4 Things A Man Needs To FEEL In Order To Fall For You (Make Him See You As Relationship Material!)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

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[@mind_bee]

Please share link yo mat's you've channel, if he has one.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Shivani, I believe Mat is going to start building up his KZbin channel, I’ll definitely post a link once it’s ready!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

WOOHOO so many amazing calls so far with your tribe! You truly are an incredible and powerful group of ladies :)

[@jobaldwin]

Done! So cool, thank you, can't wait. 😀

[@Mat_Shaffer]

@@mind_bee here it is! It's fresh but Im adding new videos every day :) kzbin.info/door/rao3T10IlKub8MH5W-6REA

[@katherine6029]

7:33 R - respected for what he is contributing to the world 17:19 A - acknowledged for what he's doing in every area of his life. men are do-ers, expressing themselves through their actions. 25:44 S - safe. men need a safe space to be emotionally vulnerable. 46:55 E - excited to be with you. the woman represents something completely different than the stress and heaviness of the man's mission, purpose, job, etc. 39:47 - Why detachment from outcome is the most powerful tool you can have in dating

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for summarizing these, Katherine! 💝

[@faa1412]

Thank you so much!

[@amdjoy251]

I can't express enough...how grateful I am for your posting!! Not sure why these streamers feel the need to be so wordy and lengthy.

[@jessitabonita]

@@amdjoy251 I’m not about to say it’s the only reason why, but KZbin ad revenue that content creators earn from their content being consumed is a big reason... It’s also basic personal branding 101: the more an audience consumes a person’s content, the more they’ll return for more.

[@huongnguyen2504]

Thank you so much for the brief.

[@adel8632]

"we need each other".... "interdependence"

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Adel RIGHT?! We truly do crave connecting with each other in a deep fundamental way and once we do, we can raise each other to such profound heights! Interdependence is beautiful :)

[@ananeixon]

Yes!! Freedom to be ourselves and relate from that to create a third entity together!!👍🏼

[@jessitabonita]

Yes! It’s so good that women are waking up to the “independent don’t need a man” LIES. There is financial incentive to keep men and women single: twice the bills, stifled wealth building, indebted consumerism, and more selfish individuals dying alone and even more sadly: being delusion about their lonely reality. 😔

[@maryjoybasilisco3273]

He is right on spot! His parents did a good job on him. He's an amazing resource person. A very nice informative video 😍👍

[@Mat_Shaffer]

HAHA thanks so much Mary Joy! :) yes my parents are pretty amazing and I am so grateful for them!

[@trajanaveloff7383]

We are on that place and he doesn't talk

[@trajanaveloff7383]

Demanding

[@kassandraduncan9652]

Yes, please do a session regarding the balance between safety and excitement! I believe women need to understand this about men.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for the great suggestion, I can definitely record a video on this!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

That's a GREAT topic for a video Kassandra thank you for suggesting!!

[@barbaratucker2924]

You need this man on your show alot more...from his view as a man, he gave very good points....loved this..he is VERY GOOD ! This man is GREAT!!! TY!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I'm glad you enjoyed this, Barbara! Yes, Mat is awesome. Here are some of our most recent videos if you haven't seen them yet: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pavRZoaAgdpoobs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/qmjGmn-sd9t0gsk, kzbin.info/www/bejne/b6W5lIiwgL2pmMk, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJuxcmqmqdeEfpo and kzbin.info/www/bejne/gpS2eox4otGhsK8.

[@sweetvonbettie1]

You dont even understand how much ive learned here. So far im doing good. Next step making him feel safe. Wish me luck guys! I dont want to sabotage anything here.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I'm so glad this was helpful! We'd love to hear how this goes for you.

[@dellchica2373]

Give him the space to pursue his passion.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, that’s SO important! 💜

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Men thrive in SPACE, women in closeness! :)

[@jessitabonita]

Yes! Women sound crazy when they complain that they want a high value man who makes a certain amount of money, yet complain he works too much on his purpose and have no time for her. 🥴 Especially the entitled women who “won’t settle” unless he makes six-figures: that salary requires more work than a typical 40 hour 9-5. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@dionnecarter3008]

My parents are dead I don't know them but my adopted parents been fussing fighting until always been abuse my whole life until I meet this man and he show me how to love and take care of myself when he left me my life fell apart I need and love him he needs me to be there for him I'm lose and I love him when ever he need my shoulder to cry on I'm here 💯💯💯💖💖💖😘😘😘

[@vhayashi7369]

Bless you! Believe in yourself and focus on what you want like it's already coming and manifest the right one will come! Hugs!

