How Chronically Online Nicole Rafiee Tackles OCD | Get to know OCD Ep 14

[@treatmyocd]

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[@BaileyBuddySansa]

So proud of our chronically online girl for bringing light and awareness to OCD

[@gabrielle3650]

This is the woman who made me realize I might have OCD when I was really struggling with ROCD, which I had no idea even existed. I have so much love for her ❤

[@kennapenguins]

Same! I was diagnosed this week and very much so looking forward to this interview ❤️

[@gabrielle3650]

@@kennapenguins happy for you that you got your diagnosis! I hope treatment goes really well for you! I'm not quite there yet.

[@Offlineee_]

Yepppp that video 3 years ago made me figure realize it 😭

[@lauralarosa.]

Nicole is by far my favourite KZbinr. She is so funny, whip-smart, and has a huge heart.

[@bethanymccoy735]

This is THE FIRST person I've heard talk about their OCD that I TRULY relate to. I've been dealing with the "what if it's not OCD" issue for a LONG time. Even more so since I finally started ERP therapy. Not that I NEED the reassurance haha (I'm not allowed to google whether or not I have all the other mental illnesses that I have been worried I have lol). But seeing this video was SO validating for my experience. My religious upbringing beyond shaped my OCD, and WOW - she really hit the nail on the head with that. I have struggled with the same what if's and fears - along with some super fun Harm OCD intertwined within extreme existential dread, to just ice the cake for me. Just a real nice fear tonic haha. Thanks for sharing these stories - they are what are keeping me going with the ERP.

[@leishathanthou9161]

Nicole was such a good choice to do an interview with, i think shes a really good influence in terms of someone who talks about things authentically, and i commend her for deciding to open up about her ocd when she did, bc it really did so much good for the audience

[@eternalyujis]

dealing w ocd without therapy has been hard but having content creators like her to speak on it and her experiences has helped and i hope i can get to the point in the future where it's more manageable :-)

[@treatmyocd]

We are so glad to hear that you enjoyed this episode from our podcast. You CAN do hard things, no matter how hard OCD tries to convince you otherwise. ❤

[@clara-zm9vp]

“time is going to pass anyway” girl i love you so much. that is so true. i have used every excuse in the book, and that is the perfect response to any and all excuses i have ever made for myself. its so simple. i loved this!!!! thank you nicole, you have been someone i watch for a really long time, so cool to see you in this format!

[@springskyllark]

Thank you Nicole for being so open and vulnerable, and thanks NOCD for giving her even more of a platform to do so!

[@treatmyocd]

You are so welcome! Thank you for tuning in!

[@kennapenguins]

I’ve been looking forward to this interview since Nicole talked about it on her podcast! Yayyyy Nicole!

[@treatmyocd]

We are so glad to hear that you enjoyed the podcast! Thank you so much for listening.

[@ascendance000]

saved this for a day when i really needed it and nicole you truly are a blessing. just think you for helping me feel less alone i feel absolutely insane

[@treatmyocd]

Always remember that you are never alone.

[@matildagalindoo]

i love nicole and i love how well spoken she is about this, ty for bringing her

[@treatmyocd]

Thank you for tuning in! ❤️

[@ha_limabeanz]

Omgggg I love her so much😭😭

[@vforvaleriie]

chronically online as a description is crazy lmaooo but anyway i love nicole for talking about ocd def made me feel less alone

[@americabbage]

she's so well-spoken, i adore her so much

[@ryanmclaughlin83]

Brave and articulate, thank you 👏🏻

[@isabisa212]

not me watching this until the end (knowing i have been diagnosed with ocd for a long time) still finding myself in the spiral of questioning if i'm faking it- 😺 p.s. love you nicole :, )

[@azaleami]

amazing episode. thank you both for sharing and spreading

[@treatmyocd]

You are so welcome! Thank you for being here!

[@loveisasleep]

this video helped me more with my compulsive tendencies than any therapy session i’ve ever had

[@treatmyocd]

We are glad to hear that you enjoyed this podcast episode. Reach out at the link in our bio for more information on ERP therapy with NOCD.

