He STOPPED Texting Me...WHAT NOW?!?

Get "He's Lying Sis" here 👉 bit.ly/HesLyingSisYTSpecial - He STOPPED Texting Me... WHAT NOW?!?... In this dating advice video, I will help you answer the question of why he stopped texting me and discuss what now you need to do. It might be during first dates, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process and he stops texting you and it may make you wonder what now. Take heed to these dating tips and be sure to watch the entire video to learn why he stops texting you and know what now needs to be done.
I don't want you to automatically think that when he stops texting he is not interested in you or he has ghosted you when he stops texting you. I want you to understand men and know that there can be various reasons why he stopped texting that can either be positive or negative.
Again, I don’t want you to be quick to react when he stops texting you. Always be willing to put your best foot forward, show interest desire don’t assume that now he stopped texting me so I will not reach out to him, no. I want you to take a step back, assess, and be able to reach out so you may gauge what might have caused him to stop texting.
As a certified life coach, relationship coach, and dating coach, I want to make dating and relationships easier for you. I pray that you find this dating advice video helpful and that you will understand men and know what to do when he stops texting.
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[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@tracyannsmiley7161]

I would like to talk to you, how can i reach out to you?

[@minajan4316]

Thank you for calming me down because I was ready to erase his number assuming he lost interest. We had great chemistry and then I haven't heard from him and yes I was starting to like him.

[@mariewilliams719]

Are you singel I wish I have a man like you can I give you my number

[@montana3877]

Hello Stephan are you single?

[@cmwmn9514]

Thank you for offering a balanced perspective, when most coaches are so extreme to cut them off, especially in the early stage. Thank you.❤

[@chefnic4763]

Keep it moving. He stopped communicating because he's not the one for you. He did you a favor. Just know God has someone for you! ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@chantehowe7798]

He was playing in my face for the past 5 months of are break up texts phone calls every day invites to his home now he stops because he suddenly has a girlfriend mind you he was my husband 25yrs we been together he has told me over and over he wasn't dating or with Noone so I continued to go over to his home and I countied to respond we was separated yes but very much still involved with each other but he kept lying playing in my face when he could've said im not interested nomore I found someone else that simple we was already separated why lie and lead me on then out the blue boom a women is in the equation smh

[@cristalcap3419]

Complete wrong... People stop comunicacation because fear,, unfortunately. For how ever you want achieve in life need study get strong and go forward your goals, love relationships is the same..

[@marylevatte4192]

Lol I said he wasn't the one when we're talking and texting. After I don't hear from him in 2 days I block. He said he wanted this and that but I think he wanted me to calling him and saying how I can come to his house no how about. You ask when can I take you out. He didn't call and I didn't call him.

[@chefnic4763]

@@marylevatte4192 Good! Next! Lol

[@sophiawambui1225]

If he stops texting... You are off his priority list. Start practicing self-care n prepare for the worse

[@ivettecastillo5293]

Facts 💯💯💯💯

[@joyl20]

Why am i still dealing with players from the 90s? I will pray to God to send me the right person❤

[@TheLuciab71]

I told him to give me my space when he was texting too much and now he is ghosting 😢 Us women ain’t easy to deal with either

[@avasears2516]

T.D. Jakes sermon is so true “if a person can walk away from you,, Let them GO”!!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@petsforlife4581]

Madea also says let then Go

[@sophiaf.]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@lalalailoved]

Ll😊😊

[@texasgirl8327]

If a man stops texting, you do nothing and move on. Do NOT reach out to him and just keep on down the road. It takes a second to send a text. If you reach out, then you look desperate. MOVE ON.

[@brendajones9110]

He didn't stop texting he just stopped texting me. POINT BLANK!!!!

[@laurelmalinowski1676]

When he stops texting you....he ain’t the one.

[@kinshonrichards9359]

Amen to that

[@user-ko4mt5ir1t]

So true 💯

[@ms.claudia4855]

Right let the dead bury the dead

[@jmar385]

1st of all he don’t suppose to be texting. He suppose to be calling. You still can get finesse just from texting

[@collieret]

Not always true

[@accesstotheredcarpet]

If he stops texting, it means somethings up that he has someone else or played you. I’ve had this happen. Once he stops, I cut his ass off. No matter the reason. Communication is paramount to me. Got no time for guessing myself or gaslighting myself to set myself up for hurt. No. Let his ass go boy bye‼️‼️

[@karamelebony8109]

Anyone truely interested in you will NOT disappear!!!

[@octoberscorpio4LIFE]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@xsuzannex]

Amen

[@krystaldean5481]

I was ghosted and blocked a couple days ago and I’m sick about it. Things were going great. Our connection was amazing on every level. I’ve never been this confused in my life. Men can be downright cruel. 😩

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! 🙏

[@jmar385]

You getting played it’s that simple

[@krystaldean5481]

@@jmar385 Well damn thanks for the observation. I hope when you go through something painful ppl will have more empathy for you. God bless ✌🏾

[@fiae2897]

It's awful and people who do these things are awful people themselves. Prepare yourself incase he contacts you again, especially when you are least expecting it, be strong ❤

[@jmar385]

@@krystaldean5481 well I’m just being honest. This is a dog eat dog world. You want me to sugarcoat the truth. At least your getting truth from me & not from the person that’s blocking you. That’s where you need to go to. The truth doesn’t always suppose to make you feel good, but suppose to set you free. Your confuse when you should focus on yourself. Get out your feelings & move on

[@EciMajic]

I started blocking men that don’t text me for 3 weeks. That ended up freeing space for men that were consistent and I got into an amazing relationship

[@naimam3976]

3 weeks is a long time, next time give them just a, week. If they dont reach out, disappear without a trace 😅

[@EciMajic]

@@naimam3976 I decided three weeks was the longest that I would tolerate because I know things happen. The man that I ended up in a relationship with has never missed a day of communication since the day we met.