[@Metaphysicalmindspace777]

This is awesome. I love hearing the male perspective. Thank you for posting.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I love Mat’s perspective too.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

So glad you enjoyed it! Much more to come! :)

[@tianiemitchell5692]

Being honest and real in a calm way

[@iamnatassja]

"Me do GOOD??! ME DO GOOD??!!"...it's so true!! 🤣😂👌🏾

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, absolutely!

[@dionnecarter3008]

When he speaks my ears are open he had my full attention he always touches my heart 💖💖💖

[@lauriesimonds9229]

The polarity between feminine Helena & Masculine Mat was spot on in this video. Mat - you crushed it!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, Mat gives great advice! 💙

[@glugo3365]

Thank Mat. I feel moved and hopeful. I am learning to relate to men with my divine femininity and state my boundaries without making them feel invited to a level of intimacy I am not ready. Thank you again. 🥰

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I'm so happy to hear that!

[@nancydrollette2899]

Helena I love how you and Matt explained leaning back but then opening up and connecting... and YES!!! A video just on that would be awesome!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I love this Nancy!! Will explore this on a future video for sure :)

[@victoriousjoy9338]

I agree!

[@tianiemitchell5692]

That's why I helped him to relax his responsibilities and enjoy life again as if he was a teenager or child

[@tianiemitchell5692]

By respecting him as a man and his opinions even if they different from your own

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💜

[@lovewillwinnn]

RASE Respect. Acknowledgement Space Excitement

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES you got it!!

[@scarlettenoir]

Isn’t S for safety?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

scarlettenoir That’s another great S!

[@viciousscorpio22]

Saving relationships one video at a time, Helena and Mat Your the best 💞

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Lilly! I’ll be doing some more livestreams with Mat on my channel next month. 💙

[@ellenachi8039]

What I did along these lines, was say " The most impressive thing about you , is that you would serve many years in the Navy protecting the country, and then come home and find yet another way to protect people with your chosen vocation (electronics maintenance , security for govt, fire and commercial) , We have the same exact mission to protect others, only mine manifests as the desire to keep elderly safe in their own homes (home PT). For which he ssid thank you.

[@christineribone9351]

Whatever

[@christineribone9351]

Whatever

[@dionnecarter3008]

The space that I have always held for him is my big 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@dionnecarter3008]

My heart my arms and my door are always open for him we will be safe and stable beening with him my life will be complete 💖💖💖

[@kassandraduncan9652]

Thank you so much for this information. Mat is the best guest on here so far in my opinion. Please bring him back on! Good stuff! ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome, Kassandra! Mat is going to be recording a series of videos for my community here on KZbin, I'll be posting them soon!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

WOW appreciate that feedback Kassandra thanks so much! We have lots of powerful topics to explore... anything in particular you are curious about regarding men, relationships or anything we touched on in our video?

[@kassandraduncan9652]

@@Mat_Shaffer yes, I am very interested in getting your input regarding men who show that they love you with their actions but they won't say I love you. I'm referring to men in committed relationships, not casual dating.

[@dionnecarter3008]

I been serious sense day 1 he make my body feels wonderful I RESPECT his freedom I'm his BACKBONE💖💖

[@Great-Bharat-1]

Dear this man is most intelligent along with mr Antoio . U r a perfect match for tutoring us . Superb chemistry . Lov u both ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

We love you too, thanks for watching!

[@DiaN-do3jm]

I loved this, we need more of you two collaborating again!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Diane, I’ll definitely bring Mat on again soon! 💕

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Stay tuned Diane lots of great stuff coming up! :) Glad you enjoyed it!

[@jobaldwin]

Going through this right now, the guy in my life is aeay loads for work but when I see him he is super happy. It's not ideal but I am (thanks to you Helena) staying in my feminine energy as I totally honour his work. OK, I am going to keep going, stay open, and do my thing. I am so thrilled that this is filling the gaps but sits in with your other videos Helena 👌 Thank you to you both. 💖

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! We’re going to be doing another livestream this Friday that might be helpful for you too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/b6W5lIiwgL2pmMk

[@amandahaupt1327]

AMAZING AMAZING AMAZING!! I CAN GO ON BUT I THINK I MADE MY POINT... i learn soooo much from your videos, with you or when you have a guest visitor.. You blow another avenue wide open.. ❤️👌

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I'm so happy to hear that Amanda, thank you!

[@deed1801]

This was such an awesome interview! I haven't learned so much about men since you introduced Clayton Olson to us. Mat gives us more pieces of the male mind, so much info in this. I especially loved how he explained "excited" , bc even though it calls for us to initiate/plan, it's still playful, spontaneous, feminine energy that is brought :) Also loved when he delved deeper into "respect" and a man's purpose. Superb content. Thanks, Helena!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Dee D, I’m so glad you enjoyed this! Thanks for your feedback. 💜

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Yes men aren't complicated once you know their basic responses and priorities! So glad this resonated with you... more to come!! :)

[@gracieclayton3382]

@@Mat_Shaffer You are gorgeous. I melt listening to everything you say. You inspire me to be expressive and open - things I struggle with. This video (like many of your videos) has helped me learn so much.

