the horror of having no friends in high school

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[@lovely1893]

reminds me of the time that this girl, her name was Angelina, she sat alone all the time, kept her head down all the time, and just didn't say anything to anyone. she is a beautiful girl too, and has a wonderful personality. me being me, i have social anxiety, but you'd never know that because i'm always stepping outside of my comfort zone. i went up to her one day and started talking to her, and it made her so happy. i talked and walked with her to classes every day, and would always find something to talk to her about. other students would look at me like im crazy but i dont understand why, she's human just like the rest of us. her mom worked at the school too, and one day her mother walked up to me and said, "thank you for talking to her. you truly don't know how much it means to me and her. she got so happy, she came home telling me about you." and that warmed my soul. doing kind things like that just makes me feel extremely satisfied and fulfilled. it makes my day knowing i made someone else’s day a bit better.

[@Stareyiii]

lol my name is Angelina too! But obv i am not that girl- Since I sit with ONE of my friends(only one of my friends have the same lunch as me)

[@shykuneho]

you're such a kind soul 🫂

[@jie6755]

@@Stareyiii Thats my name too!

[@_iamlilla]

i wish someone like you went to my school! it's so cliquey here, i hate it

[@xryuune]

@@_iamlilla cliquey is definitely the right word for my class 😭

[@dogngarf]

As an introvert, making friends is the hardest fr.. not like I’m really shy but I’m just anxious of how awkward it’ll be: just not confident like that

[@MarleyKlay]

honestly the only people i can befriend are extroverts because they start the conversations 😭

[@aliennathan6089]

Fr, and finding a friend that is a introvert AS an introvert is so rare ong.. but ig its cuz their usually hidden, hopefully we both find someone tho

[@ibeom_u]

Oh my god same. I always step outside my comfort zone but then I regret cause it’s so awkward I hate it 😫

[@WakeMeWhen_WinterEnds]

Everytime we're doing a group or partner project in class, I'm always the last person to be chosen. I feel like crying everytime this happens because I just feel like everyone doesn't like me. I don't get what the hell is wrong with me.

[@Bob-mu2gf]

I’m sorry you feel that everyone doesn’t like you this is not true, there is nothing wrong with you and I hope that you are feeling and doing better. ❤

[@cranburrey]

Same....

[@canelle_888]

or in pe

[@iii4447]

i literally have no one and have pretty much always been alone and i dont get what i am doing wrong

[@oliviamae8807]

I totally get you like my friends went to a different college (I'm British so equivalent is grade 12 I think) and I have no friends, and I've never had to make any since I was like 2 so now I've been learning how to socialise all over again and it makes you an independent person being lonely but it's so tough feeling like you have to work out what it is about you that means you don't make friends but maybe it's that thought itself which makes it difficult. Theres nothing actually wrong with you. honestly I'm so thankful to know im not the only one bc it can feel like that when all you can see for miles is friendship groups, it's almost like someone's put a highlighter on everyone who's chatting and laughing - but yeh I definetly found alot of refuge in books

[@magicfairyprincess28]

just cried to my mom for hours on end about this exact same thing

[@sarah-yr2db]

@@magicfairyprincess28 i relate, hope you find some friends soon

[@rosewurkz]

Sending you big hugs.. I wish everyone in this comment section could just casually meet up.. instead of being alone in our little corner of the 🌎, GOD BLESS YOU 🙏💕

[@Jamellii]

Nothing. It's always a group for you I can confidently say most of the other groups you're seeing are going to collapse like a house of cards soon. I had a group since 2018 and 3/8th of us don't talk no more. Remember it's not the group you need but that 1, 2 or 3 real ones you need. You'll get there

[@ykobi]

i think for me i really struggle finding people with the same interests as me. idk for me i personally love drawing ocs and underrated videogames, but like half the people i meet prefer talking about school drama. its really hard

[@s1v6nnah]

girl we should just make a group chat for all us loners 😭

[@ibeom_u]

RIGHT

[@andrijanaandjelic8134]

Yess please

[@Whoaaaa___]

Or a discord😭

[@crunchycookie6712]

Pls sign me up😭😭😭😭

[@canelle_888]

yes

[@THATGUYJXSH]

I told myself in 8th grade that Freshman year would be my fresh start but little did I know that I would have no friends, have social anxiety, and basically build up a reputation that I’m a quiet loner who never talks. I went through my first year of high school with no friends and now I have the worse social anxiety ever. Even though there’s 3 more years, I can’t really see a future where I’d make a friend when pretty much everyone in my grade has seen that I’m secluded and quiet.

