How Can I Overcome Si Inferior Shyness? | CS Joseph Responds

[@abrahiemdash7676]

Love the new thumbnails 😂😂

[@jonathan1584]

Dude these thumbnails are golden 😂. Great video, and good luck to all the Si inferiors out there!

[@sylviaowega3839]

INTP here. I will always recall that day when my brother got the impression that I was an extrovert because of that time way back 25 years ago of when he invited me to a bar with his wife’s friends, but little did he know that I actually had at least 3-4 drinks. Lol 😂

[@DaisyDonahue]

As an ENP, I relate to your struggle Chase. However, as someone who does not believe in drinking alcohol myself, I would not go the quick route. I choose the longer route, and I have already been practicing now for many months, probably a year or more, getting myself gradually out of my comfort zone of shyness by talking to more people (often or usually just one at a time) or by talking again to people I have not talked with for weeks or much much longer. I of course only do that with people I can get along with/do not have a problem with, or people I believe I can work out any arguments, disagreements, misunderstandings or issues with (except for my parents, but hopefully I will be out of that rut soon). Thank you very much for this video!

[@bigken66]

I find you arrogant, abrassive hard to take, but generally 9 times out of 10 CORRECT!... so yeah I'm hooked on your channel

[@rogerbee1234567]

@Moondust why shouldn’t ti be above fe

[@SykeeNot]

@@rogerbee1234567 no one ever said it shouldn’t or should

[@azum7416]

@Moondust Ni is more objective then Ne as Ni make use of reality or common pattern that can be found in the present to form abstraction so those abstraction that is made by Ni is more consistent while Ne make use of their own experience to form abstraction hence why he recommended to drink alcohol because that is based upon his experience.Of course there is use of subjectivism from Ne but tbh just because that is based upon his experience doesn't mean it will work with everyone cuz his Ne perceive that it will work with everyone based off his own experience. And btw Ti above doesn't make him accurate though just because it's above Fe, like chase have said if you feed garbage data to Ti then it will produce garbage output regardless where it's in the stack hence why his Infj mentor had slash his bs belief system to the ground.What you are complimenting though is his Fi moral values reflected to his Ti.I do found his content informational so don't get the wrong idea Fi child.

[@azum7416]

@Moondust nah that's not what you're saying, I can read between the lines you know because you are mentioning Ni as well which is not relevant. Plus 13 years? even his public facebook group was created on 2019 so I don't believe it unless you are potentially one of his client during his early days after he got mentored by his templar mentors.

[@dolarich]

As per usual, very accurate. Have to thank you for this advice, I've been wondering how to address a situation my ENFP boss didn't know how to handle, she projected her fears onto me over meeting supposedly conflictive parents as a teacher. I'm also an ENFP so I understand how my bosses have made mistakes in the past and have put me in this bad situation, I've been trying to prepare all the Te to deal with any given conflict, but I only started 2 days ago. I should have known as a coach that my INFJ unconscious would be able to deal with this by using the socratic method. Many thanks as always Chase, keep up the good work!

[@Entyipo]

This was a pretty good video. Is How to Win Friends and Influence People type specific or does it generally apply across all types?

[@pinklasagna8328]

I guess if your type naturally have a hard time winning friends, the more information there is that relates specifically to your type to overcome that problem.

[@CSJoseph]

Good for all types

[@aryanjainascanio3388]

INTJ here, I have a question, btw thanks for answering my previous one! My question is how does the language we speak affect our cognitive focus? Because I speak spanish and when I am in english classes or just speaking in english I feel I open up a lot more, as if I was more extroverted Great video btw!

[@CSJoseph]

Different cultures affect cognitive focus and the language is just a reflection of it in that sense.

[@aryanjainascanio3388]

@@CSJoseph interesting!

[@dookhynabeelah4897]

Maybe Mr. CSJ could do a video about this 😀

[@dookhynabeelah4897]

I've noticed this with me too. I'm bilingual. When I speak English I tend to speak louder and I'm more open at times even a little authoritative but when I speak French, all of a sudden I become very soft-spoken! When it comes to my native language - Creole, it depends on whom I'm talking to and in which environment I am.