[@tianiemitchell5692]

And you know it's funny it's okay to Dicker in front of the kids and to have differences of opinion but you should always do it respectfully in front of kids without attacking each other physically or emotionally because that's the reason people avoid confrontation in front of their children. Let's face it there's not a lot of mature responsible respectful adults out there

[@nathalie5238]

What if his purpose IS a thread to the relationship? His purpose was playing golf. In which he is really good! Thing is I was his purpose was more important than our family! He would go for all weekend playing golf and leave us alone at home! I aloud him tondo his passion yet not to leave us me and our 2 year old son. Do you know how heartbreaking it is when your 2 yo asks: mom where is dad!!! His passion was the thing that made our relationship crumble. With his new GF he’s the same, now she cares more for our son than he does, cause again he is at the golf court... Again leaving his son. So I encouraged our son to play golf aswel to have a minimum of time with his dad. Was a good move cause now they share a passion... while the GF is home alone cleaning and cooking for MR King... But at least my son finally gets to connect with his dad. So yes, respect as long as it does not interfere too much with the guys other responsabilities

[@Great-Bharat-1]

Helena u r best female ideal and this man is best male , u both compliment each other . Pl unite and make all videos together . Lots of love for both .

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! We'll definitely be doing more videos together in the future.

[@nari.hannnnn]

This was amazing I was glued to this and watched this video throughly !!! I learned soooo much !! Can’t wait for the next video.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so happy to hear that, thanks for watching! 💕

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Yay! So many fun topics to explore... any in particular you are curious about regarding men and relationship? We are taking suggestions!

[@sweetvonbettie1]

This has been your best interview by far.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Rina!

[@tianiemitchell5692]

It's important for both couples to know that their feelings and their thoughts matter and count

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, I agree! 💞

[@mikenice3321]

Dr. Fred Morgan helped me get my ex-wife back. I did not believe him before, but now he is a very real sorcerer, send him a message on WhatsApp if you want to be happy like me. (2348053433678) ❤❤

[@joanclawford8964]

I'm so sorry to miss this, live ... Very valuable information here. Mat is giving so much information, to the point & extremely clear .. Love this, Helena ... !! 😄👍❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I'm so glad you enjoyed this! We'll be doing another livestream this Friday at 1:00pm Pacific Time.

[@ruvi6512]

This is the video that made me subscribed. Very educational, thank you Helena and Mat!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Ruvi, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜

[@mikenice3321]

Dr. Fred Morgan helped me get my ex-wife back. I did not believe him before, but now he is a very real sorcerer, send him a message on WhatsApp if you want to be happy like me. (2348053433678) ❤❤

[@kaseyhall7548]

I went out with this wonderful man on 2 dates but because I've been hurt so much by other man, I think I ruined it..I ask his if he's seeing someone else I have no right to ask this at this point but I really like him what should I do he's pulled away but be for this he was saying he really liked me help what do I do I like this man is the man I've dreamed of!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Kasey Hall it’s great that you can acknowledge that you may have overstepped there and why it happened (your previous trauma) - now that you’ve learned that lesson you can avoid it happening again next time! As far as salvaging things with this guy, your best bet is to wait a bit for things to settle down and the pressure he feels to dissipate, and if he doesn’t reach back out just reestablish contact in a fun, casual way... you want to “reset” the dynamic with him and let him know you just want to have some fun shared experiences with him and see where things go (rather than press for exclusivity so early!) ❤️🤗

[@dorap4308]

WOW ‼️‼️😍 I JUST LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT THIS VIDEO ‼️THANK YOU HELENAAAAA ‼️‼️‼️ THANK YOU FOR BRINGING MATH IN WITH YOU ‼️ OMG ‼️😍 HE IS AMAZING, SO MANY AMAZING TIPS!!! BESIDES BEING SUCH A CUTIE AND A VEEERY ATTRACTIVE MEN , WHAT AN AMAZING COACH ! WOW ! I WISH I COULD AFFORD HIM !!! I’m SURE IT WILL BE SUPER COSTLY TO HAVE HIM AS A PERSONAL COACH ! I AM FOLLOWING THE LINK YOU POSTED! THANKS AGAIN ‼️👍🏼👍🏼

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’ll definitely bring him back on again soon! 💜

[@dorap4308]

Thank you Helena ! And by the way ! You’re AMAZING ! at what you do ! I can feel you’re a very caring, business oriented, perfectionist ( like me haha!) woman , sensitive to other people feelings, THANK YOU ! for ALL you DO for millions of woman like me ! 🤗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Aww you’re very welcome, thank you for your kind words! ❤️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Hi DD! I look forward to speaking with you soon :) Haha don't assume, you might be surprised!

