Hayes Carll - "Help Me Remember" (OFFICIAL VIDEO)

[@KentuckyPatriot66]

Well I just buried my dad today and I played this song at his funeral. This is such a true and beautiful song. Thank you for singing it and remembering the many who are suffering from this terrible disease.

[@vchkrays]

I’m sorry for your lost

[@zoeyrandazzo4600]

Sorry for your loss 😢

[@markduffield8110]

May the creator bless you and your family

[@brandonerwin9944]

Stay strong man!

[@hannahroseq1]

Soon my father will be on other side too. Same disease as your father.. 💔

[@jodicrain4500]

I cried harder than i ever have listening to this song. We lost my grandpa first, in 2017 after a 10 year decline with alzheimers; and in the middle of that, my dad was diagnosed - we lost him last december 2020.. and now my grandma is going through the long goodbye. This disease is awful; and this song is such a beautiful glimpse into the painful reality.

[@robertdonalds6456]

Hi dear 😊👋

[@5thhorseman559]

It's hardest for those who witness it. Always know, that the love was real.

[@fenceman95]

"The Long Goodbye" a perfect name for that period of time before the loss of a loved one.

[@hollypowers9090]

i lost my mom 2 weeks

[@patriot5.56]

Im so sorry.

[@martyaustin6545]

My father is 74, blind and has dimintia, I am with him every day, Thank you buddy, that is much more than a song, GREAT JOB

[@suemaples4961]

Alsheimer & dementia is to me the most cruelest diseases. I pray for all who've been touched by it. I had an aunt that had it. But one day God is going to wipe out all the pain and sorrow that we are faced with today.

[@kristinamoneyhun3646]

For anyone who’s ever loved some one with Demetria or Alzheimer’s this hits so deep

[@todddennehy804]

I already loved this song since I first heard it, but never made the association with mental deterioration. Señor Carll has such a talent for striking these meaningful chords in my heart. Hayes, if you would do a little show at my garage in Silver City, I would pay your travel, talent fee, and make sure you & whomever you brought with ya would want to come back again someday. Todd’s Axis Motors

[@jesussalinas7776]

Yes ma'am it does. My dear grams. Gosh this disease destroys

[@SamaQu]

I can't understand with today's knowledge, how can we not have a treatment for this...

[@tylerstiles8775]

It sure does! Sadly!

[@jamesdurham1965]

My wife has it, its horribly, it take away your ability to reason.

[@elizabethstetler9808]

I really love this song, my memory is fading and I’m really scared- it’s just little things right now, but I’m blessed that my husband is there to help me-

[@deboraduke]

I only know that what your feel and experience will soon be healed by our father in heaven. Never give up in knowing he cares for and loves you ❤️

[@vchkrays]

I am too

[@suemaples4961]

Pràying for you!

[@suemaples4961]

I'm glad you have your husband to help you

[@davidnichols2125]

I feel the same w a y I am going to be turned 59 and my memory is starting to fade itself I got a lovely family to help I always chose the best times I've ever had when I was younger I am trying extremely hard as I write this

[@laminatorman]

That’s a powerful song Hayes. We went through that with my father in law. Brought tears to mine and my wife’s eyes. Such a horrible disease for the individual, caregiver and family.

[@roxcymelton5091]

Love the simplicity of this beautiful song. On the eve of my late husband's birthday, I remember the confusion each day brought him in his final years.

[@parispoet]

I'm so sorry...😢😢

[@YamiRenDM]

Bless you for staying strong and supporting him through that. You are an amazing woman, Roxcy. He was blessed to have you by his side.

[@RobtJr60]

I have recently been diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's Disease. I'm 61 years old, married and the father of 4 grown children. How do I live knowing what will become of me and the burden I am going to be to my wife and family? Lord, please get me through this without that burden.