[@naimam3976]

@@EciMajic i happy for you love ❤️, dating today is like a never ending game. I end it mentally if it hurts my feelings, even if its just 2-3 days. But i move on and delete after one week. You must been doing something right this time around.

[@irinaivanovic9792]

@@EciMajic How did you meet this new amazing guy? Was it in person or online? I'm introverted and online dating has been the only route of success for me, sadly.

[@EciMajic]

@@irinaivanovic9792 we met on Tinder lol

[@georgia6127]

If he stops texting.. be busy in your own life. His loss

[@octoberscorpio4LIFE]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@user-om2mi3cx4u]

I 😂 like this... simply what I like doing when I call it quits..hmm

[@fiae2897]

Trust your gut feelings people, if things dont feel right, then that's a clear sign they are not.

[@suzie5813]

That "gut feeling" could be your own insecurities in the way..

[@fiae2897]

@@suzie5813 Not really it's about what my intuition tells me before or in a relationship.

[@suzie5813]

@@fiae2897 I'm so confused.. I've gotten a few different messages😣 Ah well.

[@fiae2897]

@@suzie5813 It's almost like a spiritual awakening. Like if you meet a person for the 1st time what feelings do you get. Some people are more sensitive they know when the person is telling the truth or lying. That's when you need to make a decision to keep in contact or not.

[@JR-yx5io]

But he keeps texting me for what ?

[@CitizenVids]

Ladies (and gents) Ghosting is a blessing! "Rejection is your protection." When you've determined that someone isn't interested (meaning that the person may be having issues, like Steven said)....BUT ONCE IT HAS BEEN DETERMINED....LET THEM GO!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@fabienne4205]

So true I wish I could paste and copy what you just said

[@jtuggs9741]

AMEN👏👏👏I just went through that back in January.

[@pdoll96]

@@fabienne4205 screenshot

[@thisismystone9658]

It's not as easy as it sounds especially when you truly loved and wanted it to be.

[@THATSMSLADYd]

I give back the same energy I get!!!! If he’s the right one everything will fall in place….

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@NycBeauty]

✅

[@elainebeason1683]

SO TRUE

[@gloriabuchanan2425]

Yep

[@junaaaoo]

But mirroring gets tiring too eventually… it stops you from being yourself. How long would you be able to keep up with the mirroring game? I try but not sure for long more

[@tinisharealtalktime6626]

When someone stop communicate with you do not put energy into it

[@suzie5813]

Right, because as soon as you start showing you'll make the effort instead, it's downhill from there.

[@user-mb9jx5tx9y]

Yupppp

[@kelsizokalski6436]

Disagree... ladies, that man knows your number and knows how to reach you just like he’s reaching out to everybody else during the day. NEVER TEXT HIM 1st after he stops texting you. Don’t check on him, don’t be a pick me and try to get understanding as to why his phone is working but not working to text you or anything like that. It will leave him thinking and hurt his little ego when he feels that he is just as disposable as he feels you are. Gets them thinking, missing you and wondering why u haven’t reached out wondering are they not that important...Works every time. Pull back and watch him come back with a better attitude. 😏

[@elainebeason1683]

Talk truth

[@irinaivanovic9792]

Exactly. THIS is the honest truth. I appreciate Stephan trying to be helpful but in this particular case I disagree with him too. I agree with EVERY WORD you said. Women need to remember that man knows your number. He's on the same dating app you met on (if you met online) and is choosing to do that and NOT contact you instead. He could call YOU or text YOU instead of exploring and talking to other women. You don't need to reach out to him like a pick me and play aloof. It will just show him that you are wondering about him and now he's got more leverage. Plus if you get no response or a one word response it will suck even more and you'll just feel worse.

[@universalinternational9401]

@@irinaivanovic9792 exactly, that last part. you will feel absolutely worse if he sends a barely there response or no reply at all. Thats why I eep myself from feeling rejected and don't reach out bc men are hunters and will always go or chase after what they want in the end.

[@irinaivanovic9792]

@@universalinternational9401 Yep. This only happened to me with 2 Aries men, btw.

[@sasa6583]

Same. I reached out and and he didn’t even respond. Fast forward 6 weeks later he texted me, “Hey.” I ignored him. He reached out two days after that with, “Hey what’s up.” I ignored him again. I’m done bo. He’s free to chase after the ones whom he deems more worthy. It’s been 2 months and I haven’t looked back.

[@sunnydaze5674]

I’m not going to text someone again if I was the last one to text. The text should go in a rhythm…not just multiple text from me only. That and I shouldn’t have to tell a man that he shouldn’t disappear on me. If a man likes you he’s always thinking of you and wants to speak to you. Im not going to waste my time and energy on a man who doesn’t wanna reach out to me.

