Holly Willoughby on Finding Herself Again After Feeling Lost | Happy Place Podcast

Once you archived the goals you set for yourself in your career and personal life; what's next? Holly Willoughby is ready to share her personal story now. We live in a world where so much is about how we present ourselves on the outside that we forget that true beauty comes from within.
In this chat with Fearne, Holly talks about the pressure she feels to achieve perfection by being constantly exposed and judged in the eyes of the public, how always thinking about the future is not making her enjoy the present moment and how to be more kind to ourselves in order to feel beautiful, confident and complete.
What do you think of this week's episode with Holly? Is there anything that particularly resonated with you?
Uncovering highly topical end emotional issues, such as body image, burnout and control, Holly Willoughby hopes her new book will encourage meaningful conversations. Holly's book, Reflections, is out now.
Holly Willoughby is an English television presenter, model and author. She is currently co-presenter of ITV's This Morning and Dancing on Ice alongside Phillip Schofield.
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[@fearnecotton]

What do you think of this week's episode with Holly? Is there anything that particularly resonated with you?

[@RhiannonMurphy]

That was lovely. Such a calming chat about a serious subject. I love the dynamic between you two. I found this really comforting without being too heavy or overly “pleasant” x

[@wendynewbrook7360]

Two beautiful inspirational ladies 💞💞

[@rosiemorrell]

Thank you for sharing. I think it's amazing that you Fearne and Holly are showing your vulnerability. It's inspiring and definitely helps people. Any one who complains are not connected with themselves and their full responsibility of their lives. Thank you for sharing.

[@jameslampitt5156]

Holly loves the lollie 💵

[@RhiannonMurphy]

@@jameslampitt5156 vile

[@edie8931]

i’m jealous of holly’s ability to let things go and not “drag” past regrets with her, but i do really relate to fearne’s struggles with it - it’s not that easy to just forget about it or ignore it, if it is for you then that’s great but remember that not everyone is the same

[@ladybancroft2488]

As lovely and positive as this comes across, I do feel quite fed up and exhausted at celebrities constantly talking about their struggles in life, writing books about it and coming across as overcoming difficulties as though their on par with REAL folk. Celebrities are human too and are not exempt from lifes struggles, HOWEVER, they have the finances to go to rehab, see specialists when needed and not have to wait, they can afford to go on holidays, buy expensive treats, spas and so much more that US real folk have not got at our disposal. These ladies need a few months experiencing real life in the real world with no help, support, finances and ill health, on a waiting list for months, years to see a specialist. You ladies are extremely privileged and are living an incredible life in comparison to real people who are seriously struggling and have nothing and no one to help them.

[@joanne4758]

Lady Bancrfot - I really acknowledge what you are putting out there. I don't mean it as a personal attack on Holly - she's very lovely. We have a reasonable health system here - but yea - their world is quite different to mine. I wish you all the very best (from Oceania)

[@arnicepernice8656]

I agree. I do not know why this book will help anyone. All celebrities are writing the same finding myself or misery memoires. This lady is indeed hugely privileged and has access to the best. It’s not actually that helpful. Whilst I’m sorry about her struggles who needs to hear it

[@janeball7199]

Exactly this!..I wonder if anyone would buy my book ..suffered mental health issues since 16..my husband of 15 years had an affair and left me to bring my two lads up single handedly ,had two cleaning jobs where I had to take my kids to work with me,I then had a heart attack and can no longer work and now my landlord as decided to give me two months to get out of the home I've lived in 25 years as he wants to sell up...that's real life Holly !!..gets me so angry that these folk feel a little lost yet will make thousands by writing a book about it!!

[@arnicepernice8656]

@@janeball7199 oh no. I am so sorry to hear this. Am hoping.....you have other family to support you. Fear of losing your home is just so frightening and exhausting too. I am sending you courage and hope .