[@corydodson8275]

I remember nearly 20 yrs ago not far from where I set at this moment taking the worse ass kicking ever at The Snorty Horse Saloon in Mt Vernon MO @ a bar dubbed Snorty Horse Saloon so proud my brother Josh Morningstar wrote this with Hays amazing tune brothers

[@corydodson8275]

That ass kicking y'all was so worth seeing Hayes play

[@JoeSmith-dl9ok]

My grandfather was a genius-Korean war hero, Motorola engineer, NASA contractor, and the most faithful, honest, hard-working, best man I ever knew. The last year or so, I wasn’t even aware of it, because he had held my grandmother to keeping it very quiet, but his memory was almost completely gone. In June of 2020, I saw him for the last time. According to my sister he had no memory left at all, even forgetting (mostly) who my grandmother was, whom he’d been w for 70 years. But when I saw him he was clear headed, although tired and obviously reaching the end of the road. His eyes lit up and he sounded the same as he always did, since I was a kid-“HI JOSH!” w/ this big booming voice. We took pictures, I showed him the family photo albums-his time in the navy, moving from Iowa to Arizona, the time at Motorola, NASA, my aunt and father, his life in pictures. He remembered some things and forgot others. The clarity didn’t last long and he was worn out. It was time. The last thing he ever said to me was “I’m sorry I’m no good”. I know what he meant, but it was the most heartbreaking thing I’d ever heard anyone say. I’m not religious, but if that whole thing in the sky exists, it was made for him. Love you grandpa-July 15th 2020 will forever be a day my world changed. If you’re up there, I’ll see ya down the road

[@NoCoverCharge]

My wife just flew home to see her mom with this terrible disease.. it takes a toll on everyone ! I love Hayes

[@letishastanton3154]

i cant find the words to write they do not come easy my husband aunt is on this road i have grown to love this lady so much it brakes my hearth for everyone that is suffering from this my prayers go out to them and the caregivers who are often time are the family their is no easy way god bless you all this one hits the heart

[@christineamos1481]

I work at a nursing home. I honestly like my job. It does make me sad seeing what they suffer through trying to remember things. I love seeing the family members visit.

[@mikehill1613]

Listening through the heart and soul of my son Jeff Hill, who loved your music Hayes…..thank you.

[@wattch8076]

This is Legend. It will stand with the greats, Bravo.

[@MNed1001]

As someone who works with dementia patients. What a great song! Did not know what this song was about

[@russnurse2b807]

God bless those who have suffered and are suffering dementia, Alzheimer's, or other memory diseases and God bless their families.

[@KentuckyPatriot66]

As im listening to this, Im setting here in the hospital with my 86 y/o dad with Alzheimer's & sadly he is at the end of his journey. He suffered a bad stroke and the prognosis isn't good. This just rips my heart out. I've been caring for him now 5 1/2 years and I don't know how to say goodbye. Please Lord help me!

[@marysteffens4531]

Sometimes you find a song and sometimes a song finds you. Thank you, Hayes for this one! Extraordinary❤️

[@SceneInTown]

Wow, Hayes, you captured it all here. Love, despair, confusion, tenderness!

[@enm19671]

Damn. What a song. I'm not sure I was ready to listen to this. Fantastic. Thank you.

[@mingram008]

Yea, I’m not sure I was ready to listen to this either. Hardcore.

[@gingersnapsNdunkie]

Me either. My mom had dementia. Broke my heart the last couple years of her life watching that beautiful vibrant women turn into someone she didn’t know. 😢 It’s such a horrible disease, worse than cancer I think. She had breast and endometrial cancer too. She didn’t have a chance. 😢

[@victoriajustmesunshine2400]

❤️

[@victoriajustmesunshine2400]

This song hits home for me, it tells so much of how they feel, I know it hurts us to watch our beloved ones but think of how they must feel, until they can't eventually remember anyone 😭😭😭💔💔💔💔 My beautiful Mother I miss you

[@mommahoney8350]

Exactly

[@fritzeruni]

I can’t stop listening. The story is so real.

[@MFCC2015]

I'm losing my Mom fast. Brother called Hospice yesterday. Her final days are near and I'm feeling her absence and she hasn't passed yet. Only good memories now. I wish I hadn't wasted so much time on the negative. Lord help me.

[@RufusatRedHawkRun1]

Every time I listen to this song I cry. My fear is that Hayes has been reading my mail before it has been written and sent to me. I’m 76 and I notice that my memory is fading and I frequently forget things like names and events. It’s kind of scary. The lyrics of this song just hits home and I keep hoping these lyrics will leave and not make themselves too comfortable in my home.