[@kayoari3664]

I can relate to your story so much I told myself that 9th grade was gonna be a fresh start for me I was going to a new high school I was gonna make a lot of new friends and join clubs but instead I didn’t the opposite of all of that and now I’m wishing I could go to a different school because my plans at that school didn’t work out

[@Nonxistent_J]

Oh my god I relate to this so much. I’m going to the 11th grade and still haven’t made any friends since I started HS. I told myself in 8th grade that I was gonna be a totally different person when I start HS but instead my social anxiety got worse each year since it started with this year being the worst. I honestly don’t know what I’m gonna do with myself if I don’t make friends next year. Like I genuinely feel like 11th grade will be my last “attempt” to make a friend because once I get to 12th grade, that’s it.

[@KarroszuMiaka]

Honestly bro, if u can't find friends in ur class, just go to another class to find ppl that r more comfortable for you (speaking from experience here). There are a lot more ppl in school than just the guys in your class. You can either go to your cafeteria, meet some ppl, and start making friends from there. Or if you have like a school trip later, PLEASE TRY UR BEST TO MAKE FRIENDS THERE. Since u prob won't have to be with ur classmates all the time, you can try to find ppl outside of ur class there. Cuz that's how i got my friends in 11th grade, and i am very glad that i met them because i prob would off myself or not go to school anymore if it weren't for them. So yeah, that's my advice. And oh, don't even think about waiting 12th grade, cuz if u think u can still try finding friends in 12 grade while being shy. Just give up. It's basically impossible cuz you will be focused mostly on trying to get into the university u want to go to.

[@KarroszuMiaka]

​@Nonxistent_J YESSS UR RIGHT. 11th grade is very much ur last chance on making a good circle of friends. Try everything you can to get them, even if you fail trying, ik fate will come when you will finally get the group of friends u needed.

[@gamegamer9523]

@@THATGUYJXSH join clubs it makes everything easiers

[@AestheticallyViolet]

Every year my social anxiety gets worse. In fact, I probably only say 15-30 words a school day.

[@Sectrix2pp]

I say 0 words a day, 7 if im feeling confident

[@ZQPPS]

3rd week of school I e probably only said about 20 words to actual classmates so far

[@Tugsboi47]

Y’all trippin

[@Birbbb]

same..and i am lonely as hell

[@hmm279]

same

[@xoxoIyric]

im a freshman, i talk to alot of people bc i like to make friends and its comforting yk. but i still eat lunch alone everyday, i almost never have people texting me or reaching out (with the acception of 1 or 2 ppl). it just hurts so much because i feel theres something wrong with me, when i know theres not. everytime i think i find my people, i end up sabotaging those relationships leaving me alone again. which i know sounds ridiculous to complain about when i know its my fault, but its also a trauma response to stuff that ive experienced in my childhood and in previous years in middle school and stuff. ive been struggling with generalized anxiety disorder for my whole life and severe depression for almost 4 years now and i cant put into words the amount of pain i feel every second of everyday. school is the most social part of my life, when i come home, im alone for 3-4 more hours and then my mom gets home. me and my mom are kinda close but she overwhelms me so much. i spend my days alone. i dont have pets or siblings. its just me for like 15 hours of the day. idrk what else to put in here, but it sucks really.

[@maria-zn7jd]

YOU AND ME ARE THE SAME EXCEPT IM A JUNIOR…i have no siblings either

[@THAYOUNGDON]

You’ll be ok just keep going bro

[@xoxoIyric]

@@THAYOUNGDON thanks bookie

[@OfficialJuneATL]

i felt that lately yet still i have a few good friends yet i just not had them that close to me but yeah i get that.

[@omegaelephant9224]

Tell me about it, I'm also a freshmen, I have no friends and have been bullied since elementry, of course it's not everyone that bullies me but it kinda feels like it, and even with people who are nice and good people I'm just nervous to talk to them.

[@Jamellii]

advice from a junior: most friend groups will always fail. I've been there in 6th grade but all you gotta do is really find that one person you vibe with and that outweighs any 7 person group chat. Dont change up who you are to impress others. And don't fall into the trap of substrances and if you find that group don't ever abandon them

[@dectroia]

My school is pretty small, and I'm the only one in my grade who doesn't have any friends. I'm moving to a bigger school next year, but I feel like I've wasted so many of my teenage years already. It's supposed to be the time when you go out to malls and restaurants with somebody other than your mum, when you spend hours at night texting your bff, when you find someone you can share your inner hopes and fears with...I feel like a failure, a loser, a repulsive aberration. I just can't talk to people (irl), I can't think of anything to say and even if I could, I couldn't get the words out of my mouth, without sounding like an idiot.

