Why Everything You Do Is Cringe

[@PlatinumWoW]

"Do not kill the part of you that is cringe, kill the part of you that cringes" - Albert Einstein

[@varden3270]

"Cringe is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

[@hotdog5927]

LMAO

[@greyblob1101]

"This newtonian gravity shit is pretty cringe." - Albert Einstein

[@imissya54454]

-micheal Scott

[@alanrodriguez6915]

"That dude Albert Einstein cringes out cringe" -Albert Einstein

[@VanillaBryce5]

"This is going to be scary because a lot of y'all are cringe." Dr. K has said a lot of accurate things but this my be his most accurate statement to date. lol

[@manuelcalavera7272]

Must*

[@manuelcalavera7272]

@@pawshmel Because*

[@icipher6730]

@@manuelcalavera7272 cringe

[@cupofjoe1788]

Why do y'all all hate yourselves

[@elvararchfeld9734]

Okay. This is borderline taking something out of context.

[@killaknight12]

I had to laugh so hard at the "meditation" part. There was a club where you couldn't hear any music entering the building, you got a pair of headphones and sent off to the dancefloor. Aside from some people talking there still was dead silence, all you could see were people with headphones vibing, dancing and goof around with their friends. Basically, you could choose one of three channels on your wireless headphones all playing a certain playlist and dance to it, though whenever you wanted to talk to people and take a drink you could just take off your headphones, so no yelling into your faces. It was reeeaally cringe at first, but the more you got over that and experienced how awesome this concept was in practice the less it bothered you. Dancing to different music also turned out to be incredibly funny.

[@chimerasofhafgufa]

wow!! id love to visit a club like this! :O it feels like a great idea for people with audio sensitivity but still like, yknow, uh wanting that experience?

[@burntchickennugget8142]

Wow, kinda epic, you made this seem pretty epic wow

[@dsdsdsds10101]

It'd be nice to not have a sore throat after clubbing for once

[@NiSE_Rafter]

There's events like that called silent discos. I've been to one once as a part of a music festival and it was an absolute blast!

[@Kriliska]

This could actually make me enjoy going to a club for once in my life.

[@SpinningTurtle66]

I really dislike how big ‘cringe’ is on the internet. It makes people feel bad for doing something they enjoy that others find weird, and it makes me feel so bad whenever I do something and get called cringe

[@nudemanonbike]

If it makes you feel better, literal children are usually the only people calling people cringe. Why do you give a shit about what a literal child thinks? In school it's a bit different, since you can't point this out to someone else and have it matter, but just block people on the internet and then they literally don't exist anymore

[@SpinningTurtle66]

@@nudemanonbike That’s a fair point, but I can’t shake the feeling that there are also actual adults who have this mindset

[@nudibranch8659]

Yeah I stopped browsing cringe communities because I realized how awful the core message of making fun of cringe things (and communities centered around making fun of people in general) is.

[@rll1236]

@@nudemanonbike Really? I think it's the opposite. Kids on the internet do weird tiktok dances and then there are a lot of adults calling them cringe for just being kids. Adults tend to be way more judgemental than kids because kids don't overthink like they do

[@nudemanonbike]

@@rll1236 good point, there's typically a distinction between children and teenagers, but I was using the "anyone still in primary school" definition of children, so usually people under 18. If you yourself are under 18, I guess my advice to you is that shit that happens before 18 barely fucking matters and stressing about everything just makes your life shittier at the end of the day. Obviously don't hurt other people but like, who gives a shit if you get really passionate about model trains or whatever the fuck else. And again, if they do give a shit, why do you care about their opinions?

[@michelangelo_o12]

a quote i read on youtube, "A cringe man will always think he is based, but a based man will always know that he is cringe."

[@SorenReaper7339]

I think that was by a guy called tun sze

[@hung-upear2659]

or Tora the Sroll

[@f4rt989]

Based

[@sonicbackrooms897]

Based

[@tommihalonen6471]

I'm pretty sure that's an Albert Einstein quote

[@shadoll7856]

I found this useful: Being judgmental is basically an effort to get rid of something we don't understand and probably don't want to understand. We see something we don't like and we try to dismiss it, to stamp it out without taking the time to understand it. We're impatient. Whatever we're being judgmental about, we just want to get rid of it quickly. Being judicious, however, requires patience together with understanding. A judicious choice is one you've made after understanding all the options, all the sides of a question. That way your choice is based on knowledge, not on greed, aversion, or delusion.

[@CYXXYC]

learning continues in the comment section, good stuff

[@vizari9570]

Damn, I guess I really do need to be more fair to zoophiles and MAPs and be more judicial.

[@shadoll7856]

@@vizari9570 I don't agree with that level of lassez fair approach imo. MAP is pedophilia imo.

[@vizari9570]

@@shadoll7856 Then specify that bruh. I'm going to be honest I thought your comment was dumb because I myself am admittedly pretty judgemental. I just don't care to try and be judicial to some random ass stranger online defending gore porn. Edit: Also I don't think you're comment is dumb anymore

[@johnreedy9098]

@@vizari9570 You can try to understand something that is evil while still recognising that it's evil.

[@AngelStarHealer]

as an autistic person, it's frustrating and exhausting to constantly be worried about being perceived as cringe when I'm not hurting anyone. I'm trying to be comfortable in my own skin and not be harsh with everything I do but goddamn it's hard also is it just me or the neurodivergent people tend to get labeled as cringe more often? like due to the fact that we think differently and lack social skills

[@vecvecvec]

we definitely get pegged as cringe far more often. i definitely agree with the reasons you brought up, and id also like to add that for a lot of us, enjoying ourselves looks different too (stimming, different facial expressions, moving around). people really tend to fixate on looks sometimes :/

[@Mike_7878]

Cringe

[@kendra6000]

@@Mike_7878 shut up

[@yobrada208]

The key to not be worried that you're cringe is that you can feel it when you are being cringy just be your self and try not to say things you think it's stupid and who ever try to judge you or laugh at you f*ck em up physically or with words and let the anger out cause if you don't that's weakness and nobody respect a weak and cowerd person and there is nothing more cringe then a weak man , after that you can feel a huge relief so don't be always worried like a caward while others are living their lifes and not giving a f*ck about you crying p*ssy

[@weirdnerdygoat]

I'm not neurodivergent and I can see that clearly. Like why do people care, like they could use some apathy XD

[@Kain59242]

Do the "fear mantra" from Dune but replace the word fear for cringe. "I must not cringe. Cringe is the mind-killer. Cringe is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my cringe. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the cringe has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."