[@risingfemme5055]

Thank you Nicole we say in unison ❤

[@handsandthoughts4185]

Like Nicole I didn't count or have numbers be my issue. For this reason I wasn't diagnosed until this year at the age of 34. My obsessions have been morally motivated.

[@roaring.girl.]

16:50 I couldn’t do it. Made me too nervous 😅

[@johnrainsman6650]

With my OCD, I can't tell the difference between a true apoIogy and a seIfish apoIogy. Whenever I upset, disrespect, or argue with my mom, I apologize (repetitively), but I'm starting to think I do so more for myself than for her. To remove the guilt and redeem myself. I never thought about this until I saw a show where a girl apoIogized to her sister for ruining her birthday. Sister 1: _I did something that I regret and I cannot feel better until I apoIogize._ Sister 2: _So this is about _*_you_*_ feeling better._ Sister 1: _Yes. Oh, and you._ Sister 2: _You're amazing. Even when you do something for someone else, it's still mostly about you._ This concept made me think deeply: is it wrong to apoIogize mostly because you're miserabIe with guiIt? I KNOW I apoIogize for that reason. But is it the only one? I think it is primarily. I feel guiIt, so as a natural response, I apoIogize and it helps make me feel better. But now I don't know. At this point, I can't tell anymore if I'm _truly_ apologizing. I'm confused about my feelings. But I know one thing: I can't handle guiIt. I just can't. I can't handle the idea of me being a bad person, so maybe I do apologize to keep being a good person and preserve my pride and self-honor.

[@treatmyocd]

We appreciate you taking the time to share some of your story with us. Scrupulosity OCD, Responsibility OCD, Harm OCD, and many other themes of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) can involve compulsive, excessive apologizing as a response to fears about what others think, being a bad person, hurting other people, being a burden, making a bad impression, or doing something wrong. People with OCD may often fear that without apologizing they might do harm, offend, or shirk responsibility. They may also feel the need to excessively apologize about their OCD behaviors.

[@johnrainsman6650]

@@treatmyocd but I’m supposedly only (or primarily) apologizing to feel better about my wrongdoing/fault. That’s just selfish isn’t it?

[@elscheib]

I'm not OCD but I can say that I'd rather have someone apologize to me because they genuinely feel bad about something they did than apologize just because they think it's what I want to hear. Guilt is the reason we should apologize, not just because we think it's the right thing to do but because we want someone to know that we truly regret our actions. You have a conscience and that's a good thing.

[@eevee2411]

Hey, I just wanted to say, it's okay❤. First of all it's okay to be selfish (you're allowed to exist and take space and with that comes selfishness sometimes!) and while I agree with you that sometimes apologising can be something we do for ourselves more than others, it doesn't mean that's wrong. I think as long as you do mean you're sorry, and you will try not to do it again in the future, it's still a sincere apology. Even if it's more for you than for the other person. It sounds like your feelings of guilt are so strong due to OCD, that they might overshadow the fact that you also do it for the other person? If someone would tell you that an apology makes them feel worse, then it's only for yourself if you apologise, and in that case it's of course best not to.

[@johnrainsman6650]

@@eevee2411 my mom doesn’t value apologies as much as changed behavior. That’s the real problem. I just can’t seem to control my annoyance and composure. It’s never as simple as change the behavior. Believe me. But Tomorrow’s the big day to try: it’s Saturday. Often, we find some confIict/issue that particular day. I want to say hardly anything tomorrow to prevent an argument.

[@baggyjeansluvr]

Omg i love Nicole

[@LindsayLindow]

Ms. Nicole the Nasty?! Let's go.

[@MultiMagnumforce]

Thanks for sharing from a fellow OCD person for the last 35 years. 😊

[@priyankaparikh2547]

I pull

[@bluumondayy]

forever indebted to nicole, diagnosed today and doing so much better because of her 🫀

[@treatmyocd]

You’ve got this! Always remember that you are never alone.

[@ascendance000]

this means a lot to me thank you🫶