[@anni1012]

@cisco kid … and her really annoying laugh 😂…

[@paulculshaw4779]

It's mad to hear these two QUEENS of LIVE television which equals unpredictability - dig deep on how they feel. Glorious ladies! Round of applause!

[@amayah4391]

I think Holly and Fearne are on different wave lengths. I think I identify more with Fearne but I’m grateful to have friends like Holly who see things differently. I think the inner work Fearne has done (and I am doing) makes her more in touch with herself but I have a habit of looking at people like Holly and thinking I wish I felt like that *but*

[@tanyag9247]

This is the first time I’ve listened to Fearne’s podcast and I couldn’t help but feel that these two were having entirely separate conversations at certain points. You can tell that they’re very different people and that Fearne is ideas and existentialism whereas Holly is ordered practicality. I think both approaches appeal to different personalities but I felt as though Fearne was lightyears ahead in terms of openness and honesty, so I felt she had much clearer points, but that’s probably because she has been doing this for some time now.

[@Aaaymee]

I felt the exact same!

[@staceymurphy9779]

I couldn't agree more! I also felt that, although they are friends, there was an ever so slight sense of tension between them? It's like Holly has always been that one friend who Fearne thinks is "perfect" and Holly is only just realising that perhaps she isn't perfect after all, but Fearne has already had to work on herself for years because she feels so 'imperfect' compared to others (e.g. Holly). There's definitely a really unusual vibe between them.

[@sanya2479]

Holly is just starting her enlightened journey…

[@edie8931]

@@staceymurphy9779 i think it’s because fearne has struggled with depression and anxiety among other mental health issues and holly doesn’t seem to fully understand that fearne can’t just let things go or just not care about what other people think, it might be easy for holly to shut it out but it massively affects fearne, and i also think holly just wants her friend to be happy

[@martincroker490]

Ferne you should get holly back on now...i bet holly wouldnt of seen her recent predicament in her wildest dreams.. I hope holly still feels blessed...wealth, health and family. It might be a blessing in the long run.

[@rebeccadorkins5483]

Growing old really is a privilege. I know this from living with cancer & having growing old removed. Fearne some chats with those classed as medically terminal (such as Kris) would be useful but although your and Holly's lives are so different to mine I find this podcast talk so helpful. Thank you.

[@joshb7326]

Still remember when you guys did CBBC together. I used to watch on Saturday morning in bed with Hot chocolate.

[@imreallydead.23]

And me lol the good old days of being a kid

[@lisab9734]

Got to be honest… not a fan of Holly’s tv persona, but so glad I’ve watched this as I love everything she said. I hope I look at her differently from now on

[@samanthabeattie2187]

If you were famous for the right genuine reason's , you wouldn't hear any noise from the outside 💯

[@TheAbibradley]

Didn’t know how much I needed this until I watched. Thank you to both of you for being so open💖

[@LemonJelly360]

I absolutely adore Happy Place, it is such a fabulous podcast. I am a huge believer in being open and transparent and the podcast is this in spades, whilst still ensuring each guest (& Fearne) feel at ease with how much they talk about. Holly was a great guest, I particularly liked the part regarding your checklist in life and what to do once you've accomplished the tasks in front of you.

[@deborahostmo]

I love this so thought provoking..... no matter where you are finding yourself and questioning society and its relation to your life is so interesting. ... How beautiful,and what an articulate thoughfull way Holly has been thinking about her life....

[@lizzyx4776]

Omg I can totally relate to chasing dream: house, husband,kids, good job.... then what? Totally there, it's such a lonely place. Thanks gals you've inspired me. Powerful

[@lisacatchpole8741]

Selling candles for £65... Basically just burning money. How can that be ok?!