[@HisaLight2mypath]

I wish I had your strength but when you have attachment trauma it's very hard to hold back that emotion I find myself double texting and begging it's very embarrassing But you're right someone wants said that texting and phone calls is like a game of tennis 🎾. You don't keep batting over if the other side is not batting back. You're totally right there should be a rhythm well said

[@2611Lover]

Ladies someone else caught his interest. Don't waste your time

[@NikkiBadazz]

Exactly. Cut out all the B-S. People will learn that failure to communicate has consequences too. Be careful who you ask: "What's Wrong?" You can quickly remain in that role. The right one will Communicate.

[@uniqueflower7043]

Ladies don’t believe the losing cell phone story.... They can go online and get all the information they need by looking at their monthly bill (frequent numbers they text/call) or just call their phone carrier. If they want to REALLY reach you there is always a way.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@carlenethomas4400]

I totally agree. To me thats just a cop-out. I was in a similar situation a few years ago. When he called two weeks later he said he forgot his phone in a friends car. I wasn't born yesterday. Boy bye!!!

[@orubek355]

@@carlenethomas4400 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂

[@samtula5946]

A guy told me recently.. that he was “phoneless” for awhile and he broke it. He texted hey here and there every 2 or 3 weeks.. and said a lot was going on in his life as well... ? I didn’t believe his phone thing but that he was going through a difficult time bc of mental health stuff and other stuff. But he wouldn’t open up when I asked him what happened.. he said don’t ask. Then he regularly texted me without much to say for about a week and then went missing for a couple days again... we’ve been talking online for 4 months now. He asked what I do for a living even tho I told him early on twice that I’ve been looking for jobs? He forgot that important detail about me but claims he felt the same way when I admitted I got attached 2 months ago? Even said “his world could revolve around me in a couple years”? He joked he’d marry me if I said yes early on. But we weren’t in a relationship in his words. When I asked early on what he wanted .. he said mainly conversations(Bc he’s a sucker for convos) but if it turned into a “passionate affair” that’d be great. He’s curious to see where it goes. No labels. That was before we both admitted we had feelings. Maybe he doesn’t have any romantic feelings at all. When he went distant for a month with a few “heys” here and there I barely texted (he didn’t respond to those texts or ask how I was then) thinking he’s playing me. Then he asked later why I haven’t messaged all these days? I said he disappeared and didnt read/respond to my messages. He said “and you didn’t come looking for me.” Then again with he had a lot of things going on and he was phoneless for awhile and didn’t see my messages.

[@samboriboun2213]

Mine did lol and he found a way email

[@caffinatedirl8466]

I think generally women can sense when a man pulls away if its because hes lost interest or if it feels out of character for his behaviour, we often supress those instincts and try to over- analyse the situation, if you feel like hes pulled away cause hes lost interest, give him space see if he reaches out again, if you feel like its unusual behaviour maybe ask if everything is ok and address the silence in a kind and supportive way? Don't let others behaviours destroy the good and kind in you! 💕

[@paulinedylis]

I love your perspective ❣️! So true, especially your last statement.

[@vernita0216]

May he rest in peace... lmao!

[@shaylanewlife]

If a Man stop texting me that shows me he is not the one for me.

[@yolandabenz4115]

I'm in my 30s and I'm starting to lose hope in all honesty! Thankyou for this video.

[@cherylternoirmatd]

Don’t lose hope. All things are possible with God

[@poupeebantu9064]

😳😳😳😳

[@amandasmith7043]

Same....

[@ellehcim2135]

Same the dating world is 🗑 it’s really sad 😞 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Smile-kg7vb]

I had the same “ anxiety “ when I was 30s. But I can tell you that waiting for the God’s timing is a blessing. Do not jump into any wrong relationship if you don’t want to miss the right one.

[@VonettaB]

I am guilty of ghosting. I thought I had a legitimate reason but having had it happen to me I should know better. It's better to say to someone this isn't working and move on respectfully

[@LAYETHEBAE]

I agree . I feel like I’m going through this right now & it sucks

[@siaitsme6800]

Exactly. It's better at least tell that person... and then can "ghost" or even block if they don't get it.

[@Jakilyn]

Agree. But, sometimes the texts fizzle out mutually, so it's not really ghosting. I think men primarily ghost because they want to avoid a conversation.

[@Rozie32]

Because you are doing this other people will do it to you!! You are such a coward… people like you are horrible tell the guy you are not interested and finish it with that …

[@thedon0516]

​@@JakilynThe top reason why a man would a ghost a woman is because he been ghosted hella times by women in the past and he can see signs of little to no interest. And we all know deep down women don't like no thirsty dude anyway or a dude thats always around so they'll fall back, at least a smart dude would, especially if she's not reciprocating that

[@riy4life499]

I took your advice and checked on him. He ended up telling me that he thought I wasn’t into him. I explained to him how much I liked him and now we’re on the same page. THANK YOU!❤️

[@shedparker]

🔥🔥🔥 Nice!!

[@WanjiruMuya]

My Ex pulled this on me😂7months later i let the dead rest😌

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@marquiwilliams6884]

Lol

[@jayc5756]

😄

[@moenlightening]

😄

[@CherrelleColeman]

Lol I bet he was casket sharpe!!

[@TheCinderellaPrincess]

Lack of communication is the worse. It creates room for misunderstandings, insecurities, and conflict. I like men to be straight forward and I try to be straightforward. So I have to evaluate not only my perception but their's because my quietness and shyness can come off as being rude and standoffish, even intimidating. So I have to recognize when I am giving mixed signals.