[@dorap4308]

Mat Shaffer yes ! Me too ! Can’t wait !!! Thanks for this amazing opportunity

[@lamckedamqwabs8324]

THANX HELEN FOR BRING MAT HERE HE UNDERSTOOD US AS WOMAN

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome!

[@ananeixon]

Yes Helena his clients are so 🍀 lucky ! I never miss a video from you two! He is the best 🙂 can you both do a video of the third entity? I think this topic is so key for a healthy relationship not only with your man but with anybody!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, Mat is awesome! I love that idea, thanks for the great suggestion! ❤️

[@mylenmondigo7223]

I love this video. I feel that this is so helpful. Eventhough, its quite long but I don't think that I have wasted my time. In order for a man to fall for you emotionally he needs: R - ESPECT A - CKNOWLEDGE S - AFE E - XCITED Very well-discussed, you really need to watch this video to fully understand this acronym/tips especially if most of the time you tend to emasculate men..

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so glad you enjoyed this Mylen, thanks for watching! 💕

[@Mat_Shaffer]

So true Mylen!! Glad it resonated and was worth your valuable time :)

[@mylenmondigo7223]

@@HelenaHartCoaching Yes I do. Your welcome and thank you for having this video in your chanel.

[@mylenmondigo7223]

@@Mat_Shaffer Yes it did. But everyone's time has the same value and it all depends on how we spend it. That is why I have this comment for everyone because I care. Time is free yet its priceless. Once it passes by, its gone, it will no longer come back.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

@@mylenmondigo7223 AMEN it is so precious!! I am GRATEFUL you shared it with us :)

[@claudia.autenticidade]

I feel like I need to watch this video over and over again. Uau! So much valuable information. I love the way Mat deconstructs all these concepts and ideas in such a simply way. Keep the amazing work Helena. :D

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I'm so glad you enjoyed this!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Impressão Intangível WOW so glad my expression resonates with you so deeply! What other aspects of relationship would you like to hear me and Helena explore?

[@claudia.autenticidade]

@@Mat_Shaffer Yes, it did :D It's awesome to have a male coach on board explaining these things through the eyes of the "masculine energy". :D So inspiring! I am glad you asked that. I would love you guys to explore a bit more about vulnerability in practice, mainly the importance of it in a relationship, and how to spot a man who is ready versus not ready to have a meaningful relationship with a woman. :D Thanks.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Impressão Intangível love it! I will absolutely put it on the list of topics to discuss :)

[@dionnecarter3008]

If he take a couple of days calling or texting I think about him more and it makes me miss him more and more 💖💖💖

[@rachelsweets]

We need him back again 😍😍😍

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’ll definitely bring Mat back on again soon, he’s going to be creating some amazing new content for my community here on KZbin!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

aw Rachel thanks! you will be seeing plenty from me over the weeks ahead :)

[@thesoulonquest]

He gave so much enlightenment on the topic.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💕

[@djw3707]

So... there are like 10 popular relationship coaches named Mat(t)! This one is my favorite so far!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Mat is awesome, he’s going to be creating some amazing content for my community here on KZbin!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

thanks djw that means so much to me! I am super passionate about supporting women in creating deep connection and empowerment in their lives :)

[@georgiehughes4858]

I think a man is created by God to be less emotional - for endless reasons. And a woman is created to be sensitive and emotional for numerous reasons. I don’t think that men have developed their nature nor decided to be a certain way. God has made men and women unique to being just as they are - for the most part! The fact that you listed R-Respect as the 1st supportive need he emotionally needs... well, that is written in the Bible... telling wives to show respect to their husbands. That is a crucial need men have to develop fully.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yes respect is SO KEY! :)

[@skiller7790]

I actually think it was evolutionary, in order to survive and replicate

[@Heyu7her3]

They're not less emotional though. Emotional reasoning goes hand in hand with logical reasoning -- the decisions we make cannot be made without emotion. Now, their tendency to articulate emotions less than women is specifically learned and socialized. If all of this were nature, we wouldn't be able to change these features after watching a KZbin video.