[@lauracocklin3148]

WOW! ! wow ! That's when old folks NEED someone to lean on that won't leave them to rot in a home ..

[@marksofa7216]

We do a lot of shows but a friend gave us tix to one where Hayes opened. He sung this song after telling the story of he and his G Paw driving in Waco at 12 yrs old. Been dealing a lot with this for a few years and its still goin. Felt like he was singin the song just for us.

[@ThePJWalters]

I have friends going through this struggle. They don't like country music, but I've heard both of them listen to this song over and over in their office. I how my fellow man can find comfort while handling this situation. God's speed

[@kevinbegin586]

From a family that has suffered through those before me with dementia and alzheimers this really tugs at the heart strings. When we were young and free and knew it all from Ten Years After, Help Me to Hayes Carll Help Me how the perspectives on and about life and those we love can change direction in ways we don't even realize or maybe sometimes do... and what makes life & love so precious is those that stand with and by us to help us remember that which really matters that which is precious that which is love ❤️

[@pauljones5633]

Then you really know you are good people bless you all and thankvyo

[@gibsonduvall]

A truly horrendous disease for all concerned. I don't believe I'll be able to listen this again but thank you all the same Hayes.

[@jodicrain4500]

I've listened to it a couple more times... cried every time

[@AndradaCristian]

Beautiful song! So emotional! Up to my tears! My mom is 91 years old and she has Alzheimer's and mild dementia! It's so sad to see your parent in this way! So sad! God bless all the people out there who are suffering from this so unusual condition!

[@YamiRenDM]

Stumbled upon this on a playlist suggested to me by youtube. Wasn't expecting to be so moved to tears. Lost my grandfather to this wicked disease back in 2002, I was still just a kid and I remember exactly where I was when we got that phone call that he'd passed, and I still remember the last time I saw him. I try to remember him as the man he was, and be grateful for the fact that his suffering came to an end. He was only 65 when he passed. Lost my other grandfather back in October and I will never forget sitting in his den with him watching his favorite old Western films, doing everything we could to ease his pain. I wanted so desperately to shout out, tell him how much I loved him, how much he meant to me, but I couldn't find the words. And I gotta live with that. I know he knows but still, I wish I'd said it to him that night. Folks, I'm sure you've heard this a thousand times before. But make sure you let your loved ones know that you love them, because you never know when they're going to go and you sure as hell don't want them to go without knowing the depths of how much they mean to you. Thank you, Mr. Carll, for writing this wonderful piece and using it to raise awareness for support of those with this terrible illness. Take care, folks. I'm sure we'll catch up with one another again somewhere down along the trail.

[@parkernewman5115]

Jesus man, what a beautiful song. Thank you!

[@EarlyARs]

Damn, son. Thank you.

[@mikemouse5299]

I can not speak for everyone,but having witnessed a beautiful 85 year old widow struggle with dementia it tears your heart out.She was in excellent health except for the dementia.Thanks for showing us the patient's side of this.

[@jamiedezern4170]

Well this song has me a mess... Thank you Hayes and Josh for getting this out there. Such an important, beautiful message!

[@markduffield8110]

The video brings back many good memories for me I lost my wife five years ago to cancer we’re together for 40 years took me 3 1/2 years to even get out of the house I am I am better and socializing but She will be forever on my mind may the creator join us once again

[@shadetree4679]

My mama has vascular dementia now and shes really struggling some days, this is a beautiful tribute to all of those struggling and still trying to retain the beautiful parts that a life contains in a soul. Great song really enjoyed it.

[@tjmyers321]

BROUGHT TEARS TO MY EYES......... GREAT SONG, VOICE AND ACTORS......

[@BradenHerbert]

You've outdone yourself, Hayes.

[@comestayawhilewithl5696]

Alzheimer's has stolen so much from the people I've known and cared about. From a great aunt, grandmother, aunt and a former pastor. I've assisted in looking for missing people who have walked away from home. I remember once locating a gentleman who had been in WWll walking down the side of the road. As I waited for his wife to meet us he would try and protect me as cars went by because he thought the cars were the enemy from the war. So we're on the side of the road holding on to each other lol.