[@Sklir942]

the "going to restaurants and malls with somebody other than your mom" is relatable asf. Whenever I wanna go somewhere its always my mom that has to take me and be with me there, and it feels so embarassing being this teenage girl who only ever goes with her mom and has no friends to go with her like a normal person... I feel like Im a little child and so because of all this I prefer staying at home. Like I _can_ walk alone to places but Im scared I might be seen as off/weird and it might be dangerous... I wanna take evening strolls around the neighborhood with someone I can chat with but I cant have that... ughhh

[@clixhe]

For me class 11th last year was the most exhausting lonely sad year for me i was so alone that i was sick sitting in class hearing people laugh and tell silly jokes i was so sad because i didnt have anyone to tell silly jokes and laugh i skipped most the classes that year because i was just sad sitting there I missed out on so many opportunities to makes friends with because i was scared i would be judged Either way this year for class 12th i decided to change no not my personality but i decided to become more active and you can say it did work well ofc i still have issues dealing with a larger group but im better than before i have friends and i have people i can laugh and tell silly jokes to

[@nogfrog]

hey can you tell me what you did specifically? im also a senior but im stuck sitting alone most of the time :(( pls help me out!!

[@clixhe]

@@nogfrog so what i did was that I was more open like participating in small things making my self known a bit tried to find people with in the same Wave length as me Although I didn't stick myself into places I thought I wouldn't belong to Start genuinely random convos with ppl (That's how I met one of my sweetest friend she thought i was weird for asking what color she thought maths was lolol) But in the end I think everything depends on the environment

[@clixhe]

But tbh I myself is unable to take my own advice My school life is over lol now im in college and I moved places..countries to be exact and help I'm miserable than i ever was even yesterday I was thinking and crying about how much i miss my friends lol

[@adriancabrera4817]

@@clixhebut how the hell do you do that when everybody has their own group and you don’t want to interfere 😭😭😭 one day I say with this kid at lunch I kind of knew, then his whole group came and I felt completely left out and I vowed to never to that again. I want to meet knew people and I’m trying but it’s so hard for me

[@Fluorescent.mushrooms]

This is sooo!!! For the last two (in my senior year now) years of school, I've had no body, and it's so isolating. I'm starting to talk to more people now, but nothing will take away the feeling of watching everyone else experience high school while you've been left behind.

[@kietalksalot]

you’re so realll for this (love ur pfp btw)

[@Fluorescent.mushrooms]

@@kietalksalot ty!!! I'll probably read the perks of being a wallflower because of this...!

[@maria-zn7jd]

too real

[@Hirtly]

Going through that now i just resent them so much

[@Fluorescent.mushrooms]

@@Hirtly resent is so real, I've literally become such a jealous person 😭

[@yoontangie143]

It’s simple as this, if you go into high school with no friend group, you are doomed until you graduate. That’s what happened to me

[@OfficeDuck-]

Nah, i have been given many opportunities that i didnt make good on at the time.

[@tanmaykokkula6211]

omg and the thing is people see you alone all the time and they just kinda assume that you want to be alone its even worse when you never know what to say when people actually do talk to you and its so awkward and you get this feeling like they'll never talk to you again because they think thats what you want but noo im just awkward )):

[@cr4yonzzz]

real i'm in my senior years and i still have no school friends 😭 low key feels like maybe there's something wrong with me but at the same time i guess i don't mind that much? i feel like it doesn't bother me as much because it doesn't necessarily mean things will always be that way

[@TRey5o5]

Mannn what I’ve realized(and I hope this is able to help others too) is that even if you are sociable and open and extroverted, sometimes that’s not the answer. Like I’m sick of people saying “all you have to do is be more social and do this blah blah and you WILL make friends” and yes, that might be the case for some sure. But if ur anything like me, and you have put yourself out there and took risks and you think of yourself as a pretty decent person and you’re still trying to figure out why you have no friends…well I feel like the hard truth that people don’t say is that I feel like what it really comes down to is you choosing to be ur true authentic self. I realized a long time ago that most people are really fake ESPECIALLY in high school. Even down to the friendship dynamics it’s FAKE. It’s exhausting to deal with that or try to pretend because sometimes that’s just not who you are. And I will say that there are people in there who will like you just as you are but in your case they might be more few and far between. But that’s okay. Keep being yourself because that will attract what you want. high school is like the hunger games lol. people will do anything to survive. It’s so much easier making friends outside of it I promise you. Ps: I also want you to know that joining clubs that interest you could potentially get you closer to making friends too(: It’s worth a shot and if it doesn’t that’s fine too just remember to stay true to yourself because no friends are better than fake ones.

[@alys_the_tw1sted]

I'm a sophomore right now and the last time I had a friend was December of 8th grade. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who has experienced this.