[@willigmgallego1502]

I'm gonna use it

[@iantaakalla8180]

When Paul Atreides has overcome cringe so much he does not give second thought of co-opting religion to inadvertently become a messiah (of which using a religion for nefarious purposes can be cringe because it’s a cliché trick)

[@cerridianempire1653]

This is unironically amazing

[@lucienderthel338]

@@cerridianempire1653 honestly now that i'm considering it, you could replace fear with any feeling that you find overwhelming and it would probably work.

[@Sho_Intho]

Its kinda funny. By seeing the world as cringe and strictly avoiding it, You, yourself, become cringe to the world.

[@hehexd7459]

You kinda missed the point

[@b1nary_f1nary]

@@hehexd7459 its a 30 minute video, its a lot more complex than 'a point'

[@cloberlobster2276]

@@hehexd7459 like Carl said, their isn't just one "point" it can obviously be dissected and made into multiple small sub-points, like the one op has made.

[@hehexd7459]

@@b1nary_f1nary I didn't say it isn't but what he said is contradictory to a lot of things said in the video

[@TheRealGigachad1848]

More like the other way around but okay kiddo

[@JediBunny]

This is such an important and healthy conversation; A lot of us don’t realise how much of the judgment we project outwardly is a reflection of how we feel inwardly. The most judgmental folks I know all came from upbringings where they were harshly judged themselves and it becomes a way to protect the Ego. The cycle is infinite lest we cultivate self-awareness around it and make those healthy behavioural changes!

[@someasiankid6323]

true

[@latteARCH]

Well said.

[@embrace7052]

THIS

[@cobalt1754]

Me, with Asian parents: oh *NOOOOOOO-*

[@good4gaby]

Yes! Well said! I actually pay close attention to things that bother me. If I dig deep enough I almost always find myself in there…

[@e36blur]

I can actually relate to this a lot. I went through this, looking at people wondering why they are so happy, why they make bad jokes, how are they so excited to do mundane things, how come they get drunk and have a great time... because I simply CANNOT RELATE to that feeling. this man is depressed. When the happiness disappears from your life, you cant even fathom its existence. So hard to explain.

[@ZombiBunni_]

This was honestly kinda similar to how I learned to be okay with myself as a child. I'm Autistic so I suuuuper did not understand social cues and being "normal", but by middle school I was just like.. y'know what, screw it? I'm gonna come to school wearing my favorite clothes, I'm gonna stim, I'm gonna talk about my favorite things excitedly and earnestly, and if someone wants to avoid me for it then go ahead. But interestingly, I got bullied a lot less, at least to my face. I sat at the "misfit table" at lunch, sure, but in my book we were all the most interesting kids, and if one of them got bullied I was able to use my new confidence to walk up and tell the bully off for it (which in retrospect wasn't the best thing, but my friends verbally thanked me for the support so I also sort of think it was worth going to detention if it made my friends feel better). I dunno, I still do plenty of "cringy" things in the typical online sense of the word, but I've found lots and lots of people who enjoy being "cringy" *with* me, and I wouldn't be as happy as I am right now if I was trying to seem "normal" to everyone all the time. Work is obviously different, but with my friends, I'm glad we have a place with each other to truly be ourselves.

[@riki4644]

Aye yo I am also autistic but I during the start of middle school to until relatively recently just literally just tried my best to stop communicating to try to prevent feeling bad and causing a scene I was insecure. I feel like it kind of worked but at what cost. Lucky had the internet to cope. Fortunately I was never really bullied just teased and trolled in hindsight small town perks I guess.

[@tommyaguirre3479]

That's so sweet, wish you the best, friend!

[@ZombiBunni_]

​@@riki4644 Even just that teasing and trolling can be so rough though, especially when it happens a lot :( I know how it feels for sure. It's easy for anyone to say "just be yourself", but I know it's not that simple. Especially if you get harassed for just "being yourself". I just wanna say, even if it's hard to imagine or fully believe right now, you're 100% gonna find people who like you for who you are and who share similar interests. It might take time to find them or to even let your honest self show, but it's not unrealistic at all. I think the pieces of advice that helped me the most, personally, were "how can people who would like you even find you in the first place if they can't see who you are?" and "being your genuine self can inspire others to feel safe doing the same." I'm not saying you have to rush that of course, or even that this is 100% the type of advice or path that you should follow. I just want to offer some hope, because I know how hopeless and painful it felt when I had no "real friends" and was stifling my "true self".

[@KD-ou2np]

Damn I'm 20 and I have adhd and I still haven't been able to let go wondering what ppl think of my weird speaking patterns and fidgeting

[@ZombiBunni_]

@@KD-ou2np To be fair I totally still think about that stuff -- and I'm almost 25 now!! It still takes work to actively counter it, and it does upset me if I linger too long on that kind of thing. I have the double trouble diagnosis lol, Autistic and ADHD, so I have a lot of what might seem like "weird habits and quirks" to others that are actually just.. how my brain works. Being aware that people find me strange definitely helps me to build coping mechanisms (like acknowledging to myself that I don't wanna care about biased jerk's opinions anyway), and learning to be angry for what my childhood self had to endure helped a ton too. I get so mad when I think about how badly I got bullied just for existing as a "weird kid", and so I embrace being a weird adult as a way to both embrace my past self and "win" against the bullies. I guess that's a bit on spite, lol, but that's essentially how it works for me. I hope that insight into my life might help you find some insight on how to accept and embrace yourself some more too.

[@isaaccardin]

It seems that everything you think you feel about what you see in the world is actually what you feel about yourself in relation to it.

[@bobbywhite5319]

Yep, consciousness despite being very advanced, has its limitations

[@shirin8609]

Absolutely. A very wise observation.

[@AnchorTea]

You have literally described anti-vaxxers

[@differentbutsimilar7893]

