Your Hatred of Cringe Makes No Sense

Is this video cringe? maybe lol
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Inspired by:
Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness by Melissa Dahl
"Why Everything You Do is Cringe" by HealthyGamerGG
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References/Sources:
KZbin:
Why Everything You Do Is Cringe - HealthyGamerGG
News Articles:
Why we cringe, and why it can be a good thing - Angela Chen
I Talked to Strangers for a Week, and It Did Not Go Well - Melissa Dahl
The Psychology Of Cringe (And How To Work Through The Feeling) - Nancy Groves
Why Do We Cringe - Aditi Murti
The Unexpected Benefits of Cringing - Melissa Dahl
Papers:
Mayer, Annalina Valpuri, Frieder Michel Paulus, and Sören Krach. "A Psychological Perspective on Vicarious Embarrassment and Shame in the Context of Cringe Humor." Humanities 10.4 (2021): 110.
Books:
Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness by Melissa Dahl
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[@renaigh]

"Don't kill Cringe, kill the part of you that Cringes" - IDK

[@vepply]

pretty sure that was sun tzu, in "the art of war"

[@ACF_Real]

Man I’m going to blow myself up with an atomic bomb!

[@lordofthegremlins]

The real problem is people putting so much merit in the word "cringe." It's just a word. It doesn't mean anything other than, "I don't like it." In other words it's another way of saying, "I find it offensive," or, "I find it shocking," or, "I find it politically incorrect." It's a way of saying any of these three without sounding like a whiny infant that's throwing a temper tantrum over something as petty as unpopular ideas no less. It doesn't work on me though. I've seen through the bullshit spin a long time ago.

[@oldhunterundol3243]

After seeing a grown man reck a restaurant while screaming about Rick and Morty I've built a tolerance to cringe

[@svcky_svcker]

hey jokes aside this actually kind of hits

[@pineapplefarmer7352]

"The cringe man thinks he is always based, but the based man knows he is often cringe" -Aristotle

[@karlsoriso2304]

facts

[@santolosa]

based on what

[@pineapplefarmer7352]

@@santolosa based on Joe

[@MickulyashyYT]

@@pineapplefarmer7352 whos joe

[@pineapplefarmer7352]

@@MickulyashyYT joe rogan

[@mana44567]

i may be cringe, but i am free

[@rayanna7188]

Same

[@Someone-er1kc]

Took long for me to realise

[@BobbyKennedy-ss5ts]

D0rk

[@alialshaikh3711]

cringe

[@user-burner]

​@@alialshaikh3711thanks for the compliment!

[@cookiesyruplover]

I hate cringing. I'm so self-conscious and I hate it. It's exhausting to be so judgemental and I'm aware of it happening and I try to stop my head from thinking or feeling this way but growing up in an environment that likes to gossip and likes to ostracize, it's a hard habit to kill. I hope it becomes the norm to be more accepting with authenticity, along with being able to tell what's authentic or not. Great video btw, love the editing and visuals. Like that part about us having different versions of ourselves in other people's head segment. Short but straight to the point.

[@aliveslice]

What if you cringe at something you do not find authentic

[@thequestion3953]

Hey buddy, just to let you know you’re never going to stop cringing and feeling awkward. The thing to do is to be able to sit with these feelings without allowing them to drive your behaviour. We’re humans were built to feel emotions, no way around it.

[@simonsanchezkumrich8489]

Use mindfulness with those thoughts and feelings. Works like a charm

[@shuvame]

man i damn near cried reading this so fuckin real

[@ragmamale4783]

Woah you just described a part of me.

[@chick2d]

I wish you were more popular, this is the kind of content which makes me feel less alone because so many people end up believing in so many things Also your content is just plain brilliant and your storytelling is honestly amazing, thank you

[@georgiagalaxy]

^_^

[@HopefulMathGirl]

I agree. Thanks for expressing it so well.

[@NegatingSilence]

The trend of people labelling too many things "cringe" is piss on the already dimming fire of creativity and individuality in western culture.

[@tristanmorris9556]

Did you read my mind? I've legit been seriously thinking about what an uptight, awkward person I am (and logically I know people around me don't care as much as I do), and this video came at a perfect time! This really helped push me to get out of my comfort zone and face my cringe fears. 😂 I love how short and simple and straight to the point your videos are. Keep it up man!