[@lamyenz6150]

U seem like the type of person that I would definitely vibe with though:(. Sadly i can't find anyone out of the 60+ students that i take classes with that are like want to talk or message me after school or stuff like that. I find it so funny that sometime you find posts on social media where people tell their story on their experience of having no friends and i find them to be the most lovely and funny person i have ever met?? like how could u not have any friends:((?? How could I ever meet someone like you?

[@treebarkface4069]

I'm homeschooled but always wanted to transfer because especially living in the country i feel to isolated, but at the same time im scared i'd just feel more lonely.

[@SsspookyRay]

I'm also homeschooled and this is so real. It's just me and none else

[@kozmicbluess]

ever since starting middle school, ive had no friends and high social anxiety. i would talk to people in my classes but i would never develop real friendships. i would literally talk to myself during lunch because of being so alone and having no one to talk to. people would begin make fun of me for talking to myself making more closed off from making friends and talking to people entirely. i’m now a freshman and have zero friends and absolutely no one to talk to. being alone sucks so much.

[@peanutfrogy9087]

I wish I had friends but I’m too shy to talk to anyone

[@gamegamer9523]

I have been in your situation and my advice is that blame yourself take responsibility and take action.

[@gamegamer9523]

Put yourself out there.

[@Kem1sk]

@@gamegamer9523 but thats hard

[@gamegamer9523]

@@Kem1sk start small like going to a club. But not talking to random strangers.

[@ZQPPS]

@@gamegamer9523I would do that but the school I went to for my freshman year even tho it was a huge school had no clubs that related to my interest (comics and anime) and the school I’m going to now is very small and has clubs at all

[@kittenslikestars]

i've been struggling since becoming a freshman and this video is really meaningful. it's good to know that i'm not the only one who has no friends and gets freaked out at lunch every day. it's especially good to know that it can pass. i keep failing to involve myself in conversation and i'm terrified that i will never have a place in anyone else's life. i have issues with executive dysfunction, so trying to balance a social life on top of the already too stressful routines that everyone else seems to come across naturally requires a lot more energy than i have. i kept having panic attacks at the beginning of school but now i've just been dissociating. anywho. good video :D

[@NaokoMarie]

I had to restart my social life in high school because the few friends I made in middle school all went somewhere else and stopped keeping in touch. I had people to have small chat with but nobody to actually sit and hang out with outside of school. I managed to finally form a small group with a couple guys in 10th grade until the pandemic hit and for the most part we still texted, but once 12th grade arrived I had a horrible falling out with my close online friend which sunk me into a bad depression and made them not want to hang around me. I managed to befriend a guy in my pe class until he asked me out and I rejected, which made him angry, made me even more uncomfortable, and I was back to being alone. One guy from my previous trio sided with him, and the other stopped talking to people too after some drama from another friend group occurred that I didn’t know about until a girl told me during grad rehearsals. My mom was the only one who encouraged me to be social but she passed away 2 months after. Now I’m in my third(?) year of college, only one guy tried to talk to me so far but AGAIN it was because he just wanted to date me despite me barely knowing him and hasn’t talked to me since. I’m back to being alone and I get so jealous seeing friend groups, irl or online just being so close and doing activities together. I guess I’m just gonna live as a socially anxious hermit forever lol

[@rubex8954]

It’s refreshing to hear about an experience that’s so scarily similar to mines. Love this and love ya too sis

[@ShellyNooby]

I started self improvement in middle school for this exact reason. I figure it’s better to work on my social skills while I still can and have an air of security around me.

[@prezlieolson2425]

I also read the perks of being a wall flower freshman year after watching the movie in 7th, and coming back to it, to read or watch always gives me a sense of hope. I’m a sophomore and have never felt more alone specially in school. I wake up crying I’m so anxious to go. But knowing other people have been there and are there, is really helping.

[@faiyaz9768]

Same I’m also a sophomore and I’m so alone in school and it sucks because I feel high school should be the best years but it just sucks I have a few friends but ppl don’t really text me or reach out I had friends freshman yr but they left me out and then eventually got rid of me

[@ChoclateCakeMango]

I forgot what having friends is like. It’s been years. As someone who also doesn’t have friends, it’s a nightmare to be surrounded but people you don’t know much about or feel comfortable with. I’m hoping for my life to get better soon so I can be alone