I don't know about everything. Not every judgement a person makes is a simple projection. This statement just doesn't strike me as being entirely logical. Or... the logic is there, but it is insufficient for encapsulating the full motions of a human making a judgement. It's too reductive to be useful, as it winds up dismissing all judgements as projections or figments of people's insecurities in order to make simpler point about the subjective nature of judgements. I think that while there's some truth to what you're saying, truth that shouldn't be ignored, you are still getting ahead of yourself a little bit. If I judge someone who murders indiscriminately to be a murderous monster and say to myself "What cruel world is this, to have such killers in it?" am I then on some level feeling like a murderer myself and simply hiding this fact from myself in the judgement I make towards this person, who mind you has killed several people where I have killed zero? Would you extend the logic you used to make your point to assert that I wouldn't judge the murdering so negatively if I was indeed secure in the fact that I am not one? Or perhaps I would not judge at all if this was the case? I'm gonna go in because it's an interesting subject, but correct me if I'm wrong and I'll forget what I'm about to write. Your wording just leaves little room for a different read in my eyes. You can't say what you said without also implying that all judgements on other people are reducible to judgements on oneself, which is true in a 'big picture' sense, but probably not entirely true in the way you are implying - not in an 'on the ground' sense. How do I put it? I think that if this is how you size-up every person making a judgement, you will likely fail to learn quite a lot about them. While there is always that 'root' of self-assessment inherent to every judgement, it's just a starting point and a lot can happen between that point and that of getting to the actual choice being made. It's not a question of if the judgement is rooted in subjectivity, but rather how it is rooted, and how that plays out as the resulting vine sprawls outwards. That last part will tell you where the judgment really comes from. Bias is not the only factor, you know? The same bias in two different people can still lead to very different judgements of the same thing. And consequently, a judgement can ring similarly meaningfully across a disparate range of people with very different views of themselves and the world. I think you can make some genuine judgements without pot-and-kettle situations happening. This appears to be readily observable in any type of person you want to cast. You can make the argument that everything we know through experience is subjective, and that the 'vision' itself is a projection on the backdrop of the mind. I can't fault that. Essentially, the reality that you perceive is generated inside of your head, so your impression of it will be based on you. However, to take that to the absolute level where everything within that projection is born of your impression of how you relate to it, muddies the whole deal. If what you say is true, then we can make no meaningful judgements as conscious beings, as we would merely be judging ourselves. It would not be possible for one to form judgements that others could understand and accept. Obviously, it doesn't shake down this way in reality, as not everyone who makes an accusation can be seen to embody any of the traits of their targets. Sometimes a very outwardly cynical person makes an optimistic judgement. Sometimes a very optimistic person can make a cold judgement. This happens in spite of people's impressions of the world. People will frequently challenge their own built-up impressions of the world in light of evidence that steers their judgement elsewhere. But by the same logic used before, even that observation of 'outside evidence' exists WITHIN that subjective impression, which is inherently tinged by the observer housing it. Your idea of what that evidence is and means is a product of your past observations and culminating worldview, all of which is subjective - yes. It is literally a part of "how you feel about yourself in relation to it." And yet, these judgements can still be there, contrary to how the person making them would usually feel about things. We can hold observations about ourselves, the world, and other people that greatly contradict our usual framework. Now, how a person handles this is where your statement comes into play, I think. A person can hide away in their usual framework, turn inwards to find a spot where it fits. That judgement will then be a reflection of their own feelings. I think apathy plays in... the more apathetic a person is, the more likely their judgements are to be kite-shields for their own fears about themselves and their places in the world as they see it. But the second option presumes that person can assess their framework and adapt it... essentially say "Oh, I apparently DON'T know everything about myself and other people." Their capacity for judgement changes as a byproduct, and so too do they change a little as a person. They learn to form a different judgement. Their view of both the world AND themself changes as a product of forming that judgement, which is really just an observation with an overtly subjective spin as opposed to the default implied one. YOU are making that judgment. That is a choice that says something about you. But not only one thing, as you seem to suggest. What you're saying doesn't fully track for me. Your impression of the world is as much tinged by things that are 'you' as it is things that are not. There's no way around being discerning and sorting through it. Nor can you presume that everyone around you who passes judgements simply has a case of "Thou doth protest too much." Think about how silly and impractical that would be! Before every decision, there comes a value judgement. The subjectivity is unavoidable but I think we'd be looking at a very different world if every judgement people formed to back their decisions was simply a gut impression, born solely of how they felt about themselves. Again, you have the option to challenge that feeling. You can argue it's still the same, but the dynamic is definitely different. Other times, it's simply not relevant, such as with the sorts of judgements a person might make while comparing fruit. Again, not every judgement winds up tucking a statement about how someone feels about their place in the world. They may just want better bananas. I think the worst thing you can do is presume to know where all of your own judgements come from. They can be rooted in such a wide range of things that boiling it all down to this idea that we only judge the pieces of ourselves we see in things distances us all greatly from the nuance in the judgements and criticisms that people make. Sometimes there is more to someone's judgements than simply "This reminds me of something I don't like about myself, so I don't like it and will pretend to have any other reason for doing so." I'll put it this way. While there's a lot of truth in the statement "There is a little bit of you in everyone you judge." it does not mean that the 'you' in everyone you judge is always going to be directly related to the part you are judging. For instance, maybe the murderer in my first example loves all of the same music as me. That's not likely to affect my judgement of 'murderer' all that much because while I relate more to the music part, I have learned of the suffering that murder causes other people. So while what you said has truth, its relevance varies AFAICS. Listen... I think you are onto something good. I just hope you won't stop there!

[@darkcnotion]

@@differentbutsimilar7893 Wow interesting response, thanks

[@MmentoMori]

"Those who were seen dancing were called 'cringe' by those who couldn't hear the music." - Friedrich Nietzsche

[@howdadogdoin729]

fax 💯

[@jonaskoelker]

Whatever doesn't kill you makes you cringe -Freddie 5Head.

[@Sussyphis]

Hits hard

[@f4rt989]

“Being cringey is having the courage to put yourself and your interests out there, no matter what others think” -idubbz

[@gnatdagnat]

if you can, what video of his is this from? thanks sir

[@danielnizberg1754]

@@gnatdagnat Full Force

[@gnatdagnat]

@@danielnizberg1754 ahh the pivotal documentary. thank you

[@MoMo-lj7up]

Yeah it does make a lot of sense. in my experience, people do tolerate a level of social clumsiness and may even find it endearing because it humanizes you and makes you more approachable. Being "cringey" only gets bad when it causes you to make people really uncomfortable e.g. not being able to leave an interaction. It also helps to have a sense of humour about your inexperience

[@TheDhammaHub]

More often than not it is just the "way" we go about things and the confidence we display while doing it - it is usually no the action in itself (which is good news)

[@coolpfpbut]

Its cringe because we make it seem that way? Thats a good perspective to have

[@kantjokes895]

@@coolpfpbut Ive often times found that I find things I do 'cringe' if I'm already internally judging myself when I do the thing, so I do it in an unconfident and 'cringy' way

[@elperronimo]

Something can definitely be hella cringe especially if you are confident when you say it. That being said, people are quick to forgive cringe as long as the conversation keeps flowing

[@oliverbeck6839]

Yeah its whatever you see yourself as, you will portray to the outside. If you see yourself as a confident person then other will see that too, if you see yourself as really cringy every action will portay this and other will see you as cringy aswell

[@synlion]

@@coolpfpbut Same goes for „awkward silences“ in conversations. Silence is only awkward if you allow it to make you feel that way or if you make other people feel that way.

[@roejogan2585]

I was literally thinking about this today. I don’t find anyone else that cringey, I mostly cringe at the thought of me saying common stuff IRL because i feel that people will think I’m trying to fit in too hard & it’ll be too forced. But nothing else I say makes me cringe lol

[@mr.sophistication2461]

Everyone tries to fit in way too hard.