[@stevenbutler5142]

Fine song, touching. This will mean a lot to anyone who has had a family member that lived with Alzheimer's, it will bring a tear to your eye if you have.

[@debrarucker2857]

Absolutely beautiful. Deeply moving and hits so close to home.

[@lydiayoder3319]

My husband and I both lost grandparents to this vicious and terrible disease. This song pretty much puts me into the bed, but damn so beautiful. Thank you Hayes.

[@TheWeepingWillows]

Hard to put into words just how beautiful and special this is... All I can say is, thank you. ❤ xo

[@willbellamy2753]

I’ve cried about 2 songs in my life, this is my third one. It’s my Dad 100%

[@JoeyMcNew-Drummer]

Wow! What a powerful song! This brings back memories of losing my Grandmother, Mother with Demetria or Alzheimer disease and losing my Father with Stage 4 Cancer. Now my Fiance with Stage 4 breast cancer that is the strongest person I've ever met. She's just over 4 years in remission and back to work she went. Thanks you for such a song that most of us can relate to! 👍Joey.

[@BackyardRambo]

Time to win that Grammy..... bravo, sir...

[@SarahJaneNelson]

This video and song are absolutely stunning. Beautiful work on this in every way, Hayes. Keep it up. Sincerely, Sarah Jane

[@joydawn214]

"I'm not crying, you're crying" 😭

[@billburkett8288]

Very Nice. See you in Columbus Ohio! One to remember!

[@lindsaymalone9371]

Hayes, Thank you. You make me laugh and you make me cry. You help me know it's okay to see some things in this world as absurd, some as beautiful, and accept that often it all blurs together. This song has me thinking of my grandfather who we lost last October. Dementia eroded his mind, stole much of his dignity, complicated his health care, scared and disempowered him and my grandmother in all sorts little, cumulative ways.

[@juliegivans]

Love this song so much. Lost 14 to this. Miss my Tuesdays

[@mikeflockerzi8892]

Thank you so much for these wonderful words as I start down this road with my Mom. For the last few weeks I have been very upset about how my life is out of control. But in reality it's my Mom's life that's out of control.

[@sunshine3914]

Theres a public service message at the very end.

[@drdt771]

Don't beat yourself up for feeling that way. This disease is hard on the sufferer, and everyone one else involved. My family made it through, you will too.

[@becauseimhiswife9154]

Lost my mommy to Dementia. She's still alive but has no idea who I am. My heart was tore from my chest the night she looked at me and said, "When did your mom pass away? I thought I heard someone say your mother passed away. I'm so sorry." I just looked at her and said, "Yes, she passed away a couple years ago." I miss my mom. I just want her to hold me again. Talk to me. Spend time with those you love people! That's all I have to say. I'm so glad I spent so much time with my parents. I'm now taking care of my daddy. 96 years old. I came to stay with him when we put my mom in a memory care facility. It's been a journey. But I don't regret it.

[@leerjet31]

We just had my grandfather's funeral yesterday then I heard about this man so perfect timing

[@johnajur]

Wow. What a heart tugger. Wonderful

[@cynthiagray7151]

Beautifully sung and very true. My Daddy had Alzheimer's and Momma was there through it all. Before he died, he looked at my Momma and said, "I love you!".

[@mikerutt1924]

i liked this the first time i heard you do it on one of your tues. shows. great song, cool video. thanx

[@lisamalone5219]

Beautiful Song. ✌💙 Thank you! From KY.🇺🇸

[@laurayoung7264]

My father passed away this past August, I wish I had know we could have got help. The song is life when you're in the middle of this trial. GOD BLESS

[@arkvadik8578]

Thank you Hayes Carl for your message at the end. It ties up your work nicely with a. Nice deed.

