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[@alexandergrace5350]

Find out the specifics on how to have this difficult conversation with your girlfriend in the full length version of this video: www.patreon.com/posts/patreon-full-how-86124517

[@reoman98]

The frequency is important. It’s near half according to 9 year peer reviewed studies. It’s also found in studies done by the military. It’s so frequent it changed how police investigate. They now ask for phone first.

[@smarthalayla6397]

I encourage men to have no connection with women.

[@fovarberma752]

Said it many times: Not Patreon. SubStar / Locals, for sure, but not Patreon.

[@bothwellish]

I want to say thank you for covering this topic. It takes a lot of courage.

[@peripheralparadox4218]

Recently my daughter said a guy forced himself on her. I was ready to go and beat him to a pulp and get myself a criminal record. But when I questioned her further she said she didn’t actually put up much resistance. She also continued to spend the whole night with him. They were also in a campground surrounded by other campers, so a simple scream would’ve saved her. I think what really happened was that he was indeed pushy, but she wanted a free place to stay the night and she simply regretted it in the morning. Being pushy is very different from being a rapist. I’m glad I don’t have a criminal record because of it.

[@FlyingcupNsourcer]

Did you watch the entire video? You might have missed the point. I'd recommend watching again.

[@alexandergrace5350]

Damn...

[@peripheralparadox4218]

@@FlyingcupNsourcermy comment is very much congruent with the topic discussed. I suggest you read it again.

[@Wrtvrxgvcf55]

Oof, not to be mean but it must suck hearing that from your own daughter. In this recent culture, accountability comes after every chance of doing the right thing is ignored.

[@RJ-ch9zf]

​@@FlyingcupNsourcer How did you come to conclusion that he was missing the point? He just gave an insight to pay more mind to reality of things instead of acting on what the gal said. How is that different to the point of this video. We REALLY need to understand the other side of coin before passing/blaming conclusions on men. Other men who are blinded to this aspect are the very perpetrators of a gal's bidding. To defeat lies and deceit, search for truth is the only way.

[@rajakghosh6602]

Her ex was suspicious of cheating because she was actually cheating and jumping through hoops to justify it. That's how cheaters mindset works always justifying their infidelity. Beware of narcissist's nature because they'll ruin your life and blame you for their actions. "You made me do it", "It was all your fault".

[@proosee]

yeah... I also think the chronology was a bit different, cheaters always have problems with chronology, e.g. confusing sleeping with someone before breakup with sleeping with someone after the breakup. But, even if she was telling the truth, I strongly believe that guy had reasons to think that she was cheating: maybe she disrespected him in public, maybe he found her flirting with her "friends" - those are actions that are on the edge and maybe he jumped to conclusions too fast, but she should've never done these things to him anyway.

[@MeidoInHebun]

The narcissist's prayer: That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.

[@davesmith826]

Yup, the fact that she doesn't even know how many people she cheated with is as good a sign as any that she's a malignant narcissist.

[@thenarrator1984]

​@@davesmith826she knows it's just language for making it not important..

[@Russ0107]

@@MeidoInHebun damnnnn that's brutal!

[@mrneoneil999]

This is why accountability is a woman's kryptonite

[@sirskeptic]

Late at night, after work at the hotel, several of the staff were sitting in the ballroom having knock-off drinks. One of the waitresses tells us that she had been graped. I was shocked. The head bartender (much older than I was) asked her what happened. I was horrified - she had just told us and I had a certain image in my mind of what I associated with that word. What she described was NOTHING like I expected. It was consensual. It became uncomfortable at one point, she said 'stop' and he took a couple of seconds (her words) to stop. He checked on her, they re-positioned and continued. That's not what I understood by that word. But she had identified herself as a victim and if the bartender hadn't asked for details I would have thought she was.

[@cgreedy-yn9ep]

That’s scary and horrifying, as a young man It makes me extremely hesitant to have any type of relations with women in this age

[@Ra3_ar1adnE]

The fact there are people absolutely okay with hoes doing this sorta things is mind numbing.

[@MiriadCalibrumAstar]

The fact there are people absolutely okay with hoes

[@anthonywilliams7052]

And many PROMOTE IT, even when they know things didn't happen like the Rolling Stone party story, there was NEVER a party let alone the story and when this was proved, they STILL said, "we want them punn -wished". Best to stay far away now, wear a body - cam. Not worth the risk.

[@lansiman]

a cheating woman give you chance

[@soydansogukcesme470]

because men have more empathy towards others then woman.. woman have more feelings to fill in not more empathy.. the moment a men cryies or gets hurt woman dont care.. the moment a woman cry the whole world stops and takes care of her..

[@proosee]

I wouldn't say "okay" - simply there is no other options, if you shame or react violently someone for this you will be socially cancelled or prosecuted and no one wants it. Government protect hoes at all cost - they feel safe, because nowadays there is no even social stigma - she can just move to another city and start with clear book.

[@marcdevilliers2182]

I know this one girl, she slept with her boss (she' been drinking). She was already in a relationship and blamed the loss of the relationship on him. After about a year she lost her job, so she laid charges of sexual harassment against him.

[@toddjohnson271]

The boss is an idiot. She owns you, man.

[@antonsimmons8519]

When a female says she was attacked, I just assume she's lying anymore. Sad state of affairs, but it's very very common for females to just throw that out for no reason.

[@loganblackwood2922]

The consequences on the men over a lie is so severe, I assume the women are lying too.

[@jimmymaracas6442]

Exactly

[@thenarrator1984]

Same actually which is sad.

[@caterinadelgalles8783]

'Victim'😂

[@Nalters]

Equality is a great thing

[@SylvEdu]

I insisted that me and my ex girlfriend wait until we were properly married before we had sex. She, however, was a very sexually invigorated person. We would inevitably get involved with some heavy petting, albeit not sexual intercourse. There were times when she'd become incredibly aggressive, and I had to stop her from forcing me into her. After that relationship was over, she told everyone that I abused and sexually assaulted her despite the fact that she was always being the pushy one and she was making all the moves and she tried to force sex on me without my consent.

[@Matt-zp1jn]

Sorry to hear man us guys can relate unfortunately

[@chadcadsonvii5258]

You're not alone brother.