[@richardlai7828]

Yep, excellent answer, thanks Chase

[@an_anishinaabe_son]

Si, what's that!? lol I'm aware that Si is number eight for me, and I work on all my functions, but Si escapes me everytime. So, Si is not my inferior, it's my "non-existent", lol. Oh well. When people ask me to tell them about myself, I tend to not know what to say.

[@bombs2fair]

Your non existent one is the trickster. The way I see it the trickster is a void and we are oblivious to it. The demon we are aware of, but we still don't care.

[@dannyman2k]

these new thumbnails are spot on 😂

[@webkelpie]

Attention is everything… but also intention, the colour and shade of your attention. (100% agree with your conclusion- no one cares unless they ask… and even then sometimes not.)

[@Mugzchunch]

I personally don't like when people ask me questions and I'd actually be very happy to sit and listen to all your experiences and thoughts

[@jenstone4708]

Se user?

[@Mugzchunch]

@@jenstone4708 isfp ❤

[@Mugzchunch]

@@jenstone4708 are you an estp?

[@henkster6067]

@@jenstone4708 is this a Se user trait to listen to stories?

[@nemesis27]

​@@henkster6067yes

[@nikolettavarga8351]

Awesome tips. Thanks Chase!

[@Ajayjohnson264]

Yeah that’s true about downers+uppers=Demon. I remember I was on 2 downers and 2 uppers (big mistake) in a group setting and definitely morphed into a paranoid istp. I keep scanning everyone and drawing conclusions on what they were thinking bout me, then blurting out confrontational statements lol Anyone else have an experience of being their super ego on drugs? 🤣

[@martinfelix8940]

Can you do episodes where you describe how substances are affecting cognitive transition for each of the types ?

[@views-xo4ch]

Do this ^^^ pls, i’m very interested in the substances part of cognitive functions and the transition into our shadow functions, thank you very very much C.S Joseph looking forwards to it.

[@meg3298]

Next book I will read is that one you suggested how to win friends and ..

[@shyGigi]

loving the humor in the thumbnails but sad for what it means. Was hopeful for the safe guard your relationship content if it didn’t have polygamy, but afraid that went up in flames personally affecting professionally. A pattern to note here. INFJs you tell not to wear Masks because any one worth their salt should accept them flaws and all. but for yourself to find “success” you recommend masking who you really are and then are surprised when that continues further down the line in a relationship that no one wants to know who you are. so I don’t think it’s quite accurate to only be responding but I think you are completely right in that following your natural role is healthy but a secondary follow up would be how do you initiate and when do you include yourself and when are you around people not wanting to reach their potential and you need to move onto people interested in your potential. you are right that we are self-absorbed and everyone needs to learn how to listen and I really appreciate how SI inferiors listen so well. At the same time you don’t listen so well when you aren’t focused on it and getting ne to focus is a fun exercise holding on for dear life as you move at lightning speed topic to topic and often someone else speaking provides a platform for you to think on. I hate the separation of the sexes with a passion. But I realize I’m not aware of sexual dynamics of men and I love connecting deeply emotionally which is confusing and dangerous even with women much less men. I think friends of your spouse if you have a solid boundary where you would not cuck them And they comment on your sibling like relationship giving you the go ahead… The group dynamics of a marriage friendship can be such a rewarding exchange. Have had this for a few sweet moments but seasons and times pass on. Next to that the professional relationship where there’s all kinds of boundaries where your job would be on the line. I know that doesn’t keep people in check but if it did these can be such awesome relationships like a second family with a mission or ministry.

[@vincent.mazkett187]

9:27 "Don't just pull out your Ti Parent" Pull out the "Path of the Fool" in Silent Mode😂😂😂

[@gotnoname7051]

God, I'm an enfp i also do this method for about 2.5 years now and it helped me a lot in dealing with other types than ISFPs! Like, they just cannot stop talking about their selves and their stupid boring details about what happened to them and who said what and how they reacted to it. I hope the asker never triples on one of them.

[@aladdout9454]

That sounds like isfj to me not isfp..and yeah same but I'm not si inferior

[@pinklasagna8328]

Se split out the boring details of their lives (which they think are interesting) to si because se have a weak memory and si is the diary.