[@Abbydiva31]

You have to set boundaries in the beginning. I put up with a narcissist doing the ghosting mess. After the 2nd time, i was out. Went no contact on them. Noone has time for that instability when grown. Til this day, he still trying to reach me and asking about me. Never again.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you it, definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!

[@jayc5756]

👌

[@mariahsmith5380]

How long ago did you cut them off and how long have they been trying to contact you? Like the time period

[@Abbydiva31]

@@mariahsmith5380 he's still blocked 8 mths later

[@HD-xb9mj]

Good for you!!

[@sisis_eyes_wide_open]

One thing I can’t stand is inconsistency, especially with communication. If a man doesn’t open up to you or respond to your texts within an appropriate time frame. For instance he’s leaving you on read for several days or doesn’t respond for weeks or months at a time but mysteriously pops back in and acts like nothing happened. I immediately know he’s not serious and start to slowly distance myself. I was chatting with someone and he was nice overall with a few added compliments here and there but then would turn on me and be disrespectful and cruel. I finally had enough and cut him off permanently! I was tired of his bipolar antics and mean spirited behavior so I finally blocked him and not looking back.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@moenlightening]

Amen! I agree with you 💯..

[@diamondanderson385]

💯💯💯

[@siaitsme6800]

Agree with you...!

[@sisis_eyes_wide_open]

@@siaitsme6800 listen people already know what they want! If you’re always questioning where you stand with someone it’s pretty clear you need to keep walking 🚶🏻‍♀️Maybe one day you’ll meet a real one.

[@Dazzlin826]

Save your faces ladies, do not call if he kept you on red. You'll feel worse if you call and he doesn't answer. You can ask questions whenever he feels like calling back and that's if you do pick up. Let's keep our heads up.

[@HisaLight2mypath]

You right but I've been crying all night. He hardly contacts me . I'm literally waiting for a reply to a good morning txt I sent. 3hrs ago.

[@shedparker]

@@HisaLight2mypath Altough I know it’s painful to bear waiting, 3 hours is not that long. Men know women love mystery and won’t always reply back fast. Where’s the mystery if he’ll predictably drop EVERYTHING and ALWAYS reply immediately in order to soothe your insecurities. Preoccupy your mind (self-help, exercise, a hobby, etc.) while fighting the urge to reply. Never double-text. Always wait. No response means it’s not meant to be and move on.

[@nacita7926]

I used to jump to conclusions and think the worse and stop communicating back, but now I have learnt to take a deep breath and wait before I say anything and it allows me to text him appropriately, instead of emotionally , and it always pays off , however there is some situations that definitely deserve the boot and some that deserve patience and space , we all have boundaries and want space sometimes.😌

[@franwilds145]

Yes! How we react to these situations can make or break the relationship. Sending messages with positive energy yields the best results. No man wants to respond to a woman who sends a text cursing him out or sounding insecure & overly emotional 😢

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Relatable 😊😁 I'm also trying to breathe in and out or if I feel hurt , vry it out but keeping it to myself or communicate politely. Or I flee to YT.

[@HisaLight2mypath]

It's so hard.

[@eve3363]

I absolutely agree

[@medusagorgon8432]

He chased me forever and when I finally gave him the time of day he ran! I discovered later that he suffers from low self-esteem and truly believed that I would end up leaving him because he felt I was out of his league. Course this is after I confronted him about it. I don't have time for games. So knowledge of the situation is vitally important!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!

[@Alan_1982]

You say he chased you forever? I understand he has some issues but the question is how long did you make him chase you maybe he got tired of chasing feeling you weren’t ready 🤷🏾‍♂️ He may have been giving more than what you were giving back. He shouldn’t be chasing either he should be pursuing it should be a mutual thing.

[@jmar385]

@@Alan_1982 nobody suppose to be chasing nobody. It’s suppose to be mutual. I would of disappear to. To me he sound like he told her anything though, because he was exhausted from chasing. That as dumb on his part because the energy suppose to be reciprocated not one sided

[@laurenlocd3180]

This was an excuse he never wanted u .

[@jhimpcaca5718]

@Tblazer same......im one blink away............. I will ghost this mf im into...........always talking about other girls......and after i told him it makes me jealous, he continued to talk about his exes and showed me pictures of them........and told me a story about him sleeping with his female cousin when he was a teenager..............................................................grown boys...........god blessed them.........

[@keyscott-hale939]

Simply said: u can ask him direct. If he doesn’t respond to the question simply move on.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing I appreciate your feedback!

[@JuscallmePhilly]

Yes I had to move on after my boyfriend pretty much texted/video chatted me 1-2 twice a week for less than five minutes

[@empressafiya9022]

I say after 30 days of not hearing from him cut it off. Communication is key, it shows interest, value and respect. I'm learning to set my standards higher and not settle for these type of men.

[@cheyennesutton2055]

If he stops texting and calling, delete and block his number and email address from your phone, e-mail account, etc. Forget him!

[@peipeiinHK]

You wait for how long and delete?

[@deborahwduncan]

This is a true test. Give them a one time warning to correct the behavior. We are better than ever and engaged. 3 years in. All the best to those looking to find love.❣️

[@joselinalvarado5556]

"If a guy walks away, count it all joy"

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

The life you live is more important than the words you speak

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@patriciadenise7355]

Word!!