[@NGMonocrom]

I'd tell her to call the police, report it, and that I'll stand by her through the entire process. If she makes excuses why she can't do that.... You know she's lying. No doubt.

[@peterkoch3777]

Moron... drop her immediately. Let another idiot deal with her. Even if she didn't lie, her bodycount is up by one and YOU cannot handle her trauma!

[@anthonywilliams7052]

The bad thing there is YOU are usually put on that list of uhh - buzz - ers! I used to believe everything until I saw it over and over to other men and to me. I found out the same stories I heard were now said to be done by ME so I immediately broke it up. I've had it for breaking up, them wanting money, seen it for not getting their way or who knows why like kept happening to a neightor , doing to HIM, then calling and having the poe - lease take them away, and they NEVER asked questions from anyone even though most of us seen it. He had "marks" all over but they were "clean", not a single thing anywhere, yet he was always taken away. It's the Duuu - looth model(intentionally miss spelled) where they are told to always assume it's the man. It happened to me once and they didn't even bother to look at my hand which had ZERO marks on them despite they story. The pros - us - cutors tell the NOT to uh - rest them too because it looks good for men to go to jail, not them. I'm guessing that's everywhere by the D - luth thing and just how they are all taught the same mostly, national programs even PAY the police when they take away men as part of they woo - mooons programs. Very biased. I had one ALLEY - GEETER me for them blocking the handicap parking spot once and because it was the only one available I finally went in anyway after 5 mintues. If not for all the cameras..... And by the way they acted, VERY bold and uh - greeesive, they clearly did it many times before and were shocked when I spoke up to them and said, "go ahead, call them, I'll make you famous" and then I pointed out all the cameras. We all need body - cams not just to go the the grocery store or even in our own house. Not worth the risk. Best to stay far away, like many employers are doing now because of all the things they've done to other men. Protect yourself.

[@FeterPrahm]

smart fella

[@Mortainous]

Still be careful.

[@AIin1771]

you will put in jail an innocent man

[@FirstnameLastname-ef5zj]

This almost happened to me. I had dated a girl then broken up with her after a month because something with her seemed off. Long story short but shortly after she decided to move back to her home country. We still spoke and she needed a place to stay for two weeks before her flight. Then Covid happened, early March 2020. Her flight was canceled and she couldn’t leave the country. She stayed with me for six months, right before my lease was up and I moved out. During that time I asked her to leave. She had agreed before coming to my place that if she was still there after a month for any reason then she would find a place of her own. She threatened to go to the police and lie that I’d hurt her if I tried to make her leave. A lot of these things don’t go reported because women can use the possibility of doing this as a threat. It was a stupid thing I did letting her stay with me and I wish I hadn’t allowed it. She never even paid a thing.

[@stevec3526]

That is why you always record sketchy women.

[@FirstnameLastname-ef5zj]

@@stevec3526wouldn’t do any good. An accusation is enough in the eyes of most, likely including police.

[@facelessandnameless]

@@FirstnameLastname-ef5zjNo, a recording can save your life!

[@michaelsantangelo7997]

My ex wife cheated on me and admitted it. Then she said I was at fault because I broke up with her instead of forgiving her! I said, when's the last time you were with the other guy? She said 2 nights ago. I said F you and divorced her immediately. She ended up the loser. All of our mutual friends ditched her. Her own family took my side, said they we're sorry for her behavior and sent me money to move.

[@truthnotfeelings]

I am regretful to say Alexander is not lying with the false accusations as a get out card for infidelity. Literally happened to my best friend. Luckily he was able to prove the girl was lying

[@arminxvs3372]

How did he prove it?

[@michaellombardi5831]

If you confront your GF about cheating and she says this, why would you ever believe her? However if she brings it up to you out of no where, it's much harder to find the truth. We all have been with a girl that started the night "resisting " but she clearly was on board, also a lot of us have had women say " stop" and we stop and she's like " Why didn't you just go for it last night?". Most women don't know what THEY want, how can you know?

[@ichtozavuzovsky8370]

"Why didn't you just go for it last night?" is infinitely better than the latter

[@BrodyAleksander-YOB]

You hang with some trash women

[@101AGAMES]

this is how men died fighting over women , getting gaslight with " he forced himself onto me"

[@seventhkeyomegasghost8233]

The more and more I think about this, I realize how foolish men have been throughout history "protecting" wmn. Millions of men have been sent to the morgue in honor of wmn, and for what?

[@spacecandygames7575]

I noticed that more and more “neutral” red pilled guys are starting to go darker and darker. The ones that had hope are slowly losing it. I used to think it was cause of so much content but now I’m realizing (from going out more and talking to more people) that women have gotten even worse.

[@baidengzongtong1271]

Keep in mind that this relationships redpill thing is just an entry way for people to face reality and see the world for what it truly is, a giant asylum. I really think people are just getting aware on how degenerate we as a Race are.

[@inconnu4961]

@@baidengzongtong1271 I think you are right!

[@psygnale]

That the whole rub… …women aren’t “worse”, they’ve always been like this… …we’re just all finding out about it. An excellent vid by Uberboyo goes into this in depth… kzbin.info/www/bejne/aIe5k3mkgtdqmJo

[@xmantrader136]

I went from Redpill to blackpilled and don't regret it at all

[@DirtyJamesUK]

​@@psygnale no they are quite literally out of control. Control is very important to them. They need boundaries. Left to their own devices they make pretty bad choices. No era in recent history has had less controls/expectations on women. We call it empowerment.

[@williamschaefer282]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together, it was a really bad phase but we got through it.

[@wonhur885]

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things..

[@williamschaefer282]

@@wonhur885 its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@wonhur885]

@@williamschaefer282 this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.

[@williamschaefer282]

@@wonhur885 kindly look her up online and you won't regret it.

[@waltervelasquezgwt]

No matter how much I love or loved her, respect and commitment are not negotiable. Not second opportunities are given to her.

[@jameslebeau7078]

Women have lied to me so often, and they were so crafty at lying, that I just assume a woman is lying the second she moves her lips

[@stevec3526]

I used to know a woman who would constantly talk about her attack. She went to the dentist and when she came home her panties were inside out. That was her evidence. The guys avoided her because we considered her a nut job.

