouldn't be superficial but in all honesty those very same people wouldn't want to date or like someone their not attracted too. #Jesusisallweneed

[@DynamicGracer]

Oh wow WHO CARES?? I want to let you know that there is a tax to being beautiful, it mends you into this world. You don't know who your friends are as some just like you for your looks Are you mad that God made some people more funny than others? Some people taller and shorter? Would you like everyone to look exactly the same? Jesus Christ himself came to earth as an ugly man (Isaiah 53:2) why do you think that was? Beauty is vain, beauty is fleeting It's actually a great blessing of humility to be born ugly Luke 18 says he who exalts himself will be made humble, but he who is humble will be made exalted So many girls go to hell just because they are so gorgeous. It breeds pride and much wealth, rich husbands etc I would rather be made ugly in this world, for it would be spiritually profitable to be There are so many pros and cons to attributes such as these, but God knows what he is doing

[@mtl6149]

Porn is so destructive. I think it's probably better to remain by yourself like Paul did if there was an addiction. I wanted a marriage for a long time but now that I'm finally free from the addiction, I realize the consequences are lasting in this life and I don't think it would be wise for me to pursue marriage. The desire for marriage will probably never go way (a thorn in the flesh) but I feel like it would be to time consuming and take away from my furthering the kingdom. Like Paul said in Corinthians 7 "He who marries does well but he who does not merry will do better"

[@josephbrandenburg4373]

You haven't gone too far to be healed. You're listening to the wrong voices. Do you think God would punish you with that desire if he intended it only to be a "thorn in your flesh"? Do you want to know what it really means? You need to learn about "Theology of the Body". God made us this way for a reason. Our bodies tell a story - they're meant to be the image of God. I would go further- but just look it up and you'll find much better explanations than I can give here. That's what you're looking for.

[@frostblght]

Bro society would crumble in 1 generation. Its estimated that 70% of Christian men have had an addiction to porn at some time in their life. More likely than not God's will is that you get married, and we shouldn't fight His will otherwise we wont live a life that's glorifying to Him. Dont fight porn by sinning in another way.

[@frostblght]

Bro society would crumble in 1 generation. Its estimated that 70% of Christian men have had an addiction to porn at some time in their life. More likely than not God's will is that you get married, and we shouldn't fight His will otherwise we wont live a life that's glorifying to Him. Dont fight porn by sinning in another way.

[@frostblght]

Bro society would crumble in 1 generation. Its estimated that 70% of Christian men have had an addiction to porn at some time in their life. More likely than not God's will is that you get married, and we shouldn't fight His will otherwise we wont live a life that's glorifying to Him. Dont fight porn by sinning in another way.

[@frostblght]

Bro society would crumble in 1 generation. Its estimated that 70% of Christian men have had an addiction to porn at some time in their life. More likely than not God's will is that you get married, and we shouldn't fight His will otherwise we wont live a life that's glorifying to Him. Dont fight porn by sinning in another way.

[@KaneLivesAgain]

These videos on porn and sexual sin from Pastor Jon have been nothing but discouraging. I doubt he even knows what it's like to struggle with sexual temptation or be exposed to it at a young age. I'm trying to overcome porn, but these videos don't give me any hope or encouragement.

[@danieltakawi9919]

If you are still struggling, let me tell you what God led me to do. The best first thing to do is to repent to God. The second thing you should do is to go tell someone you trust about it (I didn't but to this day I wish I did). Spend time with God everyday. Spend time in His word. You will change to be more like Him and see the ugliness of sin. Realise that God love you on your worst day just as much as He loves you on your best day. Because He is a good Father with unconditional love (read the parable of the Prodigal son as an example). Try to find the root of why you sin. God will reveal this to you. Without removing the root you will not be freed. For me the root was wanting to feel loved (my main love language is physical touch) and the fact that I worshipped romantic relationships and thought that a girlfriend was all I needed. Pray. Pray. Pray. Pray that God shows you how much He loves you. How ugly this sin is. Finally, trust that even if you don't feel like it, God's word is more true than whatever Satan says. If God says lust & masturbation is bad, then they are, regardless of how 'good' it feels to me. It is not an easy road. You will have to sacrifice your desires and die to yourself, and it will not be easy at all. But I assure you, it is worth it. Please contact me if you want an accountability partner or if you would like to talk about this more.

[@suhartakundu4752]

Wait I have a question. So I understand gang bangs and all are impossible and it's a sin. But isnt sex suppose to be fast and hard as well?

[@shunclock1634]

Orgy and such activities have no heart in them. It’s using one another and not seeing each other as creation of the holy God. :(

[@suhartakundu4752]

I am actually asking. In terms of one and one marriage sex. Are we allowed to have sex fast and hard?

[@shunclock1634]

@@suhartakundu4752 it’s more of considering other’s desire more than your own. That’s what pastor John meant and the apostle Paul said with consider other’s more than yourself. If your partner wants it why not.

[@John-xf7ft]

I’m sorry , these are really bad replies. What you and your wife do in the marriage bed is up to you. As long as you’re being faithful to her only.

[@suhartakundu4752]

Why not then find a marriage partner who will be open up to sex in a way where it excites both of them. Some women want it really slow, some women want it fast, if a man who wants it fast who doesnt want it slow, shouldnt he just find someone who wants it similar to him?

[@A_Mind_For_Change]

If you've struggled with porn and fornicated it's over for you. Just get used to being single, its been forced upon you at this point. You can't explain your sexual past to a women and expect her to still want to be with you, though its honest. The real honesty is no women is going to want to be with you after hearing that, they want a strong self controled man. Not a weak, self indulged and tainted man. Speaking from experience, just except your fate and pursue Christ whole heartedly.

[@josephbrandenburg4373]

No woman will want a man as defeatist as this. Believe it or not, most of them are way more messed up than the man is, and even the "pure" ones still want a man who is confident. Besides, women aren't all as touchy about it as you seem to think. If women can marry men who came home from wars and have literal killing in their past, they can forgive a lot worse. The point is that this mentality is poison. It's especially poisonous to recruit Christ in your proclamation of un-forgiveness. Didn't he eat with prostitutes? Wasn't he the guy who let a prostitute wash his feet with her tears and dry them with her hair? That Christ?

[@henryrogers5500]

Bad advice.

[@danieltakawi9919]

You speak from experience, a hurtful one it seems, and I am sorry you went through that, but you are not speaking from the Bible. The Bible says that there is nothing that God cannot redeem. The Bible also commands us to be forgiving. If you are truly free from your sin, then you are not who you once was.

[@tromboneman4517]

That is the WORST advice I’ve ever heard and I’ve seen first hand evidence that this is NOT true. A family friend of mine had an incredibly bad sexual history, yet repented of it and is now the best husband and father/man of God you could be. ALL THINGS are possible through Christ.

[@ThePOP1776]

No, my wife did a long time ago with her slow ass sex drive. 🤷‍♂️

[@henryrogers5500]

Your poor wife.

[@user-wl1tj9mw6l]

I hope she divorced you lol

[@dawoodaisa4788]

Thank you