[@DaRocketGuy]

Dude i was just about to comment the same thing, slowly realizing a lot more people than i thought share the same thoughts as me is really eye opening

[@tristanmorris9556]

@@DaRocketGuy we're all connected some form or another :)

[@Sentimectal]

Nah bro cringe have meaning maybe you cringe to people breathing air so you don't know why you cringe noob

[@syntheticsilkwood2206]

Nothing authentic is cringe people are just insecure and basic af

[@144chosen]

This

[@bebe8842]

spot on

[@SirQuantization]

What if someone cringes at something because they think it’s inauthentic but they are mistaken?

[@blackcat-fr6lu]

Cringe asf

[@werecat9834]

​@@SirQuantization Dude, that was pure cringe. You made it.

[@HopefulMathGirl]

I feel really sad that I have lost my authentic self and can't express myself anymore. I used to be vocal about being authentic but now find myself judging others. KZbin has made it so much worse. KZbin is really judgmental and they're so insensitive to people's even tiniest normal behavior. KZbin crowd isn't emotionally intelligent.

[@MrAlright1111]

THIS.

[@HopefulMathGirl]

@@brokenhanz-o4m Thank you, sending you much love too! I'm trying hard to express myself as well :)

[@xem_ity]

my "how to avoid judging things you find cringe" foolproof method: 1. ask yourself, did the cringe kill your entire family and start world war 3? 3. react accordingly 2. profit

[@Anniecurls]

no but it's so annoying. Some people rly think they are cool for doing something but it's pretty obvious they just want to stand out. You'll feel that person wants to be seen so bad. They are desperate people. Like why do u think we have to care you doing that expression? No ur not cool act normal. I even know some people will do an expression that is so annoying they think they're being funny or cute, It's so annoying!!

[@Anniecurls]

sometimes u even want to ask them, seems like ur parents didn't give u much attention huh?" They are so loud, they are so annoying and they always complain! Those people are also mean too im telling u... If not mean, they are acting needy

[@dinoknightz]

​@@Anniecurls I think you have the right to judge people when they're being annoying or rude, especially when it affects you in some way. But if it's a passing and harmless thing, and makes you feel reactive, I really think it's better to reflect and learn why you would take those things personally. I only have a vague understanding of the context you're describing, but it seems to me you're referring to specific people or behaviors you've experienced. But honestly, you seem judgemental. As long as it's harmless and not directing any harm towards anyone, I think 'act normal' is a blanket statement for censoring your authentic self, people should be able to be cringe, weird, whatever nonsense in their own space freely. who really cares, our time is short, have fun, be loving, be eccentric, be cringe! I do have people in my life I think are attention seeking but to me I don't think it's in bad-faith, nor do I give in to it, it's like a middle ground of I don't care, I detach myself from them if it gets to me too much. I'm much more at peace when the way others act don't get to me, but in most cases I don't judge, people are still humans at heart

[@trajectory7235]

I've been questioning lately what "cringe" truly means, and if it's really such a bad thing. It's a label that you throw around when you feel uncomfortable, but when you stop and question why you feel that way, it's hard to think of a proper reason ("it's cringe because... it's cringe"). It always felt like to me that that judgement came from a place of ego. I don't like it when I find myself feeling negatively about someone because of something I perceived as "cringe". I'm tired and I've got a bunch of thoughts in my head now and I don't know if anything I said makes any sense. But basically, I found your perspective interesting and validating. What I got from it was: being afraid of being seen as "cringe" limits our development and potential, and being negative towards other people because of something we perceived as "cringe" limits our connection and understanding of others.

[@santy64xdprro29]

Awesome interpretation

[@simonsanchezkumrich8489]

Very good comment

[@ziachung4547]

underrated

[@tfaide]

Great perspective.

[@xDomino3x]

Very informative. Changed the way I think. I used to do a lot of judging from cringing. I’m going to try the other type of cringe from now on. The more positive kind. I would like to see a much more authentic world as well.