[@momoasraf3348]

What an important conversation and you presented multiple perspectives magnificently. What an intelligent, well spoken and sensitive dude you are. Respect my g 👊👊👊

[@momoasraf3348]

10 likes woo! Yeah nah but I wish we were friends fr cuzzy, we gotta protect this brother at all costs 😭😭😭 Stay blessed and stay safe ma bro ❤

[@nybrotherman]

Asking how the experience changed them is a brilliant idea. I would usually observe their behavior and body language during and after they share something like that. The lack of them including how they felt after the event is a good tell. But I have never directly asked what changed afterwards

[@Syrin23]

False allegations should carry a MINIMUM of five years in prison

[@ConnortheCanaanite]

Thank you for discussing this, I’ve personally been through this situation. I had a girl on Tinder Super-Like me and then when I messaged her she instantly said something very similar to _’I want some D’_ So she comes over to where I’m at, makes an over 1 hour drive to me and we hook-up. During all this she tells me that her friend wanted to come and that she told her _”No, I’m the one who matched with him.”_ , which makes me think she wanted to use that experience to merge into a relationship. I also must mention that she was into rough stuff, like BDSM sort of stuff. Which is pretty typical for the young women of today, I would say shout 80% of the women I’ve been with are into that sort of thing. But, apparently she had a boyfriend or very recent Ex-Boyfriend (that’s what she said he was but I don’t believe that), whom face times her in the middle of everything and she answers. He begins threatening her, because somehow he found out about what she was doing. She was 18, so still subsisting off of her parents, including for her vehicle and housing. She apparently was sharing a location with her parents on her phone and they came to her location and used a spare key to take her car and messages her telling her she was kicked out and calling her a ‘W’. I ended up driving quite a ways to take her back to a friends house because I felt bad about the situation. She was crying and I didn’t really know what to say either. Well apparently after I dropped her off with her friend, within a couple hours, she and her friend must’ve decided that it would be a good idea to frame me for SA. One week later and I’m being pulled over on my way to work by a plethora of cops with their guns drawn. I was never questioned or called in for questioning, it was just straight to a cell and bail and having to fight for my innocence. This was in America mind you… I had a friend who found her IG after it all happened and saw that she was positing pictures of herself partying, going to beaches and taking pictures of her booty in mirrors. She clearly was enjoying her life and all her problems were solved just like that. Now, I despise the US, I couldn’t hate it more and all the Cops and “Judicial System”. I would celebrate if it collapsed tomorrow.

[@Orbis-Factor]

Imagine spending thousands of years carefully laying a strong foundation for your house, constantly fending off the elements and battling potential intruders while experimenting with various materials to create the most robust frame. For millenia it is obvious to you that your job is to build & maintain the structure. After completing the roof, walls and essential components of the home you start creating meaningful artistic embellishments to adorn it. Your family finally feels safe and you are proud of your achievement. Your home is built so well, you feel that nothing could cause it to fall. Soon enough you begin to forget what the world outside is like. Your family starts to blame you for keeping them inside, sheltering them. They call you names and ridicule you, claiming that the home is nothing but a barrier. Eventually you relent, and entrust your family with the decision of what becomes of the home. The world outside is not the same now as it was when you first built it, they say. We’ve decided to tear it down.

[@Theosis10]

I actually had this happen to me, although thankful she broke down as soon as she was confronted. There was a girl I was having casual hook ups with about 7-8 years ago. She made it clear when we started that she didn’t want a relationship at this point in her life. Fast forward about 2 years and I had moved out of state but would swing by and hook up with her when I was in state to visit family and friends. On my last visit I get a call from her the next day. Apparently her “boyfriend” (who was her dealer) found out that she was out with me. She tried to play it off as “you kept coming on to me despite me telling you I had a boyfriend. So you basically r@ped me…” I was stunned for a few seconds but then I just saw red and got pissed off. Started yelling at her about how could you possibly think that’s true and about how she always told me she didn’t want a relationship. Thankfully she backed down, apologized, and I never heard from her again. But I’m not going to lie, I didn’t think she would let it go and I started to cry thinking it’s just a matter of time before the cops came rolling up. I guess the real saving grace was that I was in a rental car that she didn’t know, and she didn’t know where I currently live or where I was staying while visiting. I haven’t been with anyone else since.

[@suspicious2delicious]

My last relationship was when I was 32 and didn’t end well. I’m 34 right now. I haven’t been in a relationship since and each day I’m less and less inclined to be with anyone. I’m too old for games.

[@unwnme]

Dude, I understand you. But please don't put yourself through not having sex. It is good for you to have sex and intimacy.

[@suspicious2delicious]

@@unwnme I never said sex wasn't good. lol. Maybe I'll come around. Who knows

[@yota8325]

​@unwnme sex can come with alot of risks tho. Sometimes the juice simply isn't worth the squeeze

[@suspicious2delicious]

@@yota8325 the risk is greater with the hook up culture these days

[@MidAthlete]

A young women i started dating recently made a similar claim about grape/SA. I have my doubts. After the fact she mentioned she has a tendency to have sex just to get it over with. No matter what happened, I'm either on the hook to handle some serious trauma, or I'm dating an oppurtunist who could make me out to be a grapist. Lose-lose.

[@inconnu4961]

Im shocked that she told on herself, but your Spidey Senses serve you well. please dont ignore them! Good luck!

[@canchero724]

Why are you still dating this piece of work?

[@restingsmirkface]

Just be lazy - make sure she leaves you.

[@MidAthlete]

Thanks. Your concern is noted. I think i'll try probing questions when the topic of her past or false allegations come up, as Alexander mentioned. We'll see.

[@christoph3187]

Just ghost her dude

[@stanleykowrach1957]

That's how the Police get to the truth. Have her repeat the episode at least 3x and interrupt her many times for deeper clarification. See if her story changes

[@psiga]

Thank you for making the video public for KZbin. Some men need to see this. (And you know it.)

[@alexandergrace5350]

Sadly, this is a common question I get..

[@grinningchicken]

@@alexandergrace5350 It made me think of certain things I never had from a female perspective. I hope its not demonetized its something a lot of guys/gals need to see.

[@inconnu4961]

@@grinningchicken Honestly, this is one video where all of us who can afford to donate something, should try ! i would expect this to get de-monetized, and Alex has been doing this long enough to expect it as well!

