THREE KIDS: Hardest Transition? Relationships, Tantrums, Chaos.

[@CaileyDawn]

The crumbs on my feet will SET ME OFF. But then I was stepping on mystery water spills from the toddlers cup. So then wet socks - even worse. So now I wear socks with my cloud sandals and they're my ultimate combo for my sanity against sensory overload 😆

[@doravalencia2214]

I hate crumbs, water spills and now dog drool cuz new mastiff so I have fancy ugg slippers with a very good sole

[@AMcDub0708]

SAAAAAAME!!!!!!! 😂❤

[@sarahe397]

I recently bought cloud slides for (partially) this reason 😂 and because I’m 40+ weeks and my body is not excited about being in the kitchen all day with this belly lol

[@yaelfeitelson4070]

Ive gotta say this - i love how real you are in this! This is doing a great service to moms everywhere❤

[@caitiemaesings]

Cheers Shayla! Thanks for keeping it real- I’m over here surviving with a 2 yo and newborn twins (almost 7 weeks now)… husband had NO paternity leave. But you know what? Today we made it to storytime and into the store. Small wins. Small wins. And not lwtting the anxiety of what might happen keep me from going out and doing all the things

[@Casmomof3]

My son was 16 months when my twins arrived. I feel you! You are doing amazing doing it with your husband at work 👏 It is so much to manage mentally, emotionally and physically. The small wins are absolutely the way to go. I still treat grocery shopping as a day out with the kids 😂 They love going anywhere because we didn't leave the house much for a loooooong time. Good luck with it all. You are not alone x

[@heyshayla]

👏👏👏👏 I LOVE celebrating the small wins!!! And with TWINS!!! You’re amazing

[@MarianneMedlin-dz4dz]

That’s a Major win mama! 🎉❤

[@rebekahquinley8093]

I Love the concept of wearing makeup to be fancy. That’s what I’ll tell my daughter when she is old enough to notice.

[@brendahusing2185]

Fuzzy 'fancy' sandal slippers are great for crummy floors too. You're in the most magical point in motherhood. Where you grow the most and get super creative. As always you're rocking it! And your eyes look content and accomplished to me, not tired 😉 2-3 was my favorite transition! Xoxo - Mom of 4

[@jjjinkies.]

I have a few large water bottles in a couple rooms of my house so my child can drink water as often as he wants without needing to ask

[@sariannacrook7500]

Having my 3rd in a month. The bit about supporting your partner is great to hear so thank you for giving that thought good light. Realizing this will be the first postpartum period were he has more children in his primary care than i do.

[@CJ2023Incognito]

6:55 “What can I do to help you?” What a sweet response. 🩵

[@krystazangle3826]

Hey! Been following you for years. Fellow hypnobirthing and E&E, kinda granola/ecofriendly mom. Love all of your content! Also also just had my third baby (on the same day as you!) It’s been nuts. Loved your video. So many validating moments. Thanks for the reminder to fall back on being positive. Helps so much! Love your content ❤thanks for always keeping it real.

[@kelliegross]

Can't wait for the co-sleeping video because I have thought the exact same and interested to see how it's working for you!

[@anabelenpita9625]

Im laughing so much at the park story 😅😅😅😅 because SAME. I have 3 under 5. 4y 2y and 6ms old. Life is crazy and beautiful. Full of funny stories that are only funny after the fact 😁😂

[@1247marianna]

Having a two months old and a 3 yrs toddler, tough business. Huge respect and proud of you doing solo and take care of your husband too. You superwoman.