[@TarzanHedgepeth]

Usually, I’m the cringe. And I do not care. That is your problem. Which is what let’s me be so cringe…

[@Elliecham]

I like the way you think. I'm cringe and corny, but it's liberating. Find people who embrace who you are and vice versa.

[@soundacresstudio]

I find your spacing cringe I Feel as though I could learn how to enhance M. Y cringe by 🙌

[@TarzanHedgepeth]

@@soundacresstudio Yes, you could.

[@Cheddarwars]

The fact I read the comment in a robotic voice makes it better

[@TarzanHedgepeth]

@@Cheddarwars *The fact that I did not use any contractions between “I’m” and “let’s” makes it even cringier.* static beep

[@dustind4694]

Normative behavior to avoid embarrassment is wasted effort. Conscious, deliberate and compassionate behavior, that's the stuff.

[@dustind4694]

Or, to truncate even further, you got it right in one. Rock on.

[@toastielad4760]

Most content that talks about philosophy in this way is usually polarizing and only appeals to the people that already believe in that thing. I am so glad to see that you are breaking the mold and cannot wait to see your channel grow. Let's be more authentic!

[@comotelevu6958]

Being more accepting of authentic-ness is great but don't ignore the fact that people will likely thing something is cringe in their mind secretly.

[@miraculouslypurrfect1756]

I love how you think. I've called myself cringe in front of others many times and all of a sudden I started feeling cringe about it. Cringing after listening to others' comments about the way I present myself made me self-conscious and uncomfortable and after a while, I HAD to find out its origin. Thank you so much for giving the word cringe a better meaning. As you said, I think cringe just means being authentic and having the courage to be unique. It is not something to be ashamed of. People who do not have the guts to go against social norms judge others and call them cringe or just cringe at them. Thank you for explaining it so well!

[@lyu9765]

"Im cringe and that's based, I'll never be based and thats not cringe, there is no one i'd rather be... than me."

[@Phoenix.Sparkles]

I can't say the sentence makes much sense anymore, but I get it

[@fireproximity4225]

I've never accepted my own cringe, time to embrace it

[@PremiuM-cf2et]

Your videos are so underrated dude, I can't find these types of high quality videos anywhere else that discuss these topics. Cringe I personally see often used to persuade viewers (EX: X Cringe, Y Based, do Y).

[@georgiagalaxy]

This helped me care even LESS of what people think of me, and even recognise cringe when it happens and actually embrace it :) Thank you SO much This shit is super inspiring man 😩😩❤️❤️💗💕💖✌🏻

[@itstonycia]

I’ve used to cringe at myself every so often I guess but even more now..and I’m vocalizing it by calling myself cringe..and it’s not helping me I know!

[@dhrutube]

Now that I think about it, a lot of people around me find so many things cringe which I find funny or even like. Seeing my friends cringe at electric cars, I guess they were actually cringing whereas I like the idea of them. I guess the more you want to fit in, the more you cringe at things.

[@LightGlyphRasengan]

Cringe just seems to be a vibe, depending on who or what it effects.

[@Societyman123]

I think it mostly just depends on what is being cringed at

[@delia_ra]

It’s sad how seriously we take 'cringe' nowadays. I used to share my music covers on KZbin and loved it during my teens. But at some point, I started labeling them as 'cringe' , stopped posting, and even deleted most of them, which felt like rejecting a genuine part of myself.

[@jinsflsg]

This was really insightful. As a person who cringes alot this gave me a perspective and i think its going to be so much more relief if i just let people be thay way or do whatever they're doing instead of judging it aw cringe, normal or cool.

[@johnmarkther2218]

What I would give to have had someone like you in my life as a kid! If someone had been so kind to explain this to me, I could've saved myself and others a lot of trouble You make wonderful videos, and it's a comfort to know i'm not the only one thinking about these things.

[@porkydorky]

Hey man, I just wanted to say I found your channel recently, and it is some of the best content I have ever seen. Production and all that is great, but the messages/themes and the intelligent display of said messages, is fantastic. Your videos have moved me emotionally multiple times. Keep it up man fr

[@Fads]

Wow, thanks! I definitely willl!!

