HELP! There is a BIG age gap... what do I do.??

[@rodgerjohn1607]

This is a terrific topic and you handled it well. I am a 79 year old man and met Rodger 31 years ago. We’ve been a couple all this time and married for ten years. Although it is not usual, it can be done successfully. He is now 60 years old. My ONLY regret is that I will die way before him. I would love decades more together, but we have a great life together.

[@davidwoodhouse9831]

I'm 78! My partner died 11 years ago after 42 years together. We were able to be civil partners but we both knew we were married. I am in that place where others might be where still loving my partner so much I shall have to live alone until.... Is there anyone else out there like this? dx

[@jamesdavis-ford6882]

Thanks so much for sharing your story and kudos and congratulations to you and your husband on the longevity and vitality of your relationship. It really hits home for me. My partner is 70 and I’m 41. We’ve been together for almost 13 years. He is worried about dying before me. I’ve shared with him that if that is to be the order of things, then of course it will take time to work through grief and there will be lots of sadness; however, I will get to live each day thereafter with the memory of the wonderful years we have had together. I wouldn’t trade these years for anything.

[@DawnDittberner]

I think communication is key. My son is 24 and his partner is 9 years older. They met about 5 years ago. At first I was a bit nervous but the more I got to know his partner the least I thought about it. I also think the maturity of each individual plays a roll to. My son, is very responsible and mature for his age so the age gap doesn’t come into play🫶

[@gerardhernandez4367]

My partner and I were 19 yrs apart. You are very correct. He passed away 9 months ago. He passed away after we were together for 29 yrs. I can tell you that is has been difficult for me. Plus I cared for him until he took his last breath. As he wanted to pass away in our home.

[@bowtex]

20 year gap. 27 years together. nineteen years married. it may just be working!

[@richardorchard8554]

My fella is 8 years younger than me. He’s always been the mature one. There’s nothing that we can’t do together. He’s the best man you could possibly have. 8 years sounds like a lot at 32/24, but now at 54/46 we are pretty much the same age.

[@johanvanderwesthuizen5292]

Thanks again for great topic. I am 73 and my love 53 . Age is just number . The connection between two people and respect. For us the importance is respect and understanding. Love is always there Thanks ❤❤❤❤❤

[@clayullmer6656]

Like you said, Keegan and Joel, just talk about it with your partner if it's something you are worried about. My husband (who has passed) was 30 years older than me and for us, the age gap was not a problem. We were together 30 years.

[@paulhilder1309]

My husband and I have a 15 year age difference, as the older one I initially told him it would not work but he persisted and we had many open conversations about my fears. Reality is we have way more in common 5 kids between us, outlook on life that when you love someone you just know !! Talk about the concerns and questions you have.

[@shanedorival3177]

My partner and I have a 10 year age gap. Never had an issue. I also earn 3 times what he earns. He took issue with it at the start. I never made a thing of it. As I said to him at the end of the day it’s just money and it’s our money. It makes our lives more comfortable, it pays our bills etc… his thing was, it was unfair to me. I kept reassuring him it’s our money. We’ve never argued over money and never will. Yes in any relationship you need to compromise. But only make the things that matter important and for us money isn’t one of them. I value trust, honesty, communication and laughter above anything else. All the best from Melbourne Australia.

[@PaulKabera]

My husband and I have a 36-year age gap. Before we met, neither of us was hunting for a partner of a different generation. But soon after we met, we realized that we clicked on an emotional level. By the way, he and I are also an interracial, international, intercultural, and interreligious couple. Still, rather than thinking of our differences as barriers, we think of them as a treasure trove of experiences that enrich our lives--and I might add--source material for lots of private jokes between us!

[@Gloren50]

I'm 21 years older than my spouse and we've been together for 28 years. When we first met he was 24 and I was 45. I had never dated anyone younger--in fact, I was usually the younger one. My first reaction, was oh, hell no. It almost made me feel queasy. But 28 years later we're married and still living happily together. It is true, now that I'm 74 and he's 53, I'm in a completely different phase of life, both psychologically and physically. We had to deal with my testosterone levels flat lining. We talked about me taking T injections, but the risks and potential side effects were just too much for us. Things change in a relationship, but we love each other and we can't imagine living apart. I know we're going to be together until one of us (more than likely me first) leaves this life, but our age difference is really not an issue. Sometimes it just works. You can never pre-judge the situation.

[@damianleah6744]

I am 11 years younger than my partner and we have been together 24 years now. It’s about chemistry and making each other happy. Also not to get too involved about what others think. Also some men never grow up 😂

[@jeffwatkins352]

Love your videos! 23 and 34? I suppose at those earlier ages, it might be a problem. I'm 71 in a relationship with a 56 year old, and we're having no problems whatever. But at our ages, the issues are far less. Your advice is spot on: communicate with each other! BTW, do you have any control over the ads youtube attaches to yours? Because a lunatic conspiracy theory ad prefaced this video which IMO casts massive shade on your wonderful content.

[@corgiowner436]

Most of a relationship winds up being about companionship. I grew up in the generation that lost a lot of people to AIDS which left me with much younger or older people to date. Just look for someone who’s at the same point in the journey you are.

[@kennixox262]

A lot of people who would be in their 50's and 60's are not here that should be. Sad.