[@sebastianlaakso2729]

​@@inconnu4961Not necessarily expect, but definitely deserve. He's doing mankind a great favour with his content.

[@brbqsauce]

Sad. Just sad. The age of moral dissolution and degradation, and these things are being put on a pedestal.

[@pinkmed123]

Why do so many women put themselves in situations where this could happen? I don’t know why women are doing things that could get them to have such horrific experiences It’s in our nature to avoid conflict, but girls nowadays are purposely going out late at night and drinking and being dumb. In the Muslim faith, if you’re a girl, you aren’t allowed to be alone with a guy (obviously there are exceptions), and you dress conservatively and pray for your safety. I think women need to be more cautious like Muslim women Certainly may not be the girl’s fault for having such a horrific experience, but if she did things that increased the risk of that happening to her, and then it did, idk if she’s still entirely innocent Open to criticism towards my views though

[@grinningchicken]

Keeping clear line of men or women only being alone with a spouse helps make these incidents of ambiguity less frequent

[@inconnu4961]

I appreciate you being open to criticism, and stating so! You are a better man than many of us!

[@seventhkeyomegasghost8233]

You are asking for "logic"? From Wmn?

[@brianwaller7383]

How many women have been murdered because she went home from some chump from the bar? Women don’t think beyond their noses so thinking of the consequences of going home with someone you don’t know doesn’t register. They think with their emotions at the moment she’s horny and finds the guy attractive. Him being a rapist or murderer doesn’t register

[@pinkmed123]

@@inconnu4961 I’m not a guy But thanks I guess

[@notanotherspiritualguru1215]

"He accused me of cheating so I did, with 5 people" Yeah... She was already cheating, which is why he accused her. Why do people think this is an ok response to being accused of cheating? I feel like that was her "socially acceptable" response to "why" she cheated. But no. Cheating just because you were accused of it, is NOT the socially acceptable response at all. If you are accused of cheating when you haven't. Ask your partner "what can I do to reassure you that I've been faithful?" And based on the response to that question, tells you what you should do next.

[@inconnu4961]

But you failed to mention that either A. accusing others of cheating is a form of narcissistic control, or B. its a form of projection. I was accused of cheating, that my girl at the time couldnt prove nor wouldnt prove. Come to find out, she was the one who was cheating all along. So your advice wouldnt have worked for me.

[@williamclayton9566]

@@inconnu4961 You left out C. she is actually cheating.

[@notanotherspiritualguru1215]

@@inconnu4961 I didn't leave anything out because that wasn't even what my comment was about. Yes, accusations usually come from someone who is guilty OR they are insecure OR they are just trying to control. The correct response to it, is never to actually go cheat on them though. So you kinda missed the point.

[@notanotherspiritualguru1215]

@@inconnu4961 I didn't leave anything out because that wasn't even what my comment was about. Yes, accusations usually come from someone who is guilty OR they are insecure OR they are just trying to control. The correct response to it, is never to actually go cheat on them though. So you kinda missed the point.

[@notanotherspiritualguru1215]

@@inconnu4961 also, sorry that happened to you!

[@vtmegrad98]

"Have you called the police to file a report? No? I don't believe you. We're done"

[@JamesJones-mg3ts]

Doubt? There's a lot of convenient ways women turn their intentional infidelity into demonizing the other man. I think one of the motivations is premature monkey branching. She's not quite ready to make the 'jump' but is feeling out some other men she hasn't secured quite yet and such encounters are the first step. She's not quite ready to 'lose' the investments of the current guy until she's secured the investments of the next guy (self-preservation). If she's ready to branch, it's completely different than when the 'time is not right... yet' (that's when she will put up a credible 'fight' to keep you.... for a little longer). I've been in such situations as many men have as well regardless of if they knew it. You can tell when a women is losing interest in you when she becomes more expensive to you or other ways she 'self-sabotages' the relationship (becoming more expensive is just one example of that... easy to see when it monetarily or emotional costs). In such situations, I try to make it 'easy' for her to start the 'branch' and prepare myself so the timing is right 'for me' and deny the right timing 'for her' (this often makes you the 'bad' guy for foiling her smooth branching transition).

[@Regal23_]

Please tell me more about the timing being right for you and bad for her, thanks

[@JamesJones-mg3ts]

@@Regal23_ Well, if you're smart enough not to 'shack up', you're in business. You get 'more busy' (not spending time with her.. you are 'indisposed'). You pack up the 'nesting' stuff ladies annoyingly leave at your place (purposely leaving their stuff at your place... aka: the 'situation-ship' of stealth shacking up against your will). Plan a trip, drop off her junk at her front door, no contact or notice and just be gone for a few days and go incommunicado. You never let on in advance... it's a stealth operation (it's not a negotiation... men speak with their actions... not their words). You decide it's over and detangle yourself from them. It's not a negotiation. It's not an argument. It's a judgement call. Your closure is the detanglement and she can hire a therapist if she thinks "we need to talk" (aka: "she" needs to talk, you don't need to talk so she can pay somebody if she still wants to talk about it). Peace is your's again. Note: When ladies still would 'leave stuff' at my place, I'd periodically drop it off at their front door and not knock, call or give a heads up. I've been very forthcoming about not leaving stuff at my place _but_ they do it anyway (particularly the chronic shack up types looking for a new couch to surf on). If I get 'flack' about it I just say "you know that pisses me off, quit leaving your stuff over here" and, if necessary show her the front door if she's combative about it.

[@Regal23_]

@@JamesJones-mg3ts I appreciate your reply a lot sir 🙏

[@V_ii]

Thank you for speaking on this topic, especially on KZbin. My only view to share is as a man, if a woman is showing any signs of resistance, being hesitant to have physical intimacy, give her all the space in the world. Don't try to convince, guilt or be pushy in any way. Even if she says things are fine, once she's shown there's resistance leave her alone. This is for both of your sake.

[@clickitcool3679]

90% of women at some point would show signs or resist a sexual advancement from a date, hookup, boyfriend or even her husband. This means a man will always be at risk no matter what.

[@lilbroomstick7914]

Man…. Alexander. The more and more we have the gray area grape talk, it just makes more and more sense to passport to a place with more clear and concrete laws that don’t destroy men

[@jeroensoenen4054]

1. From a human perspective I can understand the grey area but from a legal perspective I vehimently oppose a guilty verdict of anyone because they couldn't mindread. 2. From a partner perspective I endorse being supportive and I can also attest that while doing so - in the case of cheating - eventually the truth is being trickled as new versions keep coming out.