[@karan_kataria0713]

Crazy how quickly you’ve become one of my favorite content creators. Hope to have a channel like yours one day :) inspiring and thought provoking

[@EmeralBookwise]

Absolutely. I get really sick and tired of the kinds of people who use the word "cringe" as term of derision. So long as no one is being hurt, just let people be themselves.

[@bxllxdxnnx]

thank you so much for this, you put a lot of words to what i've been feeling. i'm the awkward black sheep of an incredibly judgy family and the more distance i put between myself and them, the less judgy i get the less viscerally painful cringey things have become for me. not to mention a great many things have ceased to be cringe at all, and i'm overall more well-adjusted and happier. granted i still have a ways to go, i think the contemptuous empathy label is spot on

[@Eliza-ie3zx]

5:55 this made me smile. Everyting i like it apparently 'cringe'. Once my friend thight i didn't know what something was so i told him i knew what it was and had a better version of it. He said it was cringe and i literally said this: 'i didnt know when your proved wrong or something you hate is now cringe.'

[@reported5135]

cringe is just being self aware how stupid people are alot of the time or just the funny things we do like. when I do something cringe and I'm self aware it doesn't mean I'll not do it again infact I might want to do it again on purpose cuz its fun to make people feel awkward. Thats what people do all the time.

[@yellowberrio]

This was beautiful, I love it!! About to send this insightful video to all the people who are so uptight, so judgmental, and just can't seem to embrace/tolerate any kind of 'cringe'

[@l1p0v]

Embrace the cringe, that's what I always tell myself. But then occasionally I see some tiktok dance and I say fuck it this is too much for my mental health.

[@geministrial950]

Once you realize and start accepting that everyone does cringe things and that cringe is a fundamental part of the human experience, you feel less affected by it. At least i do.

[@julienbiessy7548]

thank you for making the world a better place, one video at a time ! please never stop :)

[@dinnerwithlydia]

Really appreciate this reality check today, and I learn so much from your videos!

[@lynax6980]

this makes so much sense! especially because i realize i cringe the most at things i relate to, like if i see someone else going through an “awkward” phase that i also had at some point.

[@bebe8842]

neah! cringe is for selfish, empty , unaware minds. but it's good cuz we detect them exactly when the cringe happens. nothing to learn or admire in cringgy folks. they highlight issues!

[@CareerDropout.]

This and something else I've read today has encouraged me to further compose something specific in music.

[@maxgoldstein7202]

Do it bro !!

[@TayoEXE]

I think this resonates a lot with me or others who don't feel like they "fit in" with the world at times. Authenticity is something I really valued and felt I could even detect when I was younger, and I understand why people would have issues with some forms of expression, etc., but I do agree that we could all try to be a little more empathetic. I'm a highly thoughtful and emotive person. I think a lot about what matters to me, and I tend to write essays, and well, on the internet, people don't seem to like to read, even a few paragraphs. I get it. I shouldn't be as wordy, and that's something I acknowledge I can work on, but that's more of a skill issue and less of a personality issue I'd say. In other words, it hurts when I write something that sounds highly emotive or personal to me and someone calls it "cringe" or simply chooses to think I'm being unauthentic or get likes or something. What lead to people just assuming the worst in others, especially those they don't know? People do things for a reason, and I don't think it's fair to assume they do it from any intentionally negative place right off the bat. Authenticity for me is just being able to step aside from what others think or even re-evaluating your own perspectives and biases and getting to your core values, needs, desires, and goals. When that comes out as expression, some may judge, even if it's perfectly okay, ethically and lawfully. It's one reason why people are afraid to dance in front of others but may love to do a funny dance at home when no one is around. It really doesn't hurt anyone, just presents itself as a target for someone to reaffirm their own ego.

[@fatemehlh]

I really like your thoughts on this. I have always been creative, but the only thing stopping me from creating like making a business, making videos, art, is the cringe. I think a lot more people would be willing to produce and create if we got out of this barrier of cringe

[@comotelevu6958]

This is a serious problem. But, internally I cannot block out feeling of some things being cringe. Main thing I can do is not judge it as much and just accept it as enjoyable for others and my thoughts are just a personal preferrance.

[@eglantinepapeau1582]

cringe is a natural reaction , like having nausea when there's a bad smell , your body is warning you.