[@victoriousjoy9338]

This is phenomenal!! So deep and informative!! I'm saving this one!! So many good ideas!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed this! We’ll be doing another livestream tomorrow: kzbin.info/www/bejne/b6W5lIiwgL2pmMk

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YAY let us know how these ideas work for you in practice ! :)

[@JoannCarolus]

This took a lot of weight off me. I can probably hold space for him, and allow him to be. I can let him know I am responsible for my own happiness, not expecting him to solve me. And I can listen. I want us both to be happy. This video, though. Wow! Maturity level 10!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this was helpful! ❤️

[@aboveandbeyond2011]

I love this channel and it’s taught me a lot and I agree with a lot of the content 100%, so thank you 🙏🏼 But I’m going to play devils advocate for a moment. I wish that there were more videos on how to show ‘some’ men not all, may I add, but show them how to be more in their masculine energy instead of their feminine. If anyone here believes in birth charts etc I have an overall dominance of masculine energy in my chart with regards to planets and star signs - if I could describe my energy I would say it’s like the Lagtha’s - if I had to I would go out to battle with the men as I have very strong leadership energy, I’m go getting, I like to fix and help, but on the flip side very sensitive kind and nurturing. I just wish that some men knew how to handle my energy and not see it as a potential threat or intimidating because chances are if they can take the lead then I will sit more into my feminine - as much as I try to change and practice certain ways of doing things I can’t change who I am and I don’t want to else I’m not being authentic and true to myself - I want my equal else I’m always going to naturally take the lead and take charge if my partner isn’t stepping into his masculine, one day I would like to balance this out with a balanced man 😊 here’s hoping ha Thank you again 💜

[@Angela-po7cr]

Helena is so wonderful, so is Matt, great skills teaching for a better life

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Angela!

[@Angela-po7cr]

@@HelenaHartCoaching i'm just learning right now i have always studied relationships my whole life and still learn all the time, hey i am not dating yet, i had a weekend guy for 3 months he was a drinker and abusive attitude and kept chasing me in my house, throwing a glass so as he chased me the last time i grabbed the phone just to be locked out of my house, i called police they came and arrested him, somehow i had blood on my cheek, dont know how but, the green truck and the cops voice seemed quite familiar, his truck, the cops was the truck that came around the corner while i was trying to get bread up to a bird house he swerved looking at me ok, and i noticed the truck and felt cute and valued and liked, a flirty truck move LOL, well when i called the cop, he was not where he usually is, and that is quite amazing in itself, and he pulled over when i called he said is this the girl who does things with animals and i said yes, he said i want to talk to you for a minute, and we did and i said hurry,. i wanna see you, and he said now you know who i am? and i just said nothing he said, the green truck, what the swerving memory of someone entertained by something about me a different day, he said he'd let the other cop handle this while i stayed with him, that tickles me silly, its so cute, ok so i said yes i do about the truck, and then he said he lives above me out here in the country, i said oh, and lived here about a year and is in washington county, his magnetism flooring thinkling sensation to my whole head and his right cheek was pouring out some love juice of some sort in the spiritual world, i said he must be an empath, i felt him and it tickled my whole body, here i am suppose to be scared the guy in the house , and i m seeing this handsome sexy empathic interested in me gentlemen oh how i wanted to love him and hug him, when he asked me to sit in his truck, i said, " oh i better not" he said why not arnt you cold? and i said "i'd like it too much" he told me he was too vested in ................ so the other cop would have to handle it and two cops went into my house the bedroom where i pulled off all the covers so he would leave, i talked to Mr Sexy and often wonder if i am mistaken that he is interested but he said that wait til this is over and we will see he said be good do nothing wrong, as the court system will know everything about me more than i know about myself, so being he is a cop and your advice to wait for him to make the move, i am dying to see our connection, i just imagine it wont happen and i prefer to find out more about him cause that was most severely intense, like my own being was flush and tickled my left cheek and his right cheek were magnets, i had trouble staying in my space can you image me, i had silly clothes on, and he needed to see the good evidence and was coaxed into my home my bedroom oh god help me, and 4 boys were in my room, this is horrible says angela....waiting for Superman song by Daughtry is the song i found right after, so cute he is a cop so this is vital to his reputation i supose and he knows i am good, but when he asked me what we were doing in there i said having sex......he said "oh Angela" so then he asked me he said "do you love him" i said hell no his personality is grouchy and sickening to me, a drinker i dont like and abusive and he kept coming at me and its not ok, i am done, well most domestic violence couples the girl returns to the abuser, i am not a tipical human, i am an empath, all the rules do not fit me in this world, and if you are not an empath you will think that this is all in my mind, but its so intense that i never had suck of a magnet even in spiritual and energy where the guy was tickled also and interested in me, this is great, usually i like no one ever and i am not proud of him knowing i just had sex with a guy for sex. not for love, not good. so i may have just ruined by goodness he felt for me, i will never talk about that guy ever to him, if he brings it up it will be short and to the point, better truth than lies is the way of an empath, thou he did ask me some questions that i did not get to explain why the answer was the way it is, i have been different and a sensitive good person my whole life, i believe he knows stuff about me once i called and remember his voice was so amazing and sexy i called cops for people living by the railroad tracks tents and recliners and junk, he said Thank You angela, lol