[@jessk5959]

This was lovely to listen to your both a inspiration to me strong kind women ❤️ I’m so happy you are giving people a safe space to talk about their feelings. I wish holly all the best I love seeing her on tv she always makes me smile I feel if she needs break to find herself that is a amazing thing to do for herself. I had a traumatic event happen to me when I was 12 I used to watch her on Saturday morning tv and it was a great escape and gave comfort when I was processing my assault. Thank you both for being amazing you have a new sub fern good luck with your channel and your self love journey ❤️

[@audrajeanelliott-davies4681]

Great conversation, I really enjoyed it. Mt pain seems to bleed out at random times to various individuals and groups . It is not planned or even expected. The after result is some relief and some guilt for being heavy and low rather than joyful and light hearted. Sending love and self healing.

[@BrightEyes5555]

Hope you both do another episode, yes fascinating indeed 💖

[@karencurtis2697]

I'm so happy I found this the magic of KZbin sent this to me . Very interesting chat, listening to two girls I've grown older with , talking about important feelings and ways of building and breaking down walls . I can't imagine being in the public eye in any way, I manage to go to my local leisure centre 3 times a week to swim it's everything to me My release valve and it's taken me nearly 8 years to get this far . Being made to feel guilty for my anxiety and fear of going out for so long , I'm finally at the point I can say no and not worry. I still follow my no with a reason for saying no ...... but If people don't except my reason I leave it as there problem not mine. Looking forward to listening to more. Stay safe stay well xx

[@marydeasy5438]

Really enjoyed this chat. Respect to your honesty xx

[@jadekinsey]

I found this so inspiring. Well done girls. 👏 🥰🥰🥰 we all feel like this at some point, thanks for having such a lovely chat ❤🌈❤🥰❤🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🤗🦄

[@Sinsearach]

Ah how often do i need to remind myself to not read the comments 😅 it's funny bc you were talking bout blocking out "the noise" and coming back to your OWN beliefs when we are inundated with information and various opinions. So true, why it's important to get a hold on our screen time. It can be hard to tune into one's own inner voice. Thanks for the interesting conversation. Nice to see more well-known people are being more vulnerable in the public eye. It's important, tbh. It's the human condition that none of us *really* know what we're doing. 🤣@People moaning.. There are people of various backgrounds making content online.. podcasts, insta vlogs etc. You get to choose who you follow and what you consume. Click on something that looks like you would enjoy it, next time.. just a tip 😉

[@postiveenergy1111]

Fearne, you're ah mazing!

[@angierowland3358]

Love Holly hope her book does well

[@mela_e358]

Thank you both for your honesty, I’ve watched you both for years and have loved what you’ve brought to the tv. I find this interview candid and authentic and Fearne, you are an inspiration to be brave about how one feels. I found it authentic and endearing. Keep going with the podcasts. When I watched this I felt how we are all the same and can really help each other. Rich or poor, healthy or unhealthy, successful or unsuccessful we are all in essence walking side by side in this life. Love and appreciation to you both 🙏

[@rosiesjourney2736]

I genuinely can’t believe how negative some of the comments are on here! On a happy place podcast. Honestly!! Thanks for sharing Ferne!

[@julierogers1155]

Yes, I agree.

[@eileenpharsicna3213]

Get a grip, they don't live in the real life.

[@rosiesjourney2736]

@@eileenpharsicna3213 why do you watch then?

[@eileenpharsicna3213]

@@rosiesjourney2736 I don't watch, just happened to come across it and noticed the comments, so thought I'd add my honest view, and by the said comments looks like a lot of people agree with me.

[@rosiesjourney2736]

@@eileenpharsicna3213 so negative without even hearing the content. I detect a troll.

[@davidbosquette2940]

Fearne is stunning. 💖

[@eileenpharsicna3213]

@ funny girl, couldn't agree with you more, well said.

[@sherimillman53]

Very important message self reflection

[@mbd6054]

This is not self reflection. This is self indulgence. The glorious thing about self reflection is that one engages in it privately, without burdening others with one's amateurish stabs at a valid philosophy of life.