[@drishticommunitywellness]

Shayla! You are keeping me sane. I’ve just gone from 1-2. A newborn and a 21 month old. I’m having a rough time. I feel so much anxiety. It seems like my little one doesn’t listen like yours does. I’m feeling like I can’t handle this, but usually can handle so much and what’s wrong with me?!!! Then it passes and you are helping with that. Thank you 💜

[@heyshayla]

It feels hard because it IS hard!! You’re all adjusting ( so are we over here 😅 ) We’ve got this and every day will be easier as we figure it out

[@LyfewithLily]

Poor Seth having no privacy 😂 “throwing up and diarrhea” 😂

[@raeoflight5473]

I thought i was done after 2 but recently started wanting a third and your videos have made me feel so much more comfortable with the idea of 3

[@eddieczarinahaney]

I was nervous about having my second and being alone after my husband returns to work but it’s actually not that different. Now thinking of a third? Oh boy, we’ll be praying for ourselves 😂❤

[@sarahe397]

I’m happy to have stumbled back onto your channel. We have a 3 yo & 21 mo, both girls. And expecting our boy aaaaanytiiiiime. I’m nervous and excited about the transition and this was refreshing to hear a real take from the thick of it. It’s a different ballgame when your older kids are toddlers! Most older moms I have talked to felt like the 3rd child was the easiest, they just plug into your life and adapt easily out of necessity - but of course it’s easy to forget the early months when you’re soloing with 3 littles ❤

[@Lauren-yq3ds]

You’re amazing. I think you’re the only one who has actually said it’s hard! Thank you for your honestly

[@AraceliSpeed]

I have a 2 year old, a 13 month old, and a 6 week old. It’s difficult when they all need me at the same time. Im always either feeding someone, changing a diaper, kissing a boo-boo, cleaning… it’s a lot. 3 under 3 is not for the faint of heart 😅 but l wouldn’t change it for the world.

[@thetatrows9061]

Thank you for your candor. I feel so much less alone in my experience because you shared this. Perfect timing. 😮‍💨❤️

[@juliemelicia4442]

This is so relatable omg!! I just had my second and felt so similar with our transition. Love your videos. Solidarity and respect 🫡

[@haleyturner8186]

Can't wait to hear about the cosleeping situation. I'm cosleeping with 2 right now and it's pretty difficult...

[@MartaNaidu]

Bedsharing with 1 and 3 year old now, and wondering same, how do I add 3rd, they still need me all night long 😂😅

[@LiinaNiittymaa]

I'm 3 weeks in with baby nr. 3. We have a 21 month old and a 6 year old. The baby has been an incredible sleeper which has helped me not lose it with our jealous toddler. I swear by babywearing and lowering expectations 😅

[@lepond74]

This is so real and I love it. Starting TTC our third so I needed this

[@lydiacerdhe4060]

I’m going from one to three. Have an almost 7 month old and pregnant with twins, due in March. So it’ll be an interesting transition. 😅

[@Art-jg5xh]

You’ve got this!!! Thanks for being so real❤️ Just had my 2nd and feeling the feeeeels!! Excited to hear about co sleeping :) I follow your ideas for like almost everything 😂

[@JennaGaddis]

love love love the honesty and feels. My husband is about to go back to work after taking 4 weeks off for our second so just watching you and hearing how you're doing the good the bad and the ugly just makes me feel like I have a friend going through it with me....and now I realize I'm in my feels haha looking forward to your next couple videos!

[@ashlimorris2198]

I love Merit!!

[@heyshayla]

Me too!!!

[@littleeverydaymoments]

I teared up when you talked about switching your mindset when talking to your partner. It hit home, and i have a really hard time with that. I think this is great advice- can you speak to how you deal with it in the moment? How do you catch yourself before you speak or act on the initial feelings?

[@heyshayla]

You have to be honest. It took me longer than I’d like to admit and I still don’t always. So the first thing is awareness. So recognize it right before you say it or after you say it. And let your partner know you messed up. Appolgize and work on catching it sooner next time. I thought if I caught it and apologized my husband would no longer be upset…. Not the case. But SLOWLY I got better. Because when I would do it it would feel so good. So I held on to that and just tried to slow down and be more aware. It’s hard, but practice makes progress!

[@lindsay3917]

I found that focusing on each person's needs rather than fairness is so helpful. Like if things are unbalanced saying "I really need rest/exercise/food/water." Or "I'd really like to get exercise too, can we make time for that?" rather than attacking them for also trying to meet their needs. Eventually that turned into us regularly asking "what do you need today?" and trying to make space for it

[@Becs2122]

We are going to go for our 3rd and all day I think about all the I can't or won't be able to do....but omg I love this video, so real, we got this!