[@xcosmiccrunchx]

Claiming grape (a false claim), in his eyes, takes the focus off of her actions and puts them on him. It's the same strategy when a girl talks about a violation of privacy when the guy finds out she cheated through her phone or coming home early, following her to the parking lot and catching her in the act.

[@inconnu4961]

Its the ULTIMATE 'What-aboutism'. And i experienced this in my marriage.

[@technofeeliak]

Listen, to all you men watching this... don't follow this example. If a woman talks to you about being attacked, you're better off not having exchanges with her unless it's as her therapist/hypnotist/psychologist/family doctor/grief counselor/guru. Remember that there's a relationship dynamic to maintain. Something which will change with any new habit, new circumstance, either yours or hers. If she sets the standard between you and her that she feels like a victim, that's not good! Also, if you cry in front of her, she may lose all respect for you. So why give her the benefit of the doubt when she's likely extremely critical of you? She is the closest person to you and therefore the most dangerous person. The more vulnerability you show her, the less she feels you bring her assurance and comfort. In reality most women are business minded and you're in her life as a business partner. She's counting on you to do your part. Even do her part when she calls on you. She may resent you quietly, and who knows what she'll say about you when you break up. I was trying to reason with my past girlfriend for over 7 1/2 years, to raise her kids right, to set an example and hold her ex to account. Did she listen? Nope! She took the side of her 15-year old daughter's 25-year old boyfriend over mine. He was getting her daughter to do drugs, as he drove under the influence of alcohol and drugs himself. But after we broke up she told people that I was unrealistic and living in a dreamworld. I was at the time, trying to study to make up for what my professional training had left out. I was buying utilities, tools and dishes and things so I would be ready to move out. I was trying to find stable employment. How unreasonable is that? So they lie! Even if you were devoted to them for years! And after her... a social worker who followed me where I shopped. Left me notes at my home. Bought me gifts. Then lied to her boyfriend and employer pretending to have been gRaped. It's all games, all the time, power + fun + nonsense. It makes me want to upchuck.

[@aleksandraheral]

Much appreciation for the education ❤

[@Alisha0413]

This was a brilliant video, so much empathy and understanding. I know the response has been mixed as some of the men have missed the point of this video or they have commented before the video has finished. I had a friend who went through something (SA) when we were 12 and my response was obviously "we need to get the police involved, we need to tell an adult" and my friend was panicked and saying she didn't want that so I thought she was a liar. It was actually because she was terrified and felt she did something wrong (the person who did it to her was a teacher in his late 20's). I realised as I got older that my friend was telling the truth and I get why victims don't go to the police, when you have went through such a traumatic thing and just want to move on and find peace, going to the police/courts is a huge process that takes over your life and reminds you of how helpless you felt at the time of the assault. And as for the men who voted that they would "fight" in these situations... you'd most likely freeze. Everyone thinks that when the situation happens to them it will be a karate chop to the balls and a punch to the nose and wham, bam... you're free because you are tough as nails. But no, that is fantasy and your biological instincts will takeover and decide what will give you the most chance of survival. Sometimes, freeze/fawn is the best option.

[@yota8325]

I hate that both sides often struggle with the legal side. Because a false accusation is traumatic as he'll but I can also see how a grape victim may not want to go to the police. I get pretty mad when I see a proven false accusation cause it does so much damage to society. Makes real victims harder to believe and can ruin a man's life.

[@Alisha0413]

@@yota8325 Definitely, it is so hard and in an ideal world, people with making false allegations would get dealt with by the law but then people would fear coming forward

[@DavidSmith-mt7tb]

You hit the nail on the head saying this is why promiscuity is bad. As a woman, these things can happen. As a man, you can be accused of doing these things when you didn't, in addition to knocking someone up, getting STDs, etc. The frustrating thing about many of the feminists now is how recklessly they live. Then when bad things happen they say "well I SHOULD be able to do whatever I want and not worry about things like that", but that's not how the world is. The fact is, whether or not it was real grape or a tall tale is often impossible to discern because it's all hearsay. Laws can't fix this issue.

[@rymreaper]

Very important video, it cleared a lot of doubts I had about these risky stuff.

[@atomicviking2497]

Sometimes, it feels like the general narratives paint these situations in black and white. Thank you for shining light on a dark, difficult, but necessary topic.

[@terrydactylspontaneous2596]

Men should be sceptical about anything a woman says on any subject, about anything at all. Women lie on an industrial scale about anything and everything. Trusting women without doubt is a huge mistake. Men can be supportive without declaring their scepticism. Guide her to seek professional help. Going to the police is non-negotiable. Guide her to seek professional counselling. She has to be guided to face it and deal with it. The man is not experienced or trained in dealing with such an extreme situation.

[@inconnu4961]

They are professional liars , for sure!

[@yota8325]

Yep be skeptical without necessarily showing it is the best way. Because you don't wanna get lost in a lie and do something stupid but you also don't wanna necessarily show doubt incase she is actually telling the truth

[@TheNegative1]

@@yota8325 sounds like walking on eggshells

[@daviddale2570]

This is why we need more legal representation. Call up your radio shows. Make memes. Post comments. Get something going if you know how to do it.

[@arminxvs3372]

Hard, tricky but important topic. Well done, A.

[@thedappermagician6905]

Imagine she uses her 'traumatic experience' to justify to herself therapy and a bunch of virtue signaling about how she's a survivor of this and that when the last messages you ever got were snapchats about her wondering whether to tell her bf or not. The Web of lies is the delusional story machine.

[@alanlee8590]

The worst thing a man can do in this type of situation is to take "justice" into his own hands and put himself in the firing line. If she did get graped lke she claimed, then walk her to the police station and let the law enforcement handle it. Don't make her problem yours

[@mr.saturn1815]

I'm not exaggerating this.. but Alexander you are a gift to us humans directly from the God. 🙏 This channel has been the best find for me this year and I'm honestly blessed to listen to you everyday. Your wise words are like a poetry and I'm binge-watching both your old and new content now. Thank you so much man! 🙏

[@rajunaidu7751]

a. Woman care more about looks than men b. Woman see men that are not rich or good looking as low quality c. Woman think that they secured a relationship if a man sleeps with them d. Woman thinks that she deserves a high value man regardless of her own SMV value, personality traits or compatibility with said high value man

[@MiriadCalibrumAstar]

i agree with all but "good looking". Saw a lot of above average women with average guys.