[@SLFinSF]

WHERE has he been all my life? My husband and I were visiting Raleigh at the end of Oct (we live in S. Francisco). I LOVE great singer/songwriters (Guy Clark, Hoyt Axton, John Prine, etc) OMG, Hayes Carll is RIGHT UP THERE with the greats! Amazing, perfect, tight, beautiful lyrics. Anyway, I saw his name and went here, to KZbin to see who he was -- fell immediately in love with him. And my husband and I were lucky enough to have our introduction to the historic venerable Lincoln Theatre be a Hayes Carll concert. What amazing great luck...we bought this CD and have just about worn it out in 2 weeks...

[@alexmorgan5155]

Amazing song that speaks volumes of troubling truth. Thanks!

[@songpoets-ramcey]

Wow. Great work, Hayes ... Ramcey in Nashville

[@Javiermartinez-uv4ct]

THANKS FOR YOUR MUSIC, YOUR LYRICS AND YOUR ELEGANCE WHEN YOU WRITE MUSIC !! WE WAIT FOR YOU IN SPAIN !!!!

[@michaelowen6985]

Wow, this is so powerful! If you have ever even been around someone with this situation, it will make you cry.

[@FreddyBaggett]

Wow... what a well written masterpiece... I love it

[@parispoet]

This moving brought tears to my eyes. Nothing sadder than having Alzheimers and not remember your life...😢

[@ontheochils]

My mum has just recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer's and I'm terrified of what the next few years hold for both her and us, it's heartbreaking to watch her slow decline...It is a beautiful and heartfelt song... thanks for it.

[@quinndle]

went through it with my grandmother when covid hit, we weren't allowed to visit her for 6 months and she went from not being able to speak but still recognizing us and having emotion and love, to completely void 6 months later when we could see her again. she passed 2 weeks later. Thinking about how she must of felt when we weren't coming to visit her haunts me every. damn. day. Cherish every moment you have with her. Hang in there and talk to people, don't think for a minute that you have to go through it alone.

[@janachandler9497]

I am so sorry. Just remember in the hard moments that it is the disease, not her. I work with dementia patients daily. I wouldn't trade it for the world.

[@dollyfashion2007]

@@quinndle going through covid made me realize how important and limited of time we have with our love ones. I would set up windows visits for family's in a retirement home and boy was it sad to watch. These people for the last time seeing their love ones was behind a glass because covid, with tears in their eyes all they wanted to do was hug and kiss their family member. My God have these last few years been something we will never forget!!!

[@lenormand4967]

Our bodies wear out,but we used to live over 100 years without mental decline. There is a way to reverse Alzheimer's, senility and dementia. Prayers for God to lead you to it, strengthen you and heal your mother. In Jesus' name. Amen.🙏🏻🤍✝️

[@timhogle4880]

Hang in there it's a tough road. I went through that with my mother for a very long time. She forgot what a little s*** I was I didn't know whether to attributed to Alzheimer's or unconditional love but I would take it anyway I could get it. I miss you everyday. I made a point to spend a lot of time with her because I was her only connection to her past and often times she did know who I was and it would stir memories and keep her somewhat grounded I couldn't be her caregiver and hated to see her being Warehouse. One thing I found that helped was to bring photos and talk about things from her past and it would like Memories in her and keep her little more connected. It seemed to work until the disease has progressed to a point but it didn't matter. More than not when I was around it seemed as though I comforted her and she vaguely knew who I was and often did not want me to leave. I wish you the best

[@SuzeM1000]

As we deal with the end stages of my father’s life, this song really hits me in the heart. It is so sad to watch the progression. We will prevail, but it has not been easy. Thank you for this song.

[@woodfiredjack]

I saw Hayes last night at the Southgate House Revival and the crowd was having a great time listening to all the favorites and some new ones too. But when he began playing this, the crowd soon fell silent as everyone was drawn in. Together we shared the weight of the lyrics creating a palpable experience not to be forgotten. My buddy, who I had convinced to come along for the show, tapped me on the shoulder and gave me a nod. With tears in his eyes he said, "thank you". He now understood the masterful songwriting of Hayes Carll.

[@carries.carden9160]

Such heartfelt words. When art moves you YOU ARE ALIVE!

[@timshelton8535]

That damn pill box brings this song home!!!

[@elmurr6544]

This song is spot on for those who care for anyone with Alzheimer's and dementia.

[@michellegamino1529]

Beautiful...has the true soul of country.