[@jillianwalker22]

Just added that Merit 'eyebrow mascara' to my list. Thank you!!

[@alexsimone804]

Had my second in April and I feeel this. My girls are 18 months apart and it’s slowly getting easier and harder at the same time…😅

[@thathippiefamily]

omg this is soooo validating *im crying* Thank you! Im not the only one

[@Beachedwhales237]

Your amazing. Thanks for sharing all this and keeping it real ☺️

[@katmicco1]

Oof, I feel this whole video, but especially having the energy + excitement to get out when your pelvic floor is done, like immediately. 😂

[@singingjewel7618]

💯 percent! Exactly my experience, too!

[@astegasaurous]

Thank you for your honesty. Same same same, thank you for making me feel normal. 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@amoruffo]

Your videos have always been so hopeful and helpful! We will be transitioning from 2-3 in April and I have been most nervous about being able to handle it. ❤

[@Bunny422MM]

So happy for you all and your proud moments 🎉

[@AlisaXiong-p8z]

I'm so excited! I'm in the thick of it transitioning to two.... but something about having each baby makes me wonder "how would I do this with one more?" 😂😅

[@Dana-mb1hd]

Can’t wait for this one congratulations again mama❤

[@donandjessica9782]

I appreciate your videos!🫶🏻

[@89misspigy]

I’ve been wearing ‘house’ slides for years now so don’t feel any crumbs :p

[@cariiinen]

Babies are intense! You're doing great

[@melodycottrell8914]

I am incredibly grateful for your videos ❤️

[@joannamalak1772]

Literally same. Very real video lol I just had my third aug 4th and have a 4 yr old and a 1.5 yr old. Laugh through it right.

[@alliasn3384]

Okay that was the most effective sponsorship ever I love it! Also your necklaces are lovely! If you have the time I’d love to know where they’re from (no response pressure tho, I can always google away:) )

[@heyshayla]

Amazon for the coin one, NO tarnishing yet and I haven’t taken it off in almost 2.5 months rstyle.me/+lL5Ac0Tb59mE_DZOFZ582w www.catorilife.com/collections/necklaces/products/magdalena-necklace?variant=29425492459598 Bought it in bronze, also no green or tarnishing!

[@melissacantieri2719]

So true to remember it won’t last forever. I also have a 4 and 2yr old girls and a 9mo boy. I feel like it’s just starting to get easier.

[@melissacantieri2719]

We also co sleep, we taught the older girls to sleep on pillows at the foot of the bed and baby is up between the adults (he was in a bedside bassinet for awhile as a newborn)

[@cmjaclarissa]

0 to 1 was easiest for me. 1 to 2 was HARD but still manageable, my toddler is pretty independent. I always imagined 2 to 3 will be really easy bc I felt the 2 older ones would have each other by then so I really appreciate this perspective!! I still have a couple more years until that point

[@bobacabuja]

Oh gosh, we went from 1-2 which was for me even harder than 0-1 (i know right?? Super unexpected). Apart from the first two weeks though. I was just recovering, snuggling with the baby while my husband was full on toddler duty. Until it dawned on me i need to take care of the toddler as well 😂 end of vacation.. chaos after that

[@geriflood5232]

Had our second 3 months ago and 1-2 has been MUCH harder than 0-1 for us. oof

[@catherinelindelof6630]

Having my third in one month! Let the chaos begin. 😂

[@andrearamirez5345]

Thanks for keeping it real. Im pregnant with my 3rd and it was a surprise pregnancy, my oldest will be 3 and a half and my other one 22 months when the baby is born. I’m a bit scare here 😅

[@breezys2542]

Love that truth! We wear makeup to be fancy ❤

[@cassieleefryeklund5623]

I need to look up the podcast

[@cassieleefryeklund5623]

You are doing great!

[@chibywallah]

Hang in there! At three months every thing changes! Baby will be more predictable and you have I'll be able to have a more structured routine. My baby just turned four months and I finally can put him in his room to sleep. For four months he had all his naps either on me or in the stroller. It was hard.