[@rajunaidu7751]

@@MiriadCalibrumAstar yea those guys are either ‘rich’ or ‘low quality’ in the sense a woman won’t have to put in work to maintain the relationship. For example how much of those guys with above average woman are respected or considered ‘alpha’ very rare I bet. It’s cos some woman want a ‘beta’ to manipulate and keep under control.

[@MiriadCalibrumAstar]

@@rajunaidu7751 i was referring in looks department, dont misunderstand. On your pov usually is the other way around "fine"(narcissistic/manipulative) men with average women. But yes woman like those exist, its what being narcissistic means, going by your own agenda for your own goals.

[@MissionSilo]

Oh men care about looks. It's men have more variety in their preference. Where women want wagyu gourmet streak every night and every thing else is considered disgusting.

[@rajunaidu7751]

@@MiriadCalibrumAstar are you saying that woman can see ‘non good looking guys as high quality’?. Woman know there is no correlation between looks and personality they just see guys that are not rich or hot as ‘npc’s/betabux/backup guys yea guys that have ‘game’ can manipulate some woman but not the 9’s and 10’s. Dark triad traits can compensate for other areas when it comes to getting girls but those are hookups/short term flings/fun time and not for LTR’s/marriage/having kids. See. Angel, Ho, epiphany, wall, cat phase memes. It’s the classic alphafux/betabux paradigm. A high quality man is superior in all areas of life and doesn’t need ‘game’

[@PussInBoot414]

Just gonna say this hits far too close to home, it is a horrible thing to go through and i'll probably never get over it.

[@cybernd78]

It is a criminal offenses in which a victim can be the perpetrator at the same time. A woman can lay a man and still be firmly convinced that it was against her will. That dilemma makes it almost impossible to find an objective truth.

[@gordongekko2781]

I've had a couple of girlfriends who told me similar stories: "The guy I was seeing invited me over to his place. I wasn't expecting sex. I told him I didn't want to do it, but he pressured me, so we did. That's grape!" But, is it really? Setting aside how naive they were to go alone to a guy's house if they're not ready for what typically comes next... Couples pressure each other all the time to do things the other doesn't want to do. No one calls it a crime until it's a man who wants sex.

[@davidw789]

Unfortunately when I i was younger i got involved with and married a girl who claimed this happened multiple times and i was too dumb to realize she was a liar. We were from a strict community who shamed pre-marital sex and she was promiscuous and used that as an excuse to seem innocent still. Wish i hadn't been so naive back then. Glad she's out of my life. I can't believe anyone who claims that anymore unless they're willing to press charges (and even then I wonder if the allegations are truthful)

[@anthonywilliams7052]

This happens a LOT,, the vast majoriity of the time! Both this "topic" and UH - USE of all types not just for cheating excuses but just to get attention, breaking up, not getting their way, for money, to get attention and vir - chew to their friends be "part of the group", be celebrated as a SIR - vive - orr, on and on! I even had it for a parking spot once they intentionally blocked. Not worth the risk, we all need body - cams now.

[@EdNewsome-o8q]

Good job, Alexander, well done.

[@bashirediouf584]

😊 What do you mean, women lie?!!? 😊 I am completely shocked and flabbergasted!!!

[@inconnu4961]

I know, I know! Nearly impossible to believe! but dont let this change your opinion on women: they really are poor victims in this life!

[@3v068]

Its not that women lie that makes me wary to believe them. Its how many have lied to me, my friends, my family, the people around me and them, and how many lies they told. Some women can do NOTHING but lie just to get things to go their way, get what they want, and it really harmed the few healthy relationships I DID have later on in life. Its hard for me to trust a woman because of what majority of women have done to my friends, and me in my life.

[@carlvictor]

Very important work you're doing here, Mr. Alexander Grace.

[@Ratlegion]

As much as I've been hurt, I feel that if she's not someone to cover her body and stay at home, I could never believe it was forced. I've been hurt enough to believe it was always consentual, and I don't think I will ever be better.

[@mrsherwood2599]

Ive never seen it not be a lie. Not. One. Time. Especially when it was made up full cloth against me, against my stepson, against my friends. Never. Once.

[@IronicallySarcastic]

I always appreciate how nuanced you try to be, Alexander.

[@RPMentorTokyoChannel]

I observed this in a Japanese girl who seemingly both wanted to test the man's response as well as emotionally draw him closer to her. On another occasion, I observed a Japanese girl state this with a smirk on her face.

[@luis1118]

Amazing video, it really shows your good understanding of women and femininity 👌

[@chapeau62]

For these reasons consent should come from the father or older brother, not her.

[@JoMagic-ny8zu]

I met someone that told me she hasn't slept with anyone else in 3yrs since after her divorce. She claimed to be a reborn virgin and happy to let me be a part of her life. I found out she slept with someone else 2weeks before I ran into her and she said she forgot about him but wanted to save his number as he was a patient of hers that took insulin shots.💢😵‍💫😵🤦 So I'm wondering how many more she forgot she slept with?🥴

[@agm5424]