[@jorgetorres9944]

That is so true and deep in so many ways. Thank you

[@ashleymcknight8970]

You have been a true blessing to my life! I literally came across one of your videos at the right time in my life!!! I've been happily single for a year now, from a NARCISSIST🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾Thank you Father!!!!! I've been tuned in here, gleaning and learning 💯

[@lauryjerry1566]

When i listened to this ..i feel men are so complicated !! it is too much work!!!

[@angeliquecimerol9430]

Silence makes people assume the worst

[@brittanyjackson6172]

Met this guy , he was consistent with dates , communication , all of a sudden he stopped. Found out his dad was dying and he was overwhelmed and stressed. He has completely shut down but I’m currently giving him space.

[@RachyNoodleNest]

The reality is, he saw something in me that he felt would not make him happy in the long term. I get it, it just hurts that's all.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! 🙏

[@aprilbee1403]

😥😥

[@moenlightening]

That could be true. I was ghosted by a guy that I liked but I didn't care or lose sleep over it. We weren't compatible and he started talking about polygamy. It was not the kind of relationship I wanted. So when he stopped contacting me I was glad we didn't have to have the closure conversation. He did me a favor.

[@doramawrie3741]

I feel it goes the same with me too!

[@kinshonrichards9359]

What God has for you it is for you.

[@JamaicaLove876]

Yes, agree with your key points. Life happens so we should give the benefit of a doubt first. Seek clarity and allow another chance. The bottom line is find someone who will pour into you as much as you will pour into them, that's a recipe for success.

[@kinshonrichards9359]

Amen sis

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@JamaicaLove876]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Your hard work and efforts are recognized and appreciated. God first, stay blessed.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

@@JamaicaLove876 Thank you and stay blessed as well!

[@lisawambui1060]

I'm glad I followed my guts, when he stopped I continued to text and make calls, I worked on my emotions and showed no grudge at him and along the way God brought me a good man. I had healed, worked on my attitude and I kept the friendship.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

[@lisawambui1060]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I appreciate you so much for the wisdom you teach us 🙏🏾

[@LejlaEnigma91-oy1mj]

He stopped texting me for 2 months ,i was broken hearted ..after 2 months He texted me back and Said that He s sorry,He had covid,busy with work … this is simply disgusting how men behave and then they expect Real love ..everyone will get what they deserve sooner or later ..i told him Sorry im not interested in you anymore !! byee

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Exactly, many come up with 'busy' or having the flu lol If you are not dying you will text, especially when you want to feel love and care you will contact your new found love.

[@HisaLight2mypath]

How did you get through the two months of being rejected like that. 😢

[@marianantunano6285]

Well done. A hi takes a second. If it makes you feel better they do this to everybody else in all aspects of life. So...they are the losers and they don't even understand why....

[@renee167]

You’re right Stephan, as women most of us automatically jump to the worse case scenario so to speak. If a guy stops communicating with us we automatically assume that he’s playing games or is uninterested. Going forward as I continue to work on myself, I will not jump to conclusions automatically. As you mentioned we should not cut people off so quickly and jump to negative thoughts. Thanks for your advice as always, I’m definitely taking notes!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@SC-hu5pz]

Yes! Agreed!

[@toniwilson8212]

I don't agree

[@aleayh]

@AliSand exactly!

[@donna2693]

Had that pulled on me a few months into the relationship and i called him out on it and i told him there wouldn't be a second time....1 week later the same thing happened and it took him 5 days to finally respond, only he got the same response i got...crickets... he only found out the "relationship" was over when his family told him i had changed my relationship status to single....don't have time for that shit from a 50 year old man....xo

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! 🙏

[@donna2693]

@stephan speaks aww don't feel for me I'm well over it and believe people come into your life for two reasons, a lesson or a blessing and I'm glad I learnt what I needed too 🙂....xo

[@jesuisvanessawilkerson7011]

@@donna2693 I needed to see this. Recently happened to me, again (same guy, 2nd time)... going on 7 days of being ghosted. Left him a message on day 5 BUT shortly after leaving the message i decided to let go in the physical (2 days ago), now with my Father's (God) help I'm in the process of letting go emotionally. I have a feeling he'll be reaching back out to me but I'm praying that I'll be emotionally detached by then. I think he's a good man but not good for me so I have to wait on the RIGHT 1 that is... In the meantime do the self care/spiritual work needed. 💜

[@zoilarodriguez1532]

Yep ole game playing fool.... 🤔 He's on the curb ....

[@DM-wv6to]

I'm in this situation right now. He wrote to me, I responded and he didn't. A week later I send another message and nothing. At least I tried

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! 🙏

[@DM-wv6to]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you, but it's only been 3 days since my second message, so perhaps not all is lost, as per your video. It's also not so heavy, I'm sure I can move on if need be. Thank you for your sentiment, though

[@Successislivinglife]

The clarity is when he ghost you. Nothing else needs to be said.

[@CorporateQueen]

Busy, he's getting divorced, he's sad and hasn't got the bandwidth for relationship. That's what's wrong. And that's why I don't date guys who are divorcing.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through!

[@CorporateQueen]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks he's got to heal more.

[@diamanta_lht2106]

Don’t reach out his silence is a decision. Keep your options open!

[@sherricason1548]

My moto is, "I Don't want Nobody That Don't Want Me." It still hurts🤣🤣🤣😫😫😫😫! Stop ghosting when YOU are over 60!