[@goodnessgracious8819]

We are going through the experience of taking care of a family member with dementia, an army nurse with over 40 years nursing experience. Her name is Cecilia and her experience ranges from working at Walter Reed to achieving her masters in nursing, she is a great smart woman that achieved both an amazing career while raising 3 successful men. She loves to quilt and housekeeping was as important as her outward appearance, neat and tidy as well as an excellent bookkeeper. She was unfortunately affected by the Gulf War of Desert Storm wher she treated soldiers affected by biological warfare. Thank you Hayes. We're remembering who she is and what she stood for.

[@billrawlins463]

Can’t wait to see him in Newport KY great song

[@sunshine3914]

Just saw him recently without knowing any of his songs. Now I wish I would had brought tickets to all his concerts.

[@SamBerry59]

So powerful. So powerful.. great job.

[@bncmedia2951]

Wow... I first met Hayes when he played at an Equest benefit in Dallas some 5 to seven years ago. He came on after the hoop-la when everyone had left and only a handful remained. When he entered the stage he noticed the small crowd so he said "the heck with this" and came down off the stage and played to the small crowd of about 20 people. Class act. As some of us have experienced caring for our aging parents is not an easy task and even more challenging when faced with mind altering conditions. Best tribute to this disease I have ever heard and a damn good song Hayes. I hope it serves you well for it has me.

[@davestewart1685]

Thank you Hayes! Oh my! Makes my heart ache

[@jesseverhart8140]

This song hit my SOUL and gave me chills. Your voice has my soul awestruck. And the story of this song is truly beautiful.

[@erikabryant5673]

Both of my brothers, 50 &51 are suffering…this hit home so hard.

[@jadenshepherd7966]

This song reminds me of my Mimma. She was a very special person in me and my family’s life. We love and miss her so much. She was the best grandma ever.

[@kerrymartinez6366]

This is the truest, most heartfelt truth.

[@tabcradio3468]

What a fantastic song Hayes...Thank you!

[@peanutmodel79]

As a neuropsych professional who has worked with individuals w/Alzheimer’s, Dementia, ABI/TBI, and CTE; this is particularly moving & quite an accurate rendering of how a pt. w/these conditions sees the world.

[@madisoncasey3049]

Such an important song. Well done Hayes and Josh, so proud of you. 💜

[@marydillonsalai8985]

That voice, the songwriting ability, what a musician, what a beautiful artist.

[@jeffwallace5700]

Wow Hayes. You have out done yourself once again. This is such a great also g about such a difficult and prevalent subject. Thank you for doing what you do.

[@tpodee1]

my wife is 61 with early onset dementia, now in later stages, this is so amazing, thanks Hayes. Right there with John Prine's "Hello In There", beautiful tune you have there, well done !

[@richardkelleher1711]

I watched my wife's mother fade into nothing for more than a decade. It was horrifying. You made me cry again. Beautiful music.

[@davidhopkins3788]

Saddest song I have heard in a long time. Also scary as hell I just turned 70 and I am doing my best not to let the be old man in.

[@massimoautorino3864]

Grande anima grande canzone Great soul singing this Song bravo!!!!

[@tabathabartels6078]

Omg this sad made me cry within seconds. It’ll be a year since I lost my mom to this deadly disease.

[@bluedolphinsmusic]

Oh wow - made me cry (Victoria). My Mum has Alzheimers and my Dad had dementia before he died in 2019. So grateful to you Hayes for writing this song and expressing, so well, the disease. Thanks for making all of us that are going through this less alone. Beautiful work!

[@KennyBondFurniture]

I’ve got to say this song caught me off guard. I read the title and went to a different place. This song is so touching. Full of compassion. I expect it will be on my permanent favorite songs list for a long time. Thank you.

[@MtgCoach]

Damn! That song is straight out awesome!

[@mistergarth]

I just discovered Hayes yesterday; I'm not sure why I'd never heard of him before. It's quite a feat of songwriting, singing, and videography to squeeze tears out of a hard-hearted grumpus like me.

[@jameswrisley868]

To all of US holding on to life by the skin of our teeth I Love you God bless you 🙏