[@lololol924]

Easier said than done, but confidence is key. My best friend is honestly the biggest dork I know, but he's super successful with making friends and women because he just owns it.

[@roejogan2585]

@@EggEnjoyer thanks for that man, I definitely have felt it fade away over the past couple of years my New Years resolution was to eradicate it entirely. When you look at twitch streamers, Will Neff is easily the most gifted & talented when it comes to interacting with others & since I’ve started watching him I’ve felt myself progress

[@HOVNA]

Unless you are changing yourself to fit in you are OK. We all make friends and we have to find common ground to do that

[@petkofuchalski9809]

@@EggEnjoyer Your comment is kinda cringe, not gonna lie.

[@ZacErickson1906]

Psychologist here. Just wanted to say I REALLY appreciate your frank and straightforward way of explaining things. “Dude, you’re cringe.” So good.

[@shmel3689]

Redefining cringe is a great move to make people to not be embarrassed for innocent things they do. Great thinking.

[@MelloTheMarksman]

I feel that one of our biggest issues is thinking we need to conform to societal norms and anyone who doesn't meet those "standards" is weird/cringe. To find something cringe, doesn't that mean something isn't living up to a personal standard you've set? our ego is a very problematic place to live

[@JediBunny]

Well-said!

[@TheLadyBlerd]

💯

[@SkyTheGuy8]

This a the better definition of cringe

[@charvisaur4184]

Phase 2 is something that I learned to do because I used to spend all of my time in public places. Not out of choice, I had abusive parents who wouldn't let me back in the house between the hours of 9 a.m. and 9 p.m. so I was effectively homeless during the afternoon and had to make do in public. A side effect of that is that I learned to just vibe in the presence of other people. I'd put on music, play league of legends on the community college wifi (I didn't actually go there but I was there so often people thought I did), vibe to the music, eat my food and just forget that the outside world exists. I don't live like that anymore but sometimes when my roomate invites over company I'll just sit in my room with the door open and vibe to my music. People will walk in asking what I'm doing, I'll tell them I'm jamming out to anime, then they usually go about what they were doing. Maybe this is why I never really understood the appeal of cringe compliations. People cringe at fandoms like bronies or Sonic OCs. I salute these types of people. They can just be themselves without hurting anyone. I'm a furry so I'm not in any position to judge anyone else as weird. I think one of my favorite memes is "How do I sleep at night knowing I'm a furry degenerate?" ... "Pretty well actually"

[@kokorochacarero8003]

Hey, I think people that frown upon weird and cringy stuff and are obsessed with being "normal" often times are super boring and uninteresting People that aren't ashamed to like what they like are always more interesting. I want to be like you.

[@tiryaclearsong421]

@@kokorochacarero8003 I tend to assume they're children. Though I constantly cringe at myself I don't care about others. And I cringe at myself because I can monologue about shit no one cares about. Which at least is cringe unlike just enjoying something.

[@yourbroskijack]

DAS AMAZING!!!!!!! I am glad for you

[@wahlawigi9572]

finally, a video for me.

[@InHellITrust]

Cringe.

[@1Numbers1]

I seriously can't think of the last time where that internal thought process wasn't in the forefront of my mental. I do not know hot to absorb myself into an experience anymore, this is a problem ive been going through for years. But i guess i lost the perspective that you can not be in your head. Will have to relearn how to do that. Ty for the video DrK

[@WofWca]

Tried getting drunk?

[@julyol119]

So, I am a kinda cringe-free, mostly authentic person and here's how I got there: I have ADHD and as a kid I overshared a lot and got very excited and was probably pretty cringe inducing for the people around me. I got bullied a lot for that as well. I had basically two options then. Retreat into myself and mask the hell out of my daylie life or decide to be unapologetically myself. That was especially hard in this weird in between age when you're not really a kid anymore, but also not yet a teen. I spoke to my older sister about "being different" and not knowing what to do about it. And she said "Everybody can try to be like everyone else. That's the easy way out, even if it feels hard to you now. But you being yourself is actually showing how strong you are and that's really cool." That hit so damn hard, that even now, nearly 20 years later (yeah I'm old), I still remember it and try to live by that. I am who I am, there's no running from it. I can try to worry about what others say or I'm just gonna enjoy my life. And I'm gonna dance in public, if I feel like it (I've actually just recently done that, because my job was being incredibly slow that day and I needed to regain some energy. I was being somewhat subtle, but I just could not not do it.). So, living my life by this motto was not easy at first. But I was bullied anyway, so what gives. And with time, surprise surprise, I met people that actually thought that I was really cool. And I stopped worrying so much about what others think. And I actually stopped overshwring, because I wasn't invested in being liked as much as I did before. Like, I didn't feel the need to justify myself any longer. And this had a profound impact in my life. I do think by accepting the cringe I somehow got rid of it? Weird shit. Anyway, now I can laugh about myself all day. I can unapologetically have a profile pic with my favourite anime character in it etc. I think many of my better qualities are connected to this kind of "Welp, someone's gonna hate me whatever I do. So I might as well do what I want." - mentality. What I somehow learned while being my cringy self is that most people don't care. Like, at all. Ever heard of the societal principle of panopticism (I hope I'm translating this properly) by Foucault? I basically says that everyone feels watched, that's why we follow societal rules. Because everyone watches everyone. And that's true to a degree. Probably people wouldn't just ignore actual crimes, but when it comes to the small things, like someone's imperfect hair or the way they walk or laugh etc. People don't really care, because they are absorbed in "behaving themselves". And even if they look at you and think "What a weirdo.", they'll have forgotten you've ever existed 20 seconds later. So, worrying is just not worth it. Your time way too precious for that.

[@getoulover]

Your older sister is awesome for telling you that

[@shadoll7856]

Thanks for sharing this.

[@julyol119]

@@getoulover Absolutely! Funny thing was, I told her about it and she doesn't even remember xD That's the level of awesome she is. I was very lucky with my family. If I was bullied at school and at home, as many people are, I'm sure I would have made even more questionable decisions and got into tons of trouble.

[@julyol119]

@@shadoll7856 I hope it helps someone out here :)))

[@weirdnerdygoat]

Excactly. Whenever I feel embarassed for something i did, I ask myself did I care when x person did basically the same thing earlier. Also going to a summer camp (its pet name was literally Gay Nerd Camp) where everyone was also really weird and cool definitely made me more confident XD

[@felixfernandez6056]

As someone who was bullied in school, I kinda stopped caring about what people think, and it's pretty liberating tbh! Don't be a jerk, vibe on your own shit, and like minded folk will come.

[@felixfernandez6056]

Ooh! The ultimate test, eat a banana in public. Assert dominance.

[@wushten6223]

@@felixfernandez6056 ayyyyooooo

[@CatLover-lk9gz]

Oooo, Even better, Go hella deep with that bannana. Like Im talking third base.