[@gotnoname7051]

@@aladdout9454 Nope, not at all. My mother is an isfj and it's totally the opposite. However, there's not a single ISFP that I've met in my life unless he had this issue.

[@gotnoname7051]

@@pinklasagna8328 Exactly.

[@aladdout9454]

@@gotnoname7051 nvm, i thought you said that isfps annoy you cuz they talk in details or something?

[@rural_girl555]

wow strange....i thought it the complete opposite where if you are the life of the party or that you are the loudest in tje group then ppl would think you're so awesome and want to invite you back.. and if you just show up and say nothing and be quiet and just be a listener, then ppl would think you are boring af and forget about you. in my experience as it was

[@honor9lite1337]

LOL

[@jamesy2160]

If I do this as an INTP, I get bored. How can I find an interesting topic that they like to talk about?

[@dannyman2k]

Could this also apply to ENFPs? I imagine so, but i wonder if there's any nuances between them and ENTPs that might make a difference. Funny you mention alcohol though, because I'm usually hesitant to have a drink or 2 in social situations because I'm afraid ill come off a drunkard or something. Though now that you say it I'm certain that some liquid courage would come in handy, ESPECIALLY with those situations where an attractive girl is in your midst. recently though, i was getting my haircut... which usually requires SOME conversation unless you're comfortable with agonizing awkward silences and eye-contact. I found myself scrambling for conversation topics, and i was really worried because i was attracted to the girl cutting my hair, Even though I didn't really have any intent to do anything about it. THEN I remembered the F.O.R.D acronym. I usually have no idea how to incorporate it, but i found myself flowing with it. It actually kinda works. F.O.R.D: - Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams. If you can broaden those topics and find someway to incorporate them in your conversation it'll work surprisingly well. Gave myself a little pat on the shoulder. Noice!

[@sharpiesarecool814]

NOICEEE

[@CSJoseph]

yea applies to both because mostly talking about Si inferior.

[@luciusblackmoor9543]

INFJ here do a collab with Cognitive Typology this will bring mankind into the "golden age". You're welcome 🖤

[@frozenfire2634]

I guess this applys to enfps too?

[@CSJoseph]

yup

[@newkamphora]

Can you cite your sources about uppers/downers?

[@CSJoseph]

My own experience and observations in the field over a decade.

[@newkamphora]

@@CSJoseph My experience and observations are quite different, I also have some knowledge about human physiology. Some day I will write a book about this topic for sure. I had severe mental issues in my past and I was abusing some substances mainly alcohol, nicotine and caffeine along with psychiatric medications. I also tried weed and amphetamine. And all of that substances, mixed or alone, helped me go to my subconcious. Now I am mentally in very good place and they don’t work the same as they used to. If I have been used some substance, I would experience panic attack about how my brain seems impaired and I am loosing control over my mind and my body. I can’t drink even coffee now because of that, but it is great. I have hipothesis that every psychoactive drug, both uppers and downers impaires your ability to use your first pair of functions, so you end up in subconcious. Maybe when you take very large dose you can impaire your second pair of functions and end up in the shadow. I have never experience that (or I can not remember) and also I was not shadow fokused. Also I’m introvert so I have low dopamine tolerance and I used less substances than my extraverted friends. Mixing uppers and downers can be dangerous because you don’t experience side effects, for example you will experience sleepiness after only drinking alcohol, but with mixture of alcohol and amphetamine you won’t. And you are able to drink more. Maybe so unbelievably great amount that third pair of functions don’t work and you can end up in super-ego. Besides that I just want to add that the world needs Si inferior, I personally love it so much (yes, I am INTJ). That shyness that you taking about is adorable, especialy if you aproaching women that are introverts (remember we are shy too). For us it’s hard to relate to men that are too cocky.

[@ashleyching7894]

Downers like alcohol to shadow

[@ashleyching7894]

Opinion vs thought

[@bobbyjean1581]

Great video. Out of interest, why are Se pessimistic types often not dressed in the 'right' way? (I agree, I just wondered the reason)

[@CSJoseph]

It's not as important to Se parent, Se inferior could kind of go either way, it's contextual.

[@specialsnowflake9097]

Since when are intjs sociable?