[@heyshayla]

I needed to read this. Soooo badly thank you

[@stephaniaguercioni2687]

You are awesome!!

[@miscellaneousme]

1st was hard because I didn’t have a natural mother instinct. 3rd was the hardest transition because my husband and I were outnumbered! Now I’m pregnant with #6 and it’s just like, “all right, throw another one in the rotation!” One thing I’ve been sure to do is to pursue each one’s heart individually. There have been times when one has slipped through the cracks, and we noticed when they started having behavior issues. Then it’s back to giving them each hugs and kisses every day and being sure to talk with each one individually. It sounds like a lot with so many, but it does actually incorporate well into the day ❤ Also, Daddy Dates with each child individually is incredibly important. P.S. today, 2 y.o. peed her pants. Then the baby pooped through the diaper all over the pack and play. Then the 5 y.o. who is sick had diarrhea on the floor, side of the toilet, toilet seat, and somehow got it on his hands and on the side of the tub. No point to mention this other than I feel like a super mom for not flipping out like I would have a year ago. I expressed some upset and just cleaned it up each time. Always making progress! 😅💪

[@heyshayla]

👏👏👏👏 that is a huge accomplishment to not be taken over by all that!!! Six girl?! I bow to you

[@miscellaneousme]

@@heyshayla Thank you for the acknowledgement! Not all six are girls, thank the Lord above 😅

[@Bri-wc4ib]

Where did you get your necklaces? So cute!! Loved the whole video too 😆💗

[@heyshayla]

Amazon! rstyle.me/+tq6KFZyqIFTwe8YMrUXdGQ And catori life www.catorilife.com/collections/best-sellers/products/magdalena-necklace?variant=29425492459598

[@kayleighharrel6678]

Yes to the socks!!!!

[@RosyJreams]

Let them get their own water....huge time saver. Maybe big sis can fill up little sis' water bottle. They can bring it to you to open while your nursing if needed. kids dishes bottom drawer where they can get it. If they need a clean spoon-they can get it. Snacks that you are ok with them having on demand on the bottom shelf of the pantry. Accessible potty and SINK for handwashing with a hand towel and kid safe soap ready to go. Get a "faucet extender" then when they are washing hands they don't need you to lift them to the water- Especially if you are baby wearing. My 4 year old son is soooo picky about sticky hands. He still tells me or asks me when he does or gets something. Loves the independence.

[@DanielleNicolette]

Ok, I have been waiting for this video like no other, because my two boys are a year behind your kids in age and now we’re starting to think about that potential third baby. 😬

[@juliab5509]

0-1 was the hardest for me. I wish I had “Hunt, Gather, Parent” book back then. I think I put too much pressure on myself. The trickiest part of 3 for me is the bathroom needs. Nothing like someone shouting “I NEED TO POOP!” while you’re in the middle of changing a diaper.

[@heyshayla]

Hahaha fact

[@dragamboazulinqiacupuntura122]

I gotta say you're beautiful always but I thought your face and skin when editing was particularly beautiful! Your non makeup face is also gourg! I got nothing but love for your videos love your granola take it's been my companion through these 6 months as a first time mom :) thank you!

[@dragamboazulinqiacupuntura122]

You only take 1 pill in the morning? My doula said 2 three times a day and I had the baby pinks :) I blame it on the pills

[@olgavinogradova5760]

I need my duvet too 😅 🙌

[@sandrachen6799]

You are amazing! Could you make a video on your experience with cosleeping with three kids? We are thinking about having a third but we are also cosleepers….

[@heyshayla]

How We've Transitioned to Co Sleeping w/3 kzbin.info/www/bejne/aGexaohvqNeEhdk

[@dashashostak5732]

Shayla, how do you keep your positive mindset at such crazy times?

[@heyshayla]

Journaling anda lot of practicing and a long time of trying and getting it wrong. I’m working on a guide!

[@dashashostak5732]

​@@heyshaylaexciting!