[@CatLover-lk9gz]

Like, Imagine that bannana as the hottest person you will EVER meet.

[@CatLover-lk9gz]

Hell, act super gay with your weird best friend. Join him. Drink the kool-aid

[@frogturtle]

When I touched a soccer ball again for the first time in 14 years, I felt super cringe. Then I cringed my way into pickup soccer, a soccer league, and after months of trying, we finally held up the first place season champions trophy. And holding that trophy with my friends after all that effort and embarrassment was the least fucking cringe thing ever.

[@dradenlol8667]

“Do not avoid what you find cringe, remove the part of you which cringes” -a meme I saw once

[@notarealperson1481]

Another thing you guys gotta know is that actually mature adults don't find the same things to be cringe that most teens and children find to be cringe. I was bullied and teased in Highschool for being my eccentric self, and I believed that was inherently cringey. Now at age 21, in the working world surrounded by people 30 years old+, most people consider me very charismatic and overall genuinely fun to be around. Immature people are too concerned with appearances and about their judgments about themselves and others. My coworkers and everyone I meet in the "real world" really dgaf. "Don't be lazy, don't be mean and we're good to go" is the consensus in the post-school world.

[@miapapayagirl]

This is possibly my favorite meditation yet! I had a very critical/judgemental parent growing up, and so I internalized a lot of that judgement towards others and myself, but at the same time I was always a bit jealous when I would see other people just vibing and enjoying themselves freely and living life to the fullest even if other people might find it embarrassing. As I've gotten older I've been learning to just let myself just vibe and do the things I enjoy even if I feel like an idiot (or feel like I "should" feel like an idiot) while simultaneously giving myself permission to just not care, because I'm vibing and life's too short not to enjoy myself :)

[@Leetium1]

28:47 Ouch, that hurt. That's exactly what I've been doing for the past few years, and why I've just felt completely stuck. I just have such a hard time actually *getting up* and putting any of the things I'm learning into *practice*. Instead I'm always *in my head* and don't know how to leave. It feels like a fucking prison and I'm my own jailer.

[@remondx8880]

Are you a daydreamer? Do you tend to set ridiculous expectations for yourself?

[@Leetium1]

@@remondx8880 I wouldn't really say I'm a daydreamer. But I am very judgmental/critical and therefore tend to have pretty high expectations of myself/others, yes.

[@ubax7774]

@@remondx8880 I am a daydreamer and put high expectations on myself. What does that mean?

[@remondx8880]

@@ubax7774 Probably that you are, in certain ways, not satisfied with your current life and fantasize about bigger and better things a lot to cope. High expectations can poison your mind. It encourages all-or-nothing actions. "If I can't be a professional musician, I'm better off not playing the guitar at all!". That sucks. It's self-sabotage and probably also due to a bit of a lack of love and respect towards yourself. If you eventually manage to get that under control - easier said than done, I know - there will be much more room in your life for realistic goal setting. You will start to enjoy the windy road towards whatever bigger ambition you have. It feels really good to be able to enjoy the small victories along the way. Mind you, the above is almost entirely based on my own experiences. i *cannot* fill in the blanks of your situation. I needed professional help for this and also a social worker. Take any help you can get if you need it. Allow yourself to be helped, even if it feels embarrassing or makes you feel like a loser. Seriously. Accepting help is a skill that some people need to train in just like any other skill. I know I had to.

[@AlexEzorskyVFX]

Thanks!

[@acharba]

"Only then, when everybody is cringe, will nobody be." -Junior Egg.

[@randowboosh6772]

holy shit the collab that needs to happen

[@accountrarysi2776]

Wow, I didn't expect someone to mention Jreg on this channel. This will make an interesting collab

[@eric.byrdeart]

Unexpected jreg lol. Id love to see a video of these two together

[@iantaakalla8180]

His meta-meta-analyses combined with Dr. K holistic understanding of everything (even liars) would make for a great thing.

[@omars365moments]

Jreg collab is a w

[@Vazio3]

I laughed so hard at Dr.K in the beggining trying not to laugh and do a joke like: "This post is cringe.". Memes apart, that was a really good video as always.

[@PyroX792]

Great points here especially about forcing interactions. That's the #1 way to generate resentment in others is to force them to interact with you. I'm also glad he talked about punishing people for setting social boundaries (the example of the uncle is great). I feel like this short list of things Dr K says targets 90% of the issues socially awkward people have: be engaged when you talk to others, don't let others' judgements rule you, don't be overly judgemental of others and don't force people to talk to you if they don't want to. Do what you can to work on yourself in these areas and it'll get you so far!

[@wizzzer1337]

the feeling when you try very hard not to cringe, you end up having a cringe PTSD about something truly cringe you did in your past.

[@qwefn4550]

True

[@organizedmicrowave4414]

Everyone experiences this, none left unscathed

[@fionnualac4632]

It is a cringe attack, as so named by Dan Howell

[@fakename3208]

I call those cringe bullets. You’ll just be sitting there and all of a sudden BAM, doubled over with cringe

[@shadoll7856]

That is a good point. Also as a potentially cringing side point. They should make something like the cringe force in marvel as a parallel to things like the phoniex force and odin force. Kill with the power of cringe. Only the truly cringy can access this force.

[@jasonyacinthe1778]

It's weird but hearing this makes me think of art school at the moment. People spend so much time judging things and being hypercritical of work and people's actions that they sort of miss the value of who or what their criticizing. Because of that, art school constantly feels like walking on eggshells.

[@geekgod3947]

They're* 🤣

[@shmel3689]

Goddddd I hate when people don't even try to see good things in someone's work. Sometimes you NEED to point out nice parts of someone's work. It doesn't even have to be their technical skill, it can be what their work is about, for example. i.e. a simple "I like the way you portraited this subject, not a lot of people choose this mood" would go a long way. Sometimes it's *essential* to point out where the artist delivered to encourage them to continue.