[@zivisomutema8811]

The over 50-60 are the worst, they act like teenagers 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

@@zivisomutema8811 It definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! 🙏

[@zoraidacastro5403]

🤣😂

[@NycBeauty]

Oh my goodness. , he is a man / boy.

[@livelearnlove9086]

U need to keep the doors open and if they ghost u then date others there is nothing wrong with it. Always keep ur doors open. Never settle. Even if he ghosts you.

[@thelovely961]

this advice is different, helpful and transparent from a men's point of view and actually is effective because it's more realistic of an approach. the advice that sometimes men want to feel like we care too actually makes a difference.

[@tamikomcgriff3510]

Amen Stephan🙌🏾🙏🏾 everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@ritafuenmayor6437]

Stephan is the big bro I never thought I needed. It's painful but really helpful advice, thanks🌟⚡🎈

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through! 🙏

[@deanakeller2244]

YOU WERE SO RIGHT. As soon as I sent just a lil Hello, hope you're well text he said he was waiting to hear from me first because he didn't want to bother me............ AWWWW. Good thing I didn't just move on.

[@fayfaith8851]

Thank you for being a bro and father I have never had. May God richly bless you @Stephan Speaks for helping us out.I appreciate you sincerely💓

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌

[@nicoletuck9283]

You absolutely must hear their side. Call and ask. Demand some answers! My man started getting inconsistent with communications and when we did talk it was like nothing was wrong. I tried to wait until he was ready to approach me again but eventually got the courage to call and just breakup as my heart had been bleeding for weeks wondering what was up with this awesome man I've grown to love. He explained so much....much of which was work issues, relocating concerns, anxiety and depression about our long distance relationship. I listened buy still held him accountable and made it clear that I can't work on "us" alone. If he loved me he had to put in the effort no matter what life challenges brought. I can't pray for what I don't know if he doesn't speak up. Emotions are precious and I guard mine dearly. I suggested counseling to him and he was open to do so.

[@nicoletuck9283]

@@contribution741 unfortunately 😔 no. I broke it off mainly because I got tired of being angry with the unknown. He said he was disappointed that he failed at another relationship. I said it didn't have to be this way I just need him to talk. He asked me to give him a minute to figure things out. That was almost two weeks ago. It boogles my mind everyday about what's going on with him. What did I do or didn't but ultimately it's on him. I can't help with nothing if he doesn't open his mouth 🤷‍♀️. It's like he's being held at gun point or something idk but it's still frustrating after the breakup of just not knowing. And all of this took place through text and emails...still no phone call. 😒 I still love him but am trying to forget him before I need counseling lol. Keep my broken heart and his silent one in your prayers please 🙏 💔 😔

[@NikkiBadazz]

Good for you! Never allow someone to keep u with a bleeding heart. If he can call converse like nothing ever happened, don't listen to the other excuses. You will quickly remain in the Chaser Role. And that will drain your heart.

[@mooncrab7576]

Thank you, Stephan! Your last point in this video is especially appreciated!

[@teepepalightup4783]

Thankfully I had read your Book ,”He’s Lying Sis!” After 5 years of long distance relationship friendship the book helped me process his excuses and lack of communication and I let him go, but first I had to Forgive him, and Make peace that I was good to him and he gave me good moments too but he showed me his true colors and I am thankful because several weeks before the no contact happened I had prayed “ Lord if he is not the one make his calls stop!” Power of prayer! Wow God is good and I am thankful for it! 🤙🏾👑❤️ Thank You Mr. Stephan, amazing content thank U for sharing this amazing great Information! Never shall I settle for this ever again!

[@tikioluu2321]

I was talking to a man who is now my boyfriend online for a few months, we were long distance and with time he became more and more distance and I asked what was the matter, things were going cold, he corrected it. He apologized and flew out to see me and we had the best time together he is now relocating in a week. I'm thankful I didn't just let things go and I'm happy I communicated how I felt and what I wanted. He worked on his communication 😬Give them 1 chance to fix it.

[@SharlenesJourney]

Awww this how is it now 🙏🏾

[@ellag2137]

What did you say?

[@dollyesguerra6408]

I learned a lot from all your videos. Thank you so very much,Stephan. God bless you!

[@Mzunique1]

Thanks Stephan for the great advice this definitely relates to the current situation I’m in!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help!

[@ms.presilsportraits7323]

I get ghosted so much in this new age of dating. I'm kinda used to it. Most of the time its early on, and they do return with the same BS. So if he leaves its a blessing in disguise

[@cookiethomas8069]

Same here

[@sangheetakambel2895]

This is the best part of dating; don't sell yourself short. Give the best of you and don't accept anything less. Stay strong and know that God didn't make anyone to be worthless. Be a queen to find your king, just saying... Have a blessed day all!

[@kinshonrichards9359]

I love your comment

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@sangheetakambel2895]

@@kinshonrichards9359 Thank you!

[@cherylhampton6033]

Love your comment

[@sangheetakambel2895]

@@cherylhampton6033 Thank you!

[@jessmrrrt]

Im not reaching out to no man! No matter how much i like him … if he don’t call or text me thats my answer…

[@feliciaallen6228]

I agree!!! Makes no sense. It literally takes seconds to reach out to someone. It's cowardly and insensitive to ghost or leave someone hanging.