[@Maitenm]

Could you do a video on your routine, one you have one? haha

[@heyshayla]

1000% no routine lol

[@slstrong90]

Amen to the socks! 😂

[@glomar9982]

My baby hates the carrier and the stroller. And he never took naps the first few weeks. I never have free hands 😢.

[@christymcwisty2325]

What carrier are you using for him? He looks so cozy

[@heyshayla]

Heyshayla.com/sakurabloom it’s expensive but I use it for the first year at least! You can also back carry which my kids love

[@louisebrobertson]

6 weeks in with baby number 3. Thankfully as I recover I can be there for all of them in the way they need but those first few transition weeks wow they were tough. Total mum guilt.

[@heyshayla]

Soooo hard, so much guilt, so much 🫶

[@Ninjaflyingpinkducks]

Super excited for you! First time mom of a 3 month old. I felt pretty amazing shortly after giving birth, but my baby does NOT ever want down. Also a baby carrier? That's a joke. I love it but baby doesn't, and baby gets what baby wants. Dishes pile up. Crumbs and dog hair all over. Clean laundry never gets put away. I have 80 millions things I want to do and need to do (like finally write and send out thank you cards) and nothing gets done because SOME babies (here's looking at you kid) don't sleep the way that others do. 😂 All of that and I love it. I kick my dirty socks under the couch with the carpet of dog hair. I smile at the last clean plate. I happily dig through the basket of clean clothes to find mix matched socks. And I hold my happy needy baby and enjoy those chubby cheeks and drooly smiles. I wouldn't trade this life for the world. ❤

[@heyshayla]

👏👏👏👏👏👏 you were made for this!!!!!

[@BethanyYackel]

What is that carrier? 😍

[@heyshayla]

Heyshayla.com/sakurabloom it’s expensive but so simple and easy to put on by myself

[@TinaLeighh]

Having my third in January and definitely a little nervous about the transition! Will have a 3 year old and a 21 month old at that time along with a newborn😅

[@heyshayla]

Every kid and situation will be different, the mindset is what makes the difference!

[@ashleysterr7279]

I had the same age gaps and found the 2-3 transition the easiest so far 🙂 we’re expecting our 4th now and I’m excited because I feel like life is already chaotic so why not haha

[@m_sofia007]

Girl! The socks is a real thing 😅

[@verenasu2037]

Probably been asked before, anyone knows where she has the necklaces with little plates from?

[@heyshayla]

Amazon! Dm me on Instagram and I can send you the link! But is a basic Amazon one!

[@7moonJen]

I can't do socks bc its a sensory overload thing for me, but forreal life the crummy floor feels like torture!

[@marinagromov5075]

Try Legendairy Milk Lechita, it helped me so much to stay calmer 😎 Now we have baby #4 on the way. And will have 4 under 4🤪 Also try to swaddle your baby will help with sleep and weighted sleep sack

[@karoosten232]

My 3rd is coming in a month and I’m worried about my husbands zero paternity leave. He takes two days off and I’ve gotta figure out how to do school drop off and pickup and keep my toddler and baby happy at home during all the healing. A bit worried, the transition from 1-2 was really hard for a few months, especially for solo bedtime.

[@claspring]

This cracked me up, prob as am just out of diapers myself (3wks in to #2). "I want a mummy uppy, not a daddy uppy", says 2yo. Hope Merit does Canada. Gym day care- made me hit google immediately: where? When (for dad, I can't imagine anything worse right now- squatting 2wks postpartum = nooooo). May your abdominal sides knit back together in peace, all the feels right back. Ps interested to learn more about yes/open snacks (I'm trying to be as anti-diet as poss). The montessori-esque spigot access is something I aspired to and chickened out of (the taps are often shit quality), i just try to leave waterbottles around. Here's to helpful co-parents...

[@ginakkarow89]

This makes me scared to ever have a third. I'm still very much in the "yeah, now you know how I feel every day" mode with my husband. I've been very overwhelmed with two. Only 18 months apart. They're now 2 years and 8 months old. My 2 year old is good most of the time on her own but the baby is now getting needy and is much louder than my first which is rough. And I can't baby wear all the time because I have chronic back pain soo.... It's been something else.