[@user-burner]

No? It's a cultural reaction. When you see someone violate a societal rule, that causes "cringe."

[@eglantinepapeau1582]

@@user-burner the cringe describes a physical reaction . the "cultural reaction" you're talking about is when the cringy people get angry .

[@user-burner]

@@eglantinepapeau1582 I mean technically you aren't wrong? But I think we aren't talking about literal cringing, more so in the way the internet likes to use the term as an adjective.

[@TMan10103]

Except when dumbasses perceive anything that is deep or insightful as “cringe” that’s when you are just emotionally immature. There’s a difference. Cringe is perspective.

[@CodyCLI]

All I'm saying I don't care what you think, the more assumptions you make, the less knowledgeable you are in general. This is also an appeal to nature fallacy, just because something is natural, doesn't mean it is desirable. If we followed this line of reasoning we would still be in caves.

[@md.279]

Great vid, absolutely changed my mind about cringing👏🏻 your channel is so underrated man we don’t see much of this awesome content elsewhere

[@nuclear_reactor5x5]

"The ones who cringe are the average, also known as being valueless; feeble. Their minds have a box - that box is a cage. Whereas other people who don't cringe are rarer, thus possessing more value, and their minds are free; open. The latter is the wiser." - Andrew Benitez (me)

[@anitalopes6879]

Wowww I´m so glad to finally see a video with the same opinion I´ve had for years!! I feel so understood, thank you.

[@marko112kg]

“There are three lovely critical expressions: pretentious, gratuitous, profound. None of which I truly understand.” Nicholas Roeg, director

[@matrat6648]

Great video as always

[@Sabadikulforever7273]

Omg I needed this today while I was cringing and crawling out of my skin !!!

[@gobble_gang]

3 videos deep and 3 brand new perspectives that recontextualize how I think about myself and the world that surrounds me. Damn.

[@Anja_Pearson]

Thanks so much for the video! Short, sweet, and very thought-provoking! I love your channel ❤️

[@briannadickson2884]

I'm in the middle. Cringe is involuntary 😅 but at the same time, underneath it I applaud them. But I'm glad I'm not them lol 😂

[@Kalliope-ut8cz]

This is one of my new favorite videos. I'm so glad I found your channel!

[@isabellejoubert1075]

I love this

[@blued6425]

Great idea. Except impossible, You can't just kill cringe.

[@katydennington8046]

You seem so open minded I love it!

[@1994moviebuff]

When I was a kid when something was “cringe” we just said it was “stupid” or “gay”

[@Soooooooooooonicable]

"I would really prefer if you'd be quiet"💀

[@TheSpellKaster]

i feel like cringe culture disproportionally targets queer and neurodivergent folks aswell, which is (and this should go without saying) bad

[@hungarianmodel9465]

Love your videos, they're so enlightening! Also, I think people must have felt cringe when Galileo said the Earth is round.

[@LiLiotL]

My main issue with myself right now is cringing at myself for liking things intended for a younger audience. I love splatoon and warrior cats and despite the fanbase being mostly people my age, since i became an adult i suddenly feel like im not allowed to like these things anymore. Ive had people call me a pedo or cringe for liking things marketed towards kids that ive never experinced as a minor and it really hurts. Even though i love these things so much i feel like forcing myself to avoid them because i have to "act my age" whatever that means

[@voyagersmarch8776]

let them eat cupcake

[@kshroom]

"Embrace the cringe, eat the based!" -kshroom

[@rolipoli7601]

Well to me, I have the freedom to cringe at people and people also have the freedom to cringe at me because cringe is completely harmless, and everybody cringe. Just like how I have the freedom to judge people and people have the freedom to judge me. Just accept that everyone judges, same thing

[@falcon2624]

YOOOO just found you. Love your work man. Please continue!

[@Ayanok0jikiyotoka]

Somethings are really cringe and need not be deemed okay.

[@milkycolaaa]

yeah like content farms

[@ruminator3570]

I wonder if ballet dancers and gymnasts suffer fear of cringe/awkwardness the most?

[@Axolot2705]

Man this channel looks amazing. I just found you man and just the names of the videos show your quality. Gained a new subscriber.