[@evers33n]

i’m a sophomore. i had friends, and one of them was my best friend since sixth grade. we were lucky because we had homeroom, lunch period, math tutoring, and spanish together. unfortunately, one of my friends was really self-absorbed and this became more apparent as time went on. she always made our conversations about her problems and interests. it got to the point where i felt that one of my parents could die or go missing and i would get the news in front of her and she would still make it about her. so at one point i got fed up. i told her i was tired of only hearing about her problems and she basically forced herself between me and my best friend, only to make everything about herself. it was incredibly freeing in the moment. my best friend chose her for some reason, and we moved on. now i have no friends. i sit at lunch all alone. i mostly just read like you did. for the first few days, it was freeing. now it’s just repetitive. my problem is that adults make it sound so easy. “go up and talk to someone!” what if you embarrass yourself? what if there are no one with your interests? your bit about the perks of being a wallflower resonated with me, because there’s a book just like that for me. the goldfinch by donna tartt. my favorite book and i will never shut up about it. the main character theo starts out the book by losing his mom, and when he returns to school, he meets up with his “friend,” tom. tom makes a tasteless joke about them getting in trouble that has connotations to theo’s mom’s death and ignores him. he doesn’t even acknowledge the elephant in the room. theo is rightfully enraged and cuts tom off. this part of the book really stuck out to me because it accurately displays that our “friends” might be people who we can tolerate and who can tolerate us. they might secretly have major problems and push us past our breaking point until we can’t continue the act anymore.

[@tendyboys8344]

Im in my 12th and final year and I honestly think my social anxiety problems started in grade 9 and its too late to change to be honest.

[@therealsilly]

i just started 9th grade like a month ago, and i have one friend from middle school with me but we don’t have any classes together. we eat lunch together but she doesn’t rlly talk to me, shes usually just on tiktok 😭 i havent made any friends yet and i legit feel like a ghost. seeing everyone else with their friend groups n stuff and your almost always alone sucks. i cant socialize either 😔 i have anxiety and dont understand social cues, so nothing rlly makes sense. all my friends from middle school (except for the one girl i mentioned earlier) are going to different high schools and it feels like we’re drifting away. idk man i just want friends 🧍

[@pewdewpiebridge]

i used to read some crazy manga in class its not surprising i got no friends

[@Gor3girll]

It makes me feel so much better knowing people are in the same situation

[@hannahhildenbrand8065]

YESSS!! Exactly why I love the book is bc the format it’s written in. He is me, I am him, we are wallflowers :)

[@leah2405]

Your so real for this you described hs so perfectly I started going to a new school this year and it sucks I miss my friends 😭 I hope it gets better since I’m barely a freshman

[@selfraisingsugar898]

That’s how I was. I had 2 friends by the end of secondary school. We would sit in art during lunch & break.. I don’t speak to anyone from school anymore & now I have no friends my age. I wish I could have been friends with more people but my year of classmates was a nightmare.

[@kryptonitewoosh2680]

It’s horrible in high school, but it’s incredibly worse home schooled.

[@thisismykingdomcome8743]

As a person who recently graduated and is now in college. My only regret was not getting to know more people. I wish I became friends with more people. I tried to be more open, but relationships and friendships are so superficial in todays world.

[@ieateddirt]

I'm a freshman but I've been homeschooled for all of my life, I don't know what to do or where to go but hearing your perspective was really neat :) I think it kinda opened my eyes a little and I appreciate it, I really want to meet other people because I've been isolated for pretty much all my life. it's really cool to hear the perspective of someone who's a little older and has had similar experiences. thank you for sharing

[@jordannnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn]

help because i have old friends but once the pandemic hit; we all stopped hanging out with each other. once i went back to school (inperson) last year, i TRIED talking to my old friends and rekindling a relationship but they all made excuses as to why we couldn’t hang out. come to find out that they were sitting in a little corner with their new friends. this whole situation kind of traumatized me due to my lack of social awareness + me being socially inept. it makes me so nervous just interacting with people because idk if they even really vibe with me or if they just hate me. not to mention my longing for a boyfriend; it’s so hard being a teenager nowadays. i’ve missed out on so much and it just breaks my heart tbh. (sorry for the rant)

[@sleepx3651]

You are a very smart girl and even after what you’ve been through you’re still optimistic. Be proud that you’re using your time productively rather than turning to abusive substances. I promise your habits will pay off extremely well in the future.

[@axmy0613]

Bruh Im crying bcs i search this up and miss my past its like the loneliness epidemic but its just the reality i didn't do highschool 😔 cs what if i could have met my ideal friends or some amazing person.. i feel like im old and like i miss physical touch even tho im not like tht to feel like someone cares yk i feel sad for myself lol I have one friend but its like they need me just for advice or idk when they feel alone they avoidant like me..bcs ive been alone too much. And it sucks as you get older kinda.. Im on the episode i always were like this alone introverted ,chameleon personality i don't show much interest in people..book reading I had one bestie she broke me I think i need Jesus idk

[@faiyaz9768]

Real I searched it up as well trying to get out of being lonely but it’s hard book reading occupying as many hobbies because I can’t talk to ppl fr just got kicked out of a gc because I was 2 quiet idk what’s wrong w me but it’s sucks

[@axmy0613]

@faiyaz9768 might sound corny ,Just ground yourself feel it..cry and journal about it or talk to a higher power.. sometimes I don't want to go to jobs bcs I feel disconnected to everyone bunch of mid 40 and 50 elders some people dont respect you bcs it's work the real world isn't school... I am 21 and I freak out....but you know what being alone is self discovery and sometimes you are going to feel lonely and that's okay too let go of attachments, false expectations Don't force anything but I would say find at least one person to talk too or re connect with an old good friend and if it doesn't work you're going to be just fine and focus on ur studies like seriously. Ahhg I'm like deep in thoughts You got this keep going. You are love ❤️ and I care otherwise I wouldn't gaf & you are enough .