I have a theory on this. Is long so bear with me here: In my opinion the reason why these radicalized child like "venusians" feel justified in doing immoral stuff or just straight up don't care about the Morality of the situation is because as we know women are the child-bearers and thus the physically weaker half of the species since their skinn and muscles are design to be soft and elastic for when they get pregnant. This factor is what gives them an internal need to want the men to "protect and provide" for them, which is what they are design to do by nature (stronger muscles, willingness to take risks, logical and abstract thinking for "what if" situations, etc.). This is why most venusians don't think or seem to even care about Logic, Morality and the consequences of not staying inline whith either. They are naturally designed to mainly focus, care and think about the material/physical, their material needs, material desires, etc. in the here and now. This is because by extension it will lead them to focus on the material well beign of their future child, who they (women) will be naturally attached to because of their genetic, and by extension, their emotional bond. Abstract ideas like Morality, Logic, "karma" and things like philosophies bearly passes through the minds of these conditioned women, since normally it would be something left for their fathers and husbands to be in charged of and decide on and normally they, the daughters and wives, would trust their judgements and decisions on such matters; that is when they themselves don't want to take the time or responsibility of doing them themselves if they even could or want to. However now a days they base their views on what's right/Moral and wrong/immoral on what is allowed and dictated by the ruling class, making it an artificial substitute for fathers and husbands, or on what is collectively considered ok by the masses (public opinion), wich is mostly based on what is propagated by the ruling class/state through their media. There's also the fact that for women with a narcissistic and predatory mindset it makes them feel special and important having the men be screwed and seen as bad since it gives them a (false) sense of "moral" superiority just for being of the other sx without actually having done anything to earn it. The worst part is when they relish and enjoy men's suffering and going through problems to the point that they need to see them suffer and be ignored because it makes them feel even more superior for just being woman due to the narcissistic and above all predatory mentality they've been conditioned to have, especially when they themselves were the cause of said man's suffering. The worst thing about this is that women only feel justified doing immoral crap like that because they are at the moment backed and protected by the ruling class/state. The ruling class is for the moment allowing this behavior because it allows for the demoralization and de-franchizing of men becuase men are the biggest treath and competition for the state due to them being naturally design to care about things like Freedom, Morality and Independence, things the state doesn't want and can't tolerate. Once this is done the state will turn on them and there will be no men left or willing to defend them.

[@baidengzongtong1271]

TLDR?

[@agm5424]

@@baidengzongtong1271 This is as short as I can put it: The ruling class/state hates masculine men because they're the gender who mostly cares about Objective Morality, want to be free and self sufficient and by extension won't tolerate authoritarian bs from them while women are easily manipulated and control by them because their design to care mainly about material stuff for the sake of the would be children. So the ruling class uses their control of schools and media to propagate hatred for the former gender and deify the latter one because in the end it will benefit them (the ruling class) in the long run.

[@Nick.Brough]

Every time I hear about false allegations I fear that it waters down the genuine claims and weakens the cases against actual scumbags. The level of doubt only increases year on year as this persists.

[@thenarrator1984]

This shows you don't understand the system at all.

[@jdestroyer9470]

One of big issues in society is not understanding and using words or the the correct definitions for them

[@prism223]

Imagine we're playing Go Fish and someone gets caught lying about having a card in the middle of the game. It doesn't even matter how many times they lied. The fact that they lied means that the game they played was broken and in the future everyone will be on the lookout for someone lying about what cards they have. Now imagine if someone says "But guys I asked people if they ever cheated at Go Fish and everyone said they never cheated". That has the same relevance as all the "studies" claiming low false accusation rates of r*pe, workplace harassment etc.

[@stevec3526]

When a third of accusations are proven to be false it makes it hard to know who to believe.

[@sezanali7115]

There goes a saying in Bangla, ' Even the creator cannot comprehend women's internals'. Now how easily you have been dissecting them . Hats off.

[@DirtyJamesUK]

I had an older woman a few years back who tried this. She was almost 50! We had split up for a weekend so she tells me she went for a drink with her brother to watch the football and apparently some guy who fancied her showed up and joined them. He was about mid 30s. She said she they got drunk and then he walked her home (the first red flag as her brother lives about 3 minutes walk from hers). Then she said she invited him in. And once inside he gRaped her. She actually said the word and feigned sadness/tears. She knew I was the protective type but this just didnt add up to me. How can you trust somebody who does that? They can just pretend a grape happened to reverse something they regret. Astonishing people! I realised most of them simply don't mature and see nothing wrong with trying to convince the world that a man did the unthinkable. Even if he's almost 20 years her junior. Ruthless.

[@Thefly142]

I had this happen to me multiple times, so I appreciate it

[@OrwellsHousecat]

FemiNarcissism

[@nonchalantd]

She had no shame about it.

[@GeneralProfessor]

Good talk, Alex.

[@Straga_Severa]

If a woman says that she was violated, but does not go to the police about it, then it is best to break up with her. Either she is lying, or she completely lacks empathy for other victims of this asshole, and does not want to stop him from doing the same violation on other girls. Why would you want to continue to be in a relationship, where _at best_ the girl does not have empathy?

[@AA-vl3gu]

Im an amazingly self controlled male when it comes to coitus. I almost never make the first move. Its crazy how ive almost never had a woman make an advancement that would place any type of onus on their actions during intimacy. I almost got the impression i flipped the feeling on them and made them feel like sexual pigs because i let virtually all the advancement rest on them. Its like could feel their energy saying "i cant be carefree unless you absolve me of any potential responsibility"

[@carlospalma_]

You are my favorite creator regarding this topics

[@peterkoch3777]

We should go back to stoning. She cheats, he cheats? Stones. He forces himself on her, she has been forced upon? Stones! See: no ambiguity🤣

[@JohnSmith-sj2dk]

JESUS said He who is without sin should cast the first stone, but He also warned the woman to go and not to sin again (Hell is worse than being stoned)

[@inconnu4961]

@@JohnSmith-sj2dk That was SPECIFIC to that sin! Not to sinning in general. I CERTAINLY could stone a cheater, as i have NEVER cheated before (primarily do to lack of opportunity). So, hand me some stones, boys! LOL

[@RicktheRecorder]

Perhaps we could have some clarity in the difference in meaning between persuasion and coercion. Coercion often seems to be the new, pejorative, vogue word to describe what used to be regarded as a normal human interaction.

[@TheNegative1]

Exactly, would be useful. When coercion is presented as "he talked me into it", you could pretty much translate it into "I bought into what he was selling me" - in which case the blame is clear.

[@marcbraun5342]

Another great and important video. A few years ago I would have believed it right away when they told something like this, like most guys had, but stories kept coming out where it was only sheer luck that it came out, sometimes the guy already was in jail for that. I heard of four cases in my suroundings where guys were put up with false a**legations in the past years, not friends but I know them and we've seen a lot of stories from the news. What we also saw is that there were zero to only a little bit repercussions for the woman who made the false claim and that it doesn't need a verdict to ruin the men's lifes, the a**ussation is enough and that's a power only emperors weilded far in the past, or despots. There were cases, Think before you sleep did a video about one example, where a guy got a 20 year sentence, lost his family, job and so on, she later confessed to a priest and he got out in four. We hear lots of stories like that, when the guy already is incarcerated. That means, women can get men up to 20 years in prison without any evidence, since there can be no evidence for a cr*me that didn't happen. The last thing to question is, do women seem to care when that happens to guys? Do they at least aknowledge that this happens at a similar rate than the actual cr*me? Or do they ignore, belittle or even deny that this is a thing? Mostly it's the latter, so then the question is, when that's the degree of empathy men get for something that can only happen to them, should we continue to empathize? Spoiler, we still will, that's the way we are but in the name of equality the question is should we...