[@janeblockley2621]

Lovely conversation to listen to x

[@sarahaprincesa]

I LOVE YOU HOLLY😍

[@glennlittle1580]

I long for the days that you lovely ladies were on Celebrity Juice. Huge fan of Fearne & Holly. The 2 most beautiful souls on earth. Love you Ladies

[@ksc9954]

I've been listening to this on spotify for so long, did not realise it was on you tube and they was filmed... nice to watch with a face to the name

[@willamcclay8201]

Coz she has book to sell

[@narendrapantham]

Nice sharing ♥️

[@willamcclay8201]

I bought the book, nothing you can't learn on KZbin, don't waste 20pound, gave it to homeless instead

[@julierogers1155]

You obviously did not learn *grace* at all, on KZbin or otherwise.

[@willamcclay8201]

@@julierogers1155 ha ok

[@arnicepernice8656]

Perhaps if Holly spent time working at a homeless shelter instead and then would see her privilege

[@arnicepernice8656]

Do you mean share the book or donate money to the homeless 🤭

[@janeball7199]

@@arnicepernice8656 100%

[@andiwilliams9100]

I truly don't know who to back i think they are both brilliant i hate to think that the people i andmyer are so bad

[@kelsk6553]

Great podcast! Very honest and authentic

[@honeysuckle4537]

Holly is in happy place still on pay roll, kept sponsorship and pushing new book

[@jane-gz1oo]

My goodness - Holly is waking up, I realise she is going to take a big part of the awakening of the masses, wow what a role she is playing!

[@emmaweb2006]

I totally agree I wish people just realise that we’re not all perfect we shouldn’t be giving people labels and giving people boxes love video and podcast ps stay safe ❤️❤️x

[@Goodvibes-qu2zz]

I am surprised to see the comments here….Celebrities are humans….I noticed people say this and then slam them for sharing difficulties with mental health!! I don’t think there is supposed to be a comparison with anything….someone bravely sharing their story so less people feel alone. These comments are exactly what make mental health worse as far as I have seen over the years. Very unkind 😔

[@samanthabeattie2187]

I'm more Holly's view because I'm not sure about another Virgos mind because virgos don't mix 🤪

[@g100xx6]

She always me angel

[@markdavidson9743]

Wonder what she thinks now

[@georginalewis6153]

I think Holly will leave This Morning soon - she is trying to be like the next Alexa Chung lol. She lost weight, started dressing edgy, and is trying to sell really expensive items under her own brand name - like the £65 candle!!!!! 🤯

[@georginalewis6153]

@Harry Philby but her audience won't buy her £65 candles!!! 😂 Most This Morning viewers are either on Universal Credit which has just been cut, stay at home mothers or on maternity leave - they can't relate to her in anyway now!

[@arnicepernice8656]

Unrelatable

[@chezthomas4698]

Poor Holly . It must be awful being a multimillionaire with so many jobs on tv. I feel so sorry for her in her mansion

[@eileenpharsicna3213]

You couldn't have said a truer thing.

[@eileenpharsicna3213]

@Chez Thomas totally agree 👍 👍

[@urbanmarmalade6415]

How shallow a thought process. Money and success means absolutely nothing if as a person you’re not happy.

[@catherinesinclair7727]

Wow..just a year or so before the Schofield resignation

[@MISSION315]

Great listen ladies very insightful 👍

[@actorscrib5932]

Lovely conversation. Enjoyed this !

[@krob2327]

I don’t get the hate directed towards her. I don’t watch a lot of tv but am aware of it. If you don’t like her, turn the telly off. No need to be nasty

[@arnicepernice8656]

Having such an organised and planned life leaves absolutely No room for spontaneity and fun……

[@ginabuddha5523]

Love the conversation,just wish I could hear more from Holly …podcast should be all about the guest ,when host speaks 20% and the guest 80%. This was 50:50. .