[@josephvarela9551]

Yes you do need jesus seek him amen

[@AlyssaCox-u7s]

I moved to a new school and I have confidence, don't put my head down, and I just choose to be more quiet bc I tend to be reserved and not have much to say anyways at least around all the people there.

[@O16.]

Living the lonely life rn I tried making friends my freshmen year but honestly now I just can’t be asked making the effort. Probably gonna have a grand total of 1 or 2 friends by the time I graduate 💀

[@callyann9921]

This was a super interesting and articulate vid I’m actually really surprised!! Surprised this hasn’t gone viral

[@OlivertheArmsDealer]

highschool was so hard for me i had no friends my life has been so much better af6ter graduation

[@polkovnikstephen5176]

All my friends were class of 23, im class of 24 been eating lunch alone all year and yk a couple people you know here and there but mostly lonely asf. Going from being on wrestling and football team and having friends, to completely lonely my senior year really gave me a new perspective

[@KorksBizarreAdventure]

I never had friends, especially in later high school. Everyone became meaner and more self absorbed; after I graduated I cut everyone off from my graduating class. Ever since my second semester ever of college, I finally found my people, and people I can trust, it gets better Edit: For reference I am a huge geek lol esp with anime and no one in my high school liked anime, even the fans were ashamed. I was open ab my interests too with the way I dressed, just learn that people stop caring after high school

[@lorkyiezbrotoes9323]

Omg girl I'm in 11th grade rn, and whenever I don't have a friend in a class it is the most loneliest experience even though I know a lot of people and have been there for a few years. I appreciate you for coming out and telling us your experience with this. ☺️❤️ Especially because people are all around you enjoying themselves, but it's so hard to join them without feeling judged.

[@latelylowkey]

im in ninth grade and im in a progressive diverse k-12 school that is super into inclusion and i almost never had any friends. in lower school i. would play tetherball alone,the covid hit and i got depression, didnt do any schoolwork, in 7th grade i had distant lunch friends for a year and a half, with depression in 7th grade and crying everyday during lunch instead of eating, then the friends left me in the dark, now im in ninth grade, in the fall i tried to eat with the sweat girls, in nov i started doing hw during lunch, in jan i started eating lunch in the side stairwell alone watching movies on my computer. i started fall behind on hw, in march i got my phone taken away permanently, but i still watch movies on my computer. late April i relapsed into cutting. being alone is harder than it looks, and no i cant just ‘join clubs’. 🙄 my sister has always had friends so i know the difference

[@AfroPuffs45]

I've been at the same school (my school is a middle and high school) since 8th grade, i'm in 11th now and still no friends. It's gotten so bad i've been sitting in the bathroom during lunch to avoid being seen sitting alone. I only have two close friends and they both live in a different state. I'm literally so lonely it's actually insane. I don't even want a big group of friends just one person is enough. The amount of times i've had to do group projects and partner work alone because other people refuse to work with me or the things i've missed out on because i'm too scared to get involved just makes me feel worse. I don't know what i'm doing wrong and at this point i'm starting to accept the fact i'm not gonna make friends and i'm probably gonna be alone in college as well.

[@tabonlong]

my friends from 7th grade suddenly drifted away from me and idk anymore good thing is one of my childhood friends was in the same section as me!! I am trying to engage in more small talk too

[@ZQPPS]

I actually have no one to talk to like in 8th grade I had good friends that I liked and we were all very close but after 8th grade ended it was only the Freind who I liked the most and I was the closest with who even talks to me anymore since i went to a different school than then. In my freshman year last year I got really fat over the summer which I was overweight before but not big big but last year in 9th grade idk why but I just couldn’t bring myself to talking to anyone like I would think about being Freinds with people but I just couldn’t think of doing it because I don’t want to embarrass myself and end up looking weird and I also thought that since I was fat that nobody would want to talk to me after that I talked to nobody other than my teachers for the entire year at all and now I’m in a different school for sophomore grade year but it’s the same and I just think nobody would wanna talk to a socially awkward fat guy sometimes i have thoughts abt committing especially with how bad my freshman year is but my mom is already struggling and I could never think to put that much on her shoulders just because I got fed up I don’t even know what to do I just hate my life man

[@F0XYEDITZYT.]

