How Becoming Disagreeable Saved My Life | Nighat Akbar Shah | TEDxMemphis

Being agreeable is a generational issue that we all suffer. All of us can relate to being agreeable to societal norms and expectations. Becoming agreeable just to please others has become even more of a toxic cultural trend during pandemic times. Nighat Akbar Shah shares how her courage to become disagreeable saved her life. Nighat Akbar Shah is an impact investor, entrepreneur, producer, and philanthropist from Chitral, Pakistan. She is the Co-founder and Vice President of Shah Holdings Group, a real estate development and management company, where she serves as the head of finance. Her mission includes creating, administering, and supporting business ownership opportunities on a merit basis and commissioning sustainable, earth-friendly design and construction. Recently, she produced a short film on mental health awareness and suicide prevention. Ms. Shah holds a Master degree in Business Administration in Finance from The University of Memphis. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@robinreinach8457]

Thank you so much for pointing out the cost of being over-agreeable. Thank you for speaking out about conditioning. You are a role model.

[@islamuddin7059]

Great Speech, well articulated. With natural talent, confidence and a little doze of encouragement one can reach his/her destiny. It not always necessary to become disaggrable but one should learn to say NO when it is necessary for self fulfillment.

[@shahzadayyubi]

Glad to see a chitrali born and raised lady holding mic and talking in such a huge platform. Bravo 👏👏👏

[@nasimazain1044]

Thank you dear Nighat for being a role model for thousands of girls who strive for an empowered and enabling life.Your story of resiliance and transformation is inspirational. Wish you more power!

[@carolinesposto1986]

So inspiring! BRAVO!

[@fidakhan2155]

Bravo our Sister in such a huge platform...we are simply proud of you...keep up doing the great work.

[@SweetheartEmpire]

Such an important topic! Thank you for this.

[@MohsinAli-yt7se]

Happy to see a "Chitrali" speaking in the best platform like tedx . Proud moment for all chitrali's. More power to you Lotkuho xur ❤

[@lifewithsabasikander]

Absolutely love it ❤️❤️

[@zengirl9]

Such a powerful video! What a great story. There is something here for everyone but especially for women who are culturally conditioned to be nice.

[@zarkhan9132]

Proud of you Sister thank you very mich for great speech. keep up doing the great work.

[@Neilzmom]

Powerful!! So proud of you Nighat!

[@lifewithsabasikander]

Proud of you ❤️

[@ChitraltoAustralia]

Excellent work

[@fatimaaman2376]

Voice of so many all arround the world. I can relate the philosophy you shared with the life I am spending “a helicopter mom and wife”

[@physicsanduniverse9398]

Great kaai

[@yvonnecondrau2448]

Congratulations to this great story shared by wonderful Nighat Akbar Shah! Her Award-winning Short Film "This River of the Bank" is a MUST see movie!! This movie has not only been amazingly created and filmed but also is an eye-opener for everyone! And after all, it made me even more grateful to all the beauty that life has to offer!

[@SyedBasharatBashu]

Good work ❤❤

[@jjharris1983]

If you are male is being disagreeable considered toxic masculinity? I'm on an all female team and feel like I'm being taken advantage of regularly and more frequently. Any way to combat this in the current climate without being deemed toxic?

[@igo0di]

This even works for males who are highly agreeable. Thanks!

[@rehanawebster3981]

Bravo dear Nighat . Well addressed. I kow your village and the culture well. You have said it well. Time to teach our sisters to speak up and speak out. No shame attached. Great role model my dear friend. Bo jaam.