[@cybernd78]

With time, you will also notice other topics in which men are discriminated against.

[@marcbraun5342]

@@cybernd78 Oh, don't worry, I know a lot more. It's insane that women think that they had it worse in history or our current laws wouldn't favour them, it's not even close...

[@cybernd78]

@@marcbraun5342 Unfortunately, it is a social taboo to even talk about this, which is actually discrimination once again.

[@marcbraun5342]

​@@cybernd78 That may be the worst of them all actually. Men had to handle a lot through mankinds history, starting from nothing and basically conquering the planet against stronger and more deadlier animals, build everthing up through hard and dangerous work, endured wars and every cruel detail that comes with it to protect women and children in the warm houses, also build by them, gave lifeboats away and more. Even now they do the hard and dangerous jobs, over 90% of workplace de*ths are men... And even then they would have been satisfied to burden all that, when it is honored. But when this is ignored or seen as implizit, they're even painted as opr*ssors and every disadvantage they have is overlooked or willingly ignored while women count fake ones like the g*nder pay gap as the truth,...then it's a problem. So, you're right ignoring d*scriminations and disadvantages of men and with that in mind trying to make the world equal, which then logically gets less equal in the process, since your measurement is incorect, is the overall flaw here...

[@cybernd78]

@@marcbraun5342 In my opinion, this is unfortunately a self-reinforcing cycle. Therefore it will be difficult to find back to reason again. Moreover, we can see the same kind of flawed logic in almost all current socially relevant issues. It seems to be too easy to mislead the masses.

[@jasonworingen8431]

FACTS. I will never put myself in a private space with a woman that I'm not absolutely sure of. My life isn't worth being ruined over a rumor.

[@walterpsotka278]

Thank you for your honesty !

[@andwoe1752]

Unfortunately, women are masters at covering up their cheating and when they can no longer hide it, many cheaters will absolutely play the victim card to in an attempt to blame it on the other person and play all innocent, and on top of that gaslight their partner, in some cases even blame HIM for HER actions. I've seen it way too many times. Most of the times, he never even finds out she cheated in the first place and she will have friends back up her story 100%, just in case.

[@BetelgeuseX800]

Lie is lie until proven it is truth.

[@rodrigo100kk]

"Some cheat on their boyfriend and they confess " - Some cheat and dont confess.

[@randomsimpson]

Lot of comments here making assumptions, or leaving classic (overdone) RP soundbytes. Pretty sure the video was about NOT MAKING ASSUMPTIONS! Great work Alexander. I don't *just* appreciate this video. I appreciate *every* video.

[@usf1250]

If she’s a genuine victim..she would actually be traumatized. There would be obvious signs

[@caterinadelgalles8783]

He is so very aware. I am a woman. This is what women do. BUT when it is fake, they are the grim standard of woman.

[@Raygun9000]

I'd say most times someone says why didn't you go to the police is because they're announcing their vicitim status on social media.

[@joshuaicoqnito4445]

In the end it's all about honesty. Anybody - man or woman - is just sabotaging their own relationship by lying in any sort of way and they'll pay a certain price for it - despite it being and advantage for them in the short term. Still scary how some people are basically ust good actors for their entire life, making authentic people suffer.

[@tacottogetherness7604]

Call the cops go to the hospital, if she doesn’t do that it’s over

[@leftrom9738]

Extremely useful insight, for a very sensitive topic; bravo!

[@technofeeliak]

Committed relationships aren't safer! When it comes to STDs she can cheat on her man. When it comes to having another man's child too. If no one is bound to respect their contract a marital contract is no more a guarantee than any other. Consider how even businesses are set up this way. A roofer guarantees his work for 20 years, closing his business in 5. He can't be held to guarantee anything at that point. So he opens another business, doing the same thing under a different name. His new company can't be forced to live up to anything his former business agreed to. Be reasonable! lol I'm saying this to gain a little perspective here. What about... I don't know, going to school, getting a degree. How that's supposed to guarantee you a future. So what are you talking about? If there are no standards, nothing anyone adheres to unless it pleases them, then there is no foundation you can stand on, build a house on. You have this belief, I say prove that a man can't be accused of gRape by his wife or girlfriend or fiancé.

[@gurbhani]

Women can lie: Ask Till Lindemann from Rammstein!

[@ElTheJono]

Thanks for covering this! I found it very useful.

[@matt-g-recovers]

I don't know what it's like in Australia or if maybe just the types of people I used to associate with. But I've met so many women who were abused or taking advantage of. It's definitely the majority... I just have to say what a great and thoughtful video you've made. You've touched a lot of the stuff and even opened my eyes to some things that I never would have considered about how to be thoughtful and how to be there and be a good person to your girlfriend or friend or other woman who is confessing this stuff to you. Well done!

[@Gnomesmusher]

Nah, the dudes here are going to take a few cases of women lying about assaults and then in their minds conclude that it's all women or the majority who are lying. There's no nuance anymore. On one side we have people who say we should ALWAYS trust the women making the accusations and on the other we have people who say the majority if not all these accusations are false.

[@excelself]

1:54 **Leave her.** You are not a therapist. You are not a hero. You are not a sacrificial lamb. Side Note: REGARDLESS IF ITS TRUE OR NOT. Sorry to say this but you are not put on this earth to set yourself on fire to keep somebody warm. Let me put my reasoning on this: 1: Let’s say that it is TRUE! Ok so what qualifies you to try and fix her? She will obviously have ptsd and more mental issues afterwards. Get ready for a life of OUTBURSTS and CELIBACY! 2. Let’s say that she made it up! She cheated and not only that she’s trying to manipulate your “protective instinct” is that the woman you want? A lot of guys don’t understand this and will probably be upset 😭