I have no friends like I have friends but sometimes I feel like, I’m not close enough to join into there convos

[@smurfy6168]

Fax

[@babiegirl526]

im in 11 grade now too this video made me want to watch the perks of being a wallflower now. even when i was little i had friends but only 1 best friend at a time. or i was the third wheel

[@gangsterratatouille78]

im in 7th and havent had a friend since 5th grade. before 5th i didnt have friends either

[@fangtasticvampy]

i had to move for my SENIOR YEAR !! i had to make a new life for myself i was so alone n graduated w no friends by my side it was such a humbling experience i didnt know what i had until i lost it :(

[@Standardwhat9464]

You are a great speaker keep making videos likes this!

[@Standardwhat9464]

These comments make me feel less lonely 😭.

[@jade9596]

I’m a freshman and my friend barely talks to me and I feel so lonely😭😭😭😭

[@SnailTrailJay]

I just finished reading perks of being a wallflower as a 10th grader and oh my god, Charlie is so me too. Like I’ve never ever related to anything more in my life and I’m very happy to see it mentioned here

[@okkelly6207]

it also hard having lots of friends cuz rumours get spread abt u and stuff

[@OTOOO.MASHI_YUNAAII38n2]

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[@cottonswab8010]

I was this popular kid who lnows everyone n shit but when i got to hs, i got into a fight w my friend group cuz they were being asses n i dont want them to be toxic w me n after that everything went down hill.... Im still popular w the seniors n juniors n other classes (im from sl n ur supposed to stick to the class from 1st year till 11th ) im stuck w my class all day everyday n i only see my fruends whenn theyre off duty (senior prefects) so i was alone mostly n i read books when everyone always talking n when my senior friends pass by i fake listen to my old friends so i dont seem like a loser n all

[@domocoyo]

i am so lucky that my friend came up to me first randomly in that class sophomore year, without her i wouldn't have met my group and id have nobody

[@deimoz1426]

its hard, and some people say how its so easy to create connections. I dont know, its just difficult knowing that most people really just stick to what they already have. (sticking to their own groups) No doubt, i try talking. But so far i havent made any connections but just mere acquaintances. Sometimes i cant help but get jealous over people who can make connections so quickly, i dont know how they do it. I went from being friends with the whole class in elementary to being an lonely sophomore. Its sad, and i wish being lonely wasnt an problem for me. Everyone deserves an friend, everyone deserves someone. For all of my lonely people, i hope you all find someone. Someone perfect for you, connections that can really stick to you for an lifetime.

[@paraskharkwal226]

Oh girl. This continued for me during my whole college and o litreally made 0 proper friends. i just hope i do a bit better going forward

[@asapling]

Last year I had a group of friends, then my lunch got changed so now I couldn't find ways to talk to them cause we didn't share classes only lunch we shared. Now, Im unsure if I have any friends. Sure, i'm friendly with some people, but I really wouldn't consider them friends yk.

[@blackqweenmars]

I went into high school with no friends as even though I had had friendships before I was not friends with anyone at the high school because I was moving into a completely new high school in a state that I just moved to two years before the high school that was connected to my middle school. It’s scary, walking into a world of people some of which have known each other since before they went to elementary school as a new person. It sucks even more when you’re neurodivergent and your brain works differently. It feels like everyone knows each other and then you’re just just this person who came out of nowhere and nobody cares about because they don’t know you

[@userpeachfuzz]

This has me thinking if this is what college is like... I plan to go soon, but I related to this video. I was alone throughout all school.

[@bauxplr]

i havent had friends since 6th grade and im a senior now☹️ its rough but im just hoping future me finds a group

[@chrisbaple]

i haven't had friends since 7th grade and it's my last year of highschool too 😭 hopefully there's people out there for us!!

[@abc123lov7]

focus on classes and maybe join a sport or club... After HS is where REAL life starts. Also you wont really see the people you went to class with cause everyone takes different paths in life.

[@T3DDYB34R0]

I’m only in 8th grade, I don’t get lonely and I had 1 friend from kindergarten to grade 3 then I didn’t get my first bsf until 5th grade… I haven’t been in a single class with my bsf for two years. I’m anxious to even ask to fill up my water bottle, talking to my friends is tiring and extremely stressful. Schools also wayyyy too hard for me (I need lots of help to even get smth a little bit) so I lowkey need that extra help for myself mentally and physically, having friends in my class has helped me in the past but now that I don’t have any I’ve been struggling.