[@tianiemitchell5692]

I am a woman this was my husband's phone. I just wanted to say regarding relationships making a man feel emotionally safe yes since men aren't used to expressing their emotions it's good to speak to them as if they're little children not and it child's dialogue but as if they don't know or understand so you have to be a simplified as possible to explain something as to not hurt their feelings with love and respect course

[@annwrog]

Men depend on women to help set them free. Suvh a true and powerful statement.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞

[@maerose11]

Dear Helena. 1. I did what you said to a guy A: to lean back and to take all my focus off of him completely. And it was true: he chased me back intensively, but unfortunately, I had lost my interest in him and I didn't want him anymore. Why do you think this could happen? 2. Related to this video, with another guy (B), I did things like what Mat Shaffer told us: on the first stage of dating (5 dates in one month), I said something like I wanted a serious relationship, we just knew each other, too early I know, then I changed my way: I pushed the reset button, and I didn't talk about anything about commitment. He's still contacting me in a very low minimum effort, should I consider him or may be it is better to move on and just start with the next person? Thank you, I love you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I actually talked about your first question in my latest video, you can check it out here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/anTFgGynh9Kpeq8. I would keep your energy open to ALL men (rather than focusing on any one particular man who’s not putting in much effort) until someone comes through with what you’re looking for in terms of a commitment.

[@stacyfreeman8206]

Wow! This was amazing to listen to! I am in my feminine energy and this is working for me. I am happy. Yeah we have ups and downs but we learn to bounce back with the tools and knowledge that we listen to. Well done both of you 👌🙂

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you Stacy, I’m so happy to hear this is working for you! 💗

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES you are your most powerful when you are grounded in your feminine! So glad this resonated with you my dear!

[@dionnecarter3008]

Up until now my partner never talk about his feeling until now 💖💖💖😘😘😘

[@ritag.bowman5723]

Wow! Such different perspectives. I learned much, and I thank you both!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Rita! 💕

[@Mat_Shaffer]

WONDERFUL that makes me happy Rita! Glad it served you!

[@merthur88]

wow he's spot on!! brilliant!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

merthur88 THANK you so much! Let me know what else you would like to hear us explore 🤗

[@lovelee9315]

Listening to the discussion on how to make a man feel safe when he's being vulnerable brings up for me that every time my boyfriend and I are in a disagreement if I express any objection or difference of opinion he feels attacked and then in turn a text back. Any suggestions on how to be in a disagreement without him feeling attacked. Let me add that I try to always come from a place of gratitude.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I posted a video on how to give feedback without making him wrong on my youtube, haven you checked that out? :)

[@camillamartz3289]

So powerful please do ore and more lot these together. It is so needed for a healthy lifestyle and realships. Peace.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

We'll be doing another livestream this Friday!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

hope you watched our other videos!!

[@CabinQueenYoga]

Thank you, so much! Both of you.! God bless you both. This video was much needed. Amazing. You guys are changing the world! People just don’t know about this stuff. It will help so much in our future relationships!! 😁

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Haley, I’m so glad this was helpful! 💝

[@roseannatidiman]

I just love this video.....you two are amazing 🥰🥰 I’m definitely adding to favourites ! Thanks ✨✨

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Roseanna, I’m glad you enjoyed it! We’ll be doing another livestream this Friday at 1:00pm Pacific Time. 💕

[@Mat_Shaffer]

so glad you liked it Roseanna!

[@angel_ofmine9419]

I love this video... thank you you guys... God bless you both

[@nathalie5238]

Wow!!! So good. Do you have a video on how to express your feelings in words? I really have issues putting my feelings into words. I am comfortable with my feelings I just cannot communicate them, they stay stuck in my mouth!!! My language is touch... Just realize this is in my way in a lot of relationships, also friendships.. Made me cry realising this... I feel sad but happy in the same time cause I know now that I can change it (trying to express my feelings already 😊) Thanks for this video guys...

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome, Nathalie! This video should be helpful (I'd love to hear your thoughts on it!): kzbin.info/www/bejne/movKn3aYbN2NZ8k

[@judiezell876]

Is using music a possibility? I just met a guy who I believe that we are perfect for each other! He and I love to dance and play songs together! Maybe just for humor because I LOVE a man who has a great sense of humor! Any suggestions? Great videos! I have loved everyone so far! Keep'em coming! LOL!😂💃🕺❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! For now I'd practice leaning back and RECEIVING from him, then giving BACK to him from that place.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

So glad you enjoyed it Nathalie! Here's another process that should help you share your feelings with a man that in a way that should feel safer for you and is less prone to put him in a defensive position :) kzbin.info/www/bejne/ep3SgXlqr9qajLc

[@nancymwanga3535]

Waooo I love it ...respecting him is the beginning of everything.thanks

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Nancy! 💜

[@jasminedebjamatia4801]

So powerful. So true. Love your videos.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I'm glad you're enjoying them!