[@terryh.9238]

yep... and that's why i left

[@michemicalromance]

Relatable, I love drawing and painting but the criticism will at times take the enjoyement away

[@foxxyrola6458]

Good Dr. K, thank you so much for the cringe meditation! Got railed by the Depresso Expresso today while working my night shift, got pretty bad. After a good while of introspection, and a brief talk with some internet frens, decided to just do something personally productive with my free time. (I work front desk at a motel, the upside of the job being is that I get a lot of time to myself to think, and the downside being that I have a lot of time to think.) And thus, started watching some of your videos as I went about my nightly tasks. Listening to music while vibing along with you seriously made my night when it stapled a goofy grin to my face. I danced it right in front of the camera facing the desk and in good view of the windows, so this wasn't just cringe, this was some multi-tiered cringe! Once again, can't thank you enough! Your passion and enthusiasm for life melts my callused heart and warms my blackened soul. With love, FoxxyMama

[@xXFlameFox64Xx]

My ex was embarrassed often on my part because of how "cringe" I was. I care more for how I, and those important to me, view me than how randos might perceive me. I openly embraced the quirky and weird awkwardness of how I am as part of my unique charm and also my social challenge, to which each have their own. However, being reminded constantly by my ex and close friends that my obliviousness is cringe has sort of burned me. I can't help be overly conscious of how "cringe" I appear around those important to me. When it comes to matters I consider very important, that consciousness takes a back seat to the call for action. I don't know how to feel about intimately opening myself up to someone in another relationship. Perhaps I will be too conscious of how cringe I will be to let myself relax. I can, in reflection, realize many times when I am cringe, but I find it extremely difficult to realize it during the moment. Aspergers makes it difficult to read people and their boundaries. I tend to get on really well with everyone around me, but I am terrible at ending conversations and I'm too polite to cut people off, so it just dies out awkwardly. I am very conservative with how I interact, so I seem quiet until either I or someone else breaks the ice, then I am overly talkative and wordy (if this paragraph hasn't shown that already), but I still I give my full attention to the other people. I think I judge myself too much, but other times I judge myself too little; I want to find some sort of balance and center myself. So far, I've been working on my confidence in public and trying to let myself be expressed without shame or overthinking everything. I've managed to do things like sing my heart out in public (not in a crowded area and pretending I am alone), but I haven't done it while acknowledging the people that pass by.

[@dudebro0481]

Wow... I've been doing Cringy shit my entire life and didn't even realize it. It explains a lot actually. Great stuff as usual, Top Marks.

[@berzerius]

Good job! Do not forget and I wish you all the best.

[@alexeonbel4304]

For the past 4 years I've been living in a world of my own design. A world where everything I do is cringey, unlikeable, and unlovable. I hated myself so much for being such a terrible human being. I couldn't get past the feelings of self loathing. A lot of that had to do with a really terrible relationship I had with my ex. The things she had told me cut really deep. On top of that (and it's hard to say because I love them to death) my relationship between me and my parents is also toxic which only has emphasized the negativity in my mental state. But over december I met this girl, and she is the most amazing person I ever met. It was so weird to me that someone could so easily get along with me and want to spend time with me so much. We would just do nothing more than sit in my car and listen to music all night. I finally realized that I was in love with her on Christmas eve. I confessed to her on New Years and she said she felt the same. I felt amazing. Then we went on a date. And that didn't feel so amazing. I couldn't figure it out. What was wrong? And then I realized. Everything I was doing was for self-preservation. Even my confession was the most childish half-baked confession ever given. It was because I was so afraid of being cringey, and I let my anxiety overtake my thought process. I think that's when everything clicked. I wanted so hard to be accepted but was not willing to be true to myself. I wanted her to love this idealized version of me that just wasn't there. I realized that if I wanted to be truly accepted then I had to be true to myself and who I am. I shouldn't have to hide that. And so I worked up the courage yesterday to give her a real confession. A sincere one. And she didn't feel the same way ultimately and I was rejected. But it was weird, I felt so overwhelmed with joy in the aftermath. It actually drove me to tears. For years I had told myself that I was undeserving of love and to love. And I think to finally allow myself to was so relieving. I doubt she'll ever want to talk to me again. The confession was so out the blue and forward that even I would have ran away from myself. But it was something that was more for me than for her. But I'm still so grateful to her. Whether she realizes it or not she helped me learn to love again, and to be a little kinder to myself. Besides, despite how I feel for her I know it just wasn't meant to be and that's ok! I have no doubt that I still have a ways to go. I'm still a work in progress. But I suppose everyone is to a degree. All that to say, I'm really grateful to your videos Dr. K. Without my friends support, and your videos these past 2 yrs., and even to that girl I don't believe I'd ever be able to overcome any of this. I've finally taken that step forward. And I'm forever grateful for it. Thank you so much. And if for whatever reason that girl sees this (she watches these videos too lol). I want you to know that the past month we spent with each other was the best month ever. I haven't been that happy in a while. I wish you the best in whatever it is that you do. You're truly a wonderful person. :)

[@BigManTate7364]

I've been working on healing from childhood traumas and a codependent family system and one of hallmarks of a toxic upbringing is a crippling amount of shame for everything. We will view everything we do as cringey and shameful and often that spills over to others because we project our own shame onto them. Not sure this original commenter had trauma but I can't imagine them feeling everything is cringey if they didn't. As I'm learning to heal from my past I'm aware of how much shame and cringe was a normal part of my daily life and it is a very rigid way to live and robs us of a full, happy life. I wish more of us could loosen up and not worry about the opinions of others as long as we are growing and learning from our mistakes and overall a good person.

[@tommihalonen6471]

I kinda leveled up as a person when I realised the actions I take when the cringe happens, matters. Examples: Somebody's attempting a funny dumb story that doesn't seem to land. I can prepare myself to fill in the awkward silence about to come with something even more dumb Or in the bad dancer scenario I can go and dance even worse than the dude Heard a bunch of bad karaoke from friends in my life and the best course of action seems to be wild cheering These aint easy for me and I'm often not brave enough to pull off this crap but I find these moments enormously good for my self esteem afterwards.

[@woodsofchaos]

Mind is Judgemental 2 short solutions- 1. Learned behavior- you were judged in past by others 2. Externalize- Switch your attention towards the outside instead of staying stuck inside your head What is Actual Cringe- forcing a situation is cringe Forcing an interaction is cringe. Are you letting people go if they want to Do they have an escape route Cringe people figure out the gray zone of where they can avoid rejection and also say something that might make others uncomfortable Do you punish people for leaving Cringe would depend on the kind of relationship you have. If you're not close to someone, less stuff is acceptable to do Marriage is legalised cringe. Appearing Cold vs cringe Same thing. You're stuck in your head in both cases Growing out of it- Seeing someone dance weird at the dance floor Instead of being like that's so cringe Just be like- that's so cool that that person is just doing what they want to Meditation- Vibe with your music and just feel the cringe Just face the embarassment

[@therantingoz]

Loved the "cringe meditation" bit. When he started talking about it I was immediately like "YES! AWESOME!!" what a wonderful idea. People enjoying music is the best. Super happy to see the good doctor enjoying his jams. Got up and danced to some stuff, hahahaha. Great times! I do phase 3 all the time, hahaha. walking down the street, vibing out to music in my mind (because I don't tend to walk with headphones), playing imaginary keyboards and smiling at random people, hahaha. I miss when Covid wasn't a thing and people could not wear masks, the majority of people I smiled to would always smile right back. It was awesome.

