Here's How I Know Who Will Heal

[@OK-Take5]

After a lifetime of living the only way you knew, it takes a while to break those patterns. After 4 years, I'm becoming somebody I actually like. Everyday you spend unlearning is one day closer to seeing the real YOU emerge. Thanks as always, Anna.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@gobigirl1]

I love the way that you put this. I also like how "un-grandiose" your comment is-- that our personal growth most likely won't be from one big momentous act, but from deciding repeatedly to unlearn the unhealthy habits we learned in childhood, a little at a time.

[@siennaprice1351]

I no longer expect an apology from my abusive stepmom. I no longer expect an apology from outside influncers who in the end hurt me. I’m working to heal, to be my true authentic self, without caring or worrying what the outside world will think. Without having to people please.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You've demonstrated how strong you are through many of your posts here, Sienna. I'm so proud of you!

[@kadd4415]

You hold the key to healing your self-esteem- no one else. That's a breakthrough right there!

[@MissyQ12345]

I lost the key, and the door is locked.

[@jennifer_of_all_tradez2223]

I had to move away from my hometown to heal, grow, truly learn to love myself, set boundaries for my protection and realize I was NEVER THE PROBLEM! I am an amazing human and deserve the love and happiness I was never able to have until I moved away! I am SO F’ING GRATEFUL AND PROUD OF MYSELF! I still have some healing to do to attract the best people for me, however leaving was the best decision I’ve ever made and Thank you to My Father God for awakening me to the courage, determination, resilience and strength to make that move! 🙏🏽💕🙏🏽

[@yazajag]

​@@jennifer_of_all_tradez2223 that's the thing, I feel like the only way I can heal is to get away from the people who are a big part of bullying, advising and traumatizing me. I don't expect change or apologies, but I need to be far away from them and to be in my own personal space where no one can sabotage what I'm doing for myself.

[@joancramer3675]

@@MissyQ12345Start by taking yourself to buy something for yourself. A wreath, candle, 🌹. Tuck $10 away in a book: note Just 4U Starbucks. Find it and enjoy. Take a ceramic class, or photograph animals, flag, sky, flowers, 🌳 Make a blessing book out of prints. Ways 2love U. This and quotes or scripture all helped my self gratitude and pray. Give: $1 at drive through or leave a note unexpectedly on a persons car. Smile 😊 U will begin to feel the love of it. ❤God bless you ❤

[@JennieHD999]

@@MissyQ12345Amazon sells lock picking kits, KZbin & Google Universities™️ have PLENTY of content, articles, videos. There’s locksmiths, credit cards can pop a lock, check the windows and if all of that fails, emergency services can bust down your door or your lock with a bump key. Of course these are all metaphorical, what I’m saying is there ARE options. Individual Therapy, group therapy, meds, checking all your vitamin/mineral/nutrirent levels for deficiency, inpatient, outpatient, detox, rehab, location change, job/career change,it’s not easy but if you want it, is there

[@dianemower7422]

I felt that today. I'm always the one holding the coats, whilst everyone else is enjoying the ride. 😢

[@Sweetlyfe]

Wow that is a powerful analogy. Thank you

[@ChristaRuth4]

A breakthrough for me, was learning how to not have my pain spilling all over everyone around me. Now I'm trying to figure out how to process the embarrassment around the fact that I did that for so many years... I was trying to get some understanding from anyone I bumped into 😅bless their hearts right... then God led me to Anna. Wow what a blessing. Two years in ... I've come a long way, with a long way to go

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you are here and found Anna's teachings helpful! Thank you for sharing this with us! Nika@TeamFairy

[@Lexi_Con]

I can relate. I used to over share, whether to find connection & understanding or with the intent to help others be encouraged & not feel alone. In hindsight I realized most people felt uncomfortable & may have seen me as a complainer or self-involved, idk. My father thought I was "making excuses" but he didn't understand my neurological issues. I hope you have close friends or family you can trust to confide in now.

[@ChristaRuth4]

@@Lexi_Con thank you. I do and I've apologized to them for not understanding ruminating was the only thing I knew how to do. So when someone further wounded me I would tell too much.

[@ChristaRuth4]

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you so much. I'm touched. I want to join the group soon. Right now I'm in my busiest work season... cruising along with all the free work offered to hear... but soon I do want to go further.