[@kiramoloney9248]

I miss you saying "...kinda granola..." in your intro! ❤

[@heyshayla]

Whatever comes out of my mouth is what it is lol But I’ll work on this😂🙌

[@cassandrasype264]

Was wondering how you managed the sleeping, I have close age boys as your two girls. And they both sleep with me, one on a crib mattress on the floor by me and the little in bed between me and dad. I’m 9 weeks preggers and wondering how it’s all going to work, thankful to have you ahead of me to learn all the tricks! Also the exhaustion…. Holy shit, how do you manage? Anything help? I’m aversed to coffee 😭

[@heyshayla]

Go to bed early. It’s hard but it makes a world of difference

[@maricruzminter]

Isn't a newborn too small for most carriers? Which carrier did you get? I'm having my third in February, and I will have an almost 4 year old and an almost 2 year old lol.

[@kenziemayrae3568]

Newborns are fine in Carrie's that are either designed for then or a wrap, head support is important and I just bend over less or support their head when I do. I want to know which she is wearing too!!!

[@maricruzminter]

@kenziemayrae3568 Thank you! I will look into that:)

[@bstormy107]

Sakura bloom, she mentions it 45 sec in

[@maricruzminter]

@@bstormy107 Thanks!😊🙏

[@mackbee24]

Depends on the weight of your baby! Mine was too little for carriers at first.

[@monikabille2716]

Hi, I would like to ask you. What car do you have with 3 kids?

[@heyshayla]

Odyssey Honda

[@monikabille2716]

@@heyshayla Thank you for the response.

[@cadencekinnee3633]

How HOW. We are living the same life. I swear. I've never met anyone else or everyone else just lies. Haha but I have a two week old two and a half year old and a 4 year old this October. Haha crazy

[@rrbeccahart89]

You probably go over this in your podcast about cosleeping and breastfeeding but do you burp them at night after you feed them?

[@heyshayla]

Nope

[@MartaNaidu]

I'm [over]thinking when js the good time for us, when to go for it and have a 3rd 😂 After watching your video I feel like we should leave a bigger age gap. But also: How big? Will this make things that much easier? 😂😜🤪

[@heyshayla]

I think so, if my second was more independent it would feel easier I think. But who knows

[@MartaNaidu]

@@heyshayla You recommended somewhere once a book(?)/guide that supposedly goes through different age gaps (pros/cons, diff kids spacing), if its possible to link it, I'd appreciate it, I can;t seem to find it through Google.

[@heyshayla]

Hmm I don’t remember a book like that! But it sounds good

[@AMcDub0708]

Anything after baby 3 is no big deal 😂

[@theunicornrainbow363]

Please don't get a dog against crumbs on the floor. They just replace the stuff on the floor and they are more work postpartum. Speaking from experience. ❤

[@heyshayla]

I’ve heard this from a lot of ppl

[@quirkyCourtney]

44 hours?! I’m just like “how will I pass the time?!” 🎉❤

[@heyshayla]

Hahahaha and I’m like “i already have Tuesdays video done!!!” 😅🙌

[@quirkyCourtney]

@@heyshayla GET IT! I've almost got "Tuesday's" cleaning done... maybe this will be a productive week for all of us?!

[@mommybreakdown]

⁠@@heyshaylaclearly you are rocking it as a mom of 3 😮‍💨 🎉

[@mommybreakdown]

@quirkyCourtney I’m looking forward to this one too!

[@Madi-ls5uu]

My toddler cries and cries with my husband. He's not good with him at all. I won't be having a third because of how lazy and mean he is to our son

[@Moderskabmedmere]

love your content but so annoying with these random advertisings that I don't care about, and then I end up leaving your videos :(

[@heyshayla]

It’s literally how I’m able to afford to continue making content, sorry you leave because of it 🤷‍♀️ 🫶 and I work with companies I genuinely like

[@bravequest8078]

I can see your eyes, you are SOO tired. My baby is just over 3 mths and I have a almost 3 yr old. It starts getting easier! I know you know that but I'm just here reminding you!

[@heyshayla]

I appreciate you.

[@MissCollazo]

Breh