[@notarat9303]

i felt so called out on the "cold" part. i will literally not talk to anyone around me bc im so scared im gonna do something wrong. yikes thats....cringe

[@bishsama3252]

when he put on the music and just started vibin, i couldn't stop laughing. it wasn't cringe to me it was just wholesomely hilarious XD

[@Moose92411]

When I became a parent, especially as I got into my later thirties, I started finding my tolerance for inanity waning severely. At the same time, I still make a point to find the joy in things. I can watch teenaged girls shaking their arms around for Tik Tok, and while part of me cringes, another part simply sits back and enjoys that they’re doing something to make themselves happy, at no cost to anyone else. Now I’ve found a good balance where I’m able to step back from the judgements that plagued me for a couple years.

[@treesaretough]

I agree with all of this. When I first started going to music festivals I would have to drink or take a lot of drugs, then maybe I could wiggle to the music slightly. After working on it for awhile I can feel the music more then ever. Its slow but more of my body feels "allowed" to move. I cant deny that its hard work but the rewards are so valuable. I used to cringe at people who make YT vids and now im uploading to YT. Dont be afraid to express yourself, its worth the effort!

[@MarieAvora]

And if you're the first person to start vibing harder to the music, you can make other, less confident people feel more comfortable having more fun as well!

[@pumkinmuscles1104]

Im always trying to lettem know. The real secret is its all cringe. Anyone whos trying to make you feel lesser by saying your likes are cringe gotta lot cringe themselves.

[@juice2]

Incredibly insightful and, as always, practical. I never realized that the definition of cringe could be so simple. Thank you

[@thegildedspoon9234]

The "elbow touch", as I vaguely remember from a video I watched long ago, is done when shaking hands as just an extra gesture that makes the shake firmer or engaging or something, or even just make it more respectful/polite (depends on the actual execution I guess) I just remember that it's how some political/influential/professional people shake hands with other important figures. From what I remember, it's usually done like a quick hold of the elbow or even just a light placement of the hand over it, but I guess if done firmer and/or longer than needed it does seem weird lol

[@TheLadyBlerd]

Some do this on purpose, tho... poor sense of physical boundaries and navigating socially without touching other people 😞

[@maggiepie8810]

Thank you, I really needed this video today. I think you just validated the crap out of my day.

[@SpinThatAgain]

Bro... I love that explanation of cringe it literally helped me realize why I feel cringe in situations and I might've uncovered my root problems all through knowing the definition of the feeling that's essentially ruining my life. Best video yet, for me at least.

[@Brunwald_1410]

One time I was walking to work, earphones on, vibin' to music and playing some air piano(even though i can't really play piano) along the way and at one point I passed a girl who was playing air drums. We noticed each other, smiled and moved on. That was the best interaction with a random person on the street ever, I still remember the exact spot it happend. So yeah when you learn how to overcome that feeling of cringe even by just vibin' to music out in public is a great thing

[@nathalik1]

This came at a pretty good timing. I’m in a point in my life where i cant do anything without cringing. I cringe at literally just drinking water, at talking, my voice, other’s people voices… it became too much.

[@john_smith_john]

?????????????

[@lisaia7877]

I’ve done this meditation ages ago so I’m by most cringe. Hell I recently went into a public bathroom and sang the frozen let it go song full blast and everyone in the bathroom at the time started singing with me- How public was it? Everyone outside of the bathrooms walking by could hear us singing too 😂

[@vizari9570]

"Kill the part of you that cringes, keep the part of you that is cringe."

[@someguycalledcerberus9805]

I've spent my entire life being terrified of being a person like this. I've always been afraid that I'd force my company on other people. This lead me to minimise interaction with people and especially physicality. This probably contributed to me turning out as a 30-year-old friendless incel.

[@ronin9678]

The science of cringe, cringe philosophy, just to name a few of my favorite descriptions of this topic. Please add on to the list.

[@weirdnerdygoat]

Becoming a furry freed me from cringe. Before that, I always felt really self conscious about stuff, and even stopped listening to some music because I thought it was cringe. Then I became a furry. And with so many people calling my new hobby cringe, and hearing some furrys talking about cringe since they get labelled it so often, made me realise it doesn't really matter. Cringe is literally just second hand embarassment. Why should I care if someone else would be embarassed in my place? Like I know that by human standards, I'm VERY cringe. I'm a furry, I listen to villain mode type songs, act very cringey. Basically, you have a limited amount of time in life, so why be bothered by what other people label as cringe? Be free, embrace the cringe

[@Brodysseus113]

It’s because they *feel* like doing that and you can’t empathize. You can’t *feel* how it’s not cringe

[@Beefis99]

Cringe is also a feeling you get, when a social norm/rule has been broken... It's like embarassment to the nth power. For e.g. a weeb acting like a Japanese samurai anime character in the elevator, hitting on a woman... It's weird on so many levels it will induce cringe on behalf of others.

[@hollowedboi5937]

So cringe is forcing a situation on a person without an easy or graceful out, and is often used when not fully immersing in something when seen from afar. In order to get over it, just freaking enjoy crap more

[@BabyMachine]

16:28 This is a phenomenal example. I know for a fact i would be the kid at a wedding saying something like "holy shit, he looks like an idiot!". But at my age now, i would definitely applaud someone for having the balls to dance like an idiot in front of a group of people.

[@guerillo4047]

I HAVE NEEDED THIS VIDEO FOR SO LONG BRO THANK YOU

[@CaptainElizaye]

This made me realize I've been doing cringe meditation practices all my life.

[@jessicapinto3817]

At the exact time Dr. K. said to take a deep breath in the meditation, my song said "let's go" 😂, cringe was over then and there, this timing was too cool

[@danielblagy]

when the meditation for cringe came up, i didn't find it cringy at all and this made me feel good about myself, maybe i'm not so screwed up after all 😄

[@Soysauce821]

Dr.k just now made me conjure up the most cringe moment in my life. All I felt was pure unadulterated cringe but know I feel great about it. Literally took one of the weirdest things I have ever done and made me feel good about it. This is awesome.

[@AlexanderMartinez-kd7cz]

The trick is to be so cringe and so confident that you become based. 1 dab is cringe, 3 dabs in qukck succession are based.

[@RenneVangr]

14:20 Like when my girlfriend at the time said that me and my best friend of 20+ years were making her feel awkward and cringe, because we goof around and wrestle in the shops and streets while she is shopping for clothes. Bruh, she's just jealous of what we have.

[@CatLover-lk9gz]

Heres a tip for you all. Doing something you KNOW is cringe, but not caring, is one of the happiest feelings I know. The most pure joy for just not giving a damn if what your doing or saying is cringe.