[@cornwallismorgan874]

For what it's worth, I'm a nurse who spent 5.5 years in psychiatric and behavioral health services, and I want to reassure you that the process of seeking understanding is completely normal given the circumstances. It's not your fault and you did nothing wrong. You were trying to process through your external environment and didn't get the understanding you needed. And that's okay. I'm glad you found Anna; she's really amazing.

[@AF-ke9by]

I knew I needed to heal and learn and grow, 25 years ago, and I feel like I’m just getting started.

[@donteague614]

Love your insight it is exciting to learn these things.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

We're so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@janeyrevanescence12]

I’ve spent so long focusing on what not to do that I don’t know what to do if that makes sense.

[@Eternity47890]

Yes same here.

[@MissyQ12345]

It makes sense to me. I get in trouble with hostile family members who have bullied me my whole life.

[@jmecantstandya4299]

Powerful words. Thank you ❤

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@lorifaust9874]

Perfectly explained 👌 👏 🎉

[@Randy-v9x]

65 years of working and trying to become "good enough," "smart enough," "holy enough", "rich enough," "funny enough,"....of going above and beyond.... but then a couple years ago, while telling my sister all i had done to be good enough for my family to know me, to accept me, and be proud of me, i decided that it is they who are not worthy to know me. Turns out i was always good enough. I wouldn' t give any of them the time of day. I would not piss on them if they were on fire! I would for the fun of it though.

[@cassiestevens8382]

Thanks for your kind ❤ and positive presence. I am always learning from you. Wishing you and your family a Very Happy Thanksgiving.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Happy Thanksgiving to you too!

[@carlosvera2807]

What you are talking about I think is a difficult realization for someone carrying trauma. Someone close to me is reactive and looking for healing from others. The right person....

[@meganjohnson9540]

That’s fair. Thanks, Anna!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you're here! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@LR-yu3mx]

Thank you!❤

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@querida1809]

Agreed 💯! Thank you self awareness and self reflecting are very important for your healing. You have to be able to understand yourself and your own emotions before you can be a safe place for your partner or friends.

[@Shan0714SLS]

Absolutely agree 💯

[@marijkevv11]

...and yourself

[@lisajmj]

Thank you.💔

[@sarahspencer2804]

You are so amazing!

[@terryfelkins912]

All of the above and still goes on!

[@StacyMSchweigart]

you have helped me so much 🌹❤️

[@Lexi_Con]

What if you have a medical condition that prevents you from working, and you have no family for emotional or financial support? A TBI affecting the frontal lobe, for example... Decades of therapists, MDs, & Rx's have helped - off & on - yet basic daily tasks are challenging enough, not to mention living out a meaningful purpose... Time is not my friend.

[@Localtuff]

I can relate with your comment because I feel like I have the same exact issues from my time playing football in high school and college.

[@HeavenlyPresley-Tonya]

Thank You --- Yes Yes Yesssss

[@tammygrady3530]

Is there a fuller video of the subject of self-esteem? She’s speaking of here? Thank you.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

The link to the full video is in the description section (click "...more" below the video). For your convenience, here it is again: kzbin.info/www/bejne/g5DRhZaAn7l4l7c Nika@TeamFairy

[@cathlaurs9754]

I'm so glad you are available to me ♥️

[@AnneRochelle]

I became the first at I am as a matter of survival I grew up in a abused I got out as soon as I could witch only l ad to another abuse situation etc but as of the last 6 months I do have more do I want anyone in my life I’m free finally

[@tunsafun9345]

Thankyou:)⚘️🍵 It is alot easier said than done especially for someone like me being a man at the age of 45 for god sake. I would need a damn miracle to change in a 180 direction at this point. I still feel im stuck in adolcence from when life went to hell with a major breakdown at 16 and its like thats where life ended for me and without being a smart alec or funny but here 👉 SONG ⚘️ 🍵 🎵 WEEZER - 'THE WORLD HAS TURNED AND LEFT ME HERE' ✨️🔥basically the truth in a nutshell 👋

[@BernadetteOGRADY-t7i]

I can't go on😢

[@launderedcotton8070]

You can and you will because things DO eventually CHANGE.

[@emmapascoe1970]

One day at a time. One hour at a time.