[@nicolafigini6346]

@Harry Philby Yes, it’s a discussion, with both contributing their insights and extrapolating from what each other says.

[@IrishSuzyAM]

Us women think way too much for a our own good.

[@sallyrile7601]

Great honest interview.

[@g100xx6]

Me 2 holly

[@sanya2479]

Holly is part of the ‘woke club’ (as I am😇) she’ll have some exciting work coming up in ‘New Earth.’ She needs to adapt her website so it’s not so elite and offer some free services on it eg free talks with guests etc.

[@bestdisco1979]

Did she jump a que to get on this

[@gd.producoes]

☀️ ☀️

[@Screamifyoumeanit]

Loved this conversation... Don't worry about things you can't change & change the things you can... Don't worry, be happy.

[@debragranett5123]

Why don’t you have a break a year off Holly and just be a mum and wife and find your self we all need me time, and May be it’s your time, Its very hard to run a family be in the public eye and have some time for you, Have a break

[@arnicepernice8656]

Yes it’s trying to be super mum/ woman. You cannot have it all. You are wise

[@adamjoyner1004]

Yeah I agree. And I was just recently perusing the concept of somehow having a year off myself, ...but it's not easy to begin to think how, as I'm already so leisurely...

[@markdavidson9743]

Perhaps needing to find herself

[@traceybuchanan9153]

There's a comment about being exhausted by celebrities moaning (probably not the right wording), but before they're celebrities they're people and if they were just joe bloggs from the local shop all of us wouldn't be hearing what they had to say, there is always the off button don't forget

[@jeanlewis753]

Holly give it a rest you love the limelight just me don't like her give it a rest for 12 months hide girl good luck

[@natashagreen7732]

Love holly

[@janschannellingchannel414]

but it is all mapped out and the map does not stop when the children go to school....

[@buskingkarma2503]

What you saying these days Holly?😂😘😂😂😂😂😂

[@janeball7199]

I think Holly as totally changed since becoming a big TV celeb....she become greedy and above herself and her latest antics as proved this.she isn't the perfect Polly your listeners think...I remember her having a jibe about Lisa( ants s wife ) for keeping photos up of Ant on twitter after they've split up..Hollys had a perfect life and just stands by her TV celebs ,not even thinking how Lisa must of been feeling.i think she now needs to leave this morning and spend some real time on reflection instead of on how to make more money

[@janeball7199]

I find this so self wallowing..ffs she's never off the TV ,selling stuff and herself.people usually moan about life and in their 50s but not Holly..it's so me me me and what's next to make money..oh yeh write a book about me me me.

[@eileenpharsicna3213]

Couldn't agree more, you hit the nail on the head.

[@laceylovelace2335]

You might as well have just wrote “I’m jealous”

[@janeball7199]

@@laceylovelace2335 seriously have you no sense.. nobody can be jealous of a person they don't know...I think Holly as shown her true colours recently and millions are saying the same...she as a sense of entitlement..and is pure greedy

[@terimorris6394]

Poor little rich girl …

[@gardenroom65]

A love in, yawn!

[@flowergirl6908]

All of these chummy chummy podcasters relying on friends to chat too on there shows, what happens when they run out of benefactors. So fed up of listening to their same old twaddle.

[@stevenknight6223]

Fern cotten gets pannick attacks plug hollys book 😂

[@mick249]

Two years later she still feeling lost 😂😂🤣🤣🤣lol

[@garyjolly6622]

YOU HAVE AMAZING KZbin Channel Great Job You Are Amazing Hope your Are well and well

[@stevenknight6223]

Make more celebs from.those who need help

[@Turboginge]

Fearnes HOT!!!

[@michaeltubehd4229]

When You And Holly Did Celebrity Juice

[@dinaworkman306]

Holly is so false

[@adamjoyner1004]

This was so BORING I actually couldn't believe it!!

[@laceylovelace2335]

Obviously because you’re not on their wavelength hahaha