[@bunnynoose]

i went to highschool only for freshman (in pysichal school, i switched to fully online school during covid) and yes i wasn't in physical school for long but omg it was so horrible especially because i kind of had bad experience in later grades in physical school basically 5th grade up i was completely lonely and chronically bullied it doesn't help I'm very very obviously nuerodivergent and any real friends i did have at a young age was ripped away from me from moving or I'm abandoned by them i used to always be popular for being funny and nice but eventually i just started to be hated because of it and yk what? it never got better it's been years of latching onto just one singular friend that was really bad for my mental health because they took advantage of me and abused me and i stayed because being with someone bad was better than being alone genuinely alone like almost solitary confinement barely talking to family it's really hard to keep going when you're completely disconnected from everyone especially against your will i want to go out i want friends i put myself out there again and again and everyone just hates me I'm just so disconnected from everyone else at this point that i don't even know how to talk to people in my age group and I'm almost 18 :( it's all over ik I'm not going to make friends at this point so I've kind of accepted it at this point that i may never make a friend again and it really really is painful because I'm an extrovert

[@saraaa8215]

starting a new skl in april im dreading the feeling of being alone :((((

[@MrHandyman1954]

I had ONE friend and didn't know him until high school. I wasn't there to make friends. I was there to learn shit so I could get the best job possible. And, I had two girlfriends from Jr. high through most of high school. That was because I was not a queer. I am now more successful than most of my classmates that I've seen since then, and I have been married for 38 years now to a beautiful and sweet woman I met at a job who was from a neighboring town. You are likewise beautiful and nice. If I can do it, so can you. I am nothing special.

[@siganuisinjeon]

I have history of moving a lot after a short period of time it’s my junior year and I don’t have any friends I had one main friend in my old school but I moved and after not having one before that in years it hurts I’m always a nice person and give so much but other friends I’ve made just stop being my friend it’s so embarrassing eating lunch alone walking in the hallways alone and I fear I will lose and waste my high school years experiencing nothing

[@QU141.]

im in 11th grade too and have no friends, it aint that big of a deal lmao

[@shioriluvsu]

i literally have no friends

[@waffles3413]

I love u u're so relateable

[@lilskronklbloop]

OMG series of unfortunate events is my fav btw

[@Christian-uv7bb]

I’m in 9th grade and I’ve only had one friend since 3rd grade

[@Violight9]

it really depends on the person

[@blackqweenmars]

It’s crazy knowing that you’re probably in the same grade as me right now 11th grade sucks for everyone if we’re being honest I’m so glad I’m a senior

[@ILOVEYACHI]

I just started high school a day ago and I have no friends yet and I think the people in my classes dont like me☹ any advice on how to make more friends?

[@insertname3740]

Honestly, all you can do is be yourself and try to approach people more, but don’t force it. Don’t change the way you are for validation because you’re going to end up miserable. You are worthy and don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. Also, don’t stress about it! High school just started for you, so don’t be in a rush. You will find your people in the end. God bless you ❤️

[@buttercups616d]

Join a club. One thing i wish i did in highschool was join a club that interests you and socialize

[@x3rts]

every time you say like I gotta do a push up

[@simonhenrikssonnnCOF]

Im actually really scared of being in highschool, like really scared. I know I just started 8th grade like, a month ago, but Im still worried about that highschool stuff... Like, I don't wanna be alone 😭😭😭 Ima diee bro, I ain't gonna be aboe to talk to anyone

[@Erg-i8z]

Just waiting to graduate

[@gamegamer9523]

If you want to make friends join a club. I promise you will make friends.

[@Naoomayoo]

You are super smart , you’ll definitely peek in college lol. I just graduated and honestly I was you my entire high school. A popular loner at their best. Keep your grades up .. that shit actually matters 😮

[@SSO.WRLDDD]

Im in 7th i have no friends 😂

[@johnnawilson1998]

And that's okay! U got this! 💗💗

[@gamegamer9523]

Join a club.

[@SSO.WRLDDD]

@@gamegamer9523 only clubs my school has you have to pay for.

[@avanillasodapopslice]

ur such a vibe

[@skibid1izzy]

Me in middle school:

[@gamegamer9523]

Join a club or sport trust me it will change your life.

[@EmmieUrVixen]

im in the 9th grade abd i have no friends

[@123anna52]

Gone through the same in my school days and still struggling to make friends in cllg

[@Lachapalacha125]

good luck, i'm sure you are gonna be able to get friends at some point

[@MD31NH3VN]

​@Lachapalacha125 love your pfp 😭

[@imayyaaaaaau]

ure so real

[@enimation4924]

i tried using x to make freinds. i just found some crazy people. now i need to endure sophmore year with no freinds. Any tips to make some. i have ~70 kids in my grade

[@Albertfingernoodle627]

Thugging it out 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 (I’m going insane)