[@adaofcharles1217]

You rock King Stephan, I refuse to sell myself short.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙌 Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@boutiquebabe]

Thank you very much for the inspiring advice!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@alona3012]

In such cases I always think that I’m not good, beautiful enough for him 😢😢😢

[@mandy8780]

I'm 5 months late on this & its 1:30am in South Africa. I'm UP cz of the situation! Strangest thing is, I was just literally at a crossroads about a situation I'm currently in. I was about to leave a text on his phone cutting him off, BUT God sent Stephan!😁 You're a real blessing! Suddenly I was reminded that he had communicated what he's currently going through, his silence being a result thereof. I nearly made a huge mistake! 😲 He had been doing so great overall and when he suddenly decreased texts, dates and calls, he actually called me to say WHY! THANK YOU STEPHAN. You're a LOVE saver 🤭😉❤ I only wish great things for you. Blessing upon blessing!

[@janetnilsen9728]

Stephan, this video advice has definitely helped me understand where we are. I've addressed, I'm now happy to wash my hands and keep moving to the light. (He still in silence) Ty!

[@cheryljones2009]

I just watched this video & have to add a comment.... I was communicating regularly with a guy I met on Match... We hadn't met in person yet, but we began talking on the phone at the beginning of May & I started getting texts from him pretty much daily... It got to the point where I really looked forward to hearing from him during the day, while we were both at work... Unfortunately, now those daily texts have stopped, & I have to honestly admit, I've been feeling in a "funk" ever since, due to feeling so "let down".... I thought we had a "connection", & I can tell HE is the one shutting down on me, so I HAVE tried reaching out to him, but now our back & forth daily "vibe" has just completely stopped.... 😔😔😔

[@pallana3701]

The man is obviously in a relationship maybe even married or he was rebounding and now she back and or he found someone who holds his interest way more than you did . Forward but it’s the truth and nobody need to be dependent on a message from a mere stranger you’ve never met in person so basically don’t even know whom he truly is dontcha think. U starting off wrong don’t get sprung on a text, how does that happen Move on DONT text or call that man No more and see what happens if he comes for you don’t b so quick to fall for it some of these men are Narcissistic and just plain ol nuts up top and down below too literally….. Let the phone ring a few times don’t act desperate, continue dating others seems like you’ve stopped just by the way you wrote the comment how u looking forward to those text and when they stopped you in the dump or slump or something like that..keep options because when a man does this it actually don’t deserve attention further , a person can walk away let them it’s too easy Plus he don’t know u seems like he want u 2 chase him …. DONT

[@deesmith8368]

I tried this yesterday and it 💯 percent worked. Literally wrote the text message word-for-word 😂 as I struggled to focus on progress and not my pride. Thank you Stephan Speaks 😊

[@arimababe40]

What's the text message?

[@sunny_dhende6289]

Such great advice, Steven! Thank you for your insight. A lot of this resonates with me. I need to make serious decisions this year!

[@ms_lady_blueeyez1494]

yes ! Exactly COMMUNICATION IS KEY 🔑

[@fatyghassem7123]

amen! Thanks to show us the path of maturity 🙏🏽

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@kinshonrichards9359]

I love your advice the point that stand out in the video is to not sell yourself short.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@teresatilley1324]

Love this and your direct approach!

[@xmswayzemx]

"What the H*LL is going on" is right! lol 🤣 After that I said screw it. He's either dead or not interested. Dude was NEVER on point to begin with 🙄

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@ms.claudia4855]

Wow

[@bevhoney-b2184]

Lol😀😀😀😀 Not Dead☠ or interested! Y'all making my day! I got ghosted after my BD weekend & we celebrated.. now he is to busy with work to text me any more! I'm like ok, boy bye! I'm gonna take on this theory, he is dead or not interested anymore! Its painful but to know I'm not the only 1 this was done 2, make it a little easier to bare! Thank you for sharing! It does help!😁

[@welcometosherickaworld9381]

Thanks for this ❤️ you really be helping some of us love it ❤️ s

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help thank you for your response and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!

[@catherinenjenga5308]

Stephan! I love that you are so real!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that thank you for your feedback!

[@nellie6657]

Thank you. Very insightful as always 🙏🏽🤍

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@alchemicalsoul]

This is really balanced perspective. I'm dealing with a friend of 20 years who initiated connection with me. He told me that he does not like texting and that we need to speak by phone. He told me to call him when I need to, but he doesn't call me often. It is a LDR, and he has come to see me, and tells me to come to him. I give him grace in that he owns a business, he is busy, he is an introverted Scorpio, and is laser focused on whatever he is doing. I wish I could say it doesn't bother me that I have to call him, but he gavee clear boundaries of what he needs. I like that you highlighted what other videos don't, in that the person has done things right, but we jump to conclusions. Which is exactly what he told me not to do. I hyperfocus on it, and it is highlighting that I am not secure. I have to make the decision to keep working on myself and see if this is really for me. Or maybe it's a relationship that can help me grow. Sometimes we have to stay open to the possibilities. Thank you for the content.

[@leahwilliams4790]

If he's not texting you 😒 he's texting someone else ✌️

[@charismadace8080]

Ok cause a guy I’ve been talking too for a few weeks been going ghost on me and im like over it now

[@Michellemybell739]

Sis that don’t even matter he could still be texting you and someone else! Don’t be blind!

[@leahwilliams4790]

@@Michellemybell739 believe me I know 😂

[@erciliaencarnacion3644]

I wash my hands and will move on to better things!!

[@DivinelyGuided777]

I agree....out of fairness, both sides need to be and feel safe at all times.

