Have You Ever Been Ghosted? Ghosted Someone Else? Processing the Lack of Closure in Relationships

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@DG-wd5wi 10 ай бұрын

"If someone has done this to other people why am I any different? ...if people cut people out of their lives so easily they are going to cut me out too" whew a word yep. Totally agree well said.

@csmtcqueen 10 ай бұрын

I was in a toxic friendship. She ghosted me over a perceived slight; and I was relieved frankly. I admit I didn't expect it to last for a decade. Then ran into her in a store, we were friendly and she apologized for her behavior. We decided to reconnect, exchanged numbers, but I decided (she didn't reach out either) it was best to move on. Sometimes ghosting in a friendship context, can be a path to removing yourself from an unhealthy situation.

@gianalawrence-primus1667 9 ай бұрын

The topic of ghosting within friendships was spot on. I too had a friend that expressed she didn't have the capacity to support me around the time my mom died. I heard her boundary and respected the boundary. Yet I found that she breeched her boundary by asking me about my grief process, which left me confused on "what do I share with her" or " is it safe for me to be honest and vulnerable about my grief or state of mind. My point is if I am being ghosted and I respect your boundary, I shouldn't have the responsibility to uphold someone else's boundary. I acknowledged the friendship ran its course and we are no longer in season of friendship.

@Creativetheory30 10 ай бұрын

Margo's vulnerability from the point in the conversation where she talks about wondering if she's on the spectrum to the end makes me feel so seen.

@justUSpod 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching!

@margolindauer 10 ай бұрын

Thank you. This makes ME feel seen.

@Carlyon100 10 ай бұрын

Some people can only "love" you in your brokeness so they can feel good diving through the wreckage of your self esteem. I'm still skittish from the fallout of long term relationships where people left without explanation or consideration. And as someone who doesnt come to love easily I am learning just now how to let go and be.

@justUSpod 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing that :)

@margolindauer 10 ай бұрын

skittish feels like the right adjective. i feel that, too. but i tend to be too trusting sometimes.

@teebr 10 ай бұрын

OMG! OMG! T, when you mentioned that sassy part, it spoke to me. I have been called sassy, and I used to wonder how and why. I now know that it has to do with people wanting you to go along with foolishness, and when you don't, you’re sassy 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank You for mentioning that.

@nala_b 9 ай бұрын

YAS to a conversation around being transparent when it’s hard. I would like to also hear your thoughts on when a person is being transparent but the other person does NOT want to receive it. ❤

@nicolegari 10 ай бұрын

I love that I don’t have to respond immediately

@nala_b 9 ай бұрын

YAS to an episode of being transparent when it is hard. And I would love to hear you all’s thoughts on when you are being transparent and the other person doesn’t want to accept/receive it ❤

@rosecoloredglasses67329 10 ай бұрын

Suggestion: I liked when each host asked the other questions. I would love to see more of this, and also as one host is answering, I would love that she be allowed to complete the thought. I feel like there are missed opportunities when thoughts are not completed understanding that one wants to capture all her thoughts in the moment. Rather than interrupt, perhaps that thought could be a topic for another episode.

@CulturalMisfitt 8 ай бұрын

Yes. I learned this the hard way about a 20 year friendship breakup. I saw the way they treated others but conditioned myself to believe I was the exception. Not to say they were a horrible person, I still deeply love them, but they wounded me in ways that I’d seen them harm other friends and it came back full circle.

@justUSpod 8 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!!

@ajalikeasia 10 ай бұрын

This podcast 🙌🏽… it’s a perfect combination of personalities, wit & outfits that compliment each other beautifully. Margo, 10s across the board. Tashira, the boots 👌🏽✨.

@justUSpod 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!!

@margolindauer 10 ай бұрын

Thank you!! I appreciate this so much.

@CandeceMunroe 8 ай бұрын

Wool I went through this and decided to stop playing

@zaritawalker80 10 ай бұрын

Asking for help seems so final sometimes… great show

@margolindauer 10 ай бұрын

Asking for help is so hard. What do you mean by final?

@nicolewilliams1636 10 ай бұрын

Awesome vlog! Much needed. Do you mind sharing the article that you referenced about setting ghosting boundaries with a friend?

@DG-wd5wi 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for asking I need it too lol

@CandeceMunroe 8 ай бұрын

My god Margo I ve had the same thoughts about myself I have trouble ending things with people that I have loved and been loyal to over the years. I always think I am the problem. When people show time and time a again they can't show up and will not show up for me I string it out

@CandeceMunroe 8 ай бұрын

What if you needed to ghost someone to protect your peace when you know they won't take accountability for things they have done to you over the years based on a pattern they've had with other friends?

@DG-wd5wi 10 ай бұрын

This podcast just keep getting better ❤. I really enjoyed this chat.

@margolindauer 10 ай бұрын

thank you!

@berniceramsey8260 9 ай бұрын

Margo!!!!!!!!! I feel in so many levels on friendships and ghosting

@T.Nikki2 10 ай бұрын

Margo’s hair looks so good!❤

@margolindauer 10 ай бұрын

THANKS!

@nicolegari 10 ай бұрын

I appreciate you sharing your experience with trying to broach your friendship T… that meant a lot.

@missboss3803 6 ай бұрын

I love you guys! Keep it going

@Proactiff 10 ай бұрын

When I tell yall I’m grateful to have informative, funny and smart women “of a certain age” (my age cohort) podcasts and KZbinrs to watch. Thank you both for creating content that resonates. Yall mesh so well together. Balance and banter, “eff dem dirty bishes dusty-ass hoes” from thug missus T for me. I love my homegirl long time! 🤣 Both transplants, but ain’t gone ever be able to take the Florida out of us.

@margolindauer 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching!

@greenpea10x 10 ай бұрын

Love this episode! Such an interesting, vulnerable and relatable conversation. Thank you ❤️

@tangelachampion5048 10 ай бұрын

For a reason or for a season is real!

@ATLCExperience 10 ай бұрын

Very interesting episode, almost a therapy session. I don't know if I have ever really ghosted someone because I have no issues with having those hard conversations. However comma I don't like repeating myself soooo I'm not one to keep having talks. Besides I think grown folks know what they do especially after you have told them how their actions or lack there of make you feel. So what are we really talking about? I'm going to walk away and protect my peace. I'm happy Margo is in a better place and T I'm glad you got her back because the way I wanted to hop on a PJ to Boston when she was talking. It's beautiful how you mirror each other and she saw the same in your industry 'friendships' and she was ready to hit em with the blick. LOL Most of my friends I have had all most of my life (50 years), we went to grammar school together. I picked up a few in the military, not too many in high school or college and very very few as an adult. My philosophy was no new friends, I stay down with my day ones; but I opened up a little bit. However, I realize friendships/relationships are for a reason, come during a season but hardly any last lifetime and that's the way God designed it.

@justUSpod 9 ай бұрын

Such thoughtful comments. Thanks for watching!