[@mondemaribelle6457]

Omg that live was soooo helpful. Thanx you so much.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m so glad it was helpful! 💗

[@mondemaribelle6457]

Helena Hart I even took notes. I might have made too many mistakes in my last relationship with a soulmate but I am now learning what I can make better next time.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you enjoyed it Monde! Serving women is my passion and you will do GREAT next time

[@dionnecarter3008]

Safe is in my home with our family he all that's missing 😘😘😘😘he is my #1 without him sometimes I feel there nothing to leave for and one day we can take that trip to Disney world it will mean the world to me 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

[@AlekSandra665]

This is exactly what I needed today. Thank you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome, I'm happy to hear that!

[@deborahwoodyard8895]

Awesome !! Love the show.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed it, Deborah! 💕

[@Cece050782]

He is so on the money about everything! Wise and powerful words. Thanks so much for the advice!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Cece, I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💜

[@user-us7vw3yq8p]

So clever the way you can translate it for us women thankyou both xx

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome!

[@theservinggirl]

Amazing perspective!! Thank you!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome, I'm glad you enjoyed this!

[@danielleroberson5774]

Amazing content! Love his perspective!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Danielle, I'm glad you enjoyed this!

[@dionnecarter3008]

We are good with our finances my money is his money we are a team and a business partner 😘😘😘💖💖💖

[@dionnecarter3008]

I always wants what's best for him 💖💖

[@carolinelala9818]

It's so nice to hear mentally healthy conversations vs what I've heard on Mindful Attraction channel where the guy plays men against women, he teaches women one thing, charges them and then teaches men to not chase, to drop her if a better one comes along, he tells women that they can't catch anything by giving fellatio when they can. I've been listening to him for a long time and then he showed his true colors. He has a man's channel where he teaches men to be players like him. It's horrible because he's teaching women and at first he seems like he cares but he's evil. Thank you for this video. I'll be watching you and Derrick Jaxn, Susan Winter and Elliot Scott but not that monster any more.

[@beebuzz959]

Never heard of that, but thanks for the warning! What an ass! How dangerous of him!

[@obstantiadiscindo]

@ Caroline Lala: You're right, his earlier videos were thought provoking but since he's moved to New York he's become more of an egotist - his way or don't bother him. In fairness, he gives the same advice to women as he does to the men - don't chase, ignore, move on etc. But if everyone followed his advice everyone would be waiting for the other to make a move, a kind of relationship Mexican stand-off! Actually, just thought - I think he is from Mexico, perhaps that's why, 😁. But it's cynical advice that presumes the aim is to have power over your partner (his often referenced idol is Robert Greene and Mastery), and manipulate a better 'deal', not a loving relationship. It's getting a bit much now - I wouldn't say he's a total misogynist yet, but it's clear by his barely concealed impatience at times that he doesn't hold them in high regard - evidenced by the plethora of blow job and threesome comments. It'll be interesting to see what he's saying, if anything, in a couple of years time. He'll either realise you can't be happy if you're using people all the time, or he'll become a MGTOW advocate. At the moment he's young, selfish and still finding his way in the world so he's not experienced in relationships anyway, but I guess the value is in him showing us what he's teaching player/pick up artists. He is honest in his cynicism, I'll give him that, but as he descends deeper into his increasingly narcissistic perspective of the world, he's leaving behind those who think there are still some decent men and women in the world. We all know that sex is the primary motivation for most men, but videos like this remind us of the other factors too. It's nice to see a balanced input to help us realistically help each other.

[@animalames78]

That guy from mindful attraction is very young...he has a young mentality about relationships. He is scatty...his mind is all over the place...I often don't understand his content! I don't really bother watching his videos...I've watched maybe 4 but not till the end of the video!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

It's sad to hear that this is being taught out there! I don't communication or relationship should EVER be adversarial or manipulative... all that fosters is the same jaded, "walls up" dynamic that so many of us are having to deal with out there in the dating world! The key to building meaningful connection and trust is always INTIMACY, vulnerability and honesty... that's what I coach my clients into every day :)

[@vhayashi7369]

He also practices polygamy!

[@lovelee9315]

Love "interdependence" Already tried the asking him about his passion. i got the sweetest text back about how I fullfill him. Within an hour!!!! Thank you !