[@brittnaycollins558]

If we really listen to what he is saying, this man is giving very good advice about handling things like an adult

[@jennf.8355]

That why I fall back And block the number by killing that vibe to prevent that person from trying too come back and do the same thing so I can work on self like I been doing stay prayed up including building a better life and new chapter in my life for my self I wanna thank u for all the encouragement and motivation

[@skyfall1481]

Always be observant when around others. Someone ghosted me and I was able to figure out why they weren’t replying due to their behaviour when they were around me. I cut them off without hesitation. Ghost me once, you’re out.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@TracyLydiatt]

Thank you for this Stephan - really appreciate your approach!! I'm an anxious attacher and I gave the man a month of space to reach out to me after our texting slowed down to him not responding to my last message "in our normal texting flow". I just leaned back and didn't chase, didn't send rapid fire texts and waited to see where he was at and if he reached out and this was very different in his communication style previously. Your video helped me understand the difference between "chasing" and "addressing directly" and getting the clarity as I've been challenged with chasing in the past. I REALLY appreciate the reminder of "grace and kindness" and sent a text to address directly. "Hey XX, I was thinking fondly of our time shared and how much I was enjoying getting to know you.... I haven’t heard from you for awhile. I’m wondering if we’re still trying to get to know one another or have things changed for you?" ... thank you for sharing your man's perspective and script for addressing directly! #PRIDE VS #PROGRESS (mic drop)

[@michaelaozuka5179]

How did he respond?

[@TracyLydiatt]

@@michaelaozuka5179 He responded within a few hours and shared he had been thinking about me, did want to get to know me better and had been feeling in a rut in his life. We connected a few days later in person and he was deeply apologetic and owned his behaviour. I got the chance to share that vanishing isn't something I want in the person a I date and he agreed and has been more frequently in touch since! So overall, pretty darn happy about the result!

[@michaelaozuka5179]

@@TracyLydiatt Amazing! Thank you for your testimony, it gives me hope... I am in a very similar situation... not sure if I should reach out... but after reading your encouraging story maybe I will. Bless you and all the best🙏

[@jesuisvanessawilkerson7011]

@@TracyLydiatt Awesome! I love how you communicated that & how he showed up in a grown, responsible way. That's a beautiful thing💜

[@HisaLight2mypath]

How long did that last are you still together

[@Anonymous-gt1eq]

Thank you Stephan...I really needed to hear all this and hope it helps me not accept things if i am not getting what I need and want and if a connection is not leading to a serious healthy relationship

[@urinarain]

Truly silence can be the most elaborate and eloquent reply

[@emmarichmond7104]

Thank you for this and all your guidance you are changing my mind set and are a great male role model!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@noelledixon3891]

This video is speaking to me. This is great. Very informative. Thanks 🙌

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and blessings!

[@karolinah12]

Okay, we must be kind. Thanks so much Stephen, allow people to open up if they have been kind & friendly so far. If he is flaky you would know soon enough, but showing maturity is a positive. What is upsetting is that you reach out ,they continue pulling away, but then come back weeks later being really intense. People overall MUST be more stable & consistent. Give him one chance, but just one time chance

[@sharimara3752]

Thank you so much. Honestly, iam happy that i searched for other advice than "cut Him off" or "mirror him". And now i know why i searched for it, bc my gut Instinct is telling me that it isnt a adult behavior just to mirror or just to cut him off. Its like you give all control to another. But I HAVE CONTROLL. And bc this is so, i can act like it! I cam communicate my needs And this is NOT NEEDY. I Can say it in a friendly, not needy way And mean it like that. I havent heard 4 days from him And before He Texted every Single day. There is a changed behavior but i have the Power to simply ASK why. And you are totally right - He was since then full of greeeeeen flags, why shouldnt i give him this green flag And ask what is wrong and how we go along? Could be that He dont want to date anymore. Or remains silent. BUT IN THIS CASE THATS MY ANSWER! I will not be more sad than now! And on top i live and Show the behavior i want in future with him: "Look, iam honest And want to talk about it, iam not gonna avoid the negative. We can Figure it out". If He dont Match that need, i can still Decide to cut him off. Iam Sick of games. Iam not that Kind of girl, i want to talk. And youre advice is the best on the inet and opend my eyes. All this "He is toxic and you shouldnt do anything" is really Kind of bs. Whe cant read minds. And iam not Willing to spend my time guessing. He will Tell or no. Now iam living in a unhealthy questionmark, nothing Else. THANK YOU SO MUCH. Anyway it will went out for me... I will let you know how its going on.

[@Michellemybell739]

Stephan this video is sooo on point for me. My boyfriend of three months last contacted me on last Tuesday. I probably should have responded to it but his text really didn’t warrant a response. Days went by -five to be exact and I knew he was feeling some kind of way cause he kinda petty and somewhat insecure. I went ahead and texted him that we have never went this long without talking-he responded in five minutes and told me he had not texted or called to see if I loved him like I said I did. He also said we needed to talk and that he now knows he really loves me. 🤷🏽‍♂️ Go figure.

[@CharmingDiva]

Best advice ever we all needed to hear this. Because overthiking is real. I want to hear more about learning and not just letting go, I believe many of us cut ppl off to fast.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!

[@cassandrasaavedra131]

Agree!!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@user-sz6vy7xt6j]

This is a REAL grown up conversation... oh wow, will listen again!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!