[@laurenwild9051]

How on earth can you tell if you're an NTJ or an NTP? I've been following Chase for a long time and can type others well but not myself. Hardcore Shadow focused because their is no double dose of functions for me. Literally have given my friends and fam Chase's grid and test and everyone says I'm both sides of the coin and I have to agree while I also have no real preference though that's what it's all mostly about. If you know for a fact that you're Entp/Intp or Entj/Intj how and why? I switch modes on a dime with zero issue. Watched all Chase's vids multiple times over and always come up with INTP though for some reason I'm still not sure. Any help is appreciated

[@azum7416]

if you don't care about what other people are feeling or other people feelings are not affecting you then you're an NTJ but if you don't care about what other people logic or their thought process that much then you're an NTP. Another way to determine this is by asking yourself whether you are overfeelings stuff or overthinking stuff. Fe user overfeeling things because other people emotions are affecting their own emotions or self worth thus why NTP can feel guilty really quickly especially INTP. Te user overthinking stuff because there are a lot of reference point or data that are affecting their thought process because those reference point or data are either not enough or constantly changing which can make them seeking out unnecessary information or unrelated information just to form their conclusion because they don't a pre-existing conclusion, Ti user however don't overthink it because they already know what kind of data to search for because they already have a pre-existing conclusion that they want to prove in their head but if they don't find any data to support their conclusion then they will reject their pre-existing conclusion.

[@laurenwild9051]

@@azum7416 Thanks so much!👍

[@honsali]

​@@azum7416 many many thanks, I was in the same situation :), any hint to differentiate ENTP and INTP? pleaaaase 🙏

[@malakashraf2801]

Hmm , but if you found an se user why wouldn't you share your little si stories especially if they are introverts and their se is pessimistic , we love that

[@honor9lite1337]

Se users mostly like stories which include about themselves.

[@malakashraf2801]

@@honor9lite1337 I am one and no I like all types of stories especially if real

[@CSJoseph]

that's more once you get to know people, you can't always lead with that.

[@galaxydoxx4326]

Would love the anime girl csj on thumbnail

[@mid0rina]

This is facts but the whole isfj active listening mode gets so fucking tiring after awhile. How are we extraverts but we don’t even get to be extraverts smh

[@Alex-rs8hz]

Hey Chase was typed infj by Jay, but I have some doubt, is there any way you could type me?

[@CSJoseph]

Email [e-mail] with your concerns

[@aplethoraofme2056]

Are you an Air Bender? If so, cool. My little one enjoys avatar. 👍🏼

[@CSJoseph]

I am a water bender

[@malakashraf2801]

Is it typical of se parent to give a lot of attention regarding quantity not duration ?

[@dovio832]

Si is attention Ni is focus. So se parents can focus on something for a long time.

[@malakashraf2801]

@@dovio832 that's not exactly what I mean , not the duration but rather the quantity , or when somebody tries to show you things all the time , I know that se wants to show and I thought se also likes to react so it made sense for it to be attentive , so now i am confused , se shows and gives attention and si gives attention too ?

[@abrahiemdash7676]

Se show and give experience and want attention Si React and give attention

[@honor9lite1337]

@@abrahiemdash7676 That's correct. Also Se want immediate reaction from action it gives. Si need experiences, many flavour of experiences.

[@malakashraf2801]

@@honor9lite1337 so you don't think it'll be attentive to when something pops out and then take the chance to shine by reacting and showing but then gets bored fast ? I mean se is aware of surroundings . The second part : if somebody demands attention from an se parent si critic specifically won't they give it and endure that repeated demand for a while especially if they have fe as well ?

[@ninjapandathethird6241]

Dont do drugs kids

[@KenericTheGeneric]

Dont do kids drugs

[@honor9lite1337]

No drugs, just liquor 🐕

[@jhinthevirtuoso4886]

@@honor9lite1337 either stick to alchohol or weed, psychedelics if old enough thats it.

[@rogerbee1234567]

@@jhinthevirtuoso4886 don’t tell me how to live boomer

[@jhinthevirtuoso4886]

@@rogerbee1234567 i am 21 😂

[@meg3298]

I just wrote a whole paragraph about my own experience with this topic and then I deleted it because I figured, who cares lol.