[@metaDeWeta]

Just discovered the Fads channel and I'm really enjoying your down to earth thought sharing. Very humble and inspiring. Keep up the good work!

[@potapotapotapotapotapota]

that's actually pretty based advice bro

[@RazziLuix]

I live in the USA! I'm close to middle-aged...whoops/shhh.....😅 But, what I've noticed here is that there is an intense dependency abuse between the male and female encountering each other's presence through the public dominion. Of course we understand, the approach of man and also not in the least the gender biased associated regarding the present situation. Males are heavily committed to whatever it is they want... And they force that appetite on the female. "Don't kill Cringe"! ❤

[@TruffulyCake]

A great moment for me was when I realized that cringe is actually usually a great opportunity for ironic humor

[@cassandranoble2649]

Well said! Showing this to my college freshmen who called Hamilton "cringe"

[@camscoggs]

Your thumbnails are super intriguing, I just had to check the channel out. I like the content, keep it up 👍

[@insomnimaniac58]

You've been putting out so much quality content, man. Subscribed, hope you get more popular!

[@chauKlet]

Really glad to find your channel im wishing for your continued success

[@Filman99]

Glad you came up on my feed!! Love the content 💖

[@peachaesthxtic23]

Im socially so awkward, cringe and anxious but i cannot accept the fact that people dont care. When i sit among my peers, i can literally feel them get uncomfortable because i radiate so much awkward energy. And yes, they notice, its not like they dont care at all. This makes them drift away from me, or pick on me over my insecurity.

[@matthewadams3724]

Damn feel you

[@alecsteeves9997]

Found you in recommended. You’re about to blow up dude 👍

[@PinacoladaMatthew]

You never judge children being cringy, but you judge grown-ups being cringy, why?

[@noncomplacent]

It's okay if you never grow up, bud. We won't tell anyone.

[@TomInTheSky2001]

Bro you're killing it. Your videos are awesome, I can take a lot of inspiration for my channel from you and your style. Keep it up man, you can reach the top.

[@an4189]

“Maybe we could all try being a bit more cringe” please god no there is too much already I can’t take it 😅😂

[@CR-yz1wt]

I thoroughly enjoyed hearing this concept through this viewpoint. Definitely going to examine this principle in myself !

[@emanuelerenda7002]

Oh man Ive seen many of your videos now and I genuinely appreciate your work, I like the content, I like the vibes. If you like this too just keep up and I'm sure you will reach much more visibility. Wish you the best!

[@Violet_Eryn]

Thankyou , you really help me 😢

[@Jay-xr2cy]

quickly becoming my favorite channel

[@WreckingBallers]

Great analysis for a difficult concept to cover

[@CareerDropout.]

. . . Which award is given in music appreciation to artist who reached a "Cringe Theory" peak in their path of creativity. Why aren't those such as underground artist who switch to mainstream and those who switch to underground from mainstream awarded in the same way as a very skillful jazz musician plays through modes in a secondary dominant approach that's still very much appealing ?

[@MontCerene]

I may be cringe but at least I'm having fun being it

[@swiftandbold9132]

your videos are always very well made and im always excited to watch new posts, i cant wait to see how far your amazing channel will grow!!

[@reinhard5921]

This really needs to be spread

[@iluvsyphonfilter]

I'm binge watching your channel, very good videos!

[@cwinchcarwash2629]

Brilliant points made. Very wise ❤

[@sorayasayeh9135]

"Don't kill the part of me thats cringe Kill the part of me that cringes" Akram amane.

[@kelowna1366]

I feel like this channel will blow up very soon

[@let_it_sin_kin]

so happy i found your channel ♥️

[@Leticia-rc4dy]

Fantastic video!

[@ameliagates8125]

Very well put, amazing video 😊

[@HopefulMathGirl]

I think you are a really intelligent and confident person by the way.

[@144chosen]

Are you a lonely math girl?

[@HopefulMathGirl]

@@144chosen Kind of. Are you the Chosen one?

[@144chosen]

@@HopefulMathGirl of course I am. Wanna do a Lonely Math Girl X Chosen One collab?

[@Skrubmeister]

Cringe.@@144chosen