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

So happy to hear that, I'm glad that worked for you!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

WOW that's wonderful to hear!! The more vulnerable and curious we are with our partners the more they will open up to us... keep that momentum rolling :)

[@victoriousjoy9338]

So sweet! You are so blest!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES you activated him big time!! How has everything unfolding since then??

[@niomil4963]

OMG! Love this video and both of you. Thank You!!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome, Niomi!

[@enoasangansi5103]

WoWw!!! I've been thinking about doing this "sharing emotional feeling" too but I wasn't so sure #validating!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

We’d love to hear how this goes for you! 💕

[@melb3561]

this is gold.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed it! We’ll be doing another livestream this Friday at 1:00pm Pacific Time.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

BOOM so glad you enjoyed it Mel!! :)

[@tamekaallen7023]

Please start giving more examples about these things... great video!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Crystal Clear more examples of what things? Would love to do so!

[@tessariso9199]

Loved this! Thank you so much!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Tessa! 🧡

[@atyehatyeh6257]

I just found this, I've met my twin flame soulmate. We're not dating yet. This is wonderful information I have already used it and didn't know it but I'm going to reread it and go over it thank you Matt thank you for doing all of this

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This livestream I did with Mat last week might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJaUZ5-XmZWGbNE

[@deborahvella2323]

Very very good advice you all genius thanks weldone 🙏🌹🌹🇨🇰

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Deborah! 💝

[@nadatofi1788]

One of the best videos l watched thanks mat and Helena

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💕

[@dianaoolivia]

Really useful information. Thank you so much for that ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Diana! 💕

[@ingrid_inthesky]

I needed this. I could _not_ for the life of me figure out why he kept saying I wasn't listening. I need to listen to this again first, though.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this was helpful for you, Ingrid! 💗

[@ingrid_inthesky]

@@HelenaHartCoaching Yea, we got back together, too! It was immediately! Thank you :)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome, I’m so happy to hear that! Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💞

[@lesleyrhind3377]

How funny Fred Flintstone lol

[@annemarietherese4977]

Thanks Helena this was awesome content 💕💕💕💕💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💝

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Woohoo glad you liked it!! :)

[@nivitaram8783]

Women text, men don't text as much, with evolving changes in how to communicate, can you do a shorter upload on effective language or words?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES that's a great idea! Look for that over the weeks to come :)

[@jobaldwin]

Yay!! So needed. 3 word texts are normal for guys but abnormal for women, this needs a book, videos, everything!! Such a challenge for women to not be offended by simple masculine communication

[@clairefoxall2313]

My bloke is none stop texting. I prefer just to arrange dates and that's it

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Jo Baldwin Trott. Personal Brand & Image Consultant mmhm exactly! Women love to project so many interpretations onto men’s communication that aren’t connected to how men actually think or feel :)

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Claire Foxall haha that’s a unique and awesome situation!

[@tianiemitchell5692]

I have no fears about physical touch but I grew up with a dad raised six kids for girls to boys he was not a hugger

[@mikenice3321]

Dr. Fred Morgan helped me get my ex-wife back. I did not believe him before, but now he is a very real sorcerer, send him a message on WhatsApp if you want to be happy like me. (2348053433678) ❤❤

[@mspears444]

What if the man doesnt make you feel safe enough to tell our feelings, to be able to give examples. Tends to use your feelings against you

[@elenap2215]

Wow Matt is the man! Totally love this! 👌🏼☺️😍

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed this! We’ll be doing another livestream on Friday: kzbin.info/www/bejne/b6W5lIiwgL2pmMk

[@dionnecarter3008]

I'm his backbone always have been and always will💖💖💖

[@user-sr3zn5li2e]

I have disrepected my man when he got mad at me for crying.😢 now what do i do you make it better? I still love him!❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

While I don’t know the details of your situation, this episode might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fnS8iqV7jc2GfrMsi=jvTH0XZBMwk9dAG9

[@animalames78]

It's so difficult that men are not emotionally self aware because they can be quite abusive without knowing...their ego is so sensitive. I personally don't know how relationships even work...women and men are so different. They always say men are not complicated...I think they are very complicated.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Men aren't that complicated! It's just a matter of understanding what matters to them and speaking/connecting to their needs, wants and emotions. We all basically want the same things. Men just aren't as emotionally aware as you stated, which is an opportunity for you to guide us into deeper awareness with your powerful heart and emotional agency power :) That being said, some men are deeply in their toxic/wounded masculine and should be avoided

[@tamekaallen7023]

“Baby daddy audition” 😂😂😂

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Crystal Clear hahaha 😆

[@lizpedano1542]

Yes lol 😆

[@kerriscoville5773]

He says he dont want a relationship but his actions show different