[@kurodesuuuu]

Se users do

[@meg3298]

@@kurodesuuuu Haha awh thanks ☺️maybe I'll keep it next time then

[@kurodesuuuu]

@@meg3298 Yep! I can't count how many times I sort comments by new & read (more like stalk) lengthy comments

[@rogerbee1234567]

indica = shadow sativa = subconscious dope, lol but what about amphetamines? speed headspace feels like a freshly cleaned room with god looking in through the window and psychedelics, disassociatives?

[@CSJoseph]

uppers= sub, downers=shadow

[@saibihassen2430]

how to convince parents to be interested in mbti?!

[@malakashraf2801]

Type them and if they speak English show them their videos , they'll relate and get interested

[@saibihassen2430]

@@malakashraf2801 how to type them?! because i can see that they developed all the ego and see me as a failure intp..

[@malakashraf2801]

@@saibihassen2430 the type grid is not working ? Watch them around people they are not the most familiar or comfortable with

[@saibihassen2430]

@@malakashraf2801 ok thanks

[@Daniel-fm1cb]

You're telling me not to disagree with people and instead make them realise their mistakes on their own. Isn't that feminine behavior? Why worry so much about how they feel?

[@CSJoseph]

not at all. using the socratic method to direct people to the truth is a graceful form of opposition that is wise to use in certain social situations to find success. It's different than accepting what they say because you don't want confrontation.

[@Daniel-fm1cb]

@@CSJoseph I see, thanks for the response! I've really been working on my masculinity lately but I often find myself not giving a shit about harmony with my Fe critic, so I end up arguing with lots of people, especially delusional feminists. That can affect my social status as I disrupt the peace, I should start arguing less harshly.

[@SykeeNot]

Wow face in thumbnail 😹

[@ayarafi3646]

Dude seriously change your hair style

[@CSJoseph]

No way.

[@k0j747]

First

[@dumbass7729]

bro cosplaying as aang💀

[@CSJoseph]

Damn straight

[@debrudrabhadra253]

I even doubt this guy is an ENTP.... He seems to try really hard to fit into an Entp stereotype

[@rogerbee1234567]

based on what

[@debrudrabhadra253]

@@rogerbee1234567 based on typology,I'm not saying he's not an ENTP just that he seems more of a Te-Fi user to me...

[@CSJoseph]

start with season 1 to get the real definitions of the functions if www.ujda.app isn't your style.

[@debrudrabhadra253]

@@CSJoseph I've been watching and following ur videos chase for a long time...Don't get me wrong I love ur videos man, but yk I'm a little bit sceptical towards your typing sessions.

[@dovio832]

5:05 I'm in a 50/50 with your views and the red pill with that . Because of the fact that i intend to as a second job becoming a therapist or working in an psychological medicine domain,i did find many census back up by mostly thesis that there is a overall pattern of Male and female not being able to be platonic friends. So my personal conclusion was more of a it is in your best interest as a man to either be in a sexual relationship or extracting some value out of the woman like her working for you for example or as a status symbol. But the pure "we're just friend and nothing more ". It not in your best interest for the potential liabilities.

[@honor9lite1337]

My rule is if she's ugly, then we can be friend.

[@dovio832]

@@honor9lite1337 I know some guys who would still try, like the "on a slow Thursday " thing .

[@k0j747]

I mean isnt it more likely it failes because as a guy you will catch feelings? but there are girls where you wont catch them and in those cases platonic relationships will absolutely work.

[@k0j747]

@@honor9lite1337 lmao just read this and its the perfect direct contrast to my informative comment

[@dovio832]

@@k0j747 what ? I mean is more closer from the reverse , the girls catching feelings and the guys wanting sex . The reason why is not really possible is way more based in biology and evolution. It only been 120+years of intense socialization but for millions of years we've spent most of our energy surviving and finding a mate . We where never given the ability to have a relationship with somebody Purely based of " I like them " because nature never saw a point into that .In Mother's nature point of view between " I like him/her" and" I like him/her and fuck him/her " there is no difference. Every friendship between the two genders is a more or less an in between mating attemp because the fact that you feel attracted to that person enough so to try to get to know them proves that in your mind subconsciously you saw them as a "possible mate" if not you wouldn't even talk to them . And them come the "well [insert excuses to not fuck here] " it just a failed attempt and it up to you how you react .