[@MissyQ12345]

I feel that way, too. But I have to get up every day and give it another shot. I cry and say I give up. But I go on. You can, too.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Trauma-driven thinking can be discouraging. But never forget: Healing is possible! I encourage you to try The Daily Practice. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link to the free course if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy

[@HelloWorld-co9uy]

I really don’t know how people live without Jesus. My line was a WRECK before Him. Now it’s just a minor accident🤣

[@Луноцвет]

I feel like I still want acknowledgement and apology in order to keep contact. I don't know how to without. I'm too angry.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You don't have to keep contact. But whether you do or don't, you can process and heal that anger and be free.

[@MissyQ12345]

I understand your anger. I fight it every day, and I just feel impotent. It goes nowhere, and it only hurts us. Listen to me, a broken person, saying this. I can tell you, but I can’t tell myself. I’m sorry and hope we both can get better.

[@1994wildchild]

Ms Crappy Childhood Fairy Lady, i hope you will someday look back and see that your well of wisdom came from the inner world you and (believe it or not, it's the truth) the Holy Spirit walking you through those difficult vallies that you have been through. Jesus loves you and he's put you in my own path to help me understand myself more, you are such a beautiful blessing of a gift 🎁🎁🎁 you are living out your God given destiny 🙏

[@sabrinelan]

Did anyone else consistently choose bad friends/romantic relationships to the point you thought something was wrong with you ? Only to find out what has been wrong is the version of yourself who was choosing these relationships was traumatized and consistently chose ppl that repeated the abuse from childhood ?

[@herbsncats]

Can someone please link to the longer version this is from?

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Full links are always included in the description section, which must be opened.

[@herbsncats]

​@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you!

[@Camaro_Z28000]

🙏🙏

[@clareprv8878]

So whatbdo I have to do 😂

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

If you haven't already, you may want to try Anna's free course ‘The Daily Practice’. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy

[@lovefaith1794]

💪🏻💯

[@cremebrulee4759]

❤❤❤

[@marijkevv11]

❤

[@JFL1991]

The trauma made me not want to be here, i’m still being abused by other people’s voices daily. How do you heal from multiple attempted murders by the people you trusted.

[@oidbio2565]

say that to the people at Landmark Forum! lol!

[@TSis76]

T y

[@hyperchord]

I disagree. If the abusers did apologize, I think it would unlock alot of sadness stuck inside from being unseen. Of course, the likelihood of this happening is super small

[@MissyQ12345]

Yeah, no. They will never apologize. I keep saying that, but also keep waiting for the apology. I have to turn away if I can find the strength. My perception is so far off that they can keep doing it and blaming me. Duh!

[@hyperchord]

@@MissyQ12345 Like I said. Super small

[@MissyQ12345]

@@hyperchord Yes, thank you for being here.

[@willj4179]

I don't like apologies anyways....

[@brigidlasage]

Sounds a little like make your bed.

[@simonep1104]

Bad Habits , Faulty decisions, Distorted perception. U hold the key 🔑 to healing. 💯💯🤍

[@c.s.102]

This does not make sense. Just my gut feeling; these sentences are words but not true.

[@launderedcotton8070]

Listen repeatedly, pausing the video after each sentence. It takes a bit to get it or have it sink in BECAUSE this is where my scars are and where correct things are more difficult to parse through. I hope that makes sense.

[@고영희-v]

Because your gut feeling is out of whack.

[@c.s.102]

@@launderedcotton8070 thank you!

[@launderedcotton8070]

@@c.s.102 You are welcome.

[@caroleminke6116]

CPTSD: Childhood Post Traumatic Stress Depression 💔❤️‍🩹♥️ it’s not our fault & we didn’t deserve the abuse but it’s not too late to heal ourselves

[@PaulaSmith-c3r]

An apology would have no meaning anyway. Detachment has helped me so much ❤

[@JFL1991]

The trauma made me not want to be here, i’m still being abused by other people’s voices daily. How do you heal from multiple attempted murders by the people you trusted.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

That sounds hard, but we're glad you are with us here. I encourage you to try The Daily Practice (a free course). It can be a good first step. If you want to go deeper, Anna has a whole course on Healing Childhood PTSD. Free Daily Practice: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Healing CPTSD course: bit.ly/CCF_HCPTSD Nika@TeamFairy