[@Jeffh206]

You guys give great advice. I always enjoy all your content and keep on doing what you’re doing.. sending hugs from Seattle Washington

[@joemalick]

Great topic, it can go in multiple directions, which is good. Age is not the deciding factor in the success of a relationship, as was mentioned. Maturity levels, stage in life, etc, can all be different even if the 2 are the same age. Communication is the key to see how BOTH people feel about any differences that potentially exist. So, well done guys! 🙌🙌🙌

[@Dragonmoon1598]

Like most relationships, it just comes down to communication. No, it's not the be-all and end all. But, one of the cornerstones of a healthy relationship. As you guys said. Figure at your concerns and fears early on. Address them with your partner. Then figure out if there are things that need to be addressed, resolved, or are just unfounded fears.

[@davidburzminski7704]

True love can be so very rare. Don't pass up the chance because of unvoiced concerns. Only you and your partner can decide what is and is not a deal breaker. Also, ignore those that view your relationship with "raised eyebrows". Those who matter want the best for you.

[@anvoeske]

I’ve always dated men at least twice my age, nothing wrong with age gaps, and loved this topic was brought up. 🙌

[@brianbrady3086]

You guys should travel to the midwest (aka Chicago) I think it would be so cool to do like a panel or something. Would love to be a part of it.

[@candidolopez1131]

I so love this topic...wish it were longer....but all was covered. Fantastic......

[@SEAN31680]

My fiancé is 10 years older than me, he’s working, I’m part time, because I’m in university. Spending money sometimes ends in a discussion, but you don’t notice the age gap at all. I’m 22 and to me he looks maybe like 26 or 28 at most, but never 32.

[@velmaporraz7994]

Halfsies! ❤

[@vistabadboi]

MY husband is 37 and I am 67 we have been together 21 years in June !!

[@happyhealthyhomo]

That's beautiful! We love this! 🌈💛

[@adriancole745]

​@@happyhealthyhomoHopefully this just slipped your mind but c'mon, do the math. They were 16 and 46 when they met. In what world is this not predatory.

[@praveenhoro8198]

I personally think, there's a difference between age gap and a generational gap. 10 yrs seems fine but 20, 30 and over is pretty much. I can't be with someone who could be old or young enough to be my son or dad. I want a partner not a caretaker or a "twink". Then there will be some sort of power imbalance in that relationship as per my experience. Ain't nobody is gonna accept that. But I've seen in most, not all but in most age gap relationships, the power game is off the ceiling. Also many Gays, go for younger or older lads cause they want to feel worthy, they are seeking validation. Many go for it cause of the media, p&rn, movies/popculture, etc that have made huge age gap relationships a new fetish. And DADDY ISSUES are real. If you really like someone for who they're and also you all have talked about the long term stuff wid each other, then that's a different case. But if you're purposely going for a specific kinda group that means you're attracted to the group, not the man. So, check yourself first before choosing your partner. Cause your choices do tell a lot about YOUR personality.

[@adriancole745]

Absolutely. Seeing so many gay couples that have an age gap where they could literally be father and son is just jarring to me. Especially the fetishization of calling each other daddy and son. It just feels like it's glorifying incestuous relationships and it's so weird.

[@aidenfreedom]

I think the male gay World is far far too hung up on AGE, often the first question is "how old are you" I have found love and connection has little to do with age, maturity and tactility are not about age but much more to do with character and personality, we all like and are attracted to different things within some one else? If it is only about 'the looks' then surely that builds on 'shallow' sand?

[@danw1952]

Joel, is Behind the Scenes Harry the spiritual heir of Joel and Lia's erstwhile asst, Helena? More and more impressed with yours and Keegan's relationship. Think your podcast is a real service to many people.

[@kathleenchild]

To A: I assume your ages have already come up in conversation so he is aware of the age gap already and it doesn’t appear to be a problem for him short term. This sounds like a fairly new relationship so I think I probably would take a wait and see approach before bringing up a topic that might only be of concern in a serious committed relationship.

[@evelynmartinez7353]

You to are good I like you show I leveit you to together ❤

[@dragonmcea]

guys - 2.30 mins before you start.... and you skip the longwinded into's....

[@DaveTexas]

Yeah, I don’t see a nine-year age gap as BIG. 30 years is BIG. 20 years is "significant." Fewer than 10 years is nothing. I’m 17 years younger than my boyfriend of 18 years. I’ve always been attracted to men much older than me. When I was 18, I was crazy in love with a guy who was somewhere between 35 and 40. He wasn’t interested in a teenager, though. When I was in my upper 20s, I dated a 19-year-old for a few months. I discovered why a lot of guys don’t go for younger… (sure, the never-ending hard-on and multiple daily orgasms were nice, but that only gets you so far…) The biggest age gap I ever had was about 35 years, when I was about 30 and he was a little past 65. He was sexy as hell, with his white beard and body hair everywhere. The generational differences were just a little too much, though. My current boyfriend is the perfect compromise. Older men are so much better in bed. Do I fetishize a big age gap? Yep. I sure do. I love videos that show young guys f**king grandpa types.

[@jofisher166]

I adore you two 🌈 im heterosexual in a loving relationship but your advice fits all ❤ps Keegan youre looking at the wrong place i know youre not cross eyed 😂

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[@rkozakand]

How is that a big age gap? I generally date men much younger than that.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

The average age gap in relationships in the UK is three years, so that is quite a big age gap

[@LOL99756]

Paukast lol