[@CatLover-lk9gz]

Another wonderful example. My friend and I had an arguement on the bus. And it was loud. The arguement was simple, No idea how we got to that point. but we were yelling about how to properly eat a piece of dog shit. And I mean yelling. "IF I HAD TO EAT A PIECE OF DOG SHIT, I WOULD COVER IT IN KOOL-AID POWDER." then "NO I WOULD DRY IT OUT AND PUT SOME SALT AND PEPPER ON IT, THEN DRINK KOOL-AID WITH IT." and I mean, it was an arguement that took ages. And I don't even care. I am still LAUGHING about it.

[@tvao9010]

When you’re a kid for example (or even older) you don’t know you or something you do is considered cringe, look dumb or whatever; You get older and notice it, and start limiting yourself and judging others because of that; You notice you are caring too much about it and stop judging others and limiting yourself. A lot of teenagers for example will be at stage 2, judging others for the way they are, thinking the cringe people are at stage 1 and something like “I’m at a superior level for noticing that’s cringe to do, or for noticing that’s not funny, etc” Not only this makes you too judgmental, it can also limit your happiness (dancing example: imagine everybody dancing at a party, the majority doesn’t know how to dance but they are doing it anyways and having fun. Is it better for you to stay in the corner judging everybody while you are the only person not being happy at the moment? Sure, you can not dance for other reasons but for thinking being happy like that is cringe to you?) When someone being happy is cringe to you, you should really analyze it, because that only means you are not able of being happy doing the same thing. About the stage 3, an adult may do something ”cringe” similar to a kid, while a teenager would be thinking they both don’t know they are being cringe, that may be true for the kid while the adult actually knows he looks dumb doing something (like playing with kids) but he’s been through that phase that the teenager is at were he would care about it.

[@kronosthetimewaifu4841]

Well... if everything is cringe, than nothing is...

[@pizzatime8917]

@Leagueclips being anything you want is cringe

[@VinnieGer]

Powerful scene from The Incringables

[@kronosthetimewaifu4841]

@@VinnieGer shiiit. I didn't think of that. I would pin this.

[@Marqan]

omg, that "meditation" had me wheezing for a solid 5 minutes :D Dr K just CatJamming to the music and shouting "FEEL THE CRINGE" 😂 great stuff!

[@TheXeeman]

So for the meditation part, we basically have to be like evil toby McGuire from spiderman

[@Arcadayo]

Thank you Dr. K for embracing the cringe! I did a similar activity to the music meditation except I walked around at a semi-formal public space in a COSTUME where nobody else was wearing a costume, it was incredibly cringe but I absolutely loved it. I felt free!

[@The_Caledonian]

Cringe is a word that has been used and abused during the later days of the internet especially in meme/gaming culture and amongst trolls. Often I find those who over-use it are losers anyway.

[@panlis6243]

"I'm cringe and that's based And I will never be based and that's not cringe But there's no one I'd rather be Than me"

[@renanbo6562]

When he said: “Is there a meditation for cringe” I lol’d so hard, but it actually really helped lol

[@patticakie5861]

Ok that practice was actually spectacular lol. Really worked!

[@anyderrosek5143]

Did Dr.K convince me to bully Maguire my way to the city?

[@TheNeatwork]

This is the most based

[@sebs4156]

For the meditation part of dancing in public, I recommend doing it on the car and dance for the person on the other car, like look at them while dancing. I think it’s easier since then u can just drive away and there is no other possible interaction lol

[@JaxsonGalaxy]

Level 4 - ignore the blaring alarm in your pocket reminding you to get to class on time, standing in the hallway, before class, because you can't hear it - have people approach you to ask you to remove your headphones so that they can tell you your phone alarm is going off and disturbing everyone around you even more than just being the one guy with headphones on in the hallway, vibing to his own tunes.

[@fakename3208]

Bonus points, lower your fly first.

[@nicf1555]

"Sir can u please stop vibing this is a job interview"

[@mabblepabble]

i absolutely needed this. holy shit. thank you so much.

[@torchmusic27]

The anti-cringe meditation is my favorite Dr K moment ever

[@littlegreenclementine]

yo I literally did the "surpass the cringe" version of your meditation segment (first part) like, everyday as a kid learning to play an instrument in a group setting (orchestra in my case) - like, it's really awkward at first to move your body with musical queues but you just gotta let it go and let the music guide you (it definitely helps when there are "cringey" folks around you also doing it and leading the way lol)

[@xeikai]

You know, i had a moment where i was listening to music just like the meditation he did. It was Tool's The pot, and i was in class just feeling it and i kind of got carried away and people were staring when i opened my eyes and i felt really embarrassed. But later i had one of them come up to me and ask me what i was listening to that was so good.

[@gummiken3338]

lookin for a video to listen to while i edit two videos where i have to hear myself, wasnt what i was literally looking for but really glad i came across this cuz i never woulda found otherwise and it's real interesting. ty

[@MultiTripleRainbow]

That thumbnail triggered my fight or flight response

[@dingus_maximus]

The meditation reminded me of this middle-aged guy I used to see every morning on the way to school. He would walk down the street in full American flag garb. We’re talking shorts, tank top, bandanna, all with the flag pattern. He had a pretty strong gait too, a bit of a strut to it. He looked ridiculous, but he gave me something to look forward to every morning after having to getting up at 6:00 just to spend the rest of my day bored out of my mind. He may have been cringe, but he fully embraced it, and so did I.

[@FaizalKuntz]

I just remembered something cringe, and KZbin notified me this.

[@rinshotin2521]

hi I like your pfp and banner it's really cute!

[@cloberlobster2276]

@@rinshotin2521 really, I feel the opposite. I think it's too, sexual.

[@hiro_444]

Damn I don't think I've been able to relate to a healthygamer post this much

[@gamingdragon2361]

I do that meditation on the daily as just being who I am. I've already mastered cringe meditation LMAO. Seeing everyone in chat crying about it then there's me like "that's just a normal Tuesday lmao"

[@matheuswohl]

like "you trying to tell me that vibin' with headphones at work isn't normal?" lol been doing that for too long to stop now

[@ImprovementGang]

Cringe is like its own entity in your mind. You can just think its a toxic and immature entity talking to you, but the thing is…you don’t have to listen. Making sure that you listen to reason and conduct properly should be the voice to listen to

[@dad2827]

Dr. K. Can you make a video about forming good habits? Like I am struggling with this.

[@johnnymonarco2073]

Hey man, Andrew Huberman has a good video on this, you should check it out

[@dad2827]

@@johnnymonarco2073 Thanks man

[@plixplop]

This is pretty amazing to hear - one big epiphany I had years ago as a VERY awkward young man was to "embrace" and revel in the cringe, somehow I got myself to almost enjoy the weirdness of awkward situations.

[@branmuffinyogurt9368]

Dr K. Meets an average r/teenager user. Jk. Love the stuff doctor & staff

[@Asakedia]

One of the best videos i've seen lately, especially the last part!